#i think it's the double standard
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#forgive me#i am about to complain#i am feeling hormonal and emotional#and i am still not over the fact that my bil & sil are so readily willing to take advantage of my fil's generosity#i don't know why i can't let this go!!!#i think it's the double standard#my inlaws (fil and his wife and my mil) just fucking let my bil & sil take advantage of them#and hold everyone hostage (including my partner) with the threat of withholding their presence!#it's like#they will not come to visit unless someone else foots the bill#my bil will not come visit (even when he has unlimited vacation) unless my sil also can (even though she has very limited vacation)#my bil didn't even come back home when my fil had 2 (TWO) heart attacks in june last year!!!#he just expected my partner to deal with it (which he did bc my fil's wife is garbage in stressful sitations-which fair ig)#it's just infuriating#i am so annoyed#i am so mad that not only did they not care about seeing my kid as a newborn until my fil offered to pay for flights#but that they now want to make the visit prioitize seeing my sil's grandparents before my kid!!!#like girl! you didn't want to see your own fuckijg grandparents until someone else was willing to pay for it!!#and you want to do it before seeing your brand new niece!!!#aaargh!#like i don't usually like or want to be the center of attention (for instance when my partner and i got married#our ceremony was literally just our parents and we tried hard not make a big deal about it bc my bil & sil's wedding earlier that year#was expensive and stressful for everyone (they made the whole family travel cross country for it and my mil paid for a lot of it)#and we didnt want to do that to them!)#but i do want my kid to be the center of attention!! she's going to be a brand new person and a new addition to the family!#and i want everyone to fawn over her! i feel like you deserve that when you're a brand new baby!!#and i am so annoyed that this celebration of her birth is going to get derailed by my sil being upset that her grandparents are dying!#like i get it! loss is very hard and i really feel for her! but i want this visit to be about my baby#and not her fucking guilt over choosing not to visit them AT ALL over the past 5 years!!#ok ok ok im done
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my absolute favourite genre of transphobic propaganda is when the caption is like âlook at this poor, confused little girl who was forced to mutilate herself :(â and the picture is just the hottest man youâve ever seen in your life with a full beard and a body that would make thor weak at the knees
#ramble#also like. everything else aside calling any ADULT a âpoor young girlâ is yucky af#weâre not delicate little flowers who donât know how to think. iâm an adult with medical autonomy and a working brain#calm down youâre deranged#i wonât get on my soapbox today but itâs just funny how they think theyâre the grounded sane ones#also the double standard drives me insane#with trans men itâs âdelicate abused womanâ and with trans women itâs âcreepy predatory manâ#itâs almost like transphobia is just rebranded misogyny and they donât actually care about equal rights#who wouldâve thought
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When men like problematic violent video games and media it's easily "life doesn't equal fiction", but when women like toxic romance it's "poor women are being brainwashed into liking abusive relationships we shouldn't glorify", but society don't wanna acknowledge their infantilization of women when it comes to guilty pleasure hobbies geared towards a female demographic, like they don't have common sense and a brain when consuming fiction
#tell me the amount of video essays GTA gets about being problematic compared to a colleen hoover book lol#srry i think her books suck but its rlly not that srs#like when its women enjoying some guilty pleasure stuff made for our demographic#suddenly the nagging about not glorifying toxic partners lol#yes i know being kidnapped into falling in love with your stalker is bad đ are you being fr scolding me about this#you can fite me on this its a double standard#sidrabbles
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Every day Iâm haunted by the fact the boys happily swim in sewer water
Even if itâs filtered somehow thereâs no way itâs not still nasty đ Bet they can defeat any of their villains just by accidentally giving them diseases I swear
