#health facts in hindi

[diabetes-health-corner]

The Anti-Diabetic, Health Boosting Power of Cluster Beans

Cluster beans/Gavar are low in carbohydrates—in fact, they have the least carbohydrate content of all greens, and the highest water-soluble dietary fibre among all vegetables. These factors make it an ideal anti-diabetes food, as they slow down the absorption of glucose into the bloodstream, helping the body maintain a normal blood sugar level.

Read more to know Anti-Diabetes properties of Cluster Beans: https://www.freedomfromdiabetes.org/blog/post/health-boosting-power-of-cluster-beans-gavar-guar/2685

[personalcare-nheal]

What are the Health Benefits of Chia Seeds for Weight Loss?

Chia Seeds benefits! Learn about their nutrition facts, weight loss potential, and health benefits for your body. Find FAQs and learn how to make delicious Chia Pudding.

Blog Link: https://personalcarenheal.com/chia-seeds-benefits-for-weight-loss/

[richardsgraysons]

lazy sundays

prompt — your fiancé, dick grayson, is the love of your life. was. you think he’s dead, but in reality, he’s out there as a spyral agent. meanwhile, you start appreciating the little things more.

tags — reader got out of an ED, mental health issues. angst and comfort, dick grayson x fem!reader. sfw

jason todd was the one who was attracted to you first. he saw you at a wayne gala and thought you were the love of his life. he asked you out, and you immediately said yes, intimidated by the fact that a wayne was the one who noticed you.

dick didn’t even notice you, which you didn’t mind too much. jason was all that you needed. he was kind and funny but he had this really annoying behavior where he would scream at you in fights. like, scream. one night, things got heated and he left into the night, leaving you behind to go outside, no doubt to clear his mind.

you decided to take care of yourself and make it up to him, so, you had finished his laundry. when putting his clothes away, you noticed a very red helmet with another suit with keys in them. you would’ve thought that it was a cute cosplay prop if the keys didn’t open up a drawer with all sorts of guns in the bottom drawer.

you would’ve freaked out if the radio next to his guns didn’t just go static with —“fuck—nightwing here—wounded on fifth—.” and your blood went cold. jason todd? knew who nightwing was?

you didn’t even think about it, think if it was a trap. you took the radio and drove where nightwing said he was injured. nobody responded and you were praying that he was alive.

and that was when dick grayson, really, really saw you. saw your perseverance, your stubborn nature and how you always looked to the brighter sides of things even when he was stabbed in several places with a split rib and a gash to his head.

you were not a doctor, god no, you were in the beginning of your master’s degree, but with strength that rivaled a mother whose child was underneath a car, you managed to pick him up and put him in your car.

“so jason told you who I am? the little shit. he was supposed to talk to bruce before he revealed our identities. that’s what I get for having a love struck brother, huh?”

you stopped halfway and then looked at him in shock, your mouth open in a slight ‘o’. and he realized that you didn’t know, that your boyfriend of seven months was hiding things from you.

“just take me to bruce’s. say you know, and say I need help.” you let out a groan at it and press on the gas.

jason wasn’t to be found for the next few days. dick was though.

when he recovered and appeared at your doorstep with flowers and a sheepish smile, a cast and a boyish smile that felt like infidelity, your face flushed and you took them happily.

“thanks for saving me,” he said, and leaned against the doorway. unlike jason, his mannerisms and way of acting came easy, smoother, a better flow. and you fell so bad just thinking that. “may I come in?”

and against your better judgment, you stepped side. “mi casa es tu casa.”

his eyes twinkled at that. “tu casa es muy hermosa,” he said. “como el tuyo.”

“you know spanish?”

“I know mandarin, spanish, french, romansh, german, portuguese, hindi, japanese, and arabic. well, learning. dami’s teaching me that one.”

your jaw drops. “I just know english, my mother tongue, and high school spanish.”

“still better than 90% of america.”

that was how it started—he met you every so often, taking coffee out, mini golfing, kayaking, while jason grew ever so distant in the corner. you couldn’t blame jason for it, either. it wasn’t like you were making much of an effort to revive the relationship.

but everything changed that one night when jason asked you to go to a wayne gala with him. out of all his siblings, he had chosen the short straw this time. you said no—you didn’t want to go to another one of them and get hounded by paparazzi at this point.

and jason was fine with that. it wasn’t like he particularly liked going to galas anyways, so he understood your denial. until an hour later when on instagram in one of the more popular news sites, a viral photo of you and dick hugging in the rain together and staring at each other after getting a hole in one in a really hard mini golfing course started circling around.

“what the fuck is wrong with you? are you fucking him? don’t even answer that, I can tell. and even if you aren’t, I know you want to.”

“no, jason, what the fuck is wrong with you? I haven’t done anything with dick, nor do I want to. we’re friends.”

“you don’t underhand, y/n. I’m gonna be the guy that the papers make fun of once you leave me for him. so I’ll do what you don’t have the guts to. we’re done.”

your world didn’t shatter because of that, surprisingly. he moved out of your apartment. you watched gilmore girls reruns. you ate a lot of food. some cried tears, but nothing much. until one day, dick appeared at your door out of the blue.

"dick?" you raised an eyebrow, looking at him with an unsure look in your eye. "what are you doing here?" you were wearing your sweats with a dumbed down look in your eye that clearly stated you didn't know what the hell was happening.

