#i am most definitely arospec

[buckieduckie2]

💌 and 💫 if you want to do another one 😔

YES id like to do another one 😔

💌- poetry or love letters? poetry OBVIOUSLY over love letters cause 90% of love letters are corny n shit and super deparate anyways that shit ages like milk aint no way 🤢🤢🤢- and all the GOOD love letters are basically poetry anyways and poetry is just gonna be better and like... ALSO with love letters all ya get is love but with poetry you can talk about anything... also poetry is short n sweet half of the time so you dont feel bad burning it cause they only wrote you like 5 lines 🥰

love songs or mixtapes? mixtapes, aGAIN cause like love songs are basically just poetry and love letters in song form and yeah theyre cool to listen to but if someone wrote a love song about me idk if i could take it i might die of second hand embarrassment- HJSDHFJHDJ also like mix tapes are so sweeeeeet and they have good songs like what if the person who wrote the song is bad at song writing like HKJHD 💀 nah but like if someone made me a mixtape in cassett form thatd be- thatd be so lovely hehhehe 🤭 OKAY BUT LIKE IF I ON THE OFF CHANCE END UP FALLING N LOVE N SHIT AND THEY WROTE ME A LOVE SONG AND IT WAS ACTUALLY GOOD N SHI IDK BRO 🤭🤭🤭💀

make out sessions or snuggling- sunggling. why would i want to be tasting someone elses dinner that shit would be so slimy and gross wtfrrrrr 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 but also snuggling 😥😥😥😥 its nice ig idk id get stressed out and start having a crisis thats what would happen

💫- well you see this is quite the complicated question to answer- the last time i feel like i got a CRUSH CRUSH was 6th grade- 💀 bbbbtutuuttuttt yeah idk uhhhhhh do i wanna be their friend? or do i wanna be their lover 👹 ig i think i have a "crush" pretty easily all the time on different people but im not sure if thats me forcing myself to like that person or if im genuinely attracted to them but like then i think about a scenario of me dating them and all i get is rocks inside me stomach so 😟😟😥😥😥😥 but there was one person whom i had slowly over the past 2 years been gaining soft feelings for but then she got a girlfriend 😟😟😞😞😞😞😞😞 but like

do i want to date someone

or

does ✨ society ✨ want me to date someone

HAHAHAHHAHA 😀😀😟😟😟😟😥😥😥😥😥

[battlecriesandroses]

so yesterday i experienced my first fictional crush and it’s been downhill from there

[kerosene-saint]

I think. I may have fluctuating/conditional empathy.

[bloggingboutburgers]

hey! just stumbled on your blog today and I have to say it is one of the best surprises of my day! Happy to meet you as another aroace french fellow!! I have a question (a bit more private, so you do not have to answer if you are feeling uncomfortable about answering)! The comics about you and your partner truly are adorable, and you two seem to be really close! Society has this very strict view of couples so that they HAVE to love each other romantically, be mutually jealous, have sex, yadda yadda... obviously there is much more diverse couples than that, and thank goodness!! So I was wondering, since there is no romantic attraction on your side, what drives you in in your partner? Is it the secure and complex feeling of intimacy one has when in a relationship? Or something else entirely? I am curious! I love to hear about arospec couple experience! wish you the best for you and your partner! lots of love and support!!

Hey! Very happy to e-meet you as well, and thank you so much for the kind words TwT Very glad to be a nice surprise!

That's also a fair question! In all fairness, my partner was the one who brought up the idea of us being in a queerplatonic relationship, and my reaction to that was… Painfully anticlimactic. But within months of trying it out I was definitely sold, way more sold than I thought I was gonna be.

I still sorta ask myself the question pretty often, to be honest. Like, what draws me to this so much, because it surprises me a lot, and makes me question myself as an aromantic at times – even though I always wind up coming back to the conclusion that, yeah, I am very much an aromantic.

Security definitely plays a big part into it – I'll even say safety. The fact that being with them allows me to get affection and positive physical contact without having anything expected of me beyond that in return is huge to me. I may not be interested in romantic love but I want affection from time to time like a lot of human beings I think, and I've found myself being pretty touch-starved/hug-starved quite a few times in my life. So I'd let friends hug me a lot, up until I realized a handful of them might’ve been seeing something other than just the bare thing of sharing affection as a human being in those hugs, and put me on the defensive. And then I’ve lived most of my life being wary of most people and of what they’d expect from me if I dared to get « too close » to them.

What I have with my partner allows me to have that affection, and to be able to give that affection, be it physically, verbally, or anything like that, without having to worry about my boundaries being crossed. They make me feel loved and safe at the same time and it can be a pretty tall order for someone like me. I guess that’s how I could put it best?

…Also they’re adorable and very funny, overall a very sunny person and I’m honoured I get to selfishly enjoy that from a front row.

…I could go on and on because there’d be a lot to say but yeah!! I hope that made sense TwT Thank you so much for the lovely good wishes^^

[cheesemenace]

hii, since you’re asexual, i thought i’d ask. how do you know you’re ace? (that sounds so bad lmao) i myself am questioning if i’m asexual, but i have a hard time figuring out what the attractions are so it’s hard to know if you felt something if no one can give you a clear definition on what that something is. so how did you come to the conclusion that you don’t feel sexual attraction?

i don’t know if i feel romantic either, but i suppose even if i don’t i feel something similar to it and i do want to date some people, so i don’t think i am aromantic, maybe arospec, but not full on aro.

