#have some empathy y'all

[constantvigilante]

Tabby learned it from you. He learned it from watching you.

[dollypopup]

I guess what I find most funny about the 'She should call off the wedding because of Colin's entrapement line!' crowd is like. . .y'all really don't get Penelope at all, do you?

She has loved this man for YEARS. She's loved him through his engagement to someone else, she's loved him through him saying he wouldn't court her, she's loved him through multiple countries, through her family mocking their closeness, through a potential marriage to a Lord. She loved him so much she couldn't even DENY having feelings for him to save what she thought was her only chance of getting married. Do you know how easy it would have been for her to go 'No, we're just friends, I don't like him like that, you're proposing to me and that's what matters'? She couldn't denounce her feelings for him even THEN. Even when she doesn't think he reciprocates them and she's made peace with a life with Debling and is expecting his proposal. Colin was *always* first in her heart, through all those hurdles.

Because Colin has been kind in a cruel world, and he's made her laugh, and he encourages her confidence and he's warm and he's gorgeous and he centers her and he values her and he listens and makes her feel desired and beautiful. He's a good man, and her love for him makes her feel good, she treasures it. Even in the books she says it feels good to love a good person, whether he loved her back or not. And now she knows that he does and you think one line that Colin says in obvious hurt after finding out she's been hiding a secret persona for him is enough to shake that love? She spent what? Half a decade looking out her window pining for him and now on the eve of getting to live a life with him as husband and wife, she's going to chuck that away because of one sentence? How lowly do you think of her? How *stupid* do you think she is? To throw away the love of her life over what? Her pride? This fandom's OOC Fanon Pen is a disservice to Penelope's actual character.

Her love for Colin is steadfast. It's made of tougher stuff than all that. It has survived everything that has been thrown at it. Distance, other people, Portia. And y'all really, truly believe that a singular statement will make her go 'Naw, I don't want it anymore!' PUHLEASE. Even when she offers him that annulment, you KNOW she knows it's not on the table.

Stop playing. OF COURSE she didn't call off the wedding. Of COURSE she chose to understand where he was coming from and went 'I didn't mean to trap you, Colin, I love you'. Of course she asks what the marriage will be and is comforted by the fact that he still wants to go through with it.

Penelope Featherington has loved Colin most of her life. It has been one of the few constants in her existence. He has been good to her in said existence, consistently. He's listened, he's cared, he's apologized to her, he's taken ownership of his actions, he's invited her to be more open, he's joked with her, he's supported her, he saw her when she was invisible. She. Loves. Him. And for good reason.

It's not going away because of one line. Or two. Or three. Come back next time when you actually understand her.

[redtail-lol]

Hot take I think that the vast majority of autistic people lack empathy to some degree, it's just a misunderstood and stigmatized symptom so a lot of autistic people mistakenly believe themselves to have complete or hyper empathy

[moonlayl]

aos rant

is it just me, or does a particular part of the aos fandom continuously try to minimize daisy’s role in the show (usually in favour of Simmons, but sometimes with May as well) Like, some of y’all absolutely hate the fact that daisy is the lead female character. This fandom acts like she’s reckless ‘pure of heart, dumb of ass’ type character and she needs someone holding her hand/being babysat and it’s so fucking weird, because out of the entire team, she’s probably one of the best when it comes to thinking outside the box, solving shit, being independent, relying on herself, and being deeply empathetic. 

Like...why is it, that people watch this show and yet the Fanon version of her character is basically reduced to reckless, brute strength, and no smarts? (oh, let’s not forget ‘mean/rude’)

How do y’all mess it up this badly? Daisy isn’t some glorified body guard who’s main purpose is to save Coulson’s ass, or make sure Fitzsimmons don’t screw themselves over.

Why is her role as a leader, kind and intelligent person, ignored this badly among  other fans?

[mohabbaat]

https://www.tumblr.com/mohabbaat/751909189454102528/hindu-nationalism-is-a-genuine-disease-in-our?source=share

Tell me honestly bro, did you ask your parents the same question about Kashmir massacre and mass rapes during your childhood? (Yk which one I'm talking about) Did you read about it any of the history books in your school? Or you just say this shit to look cool on school media?

no, i didn't ask my parents or grandparents whether they "shared resources on social media" during the kashmir massacre. since you know social media wasn't a thing back then. hope that answers your question!

[izzyspussy]

i think a lot of people have never been in a truly desperate situation but think they have, and this causes them to pass really harsh judgment on people who made bad choices when either irrational or having no good choices to pick instead, and i really wish people could get some fucking self-perception and work on their compassion skills and not fucking do that as much anymore

[dirtytransmasc]

this was their reasoning for why Aemond having his eye cut out isn't deserving of the same anger as Alicent cutting Rhaenyra... I know this is a show about royalty and politics but for a single second can we view children as just children and not pawns in the grand royal/political scheme.

Aemond was a CHILD, can we just give a shit cause he was a child, cause he was maimed, could he be treated with the half decency of just being a kid deserving of at the VERY least an apology?

honestly my gears are grinding over calling Aemond, a child who was just permanently disabled and then asked to be tortured, the SPARE of all things.

[mad-hunts]

19.     entry made talking about a simple    /   normal day.

