#grandparents am i right

[nullbutler]

something something identity something something culture

[chernabogs]

Listen at my ripe old age (24) any time twst drops a parent that is fan service personally tailored to me 😭

[blushy-tigerrr]

vent in tags sorry

cw: mention of loss

[whatimdoing-here]

M's grandma passed away this morning.. she was 91 and has been on hospice for a week at home, but it's still tough. We grieve in entirely different ways. Neither right or wrong obviously. I'm very much sad, but also know that she wouldn't want us sitting around being sad. I take her love with me, keep her in my heart next to my grandparents that passed away. He's much more needing time. Both sad and... I don't want to use the word moody, but close to that. So I have to be treading carefully, but also try to keep upbeat for my own sake. The boys are the same (it's also not the same for them because they're kids.) This post has no point. I just needed to talk. Here's to you, Grandma Margie. 🥂

[if-loki-was-a-fox]

Coming to the unfortunate realization that my social and communication struggles run a lot deeper and more widely effecting than I had previously thought

[frimoussette88]

Kit being an absolute gentleman on My Grandparents’ War.

[sherlock-is-ace]

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[lilyflxwers]

wearing a long sleeved top so my grandmother doesnt clock my tattoos and kill me. well. i just looked down at my arms and u can fucking see them through the top. bloody HELL

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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[ryuseitai]

so nervuos for tmrw bc im seeing my cousin

[a9saga]

i mentioned this but my grandfather passed away last week. he was 95. my grandmother died in february of 2021 and it's really something that he made it that long without her at his age. they were married 69 years and had 7 children and 21 grandchildren, as well as 11 great grandchildren now with two more on the way. his wake was wednesday night and the memorial mass and burial were yesterday.

my auntie cindy married my dad's oldest brother i believe 50 years ago now. they were high school sweethearts. she knew my grandparents since she was a child, so did the rest of her family for that matter. my grandmother or sometimes my father used to mention a boy in the neighborhood who had unfortunately died very young of a drug overdose. no one outright told me this but i put together when i got older that that was cindy's brother. this is to say of all the in laws that cindy was well acquainted with my family for the longest time, and my family with hers as well.

some months after my grandmother's death, that spring or early summer, cindy had sent out a letter to everyone recalling growing up around my grandmother and marrying into the family, maintaining that relationship for decades. she mentioned something her brother used to say that my grandmother would often quote when cindy wasn't around. she closed the letter with, "i just wanted you to know that i loved your mother like she was my own," which i think was always very evident. cindy's own mother had passed away somewhere over a decade earlier. 4 or 5 years ago diana and i were over her house with our mother, cindy referred to a picture of her mother in the kitchen and said "i talk to her all the time." she's not religious, if that makes it any different. she and everyone else in my family were raised catholic but if you ever get on the topic with her, she thinks the bible and christianity and everything are a load of bullshit. but regardless she does speak to a picture of her mother, which i think is pretty interesting. but i digress.

at the wake, there was a line to the coffin with my grandfather in it. cindy's a sociable person. i got in line behind someone i didn't know. a lot of family friends showed up. cindy came and started chatting her up and she introduced me, and then she told me she'd gotten in line about 6 times but shied away from actually paying her final respects. i was like, wanna do it with me? and she did. so we kneeled before the coffin and she caressed the rosary in his hands, and when we got up i mentioned how much i appreciated her letter in 2021, and it took her by surprise. she said she had wanted to read it as a eulogy at her mother-in-law's funeral but she and my other aunt ended up in a bad argument around it. neither of them are perfect, to be clear. that's not why i'm making this post and i don't plan to elaborate on that.

but anyway, after the burial yesterday everyone went to lunch. i could tell all of my dad's siblings appreciated having each other after both of their parents have died. last weekend my dad and his brother that he's closest to went out to lunch because both my mom and aunt thought they needed it, i know first hand my dad has been very down in the dumps about everything. but anyway, after lunch yesterday when cindy was saying goodbye to me, she rubbed my chin and said "thank you, that was so sweet of you to bring up the letter about connie last night. do you know you had me crying on the way home?"--i don't think i have ever seen cindy cry.

[riverdalehighofficialgsa]

I MISS VODKA UNITED STATES OF AMERICA 21+ DRINKING AGE I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I WANT A CUP OF LUKE WARM VODKA TO SIP ON FOR A SHITTY HOUSE PARTY AMOUNT OF TIME PLEASE I MISS VODKA I MISS HER I WANT THE CHEAPEST DOGSHIT TESCOS HAS TO OFFER I WANT A CUP OF INDUSTINGISHIABKE FROM RUBBING ALCOHOL BESIDES THE LOWER ALCOHOL CONTENT, NO MIXER, ROOMTEMP. AND I AM SIPPING.

[kowaindar0u]

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Yeah okay so ... I'll be moving in with my sister sometime in the next few weeks and her living situation right now is a little odd, which includes the Internet situation, so... unless she winds up getting a big hotspot thing, once I move my activity might indeed be a bit slower than usual u_u;;

I'm hoping she gets one but like I can't really complain about stuff like that when I don't even have a job to help pay for it y'know 😔

But I don't imagine it being tooooo bad, I'll just be more sporadic I guess.

That said I'll probably be watching the myus/stages I have a lot since they're on my computer lol so maybe my inspiration will be higher ?? ssjfjsjdj we'll see

[angered-box]

yknow realizing my family was super fucking mean to me for no reason before i turned 18

[rheasmusings]

So I just watched Barbie.

It's amazing, fantastic, and missing quite a bit of queer representation but I'm going to roll with this anyway. I have so so many thoughts about the movie and all the messages and you know they just did feminism so good and Barbie and Ken and Margot and Ryan and Greta and ksdjfdkjsf. Yes.

What I found unfortunate about the movie is that I felt like a lot of people in that theater only understood parts of it. Not all of it, even though all of it is so incredibly important to understand.

My mom, dad and little sister went to see it with me, and they really liked the movie even though there were parts they didn't fully get. The movie was done very elegantly, but I can see why it seemed a bit high-level to someone who is not, for unknown reasons, obsessed with interested in gender studies (me). But you know what? The movie made them curious. It made them think. And it gave me the opportunity to talk and explain and have them listen and finally get it. An opportunity I have been waiting for. (And you know, I really won't shut up for days once I get going.)

So even if people found it complicated, I think it inspired them to open their minds a little, and that in itself is a huge impact. Greta Gerwig was so subtle and it worked. Those ideas just about nudged their way into people's heads (sneaky). This movie will have an impact. Maybe Greta was trying to show us the way out of our own shit-show. Remember, it's not just us who will be watching this, not with Barbie in the title.

Watch this movie.

[balkanballad]

I think hearing Lane Moje live would heal me (parts of me)