I found out I was ace (And aro, but I didn't realize it at the time) when I would overhear my friends talking about their celebrity crushes or even in school crushes (keep in mind this was in middle school) and I couldn't really relate. I never found anyone to be attractive in a way that I would want to date them/do anything that my peers talked about. A common experience that I had is that when asked about having a crush I would just choose the least annoying person in the room.

I never really put a label to the feeling until I "found out about gay people" (As weird as that sounds- I was religiously sheltered as a child. I was never against the community, just never knew or thought about it- I could talk more about this at some point).

My friend told me how some people can like one gender, two, more, etc, etc. I decided at that point that I was bi (because I felt the same about both genders at the time- aka: nothing). But quickly labeled myself after as asexual and biromantic as I did not view people the same way most did online or in person (I did not find any "sexual" body parts interesting, and even found them repulsive). I didn't find common things people lusted over such as muscles on men or thigh gaps on women to be anything significant. I thought that beauty standards were ridiculous and I didn't understand why people find them important at all- at least on things that one can't control (I still don't, but I least I have an explanation: lust).

A few years ago I began to explore that fact that I am on the aro spectrum, and now here I am.

[genderqueerdykes]

Ok so, I’m kind of aromantic? I think? But I don’t know which label fits best but I would like one because I like to have words to describe my experiences. So I know for sure that I’m ficto but I do still experience a form of romantic attraction to real people. I have a boyfriend who I love and it’s not platonic but I don’t know if it actually romantic, it feels like something in between. I am also a romantic, I enjoy the idea of relationships and thinking about other people and characters in relationships. But I feel like my own ability to feel romantic love isn’t really there but it also kind of is? Thing is, I used to get massively strong crushes on people and I don’t really anymore even though I’m in the stage of life where that’s ’supposed’ to happen.

I also genuinely don’t know how to explain this to my boyfriend, I want to stay with him, I don’t have an issue with the label boyfriend being used for me or him. But I feel I should tell him.

hello there, thanks for stopping by! sorry for the late reply

i think you may be on the right track- aromantic identities are extremely varied! some people use aromantic to mean a total lack of romantic feelings/attraction, while others experience them to some degree, in varying levels of intensity at times, or have levels of attraction that can't easily be defined as strictly romantic. it sounds like your experience could very easily fit in here!

there are lots of partnering aros, and even aros who consider themselves hopeless romantics. you're definitely not alone there! while i'm a romance repulsed aro, there are lots of aros who are romance favorable!

you may also want to look into the term greyromantic- it is used by people who feel they fit in between or blur the lines between romantic and romantic attraction, feel their experience is somewhat or not fully aromantic, or feel as though their experience is nuanced enough that aromantic might not give the full picture. there are a lot more experiences that fit under the greyromantic label as well

aroflux may also be an option for you, which is an identity where someone feels they are aromantic usually most of the time but has fluctuating levels of intensity, sometimes even fluctuating into a romantic lable with their aromantic identity being less intense for periods of time.

you can also call yourself "aromantic spectrum" or "arospec" for short!

if you feel it's important enough to tell him, go ahead, i think honesty is the best policy. i've had some bad experiences telling ex romantic partners that i was aromantic, but i'm happier out of relationships than i am inside of them. i hope he takes it well, some people for whatever reason take it personally and i don't quite understand it. good luck, hope you are able to figure out how you identify and how you feel about yourself. take care

[our-arospec-experience]

Tw I think there's a hint of aphobia somewhere down this ask

But tldr :Hello arospec gang. I found specific orientations within the aro spectrum and they are on point. I like to use multiple of them, is that normal or okay?

Lo and behold below is the unabridged version:

Anyways. I, on the most unfortunate of fates, realized I was aromantic right after I got into a romantic relationship. It's very recent, but the identity clicked with me almost instantly. The more I read and dig about it, the more I find myself thinking, wow, this is so me.

Eventually, after doing more digging I came across different orientations under the wide range of the arospectrum. And I relate with more than one of these.

The problem though is that when I did come across some sort of info graphic thingy that included the most flags in it, the comments (reddit) were kinda dismissive of these labels. Anyway some comments (and the comments are coming from aros and aces alike) are complaining about the micro labels being too specific and unnecessary. I think they're wrong because, for me, finding these specific orientations and learning how my experience isn't an isolated case is definitely a necessity. If not for these specific arospec orientations, I'd probably still think that I'm alone.

Anyways the question though, is that am I the only one who could relate to multiple of these arospec identities? Like I could specifically relate to, alloaro/aroallo, frayromantic, lithromantic. So that's three. And counting.