#rottmnt#rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles#bless their hearts but theyâre nasty#itâs funny because like#each and every one of them has moments#where theyâre a typical disgusting teenage boy#and then the next they have STANDARDS#canât blame Leo for being so determined to go to a spa#even if he nearly licked his own foot thatâs prob cleaner than anything else the boys have been up to in years đ#thank you shelldon for all your hard work cleaning after then đ#theyâre all gross teenage boys!!!#even Donnie he is NO exception here#bro was DRINKING A BEVERAGE while wading through sewer water he is just as gross as his bros#bro also talks with his mouth full he is no more refined than his equally gross bros fr and I love it#but yeah no way that water isnât disgusting even filtering it would still leave grime on the walls of the sewer for yearsss#pros of them moving into an abandoned subway system is fixing their sense of smell enough to not be as gross#100% thatâs part of why they didnât mind being so filthy pre shelldon#because I mean they were literally raised in the sewers and theyâre teenage boys like thatâs a double whammy#THEY ALSO DONT WEAR SHOES#the few times any of them do the shoes are discarded before heading home đ#I love them tho they are endearing anyhow#Aprilâs immune system must be godlike just being around them fr#honestly no joke Mikeyâs probably the cleanest of them all#just by virtue of being a chef#Leo I see as a mixture since he no doubt loves to pamper himself so heâs clean like#a percentage of time before he goes out and ruins his own hard work#Donnie is similar in that heâs just VERY SELECTIVE about what he thinks is too gross#Raph may be more on the stinky end but itâs not his fault he has his stinks and eats things of dubious origin(esp since his bros ate poison)#Donnie and Leo really have the gall to be sick about Raph eating the origami salami but they have no room to talk#all their villains are prob like please stay away from us we have salmonella now
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M'lady, doth this harlot bother thee?
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#poorly drawn mdzs#mdzs#yu ziyuan#wang lingjiao#jinzhu#yinzhu#I just want to take a moment to shine a spotlight on YZY's maids.#I fully admit to forgetting about them until I was looking up female characters in mdzs for the Six AU and saw their names.#For characters who play a small role in the story I sure do rotate the little morsels of info we know about them in my head.#We know they came from the Yu sect along with YZY and described as 'young women' so did they likely were young when they left#And we know that YZY favours them immensely (to the point she lets them speak a lot more freely than she does her own children)#And they in turn are extremely loyal to herand very skilled fighters.#So what's up with that dynamic? Who are they to her? Who are they to each other? Who are they as individuals?#My theory is that they were initially servant girls YZY took in and trained (hence the whip proficiency)#I also very much love the idea of this double standard; that YZY has these surrogate 'children' she favours over her own#to shadow JFM's affection for WWX (child who is not his own).#Jiang Cheng and Jiang Yanli just keep losing!!!#Anyways I just think we should hoist jinzhu and yinzhu up more. I think they have minor character swag and potential.
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Forced imprisonment.
Tamlin trapped a highly sorted Feyre in a monor for a couple of hours to prevent her from following him into immediate danger that would have most likely gotten her killed. A danger she stubbornly wanted to partake in despite her disadvatage whilst opening her up to the enemy. So, in response, Tamlin made the rash choice to protect her in the only way that he could before going to protect his court that was under attack.
Rhysand trapped Prythian's Avengers (super powerful Otherworldly creature, the Morrigon and two Illyrian's who are the owners of seven siphons) for 50 years so they wouldn't get killed even though they most certainly could have helped considering their fighting experience, but Rhysand still felt the need to protect them and stripped their choice away, confined to forced imprisonment because he thought it was right in the moment.
So...how is only Tamlin in the wrong? A one-time mistake made under strained circumstances, whereas Rhysand repeated that shit twice; the second time with Nesta because her trauma was making Feyre sad - "Whomp whomp, my mate. Whomp whomp, my sister-in-law is awful and won't submit."
People truly love to pick and choose when trapping someone is appropriate. Because they love to throw the, "Tamlin locked her in the house," line like the magical barrier wouldn't have been down in a couple of hours. Maybe it would have been better if she had a shit ton a stair to descend instead?