'dear diary' prompts...

[TRANSCRIPTION: so, i'd like to start this off by saying that i sometimes crave a sense of normalcy more than ever in my life... though i know that people might not expect something like that out of me. you know, because i seem so devoted to my work, i guess. but i have to say that after getting a taste of it today, it's probably when i'm at my happiest. me and jack had spent the day together, which is something we actually rarely get to do. he had told me about this crepe place that had opened up a little while ago and he seemed really eager to go there. so i invited jack to do that this morning and i swear, i hadn't seen him smile that big in a while. which did something funny to my heart.

and by that, i mean you know that feeling you get when you can't contain the love you have for someone? yeah that was pretty much what ended up happening to me; a fuzziness had hit me in the chest. but after we went there, and jack ate an impressive amount of crepes (he was really fond of the nutella and strawberry ones), my son suggested that we see this new movie that came out recently. and it was hard to pass up so of course i said yes. we snuck in some candy and drinks because, honestly, who wants to pay for the overpriced candy they have? not us so we did that and just like i expected... the theater was pretty packed since it was for the new hunger games movie. it was good though!

anyhow, after that, jack wanted to spend some time just hanging out by the water when he did something that surprised me. jack hugged me. and it was really nice, because i can't remember the last time my son gave me one like that. he went on to tell me that he missed 'this part of me.' this got me to thinking that, yeah, i have been treating him not so well for a while. so maybe i ought to change that. jack deserves to have a father who doesn't switch up on him every day, from being mean to being nice.

maybe i'll call my therapist back and tell her i want to start seeing her again. she might've said some things that i didn't like the last time, one of those being that i exhibit behaviors that are typical of sociopaths — but i guess i can make an exception for jack, because he's my little bug.

signed, barton. ]

[xslytherclawx-writes]

some of the ways y'all talk about abuse victims makes it stunningly clear you don't actually care about real victims; it's just about posturing.

[nururu]

I genuinely wonder why people equate empathy to kindness? being able to understand another person and where their emotions are coming from and why they're coming from that place, the ability to be able to share those feelings with another, does not mean that, that skill is going to immediately be used to be kind. it's extremely difficult being able to understand where ppls emotions are coming from and what they're feeling and why. y'all get empathy and sympathy mixed up so much. you can be sympathetic without being empathetic and you can be empathetic without being sympathetic. I have hyper empathy bc of autism but also pretty much completely lack sympathy, also bc of autism. then ppl will be like "empaths are always lying bc they're not sympathetic and they're mean" ppl with hyper empathy are not inherently saints that CARE just bc they understand. or maybe they do care, and that care is so much, and it is extended to everyone to the point it is personally exhausting and they're not taking care of themselves so they have to intentionally ignore people's feelings and emotions in order to take care of their own. it sucks having hyper empathy and then trying to talk about it bc immediately ppl are like "why don't you cry then? why arent you super emotional?" and they're misunderstanding what empathy even is or what it's like to experience hyper empathy. stop acting like being empathetic makes you some kind of saint that martyrs yourself for other people's emotions.

[idiosyncraticrednebula]

I feel like whenever people discuss "gender roles" on social media and just in society at large, they simplify it way too damn much.

[wolf-skins]

nvm the americans in the notes going “i live in america you don’t want privatized healthcare” are normies and fine it’s the fucking americans going LISTEN HERE YOU FUCKS

americans stop pretending you’re the main characters in the story and eat my entire ass

[dinkdonkjoolian]

can we talk about how actually insane this is? hi welcome to tiktok where a bunch of 13 year olds will shamelessly tell one another to kts and that they deserve their trauma and if you DARE to step back and acknowledge how damaging and illogical this is from the group proclaiming to protect and love the young and weak (who, mind you, they tell to kts and relive trauma for... coping in ways they dislike/dont understand... even if they are those vulnerable minors they love so dearly) they just keep going. people hate to hear this and honestly i hate to say it but as much as i adore the internet, as much as its made me better from the access to information i genuinely think people, regardless of age, are becoming fucking insufferable and the web is part of it. sorry guys. people are using it like a goddamn desensitization tool, nothing carries weight and insinuating it should gets you cackled off platforms. these dehumanizing mindsets you see used against proshippers, kinksters, anybody younger than whoever is being the cunt at the moment, minorities, basically anybody vulnerable or easy to poke at is genuinely damaging these dumbass kids brains. i feel bad for their peers, parents, and everybody else around them- not to mention themselves. i hope they dont stay this way forever, because if this is our future, the left leaning delusion that we're leading a generation of morally upright politically aware youth is... even farther from accurate and needs serious work. these kids are one alt right pipeline away from the next hitler youth. hell, maybe theyre already there.

[manicpixiedreamguy]

Actually no I don't think popping a bottle for the murder of a man who took advantage of and killed thousands of sick people makes me as bad as the man who took advantage of and killed thousands of sick people, at the end of the day only one of us killed people and it's not me

[outofmyowncharacter]

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[087710]

ok it's time to put the word "fascism" up on the shelf bc it being used to describe ppl who don't like their trauma turned into kinks & being vocal about that......

btw these are the idiots ur siding with when u reblog these posts along with much worse, just look at who they reblogged from