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[livingwithhsv]

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[gotdaherp]

long time no talk! I’m having one of the worst outbreaks since my first... and of course i’m in another country and didn’t bring my acyclovir 🤦‍♀️ i’m in the UK and almost convinced the guy at the pharmacy to let me buy it but he still said he couldn’t. I ordered online from Zava... anyone heard of this? apparently doctors approve it online and they can send it to you... It has some reviews. It was about $30 and i only pay like $7 at home but oh well im desperate. Supposed to come Tuesday - paid for next day shipping but of course it’s sunday so it doesn’t count. Let me know if you have recs in the meantime... may get some coconut oil.

[somethingpositive4positivepeople]

Episode 101: Tracing Behaviors Back to Beliefs

One thing I’ve learned interviewing people with herpes is that there’s often a greater problem beneath the surface to be addressed. That problem is identity. Yes, a herpes diagnosis sucks. It’s incurable, misunderstood, super stigmatized, it’s uncomfortable and in some cases, and active outbreaks are extremely painful. Often the only thing we know about herpes up to our diagnosis or meeting someone who discloses herpes to us is what we’ve learned from the stigma. It’s easy to understand why when someone is diagnosed, there’s an instant loss of identity that takes place. We talk through some ways to reconnect with yourself and create your own identity outside of your sexuality on episode 101 of SPFPP

[glitterxmessx]

Monday, April 15th, 2019

I recently disclosed to a close friends of mine, she also has ghsv too! I feel like the more I disclose to people I care about the better I feel because it’s not some big secret hanging over my head. I remember I posted in a herpes FB group about disclosing to my sisters and how much better I felt afterwards and some guy said “you don’t need to disclose to anyone other than a person you are going to have sex with.” And, that’s cool for him or whatever. But my sisters know everything about me, I never hide anything from them, so the fact that I was hiding that I had herpes from them was because I was ashamed. 

I’m not saying you should tell everyone you have herpes, who you tell is your business. But for me, telling my loved ones helped. And receiving “me too”, also really helped because it’s normalizing it. I wonder how many people actually have herpes but don’t talk about it/disclose to people because they are scared and ashamed? If more people talked about it the stigma wouldn’t be so bad. But I know the reason why I don’t talk about it so much is because the stigma is bad, catch-22 I guess.

I doubt I will ever tell everyone I meet that I have herpes, because people suck. But I am proud that I am telling people I care about, and for me, that’s enough.

[glittercatmomma]

First Herpaversery

Tomorrow I will have been officially diagnosed with herpes for an entire year. Don’t really know how to feel. Kinda depressed. Kinda don’t give a shit.

[yippee-hsv]

I’m so sorry I’ve been MIA

This community helped me immensely when I first got diagnosed. My last post before this was about finding out I was pregnant for the first time. That pregnancy resulted in a gut wrenching miscarriage, then I later conceived my now 3.5 year old son. I married my long term boyfriend and we just celebrated our 9th year together (he’s the one who gave me HSV). In that time we’ve had another miscarriage in January 2020 and our second son in June 2021.

HSV has become such a minute thing in my life, most days I completely forget about it until I hear some pop culture joke about it and get offended. I don’t recall the last time I had an actual outbreak, but there have been numerous times I’ve felt like one could be happening. The feeling/sensitivity passes in a matter of days. Most of those times have revolved around the early weeks of pregnancy and then postpartum - and reasonably so considering that part of my body went through considerable trauma during birth which can trigger an outbreak. Each time I hit 36 weeks in pregnancy, I was prescribed Valacyclovir (anti virals) to prevent or lessen any potential outbreaks.

My life doesn’t revolve around HSV anymore. I got it from my partner who had a cold sore in its early stages that neither of us paid any mind to, and I haven’t passed it back to him genitally. The first few outbreaks are hell. I recall trying to pee once during one of my first outbreaks in my work’s bathroom and it hurting so bad that I imagined breaking my arm in the handicap bar to distract from how bad it hurt. This is an STI that you can totally live with, and part of having it and learning about it can equip you to be an advocate to make it less taboo.

