#gotta think about the cishet men

[perkeleen-lavellan]

I wonder if new Ximboland users ever look at a piece of clothing in the shop and wonder who the designer was and why they're no longer there.

That site is so toxic and life draining, but sometimes I wish I could just go browse the shop and see my old art again. Those are my children I made them, I hope people still like them.

[lord-shitbox]

Why am I a fag I brought Richard Siken to class so my crush could see me reading it. as if that constitutes flirting. What the fuck

[funkle420]

*takes my last adderall so i can finish all my work in one day*

*finishes one (1) assignment*

*gets distracted and spends the rest of the day hyperfocusing on delicious in dungeon again*

[lesbiansanemi]

Idk there’s also something to be said for the absolute distaste and hatred of lesbian headcanons in general in fandom spaces. Like never mind that these ppl can’t fathom how a woman would ever exist without being into men, they can’t even not get mad when someone says they think a fictional one doesn’t like men. Like you have such a hatred of lesbians you can’t handle someone else saying they think a fictional woman doesn’t fuck men. Like holy fuck

[sinistersuns]

below the graph it says “Compared to straight, cisgender individuals, those who identify as transgender are much more likely to live in poverty…” it isn’t comparing queer people to each other like what’s implied (intentionally or not idk) in the OP, rather it’s comparing us to cis/straight people. I’m not really sure if it means it’s comparing specifically cishet men to trans men, or cishets as a whole to trans men. i feel like those stats would be different. Also NBs don’t seem to be mentioned at all in this graph, even though they are mentioned elsewhere in the article, so there’s a whole demographic of people missing here. 70% at the highest compared to 38% at the second highest is a pretty big fucking difference though, and I’d like to know what factors play into that

Controlling for age, race/ethcity, location etc, trans men are the queer group most likely to live in poverty:

Source: https://www.irp.wisc.edu/resource/the-complexity-of-lgbt-poverty-in-the-united-states/?s=09

[snekdood]

i feel like so much anti theism is a trauma response from being subjected to oppressive (mostly christian, since thats the pov i hear from the most) religious institutions. it reminds me of when radfems are like “men are bad so we need to kill them/wall them off from us/they serve no purpose and should be ignored/ostracized/exiled, etc.” and we all know they’re only saying that bc of trauma.

[romancerepulsed]

i do wanna make this clear in light of all the bullshit drama: aroallos are the sexiest people alive and we always will be. but also the focus on cishet aro men is very telling of aphobes terfy roots. i dont just mean it in the way that they misplace a lot of the blame for womens oppression on Just Some Guys, but also in the way that they tend to view women as sexless– or at least nowhere near as inclined to desire sex as much as men, and that there exists a female/male dichotomy in sexuality, and neither of those assumptions are true. i know that as an aroallo lesbian many people just consider lesbianism as some "wholesome" romantic arrangement with occasional vanilla sex (if they dont already just see lesbianism as nothing more than a porn category for straight men). but thats not been my experience at all. there are far far far more women and other lesbians who are more interested in sex than romance than you know. the same goes for straight women too. people dont consider the aroallo women because they simply dont fit into the patriarchal worldview theyre embued with, and theyd rather not think about that.

the more the aro community gets beaten down, less people know about us, less people will be able to realize theyre aro as well, and thus less people will have the knowledge and the language to navigate sex and relationships in a healthy way. be loudly and proudly aro. be obnoxious about it. be so happy withyourself that it makes aphobes miserable. we gotta be able to show that everyone is welcome here, and that theyll be listened to.

[sunlitmcgee]

"I dreamed that someone was raping me. I don't know...someone inhuman."

"Thanks a lot!"

rosemary's baby is gonna be my 9 11

[boringkate]

Absolutely wild that there's a scifi comedy about [SPOILERS, BUT ALSO THE SECRET TWIST HAPPENS ALMOST IMMEDIATELY AND IS THE FOCUS OF THE ENTIRE MOVIE] Mark Duplass magically unwillingly growing a vagina and tits and then (willingly) getting fucked and impregnated by lifelong hetero bff Sterling K. Brown and instead of it feeling or being transphobic (like such a comedy easily could have) it has a couple of the most sensitive and enlightened exchanges about masculinity and gender.

