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[world-of-fire-and-flight]

I'M FREEEE!!!!

Hey everyone!

Not only did my motivation come back from whatever vacation it went on without proper notice, but I finished my revisions for my Heirs of Tenebris trilogy book 3🥳🎉

I'm hoping to be as active as I was before my juggling act of the last couple of months, and just want to thank everyone for all the tags/asks/keeping me in mind....which leads me to:

Who's up for some tag games? I've got:

find the word games

seven snippets, seven people

some personality quizzes

find the vibe tag

writer questions tag

last line tag

heads up, 7 up tag

favorite lines tag

relationship snippet tag

OCs as flowers tag

WIP loot box tag

If you're down for any of these, drop a reply/reblog and I'll tag you as I fill them! I've been away from my dash for quite a bit so I don't want to tag people who've already done these (my tags are always no pressure but still I'd like to make sure people are up for these games😅)

[mellblogss]

If you want me to stay then make me feel wanted.

[ptimepoet]

"what lasts longer than love?"

"loss."

- vesmir

[inkskinned]

love when men cry about body hair bc "it's hygiene" and yet 15% of cis men leave the bathroom without washing their hands at all and an additional 35% only just wet their hands without using soap. that is nearly half of all men. that means statistically you have probably shaken hands with or been in direct contact with one of these people.

love when men say that women "only want money" when it turns out that even in equal-earning homes, women are actually adding caregiver burdens and housework from previous years, whereas men have been expanding leisure time and hobbies. in equal-earning households, men spend an average of 3.5 hours extra in leisure time per week, which is 182 hours per year - a little over a week of paid vacation time that the other partner does not receive. kinda sounds like he wants her money.

love that men have decided women are frail and weak and annoying when we scream in surprise but it turns out it's actually women who are more reliable in an emergency because men need to be convinced to actually take action and respond to the threat. like, actually, for-real: men experience such a strong sense of pride about their pre-supposed abilities that it gets them and their families killed. they are so used to dismissing women that it literally kills them.

love it. told my father this and he said there's lies, damned lies, and statistics. a year ago i tried to get him to evacuate the house during a flash flood. he ignored me and got injured. he has told me, laughing, that he never washes his hands. he has said in the last week that women are just happier when we're cooking or cleaning.

maybe i'm overly nostalgic. but it didn't used to feel so fucking bleak. it used to feel like at least a little shameful to consider women to be sheep. it just feels like the earth is round and we are still having conversations about it being flat - except these conversations are about the most obvious forms of patriarchy. like, we know about this stuff. we've known since well before the 50's.

recently andrew tate tried to justify cheating on his partner as being the "male prerogative." i don't know what the prerogative for the rest of us would be. just sitting at home, watching the slow erosion of our humanity.

[4mtns]

I need you here. I can't bear your absence. I need to see you, to love you. Without you, I feel so lost, so empty. Your presence is the only thing that makes me whole.

[thebeautyofanoracle]

One of the greatest tragedies in life, is that you will always be loved more than you will ever know.

Someone in your class finds your presence inviting and warm, even if you only exchanged few words with them, or maybe none at all.

Someone on the street loves your smile and it brightens their path for the next few blocks.

Someone you used to be friends with, still wishes to fondly call your name. Even someone you were friends with five years ago, would give anything to be in the same room as you today.

Someone who regularly comes to work, is disappointed when you aren't there to brighten their day.

Someone is still listening to the music you've showed them. Someone is still using the phrases and words you used. Someone still smiles when they remember a moment with you. Someone learned how to love from you.

Someone missed you today.

Someone noticed when you were gone.

Someone loves you when you are there.

Someone loves you when you are nowhere to be found at all.

You may think that you have always disappeared when you are no longer in the picture, but you've never left the frame.

~ unknown

[honestlydarkprincess]

come back to me ao3 i promise ill never take you for granted again just give me one more chance

[existingillusion]

[woundsoflove]

Do you miss me?

[chipsy]

No matter how far you are from me, my mind still finds a way to think about you. Whether it's because of something I see, hear, smell, taste, or feel. Whether it's big or small. There's always something that will remind me of you.

[cilly-the-writer]

Character: Okay, so here’s the plan—

Me: *trying to come up with their clever plan*

[4agonies]

And how cruel was it of the world to continue spinning even after you left?

I stopped while you took a little part of me with you, but, the world? It kept on spinning.

[mellblogss]

i want someone to be afraid of losing me

[ptimepoet]

[inkskinned]

one of the things about being an educator is that you hear what parents want their kids to be able to do a lot. they want their kid to be an astronaut or a ballerina or a politician. they want them to get off that damn phone. be better about socializing. stop spending so much time indoors. learn to control their own temper. to just "fucking listen", which means to be obedient.

one of the things i learned in my pedagogy classes is that it's almost always easier to roleplay how you want someone to act. it's almost always easier to explain why a rule exists, rather than simply setting the rule and demanding adherence.

i want my kids to be kind. i want them to ask me what book they should read next, and i want to read that book with them so we can discuss it. i want my kid to be able to tell me hey that hurt my feelings without worrying i'll punish them. i want my kid to be proud of small things and come running up to me to tell me about them. i want them to say "nah, i get why this rule exists, but i get to hate it" and know that i don't need them to be grateful-for-the-roof-overhead while washing the dishes. i want them to teach me things. i want them to say - this isn't safe. i'm calling my mom and getting out of this. i want them to hear me apologize when i do fuck up; and i want them to want to come home.

the other day a parent was telling me she didn't understand why her kid "just got so angry." this woman had flown off the handle at me.

my dad - traditional catholic that he is - resents my sentiment of "gentle parenting". he says they'll grow up spoiled, horrible, pretentious. granola, he spits.

i am going to be kind to them. i am going to set the example, i think. and whatever they choose become in the meantime - i'm going to love them for it.

[4mtns]

Do you miss me?