#i totally support the move dont get me wrong

[shaepschift-a]

matpat is retiring : scuze me while I weep

[armedwithapencilandpaper]

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[glitterjay]

if ur requests r open are you able to make a oneshot about virgin!reader being insecure in her body and looks (hence why still being a virgin) and then member of choice makes her feel a bit better about herself and goes soft on her to make her more comfortable?

(this is kinda based off how im feeling about losing my virginity to my bf so i kinda wanna read sumn like that 😭)

⭒ virgin!reader, stablished relationship, fluff, insecurities, praising, soft dom!jay, minors dni

⭒ c's note: it's totally valid to feel insecure and just not sure when it comes to first times. take your time, darling ♡ dont force yourself if you're not ready. it takes time, and remember, it should be something for you to enjoy and not regret. i hope this brings you some comfort <3

being a virgin has always been the center of picking on most people. "i lost my virginity when i was [insert age]," "how are you still a virgin?" "damn, imagine still being a virgin..."

despite this comments and remarks, you kept your virginity not because you didnt want to keep up with society, but because you were insecure. this lack of confidence was the main factor of why you kept your body to yourself and your boyfriend respected that.

jay always made sure to compliment you in every way possible. the littlest things you did were always admired by him. it was a cruel world you lived in, but jay made it his job to remind you just how perfect you were the way you are.

and thanks to him being so supportive, you felt like you were ready to move on further into your relationship with him. when you brought up the fact that you wanted to have your first time, and after jay asked a gazillion times if you were completely sure, he was set to it.

he had been waiting for this exact moment a long time. he was a man with necessities and a human after all, but your comfort came first before his. it was only fair to wait out until you trusted him enough to have such intimacy with him, and he was beyond glad you had finally given in.

the way his hands roamed your body so lovingly and carefully shattered every bad thought that lingered on the top of your mind about yourself. how his kisses tickled the sensitive parts of your skin his lips had yet to discover, and how every single word was aimed straight for your heart.

he offered to strip first, in hopes you'd feel less overwhelmed to be be the first one without clothes. he helped you take offf every bit of garments that was covering that body that drove him crazy. it was then when all your insecurities fled to your head all at once, your fight or flight response looking for the fastest way to get away from him.

butt jay was not going to give up so easily. he made sure to remind you that everything about you was just perfect. that he had fallen in love with you for a reason and it was that he liked every aspect of you, including your body.

the sweet talk drowned you in a lustful feeling, his movements not being of much help. jay was gentle and careful, as if you'd break into pieces if he moved wrong.

"let me make you feel better, princess."

-

every thrust, every caress, and every word, held this feeling of security that you would not be able to find anywhere else. "so good for me. look at you, all pretty."

you werent so clueless when it came to things like this, and you knew the feeling in your stomach meant jay was in fact making you feel good, loved.

your walls and moans were just the perfect sign for jay, making him keep his tempo and words going, reassuring it was okay for you to release. it was all he wanted anyway.

there was this feeling of ecstasy that washed over your body. with the little voice you had left, you let your boyfriend know how good he had made you feel, throwing him over the edge.

-

after that, your relationship with jay became a lot more closer and intimate, and he made sure to always remind you that to him, you were the most perfect girl in the whole wide world.

©glitterjay | tumblr

[fizzbot]

APOLOGY TOUR SPOILERS / HELLUVA BOSS CRITICAL POST

(please just dont read if youre a fan/are gonna be annoying in my tags/replies)

i LOVE verosika. i was super excited to see an episode all about her. she has EVERY right to be mad at blitz, and i do enjoy seeing things from the perspective of his victims. BUT.....i was really disappointed in her portrayal in apology tour. MOSTLY just because i was dissapointed in stolas portrayal in apology tour, and think this ep wouldve been better if it was more about BLITZ instead. rant under the cut

im not gonna give the whole rant about how annoying it is that stolas is constantly woobified, because 100 critical blogs have done it much more gracefully than i ever could. but it is just SO dissapointing to watch a man that couldve been SUCH a compelling villain be the ONLY one who is EVER sympathized with in the show. we are supposed to feel bad for him and believe that both sides are wrong in the stolitz situation, when stolas' crimes are SO MUCH WORSE than all of blitzs bad deeds combined. he co-erced blitz into a sex contract as the only means of doing his job, and then made HIM feel guilty for not falling n love with him during it. the 'both sides are in the wrong' comment gets particularly frustrating when the show has, tme and time again, only let stolas be the one with support. blitz is made to look unreasonable, no matter how right he is. and, in this instance, stolas is the one getting invited to this party to celebrate being ""wronged"" by blitz.

