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I'm sorry but the irony of Nico calling Max unprofessional is sending me so bad like sir there's an entire garage full of people, who were literally in the trenches trying to survive the Brocedes fallout while just doing their jobs, who might have a few things to say about your (& Lewis') level of professionalism at that time 😭✋️
#f1#formula 1#formula one#max verstappen#nico rosberg#lewis hamilton#brocedes#like niki lauda had to try multiple times to literally parent trap them to try and get them on speaking terms it never worked#because one would arrive they'd see the other and the other would leave#& if i remember correctly the garage crew would swap around from race to race as a like see we aren't favouring anybody gesture 😭#and thats no shade to nico because it was both of them contributing to that environment#his comment re max is just making me laugh#like if i was a part of the pr/media team - which is a part of the degree I'm working on irl - at merc that year i would've lost the plot#like its insane reflecting on it nearly a decade later but the poor souls just trying to do their job in the eye of that storm#truly gods strongest soldiers#ngl the professional comment irks me a bit because its not like max is engaging in inappropriate work place behaviour#he's engaging in another aspect of racing that his involvement raises awareness of & that makes racing more accessible#& we all know how inaccessible not only getting into racing is but also to continue to pursue the further along you go#theres so many stories of 1 sibling giving up racing so the other can keep going because the family can't afford for them both to race#its a huge financial strain & we only see a handful of drivers talk about that & try to do something to change it#and nicos fellow sky sports commentators are routinely unprofessional on so many levels#additionally max had a lot of valid reasons to be annoyed at his team today#but alas he's not english so he's ungrateful#i hate that drivers can't criticise their teams or car without immediately being branded as bratty & ungrateful#ESPECIALLY WHEN THEIR JOB IS TO GIVE FEEDBACK#you can see the double standards from sky when say Lando or George have complaints with their team/car v the likes of Max and Yuki#especially Yuki my god the things i would do to get the British media to leave him alone#this was a jokey post at one point and then became a rant whoops lmao#I'll leave it that before i write an actual essay here 😭✋️
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"if we make america worse and more of a dictatorship that will be even harder to unravel and make it the way we want the country to be, maybe then everyone will join our Glorious Revolution!" bb girl you cant even be in the same room with someone who thinks you should vote, how in tf do you think you're gonna unite people to fight in The Revolution with you? it's gonna be you and your 5 friends, i hate to break it to you.
#i dont think you realize how repelling you and your politics are to everyone else#you get all of your validation for how Smart You Are from your friends and ignore any kind of feedback that suggests you should#change or do something differently. thats the only reason you're so convinced average people will go along with you bc you keep getting#affirmation from the people who ALREADY agree with you- but you have NO IDEA how to bridge the gap between people who agree#with you and disagree with you. you're horrible at convincing people of your side of things outside of straight up guilt tripping them#or bullying them like a highschooler. im sorry but the tools you learned to survive with as a kid aren't gonna help you in this situation.#the ONLY THING you can come up with to bridge that gap is a bloody revolution. thats how bad you are at this.#and you're also so bad at this and unimaginative that you dont even realize how THAT might not even be enough.#you cant imagine ANY kind of avenue to getting people to change AT ALL outside of blood and fire. and thats why people call you#an authoritarian.#i'll be honest- i really do think the world would be a better place if we did incremental change under a democratic president who wont#set the world on fire vs the godkingemperor republican WHO WONT EVEN LISTEN TO YOU AT ALL EVER AND MIGHT KILL YOU#FOR PUTTING UP A STINK. idk if you noticed but if that evil fuck gets into office we are severely outnumbered if he gets police#n shit to go after his own citizens. letting trump win is making this battle so much harder than it needs to be.#you are choosing trying to fix the world while its exploding vs trying to fix it before it explodes at all.#what is this like a procrastination thing? you wanna wait till the last minute to try? idfgi. wtf is wrong with you#throwing minority lives away to prove a point. and then you try to tell me you care. gtfoh.#accelerationists should never be taken seriously.
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I just really like him tbh!
