#he makes me so dysphoric
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the real tragedy is that i dont look like him
#its not fair hes so#argshhhhh#gender envy#he makes me so dysphoric#mac macdonald#rob mcelhenney#iasip#sorry for the photo dump#am i sorry? no.. but still
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NO MORE ASSOCIATING THINGS WITH FEMMES ONLY BECAUSE THEY ARE PINK!HYPERFEM FEMMES ARE GREAT AND I LOVE YOU CAMPY FEMMES WHO EMBODY PINK BUT ALSO JESUS CHRIST CAN YOU GUYS NOT GO MORE THAN ONE DAY W/O TRYING TO SHOEHORN FEMMES INTO BEING ONLY PINK UWU BABIES. I AM FEMME AS IN GRASS AS IN DIRT AS IN TREE BARK AS IN WEEDS SPROUTING THROUGH THE SIDEWALK CEMENT. FEMME AS IN GENDER NONCONFORMITY AS IN FUCK YOU MY FEMININITY IS WHAT *I* SAY IT IS. FEMME AS IN DEPTH AND DARKNESS AND WARMTH AND TERROR. FEMME AS IN CAVES. FEMME AS IN LIGHTNING. FEMME AS IN AN AMALGAMATION OF TRAITS THAT I HAVE DECIDED ARE FEMININE REGARDLESS OF WHAT SOCIETY SAYS. FUCK IS IT THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND?!???
#personal#i am emotional yes#over the years ive had this blog I've made a few posts abt being femme#nd whether they're serious or jokey..... inevitably someone in the tags goes “ohhh yeah bc pink”#or in the case of what inspired this post: someone going “what about the pink ones” on my praying mantis post#and im just.#sick of it. im sick of femme being equated to pink and frilly girlie behaviors.#im sick of femme being equated to skirts and heels. to makeup. to skincare. to pristine nails exactly almond shaped.#im sick of ppl acting like All femmes aspire to this shit. im sick of femms being reduced to this shit.#and i love pink! i love pink! my phone theme is quite literally just black and pink all over.#im just. so tired of any expression of Femme identity being shoehorned into being a Specific type of femininity#especially as someone who DOES get dysphoric wearing skirts. wearing dresses. embodying the femme aesthetic yall are so set on making#if u guys wanna rb this i truly dont care#i just needed to scream#and this is one small thing#but the 2nd largest category of anon hate i have gotten since making this blog is str8 up homophobia from other “queer” folks#saying i cant be femme bc of how i present. calling me slurs (and using them as such) bc they cant understand femme as anything but that#my wife and i have our users in our personal discord server set as 2 different things of anon hate ive gotten#i have had OTHER FEMMES tell me i am not femme. femmes who Know im femme who still call me butch. femmes who ive corrected and been blocked#-by bc of it. the number 1 largest demographic of queerfolk who have me blocked rn is TME femmes who embody pink also#and i dont think its a coincidence at all. (and i know this bc i go to try and follow these ppl bc they get rbed on my dash & i cant)#and ik their blogs arent deleted bc some of them don't block my wife (tall. white. butch) and it cant be politics cause her and i rb#a lot of the same political shit (fuck. i think she rbs More than i do even. this is genuinely mainly a nsft blog)#and usually i don't say anything but im having a bad day so i get to be angry about this and if anyone fucking tries me i will block u#idc if we've been mutuals 4ever. im judt so tired of feeling like i am not Enough as a femme bc i dont embody this shit#im sick of this lameass lip service to he/him gnc femmes etc when the thin white 50s housewife femme is still what is preferred and loved#im sick of this lamesss lip service when y'all feel entitled to theorizing on other femmes genders bc u cant conceptualize a femme who does#wanna be hypetfeminine. im sick of it. im sick of it. im sick of it.#celebrity bun
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Man finished! I rate him a solid very cute out of ten.
This guy was published as a doily insert plus edging for a linen table cloth (seen Here). The linen part was of zero interest to me so I knit him as a stand alone doily and I very much prefer him as such. Chart A (the "doily") and Chart B (the "edging") match up for knitting in the round as a single doily.
Below the read more is going to refer a lot to the charts, which I got from the amazing Ramona French. While this is the only version of the charts I've seen, looking at the Rav page it seems to also be cut into A and B charts in the same spot. It makes sense in context of the original pattern but I don't like it, both for the reason i'll get to below and also because I straight up just don't like how it looks in the original pattern.
Even without the alterations I'll propose, I think he's a good doily just as he is. The problems I have are barely noticeable/nitpicky now that he's blocked out.
