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brandileigh2003 · 2 months ago

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I'm not looking forward to 8 hours in car and then non child proof house with special needs kid who's been having a rough couple of weeks.

With in laws where I flip a coin whether they're going to be assholes or not.

And I'm still sick with a not so fun new... I don't know what to call it. Not necessarily side effect. Or complication. But. It's freaking embarrassing.

(ha! Tumblr goes... You've reached 30 tags. So write in your post. Not in tags. It's not the p.s.s.s.s. that you used to write to your best friend 😂)

#Tumblr diary #sorry im really complainy lately #but i hear tumblr can sometimes just be screaming into the void #and i need it at least in the universe #not bouncing around in my head unsaid #or invalidated #but that's a different story #anyways #I'll survive #I'm buying a lot of chocolate #bc that's the only coping mechanism that is even somewhat healthy #don't know what that says #i wish i could go to my family instead #but then 2/3 kids wouldn't go up #and they're more worried about image if we don't show up #bc they don't really give a fuck if me and k are there otherwise #anyways.#I'm buying chocolate and downloading all the things on my Kindle #my tags are getting stupidly long #ooh i should treat myself to lunch today #how do i find irl friends?#like fr #bc who i knew best here are fucking church ppl #and they've loved me. except it's conditional #and the majority of them voted for fucking Trump #and they are ignorant to the harm it's going to cause my kids #so again. do they really love me #i want to talk to someone so bad #i want a hug #fucking copious usage of the fucking word fuck in these fucking tags

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andsewingishalfthebattle · 9 months ago

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Novice sewing pattern: Cut out shapes. Line up the little triangles on the edges. Stitch edges together. We've also included step-by-step assembly instructions with illustrations.

Novice knitting pattern: yOU MUSt uNDerstANd thE SECret cOdE CO67 (73, 87, 93) BO44 (63, 76, 90) 28 (32, 34) slip first pw repeat 7x K to end *kl (pl) 42 * until 13" (13, 13, 15) join new at 30 pl for 17 rows ssk 27 k2tog mattress lengthwise BO and sacrifice a goat to the knitting gods. WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WANT "INSTRUCTIONS," I JUST GAVE THEM TO YOU

#knitting #no it's not a real pattern but I can't write one that makes sense because I have no freaking clue what any of that means #How do you make things that aren't basic rectangles #Why has every knitter I've asked for help just said 'patterns are easy; you just have to know how to read them' & then refused to teach me #Where do I even find a goat to sacrifice #How do I join the pattern cult #I am so confused #I've been knitting for almost a decade but I can only make scarves and potholders #I learned one (1) stitch by watching a YouTube video and none of my friends or family knit so I have no IRL resources #And nobody I meet seems to want to take the time to explain the rest to me #I taught myself to sew through trial and error but that doesn't really work with knitting because error is pretty much just... Unraveling?#Anyway sorry for the tag rant I'm just frustrated that I see pretty things I want to make but the instructions are in an alien language #And the gap between 'absolute novice' and 'intermediate' seems to be about 20 years of experience and formal instruction

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demonslayedher · 11 months ago

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What do you get for the fangirl who has everything?

A spoon.

#indeed I did not have a spoon shaped like this #kny merch #agatsuma zenitsu #since almost everyone I know irl forgot my birthday last month I became a demon but a friend who remembered afterward gave this to me #i find it very ironic how Zenitsu has always feared being eaten by a demon #also might I just add that I got a cheap and silly Setsubun headband with oni horns AND I LOOK REALLY GOOD IN THEM #no matter what my hair is doing or what I'm wearing these horns look very cute on me #i work very well as a demon #nom nom nom #time for soup

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suspensefulpen · 2 months ago

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The scariest thing that has happened today is me remembering my friends aren’t into whump and believe it’s kinky 👹