"i'm in love with you. i'm sorry—but i can't stop thinking about you. your laugh is infectious and when you smile it's like a cloudy sky just turns back to sunshine—"

you stepped forward and kissed him. you thought the tabloids were full of shit, but you knew that they were right about this one thing.

after two years of dating, he had done a vigilante trip to india to track down some passages. while he was there, he went and bought a shiny ring. you'd marry him with paper rings. he planned a view of a skyline and it went perfectly, thank god.

but he died. he died and now you're sitting here in the apartment, staring at a photo of the two of you. you miss everything about him. the way he'd subtly add more food to your plate when you were having your ED. when he held you throughout the night after a panic attack even though he had patrol that day. when. he defended you from the paparazzi, when he screamed at jason right back when jason found out that you and dick were dating.

don't tell me you're staring at that damned photo. - tim

you look at your phone and sigh before closing down your phone. tim wouldn't understand. he wouldn't get it. how could he? it wasn't like he lost the love of his life. he was a robin. he knew loss. you didn't. he also lost his brother, you remind yourself, and that just makes it all worse.

you grab the photo and curl up in a ball in fetal position. you miss lazy sunday afternoons when you've eaten too much and that food is resting in your stomach. your head would be in your fiancé's lap and his hands would be in your hair and the minute he would move his hands from your hair or your back, you'd wake up, your body discomforted by the lack of touch. that's my superpower, you'd joke.

no, he'd respond. your superpower is being the most amazing and talented woman i have ever had the pleasure of meeting. i would do anything for you. your beauty rivals the stars in the night sky. i love you like how the moon loves the earth.

at the single thought of it, you curl up and sob, the tears racking down as you clench the photos to your heart. five months and thirteen days and you are not a single second away from properly healing. you'll never love again. you know that for a fact.

it's ten in the night when you wake up, and the couch is stained with tears. haley is right beside you, looking sad and sullen. she misses her best friend too, but she always hates it when her other best friend is crying.

"i haven't fed you? fuck," you swear before standing up. everything hurts. your heart feels too heavy. there's cuts on your wrists. you stare at them, the red from the blood dried up.

he also stares at them too. he vows that he's coming back no matter what.

[hotvintagepoll]

Propaganda

Madhubala (Mughal-e-Azam, Barsaat Ki Raat, Mr. & Mrs. '55)—The Venus of India; heart-throb of all who saw her; responsible for the sexual awakening of every single desi lesbian I know (including me!) And my god, she is breathtakingly beautiful. Look at the subtle grace with which she moves, and that smile - the kind of radiant smile that can make you laugh with sheer delight, or cry because of its hidden pain. Those wild curls! That Cupid's bow! The way she tilts back her head and smiles at you with mischief dancing in her eyes! She has a way of looking at the camera that makes you feel she's sharing a private joke just with you; it's something about that quizzical twist of the lips and eyebrows. As an actress, she is inimitable; she seems to effortlessly inhabit roles ranging from a heart-broken courtesan to a laughter-loving socialite. Fun fact : she's had quite the fan following in Greece! Stelios Kazantidis even wrote a song as a tribute to her.

Linda Darnell (Hangover Square, Unfaithfully Yours, A Letter to Three Wives)— Her dick is ENORMOUS. She was Fox’s resident bad girl for a while, and she was goddamn sexy during it. She could also play sweeter, and she was still beautiful when she wasn’t crushing men beneath her heels, but also she sometimes crushed men beneath her heels and it was really hot

This is round 4 of the tournament. All other polls in this bracket can be found here. Please reblog with further support of your beloved hot sexy vintage woman.

[additional propaganda submitted under the cut.]

Madhubala:

An icon of Bollywood, who was well known for her beauty and has continued to inspire performances and songs into the 21st century. She was at times described as "the number one beauty of the Indian screen" and "the biggest star in the world".

SHE IS EVERYTHING AHHH. JUST LOOK AT HER SMILE-

She's been nicknamed the Marilyn Monroe of India and was one of the highest paid actresses in the Hindi film industry (the term Bollywood did not exist yet) during the 1950s. Also an extremely talented dancer and singer

SHE'S JUST SO STUNNING, like seeing her eyes IMMEDIATELY CAPTIVATES YOU, THE DANCING, THE BEAUTY!!!!!!!!! She worked in Bollywood for over 20 years and passed away at a sad early age of 36, BUT THE IMPACT SHE HAD WAS UNMATCHED!!!!!

That sassy sideways glance she does always has me WEAK AT THE KNEES. And when she's making silly faces at the camera to mimic someone ahhhh my gay little heart <3

Linda Darnell:

LOOK AT THOSE EYES. She redefines sultry and dreamy.

ok i have a lot of feelings about linda darnell. she was so complex and messy and talented and just such a tragic figure and deserved so much better. her mom basically ignored the rest of her kids in favor of pushing linda into hollywood, which led to her missing out on a lot of childhood experiences, prevented her from enrolling in college, and caused some mental health issues later in life. it’s especially heartbreaking that she met such a preventable end so early in life, and i always wonder what might’ve happened if she had been able to make more movies. she also disliked the hollywood social scene, which i think is totally valid of her. anyway, i loved her in a letter to three women and unfaithfully yours, and especially in no way out, which i think is one of her better roles, really showcasing her acting ability. and the fact that she never really got recognition keeps me up at night,, in my heart she has all the oscars

[neil-perrys-suicidal-tendencies]

INTRO POST <3

Here's a long-overdue intro post.

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DA BASICS- ABOUT ME: Name - Lisa Avenir (you can call me Lise or Liz) Nationality - Indian Languages - English, Hindi, a1 French, aspiring German, a dialect of Hindi spoken in my home state which is completely incomprehensible to anyone who does not speak it to the point its an entirely new language (which it is but I'm not going to reveal it because I don't want my home state to be known) Age - minor Gender - Genderqueer Pronouns - they/them/she Sexuality - ace-spec lesbian Religion - Atheist DNI: Homophobic, Transphobic, sexist, racist, ableist, any kind of phobic in general No assholes allowed either I love receiving asks just no freaky stuff FACTS- 🪶Only Child who keeps losing friends 🪶I love any form of Noodles Soup 🪶I have a huge crush on Maya Hawke 🪶I love biology and anatomy 🪶I need psychological help /srs 🪶I cry a lot, it's an art 🪶I might have a migraine issue which might be getting better :D 🪶I have brown ass basic eyes 🪶Reading mythology is my bae 🪶My vocabulary might be good but I can't spell for shit. 🪶I love making little collages on PowerPoint 🪶I'm touch starved but touch aversed. Yes, we exist. 🪶I'm a nerd fighter 🪶I love dissecting song lyrics 🪶My aesthetic is dark academia, dark feminine(excluding the femcel bs), witchcore and sickly victorian child dying of the plague core 🪶I am a hyper-organized person who might have germophobia 🪶I'm pretty sure I have trichotillomania 🪶I have these sneeze attacks on a daily basis where I sneeze like 15 times over the course of 3 minutes