Starting with the edging vs doily distinction. This problem starts with the original pattern since it has you knit chart A for the insertion and chart B for the edging around every insertion and the linen tablecloth edges. But divorcing the actual charts from the linen, the charts really should be rows 1-31 of A as the "doily" and Chart A rows 33-41 and all of chart B for the "edging". The reason I'm so specific about this is because it's focus for any changes I would make. The end of chart A and the beginning of chart B flow together perfectly. It's where the doily/center flower ends (Row 31) and the edging begins (Row 33) that is the problem spot.
(I should've picked a darker colour foam to block this out on, sorry if it's hard to see)
The large center petals (doily) end with a yo, twisted knit 1, yo at the very tip. Then the set up row for the edging is all knits with a yarn over... that is off center of the petal. In a more personal gripe, I don't like how the mesh in the flower portion looks next to the edging. It's not bad (and would probably bother me less if it weren't off center) but it's not my favourite.
The mesh not looking nice next to the edging is an easy fix that comes directly from a doily that has a very similar feel to this one. Sechsblatt is another doily I've knit and also has a 6 petaled flower with mesh between the petals and an edging, but it's edging is separated by several rows of plain stockinette. In my revised chart I added just one odd numbered row of stockinette. I'm not 100% on this change, it's something that you just can't know if it looks good until it's swatched out.
The change I am 100% on is centering the yarn over to be directly above the tip of the center flower petal. There's a number of ways to do so, I'm honestly surprised it wasn't done for the original pattern. My revised chart moves the k2tog on row 35 to directly over the center stitch of the petal, which required moving the start of the repeat one stitch left. This also needs swatched out but I'm fairly confident it'll line up, at least better that just being blatantly off center like it is in the original, and since the k2tog was just moved instead of being added, the stitch count should still work out.
All other changes to the chart were simply made for personal preference/printing convenience.
Eventually I'll knit this revised version but I don't have a timeline on that yet, knitting the same thing multiple times is bad for my attention span. Regardless I would wait because I want to see how the crochet bind off holds up. I usually pin out every chain of the crochet bind out individually but I thought pinning two together looked really good on this particular doily. It made the blocking process a lot tighter. That could've been because I accidentally stretched it too much in the first place (I forgot this doily was 6 parts instead of 8) but it was incredibly funny to behold.
#knitting#knitblr#lace rot#lace knitting#doily#project: doily 13#he's so pretty ahhh!!#i'm minorly obsessed with his edging. i think it would look so pretty at like the edge of a skirt or cuffs or something#i'll have to come up with something to use it on that isn't so femme to make me dysphoric.#or i'll just add it to the edge of a shawl that i already don't intend to wear lmao
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i keep trying to uninstall gender but society keeps forcing mandatory updates that won't let me completely remove the program from my device, so instead i have to settle for just going into settings and removing all permissions & silencing notifications regularly. wish there was an Opt Out button. this gender shit starting to feel like tumblr live & i just gotta keep snoozing it weekly for the rest of my life
#coming out to new coworkers and the results have been overwhelmingly more positive than my last job!#prev job just. ignored my pronouns & refused to acknowledge my transness at all#present job i got abt 50/50 'oh ok cool' & 'oh ok cool but this is v new to me so please be patient if i mess it up'#there's clearly some people who read me as a cis man and it's v hard for them to think of me as anything else#& i'm like bro i'm just a person with a body don't think too hard about it#anyways in this metaphor the computer keeps defaulting me to male as the closest approximation#and i just have to keep reminding it that my man-shaped camouflage is just a performance#there's no gender underneath it's just me#being he/him'd doesn't make me dysphoric im just like 'yeah i guess that's an easy mistake to make. carry on'#like i did spend 10+ yrs & thousands of $ to ensure when ppl inevitably gender me (as most can't help doing subconsciously) they lean masc#so it's not wrong per se#but it doesn't give me the euphoria/relief/comfort of just. not being gendered at all.#ctxt#meatsuit renno
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things that make me lose all my happy mood: entering the bus all happy saying "hello good morning :)" and getting hit with "hi lady :)"
#im glad youre happy too bus driver but i aint a lady 😔#ive been already feeling a little dysphoric this days so this is making it WORSEEE#let me 💔 the little silly guy/male/he/him 💔 wear shorts and tshirts and messy hair without being called she/her 💔