#honkai star rail#trailblazer#hes a good boy your honor........ i love him....#VERY stressed right now in my life and i feel like i keep not doing fanart and that stresses me out more?#cause i feel like people would prefer to see fanart on this blog#DESPITE the MANY times that MANY people told me hey man its your blog post what you want#its not that easy for my brain that lives off of validation and appreciation and stuff idk man#i just ............ feel like........... a weird mental obligation to posting fanart#but then im super burnt on fe stuff so i have been dabbling in other fandoms#which i feel is also a disappointment and that makes me feel bad#theres literally no point to these tags im just stressed and getting that out there#gotta go lie on my floor next to my cat bc shes struggling healthwise which im not gonna lie#is the majority of my stress right now
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hi hella I read the first 2 chapters of aftg and this is how it went
ok tbh I was planning on going further than two chapters like I said I'm in a mountain shack rn internet isn't always great and also my dad would prefer that I'm not constantly on my phone so I was SUPPOSED to do more reading. but. tee bee h. I got through 2 chapters and was like oh I'm so fucking bored let me get on tumblr again
okay but your commentary is so fucking funny
#half the things bugging you are making me want to bash my head into a wall bc im like. you cannot even begin to fathom andrew joseph minyard#but then the other half are totally valid points bc alas this series is INSANE so i literally have no right to be here like 'ACTUALLY-'#goddddd i cant do this i quite literally fucking cant#'tf does he mean aaron's mother' THE VOICES THE FUCKING VOICES#book 1 is objectively boring like fuck all actually happens until the last chapter but oh my godddd i want you to keep reading so bad#like one of the best things about how andrew's character was written (NEVER thought id say that. fuck you nora)#is that we dont actually understand WHY he's like that until like. a good way through book 2 and we're still figuring it out by book 3#like his backstory is ripped from his bloody hands piece by torturous piece while he actively tries to bite the reader#esp bc he does not catch a fucking break. like it's not past-tense 'this is why he's like this'. bad shit continues to happen#so book 1 andrew just does not even compare to the full picture like i want you to know him SO BAD#but i also totally understand the desire to Not Want To Read These Godforsaken Books#im in PURGATORY#ask#aftg
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It's less about the ship itself and more about them hating Aang tbh
Do I hate Aang? Absolutely not, that’s my boy. Do I hate Aang as a genuine 100% endgame presented as they are love interest for Katara? …yeah sorry
#ok first of all keep in mind last time I watched the whole show was like 2020 lmao BUT#I know he very much did mature especially in s3 but it still wasn’t enough for me to buy Katara’s sudden interest in him tbh#and there’s a great video that points out how the Kataang scenes toward the end of s3#like the back half of the season except for the very last kiss#just don’t really make sense for them to get together bc they’re fighting the whole time?#meanwhile zutara are having a fantastic enemies to friends arc bonding getting hit with lightning for each other etc#also yeah I’ll say it they’re red/blue fire/water good girl/bad boy AND I CAN AND WILL EAT IT UP IDC#IT IS MORE THAN THOSE THINGS BUT THEY’RE A NICE BONUS#anyway some of the stans are insane though so you’re valid ahdkah#my post#ask#jake <3#atla
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Why do you care about Vader's feelings so much? He doesn't deserve dignity. I hope Lucasfilm makes a story where he's captured by the Rebellion and brutally tortured until he's crying for Shmi. They'll use force suppressing devices and make him feel like the worthless slave he is
I care because Star Wars is primarily Anakin’s story, whether you like it or not. I care because Luke’s entire character arc in the OT films is pointless if Obi-Wan Kenobi and Yoda were always meant to be the perfect mentors, who did nothing wrong. I care, not just about Anakin’s feelings, but the feelings of every other Jedi recruit who had serious issues with the way the old Jedi Order and Republic operated.
I care, because if the Jedi are supposed to be the good guys, in spite of their flaws, then we should ultimately be rooting for them to rise again with Luke Skywalker. Because Anakin’s arc and feelings in the prequels are no longer treated as valid in the Disney era of Star Wars, that means Obi-Wan and Yoda are treated as being completely right all along, and the new Jedi Order cannot grow with Luke Skywalker in the current canon. The same bad choices and mistakes keep being made in the current canon because he follows his blatantly misguided predecessors, which was not implied at the end of the OT movies at all. While I would never agree that mass murder/genocide is the answer to deal with stopping them, because the current canon narrative ignores all the serious issues Anakin and his predecessors had, at least in part, because of the blatant corruption within the Order and Republic they grew up amongst, I’m also not too thrilled that Luke rebuilt the Order because he’s repeating all of their misguided choices and practices in current canon as a result.
