#i think it's more a lack of feeling negatively?

[josephbrassey]

I think about this a lot and I think it’s actually not something you can control for, because the nature of stories is to put the audience in the shoes of the protagonist by evoking aspects of human experience that anyone can identify with.

The problem is that people are going to identify with the difficulties and struggles the protagonist has experienced whether they’ve experienced the proportionately similar trials of bigotry making them feel less for their whole lives or the relatively **much** more minor feeling of having one person be mean to them in the hallway in their school. Because everyone experiences negative emotions. Everyone experiences being treated poorly. It’s just a matter of degree.

If you’re a marginalized kid who’s been hated by the society around you your whole life, you’re gonna identify with the outsider protagonist, because you’ve experienced being an outsider.

But if you’re a privileged kid whose strongest negative experience was being made fun of one time by an adult or a parent or another kid, you are **also** gonna identify with the outsider protagonist, because that experience—even though it was objectively way less intense or all-consuming—still makes you think you’ve experienced being an outsider.

Also, people identify with protagonists who look like them. Privileged white people have always had protagonists who look like them.

And lastly, people identify with the protagonist of any story because it’s the nature of a good story to make you identify with the protagonist. So if you show a bully a story about an underdog, he’s gonna identify with the underdog, because the underdog is the main character, and the bully also feels like the main character.

I dunno, I’m not sure there’s a way around this problem. It hinges on a lack of media literacy (something most people don’t have a lot of anyway) and the nature of stories.

Wish I could figure it out though.

[bouquetface]

Hi❤️ what are some synastry aspects that you see a lot in soulmate relationships?

Hi. how ppl define soulmates is kinda subjective so this is just going to be my opinion. i don’t believe there is one sure way to tell, it’s just how 2 ppl feel.

When I think soulmate synastry tho, i think of the water houses (4th house, 8th house, 12th house) + the rulers of these houses. These houses can have a lot of depth to them. Someone who has personal planets that get into these houses can (for better or for worse) really get to your soul - go beyond the superficial and wordly matters.

however, if someone lacks water placements and placements in these houses in natal, they may disagree. The natal won’t active much for these houses if there are no personal planets in them.

Examples of a few placements:

Soulmate Synastry

Moon in 8th House - Both Moon + 8th H person are likely to feel this deeply. You can feely deeply understood and connected to the other person. Depending on sign, aspects + entire synastry, Moon can be a non-judgemental figure that allows 8th H to be open. They can get very close, experience and share many personal with one another.

The negative to this is after creating so much history with one another, there can be almost like an obligatory feeling to stick together. If you lose that closeness, you can easily become nostalgic for it - missing the old times. The connection can be life informing/transforming.

Venus conjunct Moon - Venus person's expression of love matches Moon's emotional needs to feel secure. Moon and Venus can be each other's biggest supporters. The connection can feel very easy - at times possibly enabling. However, IRL, I have noticed a few times that Moon feels this more than Venus. While Venus can provide a lot of support and comfort to Moon, they may not match Moon's emotional attachment to the connection. Moon may be absorbing the energy while Venus is just being Venus.

Moon or Venus in 12th House - There can be sense of familiarity and understanding. If this is supported by positive synastry, this is a nurturing placement - the other person has your back even when you aren't in the room. Most likely Moon or Venus may protect 12th H in ways 12th H person isn't even aware of - like they deal with the situation before it even gets to you (however it could be the other way around too). This situation can turn sour if one begins to feel unappreciated.

If accompanied by negative synastry, the two can be close yet a feeling of distrust remains. Most likely 12th H feels Moon or Venus could have hidden intentions (however it could be the other way around too). One can feel the other is manipulative and deceptive.

IRL EX: Venus in 12th H Scorpio - Venus person was very supportive of 12th H person. They were close for a long time until 12th H became suspicious of Venus. 12th H felt Venus may be talking behind their back - when in reality, it was Venus defending them and a different person talking badly about 12th H person. 12th H proceeded to not appreciate Venus's friendship and began talking badly about Venus to other people. This ended their decade-long friendship. There was a harsh Mars aspect in this synastry too.

[witchiewitchie]

I would like to address an elephant in the room.