Cis women are really out there making movies about transness as excperienced by cis men and somehow not fucking it up. Shoutout to Mel Eslyn!

Gotta be one of the least sexist movies to not feature even a single woman. I don't think they ever even discuss any women. Failing the Bechtel test with flying colors lmao.

Tldr go watch Biosphere (2022)! It's such a movie! It's so funny!

And if you really wanna watch movies that center around Mark Duplass as a cishet guy having sex with his cishet bff then you can also watch Humpday (2009)! I agree that it's weird that there's two of them!

BONUS DETAIL: I just realized that one of Biosphere's producers was Zackary Drucker! The trans woman who co directed etc The Lady And The Dale (a documentary miniseries about a 1970s trans woman entrepreneur/scammer) (which was also from Duplass's's production company)! Very dope!

[suryp]

Date: unknown

Year: inconsequential

Region: central Tartyryn straight

The snow crunches beneath our feet, the wind howls like the devil, and while we all show fear, I've reason to think my brothers know not that we walk over a frozen sea, more than 30 metres deep with fish heavier than our entire platoon. I doubt my commander knows, either, but that suits our real mission just fine.

The mission. Ha. Everyone knows the only safe spots for a town are off shore, we've already done the math, there's nothing out here worth finding.

Good thing Commander Reijean is such a greedy fuck, then.

"HALT!"

Thats him right there. Most would say he just wants to prove himself, but I know better. All humans hide their worst traits, tone 'em down for the public. We're all worse than we seem on the outside.

"..."

"whats out their c-"

"shut your trap private, I won't have my skill split be-"

*Crack*

"Mission complete, I suppose"

In an instant, Clark pulled out the rifle on his back. it was cheap shit, like all the gear for this trip was, but He's among the best "weapons guys" I've ever met.

Fortunately, the gun jams, and he vanishes into the blizzard.

"Clark? Buddy? Clark? Clark!"

"Circular formation, weapons up, we are-"

"...Commander?"

Just a few more to go. Our platoon used to be larger, but wandering for days on end through an empty void of ice and snow will take its toll. Just a few weeks ago, we might've won this fight.

Good thing banshees are smart, then.

"SpLit up!"

"Commander?"

"Split Up!"

"h- He's right. we're no more than a larger target like this."

"Just gotta find the right time for it."

Sabotage wasn't the plan, and it leaves a bad taste, but there's nothing for it.

"Now."

"..."

"..."

*Cr'Ack*

"..."

*Crunch*

"..."

And finally, a blood curdling scream cut short, by a few extra holes in the lungs.

I stand up, spread my arms wide, and make myself the most clear and easy target I can."

-...-

Two hours later

The blizzard dies, I see my siblings dead in the snow. Three have a mulch of bone and Metal shards, alongside frozen blood, in place of their heads. Commander has a crushed neck. Charlie's kevlar is punched through, frozen blood all along his chest.

There's a sixth carcass, some ornitherian, I think, though it's hard to tell considering how much was eaten. The ribs are gone, and only Two and a half legs remain.

I begin to walk off. A meal, even the frozen remains of a hippogriff corpse, is the last thing I d-

*crunch*

"..."

"you not fight me. why?"

"..."

"all humans try to kill us. take sea from us. take tyk'yk from us."

"...take egg from us."

"..."

"you not fight. why?"

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alright thats a wrap! The official intro to Fisher and the Flame and the world of... well, I suppose she doesn't have a real name yet but hey, we can make this work.

for a bit of context regarding appearances, if you need that, "Ornithere" and "Hippogriff" refer to pterosaurian animals, most similar to (and heavily based on) Trollman's "Cuvier's Isle" a small spec one-shot. It does not refer to the serinean animals of the same name.