HOBBIES- 🪶Reading 🪶Writing poetry or songs 🪶Listening to Music 🪶Talking about stars 🪶The Universe 🪶Literature 🪶Science (fuck physics)

INTERESTS- MUSIC: I love listening to albums(like a LOT of them) 🪶Genre - Indie, Indie pop, Rock, Alt-Indie, Basic white girl pop, Pop-rock, Pop-punk, Folk, Old Bollywood, Male manipulator, Female Manipulator, Lesbian Manipulator, ghazal, anything that slaps 🪶Artists - Ricky Montgomery, Lana Del Rey, Chappel Roan, Flower Face, Taylor Swift, Hozier, Phoebe Bridgers, Girl in Red, Clario, Conan Gray, Hank Green, Hayley Williams, Joji, Indila, Sabrina Carpenter, Adele. Kishore Kumar, Lata Mangeshkar, Jagjit Singh, Muhammad Rafi, Asha Bhosle etc etc 🪶Bands - Wallows, Florence and the Machine, Sir Chloe, Hole, The Smiths, Paramore, Beach House, The Jayhawks, The Neighborhood, Fun Guns, Cage The Elephant, Arctic Monkeys, Chase Atlantic, Radiohead, My Chemical Romance, Hayley Kiyoko. 🪶Albums(favorites) - evermore and folklore by Taylor Swift, Montgomery Ricky by Ricky Montgomery, Depression Cherry by Beach House, Ceremonials and Lungs By Florence and The Machine, Superache by Conan Gray, Emails I can't send frwd: by Sabrina Carpenter, Hozier by Hozier, Riot! and Paramore by Paramore, AM by Arctic Monkeys, Party Flavors and I am the Dog by Sir Chloe, Punisher by Phoebe Bridgers, Rainy Day Music by The Jayhawks, Petals for Armour by Hayley Willams, The Rise and Fall of a Midwest Princess by Chappell Roan, Social Cues by Cage The Elephant, Live through this by Hole, Born to Die(The Paradise Edition) and Ultraviolence by Lana Del Rey, Nothing Happens by Wallows, Baby Teeth and Fever Dreams and The Shark in your Water by Flower Face, Lilt by Hikes, Get up and Move by Fun Guns, The Black Parade by MCR. 🪶Artists that I lowkey neglect but should high-key eat - Nirvana, Tame Impala, Men we trust, Cavetown, Pink Floyd, blink-182, Green Day, boygenius, Mitski, The Smashing Pumpkins, Suki Waterhouse. BOOKS- 🪶Genre - Dark, War pieces, Dystopias, Young Adult, Depressing, Dark Academia, Classics, Psychological Thriller. 🪶Ride or Die- The Book Thief, The Perks Of Being a Wallflower, The Picture of Dorian Grey, MAUS, Paper Towns, Looking for Alaska, All the Bright Places, The Midnight Library, The Handmaid's Tale, The Diary of a Young Girl, The Boy In The Stripped Pajamas, Circe, Before the coffee gets cold, Sharp Objects, The Martian, The DaVinci Code, The Emperor of All Maladies, Turtles all the way down, And Then There Were None, The Catcher in The Rye, No Longer Human, Grandpa's Great Escape, Wild Bird, The Giver. 🪶Honorable Mentions from my TBR - A Little Life, Bunny, If We Were Villains, The Secret History, 1984, To Kill A Mockingbird, Six Of Crows, Lord of the Flies, Piranesi, Cleopatra and Frankenstein, Crime and Punishment, How it Feels to Float, Orbiting Jupiter, Normal People, Fahrenheit 451, The Myth of Sisyphus, Lessons in Chemistry, Slaughterhouse-five, Dark Matter. 🪶Poets - Sylvia Plath, Emily Dickinson, William Wordsworth. Sappho,

MOVIES- Dead Poets Society, Good Will Hunting, Lady Bird, Whiplash, Spiderman: Into the Spider-Verse, Forrest Gump, Duck Duck Goose, Rapunzel SERIES- BBC Sherlock, Orange Is The New Black, Brooklyn99, Dead Boy Detectives, Heartstopper, Derry Girls, Modern Family, House md?

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[weirdly-specific-but-ok]

Hiiiii!!!

The Hindi songs guy again (salaamat recommendation, if "Hindi songs guy" is too vague)! Firstly, thanks for telling the name of the song, I listened to it and *sighs* it was them!

Secondly, i didn't know you were from India too! Got to know some days ago from your posts, and then just read your post when you were drunk and telling about India. And I fully agree, it was accurate (and as a North Indian, I'm sorry for the racism🙊). And I'm also sorry about the transphobia and every other awfulness you might've experienced. I love youuuu (sorry if this is too weird🙆🏻‍♂️). Also, the career prospects thing was 100% true: I was 'supposed' to become a doctor, but I had taken science just coz i liked it, and then there was a three years long tragic battle against doctor as a career, and then finally after a failed suicide attempt, I was able to choose English Literature, and things are only now (5 years after the fact) looking better....sooooo I guess your fears about college are totally valid but it will be better, you'll meet great people and learn so much beautiful stuff and create sooo many brilliant thingss! Again, I love youuu (and again, sorry if all of it is too much info, too weird, I'm just...weirdly emotional, idk why)

Thirdly, I really like your name! Asmi is a beautifullll nameee!

Fourthly, sorryy for the long and weird ask, just... I'm glad to know someone else from India here, who's also a Good Omens fan and evidently a lovely person. Sooo lots of long tight hugss!

Lastly, sorry for all the sorrys, and you can totally ignore this if it's uncomfortable or anything (if you couldn't tell by the sorrys, I'm super self-conscious, so thanks for the anonymous option)

Love and hugss, and best of luck for college, for your art, and life in general!❤️

Hey anon maggot! I'm so happy you listened to the song and loved it.