I've kind of reached my tipping point with the amount of slurs that people seem to feel completely comfortable using derogatorily in this fandom, so long as it's in the name of 'in-character' roleplaying.

I don't feel like calling anyone specific out, but these people will know who they are, and what's more, I'm sure that most people who are familiar with the plethora of It fandom tags that I've also used are unfortunately very familiar with these accounts.

Let me be clear: while personally, I do not have a strongly negative opinion of reclaiming slurs, there is a big difference between 'reclaiming', which overwhelmingly is seen as a process of taking back words and redefining them, and just straight up using a slur the exact same way a homophobic (or anything else) person would use them.

It is not okay to use the F slur, for example, as a derogatory term. This is a hard line that we must not cross, because no matter what, it is a term that has been used in the past and will continue to be used in the future as a way of discriminating against or otherwise insulting people.

Even if you want to defend yourself by saying that it is simply in-character roleplay, I would encourage you to take a step back and try to figure out why exactly perpetuating homophobia (which is what you're doing, for the record, if you use a slur derogatorily, no matter the context) is something that you must do, particularly in a public space, without any trigger warnings.

At the very least, trigger warnings are a must, particularly if you insist on using harmful words in public. I understand that in the current year most people are somewhat removed from such a thing as homophobic or otherwise LGBTphobic bullying and/or harassment -- which is a wonderful concept, to be sure! However, that does not mean that all of us are so lucky. Many people have trauma resulting from such kinds of bullying and/or harassment and would appreciate at least a tag that they can avoid, rather than having to walk on eggshells because of a lack of consideration by others.

I think this also holds true for any other slurs you might see people using, but I'm picking my battles where they need to be picked.

As a side note, I think that whether you as an individual feel comfortable reclaiming slurs or being around people who do so is entirely up to yourself, and no one can tell you what to feel or how to act about something that is so intensely personal.

Personally, I have participated in reclaiming slurs that have been used as insults for myself in the past, and to some extent do this even now, although much less often. However, I specifically do not use these slurs in public -- whether in real life or online -- because there is no guarantee that people who overhear or read your public message are not going to take it as A) you genuinely saying the slur as an insult or B) a go-ahead to use the slur as an insult.

I will again state though that it is ultimately your choice to reclaim or to not reclaim slurs, although I will reiterate that I believe that it is actively harmful to use these slurs derogatorily, and I do not think that it is a personal choice but instead a moral failing to use slurs derogatorily or to insult other people.

Sincerely, someone who was beaten up many, many times in school for being any number of slurs that people have now decided it is okay to use derogatorily even as part of those marginalised groups.

[sausage-rolll]

My personal undertale headcanon is that Flowey isn’t emotionless and incapable of connecting with others because he lacks a soul or is inherently “bad”, it’s because he was deeply traumatized from watching his best friend/sibling kill themselves in an incredibly painful way only to die violently himself hours later at like, the age of 11?

That would break anybody. To make things even worse, he woke up an undisclosed amount of time later in a body wholly alien to him, unable to move, completely alone until Asgore found him. If that wasn’t bad enough he then had to directly face the consequences of his and Chara’s plan, and the deep pain that it caused everyone in the underground. His father, the king? Broken. His mother? Missing. His people? Devastated and hopeless. Chara? Gone.

And to make things just that much worse, when the pain and grief of everything gets too much for him, and he deems himself broken beyond repair and decides to take his life he finds out that he has complete control over time itself.

He then spends an unimaginable amount of time experimenting with this power, constantly trying to do the right thing, constantly trying to help people and make the world better. But he’s never satisfied. He’s never happy. He does this, again and again and again. He grows older and older but never actually ages, he sinks deeper and deeper into his own tiny world, becoming even more distant and disconnected from the people around him as situations repeat themselves and peoples lives loop and loop without end. 

Eventually he becomes so unbearingly bored of the endless, unescapable cycle that he starts to experiment with more negative situations. Afterall, his actions no longer have consequences, right? Anything he does, he can and will undo eventually. Even the most horrific actions hold no weight in Flowey’s impermanent world. The only person who ever has to deal with the consequences of Flowey’s actions… Is Flowey himself.

