#healingchildhoodtrauma

[moonwomanrising]

As one of the elders who has lived through multi-generational childhood trauma and survived, a new painful loss has recently occurred to me and I want to share it so anyone who has the capacity to hear it and make their own healing around this specific wound can: It’s the loss of hearing and telling passed down stories through two or three generations that give many people a sense of family, a sense of self, and a sense of belonging along a continuum of ancestry. Those of us with fractured, segmented and abusive family histories never heard such stories and we will never tell them. How can we? Who can share their grandfathers heroic war stories when they live alongside his sexual and psychical abuse of us or our parents? Who wants to hear about the annual family picnic and it’s amazing family recipes when it came with a side of your mother or father drinking too much and you paying for it later with their violence? Why tell any family vacation story when every other day of the year was surrounded by neglect? I only feel this loss when I hear other families tell these stories around the dinner table and I see their collective laughter around some tale that has been told a thousand times but always strikes anew the chord of passed down love. I wonder what my children will think when or if, they realize I never told any such such stories of my own and this side of their family has no good story to tell that does not end or begin in sadness, anger or sorrow. Will they find the beauty or the power in them being the first ones to tell our stories of family happiness? Will they know how hard I worked and healed so that they could tell their own children or friends about that one funny time their parents said and did that funny thing on vacation that one year? Maybe they won’t and that’s okay. I only hope their first generation stories of family humor or love or adventure come easy and that there is never any pain I pass down that hurts their hearts enough to silence them.

[cccat-in-a-meat-sack]

A list of narc abuse believers for all my lovely pwNPD to block <333

@dragon-master-kai

@liquid-pie

@understandingclusterb-npd

@beenthereregrettedthat

@wilwheaton (hasn't been on for a few months but oh well)

@terrified-of-life

@secretlykoishi

@lostmf (I believe)

@nothing0fnothing

@greenevergreens

@silent-t0n

@not-a-narc-apologist

@anscathmarcach (they blocked me boo hoo)

@galactic-spec-of-dust

@selkie-ifs

@internum--urbes (also hasn't been on for a while)

@daughterofanarcissistwoman

@narcissistic-abuse-blog (wow they have their own blog :0 they hate borderlines too just so y'all know)

@furiousgoldfish

@webanglikethat (not 100% sure????)

@jay7vera

@daringdaphne

@enbygunderson

@houseofdonald

@uncoveringthenarcissist

@callmecandle

@dontbestupiditsnotthathard

@soberscientistlife (doesn't really believe in narc abuse per se, but still is very anti-NPD)

@survivingnarcissism

@howtohealfromnarcissisticabuse

@healingchildhoodtrauma

@snapnarissisticabuserecovery

@narcsurvior (either the above two blocked me or their blogs don't exist anymore)

@beauspot

@cosmic0de

@howtohealfromnarcissisticabuse

@narcopathicabuse

@narcsurvivor

@actuallydiagnosedtraumagenic (says that's it's okay to say you can be a narcissist without having NPD)

To find these people I used the following tags: #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic abuse is real #raised by narcissists #surviving narcissism

This is not an argument post. If you want to argue, shoot me an ask. This is a blocklist so that pwNPD can feel safe. You don't like, block me or send an ask. I am not here to care about your feelings. This list is also not complete/definitive. If you have other people to add, again, send an ask or comment. I love you NPD's <333

[divinefem333]

12 SIGNS OF CHILDHOOD TRAUMA #lifetipsforyou #12signs #innerworkings #ch...

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[cosmicangel888]

Blessings of the most high - #UFO

The past; those suppressing me, are of this area, and in which my families shining down to all - the corruption and beings that have been blocking me,

From Calgary and the unnecessary corruption in Calgary -

I will keep moving forward -

I walk with the legions - they will show in whatever way is necessary - love is our oneness and at what point is the unfolding a sign.....

Spirit is all - the legions of the galactic federations and light councils - I am a messenger - these are my families and all families of unity of oneness for all humanity - at what point Is oneness a consideration

And so be it

Joanna

#lightships

#healingtrauma

#legionsoflight

#healingchildhoodtrauma

#healingabuse

[mischiefmanifold]

BLOGS THAT ARE ABLEIST TOWARDS PEOPLE WITH PERSONALITY DISORDERS

@lousydrawingsforgoodpeople - uses “narc abuse” tags, calls their mother a narcissist

@c-ptsdrecovery - has posts that are demonizing in nature about NPD, believes people with NPD are abusive

@furiousgoldfish - for obvious reasons (eugenicist, ableist as fuck)

@unwelcome-ozian - excuses ableism towards NPD and ASPD

@akindplace - a bit iffy, while they have reblogged a post saying that personality disorders should not be demonized they have reblogged a post that uses the word “narcissist” derogatorily and has reposted content from an ableist account on Instagram

@healingcomplexptsd - has reblogged and made some nasty posts about NPD and ASPD

@complexptsdrecovery - praises “narc abuse” Instagram pages

@healingchildhoodtrauma - reblogs posts about “narcissistic abuse” from an obvious “narc abuse” account

@spiritualseeker77 - has posted and reblogged ableist posts and uses “narc abuse” tags