And thank you so much for sharing this with me. It's awful that you had to go through all of that, and I'm so proud of you for surviving. I spent three years preparing for medicine too (11th and 12th year, which caused me to fall sick and miss the NEET test, so I took a gap year etc) and I really did want it. Well, I thought I did. It was more that I didn't think I had any other choice.

TW: explicit mentions of transphobia and disregard and discrimination on the basis of mental health below. Skip the below paragraph if you need to.

I'm glad you're doing better. Yeah, I am not looking forward to college. I know there will be fun parts and all. But I had a go at college for three months back in August, and despite it being very liberal and open and stuff in theory, I had to drop out because the entire student body was isolating me because of my mental health and things my ex-roommate had said about me, and a lot of transphobia from the admin too. When I went to the dean and told her I felt unsafe and the environment was horrible, she told me to stop being so self-absorbed (and then denied she said that the next day to my parents). Luckily after the whole medical ordeal my parents had learned to listen to me and they helped me leave.

I will try again. It's just that it's... disheartening. That was design school, too, just like my next college will be. And I really did try my best. It's weird thinking about all that stuff because Tumblr and you maggots have kind of, well, healed it in a way, and given me such a safe space here that it feels unbelievable that the real world could be so, so fucking shite. Apologies for the vent here, but I do want to be honest, and I want everyone who's faced the same thing to know that they're not alone. Because I know so many people, too many, who've been there.

Thank god for Good Omens and you all. For the ridiculous amount of support and love and joy I've got here. It's easier to forget about all of it for a while when I focus on Crowley's pouts and Aziraphale smiling and making you all laugh.

And hey, you have nothing to feel sorry for. I'm so grateful to you for taking the time to write this. I love you too, anon maggot, so very much. Take all the tight hugs right back. I'm so proud of you for fighting for the future you wanted and deserved. I know it's not easy, both to fight with your internalised doubt and the others.

I'm so proud.

Good luck.

All the love, Asmi

[hunyothinks]

Entry #5: [20241009] About being an emotional being

Today, I took an online Emotional Intelligence Test from psychologytoday.com and apparently, I have a high EQ.

Having a high emotional intelligence is described to be able to do well in work environments because of their ability to make good decisions and effective communication. They are also described to have healthier relationships, better health and well-being, as well as being able to manage emotions. With that said, I feel like I should feel proud of myself for having come this far in my journey for personal growth. I didn't expect that I'd have a high EQ, but looking at how I currently treat myself and my relationships with others, I feel like I've really grown for the better. It took a lot of introspection and constant and conscious effort for me to able to recognize, acknowledge, and understand my own feelings over the years. If I took this test back in high school, I would have answered it differently and would have gotten another result.

Despite apparently having a high EQ, I feel like I still tend to fall for fallacies that affect how I talk to myself and perceive certain situations.

Perfectionism

As a consistent honor student growing up, I have this tendency of holding myself to a high standard and expecting myself to maintain it.

Because of that, I felt like I should always be performing well in the things that I do. I would focus even on the small details to make sure that things would go well, and I was strict on how I wanted things to be done (this was especially true when I was in grade school). I was (and still probably am) a perfectionist and being one doesn't really serve me well because it was so emotionally-draining for me to always stress over the small things just because I want things to go right. I held myself to high standards even though I didn't need to, and that led me to being rarely satisfied with my work and performance.

Being a perfectionist made me so focused on the flaws of my own work and performance that it made me fail to see the whole picture. I wasn't able to recognize that despite these "flaws", I was still able to come up with something out of my own efforts and hard work. When it came to certain projects, minsan hindi ko alam kung bakit nagagandahan yung iba sa nagawa ko kasi iniisip ko na "hindi naman siya ganun kaganda" or "nagkamali nga ako dun eh"... I was holding myself to such a high standard that I was downplaying my own skills and achievements. I failed to see what others saw in my own work.

Fear of catastrophic failure

In relation to being a perfectionist, I also had a fear of failure. Because I expect myself to always do good in what I do, I was scared of making mistakes because it made me feel like I was letting people down. I would get ahead of myself often times and overthink about possible scenarios on how things could go wrong. Because of that, I end up not doing anything because I was too worried about what bad things might happen, instead of also considering the benefits that may come with doing something.

For example, until now, I'm scared of opening up to my parents about how I am queer because I keep thinking what if this fact causes tension with my family. What if I'm gonna get scolded? What if they start treating me differently? What if my queerness outweighs all the achievements that I've done over the years? Even if there's a part of me that knows that they probably won't disown me for being gay, it's still a thought that lingers whenever I try to think about coming out. Because I feel so scared about disappointing my family and causing tension in our dynamics, I end up keeping this part of myself to myself. I end up not coming out to them and probably won't be anytime soon.

Recognizing these fallacies made me realize that these irrational thoughts were detrimental to my mental health and they also held me back from my personal growth. I realized that we shouldn't let our fears or worries hold us back from taking control of our lives.

We won't be able to fully appreciate the whole picture if we are too focused on the small things. Life is a painting that you can appreciate only if you learn how to take a step back and realize that the smudges that you made are very small in comparison to the beauty of the whole scenery.

To avoid falling into these identified fallacies, I learned to develop an "it is what it is" kind of mindset. What I do is learn to accept that not everything has to be perfect and that my mistakes are not permanent. Accept that what happened already happened and move on.

Additionally, I think it would also help to take the time to talk to yourself and recognize how you are feeling. You must learn how to listen to yourself. What am I feeling? Why do I feel this way? In what situations do I get this feeling? Talking to yourself kindly can be a way to understand yourself even more and it can also be used to challenge the irrational thoughts that we are having. It's important that we have a rational-emotive approach when talking to ourselves to make sure that we don't further fall into the debilitating emotions that we are having.

Facilitative emotions refer to the type of emotions that help us function more effectively, meanwhile, debilitative emotions are the type of emotions that hinder us from performing well.

When I perform, some of the facilitative emotions that I go through are excitement and joy. When I feel excited and happy about what I do, it actually motivates and helps me perform better and it makes me feel better about myself.