While I do identify as those, I still use the term aromantic as a catch-all term to explain myself to my friends (much like in a defensive fashion, because they think I'm monstrous for having limited romantic attraction). Then it dawned on me that I behaved just like the redditors who were roasting the specific aromantic orientations. So I'm rethinking my life decisions now and I guess I should, next time, use these terms even if most of my friends are proudly homophobic. Welcome to the brogrammer industry boys this place fucken sucks

Anyways sorry for the extremely looooonglonglong text thank you so much for your service

Ps the relationship that served as my aromantic awakening is a frozen dumpster fire. I literally can't do romance. Being affectionate with her under the friends label and role-playing as her favorite fictional men was way easier than when she admitted to having feelings for me instead of the fictional men. Like. Wait. That's illegal.

Of course you can use multiple microlabels!!! For example, I am aromantic, fictoromantic, and cupioromantic. It’s definitely normal and valid. microlabels are great for people who want to define how they feel more specifically, and don’t feel like the generic term quite fits them properly. I’m sorry to hear your relationship didn’t work out (unless you are happy about that, in which case, congratulations). Sometimes it’s best to ignore what other people think and just do what is right for you. remember you are valid, and no one should make you feel stupid for who you are :)

[eclipian]

Fuck AI Headmate #8

pt: fuck AI headmate #8

reminder beings will almost definitely not turn out exactly as described, and these can be edited and changed as needed.

divider credit

" Bunnies are nature's way of showing us that even the smallest beings can bring the most joy. '

Name: Bun , Bunny , Bunni , Bunnette , Charlie , Carline , Carli , Carly , Mauve , Maud , Maggi , Dahlia , Heather , Elyana , Kalina , Sage

Age: 21

Pronouns: She/Her , Shy/Hyr , Shi/Hir , Flower/Flowers , Flora/Floras , Petal/Petals , Bloom/Blooms , Sprout/Sprouts , Bun/Bunny , Rab/Rabbit , ❁/❁s , 🌸/🌸s , 🌺/🌺s , 🌼/🌼s , 🪷/🪷s , 🪻/🪻s , 🌻/🌻s , 🌹/🌹s , 🌷/🌷s , 💐/💐s , 🐰/🐰s , 🐇/🐇s

Gender: Ouxegirl , Femme , Bunnygirlgender , Bunnylikic , Bloomic , Flowercute , Meadowbloomic , Nosgirl , Girltinted , Fairypretty , Faidenmollic , Fairylexic , Bunnirina , Cupibunnia , Lopbunic , Easterbunic , Pinkbungender , Bunkiss

Attraction: Omni Arospec , Bunoriented , Sumringaffectis

Other IDs: Warren , Miscelupine , ABuAB , Bunnygirlperspesque , Inviavior , Inviane Collector , Invikisbun , Inviflowerwater , Invipinkbergfield , Invifogflowerpath

Species: Bunnygirl

Origins/Modifiers: Floragenic , (spring & early summer) Seasonal Alter , Spitetive

Role: Gardentender and Caretaker

Aesthetics: Spring , Naturecore , Cottagecore , Bloomcore , Fairycore

Misc Info: A pair of blue eyes stare at you through the thicket of flowers, quite and reserved this rabbit is soft spoken and has the care of a angel. Meet this Rabbit, ready to help you throughout the spring times. Enjoy this rabbits presence as she works on your headspace as she grows connections between everyone within it.

pt: name , age , pronouns , gender , attraction , other ids , species , origins/modifiers , role , aesthetics , misc info

Disclaimer: Middle image is made with the use of AI. This blog does not condone or promote putting AI over real artist. This post is using it as a way to middle finger those w who try to claim AI creations as actual pieces of art. I mod music am not making prompts for the images.

tags: @bahtive & @drowntowns

[catboyidia]

its june so i wanna share my lgbtq+ headcanons for ffvii characters just for fun, starting with the main playable cast:

(except they’re hcs by an obnoxiously trans gay person that projects onto their faves at all times, spoiler alert: they’re all trans and gay)

- cloud: he/him gay trans man - starting off strong with a gay trans guy (i warned that i would be projecting a lot with my hcs in this post) … but i’ve noticed a lot of other people hc/portray him as a trans man too so i know i’m not alone on this one! i cant explain exactly why i hc like this but i just do, probably cause i like him

- tifa: she/they transfem lesbian - i cannot be convinced that she doesn’t like women considering how she is with aerith and jessie tbh, and i like her so i’ve lovingly hit her with the transgender-inator beam out of love

- aerith: realistically- they/them nonbinary lesbian - i have no basis for this tbh except it just seems right to me! as for my actual hc for her (which is a pure projection, pls bear with me) - he/they gay transman - this is purely my own projection because aerith is really like stereotypically feminine(?) in ways that i am also feminine, so it comforts me to think of her like me if that makes sense

- barret: he/him but willing to test out she/her, unlabeled gender that is not quite cis but he’s only now exploring it and hasn’t quite figured it out yet, bi-curious and experimenting - thats so long but i’m not sure how else to describe it, i feel like he grew up all “traditional” and stuff, and then being a single adoptive dad and being a huge part of avalanche, he probably hasn’t had the time to really think about any of it too much or explore his gender/sexuality, but now he can with being surrounded with others that can help him explore, realize it’s alright to be uncishet, and help him learn about these things