back to verosika. especially now that the episode is out, i am even more firmly on her side. the fact that blitz broke up with HER because things were getting too serious is interesting (albiet not as interesting as i think it couldve been but thats a rant for another post). im not saying she should forgive blitz, but i do struggle to fully agree with her because of how she treated stolas in the episode. she is the first to comfort him, the first to try and encourage him to shit-talk blitz, etc etc and i just dont understand.....why?

ive already had problems with her character since the sexual assault ""joke"" from spring broken, but this also really left a bad taste in my mouth. i totally understand her desire to party and sympathize with other people who were harmed by blitz, but its frustrating that stolas was invited to be among them. stolas, the man who is very much NOT THE VICTIM in his relationship with blitz. this is more the fault of the writers than verosika herself, but it is SO FRUSTRATING that she gave him the spotlight and is trying to help him heal from a situation that is ENTIRELY HIS FAULT. stolas didnt just hurt blitzs feelings, he sexually coerced and abused him. of all people, shouldnt verosika understand how terrible that can be? the kind of hurt that can do to a person? im not saying that this terrible relationship FORGIVES blitz's wrongdoings, but you shouldnt be giving his fucking abuser a stage and a microphone to talk shit about his victim. this becomes so much more insidious to me with the conversation she has with blitz on the balcony, later. this was actually a pretty good scene imo but it could certainly be better.

this is much more opinionated and i wouldnt be surprised if even the critical community isnt with me on this one, but i long for an alternate verson of this episode thats focused on verosika being on blitz's side, instead. its been over 5 years since they dated, and even though she is still allowed to be mad, it would be nice to see that shes moved on. maybe give her a new partner like barbie wire and let her throw these parties just so she can look back and laugh and help blitz's other victims heal in the same way that she has. not to bring up an also not-great show, but in rick and morty, we see a relationship between rick and one of his ex-partners named unity. they were really terrible for each other, enabling bad/unhealthy behaviors, generally being awful. their break-up was messy, but in recent seasons, we see unity coming back, upon hearing that rick was doing something self-destructive. they worried about him, because a part of them still cared, as much as they were hurt by his actions. i would have LOVED to see a similar thing with blitz and verosika, where verosika finds out about the relationship blitz is trapped in/just got out of. i think it would be SO MUCH MORE naratively interesting, for her to be supportive of his little apology tour, and maybe even inviting HIM to the "blitzo sucks" party. not everyone (or anyone) needs to forgive him; in fact, i think coming to this party would give him perspective. his relationship with stolas has hurt him so badly, he can finally step back and understand the harm that he did to all these people. the apologies that he gave, as he admits in the episode, were shallow. but i think framing stolas as the toxic one would be better in helping him realize that he has done wrong more than what the show is currently doing. and maybe some people at the party WILL forgive him. maybe he can apologize on the stage, and some people will empathize with his situation and believe that the apology is genuine, because hes finally had to be on the other end of his own hurt. and maybe THAT would be the first step in helping blitz realize that maybe he isnt completely unlovable, because there are people who cared about him enough to be THIS DEVASTATED upon getting their heart broken by him. a conversation with verosika about what he did to her would hit so much harder after this, imo

anyway. im sorry if this is completely incoherent/a bad point. i was just thinking about it and i am so sick of everyone being a stolas apologist </3

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

aita for getting angry at friend

so basically me (13f) and my friend (also 13f, let’s call her R) are walking home from school with two others. we’re just chatting like we usually doing.

for some reason, R brings up homophobic people in our school? so i say that i believe no one at our school besides maybe three are homophobic. and R goes “erm, what about (13f, person who had been rude to me in the past, and R also dislikes for some reason, let’s call her B)?”

by now i am confused because when B and i were friends and i came out as bi to her, she was totally supportive. so i say no, B is definitely not homophobic. this leads to R trying to tell me something B said a long time ago when she and i were fighting.

so then i start getting angry as R will not stop talking about B and the “nasty things she’s done to me”. i keep saying i don’t care about last year’s drama and im over it, and that could she please stop trying to tell me about the old drama and that B is not homophobic! but R starts yelling at me that im trying to “ignore the past” and i need to “accept that B is a bad person”. i start getting angry, and i yell over her that B is perfectly nice, i’ve moved on from the drama, so why can’t she?

thank god for my best friend (13f let’s call her G), she steps in and tells R to please respect my wishes. and by now, me and G have reached where we stop, and R and her friend leave.

i’ve been ignoring R in school because i am angry, but im confused if i am in the wrong and if maybe i am just ignoring the past and i should stop being a pushover to B? is it really that bad that i’ve forgiven her and dont care what she said back then? and that i dont believe R that B is homophobic? so aita for being mad at my friend for trying to “gaslight” me (i think that’s the word but i could be wrong?) about how bad this person is?