So he does it. Slipping deeper and deeper into his delusions. Falling deeper and deeper into genuine insanity as the years repeat themselves onto eternity and Flowey disconnects completely from the world around him.

At this point, he feels that he’s experienced quite literally everything the world has to offer. He probably lived as Flowey far longer than he ever did as Asriel by now. He’s befriended everyone, he’s hurt everyone. He’s saved everyone, he’s killed everyone. He’s done everything. Even violence doesn’t interest him anymore. So what does he do? He stops.

I’ve always wondered how Frisk even had the chance to fall into Mt. Ebott and usurp Flowey of his powers if he was constantly resetting the timeline, but I think I finally get it.

Flowey probably just… Stopped completely at some point. He stopped resetting, stopped interacting with the world and sat himself at his best friend's grave and just… waited. Waited for something, anything new to happen. Eventually enough time passed for a new human to fall, a human who inherently overpowers Flowey’s control of the timeline and so, for the first time in what must have felt like eternity Flowey was finally free from his power.

-

After everything that Asriel experienced leading up to and during his death, he probably would have needed intense therapy to overcome the trauma. But that’s not what he got was it? He didn’t get therapy. He didn’t get the chance to heal. He got the powers of a god and the curse of his actions no longer having consequences. I don’t believe Flowey is incapable of connecting with others or feeling true happiness or love. I think that’s just a lie he told himself so his situation wouldn’t hurt as much.

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But, even after all of that I believe Flowey still has a chance at happiness. We see his character shift dramatically after the Omega Flowey fight. After he is once again stripped of his power over time, he has an intense moment of vulnerability that shows what I believe to be his true colors, followed by him coaching Frisk on how to get a better ending for everyone.

Sure, this was likely a trap for Flowey to take everyone’s souls, but once again, after his defeat as Asriel and returning to Flowey’s form, he has yet another character shift.

He’s genuinely happy at this ending. He’s happy that everyone escaped the underground, happy that Frisk gets to live their life. He begs the player to just leave everyone to their lives and to move on themselves. He doesn’t want his power back, he doesn’t want the cycle to continue anymore.

For the first time in god knows how long, Flowey is satisfied.

And maybe if the alarm clock dialogue is anything to go by, given time Flowey can finally heal. Flowey can finally find happiness and love again.

[mottski]

~two week post-op round up~

-exited The Itch(tm) phase and have now entered the Feels Like Sunburn(tm) phase, which is a lateral move bc both suck equally. i might not want to gnaw my torso off but i DO feel like my whole chest has been badly sunburned. it's nerves waking up again and/or healing, my hips did the same thing. iirc, the intensity of it fades pretty quickly but parts of my thighs felt like they were mildly sunburned for like six months so who knows how this'll wind up

-struggling with Symptoms of Mysterious Origin But Maybe Still Anesthesia for two weeks now, where i feel mild-moderate motion sickness and dizziness for around 3 hours after i eat. i'm gonna make them check my blood pressure at my next follow up bc i have suspicions and can't check for myself

-no longer have to wear foam inserts! thank fucking god, the adhesive was not helping the itch factor

-vax does not understand why i'm now even more twitchy than before about letting his lil feets near my chest :( he's being brave about it, though

-started crocheting a sweater now that my chest measurement won't dramatically decrease and i won't feel gross wearing close fitting clothes :D i have been planning this for a year now as a special treat, i'm v excited

-one more week until i'm allowed to play elden ring again have a sustained elevated heart rate. chomping at the bit.

-i still don't feel anything other than "well this is how things look now, alrighty, neat" when interacting with my chest. it's been elevated to comedy for me bc i saw a lovely comic by a trans artist like, yesterday, about seeing their chest for the first time and the delight of it and they cried and stuff, and i'm over here like *thumbs up emoji in response to a lengthy text*

[vandalizedheart]

if i may allow myself a monthly Joker Moment, a lot of the harshness i have towards myself tends to be a side effect of how the rpc as a whole tends to operate.

i have a lot of joy and love for the things i create. when i share them in rp spaces here though? sometimes it gets hard to keep loving them, and myself as well.

