#grownup life

[crotchety-old-blogger]

This is true. My friend’s young children had told me they can’t wait to become adults because they wouldn’t have to answer to their parents anymore. I told them that they would still have to answer to someone when older. When they wondered who, I replied, “Everybody else.”

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

Thinking about "So Long, London" as one does and the "I'm pissed off you let me give you all that youth for free" which is devastating enough on its own as a succinct shorthand of saying "I gave you some of my most formative years thinking we were committed to the same life plans together" (as in building a family life together) but with ~everything~ can also be a statement of her entrusting him with her youthful hopes and dreams and joy and earnestness only for it all to be cast aside and not returned (and at worst, weaponized).

[nyan-bynary]

People who want to fuck choso are like enigmas to me,,, I cannot for the life of me understand the thought process there I'll be completely honest

[blujayonthewing]

pitched battle inside my brain between the part of me that's desperately shaking myself by the shoulders going "YOU HAVE GOT TO ACTUALLY LIVE THE KIND OF LIFE YOU IMAGINE INSTEAD OF JUST SITTING AROUND IMAGINING IT UNTIL YOU DIE!!" and the part of me that's clutching my face going "is this allowed? is this allowed?? is this allowed???"

[vulpinesaint]

the difference that offering a child kindness and compassion can make... one of the kiddos was crying the other morning missing her mom. Sobbing crying. and i talked to her and she wasn't able to say very much from crying so hard but confirmed that she knew her mom was going to be back and it was going to be a good day and it was going to be alright but she was just inconsolable. and we did some good breaths together but she just couldn't get her breathing under control. so for like ten minutes i just had her drink some water and gave her a hug and sat with her while she cried until we were going off to the next activity and she had to go with different counselors. and by then she'd calmed down a little but was still sniffling and obviously upset but the important part is that even though i didn't even get her to stop crying anytime i saw that little girl the rest of that day and now throughout the rest of the Week after just sitting with her and offering some compassion i see her notice me as she goes by and she always looks right at me and smiles and gives me a little wave when i say hi. like we haven't had any other conversations since then but i can see the way that she recognizes me now. i'm not her favorite counselor i haven't spent more than twenty minutes with her tops but that little girl takes the time to seek out my acknowledgement cause i showed that i care about her.... y'know... cause i was gentle with her and that meant something to her... all to say. it doesn't matter if you have extended interactions with kids. it really doesn't. small things can make such a huge impact on children and i really sincerely think it's so important to show them kindness... help them up when they fall. give them a hug. sit with them while they cry. cause even if it doesn't Fix things even if you don't solve the problem or do anything really materially Helpful you will have shown that child that people care about them. and they notice... they remember... they do...

[lionbearfox]

inktober 2: realized today that mary-ann was the jock of the narzissenkreuz kids

[chaoticbuggybitchboy]

Dino dance party cause it’s all gonna be okay and life is worth living

[vignetted]

i like how no one has to do the "minor dni" in bio on here anymore because basically the entire userbase has aged past 18 and no one new has joined

[lemm-moxx]

Looking at you

*Looking right back at you*

[lynne-monstr]

one of the hardest lessons I had to learn as a grownup (that I am still re-learning all the time) is that whenever I'm trying to get something done and it stalls out, the only way to get it moving again is to randomly start calling and emailing people like hey I'm waiting for x thing but haven't heard back, what are the next steps.

and I hate hate hate that it almost always works. and that usually I have wasted weeks waiting for a response that will never come if I had not intervened.

[septembersung]

Sitting here staring at my bookshelves contemplating how when there are more of them, with more adjustable than fixed shelves, I can organize better

[the-herdier]

Thinking about the AU/headcanon in my head where Cuno grows up to be an officer specializing in child abuse cases/cases involving kids in general again :)

[idontwantrobyntodie]

my online client was a no-show and on the one hand thank god, I am very tired, but on the other this is my second-to-last session ever before I leave this job and :((

[bitegore]

If you zone out hard enough in the middle of the night you can unlock:

- new fears

- new voices in your head telling you that you cannot dwell on them or you're sooo fucked but as soon as yiu can banksh them you'll learn arcane information beyond your wildest dreams

- psychoreligious experiences

- Heart Palpitations

and more!

[annieqattheperipheral]

leafs top line that once upon a time made you believe in magic and dreams coming true

car @ tor // 3-2 car // 12.30.23

[guinevereslancelot]

kinda surreal to watch my friends who are younger than me getting married and having kids meanwhile i haven't ever been in love