#i want a romantic relationship so bad

[severevoiddragon]

Missed the opportunity to vote so imma just RB with how I am: im not sure what I want

pls reblog thank youuuuu and pls only vote if your are arospec or think you might be

[dakotabone1213]

Small vent

I'm scared to ever ask anyone out again, it seems like it's always gone wrong every time I've tried

[stealingyourbones]

I desperately need more mentor uncle figures and mentor brother figures in DPxDC to fill the interesting relationship dynamic gap that father figures stories can't always fill are u picking up what I'm putting down. Hell, just a regular friendship relationship with absolutely 0 familial dynamic.

[gophergal]

there are many kinds of love

TFTober 3 - Relationships

[jakeperalta]

people on instagram saying new years day isn't a nice romantic song and is actually full of red flags... I am going to start biting

[zehl0w]

Mfw both of the guys you have a crush on start holding hands at school

[eddiegettingshot]

i will stop complaining now but trulyyyyyy what gets me is that. yes i have my own little fanon things but ultimately the largely-accepted fanon characterization is never as interesting as what’s actually happening on the show in canon. especially with regards to eddie’s sexuality!

[sonknuxadow]

this is probably an unpopular opinion with the amount of "everyone is married with kids" type future aus people make for sonic characters but i cannot see sonic getting married or having a kid ever. if he did somehow end up with a kid hed be the worlds first transmasc absent father or however the joke goes

[shorlinesorrows]

okay, a couple things on alien stage/ivantill that I think some folks maybe need to consider and internalize.

Till does not "need" to return Ivan's feelings in the slightest if he doesn't feel that way. It's heart wrenching to see Ivan love him and have those feelings unreturned, but please remember that no one is required to return romantic feelings for someone else. You can't make yourself love someone, and you shouldn't. Especially out of guilt or obligation. That's Unhealthy 101, and would only set a relationship up for failure. (I do think Till cared about Ivan, and that he's going to have a Guilt Complex based on the fact that he didn't fully notice Ivan's feelings/care toward him until the guy died, but I've seen a couple of people tear into Till for not noticing/reciprocating Ivan's feelings??? Don't do that??? their situation is shitty, the fact that they didn't get to talk is shitty, but please don't blame Till for things he Can't Control.)

The kiss was not consensual. It wasn't meant to be portrayed as such. It wasn't even really romantic, it was a desperate, selfish act that Ivan used to get Till's attention (in more ways than one) and to give himself some sense of closure before he died. It was him saying everything that he felt at once, with no chance for Till to reciprocate or deny the affection. In a perfect world, they could have talked instead of this, maybe kissed knowing both wanted it, or given Till a chance to refuse. But they're both in the middle of an essential death tournament and one of them is going to be murdered sometime in the next few minutes. Neither of them really wants to live, but Ivan feels he has unfinished business before his sacrifice, so he finishes it. Their situation sucks. That doesn't mean the kiss was consensual. (especially considering the theory/implication that Till was/is being sexually assaulted by aliens, I wouldn't be surprised if this affects him badly in the future, for multiple reasons. Everyone should always get the chance to say "no" and have that fully respected. This also extends to the fact that Ivan died for Till without giving him a chance to stop it, which is probably going to mess with Till's head a lot. Then again, Ivan likely didn't think it would affect Till much because as far as he/we know, the feelings aren't reciprocated in this moment in canon, or are extremely repressed. Ivan might believe that Till simply hates him, or the kiss/subsequent "choking" may have been a way of trying to make Till hate him so that his death wouldn't hurt as much. Of course that thinking is flawed, because it would hurt Till no matter what, but still, it makes me sad)

Ivan... is kinda messed up. I adore him, but we've got to acknowledge that he has little to no emotional and relationship maturity due to the fact that he was quite literally raised as a pet and learned at a young age to do whatever his masters said to keep himself safe and pain-free. His fascination with Till appears to largely stem from Till's sense of rebellion. Ivan's examples of relationship dynamics and what constitutes as "love" is dangerously unbalanced, and he does not know how to build a healthy relationship. (Neither of them do.) This is also built onto the fact that the person he became dependent on only paid attention to him when they were fighting or Ivan was annoying him. Ivan cares about Till desperately, but he is also dangerously reliant on him to the point of self-detriment. Again, in an ideal world, they would be able to get out of this situation and gradually make a healthy relationship/friendship (depending on Till's feelings) over time while starting to undo the dangerous relationship patterns that they fell into when they didn't have any way to know better. But they're in a terrible situation, and Ivan really just doesn't get the chance to grow as a person and realize that his sense of possessiveness and reliance on Till's attention isn't healthy.

Basically, their situation makes me want to sob and its heart wrenching. Their circumstances have set them up for failure. Both of them are in the midst of attempting to survive an abusive situation and massive amounts of dehumanization. I beg, please try not to sanitize their complicated relationship or blame either of them for the pain the other is going through. I've seen some of that going around, and it's making me sad :(

[theblueshark]

it’s so, so weird to have a friend who desperately wants a romantic relationship, cause they’re venting to you about how they need a relationship and you’re just like “cool but have you thought about living in the middle of the woods in a cabin??” Or it’s like “dude you’re talking like you’re a 26 year old on their second relationship and not a teenager with another crush”

[aimfor-theheart]

men love to try and tee me up for their next relationship while they’re still dating their current gf and i am never interested. NEVER.

[rookflower]

idek how to word it but I’ve always seen it as that Crowfeathers love interests, rather than actually liking him like they think they, they are just attached to what they think they can get from him.

I refuse to believe that Feathertail had any romantic interest in Crowfeather. I am NOT talking about her.

Leafpool was starting to feel lonely and unneeded in ThunderClan, and then boom, Crowfeather came along.

Nightcloud wanted a husband and children and she just latched onto the worst possible guy for that.

Even Tawnypelt, who feels disrespected by her entire clan and doesn’t feel attached to it anymore, didn’t start thinking about him like that at all, until he made it obvious that he respected her.

yeahhhh like this is what im saying!!

[void-tiger]

When my joints and tendons ache so bad the fatigue sets in, I just long to be held tenderly, quietly, gently. Just. Let me soak in gentle touch, trick my brain into releasing Feel Good neurotransmitters to drive some of the pain and fatigue away. Let me rest with you.

[leonardalphachurch]

you know what. i say that all chucker is actually chuckboose in disguise but you know what the same is true for tuckington. caboose is there. he needs to be there. why are you writing tucker and wash together without their third. where is he.

[aliusfrater]

also also jared's the older brother on walker and he's got a little brother. normal, whatever. only a little bit of a Thing but ultimately cute and not implicative of anything, right? anyway, the younger brother works high up in the DA's office while jared, the older brother, is the cop (ranger, whatever 🙄 all the same to me) with a partner who is a woman. which could mean absolutely nothing.

[sol-consort]

Character development at it's finest