#i do not have the spoons
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(This is an edit of the pic I drew for chapter 15)
Maybe in another universe? 😭 I wish NQK was this, but it's not, and I have no idea why I had to hurt myself (and Leonardo) like this. Oh my gohdfsjdvdhdhfjgj. Screams falls down on knees cries throws up etc
#i want to write for this and make an au for my au but thank goodness i'm content marinating in these sads for now#i do not have the spoons#rise of the tmnt#rottmnt#rottmnt fanart#rottmnt fanfiction#tervdraws#nqk adjacent#disaster twins#rottmnt disaster twins#future leo#future leonardo#peepaw leonardo#peepaw multiverse#future donnie#future donatello#so close we are you've never been so far
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if i wrote 3k a day i could potentially finish writing Ivy & Twine before veilguard comes out
I can’t, for the record
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#but damn if i am not tempted to try#ivy and twine#nelke talks#i do not have the time#i do not have the spoons#i plotted out the rest of the fic and it’ll be almost exactly 100 chapters#i’d like to finish it by the end of the year but idk if that is realistic
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I HATE how this turned out WITH A PASSION.
#art#fanart#my art#original art#splatoon#splatoon art#splatoon fanart#Splatoon fan art#I’m stressed#Splatoon Marie#Marie splatoon#Marie#marie cuttlefish#Splatoon Marie fanart#squid sisters#hypno Marie#hypnomask marie? bc Callie is hypnoshades idunno ugh#I’m gonna rip my eyes out with a spoon this is so awful I HATE THE CLOTHES#I COULDVE DONE BETTER#one thing I do love though is my art style and more especially the shading part#ugh eating my shading#I’m noticing that I didn’t shade some parts lmfao but it’s part of my charm#some things are better left unfinished <3 because I have adhddddd#oni masks oni masks oni masks oni mask oni teeth oni teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth teeth te#don’t ask me why I’m so obsessed with teeth I do not know myself. I just am.#labeling this as ‘something I did when I was bored after having a crisis’ because those are usually not that good.
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
Plain-text version:
Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
#hlep#original#mental health#my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it#i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support#and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of#huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the#longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel#i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop
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#OP made it unrebloggable#so I removed their name because that seems polite#anyway uhhh#is tunglr (sic) still doing the thing where it only really tracks the first 5 tags on a post?#no id#no id in alt text#sorry-#I do not have the spoons#piracy#encouragement
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Do you know what's really wild? We never actually learned how Dark Dan was created.
I mean, we have Vlads side of the story of course but trusting the word of a lying liar who LIES isn't exactly the best idea even before you realize the story makes no sense.
I mean, Danny's ghost has always been pure and good when it's been removed from his body in the past and the thought that he would willingly let Vlad go anywhere near him with expiramental ghost tech is laughable, but to claim it was Danny's idea?
I'm calling BS. What do you guys think happened? Cause I think Danny was constantly trying to run away from Vlad or "Misbehaving" and Vlad came up with some evil scheme that blew up in his face. Again. And then he lied about it. Again.
#the alien speaks#seriously tho what happened#danny fenton#danny phantom#dark danny#vlad masters#i do not have spoons rn#i dont think im doing the Halloween prompts this year either
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Hey hey hey may 31th anon! How's 2024 going? ☆ヾ(*´▽`)ノ This year I have for you a leaked Sherlock season 5 image. Thinking of you!! And everyone!!
#may 31th anon#Hello hello hello friends!! How are you!!#I miss you all I miss tumblr I miss drawing these silly men#work was soooo boring today I was really happy that I got to draw John in a baby carrier afterwards (*´︶`*)#what have you been up to??#my job is very boring most of the time unfortunatly!! I want to have a new job a little bit but I also never want to have a job interview#ever again and also I might get a lamp this year (!) I have heard that someone has already printed out the lamp form#are you excited for good omens season 3??#I am!! I have also been watching a lot of x-files#(*´▽`*) we also have moths in the kitchen#I do not know what they are eating we have been storing all of our food in the fridge since last week but new moths keep coming#yesterday one flew out of the forks and spoon drawer#it's her kitchen now#I also got a mole removed#now instead of the mole I have a scar the exact same size an color of the mole#I have also been working on a longer comic project!! I think it will be ready to be shared this summer and I really hope you will like it#it's about the old dragon bros characters and their life with the princesses (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤#I'm having a lot of fun drawing again!!#I hope you're having fun too#also I had to write an email today and I had to attach a pdf file but it was upside down#I could not fix it#I just hit send
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you ask yuuta if he wants a bite of your food and when he says yes you offer your plate to him, but he’s just sat there looking at you with his dumb big bambi boy eyes and his mouth slightly open and he will not look away or blink or close his mouth until you lift your fork to his lips to feed him and then he grins like shit’s sweet and hums about how good the food is like nothing happened like he’s not ridiculously attractive. gonna chew on steel
#he consistently does shit like this is like he's not stupidly attractive and its because he does not know. he does not know that he's hot#the yuuta/yuuji divide is that they’re both bad asl and neither know it but yuuji is Not innocent and yuuta is just naive [at first]#which is me saying yuuji is kind but yuuta is just Nice once again#insane i need to bash his head against a table. and kiss him i guess whatever#also who expects to be fed when you offer them food: toge but he KNOWS he's being annoying and whines if u dont feed him#gojo/yuuji/choso are the opposite#gojo asks if u want some of his food and then won't let u have any unless u let him feed it to you. nd if u want to avoid a scene u have to#he just babies people :((///// he does this to everyone . will cry#yuuji also does it reflexively like hes like 'oh! this is good you should try it!' and before u can even agree he's got his spoon#in your mouth and smiling like 😇 its good right!🥰......angel boy#choso...do i need to say it isn't there canonical evidence for this#oh also u offer food to toji and he just kinda tilts his head like oh what ur not gonna feed me? like no. stinky. feed YOURSELF!#yuuta okkotsu.................... when i get my hands on this boy....#💌
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Never will I stop with the steadfast notion that folks in the DPXDC fandom should interact with at least some form of canon DC media.