#acotar critical#anti rhysand#pro tamlin#i just think fae love to restrict other's movements - Amarantha - Tamlin - Rhysand...its their culture đ#but seriously...stop with the double standards
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CHARLES GET UP!!! đđđ
#man has double standards#love has changed u#tbf i think heâs thinking something horrendous must happen to take max out of the remaining few races#what happened to being a track terror#like a big accident which heâs the last person to want for sure#lestappen#f1#formula 1#charles leclerc#cl16#max verstappen#ferrari#1633#mv33#mv1
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Hon gör sig redo att gÄ en promenad i skogen (lol)
#lucy#wiki#lesbian#my art#art#i know bras are useful#this comic is about the need to cover up a feminine chest#and how i think it's stupid#because it is a double standard!!!!!!!!!!#anyways#hehe#illustration#comic#sketch
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#persona 4#p4#persona 4 golden#p4g#hanamura yosuke#yosuke hanamura#souyo#oh yosuke so NOW you dont have a problem looking like a couple with yu huh#what happened to having to ask other people along when you hangout because you dont want others to think youre a couple with yu#or did your big brother instincts kick in in front of your kouhai and now you feel like you need to step up and go into no nonsense mood#double standards i say!!#but really i think that in front of kanji and teddie yosuke has a tendency to take on a big bro attitude and its very cute#he's good with his queue
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'i'm fine with elias simps but i draw the line at lady mowbray you people have clearly never met old rich ladies-' i'm not in it for the money i'm in it for the senseless violence and killings. god forbid a woman do anything.
#tmagp#the magnus protocol#lady mowbray#'you wouldn't like her irl-' i think i wouldnt like her irl because she made a guy kill his entire staff with a meat cleaver#in fiction she is merely Old Woman With Gun And Cool Dogs#also wdym ur fine with elias and not with her????? double fucking standards much?????#ELIAS WAS ALSO OBJECTIVELY WORSE OF A PERSON???#he knew about jane prentiss he knew about not-sasha he caused the fucking apocalypse he knew tim would die bc the rituals were fake he#killed gertrude he killed leitner and got jon blamed he basically forced hundreds of people to work for him and oh yeah! KILLED THE OG ELIA#and you draw the line at lady mowbray because what??? shes a rich old evil WOMAN instead of a rich old evil MAN?????#wtaf guys come fucking on#tma#the magnus archives#my post
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Sometimes I forget why exactly I disliked ACOMAF as much as I did and then I see a random quote and am instantly reminded.
This is exactly the type of gaslighting that this book does that annoyed me so. fucking. badly.
'All he'd wanted to do wasn't free me, but fuck me' - ah yes, because it totally wasn't her who went for his pants first.
'He hadn't tried to kill her, hadn't crawled for me'
Excuse me? He crawled as he was bleeding out from a chest wound, still tied up. Not to mention he DID kill Amarantha in the end. (Also he couldn't kill her before, because that's how magic bonds work - none of the high lords could lift a finger against her. There was literally nothing he was able to do).
Also it makes no SENSE for Feyre to be resentful of Tamlin not rescuing her all of a sudden? Tamlin saved her already by returning her to the human realm. SHE returned to fight and die for him. She KNEW she'd most likely die but she was there to rescue HIM. It's not like she got kidnapped by Amarantha and he just watched, no she came to die for him. It's kind of weird to blame him for not getting her out when she came in to get HIM out.
So yeah, ACOMAF is awful in this regard and I just don't get it. It would have been quite easy and possible to make Feyre realize that Tamlin isn't right for her without literally making shit up about him that conflicts with book one.
#just a random thrum rant again#also lol the double standard#'I was doing those trials and tamlin did nothing to protect me i hate it'#'As soon as he got his powers back he tried to protect me with everything so I would never have to face such dangers again i hate it'#MAKE UP UR MIND FEYRE#but like ugh....i think its literally just that way to make Feyre seem less of a bitch for switching boyfriends so quickly#i am just surprised most people dont seem to mind this manipulative writing?#or however you want to call it#gha#acotar#tamlin
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#using 'them' because obviously not all transfem folks (myself included) use she & her#add this one to one of my more super hot takes even if it's true#stop canceling trans women over stuff you absolutely get it up for#also making this because of recent events & no I won't elaborate even if you ask me to#and no I won't debate the ethics of adults playing pretend with you as that's silly; a waste of my time#and is also just not what this post is about; you'd think that'd be obvious but watch people not care anyway#feel free to send asks though It's up to me whether or not I want to answer them#this double standard is never done in good faith & is most assuredly transphobia 100%#marking this post as all of the things because I know the people on this site can't behave; I've seen it before#yes you should reblog this btw; this also happens on twitter & reddit I'm sure though I have no twitter#mine#op#fauxcest#sibcon#step mom#siscon#brocon#sibcest#trans memes#transgender memes#cw adult things#cw adult stuff#tagging all of these just to be safe
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It is interesting to me that a common take in the fandom is that Feanor should have given up the Silmarils to the Valar for the greater good of bringing back the Trees and that not doing so makes him greedy and prideful meanwhile people don't seem to see the Teleri/Olwe refusing to aid the Noldor by giving up their ships the same way even though that also would have been for the greater good of attempting to take down Morgoth. There are very clear parallels between the ships and the silmarils and yet this part seems to get over looked.
