#hate white men

[inkskinned]

the thing about some men is that they want you to remember, at all times, that you are underneath them. that with one word or look or "joke", you will stay beneath them. that even "exceptions" to the rule are not true exceptions - the commonly cited statistic that one in eight men believe they could win against serena williams.

women's gymnastics is often not seen as real gymnastics. whatever the fuck non-euclidian horrors rhythmic gymnasts are capable of, it's often tamped down as being not a sport. some of the most dominant athletes in the world are women. nobody watches women's soccer. despite years of dancing and being built like a fucking brick, men always assume they're faster and stronger than i am. you wouldn't like what happens when they are incorrect. once while drunk at a guy's house i won a held-plank challenge by a solid minute. the party was over after that - he became exceedingly violent.

what i mean is that you can be perfect, and they still think you're ... lacking, somehow. i hope you understand i'm trying to express a neutral statement when i say: taylor swift was the possibly the most patriarchy-palatable, straight-down-the-line woman we could churn out. she is white, conventionally attractive, usually pretty mild in personality. say what you will about her (and you should, she's a billionaire, she can handle it), but a few things seem to be true about her: 1. she can write a damn catchy song, and 2. the eras tour truly was a massive commercial success and was also genuinely an impressive feat of human athleticism and performance.

i don't know if she deserves the title of "woman of the year," i'm not debating that in this post. what i am saying is that she was named Woman of The Year, and then an untalented man got onstage at the golden globes and made fun of her for attending her boyfriend's football games. what i am saying is that this woman altered local economies - and her dating life is still being made into a "harmless" punchline. the camera panned, greedy, over to her downing a full glass of champagne. congratulations taylor! you are woman of the year! but you are a woman. even her.

fuck, man. write better material.

a guy gets onstage at a college graduation and despite the fact like half the crowd is made up of women, he spends a significant proportion of it warning these people - who spent possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars on their education - that they were lied to. that the "real" meaning of femininity is motherhood. that they shouldn't rest on the laurels of that education-they-paid-for but instead throw it away to kneel at a man's heel. imagine that. sweating in your godawful polyester gown (that you also had to pay for!), fresh out of 4 years of pushing yourself ever-harder: and some guy you've never met - who knows nothing about you - he reminds you this "win" is a pyrrhic one at best. you really shouldn't consider yourself that extraordinary. you're still a woman, even after years of study.

god forbid you are not a pretty woman, but if you are pretty, you must be dumb. god forbid you are not ablebodied or white or cis or straight or good at swallowing. you must be beneath a man, or else they are not a man. the equation for masculinity seems to just be: that which is not a woman or womanly (god forbid). anything "feminine" is thereby anathema. to engage in "feminine" things such as therapy, getting a hug from a friend, or crying - it is giving up ones manhood. therefore women need to be put in their place to ensure that masculinity is protected.

this is something i have struggled to explain to terfs - they are not doing the work of feminism, but rather the patriarchy. by asserting that women and men must be (on some secret level) oppositional and in conflict, they also assume that being a woman is akin to being another species. but bigotry does not stem from observational truths or clarity - that is what makes it bigotry. there was nothing in my childhood that made me fundamentally different from my brother. we are treated differently nonetheless. to assert there is some biological drive that enforces my gender role is to assert that women have a gendered role. men do not see women as equal to them not because of biological reality - but instead because the core tenant of the patriarchy is that women aren't full, realized people.

we are told from a very young age to excuse misbehavior as a single man's choice - not all men. it is not all men, just that one guy. all women are gold-digging bitches who belong in the kitchen - but if a man is mean, bigoted, or violent to you, it's just that particular guy, and that means nothing about men-as-a-whole. it is only one guy who got mad when you gently rejected him. it is only one guy who warns her this trophy is heavy, are you sure you can hold it? it is only one guy who smashes her face into the cake. it is only one guy talking into a mic about hating our bodily autonomy.

i have just found that they often wait until the moment we actually seem to be upstaging them. you sit in a meeting where you're presenting your own findings and he says get me a coffee? or you run to the end of the marathon and are about to finish first and he pushes your kids out in front of you. you win the chess game and they make some comment akin to well, you're ugly away. we can be the billionaire and get the dream life and finally fucking do it and yet! still! they have this strange, visceral urge to say well actually, if you think you're so great -

it's not one just one guy. it's one in eight.

[allgirlsareprincesses]

Fem-focused sci-fi fantasy shows canceled after 1 season:

Cursed (2020)

Willow (2022)

My Lady Jane (2024)

The Acolyte (2024)

Would be great if these streaming services could all fuck off into the sun. RIP to all these awesome shows.

[blueskittlesart]

being in art school and having basically 0 knowledge about christianity whatsoever is so funny at this point i think you could tell me literally anything was an allegory for jesus and i'd just believe you

[nepotisim]

I'm so tired of phrases like "anti-woke". Just say you're a racist/homophobic weirdo.

[cowgyaru]

mfs will see a gay ship, get pressed, then complain as if straight ships aren’t the norm in media 💀💀

[eepyava]

[dumbassalex]

The fact there's like 5 posts about Saladin Ahmeds Wolverine issue 1 but a boatload of posts related to that fuckass movie is CRIMINAL!

Like c'mon people, there's a big focus on Logurt, they hug and Logan patches him up and worries for him, Logan runs around naked for like half the issue, even next to Kurt. There's angst and comfort and them working together and it's so sweet.

Not to mention LOOK AT HIMMMM! He's so wide and hairy and wild!

LOOK HOW SHORT HE IS! THAT'S MY GUYYY!