Banshee are a bit easier to describe, being a rough combination of Utahraptor osstramaysi and a Leopard Seal, very similar to @tales-of-kaimere's *Updated* xuul design, along with the Adzakoordu and the White Cockatrice, as well as the Tamakai.

The narrator, Jake Fisher, is getting a drawing, by someone who appreciates men far more than I.

now go read about kaimere on Keenan Taylors twitter, bluesky, deviantart, and youtube channel, along with trollman's various sickass works on the same websites.

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edits: minor word changes, removal of unneeded dashes, and Commander is now cishet, because killing the first queer confirmed in story feels a bit too rude.

Reijean is still his name tho, since there has to some reason this unit was sent out.

also added a new tag. sorry y'all.

(im just gonna use the most extreme and broad tags that, since im exceedingly apathetic but do want to tag things correctly)

[our-lesboy-experience]

i recently got yelled at in public by some bigot who accused me of being gay based on appearance and afterwards something i couldn't stop thinking is how little the difference between homophobia and transphobia is in my personal life. it mostly manifests as Here's A Person With Strange Sexuality/Gender Energy, Let's Judge! and idk... would saying i'm actually just a straight, non-passing trans guy stop the homophobia from happening? no! what about telling transphobes i'm actually just a he/him lesbian but claim i'm just cis with Pronouns, would that stop the transphobia? also no! idk just. homophobia and transphobia can be very different for some but they can often feel the same to me and that's my very tired lesboy experience. unless i start presenting as a feminine heterosexual woman, which would Hurt Me, i am going to continue to experience shades of both homophobia and transphobia.

and that's something people who are against lesboys completely forget out or choose to ignore- we're largely trans people and experience homophobia from people. they're so focused on "a guy that's attracted to women?? that's straight! they're straight men claiming to be lesbian, they're privileged!" when so many of us may experience homophobia in our daily lives for being attracted to women. and at times they KNOW we're trans, largely trans men, but still treat us like we're those privileged cishets trying to invade their community. and I gotta say, if you want us to identify as straight so bad, maybe treat transhets better? like it's so obvious how they think of straight trans people with the way they talk about lesboys

[tirfpikachu]

as a wheelchair woman who isn't validated by all the terms or sayings in the english language, trans ppl need to start giving eachother the advice to build resilience as a community instead of inciting bitterness against The Cissies and actually accept being the exception to the rule. you need to realize that language, especially language important for activism reasons, doesn't need to completely change to include you in every single area. sometimes someone will say something about walking or stairs or driving or lots of things that i physically cannot do, and at first it pissed me off when i still was feeling jaded about being disabled, but i really did find so much peace after i actually accepted it. i don't think many trans people have actually fully accepted being trans, being different. if it was a close friend i was having a one-on-one talk with, the difference not being acknowledged might feel a bit weird at times, but i would never expect a total stranger to alter their language just to include me. that would feel super awkward and clunky and just feel like trying to pander to me out of excessive politeness. i nowadays understand that sayings and og definitions of terms may not include me... and that's okay!! even as a gay person, in feminist spaces, women will talk about men in dating and it's obviously implied that they're talking about straight & bi men without them needing to specify the straight part every single fucking time. it would be so tedious and unnecessary. i totally accept them using it that way in certain contexts. it took me a while to get there, but i now see it neutrally.