There are comics, tv shows, radio dramas both old and new, podcasts, movies, magazines, so much shit that intentionally avoiding the media is simply preventing yourself from spawning new ideas and gaining a new appreciation for a fandom that you’re already in.
The Superman Radio Show has episodes 11 minutes long. A lot of the TV shows don’t have episodes that surpass 30 minutes and most are nearly fully clipped on the official DC YouTube channel. The amount of fan made motion comics is astounding. The amount of fanmade animations is equally as incredible.
#bones rants#dpxdc#I’m so tired with this fandom basically inbreeding concepts until it dies because people refuse to look at DC and accept new pieces of media#on the media that they consumed. your choice!!!#I’m just so tired. if anyone responds to this with even a sentence review of a NEW piece of DC media that they saw ill write a prompt based-#as things that should be explored. I’ve been blocked by many folks bc of this notion and it BAFFLES me. how is consuming media-#such an absurd request? there’s such a bountiful amount of such cool characters to check out and I don’t even#have the energy to write them because I know that people ignore those prompts bc they don’t take the effort to look at new things#I know this because I’ve done it time and time again and still do my best to showcase new characters#the difference between batfam prompts and literally any other character prompts is staggering#it just makes me sad man. I’ve more than once posted reccomendations for DC media on my page#I’m spoon feeding it to people and they still slap the spoon away like I’m pretending broccoli is an airplane and they see the veggies#bones writes in the tags#bones speaks#danny phantom#dp x dc
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oh right, technically i sell t-shirts
i forgot about that
#holidays are coming up and it would make a terrible gift#that's the main selling point#anyways these exist and can be exchanged for legal tender#the cost is the listed price + the emotional expense of knowing that i am judging u#bc i am. i am judging u#why would u want this. why would u exchange currency for this#there are so many other things you could exchnage currency for instead#a grocery store shrimp platter for instance#with the nauseatingly red cocktail sauce that is SO much better than a t shirt any time#hmm chicken picatta at a local Italian Eatery perchance? i am. a big fan of anything picatta#oh oh i know! 3.6 POUNDS OF FRESH OKRA#FOR THE COST OF THIS FRIVOLOUS T SHIRT U COULD INSTEAD PURCHASE 3.6 POUNDS OF FRESH DELICIOUS OKRA#and then --hold on i have a recipe--and then what u do is#so it is basically sacrilege to suggest this but what u do is u skip the cornmeal entirely#my southern ancestors are shaking a wooden spoon at me right now but LISTEN. u skip. the gotdang. cornmeal#instead: wash chop and soak (for 10 min) the okra in a mixture of 1 egg to tblsp water#then coat in flour#THATS IT JUST FLOUR#No cornmeal. i am betraying my heritage rn but I'm RIGHT#coat in flour sprinkle liberally in S&P and FRY that suck in veg oil high heat#until crispy & brown & u hear your arteries clenching in apprehension#so. so yeah#that's what u should do instead of buying this shirt go fry the shit out of some okra#(but buy local and young & tender if u can bc the grocery store is full of old-and-therefore-super-stiff specimens#pro tip (aka grandma tip): if u can't chop okra smoothly with your normal cutting knife then it's too old and tough.#...i mean u probably CAN still fry the shit out of it I've certainly done that before it's just much less delicious#ANYWAY. anyway ANYWAY. shirt. okra. farmers market. that reminds me of a post i made back when we first started selling these dang shorts#shirts. shorts shorts. oh shit i should make a crop top option.#i. i don't Know How to make a crop top option#HUH . . . i need to lie down now and contemplate the constant and irreconcilable limitations of the human experience good night
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Listen, I know we're all exhausted, but we gotta get better about adding image descriptions to disability related stuff. Everyone should be IDing everything anyways, but there's a particularly cruel irony in disability related stuff not being accessible to folks with low/no vision.
