someone tell me if I'm in the wrong. To understand you'll have to understand what 911 is and what the Rick Riordans books in terms of queer rep. So AITA? ig?
So a person on Tiktok said "Ever think about how shows like 911 congratulate themselves over one Gay character when Rick Riordan has 3" and then they went on to say things about Rick's rep and how Nico was Gay before gay marriage, generally positive things about his rep. But my reply was "I understand but 911 has a lot of queer characters. Hen, Karen, Michael, Josh, then their are some calls with queer people. and Rick's rep took place over YEARS over 5 different series.“ I then said “I don't think it's fair to pit two drastically different medias against each other. 911 is a ABC/Fox show so it more main stream while Rick Riordan is mainstream but for Books that not everyone reads.“ she stitched this with a tangent about how Rick has given us rep even though he's a straight cis guy from Texas and all that. Then she said that they're not impressed by a show on fox has some Gay characters while Pjo has more and is written by a guy from Huston. Then they said that theirs nothing more they could want then the rep in Ricks books.
In the comments of that stich she said “If this series oldest queer character is 16 other media has no excuses." And my response was “911 isn't making an excuse. the show started with a black lesbian main character who has a wife and a kid. it's been queer since the first episode." And they replied with “You realize this is bigger than your show right? Its almost like i’m taking a bigger point about media during pride month. But you’re too busy defending your show to notice."
In another comment I said "911 isn't getting praise because it's finally got a queer character. it's getting praise cus they saw fans hc a character as queer and changed the direction of the show to make that canon" their response was “Yes and i’m saying rick riordan did that years ago. So thats nice but also its pathetic this is the best people can expect"
Their's more but I won't bore you. But like I'm just saying that's 911 isn't getting praise for having one Gay character, it's had Gay characters since day one with Hen, Karen, Michael, ect. To say that it's only getting praise for one Gay character is erasing the rep they gave us in the beginning. They deleted some of my comments and blocked my account but I was also trying to say Rick's rep isn't the best either, and I don't mean that negatively he did well for a Genx? Straight dude from Texas, I wish more authors would at least try. But over all comparing 911 to Rick Riordans work is comparing apples to oranges, they're different mediums so it's not a fair vs.
Just AITA? I think I knew what I was saying but idk?
also don't hunt them down id hate for her to have hate because of me.
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Still baffling to me how somedays I get a physical ticket at the movies and others I don't
I dont think it's based off of when I use my movie credit, bc I didn't get them most of the times I've used it
But I know I got one for Oppenheimer, I think shrek 2? Idr, and I got one today for Kingdom of the Planet of the Apes
Movie was okay. I mean it was good, but I don't think I'd watch it again. I might see if i can find the previous movies and watch them, bc the overall lore seems cool
Got to cut in line for snacks lol bc there was a middle school class there and the kids were weaving in and out back and forth in line and there was like me and 4 other adults that didnt come with the kids in line. So one of the teachers/chaperones escorted us (by slipping under the rope barrier lmao) to the front which was really nice
I mean I was early early to the show today anyway so I could have waited (would've been annoyed but I'd have waited) but it was really nice. I hope the kids enjoyed their movie day though
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this is a really specific vent(?) post. im processing things by putting them in words. its not serious, feel free to ignore me lol
i just want to say that a couple years ago when i was in the beginning stages of researching autism (and would soon realize i am most likely autistic) i was in a relationship. and communication in a relationship is So Very important to me. I would constantly ask how he was (obviously it was more specific to whatever situation was going on) and he would always say he was fine. If I had even the Slightest hint that he wasn't actually Fine (like 19 times out of 20) i would continue asking if he was sure and if he wanted to talk, and he continued to say he was fine. half the time i assumed he meant it and i read the situation wrong, the other half of the time i assumed he didn't want to talk about it.
he ended up breaking up with me because i
"didn't pick up on some things"
"what kind of things?" i asked
"idk, just, things."
and he had been talking to my friend (U) about our relationship, and telling her that i wasn't picking up on things. she got mad at me and we had a "fight" for a short time, she thought i was being a bad partner, and her sister (M) (who is toxic and possessive) felt like i wasn't spending enough time with her, so she complained about it to their mom, who got mad at U for it for some reason? so U also brought all that up, telling me M felt left out. (i wasn't leaving M out of anything, i was sitting with my partner at lunch half of the time, she was welcome to join, but didnt, looking back i think M has RSD and maybe i should have been more direct when moving to a new location to explicitly invite her) (U was also not in school at the time due to covid, so its not like i was spending more time with her over M, which is something M would get so upset about if she perceived it to be that way [she was incredibly possessive of me as a friend and the extent of it made me feel like an object tbh])
U never brought up the issues my partner talked about, because that's how we are, we don't make it known someone was venting to us, to respect their privacy, but it fueled her emotions during our "argument"
so i really only heard her being mad at me for not including M, (which i later learned is because M's emotions were made to be her problem when they shouldn't have, this has been a running problem so it wasnt that surprising to learn) so i started spending more time with M, but it was school, and i had work, so schedules only allowed so much time, and any time I was with M (lunch and one class) was when i was also with my partner, but i had other classes with him so i assumed it was fine, but he started drifting away (also around a time i attempted to communicate something important about our relationship, which ended up making him uncomfortable, but he didn't say anything about it until we had a conversation after breaking up)
i was stuck in a place where i felt like no one around me communicated how they felt and still expected me to understand them and do what they wanted me to do
U and i recently reflected on this and realized my ex was a shitty communicator (he and his next partner also broke up because he didn't say how he felt and expected them [also most likely autistic] to... just kinda know ig?) and that she should have gotten my side of the story (she had no idea i was frequently checking on him and trying to get him to talk to me)
and that she wasnt actually upset at me about M, she was upset that people were making it her problem, and she was especially upset during this reflection to learn that M was not being left out at all, she was just doing That Thing again where she wanted me to be Her friend and Only Her friend.
U AND I ARE NOT MAD AT EACH OTHER FOR ANY OF THIS, I WAS NEVER MAD AT U AND U WAS ONLY MAD ABOUT HER PERCEPTION OF THE SITUATION, AND ONLY FOR A SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME, EVERYTHING IS FINE
so basically i went like a year and a half thinking that people were rightfully mad at me and i was too self absorbed to pay attention to other peoples' emotions and i started learning how to read people again (clearly my body language research from middle school wasn't cutting it anymore) only for me to realize i just need people to be a little more direct that allistic people typically are, and those specific people were just being dogshit at communicating, (even for allistic people, relative to my needs)
anyways highschool post-covid was Really Fucking Weird and socially stressful for me
TL;DR reflecting on my communication needs not only not being met, but being far undershot for even a "normal" persons needs and how i was convinced I was the problem because of circumstances
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