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krash-8 · 6 months ago

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#i just think they’d play together a lot when they were little #ok listen #think they’d be more like big brother little brother at this age #but like #fanon kaito has always been less mature than most characters his age #so when he’s younger i imagine he’d find himself with friends younger than himself as well #and i just #i love when his friends totally accept this and don’t mock him #sosososo much #and i don’t know it means a lot to me as an autistic person who grew up mocked for my childishness #to see this guy with supportive friends and irl fans #idk how to fully articulate my thoughts do you get me #autistic kaito real you guys #also this should go without saying but pls do not tag this as a ship 😭#1) they are quite little here specifically 2) im not comfortable with the ship in general #please please please #krash art #artists on tumblr #vocaloid #vocaloid fanart #cryptonloids #kagamine len #kaito #kaito vocaloid #my art #vocaloid kagamine

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faaun · 1 year ago

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Jack Marsh (2005), Friendship Otherwise - Toward a Levinasian Description of Personal Friendship

#saw carnation lily lily rose by john singer seargent irl today. it was basically at my doorstep all along idk why i never went to see it #it was placed at a corner in the gallery. me and my friend sat down and sketched the paintings of beautiful naked people quite badly. paper #provided by tate britain. she told me about how she couldnt look her boyfriend in the face after a harrowing film about war. when i say the #interview was informal i mean the person who was supposed to be my boss told me let me get you a cider and then he said after #50 years of life he knows people are inherently good and it only takes a little bit of kindness to save this world. he said he tricked #his wife into keeping the baby and then he said he quit his job at a US bank to help people find meaning and in it #he would have liked to find meaning. instead he started climbing with his friends. he said he chews his cigarettes because its a habit from #when he had to hide things from people. the entire time i felt uncomfortable and incredibly enlightened. this is my friends mentor. she has #his pattern of pauses and expletive and penchant for ends-justify-means attitude. i do think im not very clever #but maybe one day i will love you enough to make up for it. i wrote code i dont understand staring at the final error i thought about how #we both thought of how when we're too old to remember the voices of our friends we would like to stand in the pathway of the LHC beam pipe #cut it open and eat light in the freezing cold vacuum (kills you long before radiation will) the invisible puncture wound unfolding dna #back to the start larger than you ever were. you go to heaven once youve been to hell. my friend is in my bed #practicing calculations of eigenvectors by hand and she is uninterested in a visual proof you are uninterested in incompetence #we catch a train this is your kind of burden you tragic hero wincing at that word you only do this because you have to. im the only one #who can. i am a coward in this for the fucking poetry. the visual proofs. the pretty numbers. an architect who was horrible at maths wanted #to be a philosopher and accidentally ended up neck in deep in 70th Error On Visual Studio Code i want to kiss your eyes before we say #goodbye we both know there is no love in the way there should be. I still have your dress in my wardrobe. i hope you make art.#you think im alright head-wise i think you fucking hate me i think ill never be so clever you want me to tell you my idea?#if you wanted more of this world i would have liked to kiss you harder. we cant both be like this. im sorry i cant be with you the whole wa #the love is gone if you have to ask it. his breath catches his eyes feel stiff it is -1.9 kelvin he is near the beam pipe i miss holding #his hand i miss her singing voice i miss his hair and i found the antonym of pain thank you for carrying me home.

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ethosnap · 2 months ago

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Moralizing the Boatboys hate is so funny lol you guys do realize joel edits and puts together his own videos . Just say you're not into it and ignore it