#anti disney star wars#Star Wars anon#why do I care about Anakin’s feelings?#because the current canon writers chose not to treat the criticisms and issues that others had with the old Jedi and republic as valid#and as a result it’s not really a triumph for Luke to have rebuilt the Jedi order in canon#because he’s just a carbon copy of obi wan and Yoda in Disney wars#so he keeps making the same mistakes and the Order fails again#except now it’s not really a tragedy anymore but a disappointment#because we were previously given the impression that luke was supposed to know better than his predecessors#since he got the healthy childhood and upbringing that they never did before becoming a Jedi#anakin skywalker#darth vader#luke skywalker#obi wan kenobi critical#yoda critical#I mean it’s not really me being against their characters#they are canonically deeply flawed#but because Disney refuses to acknowledge that Anakin and many of their recruits had valid issues with their treatment in the order#there is no longer a point in Anakin dying and Luke rebuilding it because he just goes on to make the same mistakes#it doesn’t mean they ever deserved mass murder to be stopped or eliminated#but why should I be rooting for Luke to rebuild the Order when it has all the same issues as the one that helped fuck up his father?#pt star wars#ot star wars#jedi council fuckery
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can we talk about the meep’s pronouns moment in the star beast again? i want to talk about the way it’s set up. in any other show, this would have been a joke. it would have been, “oh, look at this trans person getting so up in arms about the doctor assuming this alien’s pronouns. isn’t that an insane thing to care about?” and then that would be where it ended, the entire point being that asking for pronouns is ridiculous, that a trans person pointing it out is ridiculous, and we should be laughing at Rose for bringing it up.
but. it’s not. Rose says, “You’re assuming he as a pronoun?” in a tone of voice that, to me, at least, reads as someone who has been in this situation many, many times before and been laughed at for caring. who has been the butt of that joke. who starts this dialogue off from a defensive position because every time before she’s ever asked in earnest, she’s been shut down.
and then the Doctor says, “True. Yes. Sorry. Good point. Are you he or she or they?” The Doctor acknowledges Rose’s point, apologizes for glossing over it, and makes an effort to ask. Hell, the moment is even used to set up the Doctor connecting to the Meep more like he will when the Meep mentions having two hearts; they both share “the” as a pronoun as a pronoun.
(and I’m reading through the transcript right now to check, but as far as I can tell, yeah. The Doctor does then use “The Meep” to refer to the Meep for the rest of the episode, not any other pronoun.)
It’s a very brief moment, but it feels intentionally made to invoke those jokes, to take them and say, ‘no, why would this be a joke, we’ll take it seriously.’ Expectations subverted brilliantly. The Doctor says trans rights.
#it’s a good moment! this episode is not perfect by any means. esp the bit at the end where we go from ‘well the doctor is male and female#neither and more.’ to ‘a male-presenting doctor would Not get this :/‘ like. okay.#but i think there’s a genuine effort here that’s lovely and earnest. a fumble or two is acceptable in an attempt to do good you know?#but yeah this moment is a very good short little moment and i love it and i love rose noble#i love how quickly the doctor turns to her and takes her seriously. i love that her question is immediately validated. i love her.#also i dont know when else ill get to talk about this but i love that ‘the’ is canonically one of the doctor’s pronouns.#ive seen some people say ‘well why do they put that line in and people keep calling the doctor ‘he’?’ and i think like. because he uses more#than just the one? i really dont think the doctor would just sit down and shut up if she was really upset about being misgendered. have u#seen her. 90% of her character is talking. he would make it known immediately.#it just seemed clear to me that this was the doctor acknowledging that they use more than the usual set. and that’s why im petition for#xe/xem doctor in the next season-#(or…. or it/its doctor……….. ouguh 🥺)#anyway point is that the doctor has many a pronoun and one of them is just ‘the doctor’.#doctor who#rose noble#fourteenth doctor#the doctor
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lonan and harrison have been having the same argument going in circles for 2300 words SOMEONE SAVE ME
#it's bc I keep messing up the flow and restarting it LMAOOO#GETTING OUT OF HERE NOW THO LIKE YALL AREN'T EVEN MAD AT EACH OTHER YOU'RE JUST RIGHTFULLY STRESSED IN YOUR OWN WAYS#but can you imagine being trapped in a room for 2300 words while lonan and harrison argue#and it's been THREE DAYS OF WRITING THIS#THAT'S BEEN MY LIFE!!!!!!#honestly it's mostly harrison arguing LOL every time he makes a valid point i'm like ooooh
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Reason #???? Why Iruma is great,
They take the whole trope of a character choosing not to tell others about a thing only to later be shamed for it and treated like it’s a bad thing and chuck it out the window.