- cid: okay i’m not gonna lie, canon wise he gives me major homophobe vibes (maybe its the raging misogyny that makes me think he’s bigoted in every other way…) but ignoring that he/she nonbinary bi - definitely exploring a lot and isn’t quite set in stone about what he is yet but he just knows he’s not cis or het and with those being more broad and spectrum like labels, he feels most comfortable with those over anything else, and he feels like they’re just right for him

- vincent: he/they transmasc gay - i’ll be honest this is also projection on my part because i love vincent a lot and want him to be like me! also he gives me major gender envy…

- reeve (in place of cait sith): he/him transman and gay - again, i just love him a lot tbh, and i feel like he is the kind of guy that knew who he was from a young age and tried to help out other people that are trying to navigate their queer journeys and find out who they are, i feel like reeve would be a major inspiration and advocate for the queer youth

- yuffie: they/them demigirl lesbian and arospec - she’s definitely still figuring herself out but she has very little interest in pursuing romance, but any relationship she can imagine wanting in her future is with another girl

[theneighborhoodwatch]

another thought/question/invitation to ramble! I was wondering if you have any thoughts on the TV interview clip? There's a lot going on in there in terms of it being, as far as I remember, the only content of "past Wally" we have interacting face-to-face with a Physical Human Person so far. But specifically...am I the only one who is Really Weirded Out by the host asking Wally about his love life? Just the tone and the way he chuckles afterwards hit my arospec autistic brain right in the "no no no no bad" zone because like!!

it's not Bad to think about children show's characters in romantic relationships! Wally is an adult. He's a very childish person, but he's a grown man who could very well talk about and share his experiences in that department, as it were. But it's the context of this being like the first thing the man asks him combined with how confused and Uncomfortable Wally sounds until Barnaby comes on stage. Like why is the first thing this guy wants to know about this little puppet "hey are you dating anyone?". why not ask him about oh I dunno, how he's adjusting to the "celebrity lifestyle", or ask about his hobbies outside of painting or whatever else he does on the show?

Why did this man see a little puppet and instantly jump to asking about who he is smooching or getting dirty with. It's just such! an odd thing! by far the most subtly unsettling part of the site so far and I'd Love to hear your thoughts on it, if any

(so sorry if this was a rambley mess :" )

that's funny, i feel like i was one of the only people who Wasn't all that bothered by that? like, it's definitely not an interview question i would have thought to ask wally, especially as an opener (although it does sound like they had been talking for a while beforehand before rick was like "SO WHO ARE YOU MACKIN' ON") but in in-character interviews for the muppets (which this recording was very clearly a reference to) they did actually ask about the characters' love lives quite a bit, ESPECIALLY kermit's, regardless of whether or not it would have been considered a little trashy to ask the same of human celebrities.

i do think the whole interview serves to highlight how much wally is... Not a kermit-like, though (at least, not the way kermit was characterized in the 70s.) wally isn't really one for dry wit or discussing the intricacies of show biz; pretty much all of his lines in that interview seem like either him just saying what he thinks and then playing along when the audience thinks he's doing a bit OR him falling back on a script when he doesn't know what to say/has learned that A Specific Phrase tends to go over well with people. and yeah, obviously it reads a lot like a Hashtag Autism And/Or Acearospec Moment, but it's also kind of what i mean when i propose the question "is it that the wally we see now is that different from the one we see in official welcome home media in-universe, or is it just that his situation has gotten much worse since welcome home's heyday?" (assuming we're operating on the terms of linear time and not any extradimensional bullfuckery like the "welcome home may not have even Existed" theory would suggest.) wally may be aware that welcome home is a show, or at least that it was created for Us, but it's also his whole life. that's a lot to grapple with, especially in the middle of a conversation with someone who only really seems to acknowledge the first half of that sentence. of course, it's likely that this is because rick doesn't actually know that wally is sentient/aware/what have you; like as far as he's concerned, he's just doing a really good bit with the guy puppeteering wally, but that depends on whether or not anyone knows who the puppeteer is, and that's something we don't have enough info to get into right now. but like, obvious metaphor for subtle dehumanization is obvious, right?

[the--highlanders]

can I just say thank you for writing ace twojamie fic!! I'm aroace and I genuinely thought this ship would be too obscure for that to exist but I'm so thankful I was wrong and it was amazing fic btw -you're a great writer!!

oh man thank you!! I know I say this every time someone says something remotely nice about unsorted but I really am always taken aback by how well it was received and how many people seem to like it <3

but I totally get what you mean about aro/ace fic being hard to find in fandom. like, I don't think I've ever had a major ship where I haven't read them as ace in some way, and yet even in far bigger fandoms I've struggled to find fic where the characters are ace. (to the point that I have opened fics in a haze of excitement only to realise I missed the red flags in the tags and it's actually just an aphobic joke :///) & I imagine the romance-heavy focus of fandom makes looking for aro fic even worse.

two and jamie have just always seemed to me like a ship that is. not very allo in any respect, tho. I definitely remember seeing a post interpreting them as queerplatonic soon after I first watched two's era (would link it, but this was like 2015 and I have no idea where I saw it or if it's even still kicking around). at the time I was kinda on the fence about shipping them and I was like, yeah, that makes total sense to me actually. even tho I obviously eventually shifted into reading them as romantic personally, I would still happily vibe with interpreting them as queerplatonic, bc the most important thing with them as characters is that they're together in a partnership, whatever form that takes. & over the last couple of years I've also really started to toy with two not exactly experiencing romantic attraction like humans do (which I'll admit is kinda influenced by my own inability to distinguish/define romantic attraction), so maybe re-injecting some arospec vibes? idk. & I've been hcing them as ace for so long that I don't even really have a reason or justification for it, that's just. how they are, in my head.