On the other hand, the debilitative emotions that I go through when I perform are nervousness and fear of making a mistake. If I don't keep these feelings in check, I tend to doubt and worry about my performance and usually, it affects my actual performance negatively.

When I find myself having debilitative emotions, I often find myself talking to myself out loud. I try to shake the nerves off by saying na "kaya ko to" and/or doing something else to keep my mind off the negative thoughts. Sometimes, I also talk to my friends about what I'm feeling and they reassure me that I can do it. Essentially, I try to deal with debililtative emotions by either trying to avoid thinking it or by shifting it to a more facilitative one. Instead of thinking that I'm nervous about a performance because I'm worried about making a mistake, I'll instead try to think about how fun the performance will be.

[indipopcorn]

Domestic Violence is still not the heinous crime in India..!

According to the National Commission for Women (NCW), the number of domestic violence complaints in India has fluctuated since 2019: 

2019: 2,960 complaints out of 19,730 total cases 

2020: 5,304 complaints out of 23,722 total cases, during the COVID-19 lockdown 

2021: 6,633 complaints out of 30,864 total cases 

2022: 6,970 complaints out of 30,957 total cases 

2023: 6,304 complaints out of 28,811 total cases 

According to the National Family Health Survey-5 (NFHS-5), 29.3% of married Indian women between the ages of 18 and 49 have experienced domestic or sexual violence, and 3.1% of pregnant women in that age group have experienced physical violence. However, only a small percentage of victims seek help

The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA) of 2005 allows women to seek help from a domestic violence protection officer for dowry harassment. 

Amruta Subhash, a renowned actress in Marathi and Hindi Cinema, gained acclaim for her work in Lust Stories 2, Gully Boy, and Bombay Begums. In a roundtable discussion, she shared her experience of being beaten up by her on-screen husband in a TV Show. Despite her discomfort, the producer insisted on the scenes for higher TRP. This revelation made her realize the sad reality of society where violence against women boost ratings.

If I were to share my observations, a man's mother would discredit a girl for rejecting him during the procedures of an arranged marriage in a big city like Ahmedabad. If this infuriated him, he would then be sure to label her as being out of her ethnic group. It's all too typical to hear girls ask for too much in marriage, so why can't she? Why are you supporting these girls if you don't think they meet your criteria? Many illiterate girls are willing to assist you with domestic chores. They are unable to accept the fact that the girl of their choice will reject them and they do not want to make any concessions. Even Nevertheless, they live in a time when women follow their hearts.

Middle-aged men and women preach to girls and their parents in community WhatsApp groups and on social media pages to be cultural and marry middle-class boys because they are cultural. Is it? Therefore, there need to be an end to middle class families' incidents of dowry harassment and domestic abuse.  Regretfully, such drivel and so-called social activism are unchecked.

We can expect the worst from son if his mother treats the girl in this manner!      

[reynanghugot]

[10:15PM]

Hindi naman dapat ako maliligo uli kasi naligo na ko kanina after ko sa Manila Doctors. It's just that this is my escape to cry talaga.

Andito nanaman ako sa point na I know for a fact na nagagamot naman eh, gagaling naman pero ayoko din nung point na pati mga mahal ko sa buhay napapaisip. Alam ko di nila pinapakita sakin pero kanina nung sinasabi ng doctor yung gagawin, yung gastos yung after ng procedure, I saw my mom na agitated siya. Well gets ko naman, anak ako eh nanay siya.

I've been questioning myself bakit ako pa? Bakit sa dami dami, ako pa? Eto ba yung singil sakin sa lahat ng masama na nagawa ko? Idk, bahala na. One thing nalang na tinitignan ko on a brighter side is matapos gamutan, makapag rest ako and makabalik sa pag wowork na alam ko hindi ko na uli iri-risk yung health ko.

[tiincredibelle]

UNSPOKEN TRUTH

My ex-boyfriend of nearly 9 years dumped me on the night of November 11, 2023. We lived together under one roof for three years during the Pandemic until he had to return to Australia. He gave me an evasive explanation, saying he was tired of our long-distance arrangement and that we were both in pain because he had no idea when he would return to the Philippines. He said he had no idea how to take care of me or what to do. He told me it didn't seem right anymore. All he can feel is pain instead of happiness. He asked if we could take a break and heal. All I could get out of him when I asked why and whether I had done anything wrong was "Sorry." I even asked him if he had met anyone else, to which he replied, "Wala." He began removing our Messenger nicknames, deleting all of our Instagram photos, and removing his Facebook cover photo and profile picture. I could not understand why he had removed all of our social media pictures, even though he had advised me to take some time to reflect. I was confused because I knew we were on good terms that day; he even sent me photos from a Filipino party he attended with his sister.

After several days of him not returning my calls, I discovered that he was talking to someone else he met online and had a bouquet delivered to a girl in San Juan, Manila.

I was hurt, and I felt betrayed.

He surprised someone else with a bouquet on November 7, 2023, and he broke up with me on November 11, 2023. That made me think, which is why he quickly deleted all of our photos from social media. Perhaps he met someone and can now claim to be single.

For nearly three weeks, I begged him to return my calls and messages and to work on our relationship even though I'm in Pain.

Funny enough, even after he cheated on me twice, I still want to work on our relationship. In 2019, while I was working in Manila, I discovered that he was having an affair with someone here in Aklan.

Tangina no, tanga kong tinanggap ko pa sya..

Mahal ko eh, mas lalong mahal sya ng pamilya ko.

Nag beg sya na ayusin namin, at mag babago na sya, di na nya uulitin, But guess what? Eto nanaman.

It hurts, and the fact that all of my intuition was correct hurts even more.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Ito talaga ang reality. Kasi kapag nagawa na niyang minsan, mas malaki talaga possibility na ulitin niya.