What are these acronyms?

[elisedonut]

What is the difference between flint/percy and perciver

because they look the same to me and i dont get it

Hello!!

Love this question thank you for sending it to me!

ok so keep in mind what we do actually know about Marcus and Oliver is a little limited so alot of this is more just how I see them personally at this moment in time alright?

Also this may be annoying to read so ill add a TLDR at the end jdfhadk

Really though for me at least when it comes to Flintley vs Perciver alot of it comes more down to outside factors and just Marcus being meaner

Like Flintley is a very "mean to everyone but you" type of ship to me. Even though I do still think he has his moments when it comes to Percy anyway. it's a ship where one side falls within a few meetings most of the time to me (normally Flint). A ship where when/if the other person falls to that everything else will happen extremely quickly.

It's also slightly a Flustered/Experienced ship dynamic to me because of me recently being obsessed with the concept of Marcus being a total prude who doesn't want to disappoint his family any more then he already has. Like that isn't always important but it's fun to play with and not something I tend to play with when it comes to Perciver.

Because with Oliver I tend to actually think of him as having a very loving family who treat him really well mostly because of the fun difference that shows with Percy's family.

Also I think the fact Oliver never seems like embarrassed or concerned about how much he only cares about Quidditch is a sign that his home life is pretty good or at the very least like supportive of him.

While with Marcus I like to make his family even worse then the Weasley's for the same reason. So I tend to think of them as putting a lot of pressure on him and him having a very difficult time living up to it.

I'm also one of those people that take the text fuck up the writer made about Marcus' year in the first book as just him having failed that year so i don't tend to think of Percy and Marcus interacting much at all before like Percy's sixth year.

Even though it was later fixed I think it's just more interesting and adds more layers to him and another thing for him to feel like a fuck up about as well as just being an easy way to force him and Percy to interact.

so it just stays fact to me.

Perciver is a slow burn friends to lovers type ship to me I know enemies to lovers is like gaining ground with them but I personally don't care for it much. I prefer when they do still end up bickering at times but for the most part get along really well.

I think even after both of them realize they have feelings that it takes forever for them to own up to it. Neither side wants to lose the other as a friend so they both try to just push it down and ignore it even though it doesn't really work very well

Both sides are convinced the other is way to good to be with someone like them so everything is very slow moving

I tend to think of them as getting together later in life vs a Hogwarts romance.

I do think both ships have a an obsessive like tint to them because both Marcus and Oliver both have that obsessive personality

though I do think Flints more of a bitch about it

Oliver at least tries not to be a jealous bitch and just kind of buries it when he feels it

While Flint doesn't even attempt to hide when he's having a jealousy fit

I think most of the Weasleys adore Oliver and can't stand Marcus

I think Oliver is more likely to not take Percy's side on something if he really thinks he's wrong when it comes to his family (even though he wouldn't say that actually in front of the other Weasleys)

while Percy could literally say something way off and incorrect and Marcus will still be 120% on his side against his family(and will say so Infront of them without care)

Marcus is more likely to not try to convince Percy to always forgive his family

while I think Oliver would be likely to try to

even though in both cases I do think the final decision is left to Percy either way and both would follow what he decides

Oliver's first love is Quidditch but Percy is very close behind it

Marcus puts Percy above everything else to an unhealthy degree

So Tldr the main big differences to me

Flintley:

Meaner then Oliver

Quick burn feelings

Flustered/Experienced

Later interaction

Flints are worse then the Weasleys

Outwardly Jealous

Weasley's hate him

Handles Weasley conflict by always loudly taking Percy's side even if he's wrong

Percy >>>>>>>>> Everything else

Perciver:

Nicer then Marcus

Slow burn feelings

Friends to lovers

And they were roommates

Woods are better then the Weasleys

Tries to hide his Jealousy(he fails)

Weasleys love him

Handles Weasley conflict by forming an actual opinion on the matter at hand and talking to Percy about it privately

Quidditch > Percy >>>>>>>>> Everything else

[madara-fate]