@whack-a-moron - general right wing bigot, also a raging ableist

[victoriaviveskhuong]

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[otheunstoppable]

... from @thehealedmother - This is self parenting. #createyourmotherhood #consciousmotherhood #mama #thehealedmother #amethystjoy #healingmothers #healingparenting #thehealingmother #thehealingmom #healingthemother #consciousparenting #healingthemotherwound #reparenting #reparentyourself #reparentyourinnerchild #mother #selfparenting #childhoodtrauma #innerchildwound #authentichealing #emotionalhealth #healingchildhoodtrauma - - #selfcompassion #selfhealing #selflove #collectiveevolution https://www.instagram.com/p/BpaRB-0lnQA/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=vrf9lto2h977

[cccat-in-a-meat-sack]

For your narc abuse block list:

@snapnarissisticabuserecovery

@narcsurvior

@howtohealfromnarcissisticabuse

@survivingnarcissism

@healingchildhoodtrauma (seems to generally anti-cluster b)

Added, thank you!

[responsiveparenting]

Insights on Embarrassment and Shame from 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice “Shame and embarrassment is a universal experience. Yet it can be transformative in our image of ourselves. Surprisingly this has a lot to do with the response of others around us. If we are supported when we feel embarrassed and ashamed, we learn the feelings are normal and processing them with the support of someone else is a healthy way to respond to those feelings. If the child is responded to with more shaming, this intensifies the connection between feelings of shame and their parent. The parent is no longer seen as a trusted ally and support but as someone who may make us feel shame and that's such an uncomfortable feeling, a lot of people try to avoid it. It can lead to avoidance, in order to not experience shame and/or disconnection.” J. Milburn @responsive_parenting Go to the link in my bio to get this Self-Paced Guided Journal Course; 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice for Responsive Parents #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #innerchildhealing #healingjourney #reflectivepractice #parentingtools #digdeep #understandyourself #understandyourchild #giveyourselfgrace #healingchildhoodtrauma https://www.instagram.com/p/CVf003vLS36/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Posted @withregram • @thehealedmother After my post, I had a lot of you asking where to find more information on ending the cycle of manipulation based compliance, I feel like I could talk a long time about it, but I compiled a blog! Link in bio (at the bottom of the link tree "BLOG") It can be HARD to examine our patterns, our whys,but its necessary and EMPOWERING, not shame based, we must dismantle the ways we keep love from ourselves and our children #createyourmotherhood #consciousmotherhood #mama #thehealedmother #amethystjoy #healingmothers #healingparenting #thehealingmother #thehealingmom #healingthemother #consciousparenting #healingthemotherwound #reparenting #reparentyourself #reparentyourinnerchild #mother #healingchildhoodtrauma #childhoodtrauma #limitingbeliefs #parentingbeliefs #creativeparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CK9uOEzHowC/?igshid=1wkmro8u5hxt0

[responsiveparenting]

Posted @withrepost • @thehealedmother The way we speak about our children creates our perspective, how we see and relate to them. When we elevate and become aware of our language, we elevate the relationship we have with them. Your words create your world, they go beyond your mouth, thoughts go beyond your head, text goes beyond paper and screen. Shift to life giving words and phrases, for yourself, for your kids 💓 #createyourmotherhood #consciousmotherhood #mama #thehealedmother #amethystjoy #healingmothers #healingparenting #thehealingmother #thehealingmom #healingthemother #consciousparenting #healingthemotherwound #reparenting #reparentyourself #reparentyourinnerchild #mother #elevatelanguage #healingchildhoodtrauma #childhoodtrauma #motherhoodisnotmartyrdom #authentichealing (at Toronto, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/BxvunQbndX1/?igshid=o4u3m8bwk8kd

[responsiveparenting]

Posted @withrepost • @thehealedmother You don't have to be verbal in order to be valid, become in tune with yourself in order to become in tune with how your infants, babies, toddlers, children, teens communicate. The subtleties, the nuances, allow space for their voice in all forms. #createyourmotherhood #consciousmotherhood #mama #thehealedmother #amethystjoy #healingmothers #healingparenting #thehealingmother #thehealingmom #healingthemother #consciousparenting #healingthemotherwound #reparenting #reparentyourself #reparentyourinnerchild #mother #childhoodtrauma #healingchildhoodtrauma #selfparenting #motherhoodisnotmartyrdom #listentochildren (at Toronto, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/responsive_parenting/p/Buw4WQjHNhP/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=yjvzar9crnx1

[responsiveparenting]

Posted @withrepost • @thehealedmother This has always perplexed me. Holding so much weight in what people think of us while our child is having a hard time. If only we could shift our perspective and see it as is. That our child needs us more than our pride needs approval. #amethystjoy #thehealedmother #healingmothers #thehealedparent #healingparents #healingfathers #healingparenting #createyourmotherhood #parent #consciousparenting #gentleparenting #tantrum #createyourmotherhood #creativeparenting #authenticconnection #emotionalhealth #listentochildren #selfparenting #childhoodtrauma #healingchildhoodtrauma (at Toronto, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/responsive_parenting/p/Buonylrnprx/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=21ee750njm2b