Nov 21, 2023, Our friend asked me to have coffee with her. She then told me that last October 10, 2023 that this guy told her that he is not feeling any spark with our relationship kasi matagal na kami, He even asked for advice kung gagawin nya. Pero sabi nya di naman sya makipag hiwalay, gusto nya lang hanapin sarili nya. Sabi ng friend namin, why not open up saakin para mapag usapan and magawan ng solution, try something na hindi pa nagawa namin. Andaming ways to reignite the spark. but he confessed na he tried omegle and met a stranger, which made him excited na di pa nya kilala yung tao and nag usap sila sa imsg. Parang naexcite sya sa getting to know each other stage.. but instead of fixing our relationship, nakita nyang solution is to find someone new. Mas Bata, Rich Gamer Girl. Tired na daw sya sa LDR set up, pero ang funny, LDR din pinalit. nagloloko tlga sya pag nagLDR kami even before.. Tanggap ko pa sana kung sa ibang bansa din ang pinalit eh.

He officially ended our relationship on November 23, 2023, He told me that I deserve a better person who wouldn't hurt me. He never came clean about the new girl, never expressed regret for his actions, and never acknowledged cheating on me.

As the days went by, I began to accept the situation and move on. I always go to church right after work, cry all I want, and give the Lord all of my cares and sorrows. He is still in my prayers. I'm praying for his health and that the university he applied will accept him.

He tagged the girl in a Facebook post he shared one evening, but it was customized to be hidden from my entire family, his family in Linabuan, his family in Ibajay, and close friends. I received the screenshot of the post from someone on his friends list who forwarded it to our mutual friend. I received the same screenshot from one of his family members in Linabuan as well. He removed his family, my family, and our mutual friends from his Instagram followers to prevent us from seeing his stories, but someone screen recorded the guy's instagram story that they are on video call and playing an online beer pong game.

After receiving confirmation that all of my suspicions and information about the girl were accurate, all that pain returned. All the memories and fantasies returned, and it caused me to doubt my own value once more.

I told him I had to block him on Facebook, but I never confronted him about the confirmed suspicion. It's funny how this guy twisted everything and placed the blame on me.

He said that I never asked him how his day was going or if he was okay. He also brought up the past, which was resolved years ago.. and that I always wanted it my way. I only want the best for him, but he doesn't seem to understand that. I acknowledged that I was at fault for constantly venting my frustration and negativity about my job, which caused him to burn out. He even said that since I'm the one who always talks, he didn't always have the right moment to open up. He never admitted that he was to blame for anything, not even for not sharing his emotions with me. Open communication is essential in a mature relationship. Cheating is never a good excuse for anything. In actuality, he is searching for a way out after being discovered to be unfaithful. He refuses to acknowledge that he is guilty and that he made a mistake. The Audacity.

This year has been extremely painful because I've been through betrayal, abandonment, disappointment, psychological abuse, emotional torment, and all the brutal things that a man could possibly do to hurt someone's feelings. I have died a hundred times, cried more than I could, and endured all those hurtful feelings all at once. But despite everything that happened, I'm still here fighting every battle that I have while doing everything I can to keep my sanity.

Was it hard to let go of someone you love so much?

Yes, It was. What we had was true and pure at some point in time. It was a beautiful & funny kind of relationship.. Until it wasn't. I tried to fix whatever could save what we have, but couldn't do it alone. Until I realized that, maybe it's time to stop trying to fix what's not meant to be fixed.. Letting go while still inlove with him was hard, but staying would've been harder. I didn't let go because I wanted to, I let go because I had to..

To the girl, He really loves suprises right? weekly bouquets? Here's the explanation in case you were unaware of it. There's nothing I can say if you knew he was dating someone else before you. All I ask is that you embrace and cherish him even more than I did. All the best to you two.

[ivorylaid]

it’s a dog eat dog world, and SAMEER SIDDIQUI has to learn how to bare their teeth without letting the cameras flashes catch anything other than a smile. with a face like SHAH RUKH KHAN, the world wants nothing from HIM except all that HE has to offer. SAMEER has had FIFTEEN YEARS in town to learn the rules of living it up on top. but at just FIFTY, will they try to make peace with the golden scale that’ll try to tell them their heart is in the right place or fight for what they want? with A VINTAGE FILM CAMERA'S SHUTTER SOUND, A STACK OF SCRIPTS COPIOUSLY WRITTEN OVER AND UNDERLINED IN VIVACIOUS RED INK, AND THE LOUDEST VOICE IN A ROOM FILLED WITH PEOPLE TRYING TO BE REMEMBERED to make up their reputation, let’s hope the DIRECTOR won’t look for the saints in the city of angels to help them. there’s nothing holy about hollywood.

QUICK  FACTS.

NAME:  sameer  siddiqui  NICKNAME:  sameer,  sam  AGE:  fifty  PLACE OF BIRTH:  mumbai,  maharashtra,  india  NATIONALITY:  indian  DATE OF BIRTH:  20  december  1973  GENDER:  cisgender man  PRONOUNS:  he/him  ORIENTATION:  bisexual  RELIGION:  islam  (  sunni  )  PARENTS:  talmiz  siddiqui  (  business  magnate,  diplomat  )  &  zarina  siddiqui  née  rehman  (  opera  singer  )  LANGUAGES:  hindi,  urdu,  english  (  fluent  )  spanish,  french  (  conversational  )  telugu,  hindko  (  half-forgotten  )  EDUCATION:  st.  stanislaus,  delhi  university  ( statistics )  OCCUPATION:  actor,  director,  business magnate  HOBBIES:  investment,  film,  sports  (  cricket,  football,  rugby  )  CAREER CLAIM:  shah  rukh  khan,  robert  downey jr.  as  iron  man  (  acting  claims  )   +    robert  eggers  (  directing  claim  )

PARALLELS.

kendall  roy  ( succession )  rhaegar  targaryen  ( hotd  /  f&b )  tyler  durden  ( fight  club )  patrick  bateman  ( american  psycho )