I haven't been in this fandom for years now, and i wanted to check out this again and wow, is still the same. I feel like, is okay if people don't like sasusaku, i can even see why (everything was wrapped very quickly at the end). But to say that real sasuke fans shouldn't support sasusaku, or that if you really love sasuke you should hate sakura is a reach. I understand if people think he was wronged by the narrative and he deserved better, but this fandom treats sakura worse than the villains. If sakura was really a bad person, sasuke would have just .... choose someone else. She was just in love with a boy who was really traumatized and in pain. She wanted the best for him, is not a big deal. Is sakura a flawed character? Yes, she is. But so is sasuke and i still love him because i can empathize with him and see how much he was suffering. They both have a lot of good and bad things. I also can understand if people don't like sakura, but why is her hate always about sasuke? "she should have moved on", "she abused him", "she doesn't deserve him". Like, why is bad loving someone.. everyone in naruto is allowed to not move on from someone, but she has to. For her character to be better, she needs to stop loving sasuke. The hate that sasuke get is from people who pretend they care/like sakura too. Like, is okay if people don't like the canon couples, that's totally fine. I'm not a fan with a lot of things after 699 either. But, the fact that a lot of people think that you can't be a real fan of a character because he ended up with someone you don't like is ridiculous. SS couldn't have happened and i wouldn't care, sasuke would still be happy with other person and i would be happy for him. That's all I ever wanted for him. Same with sakura. Can they just let it go? More than 10 years and fans have made it all about shipping. that's.... the only thing they care about. There's so much more about sasuke and sakura than them being a couple. I like them both, a lot, they are my favorite characters and I enjoy their dynamic, but seeing how people treats them makes me feel like staying away from this fandom was a good decision... sasuke and sakura relationship is actually wholesome... I don't understand why everyone is so obsessed with making them seem like they are miserable with each other? Is because they think they would have chosen someone better for them? As if sasuke and sakura didn't have other options , they just didn't want to.... idk i feel like people take this shipping stuff too serious. sasuke having a family again is nice :/ even sasuke fans trash him, "bad father", "bad husband", like damn, i thought yall liked him?, is really sad. Also, is like, they hate sakura so much they don't care if they also end up trashing sasuke in the way of it. Just because he is with someone they didn't want to doesn't mean he is unhappy , how miserable are they? The fact that sakura extremists have this same mindset and is because she just... didn't love naruto back? She didn't do what they wanted for her? That Kishimoto didn't make her say: "i'm going to beat sasuke up! i'm not the same anymore!" or some cringe girl boss shit?, as if sakura would ever do something like that to him. Some sakura fans dont even understand her character, they just use her for ships and sadly they don't understand sasuke either. And he is only a prize (this happens with every sasuke ship tbh). But is funny because... sakura also is a prize for a lot of shippers that hate sasuke. SS gets in the way of so many people.... maybe that's why they are so hated. man, sorry for the ranting but since 2014 they are on the same discourse.... like damn, this naruto shit was really serious after all lol ..After seeing all this i still don't think i could ever hate SS anyways... is the antis and their fans that actually suck.

A long rant, but yeah I can certainly see your points.

[chessmaton]

Tess, Erikah, Fiona and Rosamund pretty please 🥺

tess:

I absolutely ADORE her. She is imo, the most interesting serial killer solely because of her methods and just how her mind works in general. i wanna put her under a microscope and study her lmaoo. She's one of if not,, the best s1 character as the game was honestly really lacking something until she was put into it. You make me appreciate her so much more than i did, too.

erikah:

I'll be totally honest. I'm not entirely too sure about her. She's absolutely stunning, really, really beautiful, dont get me wrong. But as a person, im not so sure,, i feel more bad for vanessa and the other girls. Absolutely, if people love her, I will support you. Give her the love I can't is how I usually go about it.

fiona:

Fiona. Fiona is wasted potential, which SUCKS because a well done motp serial killer would've been super interesting. I'll also admit that the way they went about Fiona's killings and her victims wasn't amazing at all in my eyes. I wish that the murders were done were something new, something fresh. Not how they're based on actual women who brutally lost their lives to Jack the Ripper. I love the concept of Fiona being a serial killer and I wish it was explored in a much much better and more fleshed out way. You can tell they were trying to juggle the gang war plot as well as the Scarlet Slayer AS WELL as corruption in the police force, all at the same time, which let's be real wasn't going to end well at all.

rosamund:

Again, I adore the woman, I love her despite a lot not which again completely fair, she's not a good person at all. But again, wasted potential. Copycat killers being explored rather than kind of shoved in as a first district thing isn't exactly helpful to give them a fleshed out character and a motive. Not to mention the fact that Nathan's death was already the first case, which COMPLETELY outshined Rosamund entirely. Because let's be real, when you hear people talk about the first district of the conspiracy, what do you hear most? Nathan. People don't really talk about the other events in the first district, just Nathan's death. It was a ridiculous idea to start off in such a way, then expect people to just immediately move on and investigate a serial killer. Now, if she was introduced a few districts later and they put her over multiple districts, that would've been superb as they could explore her character better.