#going to get uncomfortably real here but okay here me out #many ccs know about the shipping stuff and they Will play into it because its their JOB #its their job to hold your attention and make you like them and interested in them #theyre grown ass adults on social media #if i was a cc that said something during recording that i didnt want people to take the wrong way #i would simply cut it out because i can do that #i agree that people take it too far #but ultimately a lot of mcyt fanworks are derivative and based off of caricatures #like joel KNOWS that people find the etho obsession bit funny. thats why he brings it up all the time #i agree that there are some things ccs don't want to see but also they spend hours listening to themselves talk and thinking about how they #are perceived. im sure theyve spent time thinking about Shipping #like again there are boundaries and limits to this obvs but also joel drawing hearts around etho in gartic phone is basically him saying #im continuing this bit because i know it gets engagement and i think its funny #he knows it gets perceived as romantic and hes okay with it #why? because hes married and he knows that his online persona is Not him and he knows that his minecraft yaoi with his friends isnt actually #how he feels about them as people. joel irl is NOT into ethoslab at ALL lol but hes okay with joel the minecrafter appearing that way #its one thing to read too deep into a friendship and its another to just roll with what the ccs are handing you and I dont think its any #different here

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sufyonstevens · 8 months ago

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Anyone also returning to superhell after many years sober and want to do a complete rewatch together (maybe as a lead up to a s16 revival shhh)? I need the emotional support for this and my therapist can only hear so much :((

#how do you make friends on this site?#I don’t feel equipped to make post or content since I never finished the show #but I have so many thoughts and feelings and devoted years of my early life to this show :/#basically #There are people feelings that I want to experience differently than I have before #or maybe even for the first time #destiel #spn #deancas #spn thoughts #s1 rewatch #someone be my friend on here since I can’t find any irl #dean winchester

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wormchaser · 4 months ago

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you are complaining about complaining too much while complaining about the fact that maybe people dont like you because you complain too much while complaining about being alone. just stop complaining and do something about it. talk to people. reach out. dont just wait for someone to come to you first.

i have tried reaching out to different people in the past year or so but it never works. i understand its my own fault for letting relationships decay because of my own insecurities and issues but that doesn't mean i can just will myself to think or believe different things about myself. it's a self fulfilling prophecy ; i think people don't like me so i don't reach out so people don't like me etc . i am sure you do not want to hear me list all the things i want to say in response so i will put them in the tags.

#every time i try to reach out or talk to someone it goes nowhere. i dont have any social skills anymore and have no clue how to keep a #conversation going. half the time even when i do people stop replying to me. which is fine theydont owe me a reply but still feels likeshit #when i tried to make one new irl friend it just didn't work because they have better options for friends. we spoke occasionally but never #messaged online like ever and would only talk when we happened to be in the same place. i tried multiple times to organize a time to hangou #none of which came to pass. i dont understand why this one didn't work because i thought this person was interested in being my friend but #i guess i was wrong or thought they were more interested than they really were.#i have a problem with reaching out anyway which has been a problem i have had since i was like 11. reaching out to people first doesnt come #easily to me - in the beginning when i was a lot younger i didn't want to bother people with my presence & thought if i were to come to #someone first they would feel pressured into talking to me when they didn't want to. this is stupid of course. but has still not left me as #something i feel is very core to the way i act today. waiting for someone to come to me first feels like my only option because i do not #know how to reach out effectively (my evidence being i have failed every time i have tried) & i am convinced people dont like me in the #first place and do not want me to approach them.#i dont really even know who to reach out to in the first place. my world is extremely narrow. the number of people i know has shrunk #significantly and my standing in their eyes collectively has also shrunk significantly in the past few years. i feel like every person i #was once friends with wants nothing to do with me. i feel as if i have burned every bridge possible.#when it comes to the fact i complain all the time . which i know of course is annoying. its because i cant find any kind of joy in anything #i do or see or whatever. nothing makes me happy - i only see things to complain about. all stimulus seems grating and the world seems #specifically catered to make me miserable. all i can really do is complain. i treat this blog like a stream of consciousness and when most #of that consciousness is occupied with how much i hate being alive the blog will mostly be complaining. its a vicious cycle lol .#anyway . i guess the key theme is low self esteem begets low self esteem in many ways. mental illness begets mental illness.#i am not really saying this to anyone least of all to you anon. i just felt compelled to recount i guess for myself the reasons that came #to mind for why i am like this. i am talking to myself here