#this isn't me condoning the first kinslaying#I'm just noting a double standard in how characters are discussed in similar contexts#i don't think feanor or olwe/the teleri are prideful or greedy for wanting to keep what is theirs#feanor#olwe#the silmarillion#silm posts#my silm posts
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[TW: grooming] Gentle reminder that Luke castellan was a 19 year old adult going after a 14 year old Silena, emotionally manipulating her and basically grooming her into giving him information. (Luke was said to have recruited Silena sometime after he left chb, which is basically the ending of TLT and Silena was 14 in TLT while Luke was 19) and continued to do so for 4 YEARS (the time between TLT and TLO is 4 years, and Silena only stopped falling into the trap after Charlie died, which was in TLO)
I hope the pjo timeline is an eye opener for the naive as fuck fans defending and justifying Luke's behaviour and having the audacity to deny that Silena was indeed groomed.
There's a difference between appreciating well written complex characters vs actually glossing and meat riding their problematic and questionable behaviour. A huge fucking difference. I think Luke is a good written character, but seeing the amount of fans justifying him being a creep scares me.
"Grooming" (I took the definition straight out of the internet for the detectives that will probably scrutinize and chew on my post lmao) is when someone builds a relationship, trust and emotional connection with a child or young person so they can manipulate, exploit and abuse them.
Luke took advantage of Silena to BOTH manipulate AND exploit her for information.
Don't even get me started on the "he had a terrible home life, he was traumatized as a kid, what else can you expect?" yeah he was, but how was that Silena's fault? She shouldn't have to be taken advantage of , suffer without even realizing it, and pay the price to Luke's insanity, just because Luke had internalized issues like other demigods did?? How is that a fucking excuse??
pls look me in the eye and tell me that Luke was "so hot because of how crazy, messed up and unhinged he is"
#I don't know why I suddenly felt the need to post this hot (ish) take. I genuinely contemplated if I should do this or not#If any of my moots like Luke dw I still love y'all.#Also let me say it before you come at me#I appreciate Luke as a well written character but if you think he's a precious lil baby then you've got problems#but this has to be said like c'mon.#luke gets off the hook way too fucking easily. Saw atleast 10 solid comments justifying his behaviour#this is the same fucking fandom that HATE Jason Grace for existing. Then proceeds to meat ride Luke. the double standards omg#Even if people can somehow 'defend' the grooming part. Try denying and justifying that he emotionally wrecked and SCARRED Annabeth#Luke was the reason a YOUNG annabeth had probably cried herself to sleep#How do people love Annabeth and love Luke at the same time? I don't get it tbh how could you like the boy that fucking wrecked her#He was also the reason she had a gray streak at 13. A mark of a traumatic event#pjo#percy jackson#pjo fandom#pjo series#annabeth chase#anti luke castellan#percy jackson fandom#percy jackon and the olympians
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Reread/skimmed my oldest Pharma apologism posts (mainly the ones about Pharma not being a functionist) and it just occurred to me that possibly another reason the fandom saddled Pharma with the "functionist bigot" label is because his introduction by First Aid says that everyone hates Decepticons, but Pharma really really hates Decepticons. Mix that with the portion of the fanbase that lionizes and whitewashes the Decepticons, and I can easily see it entering common fanon that "Pharma hates Decepticons -> the Decepticons are freedom fighters wrongly maligned by the Autobots/the franchise -> Pharma must be a bigoted functionist since he hates Decepticons who represent freedom."
