#healblackwomen

[b7acksoul]

#healblackwomen

[drdeeknight]

It is kindness to set boundaries, to say no, and leave dysfunction. Stepping out of chaos and toxicity can feel uncomfortable because it’s new, but discomfort doesn’t mean you are unkind. Begin to rewrite your story and rewire your brain by repeating this often: It is kind to say goodbye when it is time to say goodbye. It is kind to say no. It is kind to let go. ✨ [Image text: it is not unkind to and unhealthy relationships. Sometimes the kind of thing to do is say goodbye. Choosing you and moving on is it’s own kindness. End image text] ✨ #boundaries #relationshipgoals #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #therapy #thehealingcollectiveAL #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #wholeness #healing #healingrelationships #relationships #kindness #heal #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #therapyworks #healingandwhole #sayno #sayingno #thriving #iamhealing #iamwhole https://www.instagram.com/p/CRlmEfGle4f/?utm_medium=tumblr

[b7acksoul]

#healblackwomen

[drdeeknight]

Healthy boundaries help protect the resources that nourish you - your time, energy, attention - all the things you need to pour back into you. It goes beyond limiting others. It’s key to longevity in relationships and keeps us from feeling too depleted to be loving and kind. ✨ [image text: When I set & keep good boundaries, it makes room to love you well...without being angry that you used more of my time, energy, money than I wanted. It keeps you from emptying my vault of things I‘d reserved for me. Self-care requires boundaries. Kindness requires boundaries. End image text.] ✨ #boundaries #kindness #settingboundaries #burnoutprevention #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #wholeness #healing #peace #burnout #thehealingcollectiveAL #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #healingrelationships #relationships #boundariesarebeautiful #heal #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #boundariesarehealthy #healingandwhole #sayno #sayingno #thriving https://www.instagram.com/p/CRoSEpzl7Li/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

Research shows 95-98% of our thoughts are repetitive. There’s some story you’re telling yourself over and over again. Begin to write it down, begin to speak it aloud so you no longer have to question whose voice you’re listening to. Get to know your own voice and your own story. Get to know the real you and who you hope to be. Knowing and reshaping the stories we tell ourselves is the birthplace of change and the gateway to the story we most want to live out. ✨ [image text: Pay attention to the stories you tell yourself. What are the common themes you rehearse? We need to remind ourselves what it is to focus on joy, what it is to expect peace and experience love. End image text.] ✨ #payattentiontoyourthoughts #knowyourstory #listentoyourself #listentoyourheart #healingthroughstorytelling #healingincommunity #storyteller #shareyourstory #healingcommunity #naming #healingwork #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #storytelling #therapistsofinstagram #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #wholeness #thriving #storytellers #youarewhole #tellyourstory #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #iamhealing #iamwhole #OutOfTheDarknessBook #whatisyourstory #whatsyourstory https://www.instagram.com/p/CXZEUVclt14/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

Your story is for YOU and those who will be set free by it. Fall in love with your own story. Write it, share it, own it fully. Do not be afraid to rewrite it, even. It is yours! ✨ [image text: Currently managing the tension of writing abt people who are still within earshot. People who will no doubt read my words and disagree. Let people disagree. Their story is their business. Your story is yours. Write, and share, and fall in love with your own story and life. End image text]. ✨ #OutOfTheDarknessBook #shareyourstory #healingthroughstorytelling #healingincommunity #loveyourstory #liveyourlife #bravery #healingcommunity #naming #healingwork #blackmentalhealth #journalingcommunity #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #tellyourstory #therapistsofinstagram #yourstoryisntoveryet #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #yourstory #yourstorymatters #blackpsychologist #wholeness #thriving #healingrelationships #youarewhole #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #iamhealing #iamwhole https://www.instagram.com/p/CUNSsBclqlg/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