despite the size of the fandom and the ship tho I do know there's a handful of people who DO read them as ace. which probably says something about classic who fandom demographics gjkd. but also is such a refreshing vibe for me compared to other fandoms I've been in or read for. peace & love on planet earth etc etc

[bassguitarinablackt-shirt]

fav stranger things character? Why and what headcanons you have?

okay okay since im awful at picking favorites im gonna answer this with all five of my current favorites

will!!! i love this boy so much genuinely. he might be the most mecoded fictional character ever in ways i cant put into words lest i reveal to the internet how traumatized i am. this boy is so autistic to me btw. if you reallyyyyy wanna get into me projecting on to him i also see him as having did. also i feel like he has really bad anxiety and is constantly having panic attacks.

el <3 also extremely mecoded. i just wanna give her a hug and tell her everythings gonna be okay and her trauma wasnt her fault and its okay that shes still affected by her trauma and things getting better doesnt mean shes not allowed to be hurt by what happened to her and shes so strong and im so proud of her and can you tell these are just things i wish someone would say to me 😭 el is very much a vaguely Not Cis character to me. like agender but also somewhat transmasc but also still kinda a girl. els also very aspec to me tbh. ive always seen her as either aroace, a lesbian, or a combination of both. like will i also see her as autistic and having did because i can <3

mike uhm. i wanna shake him and then yell at him and then hug him and then shake him again and yell at him to go hug will. i am his number one defender but also making fun of him is one of my favorite hobbies <3 not sure if i see him as bi or gay but like either way hes a boykisser. also vaguely genderqueer and arospec to me. also !!! i see him as having adhd and anxiety because yes.

max the loml she, like will and el, is honestly scarily mecoded at times. shes like me if i were slightly less traumatized and gay + like 10x cooler. i love her <3 uhm as for my hcs shes very much either genderfluid or transmasc to me, definitely bi and probably arospec as well. also has autism and adhd because these are my hcs and i will do what i want yeah <3

robin!!!!!! i love her bc shes silly and because having canon queer representation in a show as big as stranger things means so much to me. (this is also a big part of why i love will). shes sooooo adhd coded to me. also i feel like theres something weird going on with her gender but shes too lazy to figure it out.

[acilykos]

Hi. I see you're aroace and I'm too so I was wondering if I could ask you a question? Idk if this is something you do I found you through aroace senkuu post so absolutely feel free to ignore if you don't want to talk about it.

So basically I'm trying to figure out what exactly loveless means. BC a lot of people both arospec and not have told me that label might fit (as in I want 0 romance etc. But also no platonic equivalent). However. I am a very passionate person about my chosen career, music, art, my cat. Those are all things I feel so strongly about, I wouldn't know what to call it but "love". Similarly there are people I care about, just not in a way where I want romance with them or a platonic version of that kind of relationship.

(I've seen you call senkuu loveless too, and I'm a little confused BC he clearly does care deeply about some people and possibly even more so science. Why not call that love? Is it a terminology thing?)

I'm not trying to pick a fight, I really like your analysis of senkuu.

I'm genuinely trying to understand.

It's possible to reject the societal notion of what love is. I do so myself.

But there's no denying that the chemicals involved are something everyone experiences. Like. Everyone gets dopamine, vasopressin, oxytocin etc. It's just the context that's different. Much like oxytocin is experienced both in mother-infant bonding and in sexual contact, I get a dopamine rush listening to music but not making out with someone.

(granted romantic love hasn't been that well examined but there does seem to be a consensus on the general chemistry involved)

Same chemicals but different result/feeling, you know?

Not getting these chemicals at all is impossible I think, so that can't be what loveless means.

So what does it mean??? Is it just about society's perception of love??

I personally approached my lack of romantic attraction by Googling the brain chemistry BC clearly I wasn't getting anywhere with the emotional side. I'm not an expert. But the definitions of different aro orientations I see commonly, don't actually address this at all. It's like everyone decided on a different definition of "love" and nobody told me any of them.

Again, I know this sounds very passionate, but I always sound like that. I'm not trying to pick a fight, nor am I expecting you to solve my identity crisis. So really no need to reply if you don't want to. I can see how this would be. A lot to try and answer.

Hi, hi!!

First of all, I'm happy to meet a fellow AroAce!! I'm also calling myself loveless because it fits the most, I did research before and found it was the closest to describe myself.

Second of all, I think it depends on the definition of what loveless means for oneself because as always, sexuality at the end of the day is a fluid and personal thing.

Apologies if some of the thoughts seem jumbled or contradicting. I just woke up, was very happy about getting to ramble and I just don't know how to properly describe my "emotional thought processes" because I decided to illustrate my points with examples.

It's a long read too, I hope you don't mind.