The simpler explanation is just that Pharma is an antagonist and therefore gets the "everything about him must be evil and wrong" black-and-white analysis so common in fandoms in general, but given some of the bizarre Decepticon takes I've seen I can also easily see Pharma's Decepticon hatred being taken as a sign of him being bigoted and evil.
Though AGAIN in this case it would still be singling Pharma out as a bigot for crimes/flaws that multiple other Autobots are guilty of like.
Oh, Pharma hates Decepticons? Well a lot of other Autobots hate Decepticons too, First Aid's narration about Pharma even says "we all hate Decepticons"; for that matter, there are a lot of Decepticons who hate Autobots. It's a massive civil war that's lasted for a lifetime causing two groups of people to be stuck in a near-permanent blood feud, you can't assume that every Autobot who hates Decepticons (and vice versa) hates them because they're a bigot. Maybe there's been a war where both sides have been building an ever-increasing mountain of reasons to hate each other, so hating the opposite faction is a social problem caused by war and politics rather than a sign of individual moral failing.
Pharma worked at the New Institute so that means he must be evil/bigoted? Chromedome and Brainstorm also worked at the New Institute, but there's no widespread fandom shunning of them or headcanoning them as bigots.
Hell, even the very premise of assuming Pharma is a functionist bigot for hating Decepticons is ignoring the very premise of Pharma's motives, which are, uh... being blackmailed by the leader of the Decepticon Justice Division, who represents the ultimate form of Decepticon ideals to the point of literally wearing their symbol as his mask? So how were we jumping straight to "oh Pharma hates Decepticons bc he's a posh bigoted functionist" when there was a far more immediate interpretation/headcanon of "Pharma hates Decepticons because he's being tortured and blackmailed by one."
That's not to say that Pharma couldn't have hated Decepticons before Delphi, and I think you could make interesting headcanons/extrapolations based on either idea. But still. It kinda feels like people saw Pharma and just wanted to make him the Token Evil Autobot who's the opposite of our Good Heroic Autobots regardless of whether evidence from canon supported it or not.
Good riddance to bigoted functionist Pharma fanon, I'm so glad that the majority of Pharma fanon these days actually gives him a chance and puts him on equal footing as other Autobots.
#squiggposting#that and there's that weird thing where people treat(ed) pharma as if he's starscream lite#so like bc they see starscream as posh and elitist and vain (how did that happen btw)#they basically go oh pharma must also be the same way#also how did ppl ever see pharma as posh when he speaks in the same register as everyone else and if anything has a campy flair to him#you can't look me in the eye and tell me this chaotic theatrical gremlin ass freak is a posh elitist like slkfjsldk#not mentioning the flyers=oppressed thing in this meta bc that bit of worldbuilding was established way later#tho i cannot entirely fault ppl for painting pharma as evil and treating him with double standards compared to other autobots#i mean literally in the same issue he was introduced he caught flak for giving in to DJD blackmail#whereas other characters explicitly speak about how scary/scared they are of the djd#so like it's clear pharma WAS meant to be the token evil autobot with compromised morals#who was so selfish as to (gasp) take a blackmail deal to keep him and his facility from painful torturous death#and then when he was already trapped in the deal be forced to eventually kill patients to keep up#how dare he. should've stood up to tarn and instantly been murdered like a good autobot#sorry for being pithy lol the apologism got a little too strong there#pharma apologism#also i think the way JRO writes if pharma was supposed to be bigoted you would like. be able to tell#JRO is not subtle about writing p much every bigoted character as massively flamingly racist/functionist/etc
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I genuinely feel like Iâm taking crazy pills
#since when was farcille canon since when is dungeon meshi too good for yaoi#I guarantee you most of the people who interacted w this post ship yaoi ships with even less textual basis than any dm ship#itâs actually getting weird sorry idc if you hate labru but the way ppl are acting abt it is genuinely unfounded#or kbms too like I donât think any ship has actually distracted from farcille or the main plot#and farcille is just one piece of a larger puzzle itâs not as simple as farcille is the center of the story#outside of like intense shippers on the fringe of fandom#THERE R MANY STORIES HAPPENING IN DM. anyway#I complain abt shippers all the time but it feels like dm is getting a double standard here idk
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