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the idea of summer got so much more freeing when i realized i can wear whatever i want. like i can be trans and wear a v-cut flower print bikini. i can be trans and wear board shorts and a t shirt. i can be naturally hairy, or i can trim, or i can shave it all off. literally it doesn't matter. do whatever you want forever. happy summer everybody
#me making two personal posts two days in a row? unheard of#nonbinary#trans#transgender#trans tag#queer stuff#theo.txt#this post brought to you by i just bought a bikini and didn't feel dysphoric or bad because i realized this past year my body is my body and#has no bearing on the validity or veracity of my identity.#sorry to bring out the big words but you know i mean#so i can wear that cute 'womens' swimsuit and still want to be called he/him sometimes. maybe even while in the suit#i love having weird gender. great experience would recommend ❤️
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god i hate everyone
#who thought it would be cute to immediately start ribbing me about how hairy and bald and ugly im gonna be when i go on t#one. im taking minoxidil. two. i wanna be hairy. and three. im not transitioning to attract you guys im transitioning to attract other trans#people! other trans guys find it hot come on!#like ok so dads brother is out here rn right#so first mom tells me hes gonna ask me questions about being trans. ok fine.#second she starts going on about how i had to be emotionally vulnerable with like 3 different therapists for this. whatever.#then when i start participating in the conversation she immediately asks “so how are you feeling about losing all your hair”#THEN she has the audacity to say to my uncle “yeah its sort of a gamble hes either gonna end up hairy like the italian side or fairly#baby smooth like yall“ when she fucking KNOWS that im dysphoric about my lack of body hair#and this happens every time! and its out of nowhere constantly!#all the while the cis men in the room are fucking bullying me with all this toxic masculinity bullshit!#sometimes i just wish i had never come out is all im saying#kept this a secret until i became an adult yknow. yeah i would have to do everything myself but it wouldn't be like this#just because i told you that you could call me a fag doesnt mean youre suddenly allowed to do microagressions constantly#shes tickled to fucking death with calling my future bottom growth my “teenie weenie” what the fuck! what the fuck!!!#and meanwhile every time i try to say words or make a joke my dad and grandpa jump on the fucking opportunity to correct me! or cut me off!#sorry im fucking exhausted i barely slept at all the night before last and got i think maybe 7 hours of sleep at most last night#and i just got out of therapy which always wears me out
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❌: My face is angular, but is it too feminine? Are my eyelashes too long? Are my lips too pronounced?
✅: Ooo wee ooh i look just like Baki Hanma
#THEY MAKE HIM PRETTIER WITH EVERY INSTALLMENT. WHAT#Anyways he is so gorgeous and i love when anime characters have actual birthmarks like meeee#Despite the fact that he's built like That i think about baki and actually get less dysphoric instead of more.#Because obviously the physical builds are unrealistic and exaggerated but his facial features are not :] at least not when you are Me#.woof.
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i'm THIS close to just making my pronouns he/it, or just it/its, bcs istg ppl see "prefers it/it but also ok with he/they" & think it's a good excuse to not call me by my "weird" pronouns
people hardly ever use "he" either, bcs i don't pass
like. it/it's my preferred pronouns. he/they is tolerable but over time i'm just going to get annoyed. wait till they hear abt my super secret neopronouns
#a lot of my close friends/ep do refer to be as he/it with more of an emphasis on “it” so that's nice#but a lot of my more casual relationships just stick with they/them. even if they're also lgbtqia+ or genderqueer#at first i was fine with they/them but now its wayyy too ;; eugh#basically everyone 40+ i meet irl will be disgusted if i wanna be called an it or just stick to they/them#istg they/them are the standard nb pronouns that make *some* allies be more comfortable with nbs. if it's anyth other than th#**they/them they get uncomfortable#every time#the number of people i've had lecture me abt why wanting to be called an “it” is bad should be illegal#once someone referenced a book abt child abuse as the reason they won't call me it#cw child abuse mention#once someone compared it to the treatment of the victims of the holocaust#cw genocide mention#LIKE WHAT#eughhh#they/them is highkey starting to make me dysphoric bcs i know the ppl who exclus call me that#just view me as some vaguely nb-identifying girl#i can't wait to get top surgery !!!#lgbtqia#lgbtqia+#transgender#trans#nonbinary#agender#genderless#genderfree#it/its#he/it#neopronouns
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guys not to be a little insane but i danced w this cute guy at my last concert i went to and i found his insta and holy shit yall.