Personally, I define it as a "lack of attraction" because oriented and angled AroAces experience other types of attraction (like platonic, aesthetic, etc.), but don't ask me to explain the difference between either, I really have no idea what it is (no offense to any angled or oriented AroAces). Personally, I find it ironic that the two most known "orientations" of AroAce people are still based on experiencing attraction despite AroAces being known for not experiencing it. So we had to create another word to say "Yeah, we actually don't experience any type of attraction”. It's also ironic to me that we call it "loveless" because it's not that we don't love, we just aren't attracted to people.

I'm an artist, I love art and drawing myself, as well as writing.

I'm also a scientist, I love chemistry, astronomy, pharmacology, psychology, really, I'm just always happy to talk about any subject. In fact, that's my current career, I'm a pharmaceutical technician.

I have favourite songs, favourite subjects, favourite seasons. Favourite shows, favourite characters, hell, I also have favourite ships.

I care about my family and friends too.

It's just that I'm not attracted to people. I don't want a romantic relationship because I don't experience romantic attraction. Same as I don't want a sexual one. I just don't see the need or appeal for another person if the goal is to just have a dinner date or a climax. Sure romance and sex can come hand in hand, but that depends on whether or not you experience either or if you're committed in a relationship. Anyways, I digress.

These two are the typical ones people talk about when it comes to attraction, but then there are the illusive platonic and aesthetic attractions, and many more I believe. One of them is explained later which causes AroAces in the first place to also use the labels oriented and angled.

Platonic attraction, or at least as I come to understand it, is seeing a person and just wanting to be their friend. You see someone and you think "wow, I really want to be their friend!!" also apparently called having a "squish".

I don't do that. I don't really feel something compelling me to talk to this person to become their friend.

Same as I don't feel attraction towards aesthetically pleasing people (which is also a highly individual definition). Or well, for a lack of a better term, the only "Wow, I really like how they look" I experience is in terms of gender envy. I don't want to be with them, I don't want to be them either. I just think "I'd like to express my gender like that". If that makes any sense.

I see people talk about "they're hot" and "they're so cute looking" and how they have this attraction towards them because of the way they look, but I just don't? I may appreciate the beauty by acknowledging that someone has nice features or a cool style, but it's the same as me looking at the weather and going "Ah, the sun is shining, isn't that nice." before continuing to do whatever I did, not spending more time on thinking about the weather.

For a real life example: My sister and I are going to a driving school. She has an aesthetic (and I call it on purpose an aesthetic attraction. She has not spoken once with the guy and she also said it's not exactly a crush) on one of the other people there, which to me makes no sense given his general character he revealed at least at the driving school. She even took his pen he forgot at school (just some company gifted pen from when we got a visit that day) in hopes of giving it back to him and struck up a conversation (She failed to. She was too embarrassed, in case you're curious).

I only acknowledge he has a nice jawline. That's it.

I don't feel any type of attraction towards people. I don't want or need to be their romantic partner. I don't want or need a sexual relationship. Just because someone has a personality that clicks with mine, I don't automatically feel the need to become their friend. If we become friends, great. If we don't it is what it is.

Obviously when I'm friends with someone, I care about them, but it's just... not the way friendships are usually portrayed. I don't feel the need to have many friends, or meet up with them constantly or go on trips or anything of the like. I like them a lot, I want them to be well. I just... don't really feel an attraction? I don't know how to properly explain it.

An attraction for me is either the need to be constantly with them, one way or another, because you physically and/or mentally/psychologically feel the need to be in their presence, whenever an opportunity arises OR that you spent a lot of time just thinking about them (daydreaming, fantasies, you get it). I just don't feel like that. I'm fine with not talking or seeing friends for multiple months or years. I'm also fine if we don't talk constantly too. If the friendship ended because we couldn't maintain it, it wouldn't destroy me.

It actually happened multiple times, I'm fine with it. Do I miss them or feel nostalgic when I think about past experiences with them? Of course, I care about them as people.

But I'd feel the same about it even if we had stayed friends, because I obviously feel nostalgic with things I did with my current friends.

I just really don't have the ""need"" to have friends in my life. I'm not "attracted" towards them, I care about them and I like them, but it's just not the type of attraction or even love that society usually attributes to what (best) friends are supposed to be or behave like.

(Same for my family. I haven't seen some of them in years, I don't need to. I like them, I care about their wellbeing.)

You may be wondering, if that's my attitude towards friendships, how do I even have friendships.

They talked to me one day and we happened to keep talking because we liked what each other had to say. It's been years later, so it's safe to say that we still like each other, but not once have I ever initiated a friendship, funnily enough. All I did was just... reply or talk once and we kept talking and meeting up, and eventually we became friends, and because they know a lot about me and I about them, I care about them.

And this is what I think Senkū is like too.

He cares about his friends deeply and he obviously cares about his family too. But he doesn't feel any attraction to people. He never once had an "I need to be their friend" moment. He accidentally sort of becomes friends with them because of the situation they're in and then develops a friendship with them because they've been through a lot of things for multiple years.

How did he meet Taiju? Because Taiju saved his machinery. Senkū didn't have any friends prior to that. But then they talked and spent their childhood together and became friends.

Taiju introduced him to Yuzuriha, they talked, she helped with his experiments as well, and they too became friends.