Instead saying that it is perfectly alright not to tell everyone (yes even your closest friends) everything. You’re allowed your secrets and being respected for that choice.
That being friends can mean both being able to tell them anything you want/need to but also equally means being able to feel comfortable not having to share in everything and keep secrets.
Which is especially important given a big part of the series is our main character Iruma dealing with having to keep the big secret that he’s actually human and not a demon (and being terrified of what may happen should they find out)
Which comes to conflict when he starts to consider should he tell his friends the truth? Leading to him having a talk with Azz’s mom who basically questions and brings up the whole idea of ‘is a friend someone you HAVE to tell everything too?’
Some good shit right here.
#like I get the point that at least sometimes when written wanting to get across by keeping X thing secret how it say ended up hurting others#or at least feel hurt by it#which is valid but also just gets irritating how it also like always ends up painting the other in the wrong even if there was a valid reaso#but not here#like sure I could still see one of the characters comment on how they wished they'd been told sooner but would never#harp on them for it and still be understanding as to why they did it#m!ik#irumakun#like I can imagine even if they were to feel a bit down or upset at not being told sooner 100% Clara n Azz wouldn't be mad#(if anything Azz at least might be more mad at himself for how could he have not realized these things sooner maybe hecould have been-#a btter help to master Iruma or something)#but they'd for sure just be glad to that they know now and he felt he could tell them#-and just Nishi's general writing style even if she did write a moment of character reveals a secret upsetting B#I'm sure she could write it in away that'd 1 still subvert expectations 2 over all makes sense in context and for whoever is involved#and also likely wouldn't drag it out the conflict part#or something idk
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I think if they were to bring joker junior into the main thing it should be Duke
#like I keep seeing TikTok’s abt ppl wanting jj in main cont rn#and I generally disagree#mainly bc the tim Drake in the animated series was just Jason Todd with a new name#and I refuse to give him any more validity as ‘tim Drake’#or attribute anything he does or has gone through to Tim Drake#but that’s besides the point#IF they did do it I think it’d be a neat Duke plotline#like dukes entire character has been him being sure of who he is (or at least who he wants to be) and continuing to fight despite the odds#like his character has been about hope not just for himself but for others#I think a joker junior type plotline would fuck him up (lovingly)#and make him stronger yknow 😄 some character building#especially since it’s damn near the same trauma his parents went through#and idk I’m glad jokers dying down but he’s lost a lot of his oomph lately#which I am all for but IF they wanna bring him back as a big deal there we go#and that’s all my opinion actually#I think the last thing I read was the signal#I’m working through green arrow rn so if I joker did do some fucked up shit lately idk man#anyways yeah 😸#also I think it should be jason that finds him#and we can bring some steel back to him to I’m sick of those funky ass crowbars#fym Jason doesn’t kill anymore 💀#matter of fact jason should find Duke and kill joker#that’s 3 birds in one stone#for me personally#but neways
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Hi! Huge fan of your fics, kinda new to Tumblr. Do you ship any of the engines (if you don’t mind me asking?)
Hey, thanks for dropping a line!
I was a non-shipper for quite a while, then I started dabbling. I'm open to lots of different (and conflicting) ships but some of the ones that I'm most committed to are:
Thomas/Bertie
Edward/BoCo
Henry/Bear
Percy/Harold
Duck/Donald
Douglas/Toad/Oliver
Mavis/Salty
Also, if you trawl my archives long enough, you’ll see occasional references to Toby/Diesel and James/Porter. And you might wonder: Wait, are they f***in' serious? The official answer is that the former is just for a lark (specifically, for a dare)… but the latter I am indeed pretty serious about. ;)
#unless i'm choosing instead to interpret james as. like. diesel-sexual. and in denial about it.#actually no matter what i tend to see james as just having no idea how to handle feelings for another engine#(this makes 'old iron' so much more fun to read but. like. i actually think it's more interesting if james/edward is not endgame.)#(and it takes james several more decades to grow to the point of not simply torching a relationship whenever he is beset with a crush.)#(... and to me that's where porter comes in lol.)#(coz usually james is the confused and confusing pursuer. and it's weirdly healthy for him to have a cool new yorker pursue *him* instead#but in like a pokerfaced and noncommittal way. and james is the one driven insane for a change.)#also toby/henrietta is super valid ofc and usually i favor it#but sometimes i honestly list instead towards henrietta/elsie and toby is just. like. their gay best friend#(whom they are CONSTANTLY trying to set up with another engine. (but they have the most shite taste.))#aw fork i was so proud of keeping this response short and sweet and now look at what i'm doing to the tags#thanks nonny!#i would love if you shared your own fave ships#chatter#ttte shipping
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Do you think the fandom is too hard on Sky?