#HES SO CUTE#sorhehrgrgrr#and he travels and likes music#andandband#oudgshshdhrhrgerr#hes older than me though but like#osushshwhdhrhrh#plepapelelasee#im hoping he goes to this next show on saturday cause he was next to me when i asked the band about their shows#guys gsuysgsusy#plelsske gesshehegrrrr#i hate sounding like a boy obsessed teenager girl it makes me so dysphoric but like#grrrr#i would follow him but thags awkward ithink#ugshhrgrrr#yal kill me pleaseeee#hesso cute tho#smh#whatever#if i see him on saturday ill let yall know cause#ough#fingers crossed!!!#ghost talks
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talon's been such a fun oc so far because he's essentially written himself.... thats probably Not Super Great in terms of originality but whatever no idea is original and its been fun to easily piece everything together while getting to know him better ^_^
#talkys#mfw i made him look young and babyfaced even at ''29'' as a reflection of my experience#where ive always looked younger and have had a few instances where people came onto me and actively lamented that i wasnt as young as i#looked. which was scary. since i WAS already young at the time#so there is a reason why talon feels so panicked and sick and dysphoric when he feeds#why he doesn't wear his lipstick and why he wears dirty clothes too big for him#and thats a very Direct. well. trauma does make you feel like a child. and it makes you feel small and weak#what a curse to essentially actually turn into one‚ appearance wise#the disordered eating....etc#*spongebob flying ice cream truck* horrible events happening to ocs and people are not part of the ''fun'' i mentioned in the original post#i feel like it cld come off that way...its not what i meant#oc text#oh i forgot...trauma makes u feel like a child AND it ages u ^_^
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Since y’all liked the first renn faire look I shared how about some photos of the Dykiest Warrior you’ve ever met (and I’m aware that’s probably a high bar) back from when it was Viking week
MEN, MINORS, AND TERFS DNI THIS AINT FOR YOU
#my pics#butch#butch dyke#dyke#butch4femme#Butch4Butch#Butch4All#butch lesbian#he/him lesbian#gnc lesbian#lesbian Viking#is that tag anything?#this makeup was so fun cause I wore makeup every day for like. 8 years straight. then I had gender awakening#and now almost all makeup makes me dysphoric#but this was fun to do!
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i just need to be perceived like a feminine guy without being a guy and actually being a Thing
#can’t tell if i should start telling cis people my pronouns are he/they so they’ll just see me as guy lite#or if that’ll make me feel dysphoric in the opposite direction because i am Not a man
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Really needs to be more exploration on the effects of Gender with johnny getting a hand-me-down of a whole other persons body and all the ways it won't fit him quite right
#IDKKKK THERES JUST A LOT OF FACTORS TO CONSIDER. Theres so much horror for both v and johnny#In both being forced out of your own body/having it change against your will and being forced into a body thats all sorts of wrong#Really i think the game operates mostly on the idea that johnny will inherit a cis male body#And i havent seen too much discussion on like. You know having to inhabit/live through a fem v or trans v#Hell you can take it two paths. Dysphoric Johnny or Johnny discovering Gender LMAO#I prefer the latter in terms of exploration but i can appreciate moments of the first esp when its johnny in a tmale body#I like to think hes a little obtuse cause hes a cis guy himself man it wouldnt be easy to get use to#As a trans person whose been going through my own experiences with dysphoria thats getting better as i transition it makes me think#Esp because iirc johnny in a cisfem v does mention getting a sex change#Maybe im just looking into it too much lol#That pic like me giving my faves period cramps Me giving my faves dysphoria and body horror
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he’s my babygirl
#wei wuxian#wei ying#mdzs#mo dao zu shi#traditional#gonna tag spam bc i have thoughts and nowhere to put them#i'm in love with him lol#he's so pretty and excellent and good and funny#and crucially he's sooo gender#i've seen transfems say that anime girls are like an idealized version of femininity which is why they're so popular in that community#well wwx is an idealized version of whatever my gender is#idealized androgyny#male and masculine but also prettyboy and he plays with gender roles and calls himself lan zhan's wife#i was gonna cut my hair off cuz it's been making me dysphoric lately but now i'm like hm maybe i won't#anyways#my fave drawing is the one of him with a-yuan#he just looks so happy to be a mom
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first time doing freight at my new job and one of the managers goes, “you the new freight person?” and my male coworker from a few aisles over audibly laughs and then says “a woman in freight? (insert name) is not gonna like that” 🙃🔫
#the way it’s a double shot too bc not only does that feel horribly misogynistic but the bitch also misgendered me#honestly i’m more bothered by the misgendering that make me wanna k world myself#idk the way he said it just felt nasty#tldr fuck this job i hate it#yknow what tho i’m not cashiering so ill take it#anyway i feel dysphoric as fuck#silas speaks#trans things#trans#transmasc#misogyny#sexism
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