Senkū not once initiated a friendship.

He may have approached some of them first, but not because he wanted to be their friend/felt platonic attraction, he just needed them for a plan, then he used them for his plans, but they stuck around and they talked and time passed.

If it comes to his plans or science, he talks first. If it comes to any "emotional" conversational topic, someone else initiates it.

Senkū just doesn't feel the need to have emotional connections, but that doesn't mean that he doesn't care about his friends or won't develop friendships, if that makes sense. He doesn't seek them, but if friendships happen to develop, he accepts it. He doesn't portray it outwardly, but deep within his heart he still cares.

Everyone in his life started out as an ally, it eventually became friendship. Senkū didn't recruit people because he wanted friends, he recruited them because he had a need for allies to wage war against Tsukasa, then Ibara, then Whyman.

You can even apply it to Senkū's relationship with Xeno, who is according to the fanbook one of Senkū's "closest relationships" (the other one being Byakuya). Senkū respects Xeno as a scientist and as the only NASA employee who actually helped him build a rocket, but even then it's because Xeno talked first and their relationship was strictly mentor and mentee, it was hardly a friendship in what society defines it as anyway. I guess the closest equivalent would be Marty McFly and Doc Brown from Back to the Future (I know, Marty isn't Doc's mentee, but it's about the assisting in science projects part), if it comes to media, but even then Senkū's and Xeno's mentorship would not fit the definition of friendship the way Marty's and Doc's does.

I also call Senkū loveless, because he would never enter a queer platonic relationship (qpr). Entering one would mean you experience a type of connection that is more than friendship, but not romantic or sexual. Or at least that's how I came to understand it. Personally, I'm still confused on what they're actually like aside from them developing from a "tertiary form of attraction". This is where angled and oriented AroAces come in, and why some people call themselves "AroAce lesbians" for example. They experience a different type of attraction towards women that's not just friendship, but it's also not romantic or sexual (at least that's how I understand it, any tertiary attraction feeling AroAces correct or explain it to me, because it's been confusing me for years).

Now look at Senkū and tell me that he'd ever enter such a relationship, when he barely feels the need to make friends on his own. He says it himself "love causes only problems" because of the emotions involved in it. He also, as we established, doesn't feel the need to make friends. If that's already too much and Senkū doesn't have the need for friends, and a QPR is similar, except it lacks the romantic and sexual part and is supposedly "more than a mere friendship", then Senkū definitely wouldn't have that.

I think it's important to mention that, but I think at this point it is obvious, I don't define attraction and caring as the same things.

Why would I? It isn't the same thing, otherwise we wouldn't have different words for it.

Attraction means I myself feel the need to be close to whatever attracts me, maybe that I can't stop thinking about it because I need it in my life, but it can also be superficial.

Care is that it doesn't cross my mind every day, but maybe I happen to think about it once because it crossed my mind, or if I'm with friends or family who tell me about something that happened to them, I care about their wellbeing.

You may also have noticed that I barely even used the word "love" despite talking about being "loveless". As I mentioned in the beginning, I really don't think it's the right term. We love. We care. But it's just not the love people think of first (aka romantic). I love my hobbies, I love my friends and family, I love my favourite characters. But none of this is what society tells me that love is supposed to be or feel like. But it's the most direct way of saying "I don't experience any type of attraction", as misleading as it is, sadly.

And that's it, basically.

Again, it's just my own definition and experience, so how true it is for the majority of AroAces or how much you agree with me, is totally up to you and anyone else. Emotional matters are confusing, and a lot of the time don't make sense and are hard to put into words, but I gave it my best shot with all I know right now. If you're curious or think that loveless may not be the right term after all, you're welcome to do more research on the terms angled and oriented, I bet there are a lot of AroAces who identify with those labels ready to help you out, and who know much more about it than me.

I hope I was able to help you in any way to find some clarity! Thanks again for stopping by, feel free to do that again any time!!

[angleofmusings]

two factor poll!

a) are you aroallo? (for this i’m holding by the most limited definition, ie 100% aromantic and 0% asexual — so if you’re aromantic & acespec, or even arospec & allosexual, vote for the “other aspec” option)

b) how do you feel about the hit [stage and/or movie] musical Chicago?

PLEASE elaborate in the tags on if you think there’s any sort of causal relation going on between the two datapoints!! like for instance i am both aroallo and not at all normal about how much i like Chicago. and for me i think those are related!! my deep affection towards Chicago is very much aroallo-shaped!

the reason that the identity categories are so sweeping is that i’m mostly interested in seeing if there’s any correlation specifically for aroallos! if people express a wide enough variety of opinions in the tags i might make a followup poll though!!

[fox-beyond-the-veil]

This user is a kitsune🐾

Hi! Intro post. A very shitty one too :3 (I never claimed to be good at tumblr)

My name's kasper, kaz for short. pronouns he/him + it/its, 21y/o. I'm a kitsune nonhuman + lynette (genshin) fictionhearted, a trans man, asexual, arospec (quoiromantic), and gay.

Additionally, i'm an anarchist/antifascist, punk/emo menace, voidpunk, artist, furry, and generally quite obsessed with death, the macabre, and the aesthetics of such, with a side of cyberpunk and traditional japanese!