Mmm, no and yes?
I think people have a lot of good reasons to hate or just kinda dislike Sky. Even if you ignore the Diaspro situation, he has a lot of moments where he just... isn't great (to say the absolute least). Spying on Bloom, immediately assuming she's going to cheat or leave him, directly saying she can't hang out with other guys, implying that he can't trust Brandon, making fun of Stella, literally everything he says to Riven. And I mean that's like the major stuff off the top of my head yknow? Sky just isn't a great person and while he does get called out, it's never in a way that would actually make him change his behavior.
However, I think people also exaggerate his actions and intentions a lot. Instead of recognizing that Sky has practically no control over his life and that he couldn't just break up with Diaspro or tell Bloom the truth, a lot of people make him out to be some serial cheater that always intended to cheat on Diaspro or lie to random girls about his identity. Or when people think he's the worst friend ever because he occasionally doesn't trust people when his entire life he's been at risk of assassination and people getting close to him to yknow. kill him. Like no, implying that Brandon is a spy or that Riven wants to murder people isn't cool. But he's also only like that because there's a history of people trying to kill him, not because he just hates everyone.
Listen, I'm not saying that Sky is a good person or that his actions are justified OR that he's a horrible person who deserves a shit ton of hate. But I think the fandom in general tends to go with very absolutist claims when it comes to Sky. It's either he's the worst character ever and deserves to die or he's a misunderstood baby who's better than Riven. It's literally always one of those two - no in between. Imo, there are reasons to dislike Sky but the fandom also heavily exaggerates the reasons and makes him out to be much worse than he actually is. And on the other side, it's also annoying when people completely ignore all of his faults just to make him look better. He's just as complex and nuanced as the rest of the characters and acting like he's either 100% Evil or 100% Innocent is never fun (for him or any other character).
(i didn't really know how to fit this in but I think a lot of sky discourse also comes from riven stans which makes the situation so much worse. like it's never a fun discussion or debate, it's always just "well he was mean to riven so he deserves to die actually" which then makes riven antis foam at the mouth so they start to defend sky Exclusively to make riven look bad, not because they actually like sky. it's a mess man)
General disclaimer that this is just my opinion and I'm not trying to force it on anyone and it's fine if you disagree.
#disclaimer because whenever i post about sky someone gets pissy#i do think a major difference between sky and riven is that riven had a much more noticeable and impactful arc#we actually saw him being an ass. getting called out. And then trying to be a better person on his own#he got an entire subplot for his journey that didnt immediately get flushed in the next season (later seasons barred)#meanwhile skys arc directly involved bloom and it was never him wanting to be a better person on his own#it was always in conjunction with her and that made any progress seem shallow at best#and then they didnt really keep any of it in! even in the early seasons he got reset to continue skoom drama#and then add on that a lot of people just dont like skoom in general aljdghljadg#anyway there are tons of valid reasons to hate him but most of them get exaggerated to a point where its not even him anymore#so like. no and yes! because the hate is justified its just also exaggerated#which makes it hard to have a productive debate about him because its always either He Should Die or He's The Best#answered#anonymous#honestly it kind of reminds of bloom discourse!#like its always either she's the best character ever or she's a horrible mary sue who hates her friends#and like.. embarrassing
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i may get shot for this but personally i dont think theres really anything wrong with death note's female characters
#the worst thing is rlly just that there arent that many of them. but i dont think thats like unforgivable#i like misa and i think shes a great character. i keep seeing ppl being like she deserved better i wish she had better writing etc#and thats valid but also i. dont ger that at all personally. i think shes a really good character imo#like yeah shes sort of a stereotypical The Girl but thats not like inherently a bad thing. girls like that exist#and like yes her whole thing is she only wants to be of service to light. but like.... thats ADDRESSED. its treated as a bad thing#it'd be bad if her only purpose was to serve light and that was just not addressed. but thats like the whole point of her character that#it sucks that she thinks thats all shes worth and that she has to encounter light who only plays into that and makes it worse#to the point of her being completely dependent on him and killing herself once hes dead#shes a tragedy. that if she hadnt met light she wouldve probably survived and might have been able to work past her issues#but light fucked all that up#i think thats super interesting and cool and like yeah shes not the greatest character ever#but idk i dont get that complaint. her only purpose being to serve light is the whole point. its viewed as a bad thing#BTW THIS IS NOT ME DEFENDING THE AUTHOR. i know one of his later works has some extremely blatant and awful sexism in it FUCK HIM!#but idk with death note specifically. in a void apart from its author#i think the few female characters it has are fine. idk#serena.txt