#disability#actually disabled#you can ask people for help if you don't have the spoons or aren't good at it#Also in case anyone reading this says “hey you don't ID everything” I know I'm so tired. But if everyone on this site IDed as much as I do#I'm pretty sure we'd collectively get everything#Also I try my hardest to make sure anything disability related is IDed bc of the particularly cruel irony#(But also I do things that are funny or interesting bc low/ no vision folks deserve to enjoy the fun stuff too!!)
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𝖸𝗈𝗎𝗋 ℬ𝖾𝗌𝗍 𝖠𝗆𝖾𝗋𝗂𝖼𝖺𝗇 𝖦𝗂𝗋𝗅.
#🥄🥛 if i could i’d be your little spoon and kiss your fingers forevermore; but big spoon you have so much to do.#﹫poemale 𝅄 ꘓ diary of a doll event ꣓#sana moodboard#light pink moodboard#pink moodboard#dark brown moodboard#brown moodboard#chocolate moodboard#coquette moodboard#dollete moodboard#coquette dollete#dollette moodboard#dollcore moodboard#doll moodboard#alternative moodboard#aesthetic moodboard#lana del ray aesthetic#lana del rey aesthetic#lana del rey moodboard#gg moodboard#blythe doll#vintage moodboard#kpop moodboard#angelic moodboard#angelcore moodboard#archive moodboard#dreamy moodboard#flower moodboard#visual archive#twice moodboard
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GAME NIGHT
Last week's loser has to pay for this week's pizza, this week's loser has to pay for next week's pizza
#rvb#red vs blue#buckle in kids i have so many tags to ping#rvb tucker#rvb sarge#rvb junior#rvb donut#rvb locus#rvb caboose#rvb washington#rvb wash#rvb agent washington#rvb carolina#rvb agent carolina#rvb kai#rvb sister#rvb grif#rvb simmons#rvb huggins#rvb lopez#rvb doc#my art#batsy art#my head says include their alt tags but honestly i dont think i will fuck it#this has been pinging around since i finished the blue team bonding night i just havent had spoons for it til now#ENJOY THEM BC I SURE DO#donut teaching junior how to braid using locus is i think my personal fave but im biased#also it was ridiculously hard to find a transparent lens flare for huggins i had to cheese it w my own rings!! bonkers#carolina isnt allowed to play the competitive games#coop yes
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Oh my god, poverty brain makes big purchases so freakin scary. I know I need a laptop. I will have tons of downtime at work and I can't cart my three monitor gaming PC into work on slow days. So I need a laptop. I had some help picking a really good one and it's gonna do the stuff I need. But it's still such a big chunk of money. *Sweats* I have done it. But it was hard.
Luckily it sounds like my accommodation is getting reviewed for real this time and I should have more freetime at the small store and on my days off to take commissions again! I can also resume working on my comics as I've got a tablet going spare that I can take with, so all that is very exciting.
#the prospect of having spoons to create and time to do so is alleviating some of the Big Purchase feelings#the last time I was making big money I still really struggled to buy stuff even when I needed it#and one time my beloved took me shopping for clothes and I racked up like a $500 bill because it was all way nicer than I've ever considere#and I literally couldn't pay. I was like I want these clothes and I have the money but it's so painful so my beloved took my wallet#and shooed me away and the worker was kinda laughing cause I know it was ridiculous but I was so anxious#ramblies
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My AUDHD ass: “Surely if I put my clean clothes on my bed I’ll remember to put them away before I sleep, right?”
Also my AUDHD ass: Moves the clothes to my computer chair and sleeps, moves the clothes back to bed when I’m awake
#autism#adhd#adhd problems#send help#I have so few spoons to do them#I also have two hampers worth of dirty clothes#but do I remember to clean them?#no no I do not
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You have no idea what anyone else is going through.
People could be crying themselves to sleep, struggling to hold it together, and barely making it by.
When they open that anon hate, they may delete it and try to brush it off. They may post it with a nonchalant response. But there is a very real chance they see that and they feel it.
Quit hiding behind anon to send asks that could be hurting people. Does it honestly make you feel good to do that?
You know what people should do instead?
Send anonymous love. If you have the spoons, please take a moment to send a blog you like (or multiple blogs!) some anonymous love. Help drown out the hate.
#no this is not in response to the hate i get#i keep seeing blogs i like getting it#and i just think it's so shitty#i love the anon love i get btw#but if you have the spoons try sending it to someone else#because i'm doing ok and i think it would be nice to spread
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