Practice telling yourself something new, and true, something lovely. Don’t you deserve that? Each day we get to actively rehearse whatever story we choose to live into. Make it a good one. ✨ [Image text: It’s time to stop inheriting stories you no longer want. It’s time to write a new story, tell a new story. Pay attention to the stories you tell yourself. End image text] ✨ #OutOfTheDarknessBook #shareyourstory #healingthroughstorytelling #healingincommunity #storyteller #bravery #healingcommunity #naming #healingwork #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #storytelling #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #wholeness #thriving #storytellers #youarewhole #tellyourstory #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #iamhealing #iamwhole https://www.instagram.com/p/CT4ynb4FjOP/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

It is ok to need your mental health and peace more than you need your family’s approval more than you need anyone’s permission. It’s ok to choose you, even if others aren’t used to it, even if *you* aren’t used to it. Get used to it. It’s ok to prioritize your pleasure and joy. ✨ [image text: It’s ok to prioritize your mental health over your job, over your parents, over your partners, over your previous plans. It’s ok to change your mind abt what matters most. End image text]. ✨ #selfcare #giveyourselfpermission #prioritizeyourself #selflove #selfcaretips #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #healing #boundaries #thehealingcollectiveAL #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #wholeness #relationships #healingrelationships #youarewhole #worthiness #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #peace #healingandwhole #youareworthy #iamhealing #adultpermissionslips https://www.instagram.com/p/CTm5K4flaOQ/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

There are words for your pain, and others have dared to name it. We all want to know we are not alone in our heartache and likewise not alone in our healing of it. We are so wired for connection, in good times and bad, and this is how we’ll make it through. Together. ✨ [image text: Research shows misery does not just love company. Misery loves miserable company. We want to connect around our common sufferings. It creates meaning beyond language to know our sorrow is not unknown, to discover there are words for our pain and others have dared to name it. End image text] ✨ #OutOfTheDarknessBook #shareyourstory #together #healingthroughstorytelling #healingincommunity #relationships #healingcommunity #naming #healingwork #healingcommunities #communityhealing #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #storytelling #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #wholeness #thriving #healingrelationships #youarewhole #tellyourstory #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #iamhealing #iamwhole https://www.instagram.com/p/CTfBEPbH0ZN/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

All healing takes courage. Even if you never share it, all healing takes courage. Yet, some traumas go unhealed as long as they go unnamed. There is so much power in naming, a thing, even if it first comes as a whisper. 5 things you can do if you can’t yet speak your story: 1. Type it up 2. Write it out 3. Make art about it 4. Describe any portion of it 5. Imagine saying parts aloud Even considering these things is brave work. ✨ [image text: Naming our trauma gives it a shape, a form, an outline, a boundary, so the pain no longer has to spill into every aspect of our lives. For example, (the statement,) “I was abused” inherently has the boundary of time. “Was.” (is) in the past. End image text] ✨ #OutOfTheDarknessBook#shareyourstory #healingthroughstorytelling #healingincommunity #relationships #bravery #healingcommunity #naming #healingwork #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #wholeness #thriving #healingrelationships #youarewhole #tellyourstory #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #iamhealing #iamwhole https://www.instagram.com/p/CTXSX74F7Yd/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

Closure can be: honoring who you’ve become and how you’ve grown. Celebrating what IS, not just how you wanted things to be. Sometimes the only closure you’ll get is knowing you’re living fully, being present, showing up. And that will be enough. ✨ [image text: You can’t always get closure, but you can choose rest. You can choose peace. Sometimes closure is the repeated choice to be ok with how your story IS. Not how you wished it was. Not how you hope it’ll be. Sometimes closure is just being true to what is.] ✨ #OutOfTheDarknessBook#closure #sayinggoodbye #endingsbeginnings #relationships #healing #forgiveness #freedom #healingwork #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #wholeness #thriving #healingrelationships #youarewhole #sayinggoodbyeishard #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #iamhealing #iamwhole https://www.instagram.com/p/CTUzNLQljZ8/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