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seraphic-sibyl · 2 months ago

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I should have been born a frog. I should have been born a frog. I should have been born a frog. I should have been born a frog. I should have been born a frog. I should have been born a frog. I should have been

#us elections #us politics #election 2024 #i talked to an older friend today and he helped a lot #being with people helps #reminding myself that people care helps #47.5% of people in the usa care #which is a minority but at least it's close enough of a minority to a coin flip that i can always find good people #i am trying to be positive and not live out these last two months of peace in despair #being alone hurts more and i spent too much time today doomscrolling but i need some time to prepare for what i might see in the future #i do not want to make plans i do not want to make plans i should not NEED TO HAVE PLANS FOR A PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION #when i was 15 i had a whole plan for a novel i wanted to write. it was a whole carpe diem/memento mori about living life before it's over #it was going to be a good book. but now i'm not sure i believe in what i am saying enough to write it.#and i am not sure if it would be what the world needs.#but it would have been a good book. it would have been an amazing book and i didn't want to start because i didn't know how #and i wanted to wait until i had more writing and life experience to do it justice #and now i just don't have the OPTIMISM to do it justice and now it may never be written #moral of the story is write the thing NOW edit later make the thing now while you are still passionate about it existing #contrary to the contents of this post i am actually doing much better than i was this morning.#today an irl friend held my hand as i cried under a couch and an online friend reached out to make sure i am okay and i am not alone.#a lot of it is cold comfort. but at least i am regaining some faith in humanity. not all of it. i will never again have all of it.#but i will have enough.#i am a little more afraid of dying young than i was this morning and that is good. that is good.#i am not the only one who has lived through a historical event.#i will do a lot more tiredposting in the near future #especially as inauguration day comes up #but for now in the tags i feel at least a little better.#seraph rambles #seraph originals #side note: the content of the actual post is reminding me of otherkin back in like the 2010s lol remember when that was a thing on tumblr

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mistyycowoa · 1 day ago

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Confessing my sins to the internet because my irl friends don't know my tumblr

I'm actually a horrible friend and I don't plan to change :)

I'll be a good friend to anyone I actually like and I usually don't associate with people who I don't like, but sometimes there will be an occasional lonely (usually annoying) kid that follows me around. (They're lonely for a reason.) I kinda hate people who are loud literally all the time but I can hold my tongue and this kinda person just doesn't leave because they're not being told directly to leave.

What do I do? I talk to them only when I need them, I make unnecessarily mean comments as a joke, I point out their obvious flaws that I know they have a hard time changing, and all while they still follow me around like I'm not kinda bullying them.

Sometimes I'll treat them like an actual friend when I'm in a good mood, but if I'm not, then the unfortunate victim becomes my emotional punching bag. (I have ways to quickly fix my mood and this is completely unnecessary and I could distance myself until I feel better like how I do with actual friends.) I think this is like. Breadcrumbing? Anyways yeah, toxic shit.

If any of your "friends" treat you like this, they don't see you as a friend. If they leave you doubting if they like you or not, leave you doubting if you're actually friends, they probably don't see you as a friend. (because that's the case for me :3 )

I'm a horrible human being and I don't feel nearly as bad as I should about it :)