She's beautiful and I need her so bad I am so down bad ARF ARF and I love how she came back in case 52 bc she imo was even hotter ok ignore me anyways. I wish she was explored better and had a better chance because they just, really did not give her one.

Bonus: I haven't played s7 or know anything about it but Abigail is so pretty and I feel awful for her. Duncan is interesting but could've been handled better as it just seemed more insensitive than anything, would've loved to see him kill miriam icl. Freddie is bald.

[leclerced]

Okay, I know im gonna get hated on massively but I need to speak my truth

I greatly dislike Daniel Ricciardo. Like idk he just makes insensible comments and jokes that just rub me the wrong way. And like I dont want to be rude but why is he even in the sport still?

Genuinely. Hes past his prime, he’s on a ‘B’ team, he even said himself that he was most likely not going to win a championship with Max/RBR’s dominance. And like? Idk because the same argument can be said about so many drivers but like, they’re taking away valuable opportunities for younger drivers on the F2/F3 grid to move up.

I don’t see anyone on the grid this year actually leaving anytime soon (maybe Sargeant if he can’t perform and MAYBE Fernando if he gets into another one of his retirement moods) but like? Idk

I’m not saying he’s a bad driver, hes obviously fan-fucking-tastic to be a F1 driver, but he just is not performing in the way he has in the past, and I am a very strong supporter of F2 drivers moving up and achieving their dreams (or at least being able to attempt to). I feel like he’s doing a detriment to his own mental health by being stuck in a situation where he cannot progress and get the results that he wants (because he’s in a fucking AT/Racing Bulls/Cashapp?? Seat)

Ik the Danny girls are gonna hate me but i’m a realist and I can/will totally make this argument for multiple other drivers on the grid😭

-🥰

honestly i saw danny when i got into f1 and latched onto him bc he is pretty and that still stands. i just love him. i haven't seen him say anything stupid really, not that i can remember, so i can't comment on that. i will be deeply heartbroken when he leaves the sport and i worry ab the state of this blog if it happens.

i think it makes sense for him to be on the second redbull team tbh, at least for the car developmentally. he's a seasoned racer who knows a lot about the sport and can easily give them his input on the car and what can improve it, whereas a newer driver doesn't have as much experience to draw from and they probably can't give the team as much information, or as detailed information. if they're struggling and need to bring in a seasoned racer to the b team to bring it up to par, i can understand that. it also makes sense if their plan is to get daniel in the redbull seat sometime this season or next, which it may or may not be, but either way they would want to keep his skills polished to keep him in contention for that seat.

i can't really comment on his performance- i just got into the sport this year, but i don't know if it really is a detriment to his mental health. i don't know the guy but i feel like this is where he wants to be, he wants the redbull seat and he wants to win with redbull, and i think he deserves that seat as much as anyone else does if they think he's worth giving it to. and i think he deserves the seat he has, especially if they want to keep him in good shape to be redbull's second driver if checo doesn't stay.

danny girls please don't fight in my inbox i will just stop answering asks thank u. be nice and we can chit chat, i'd love some race discourse but i dont want fighting thank u very much!!

[linoone]

Its funny how people are less likely to believe victims if they have a chip on their shoulder about being abused, Or are petty about it in any way. As mentioned previously on this blog, i recently had a Moment over my ex who is just not a good person yet still has a decent following . I tried to be as mature as possible when first talking about it back in 2019 / 2020 , and people didnt really care then for a variety of reasons; But going through those logs again made me realize ... It can be very obvious when people Dont believe you for one reason or another. Especially if you dont have evidence backing it up and in some cases, That evidence just does not exist because it gets lost to time or covered up

People get tired of hearing about it if youre immature about it , or complain too much . If you feel any emotion that isnt neutral openly, basically. They stop believing you or being supportive because you speak too much about it, wonder why you havent " Moved on " ... when people heal at different rates. Even if you do express emotions on it in a rather healthy way, it becomes a "Stop talking about it" thing with certain people at a certain point. Even if its brought up in passing

Dunno. I hadnt touched the logs in years but re-reading them just reminded me of how i was treated when talking about that ex at first lmao ... And i think even if the evidence was there wrt the logs, They wouldnt have cared because my "sources" (the people being treated poorly) were "totally wrong". Or something like that, people make plenty of excuses for their friends when they turn out to be shit (admittedly i have done the same in at least one situation many years ago). But given that i am still blocked 5 years later, something tells me theyll still go to bat for that person if i were to interact with him/them again (which, ill be honest, at times i was immature & paranoid about it especially when it was all fresh; but that doesnt excuse saying something like "its good he doesnt associate with you if he abused you", paraphrasing)

[ithinkhesgaybutwesavedmufasa]

I hope I’m not asking anything too personal or over the line, but I’m just getting into the d/s life and don’t even know where to start, how did you find your dom? How did you get into this lifestyle?