[apollos-olives]

history professor said rosa parks was biased and he said we should "take her autobiography with a grain of a salt" and listen to the police reports instead

[zorosroronoas]

will never not be super pissed at ppl calling scott a 'bitch' & a 'cheater' at what was essentially sexual assault, considering that emma was acting as his therapist. 'but he looked like he was consenting' she was in a position of power over him ffs.

now you may ask, 'but jess don't you personally love scemma?' yes, i do. i frankly ignore this shit bc fuck grant morrison & their apparent obsession with turning women into rapists (look at talia al ghul) & i love all i've read of scemma afterwards, but holding this shit against scott is also not it.

[batmanego]

god held his face & knew him & it still didn’t save him

[diseaseriddencube]

how cute, they thought they could stop me from screenshotting the gallery sections >:) too bad, he's gonna be my wallpaper now, impregnating him too

[ghostie-the-inkpot]

The series The Murderbot Diaries is literally a story about slavery. The main character is an escaped slave on the run for MOST OF THE SERIES. This is a story about the hellishness of a society run by corporations and the ways they exploit people and take away people’s agency and choices.

It’s also a story that’s incredibly relatable to queer people. The main character is sex repulsed, rejects any gendered language to describe itself, and feels like an outsider.

I am enjoying this series immensely and I am going to be obsessed with it For Forever.

Out of curiosity as I’m reading this series, I looked up online to see if there were any adaptations in the works (hoping that was not the case, because there is no way this story could be satisfyingly adapted into a traditional live action setting)

The first thing that I see is that they cast a white. Cisgender. Man. With blonde hair and blue eyes. As the main character. The agender, autistic coded main character who escapes slavery and oppression. Wow. What a revolutionary casting choice. (Sarcasm)

AND ITS BEING ADAPTED INTO LIVE ACTION BY **APPLE TV**?????? APPLE, THE MOTHERFUCKERS WHO DIRECTLY BENEFIT AND PROFIT FROM SLAVE LABOR???

Just. Stop adapting my favorite things into live action. Please. I can’t keep doing this 😭😭😭

[trans-androgyne]

Saw a really good post picking apart TERF radicalization, but unfortunately the OP used it to downplay the effects TERFs have on transmascs and say transfems have everything worse. I wanted to share it here anyway with the worst parts cut out because it’s valuable stuff.

I wish the OP would’ve also talked about how this radicalization looks for different groups instead of lumping everyone afab into one, but oh well, it was a good read regardless. They can be found at @/many-but-one.

[noirineverysense]

so so crazy how people love talking about how they love to break white male characters and how hurt/comfort can be one of the biggest ao3 categories and then when you say you want that same energy for female characters or characters of colour you get people being like do you want poc to be tortured? Do you want women to die?? It has to be played up obtuseness. Its completely on purpose.

[theboyskisser]

I think the fact they made BILLY BUTCHER and QUEEN MAEVE have vanilla missionary really shows Kripke's bias against sexuality and kink, I'm sorry.

They're "good guys" so they don't do "degenerate sex" but we all know neither one of them does missionary unless they accidentally fell into that position while fucking their partners half to death.

[mueritos]

im glad that people r clowning on that detrans person who went viral on twitter for blaming trans people/hrt for his baldness and normal male genes, but i really hope this can at least wake up some transmasculine people, ESPECIALLY white transmasculine people.

many BIPOC transmasc people already have standards of whiteness imposed onto us, but we do not cry wolf when our genetics cause the male secondary characteristics that they do. many of us are hairy, many of us have thick and coarse hair, some of us get extremely deep voices, etc and etc. BIPOC transmascs already have to deal with the masculinization of our bodies even before HRT because many of us cannot achieve white standards of womanhood. it is just also incredibly ignorant to shed tears over normal secondary sex characteristics that everyone on HRT are informed about. Just because you have male pattern baldness, an adams apple, and a low voice doesn’t mean you suddenly lose your worth as human being. white transmascs who successfully performed white femininity and desperately still cling onto it or try to be a hairless pretty twink after HRT,,,PLEASE understand that you cannot control the way HRT reacts to your body. You cannot complain about not looking like a beautiful twink because you cannot control how your genetics and HRT will masculinize your body. Like holy fuck. 

there is definitely a time and a space for detrans people to discuss their journeys. Many of them don’t regret HRT, many of them just simply realized they don’t need to be binary passing. But when we center detrans experiences as the reason why HRT needs to be stopped, why trans people are making “serious mistakes” to their bodies...yea I dont care how much you hate yourself. You do not need to make your insecurities everybody elses problem.

I genuinely hope this makes some white transmasc people realize that its okay to look like a normal dude. Some of us feel euphoric by the male pattern baldness. Some of us love our hairy arms and legs. Some of us love being men. Some of us love loving men. Some of us love having friendships with men. There is nothing wrong with being a man. The biological essentialism of vagina=good and penis=bad is not just a gender issue, it’s a race issue as well. These ideas are inherent to whiteness; when you say you distrust all men, when you say they all deserve to die...this means ALL men...Black men, queer men, transmen, Asian men, Latino men, Indigenous men, men who are disabled, men who are GNC, lesbians who are men, butches....

Having a caution toward men or male presenting people because of patriarchy, sexism, and misogyny? Fine. Hating them, vilifying them, viewing them as inherently predatory and evil? No. Thanks for making us feel like we’re all dangerous, that definitely does nothing to the male pysche, and thanks for conveying that anyone with a vagina is inherently good.

god. destroy white ideas of gender and sexuality already. you guys are just so damn annoying. we cannot get an ounce of solidarity because of you guys.