#i had a friend in primary school who was treated like this by me and my then best friend for the whole 6 years #she was very much bullied i think #we literally had a “class x girls group” and “class x girls group without (victim)” and we sometimes shit talked her in there #my best friend was a bit more obvious about not liking her #she would like be my shield anytime things got confrontational while i never stood up for myself #pretty sure she shared snacks with me a lot too and i just never returned the favour.#and now theres this boy that has nearly no friends who follow me around during breaks #just today i literally gave him the silent treatment because i was having an inner monologue and i didn't bother telling him #i even found it kinda funny that i walked around silently while he muttered to himself and questioned if he did anything wrong #like dude no you didn't do anything wrong but also i found it too funny to correct you #i have actual friends that i treat decently btw #like. without all this weird shit #i just take advantage of the loney and probably neurodivergent kids :)#moral of the story. please have more than 1 friend. especially irl. dont let them treat you like how i treat these poor “friends” of mine #ive literally never told the 2 people i mentioned here anything along the lines of “im grateful i have you”#feel free to stop being my friend because of a post like this :3 #i wouldnt say i *like* being a horrible friend but also im like. not doing anything about it and not bothering to change for the sake of #these people who are already kind of outcasted and probably need someone to rely on #“im not doing charity” proceeds to refuse basic respect to these people because theyre “annoying”#you could call this a vent post #im kind of telling myself that im a horrible person to begin with so i feel less bad about “breaking character” on top of being guilty #honestly i hope this kind of person finds someone who genuinely accepts them because they deserve better than this #and also because theyre a headache for me and im sick of them

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thechaotichorselord · 5 months ago

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a RANT. (tw for stalking)

Hey! I just saw something that reminded me.

If you support stalkers, kindly leave my blog!

I don’t care if they have mental issues, I don’t care if they aren’t okay, stalking is NOT GOOD!

I will not be worrying about somebody’s mental problems when they are doing heinous things!

The stalker who I’m referring to has blocked me as I have blocked them, but if they somehow find this:

You make me feel ill. Not only did I consider you a friend but I thought you’d at least try to improve! Sob stories will NOT make what you did any less bad. I’m aware you held yourself accountable, but you have to know what you did was wrong.

If somebody shares this with the person, I don’t CARE! I’m sick of all this bullshit people do! You’re stalking someone? You’re harassing them? Oh, you feel BAD about it? You’re stating how much you regret it? Then fucking DO something! Stop fucking harassing them! Block them and move on! You have no excuse to invade someone’s privacy the way you did!

Sorry for the rant, I’m just pissed off about the whole incident.

If there’s something I can’t stand its people who use their issues as a shield.

I’m sorry if I said something perceived as wrong, I’m not good at writing this stuff out.

Oh, and the stalker I was talking about was G_G. If you are aware of what she did and support her you are PART OF THE PROBLEM.

#will probably delete later #but listen to the person who got stalked #that was unfair and you didn’t deserve that #i will support you through and through.#important #tw stalking #stalker irl #callout #G-G stands for GamerGirl427 or GoodGame432 #idk man i’m tired #if you do see this i want to tell you one more thing #HELP YOURSELF.#get off the phone #get off the internet #and try to find something else to do!#“uGhh but i have nothing else to do”#or something similar #NO. you have tons of shit to do #don’t waste your time trying to ruin someone’s life.#tumblr is the problem.#get help #help yourself #it takes time #but seriously #just try to help yourself instead of wallowing in self pity #that’s the best way to find yourself on a depressive spiral #i’d know how that feels #so if you see this then get help and sure stay in contact with friends but don’t spend your whole life on the internet #spend it actually living #vent

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crumpet-doodles · 27 days ago

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#crumpet's doodles #vent #tw self h4rm #tw self harm #tw blood #Anygays chat how r we doin tonite!!!!!!!#God I hate that nobody irl believes a SINGLE word I say besides like. 4 of my friends #“I'm gonna cut myself” “Please don't joke about that” okay I guess I'll shut my fucking mouth then #“Look I know you've never had suicidal thoughts before but please keep in mind some people do <3” WHAT IF I BASH YOUR FUCKING SKULL IN #Just because I look happy doesn't mean I'm like this all the time Jesus FUCKING christ #I can't say ANYTHING because otherwise somebody will tell others and shit's gonna go down #NONE of these adults I can be honest to. “Trustworthy” my ASS #The school councilor would tell my parents and GOD FORBID something is wrong with their living trophy they show off #“You're not trying your best” “You need to get better” “You just need to find something that works for you” I'm going to fucking strangle y #IF YOU KEEP THREATENING TO PUNISH ME AND NEVER DO I'LL JUST FUKING DO IT MYSELF #MAYBE THESE SCARS WILL PAY FOR WHATEVER TRANSGRESSIONS I DID TO DISAPPOINT YOU IN SUCH A WAY #I'm. Going to stop before this gets any more unhinged