Nothing is too personal, babe. I'm literally using Tumblr as my journal right now for this journey I'm on. If there is a question that I prefer not to answer, I'll say that. Now, that being said, my DMs are always open and my responses will be more tailored to what you want to know if we talk directly but if you're not comfortable I understand.

This got away from me so putting a read more.

I have only been actively looking for a Dom on fet for about 2 months. So, I'm not an expert by any means and I can only speak for myself.

My main advice can be broken into two parts:

1. Do your research so you know what you want (obviously you haven't tried everything but I'm not talking about individual kinks here, I'm talking overall) For me, I wanted a Dom with experience that was willing to be patient and go slow with me since I am very inexperienced. I wanted someone who was okay with waiting to fuck me because I wanted to get to know them/be comfortable first. I wanted someone who would include my wife in everything and make her feel welcome and wanted/respect our marriage.

(Obviously, there is implied stuff, like must not be a predator, must be clean, would prefer if he were taller than me, can't be a trump supporter etc etc. I live in the midwest, that last one is important lmao)

2. Do not compromise

When I first joined Fet I was overwhelmed with messages. As someone who has not been outwardly sexual until now it felt wonderful to have so much attention and there was a thrill in telling total strangers that you wanted someone to grab you by the hair and face fuck you. So fun and dirty, right? I quickly realized, do not respond to every message. Be picky. Be selective. If there isn't a vibe or you aren't excited to talk to someone YOU DONT HAVE TO. They can go get their rocks off somewhere else.

A cute guy messaged me last night. Said he had Dom experience but wanted to disclose he was married, no big deal so am I, buuuuuut she doesn't know he's on Fet. Sorry, pal. Next.

One guy said he was a Dom but his biggest fantasy was being tied up and used by two women. Uh...I don't...are you lying about one of these things? Also I don't want to do that for you. Next.

I have had someone ask me to piss on them while wearing stilettos. No thank you, please read my bio, I'm a sub. Next.

One guy started off great but quickly didn't respect my boundaries in the messages and scared me so badly I sobbed to my wife because it made me feel like I had done something wrong, or I deserved his words because I was a slutty submissive who doesn't know whats good for her and wants to be used--I essentially slut shamed myself. I blocked him, he made a second account....I deactivated my page for 3 days after that. But I calmed down and came back because like hell was that nobody going to ruin this for me.

This ask has gone on way too long but we have gone on some really shitty meet and greet coffee dates. Brush them off and move on. No harm, no foul. There are already four more lined up behind them, babe.

The guy who is currently UC as my dominant kinda fell in my lap. It is a very serendipitous story if yall wanna know sometime.

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[inqilabi]

I’m an ex muslim desi woman still living at home with parents pretending to be muslim. I’m 26 and I want to move out. I’m gonna start saving so by the end of the next 2 years i can do it. My job is based in the same city as them so I cant use the work excuse. I had an argument with my mom and sister about it today and they used the usual misogynistic religious/cultural stuff like “it looks wrong for an unmarried woman living alone” etc. mom got suuuuper upset and even cried. But she said if i was married it’d be completely fine or maybe for a job in another city. Do you have any advice how to navigate this? My other sisters are married and moved out. My younger brother plans to move out when hes married within the next year too so i think they kinda depend on me to take care of them which is obviously unfair, especially because im unmarried and dont plan to get married soon.

I am sorry to hear this hun. My advice is to definitely move out and commit to it at any cost. I know all the emotional blackmail is very tough to deal with but take it from me. Even if you stayed back, they will not appreciate it/you. And down the road you will be resentful. And let's say it ends up costing you advancement in your life (dating, job prospects etc etc), family and the world will basically blame you for not having your shit together. Like no one understands if such things hold you back.

That's really what I have learned through all the things that I faced is to be inconsiderate of people's feelings. Because guess what - they will still be crying even if you are the perfect daughter.

In your case, if you don't want to get a new job right now then I suggest you say that your interviewing for jobs. And then you know pretend to take calls etc etc as you would if you were interviewing. Make it believable. And then say that you got a job in this x city. And then move. Get comfortable at faking and lying. I suggest lying solely because it's the path of least resistance. You could obviously just look for apartments, commit to it, and then once you sign the lease say - you're moving out. You've signed the lease. And then deal with the emotional outbursts and fall out from there on. You can live with multiple roommates to make it more affordable so you can do it sooner.