the thing is trans ppl themselves even use sex/agab-based language for the overwhelming majority of people and only ever care when the person is considered too gnc to look/act like a "normie" male/female person. they also will talk shit about men without saying cishet before it everytime, it's just implied, and you can tell from context clues. why isn't that the case with women/womanhood? why can't woman be both a biological sex and also a gender role that some may transition into or wish to? why can't feminists use the first definition, the og version of the term, when talking about generic female issues? why can't trans ppl add nuance if needed, but also sit back and understand that marginalized groups need to discuss things at length and having to insert a billion caveats every single time when using a term that applies to the GRAND MAJORITY of people living as men/women slows down our activism and just frustrates everyone for no good reason? you have to understand that you're an outlier. you have to understand that you're outside the norm. blm activists don't mention people with skin disorders every single time they discuss race dynamics. gay activists don't need to mention trans ppl who live as the opposite sex/agab every single time they talk abt gay issues. female folks don't need to mention male/amab ppl in every single female/afab-specific discussion unless it's relevant. just as trans ppl can focus on their own issues too without needing to watch their tongue excessively to cater to non-trans feelings. sometimes you need to know that you're the exception, and as such ppl won't need to mention that not all people can drive when talking about road accidents, or that not everyone can get the vaccine done in their arms if they're amputees, or that some gay people are ace so they don't need to worry about being caught having gay sex and facing homophobia for it. sometimes you gotta learn that you're not always gonna be the center of the conversation, especially in conversations involving differently marginalized people. bio women & transmasc ppl don't need to mention transfems on issues of abortions or genital mutilation or sex-specific laws. bio men & transfems don't need to center transmascs to validate their identities when talking about the aids crisis, which primarily affected male homosexual people. feminists should be allowed to use women in the biological sex definition, and trans activists should be allowed to use women to mean anyone living as a woman in society.

the overwhelming majority of people aren't trans, and cis/bio women are an oppressed class in huge numbers. so sometimes trans ppl have to learn that men & women as terms are primarily used referring to one definition, while they, as trans people, fit another definition of the words. and that's not the world being cruel to spite you. people of course can be cruel to trans folks; if they purposefully misgender somebody or outlaws adult transition completely and mock trans bodies etc that can really harm someone's mental health. but you cannot seriously expect words like man & woman, words that initially have always referred to body types and were made to facilitate communication between two radically different people with different needs and baggage, to be used with endless trans-related caveats every single time. even trans people themselves often don't do it! same with using they/them for people without them asking you otherwise being called a bigot. that's getting into silliness territory for me. as much as being trans sucks, trans people need to build resilience to being different than the norm. and not just through inside jokes and memes and snarky discourse. they could learn a lot from the physically disabled community, honestly. i know how much it sucks to realize how someone is talking doesn't reflect your own personal experience. but sometimes you have experiences that differ from the norm, and that's okay! you can chuckle a bit and shake your head and move on with your life. it doesn't need to be seen as an attack or make you feel totally abandoned by the leftist community. you won't always be included in every social justice conversation. someone's definition of something might not include you everytime. and it's tiring. it's annoying at times. but it can also be okay. the more trans people try to change the fabric of society to an extreme amount and give extreme demands, the more the world will see them as emotional, impulsive toddlers who are out of their minds. they're actually worsening the image of their movement instead of helping anyone. they're leading to more transphobic prejudice, not less. why not just understand that words can have different meanings? that as long as someone doesn't have bad intent and otherwise is a good ally, them using words meant to make conversations easier and more succinct can be literally no big deal? you can be like "oh okay, this is about cis/bio women" and move on if it's super obviously the case. if you have an interesting insight as a trans woman or a transmasc person you can chime in, but otherwise just read between the lines and not interrupt important feminist discussions.

sometimes you actually do need to desensitize yourself to these things and practice radical acceptance of exactly who and what you are. you don't need to try to tear up leftist spaces and reshape them to awkwardly fit every single micro experience marginalized people can face all at once. you can have different discussions for different things and use words in different ways. having control issues about that is actually making things worse for you in the long run! and making you look pretty dumb to your allies who really are in your corner, but have issues of their own. i don't need people to mention not everyone can walk, drive or work every 5 seconds to include me. especially not on a random post. it would feel weird!! it's okay to not fit every average conversation. you don't need to harass people, especially feminists, into changing their language in every single conversation and make debates last 5000x longer. sometimes you just wanna talk shit about men without having to specify that it only applies to xyz type of men. sometimes you want to complain about being a woman and refer to body issues that typically come with being a woman. sometimes you talk about man/woman dynamics and it'll mostly apply to non-trans folks. it's okay! trans ppl can definitely add comments for nuance if it's of interest, or make their own posts on their own very complex experiences. but you cannot keep slowing down the feminist movement and try to force other activists to do things that are just unreasonable, things that many trans folks don't even do themselves!!