SNAPSHOT

tw  for  maternal  mortality,  death,  grief,  drug  use/addiction,  mental  health  issues

tl;dr  local  area  failson  fails  upwards  because  all  that  money  has  formed  a  safety  net  so  high  up  that  failure  was  quite  literally  made  impossible  —  and  he  knows  this  not  for  a  lack  of  trying,  either,  so  fuck  it,  he  might  as  well  enjoy  the  show! aka  kendall  roy  but  if  logan  roy  was  a  good  father

let’s  get  one  thing  out  of  the  way:  you  never  really  wanted  this.  then  again,  you  never  really  wanted  anything:  you,  who  wanted  for  nothing  ever  since  you  were  a  child,  silver-spoon  scion  of  a  politician’s  lovelorn  grief.  you  reminded  him  of  his  loss,  and  he  treasured  you  for  it,  this  persistent  yet  foolish  hope  that  who  we  love  persists  in  some  form  long  after  they  are  gone.  you  never  knew  your  loss,  poor  child,  and  he  never  taught  it  to  you  either:  your  father,  so  loving  yet  so  unwise,  so  caring  yet  so  reckless.  in  his  desire  to  make  your  world  softer,  he  has  made  a  monster  out  of  you.

but  we’re  getting  ahead  of  ourselves,  aren’t  we?    you  were  a  child,  and  you  wanted  like  a  child,  and  you  felt  things  as  deeply  yet  as  fleetingly  as  a  child  only  ever  could.  you  made  your  father  fire  three  nannies  in  a  row,  then  didn’t  speak  to  him  for  all  of  two  days  because  the  new  nanny  couldn’t  make  chiru  dosa  in  a  way  you  like.  so  then  your  first  nanny  was  recalled,  but  you  didn’t  want  to  see  your  new  nanny  cry  —  and  so  your  father  decrees:  then  you  shall  have  two.

that  was  your  life:  your  father  bending  to  your  will,  always  ever  to  your  will.  he  was  so  attuned  to  your  state  of  being  that  he  knew  what  you  wanted  before  you  yourself  did,  buying  you  your  first  wicket  and  bat,  your  first  horse,  then  —  when  you  got  greedy,  as  children  often  are  —  a  cricket  team,  a  stable,  a  polo  franchise…  on  and  on  and  on  the  list  goes,  until  there  is  so  much  love  that  you  are  drowning  in  it,  so  much  stuff,  so  much  money,  so  much  of  everything,  everything,  every—

what  happens  to  a  child  who  is  never  taught  no?    you  never  once  learn:  there  is  a  limit  one  can  go,  and  one  day  you’ll   brush  up  against  it,  and  you  have  to  understand  that  the  safest  course  of  action  is  to  turn  back  around.

yet  here,  now,  a  list  of  fuck-ups:  a  wrecked  car,    an  accidental  overdose,  two,  another wrecked  car,    a  wrecked  room  and  a  wrecked  house,  a  party  where  everything  goes  wrong  and  the  police  gets  called  and  there’s  an  ambulance  and  you’re  in  the  middle  of  a  psychotic  episode  and  you  start  to  think  this  is  it  but then  —  no,  your  father  makes  a  few  calls  and  it’s  all  wiped  clean  and  you  realise  this  is  it.

somewhere  in  the  fucked-up  breaking-down  grey  matter  of  your  brain,  something  rewires.  this  is  it.  gets  shifted:  this  is  it.  when  you  check  out  of  the  hospital,  your  father  doesn’t  even  berate  you,  only  says  everything  is  taken  care  of.  which  makes  your  brain  break  again  because  you  realise  that  this  is  it.  this  is  you.  nothing  changes;  nothing  passes:  everything  lies  still  in  perfect  equilibrium,  where  you  will  never  want  for  anything,  not  even  success,  not  even  failure,  not  even  evolution,  nothing  but  perfect  voidness  of  conditions.

you  had  ambitions,  when  you  were  a  child:  cricket,  mainly,  then  polo  —  but  anything  sports-related  is  too  much  work  to  juggle  with  your  continued  drug  dependence,  so  you  take  the  path  of  least  resistance.  you  remember,  once,  the  way  people  clapped  at  your  so-so  performance  in  the  school  play.  you  don’t  delude  yourself,  of  course.  people  clapped  and  cheered  when  you  presented  yourself  in  the  roll  call  because  they  knew  your  dad  was  there  but  —  that  didn’t  matter.  you  liked  the  attention.  you  liked  the  clapping  and  the  cheers  and  all  eyes  on  you  like  you’re  a  man  just  like  you’re  father.  so:  bollywood  it  is.

your  father  pays  for  it,  obviously.  if  you  had  any  scruples,  you  might  have  been  ashamed,  but  there  are  no  scruples  because  there  are  no  limits.  because  this  is  it  we’re talking  about  here.  and  so  you  get  one  role  you  did  shit  in,  another  where  you’re  kind  of  so-so,  then  another  where  you’re  passable  and  —  wonder  of  wonders  —  some  roles  where  you  discover  that  you’re  actually  good.

and  so  this  is  what  life  is,  and  so  this  is  what  life  has  become:  an  accident  of  meaninglessness  where  you  planned  for  none  of  it,  and  yet  you’ve  made  a  miracle  out  of  it.  an  interviewer  once  asks  you  what  do  you  credit  for  your  success?  and  you  laughed  at  their  faces.  credit?    you  asked.  what  the  fuck  are  you  talking  about?    this  is  all  me,  baby.    i’m  it.

WANTED  CONNECTIONS.

if  you  see  this,  i’m  still  in  the  process  of  cooking  em  up  so  let  us  simply  go  w  vibes  for  now

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[upismediacenter]

UPIS shifts to mandatory and increased frequency of face-to-face classes

MORE FACE-TO-FACE CLASSES. The 2nd floor lobby of the 7-12 building is filled with students, as the building re-opens and classes have been mandatory, with an increase in frequency of days.|| Photo courtesy of Andre Panopio.

The University of the Philippines Integrated School (UPIS) shifts to mandatory and increased frequency of face-to-face classes for the second semester of Academic Year 2022-2023, as health protocols have eased throughout the Philippines.