Either that or have a 6-8 month plan. 2 years sounds like it could be too far out for you but only you can judge if you can tolerate living at home for that long. during this time apply for jobs that pay more and are further out. But defs have a goal and commit to it.

It would be useful if you could rely on any one of your siblings for help and support. With the process or even lying. Like for instance my brother was totally okay with me lying to get out etc.

[fluffnflightillustrations]

i really like your art style for renruki, you make them look so cool 🫶

so i was wondering if you can see more of your art for other ships like ichihime and hitsuhina??

If people commission them, definitely! But to be honest, the only ship that really truly moves me is renruki, so its the one i always draw in my downtime. Ichihime is cute, don't get me wrong, but it doesn't strike my heart's strings the way renruki does. I'm practicing with ichihime for once right now, but its just... not coming out the way I wish it would, so I scrapped it.

It's so nice to hear that, and I appreciate your support! But the fact is simply that they just dont make me as happy as renji and rukia do, and drawing them in my free time doesn't give me the same giddy happyness in my heart that Renruki does.

I'll totally draw them if I get a comm of them, of course, but odds are it wont likely be in my free time drawings. I'm sorry!

This, and I don't know how I feel about hitsuhina. To me, I just never personally shipped Toshiro with anybody, so I'm not even sure I will ever draw that ship unless comissioned. I don't hate it or dislike it, but i dont love it or like it either; I've just never quite thought much about it. But they have a lovely dynamic.

[angelicalbones]

just rambling about current events in my life happening right now its a stupidly long whinefest

boyf has been hella depressed the past few days and ive been checking in like "hey do you wanna talk" and every time he says no and doesnt engage any further. he also has told me before about how I linger and suffocate him too much so ive been trying to just do my own thing until he wants to engage

this morning I get up and come sit out on the couch w him bc he once again did not come to bed and slept on the couch and he didnt say a fucking word to me didnt even look me in the eyes. which fine he does that, I curl up next to him and try to comment on the game hes playing and I dont even get the vaguest grunt in response.

Clearly he does not want to speak just like he didnt last night. AGain completely fine I will just go do my own thing so I dont just sit around awkwardly in silence and make him upset by being too close.

Cue him telling me out of no where he is going to his aunt's house bc he cant stand being in the house any longer. I have no issue w that but I can hear in his voice hes angry so I ask him whats wrong. Meaning 'what right now is making you angry' and he fucking snaps on me about how he hates being in the house and asks me if I think everything is fine which no I obviously do not think so but whatever I tell him its totally okay its fine he can go I wasnt gonna stop him I was just asking

he starts to say "im just upset that" and then stops himself and just says "well if you think its fine." and just books it out the door

if he comes home at all tonight I am fucking screwed. He is going to lose his fucking mind at me for giving him his space instead of sitting at his feet silently like a dog waiting for him to decide if he is going to give me any ounce of his attention. He will never fucking effectivly communicate when he would rather be sit w him v when I shouldnt I am literally just expected to know. I want to support him through fucking anything he is the love of my life but this depressive episode is coming at such severe cost to my already exceedingly fragile mental health.

hes just so god damn mean to me when hes like this I cant take it. Im exhausted of never having the right answer. Never doing the right thing. He will say I am the kindest most supportive partner to other people but the second I dont magically know which contradicting behavior he is expecting from me I am the cruelest most evil disgusting sociopathic abuser he knows. I dont know what to do about it. I have no family here. I'm completely alone. if this goes sideways my entire life is over

I have to quit my job, abandon all of my things and move back in w my parents across the country. He has roots here he has family who support him here. He likes to pretend hes this sad little island all alone when Im the one who has *nothing* to my name if he dumps me. He owns like 99% of the shit in this house not that I could move back w anything I own anyway I dont own the fucking car.

he holds my life in his hands but he is the persecuted victim here. hes the one who will lose everything bc of me.

Im realizing hes treating me the way his father treated him and he doesnt comprehend that. Hes being exactly like his father.

i dont know if I can fix that. i dont know what to do w this realization. i jsut wnat to sleep for a thousand years and wake up to a partner who doesnt hate me or lovebomb me.i just want a normal life for 5 seconds

[coeurify]

Rin babe, I have a question: do you think it is legit for me to just, stop having male friends??