Rest of The Stuff (TM) below the break!

I'm not in many fandoms truth be told. Genshin impact, honkai: star rail, dnd, six of crows and the rest of the grishaverse to a lesser extent (rip s3), ōkami (the video game. high-key my favorite game of all time) and the soulsborne games. I also play most soulslikes and most action games with japanese aesthetics for nonhuman reasons :3

Genshin mains are albedo, thoma, childe, wrio, heizou, scara, lynette (duh), freminet, and lyney my beloved. Honourable mentions go to ayato, tighnari and miko. On my main account, that is, my alt has a separate collection! Because i am indecisive ig!

HSR mains are luka (break build before it was cool), moze, aventurine, and jing yuan, though i'll definitely be collecting more pretty boys down the line. And i have gepard now, so ice dps shieldy boy in the works.

This blog is largely miscellaneous. I don't have nearly enough brain cells for more than one, haha, barring my nonhumanity sideblog @kitsune-bones. I do have a tag system though!

- Kaz growls: anything political or discourse-y

- Kaz yips: nonhuman/otherkin/therian related posts, including voidpunk stuff

- Kaz plays: anything video game related

- Kaz draws: original art

- Kaz barks: pride posts

- Kaz howls: anything spooky or macabre :D

- Fox's Crow posting: six of crows tag bc I keep reblogging SoC stuff and tagging myself as kaz on them is. Awkward lol (not that I don't love brekker he's my favourite menace <3)

- Kaz's miscellaneous bone pile: whatever else i happen to reblog or post.

DNI list isn't super specific. DNI if you're a zoo/pedo or supporter of; trans- and/or homophobic, of any kind (including terfs, truscum/transmeds, aphobic, biphobic, etc.); racist/ableist/any other kind of bigot; anti-otherkin/therian/nonhuman/alterhuman or anti-furry; a fascist (obviously); or if you're just looking to pick a fight. I WILL bite you. I also won't hesitate to block.

That's about it from me! I'm not sure why you read all this exactly but thanks! <•w•>

[too-much-sunshine]

Finished the most recent chapter, and as an aroacespec person myself, I was so comforted by the slow and natural progression you've given Scar and Grians relationship in this. I'm inclined to physical affection myself, and that's something frequently excluded in pairings that people write as aroace/qpr adjacent. A lot of times they're always considered strictly romantic, but the way you've written this feels so right in the sense of Queerplatonic, as you mentioned you intended originally in the notes. I just wanted to say thank you for that! Reading how they hold each other and comfort one another (wont go into detail, as to not spoil ch26 for anyone reading this) just clicks in a way that's Their Connection, and it doesn't feel like it's trying to or needs to be anything else. It's so content, and it makes me feel so warm to see that in a fic with two characters I resonate with a lot.

Not to mention the plot- omg, I've been fawning over it all week! My favorite moment I think is definitely the kitchen scene with Iskall and Scars little standoff- the visual was so sassy and queer from Scars end, it just made me cackle to no end I absolutely loved the attitude. But really, I try not to theorize too much when reading stories that way every turn feels like a huge shock, and this fic keeps my attention so well I didn't even have the chance to, I was far too busy enjoying every little flair of dialogue and fluid change of scenario. I literally gasped and yelled "OH /SHIT/" aloud multiple times, I'm not embarassed to say it. There are so many details you kept so quaint and innocent at the beginning, I never even questioned them until their importance later on!

This story has been absolutely, insanely, phenomenally fun to read, and I can't wait to see where you take things next. I've been planning my own fic for ages, and reading something like this has really inspired me to pick up my pages and keep going. I hope you have a wonderful day, and that you have a lot of fun working on the rest of the story! I know I'm dying to read the next chapter whenever you feel it's right to show, and others will be too :).

Much love!

- minecraft-cake

OH MY GODS IM GONNA CRYYYY (/pos) TOO LATE I AM CRYINGGGG TTTTTTT AAAaaaa this means so much to me TTTT ASDFGHJK

Ive said it before, and I'll say it again: I started writing WOftL because I wanted to read something like it, but it hadnt been written. Not only in the superhero space (even tho I am a bit a whore for superhero fics UuU) but also just aspec wise. Im arospec/ace, and I just felt it wasnt being represented in a way the resonated with me!! So I wrote it myself <3

Im so glad that it resonates with others as well! I really hope that deciding to change the relationship romantic doesnt takes away from that! I feel like, personally, it doesnt change their background and their connection for each other. I certainly dont plan to have them act much differently then they do now lmaooo

Ommffggg you are so nicceee TTTTTT If Im forced to say one thing I'm proud of for this fic, i'd say the foreshadowing turned out much better then I expected lmaooo This is my first looongg fic, so I really happy with that turned out!! I have so much I can say about specific scenes and how they came to be in my brain!!! But for specifically Iskall and Scar, I loved how their little plot came out! Those two have History UuU

Thank you so much for reading and the kind wordsss!! This seriously made my whole week and its only monday!! Im so happy to have inspired you, and if your willing to share I would love to read your fic when you write it! I hoep you have a phenonial day, week, month, year and life bestie <3<3<3<3