hello! i am here because im very much a quadranT enThusiasT. im curious: have you heard of alTerous aTTracTion? To me iT seems preTTy pale and id like To hear whaT you Think :]
i have heard of that! to me alterous attraction is very similar to queerplatonic attraction in that it's an intentionally queer nebulous thing that hang out outside of actual defined boundaries.
i don't think that moirallegiance is actually queer or outside of any social boundaries for trolls... it's just a regular old, government mandated or biologically mandated, normative relationship.
moirallegiance is something normal for trolls that they feel a romantic impulse for. it's a separate branch off from their romance, the same way blackrom is-- but i never see people jumping to describe kismeses as qpps. simply because humans are better at understanding something is "real" romance when they explicitly have sex lol -_-
moirallegiance is still a strong romantic feeling for a troll even though they don't have sex, basically.
however.... i can run myself into the ground talking about this over and over, and it won't change the fact that for (most) humans, moirallegiance is something alterous or platonic! and in the end that's okay. relationships, sexuality and romance can't easily be defined or have boundaries put on it no matter how much explaining someone does.
yeah, maybe for humans having a moirail WOULD feel like a strange alterous middleground between platonic and romantic, because a moirallegiance has elements from human platonic friendship and romantic partnership. maybe for some people it would be exactly like a qpp even! the thing is relationships are dependent on the people in them, and different for every single person.
so really there's no use for me trying to explain why moirails are different than qpps or anything, because for most humans, they're probably not. and maybe at the end of the day that's fine and i shouldn't be wasting that much energy anyway lol ^^;
although, no matter how much i try i can't not be annoyed when people equate moirallegiance to platonic best friendship. it's dumb and nerdy of me but like come on, multiple trolls in the comic have said otherwise... T^T
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one of the most grating traits of men is how they feel so accomplished trying to rile you up for the smallest things and making you feel unstable and silly for being so guarded around them
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one of the things i struggle the most when it comes to my brain is the fact that im too logical for certain things and therefore i can't engage with the things most people around me seem to care about.
for instance, if i don't like an artist, i don't consume that artist. i don't care about that artist. i don't worry, nor think about that artist — unless, for some reason, they cross paths with something i care about. that's my "logical" reaction. so whilst people around me engage and have fun "hating" on someone, i genuinely (GENUINELY) don't understand the fun in that or why someone would waste so much time over something they don't care about (?). which is why im always bored reading things online and don't really interact that much with (basically) anything.
same goes for gossiping. if i don't know the people my friends are talking about, or if im not somehow affected by whatever happened, or if none of my friends are somehow affected by it, i genuinely couldn't care less about whatever or whoever. because, again, my "logical" reaction is "why will i bother with something i don't care about?". so whilst my friends have long conversations about what happened to x and y, and whilst everyone in town knows everyone and everything, im always the person who doesn't know who X is and doesn't have an opinion about whatever happened to them bc... who cares? yknow? idk them, so idk. i don't care. whatever.
and in the end, it's just like that for everything. people will complain at work about things that i'll find a logical explanation for, and so i don't feel like complaining about it at all. or i'll see something on tv and roll my eyes bc i already know someone wrote that in a very specific way and chose that exact sad song just to make people emotional, and won't be able to emotionally involve myself with whatever im watching. and etc etc etc.
then of course, that doesn't mean im not empathetic or i don't care about anything... i just simply have a different pov over things. and maybe i'll care about that conversation everyone's having, but my approach to it will be different.
and trust me, this awareness of being too "logical" instead of "emotional" doesn't mean i think im better. tbh, it's one of the things i wish i could change bc it socially sets me off a lot of times. bc either a) people think im boring for not engaging with conversations or b) i engage with conversations and end up too exhausted for pretending to be something/someone im not. so i can never win.
anyway i personally don't like the word neurodivergent but in the end, no matter how we call it, the point is that it blows my mind how much these disorders can set us apart from most people simply because we can't understand/internalize/react to things the same way. idk it's been a long day im tired my brain is tired. idk if it makes sense haha. anyway. anywayyyyyyy.
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