I noticed that every time I tell a man (with whom i just want to be friends with) that I am a lesbian, they start to push it more, as if they could “change me”. I totally hate this because I don’t want their attention and it bothers me so much that they automatically see me as a prize to win 💀💀 like my guy, back the fuck up before you get smacked the fuck up. I literally want to cut all the connections I have with men in my life, apart from my dad (I love my supportive af dad). What do you think? Also, building connections (romantically or platonically) with women is way easier.

Like please do you validate my thoughts??? Do you think I am a bitch for wanting this?

Sorry for the broken English babe

I dunno if I should sign this with my emoji or just go totally anon mode

I think I am going totally anon mode

Sorry if the whole message bothers you or crosses in any way your boundaries darling, if it does please just delete and I apologize already <3

hey lovely!!! honestly, i dont have more than 2 guy friends in my life and theyre dating each other so���. i dont think its wrong at all to wanna not have any guy friends… especially if they treat you like that. its not a bitchy move at all, its a move to make yourself feel better and safer tbh. maybe im just an annoying lesbian but having next to no men in my life has improved it tremendously, and as u said its much easier building connections w women . im so sorry men have treated u like that baby, and ily sm

[jellorat]

My Schedule as a Barely Functioning Adult

This is what I am dealing with in the next few weeks:

11/23/22 - Take a load over to the new house, drive 1 hour to IKEA to pick up items we bought, drive back, and put them together. Today's complication was brought to us by IKEA not having things in stock the first time, and also giving us a reopened an half-assembled Alvari drawer with the wrong drawer slides in it, and going back and getting the wrong drawer slide AGAIN! I suppose one fuck up out of 10 years of purchases is decent odds, so I will allow it.

11/24/22 - Ignore Thanksgiving, and pack the house for moving. Maybe go to a restaurant and eat sad restaurant thanksgiving. Not sure what's happening with this. Wife is in charge.

11/25/22 - Ignore the holiday, pack the house and maybe take items over before movers. There is NO WAY we are letting them touch $600 Flu Vogs. Like who would risk that leather?

11/26/22 - Continue packing. Maybe take things. Maybe not.

11/27/22 - Even god got a rest day, so we plan on sitting in our cramped apartment, probably in bed because it will be the only place without boxes. We will do nothing! Because we are both old, and plan on being sore and exhausted.

11/27/22 - 11/30/22 Work. My job is a dumpster fire right now, and my boss and I have been entangled in a HR incident where she shared my medical issues to attempt to prevent a transfer to a different team. She's a total fucking shit, and it went so well that her boss is all over her right now, so things are tense. ALSO, pack for my wife's trip to Arizona for Electrolysis.

12/1/22 - Silently try not to panic at the idea of heading ot the airport at 0400 in the morning. Work the day, while being completely distracted, and trying not ot panic at my bosses complete incompetent shenanigans. (Hence the attempt to transfer in the first place.)

12/2/22 - Got to Airport. Support wife while she has to grow out her beard. Be anxious with TSA. Get to Arizona, get to Rental Car, get wife to electrolysis, and check into the hotel. Get back to my wife, and keep her company so I am at least there when someone says something shitty to her. Which is an ongoing theme.

12/3/22 - Get wife to all day electrolysis again. Say nothing except polite niceties. Big mask. Big mask!

12/4/22 - Get to airport, drop off rental, go through TSA, get back home, then drive back to our apartment. Realize it's all boxes, and not relaxing at all. Lay in a malaise of post Arizona funk, and be silently grateful our transgender asses don't live there.

12/5/22 - This should have been a post Arizona rest day, but nope! This will be the kick off of the final packing preparations. Moving are coming on the 10th. Call and confirm! Double check everything. Take anything that needs to go over, over, so the movers dont' have art and fragile things to move.

12/6/22 to 12/8/22 - Work in a shit show and look for new job posting at work so I can try and transfer again.

12/9/22 - Go to state capital to fight the unique transgender fight of trying to get my 30 year old marriage certificate amended to our new names. This requires an act of god, a 6th month wait for this appointment, and hoping all the name change court documents will be enough. Then! Drive back home, and take all electronics to the new house. We will take all TVs, and the four gaming consoles, plus two expansive computer set ups. We are talking endless monitors, KVM switches, and god knows what.

12/10/22 - MOVING DAY! Professional movers will come for boxes and furniture at 9am. We will anxiously watch and panic until all items are in the new house. Then we will probably unpack some.

12/11/22 - Unpack more.

12/12/22 - Unpack more.

12/13/22 - Not working, just laying in bad thinking thank god it's over and recovering.

I need an adult that is not me. This is the time I do wish I had a family to help. It's just my wife and I and we are also fighting executive dysfunction issues, and this is a lot for 3 weeks.