[princessefemmelesbian]

A PSA

Okay I normally don't make posts about TERFs like these because I prefer to reblog them from trans people who know more about this stuff then I do but I just gotta say this, and if I'm being for fucking real I can't believe this even has to be said:

Stop posting screenshots of TERF posts and saying "op was a terf so I'm stealing this post! 🤪"

Seriously, stop it. You're not doing anything good by taking TERF talking points and reposting them to your blog. All you're doing is allowing TERF rhetoric to continue to spread and sanitizing it so that people become desensitized to it and don't recognize actual TERF rhetoric when they see it.

When you screenshot a TERF post and say "op was a TERF" all you are doing is validating TERF points whether you agree with them or not. Because every post a TERF makes, even if it seems benign, is connected to their rotten, transmisogynist ideology. You cannot divorce TERF statements from their true intentions. I think a lot of TMEs on this site really underestimate the fact that TERF is a harmful hate movement. Every statement a TERF makes, even if it seems harmless or actually feminist, is ultimately going to be tarnished by the fact that they are made with the intention of targeting trans women and wanting them dead. If a post is about how men are awful or are "raised" to be a certain way and is made by a TERF, then congratulations, you just found transmisogynistic rhetoric that is actually about trans women and their apparent "male socialization". If a post is about how lesbians should be allowed to not like men and how men are forcing themselves onto lesbians, but a TERF made it, then it's not actually a lesbian-friendly post. It is a transphobic post about how transfem lesbians apparently "prey" on cis lesbians(which they also think straight trans men are, let's make that very clear) by merely existing. Same for any post about the word queer or the beauty industry or periods or anything of the like. Even if they don't explicitly say it, TERFs are inherently lumping trans women in with(cishet) men and trans men in with women/lesbians and THAT is the true meaning of the post. You're not making it any better by reposting it from them.

TERFs know exactly how to make their posts seemingly benign and genuinely positive on the surface so that people get sucked in to thinking that they are truly for the feminist cause and actually have good points to make. But all of it ultimately serves the purpose of continuing transmisogyny, and when you post screenshots of their posts and go "I really wanted to reblog this post but op was a terf so I'm stealing it! 😇" all you are doing is giving terfs a platform and saying that we should listen to them. You're exposing trans women to beliefs and opinions of people who ultimately wish to harm them and do NOT have the same innocent intentions that you believe they have from looking at the post at first glance. You are not helping women. You are not helping feminism. You're internalizing TERF rhetoric, and you're allowing other people to internalize it, too.

It's one thing if you don't realize a post was made by a TERF before you reblog it, and then you delete it afterwards. But if you know someone is a TERF and intentionally repost their vile, sickening rhetoric wrapped up in pink feminist bows and go "I like the message of this post but op is a terf so 🤷🏾‍♀️" then you may as well be reblogging it directly from them, because you're still agreeing with TERFs at the end of the day.

What can you do instead? You can reblog feminist posts from amazing and intellectual trans women who actually are genuine about the cause and actually know what they're saying. They have way better views on feminism and misogyny and lesbophobia and the patriarchy then a radfem who thinks woman=vagina and man=penis ever will, trust me. Uplift their voices instead of stealing from conservative hate groups. It really is that simple.