The space carved out for my soul to flourish is sacred, and I will treat it as such. Not everyone needs access to the healed you. Not everyone will regard your wholeness as holy. I revere the work that's been done to love me fully, to belong to me completely. I pray you all know you are worthy of this deep, abiding peace and that you don't allow anyone or anything to erode it. It is yours. ✨ [image text: Some old situations don’t deserve the new you. Some places of chaos truly don’t deserve the you that’s finally found peace. As much as you’ve worked to be free, stay free. ✨ end image text] ✨ #boundaries #relationships #healing #forgiveness #worthiness #thewholeyou #healingwork #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #wholeness #thriving #healingrelationships #youarewhole #worthy #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #healingandwhole #youareworthy #iamhealing #iamwhole https://www.instagram.com/p/CTSBHIxFVYn/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

Many situations can wait on a more rested you. We rush and push ourselves to go harder when what we need is softer, gentler, kinder. What we need is rest, which takes so much courage, so much faith that while you’re resting, things will work out, that while you’re doing the brave work of caring for you, your dreams are still on track, that self-compassion is part of the work, that a whole, rested, integrated you is one of the goals. ✨ [image text: Give yourself permission to not push through, to not solve problems, to not fix anything at all. Give yourself permission to just be. Many situations can wait on a more rested you. Give yourself permission to wait, permission to rest. ✨ end image text]. ✨ #selfcompassion #kindness #doingthework #burnoutprevention #giveyourselfpermission #thehealingcollective #wholeness #healing #peace #burnout #thehealingcollectiveAL #justbe #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #healingrelationships #rest #compassion #heal #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #giveyourselfgrace #healingandwhole #boundaries #compassionate #thriving https://www.instagram.com/p/CTNeL6Jl8Q0/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

I am for freedom, and kindness, and healing, and joy, and the road to those can differ for each of us but boundaries cut through every single path. We can’t keep those things –the joy, the freedom, the kindness– without the authenticity boundaries requires and the protection of peace boundaries provide. Anyhow, this was a response to a friend’s tweet seen in the second image. ✨ [image text: Setting and keeping boundaries is one of the kindest things I do. I wouldn’t have room for kindness if loose boundaries caused me to be or stay depleted. If my yes is kindness to you, but violence to me, it is not kindness. Often, “No” is kindness. Often, goodbye is kindness. Image 2: Kindness does not equal being a doormat. I wish more people understood that you can be patient, compassionate, and kind and still have strong boundaries. End image text.] #boundaries #kindness #settingboundaries #burnoutprevention #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #wholeness #healing #peace #burnout #thehealingcollectiveAL #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #healingrelationships #relationships #boundariesarebeautiful #heal #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #boundariesarehealthy #healingandwhole #sayno #sayingno #thriving https://www.instagram.com/p/CSp-ATdDJb4/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

Let your healing be for you. You owe it to you and no one else. You do not have to bare your scars as proof of all your healing. You are healing, and you are worthy. ✨ [Image number 1 text: You don’t have to give people access to you. You don’t have to prove to anyone that you’re doing the work of healing. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what healing costs you. ✨ image number two text: There are people I’m still forgiving who no longer have access to me. Forgiveness requires good boundaries, and healing often requires good distance. End image text] ✨ #boundaries #relationships #healing #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #therapy #forgiving #thehealingcollectiveAL #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #wholeness #forgiveness #healingrelationships #youarewhole #worthiness #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #therapyworks #healingandwhole #youareworthy #thriving #iamhealing #iamwhole https://www.instagram.com/p/CSEkk0Gno6R/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drdeeknight]

You may not even like how it feels at first. Give yourself and others time to adjust to the you who sets limits and anticipates peace. ✨ [Image text: People disliking your boundaries is NORMAL. Keep setting them. Rabbits dislike fences around your garden. Doesn’t make them bad rabbits. Doesn’t mean you dismantle the fences. Let people get used to the you that values your garden. End image text] #boundaries #peace #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #therapy #setboundaries #therapistsofinstagram #blacktherapist #blacktherapists #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychology #clinicalpsychologist #blackpsychologist #wholeness #healing #healingrelationships #relationships #worthiness #heal #healblackmanheal #healblackwomen #therapyworks #healingandwhole #sayno #sayingno #thriving #iamhealing #iamwhole https://www.instagram.com/p/CRgcdEHlgxm/?utm_medium=tumblr