[sparkle-me-glitter]

Aaaand after months and months of nothing, I got an outbreak! And then as soon as it showed up, it's gone! Woo hoo! Thanks coconut oil!

Meanwhile fiancé is still on his daily pills to prevent them. Thank god for an freaking amazing immune system preventing constant pain in my lady bits. :)

[bunnylee]

1 year and 3 months since i got GHSV2

9 month to accepted the fact that i have it and cant change it. 10 month till i started to love myself again and not feel dirty. Only took 1 time to get it. 1 year and 3 months to get back into the dating seen. Wish me luck.

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[flor-dela-meseta]

Your annual herpiversary post. Today marks two years of living with HSV, so here’s a comparison pic: first is me as a freshman in college, first being diagnosed. Second is me now as a junior. I’ve honestly been doing so much better in the time between the first photo and the next. I’ve been taking good care of myself, and most of all, realizing that my worth is not defined by my condition, and I never have to settle for someone who will not accept me for it.

Thanks to all of you on here for making me realize I’m not alone. I hope to continue to do the same for others

[gotdaherp]

@buzzfeed posted this amazing video this past week that I think we can all relate to and appreciate! The first few days of your herpes diagnosis may feel like the end of your sex life and the end of any hope for a relationship, but it's really the beginning of a whole new part of your life where you love yourself and your body so much more than ever - and you meet people who are open to learning about herpes and how minor it is - and of course they still love you. Thanks buzzfeed for helping crush the herpes stigma!

[stargirl2205]

Disclosure time again

So yup. Once again being isolated by this guy I was so into. This talk he had. How he would love me regardless. It’s so much bs. The relationship has been short and new but I felt like we were gonna have sex so I disclosed… quite emotionally if I might add and now nothing. It’s like I’m begging to hear him. And I know I have to be strong and be like fuck him if he can’t see how awesome I am with or without herpes. But it hurts. It hurts so bad. Because I knew I shouldn’t have told him. I should have just pushed him off me and ran away. But I took a promise to always disclose.

Why are people such jackasses. Why is this always an issue. Why do I have to love so hard and be squashed all the time. Why does herpes run people. Like I don’t get it!!! I’m no different than the girl you supposedly loved 2 minutes ago.

I’m just a girl who wants to love and be loved back. Wholly and fully.

[glitterxmessx]

Tuesday, October 9th, 2018 The herpes has been bothering me lately, not physically but mentally. I dreamt about it last night that I disclosed to my mom. It was a bad dream, even if I don’t remember what happened, I just remembered how I felt afterwards. 

I keep thinking about T and that I wasn’t good enough for him to look past the herpes. Or even to try to give me a chance and get to know me more despite my herpes. I know this isn’t the case and everyone will tell me otherwise, but it’s hard to not feel that way. 

He did say he really liked me and could see himself falling in love with me and that he didn’t want to get more invested because he’s not okay with getting it even if it’s a small chance. And I mean, it makes sense, you’re basically saying “There’s a chance you may get this incurable infection, but please try to look past it and date me” I feel like it’s a lot to ask. But part of me feels like, if you really did like me you could’ve looked past it.

Reading success stories just bums me out because I feel like it won’t happen to me. I know I'm being negative because of my depression, my older sister says I need to “correct” these negative thoughts but it’s hard.

I feel like this is what I’m always going to feel like until I meet someone that I get along with like T and who accepts me with my herpes which I feel is a lot to ask. Ugh.

It’s just a bad day today.

[glittercatmomma]

Hardest Part About Herpes

I AM HORNY CONSTANTLY. And yeah, I could tell someone that’d probably be okay with my status that’d slap on a condem and have sex with me, but I don’t want to have that talk just in case. Getting laid was so much easier when I thought I was negative. There needs to be a tinder just for herpes positives for sex only.

Thanks for listening to a very horny person complain about not getting laid at this moment.

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