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tirfpikachu · 1 month ago

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friendship will save me. friendship will show me the way

#lay text #really feeling this in late 2024 <33 #i hope i'll build even more friendships & grow even closer #i was always desperately lonely growing up #i'm so grateful for radblr... i felt like a total freak #and a bigot and a loser and just. a bad person. i didn't realize how much i struggled w that til i joined radblr #libfem circles rly rly fucked me up #so thank u sm to all of u #i know we don't agree on everything all the time #and i know it's not always easy #but i do feel sisterhood #i rly truly do #and it means the whole world to me #i'm like tearing upppppgkdsjgkjsg cringe #but yeah idk i rly hope i'll make even more friends :'( <33 #trying to find sane ppl to befriend irl too #i'm so tired of being told i'm a bigot for being homosexual or for believing that female/ofab rights matter too #alongside transfem rights etc #i'm so tired of saying the mildest takes ever and being hunted for sports in modern lgbt spaces. it's genuinely messed up #this is why radblr is needed more than ever before!!!#anyways. luv my friends

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halorocks1214 · 1 month ago

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#iskall85 #<- i will be rambling in the tags lol #and im rambling here because my priorities in this situation i realize logically Should Not Be prioritized #but man. i really hope stress is okay #the hermits have handled everything very well support the victims etc etc #but idk. im realize this is parasocial but the responses about stress and how 'her departure had nothing to do with complaints/#she left of her own accord' i feel are missing what people are asking? or maybe im the only one asking this but #i think people are asking about her because that was one of her best friends!#they had such chemistry the fandom arguably considered them a 'ship' even when shipping was taboo!!#ive never been particularly invested in iskall outside of architechs stuff #but stress was one of my absolute faves! and i haven't been doing well with keeping up with most hermit stuff #but i know shes been having a rough time with irl things #and i cannot imagine the pain and hurt finding out someone your were close to is Like That #on top of everything else she was dealing with #im aware her turning off comments and deleting her socmeds are more than likely to do with her #not wanting to deal with people badgering her about leaving hermitcraft #but :/ it feels like theres more to why she chose the nuclear option #i know i know. tbh i dont actually really want or expect answers this is mostly just speculation #i just really liked stress' content and her hiatuses are always in the back of my mind

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katyspersonal · 2 months ago

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Every grudge that wasn't resolved is hurting at once like scars reacting to a bad weather no matter how much I try to just get distracted with irl activities or something positive, and I don't have anyone to talk about it because people I trust with it are only available when I need to sleep or am at work. I wonder how much longer I can hold it inside before I erupt like a volcano and severity of my negativity leaves everyone within reach with permanent fear of approaching me with ten yards distance 🤔

#/vent #personal #hopefully one of two things prevents this either:#1) a more 'serious' problem forces me to swim out from the depts of my depression and struggle or #2) I find someone to talk to in the RIGHT moment #curse of bad timezone and literally every irl friend changing cities if not countries #I am all alone...#not knowing how to make it stop #I have strong negative breakdowns only once in a while #I wish I could vent more 'harmonically' or forgive people even if they haven't payed or apologized #instead of the 'volcano' thing #well if it really gets bad I'll get into urgent hiatus again #I also hate how because of personality fracture it is another alter that absorbs every positive-#-stimul like a parasite right now #usually I sprout and lose alters like malenia but some stick around for a bit #maybe Im also about to fall out I don't know #right now it is just too much gravity to get out of my own head no matter what I do #all I can think about is my million bad memories until it just stops already

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