[seventh-district]

not even gonna tag this properly bc i don't wanna get Involved but i do have some Thoughts i need to get out into the void so here we go

(aaa quick edit: CW for mention/discussion of Boothill leaks)

[oh-katsuki]

i think often about tendou and the song creep because i think that he very much thinks of himself as odd and a bit creepy, though he's not ashamed of it. and when he loves... he tends to view the person as almost... ethereal or like... magical.

like the line "you're just like an angel. your skin makes me cry." feels very much like something tendou would say. like the focus on something as arbitrary as the quality of someone's skin and assigning "angelic" as an adjective to it. idk it feels very tendou.

[sneeb-canons]

mind generally feels little to no emotion except sometimes when he just explodes (usually with anger)

Headcanon #59

[wereh0gz]

Not feeling great abt some of my creative endeavors rn

[justworthlessreblogs]

i think i've finally settled on my feelings on ciel as a character which is that the writers kinda fucked her over. i don't hate her but i do hate how she was utilized after 23 (which is to say... not really all that much?)

[no1ryomafan]

Thinking more about umbraclaw and while there’s stuff to critique from the gameplay side I think probably the biggest flaw of it is like everything to do with the writing, and I don’t mean just plot.

It’s one of those things where it’s like- The basic narrative of the story is got across well regardless of what ending you get-yes I did look it there being multiple endings lol-and it’s the first entry of a series so the story not being the best can be forgiven but it’s a shame NOTHING is super fleshed out. Not just the soul plane but the characters don’t get much at all, they kinda just exist as set pieces to move the narrative forward. Kuon, the mc oddly never talks that the characters always acknowledge it so she’s basically a blank slate and I’m unsure if it’s because we’re meant to project onto her/interpret her whoever we please or if it’s just to reflect she’s not like the others and she’s a normal animal.

We also don’t get to know enough about her owner that it’s actually hard to care about her other then “well she seems nice ig” since you can’t say you want to care about Kuon because she’s blank unless you really put yourself in her shoes or your own pet into her place ig. And don’t even get me on how LOCKE is so weirdly interrogated into the plot and clearly has more to him yet is left off being so vague, like we get teased he’s like you but never are directly shown or hinted at that. He’s just there as a rival but he’s not at ALL fleshed out enough or placed right into the plot even if he’s spared at the end which doesn’t amount to anything, he’s just there yet again to be a set piece that’s just a bit different from the others. (And also how he hints at a deeper theme of losing control of yourself in terms make you forget who you are but it’s not explored ENOUGH even if he’s there to reinforce it it only comes up in one ending)

Like this story doesn’t make me super angry to hate the game as I’m still gonna do another ending and overall playing it is a really interesting experience I won’t get from anything else, but maaan if we get a sequel I hope the plot is reworked significantly cause it sucks how it’s “not a bad story but also a story with no substance”.

Its something that’s satisfying only because it’s a what you see is what you get thing but doesn’t have anything deeper to really pick at.

[skrunksthatwunk]

really fun letting all of my favorite shows take turns being the "i can't think about it i can't think about it i can't think about it!!" bingewatch during finals season/associated crunch times. they're being inducted into a society

[repurposedmeatlocker]

Like, if I'm going to be honest, it admittedly feels like a lot of people online when talking about this stuff are kind of living in their own echo-chamber, without actually taking into account what the wider population will think or do.

[dan-crimes]

I love writers I love when they ramble on abt characters and their motivations, their core values and the reasons why they react to things in certain ways and having character interactions work off of each other due to their differing ways of viewing the world and in general I just love character analysis

[cyrantelnovapaleorayeeso]

my likes and dislikes about the new event aka styling wizard at home

likes

ive been asking for this kind of event/feature since i saw it in lm so thanks for stealing it

neutral

no themes. i think they can be fun and give a sort of direction to make an outfit. but i also like the freedom. sometimes themes can all end up feeling the same

nickname rating.....why not just make it for the outfits? why am i rating their name?

dislike

the randomness, i like styling wizard bc of the friend aspect! i add so many new people during the event...nikki dropped the ball with this one

are the players im dressing active players? there doesnt seem to be a way to tell if theyre online

minor nickpick: no sort by recent! i just like going in order of new pieces vs just high or low rarity

cant see what i sent, unless i missed this somewhere...sure i can just take a picture before i send but id like to go back and look!

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