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just rejected a man, feeling good
#song rambles#so this guy who i’m kind of pals with#who i’m just generally nice to right? like i’m nice to everyone which is apparently inviting#and i don’t know when people are flirting with me#so i get this text from him today that says ‘would you like to go out sometime?’#and my oblivious ass who is autistic and asexual is like: i don’t know if he is asking me out or not#so i find my friends who are immediately like: yes that is asking you out#and i’m like: oh fuck i DO NOT like him like that#i am fully bisexual leaning towards women at this point except for ONE MAN who i keep falling for who is not him#and also i just don’t like him like that which is a valid excuse#but we are in activities together that are like#small enough that if i’m not gentile it would make it REALLY fucking awkward#and so i’m texting my friends like: if i say sorry i’m not interested in you like that is it too harsh#and they’re both like YES do this other text instead#so i sent that text and i haven’t heard back from him#yet#and i’m just#hmmpfh#i hate having to let people down#and i don’t want it to be weird#anyway there’s my gripes for tonight it’s been a long one pals
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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)
I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important
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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around
When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry
I had to change that in order to keep those friendships
When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.
So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship
It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.
That's called "living in a society"
People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you
You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises
I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes
There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"
And that's a recipe for disaster
Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do
However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational
We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing
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Like I know we all love making ADHD seem cool but like, don't forget it's actually a disability? My ADHD is bad enough I've nearly been evicted for forgetting to mail the rent check to the property manager, I've forgotten to pay the utility bills and had my water or power get turned off or had to pay fines bcs I missed a credit card payment. Once I was supposed to cat sit for a friend and I lost the house key she gave me but didn't realize until she was already out of town, and she had to call the apartment office to get someone to give me the spare so her cats would have food for the week. When I'm unmedicated I can't even get myself to shower half the time, forget eating or cleaning. Before I started living with my fiance I'd just like, not eat for days because I didn't have anyone to remind me to eat or go buy me food. I've forgotten to turn the stove off so many times and ruined kettles and tbh been DAMN fucking lucky the house didn't burn down. I've done stupid, impulsive shit that's nearly gotten me KILLED. I can't remember to close the shower curtain reliably even through my fiance points out every single time I forget, and he's almost out of soap rn bcs for the last MONTH neither of us have been able to remember to order more once we get out of the shower.
I've had such bad memory my entire life that to this day someone suggesting I forgot something because I simply didn't care enough is a legitimate trigger that, in the worst cases, makes me have a breakdown.
I get that for some of you this is just something that makes studying hard or you forget to take a pee break when you're playing Minecraft or whatever, that's still a valid struggle and you do deserve help and understanding, but like, ADHD is a disability. It's disabling. It's not impossible to improve and learn coping skills, meds help a lot, there are great accommodations out there(LIKE CLEANING SERVICES), but not every case of ADHD is the same, and a lot of them are pretty ugly ngl, and just because you managed to do something doesn't mean someone else is gonna be able to manage it too, or that they're being lazy for struggling. And that obviously doesn't mean ADHD people have a free pass to never work on themselves and make everyone cater to their every need or whatever, but we do deserve some understanding when we explain that our disability is actually disabling in ways that aren't palatable to you. So like, idk, maybe don't immediately recoil in horror when you find out that someone with ADHD can't keep their house clean. And for fucks sake don't ridicule them for it.
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