According to Prof. Dian Caluag, the Assistant Principal for Academic Programs, the increased frequency of onsite classes to two and three days a week is mainly because of the country's improving situation. The loosening of Covid-19 restrictions successfully permitted the students to access onsite and academic assistance from the teachers. “Nakita natin na nag-iimprove na yung [We saw the improvement of the] pandemic situation, meaning more people have been vaccinated [with boosters]. UP has also advised its units to increase the number of face-to-face classes.”

In addition, Prof. Caluag added that the teachers, students, and parents requested an increase in in-person contact and on-site classes. Remote learning led to academic loss which resulted in fewer classroom activities and lack of direct interactions between students, she said. Without these interactions, the students faced challenges in interpersonal relationships with parents, teachers, and peers.

She also explained that there is an idea that we will not get to the routines that we used to do before the pandemic, such as doing flag ceremonies every week, having club meetings, and celebrating UPIS week. To this, she responded, “It’s more of moving forward, we’re learning from what we experienced in the past three years, and the idea is that we’re not going back to how things were before. We’re banking on what we learned and moving forward.”

On the other hand, Aileen Dimaculangan, the school’s nurse, declared that the same process of filling out health declaration forms would continue on a weekly basis rather than daily. The school also had a revision of quarantine and isolation protocols with the help of the University Health Services (UHS). Reminding students to fill up the health declaration forms honestly, Nurse Aileen reiterates the appropriate observation of conforming to minimum health protocols, such as wearing a face mask, being knowledgeable about proper hygiene practices, and eating the right diet. Nurse Aileen also added, “I think kung ano na-start na rin natin (following minimum health protocols and keeping yourself clean) kailangan lang natin i-continue ito, pati na rin sa personal [hygiene] natin kasi magiging malaking tulong para safe ang lahat.” [I think that we should continue what we have started (following minimum health protocols and keeping yourself clean), as well as maintaining our personal [hygiene], as it is a big help in keeping everyone safe.]

Reactions of students

UPIS students also had reactions to the shift made by the school. Cilque Casis, a Grade 12 student, says she feels great about having more days of classes. “Face-to-face classes allow me to focus on the subject matter more, compared to online classes where I’m mostly just staring at the screen. I [also] like the fact that you can ask teachers directly in person, and if you have other questions after class, you can just visit them in the faculty room.” Zerah Ballarta, a grade 11 student, was also delighted about the shift, as she is able to step foot into UPIS again after months of isolation, and finally seeing friends she used to bond with.

The students also expressed the challenges that they encountered along with the benefits. According to Zerah, "Nahirapan ako bumalik sa dating gawi ko kasi hindi na ako sanay gumising nang maaga at mag-ayos for school." [“It was hard for me to go back to my old routine because I’m not used to waking up early and getting ready for school anymore.”] Meanwhile, Cilque was concerned about the amount of groupworks and coordination between classes. “My concern is just with the amount of groupworks that we have, sometimes it is hard to coordinate with other classes, especially with other interest courses,” she stated.

When asked about possible additions to the current health protocols, Cilque proposed that in the health declaration form, there should be an option where you could specify if your symptoms were allergy-related. “We have a lot of people who have allergies, but if they answered the form truthfully, they might not be allowed to school even though it’s already been dealt with or they were taking allergy medication.” As for Zerah, she suggested that more alcohol stations should be placed in school, along with a station that provides face masks in case the students forget to bring extras.

Other changes that can be seen in the rules and regulations included the canteen being fully operational once again and adopting the schedule used in online classes, which starts at 8:00 am and ends at 2:30 pm. Temperature checks can also be seen in the school’s entrances, as well as alcohol dispensers for each classroom and restroom.

UPIS hopes that these new protocols will help students learn better at school while ensuring everyone’s safety. “The characteristic of the transition is that it’s gradual, and that transition will lead us to the new normal,” Prof. Caluag stated. //by Monique Gervacio and Andre Panopio

[j-a-smiths-blog]

0701 28Oct24: Chapter 302

I lashed out?

Why they wait until around midnight to discuss family matters I do not know. I could rant for a few paragraphs, but I'm gonna try to keep it short.

Last year we found out for sure that our eldest brothers wife has been cheating on him for a few years. (I had speculation and was just told it wasn't true as far back as 2018) but anyways. Through all this came to light just how much debt she had racked up as well!

The next horrible thing is that she is using the kids, and the one has mental health issues, as a means to keep the brother from filing for annulment.

Fast forward... last night, he calls my wife, his sister, and even though hindi ko naintindihan everything, I understood enough. He wants, because apparently his kids want, him to take out a loan to pay off all the debt she has. Problem is he owns one forth of the house we are living in because it's a family house, I've just been taking care of it and maintaining it and for the past year living in it without the kids paying for anything... well anyways they want to take out this loan, and they need to put the house down as collateral.

The issue I see here is that this solves nothing. This bitch who racked up the debt gets away Scott free, while she's probably racking up more debt we don't know about, if a payment is missed it could effect us living here, which means the brother would have no shame to say hey.. I can't make the payment this month can you pay this month... and then who knows how many months that will go on for. So essentially I'm stuck paying for family debt that I had no part in obtaining and I'm "supposed to tickle the believe fairy" and believe I'm just exaggerating the story.

So what happens when I'm right?

Where I lashed out was I said just get me a ticket back to the states. Atleast back there I can go find a job and I can start putting money away where the wife can't get it and make her live off the money I do allow her to get. She will fight me up and down that she needs more but that allowing her to live outside her means. This would be a huge blow to her image that she claims she doesn't give a fuck about but in reality she lives for the fact that she doesn't have to work and can just throw money away to all her friends and family while I have to ask to spend a little bit here and there... issue here is that... its all my retirement money?!?!.!

[theplanetarysolars]

I just want to remind you a lot of Latina women, french women, Hindi women and other beautiful fems and women from around the world grow facial hair just as fast, even the cis and perisex ones! facial hair on women is beautiful. this doesn't change the fact that shaving it/waxing it/whatever you do makes you happy and you should keep doing it for your mental health and comfort, but when you have it, there are millions of beautiful women who probably have hairier faces than you!! love you fish!! /p!!

shout out to girls (me) who want to look femme (me) but who grow facial hair extremely quickly (me) and are suffering (me)

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