[doyoueverstopandthink]

our flag means death characters as things my friends and i have said

stede: "so apparently i'm a dilf and a heartbreaker."

ed: "four twenty, make a wish. wait, no, that's nine eleven. that's still wrong."

oluwande: "just because i said 'fuck you' for having a reese's doesn't mean you get to call me a dumb bitch for talking to my ex."

jim: "the problem with shopping in the men's section is that men can have the same shirt. i have the same shirt as lucius."

lucius: "sorry, can you repeat that? i stopped listening as soon as you started talking."

black pete: "people are going to think i have a lot of issues if they see me call you bro and babes out of context."

frenchie: "what is 'cishet' and am i it?"

izzy: (about stede) "he's probably eaten crayons before."

wee john: "you gotta use your thinker to get a good thunk"

buttons: "done with my appointment. fear my approach."

the swede: "what does it means when someone says, 'fuck it we ball'? fuck what? the ball?"

roach: "so if couples are like soup-"

[lovelyrotter]

actually yknow scratch that last part cause the way the epilogues are written makes it pretty explicit that theyre not '''dubiously canon''', thats a gimmic, transmasc roxy IS hard canon. and it pisses me off even more when ppl write him off in favour of headcanons instead, which leads to MORE transmasc vs transfem rhetoric bc transfem roxy is a really popular headcanon. like hes still a trans character. in canon. roxy is still trans even using she/her in candy. THEY ARE TRANS and that is CANON. would yall do that if roxy was revealed to be canonically transfem?? would yall disregard their canonical transgenderness in favour of your cisgendered headcanon? bet yall you wouldnt. bet thatd feel way more uncomfortable for a lotta people. this is disregarding the obvious and usual amount of transphobia canon trans characters get anyway from cis people. this is about trans community in-fighting and inter-community weirdly gendered favoritism and the weird mirroring of the more typical 'boys vs girls' logic from cishet culture

why do so many people dislike or outright hate the concept of he/him transmasc roxy but at the same time love june egbert and insist that shes hard canon... like can we cool it on the transmasc vs transfem '''war''' logic..... can we cool it on the open hatred for transmascs both real and fictional.... can we not appreciate both because theyre literally the same kind of dubiously canon

[r7-b7]

Indigenous casual Star Wars fan Hot Takes

The women deserve to live.

The mothers deserve to live.

Trans/Aro/Ace/Intersex characters: we need them. They exist. They have always existed. We need more.

Creators need to hire indigenous actors and artists. Stop just being "influenced" by us and our stories- offer to work with us, and adequately compensate us.

Almost all SW media fans the flames of unregulated White Boy Emotions. Not only encouraging but rewarding Creep behavior and the White women who hold the hands of supremacist genocidal White men. You've gotta do mental gymnastics and 3 paragraphs of his "trauma" to try to justify their femicide.

The Empire moved so seamlessly into power partially because The Republic was already an empire with a galactic militarized police force that people felt they had no chance fighting against. Similar bone structure.

Dave Filoni's Ahsoka costume choices until she's an adult and wears appropriate battle outfits. At 14 she wears a tube top, upgraded to an upper cleavage cut out, whatever perv. He was wrong for that, that was a deliberate choice made again and again until it was retconned in live action. The dedication to the white male gaze and sexualization/adultification of indigenous and Black girls is sickening and prevalent in US media.

The Jedi Order was responsible for aiding the colonization of thousands of worlds on behalf of the Republic.

The Jedi Order is based on a barely-not-a-Boomer cishet white man's perception of a bunch of religions/spiritualities and then applied to fantasy space cops, colonizer mentality is oozing out of the cracks.

People who get really mad about the criticism of the Jedi are usually White and men.

These are only "hot takes" because Star Wars is catered to White Supremacy and those who uphold it.

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Some people have a BIG issue when I talk about Star Wars and colonizers/aiding colonization. So here you go straight from your Lord Lucas's mouth:

“I have a strong feeling about interesting kids in space exploration. I want them to want it. I want them to get beyond the basic stupidities of the moment and think about colonizing Venus and Mars. And the only way it's going to happen is to have some dumb kid fantasize about it — to get his ray gun, jump in his ship and run off with this wookie into outer space. It's our only hope in a way."

Got an issue? Block me, and be gone. This wasn't for you.