#ghsv1

[atinymoonbeamm-blog]

My Story

My discovery story is as ordinary as they come. Girl meets boy, boy and girl click, boy and girl hook up, girl loses interest in boy. A few days later, I’m sitting at my desk rolling my eyes at the itching going on in my nether regions. Of course I’d get a yeast infection during one of the busiest weeks of my life at work. I wasn’t afraid of contracting STI’s from this guy. We had that conversation talking about whether we were clean. We showed each other our latest results. We were good to go. And we did. 

A few days went by and the itching was moving from itching to painful. I noticed an ingrown hair that turned into 2 or 3 ingrown hairs and that’s when I got nervous. I finally told myself that the only way I’d be able to free myself from the excessive anxiety was by going and getting checked out. So with my anxiety reeling, I went to a local urgent care. I recounted my story and underwent an examination to find that I was having my first genital herpes outbreak. Back the fuck up.. what? My recent test results were clear. I had nothing. Clean slate. 

I immediately started crying. All of the social stigma and flashes of sex ed in middle school and high school flooded my mind. I couldn’t face the news alone so I texted by best friend group chat that included my roommate and our other best friend. My roommate told me to come home and that I wasn’t in this alone. Our other best friend made an ice-cream run and showed up at our front door with unconditional love and support. I told my two best friends from home, 2000 miles away, and they reassured me that it was no big deal, and that I was loved no matter what. When I got home, I lost it. I immediately began spewing self hate. Both of them talked me down. One of them told me she had HPV, and the other told me she knew plenty of people with gHSV and it wasn’t a big deal. I sulked for a moment wondering if this was something I was going to tell my mom - someone that I told everything to. 

I decided yes. I was going to. She was a nurse. She saw this all the time. I had never been more afraid of telling anyone anything in my life. I texted her a simple, “I found out I’m having my first herpes outbreak..” and pressed send, a lump in my throat all the way. Not even a minute later I had a response of her saying, “Ehh, welcome to the world! You’re not special.” I immediately started laughing. Leave it up to my mom to take something traumatic to me to find a way to tell me I’m not special - something we always joke about all the time. I immediately had such a sense of relief come over me and I felt calmer about it as my friends and I began looking up as much as we could about it. I told the three people I was closest to about it and was met with no judgement, no bias, no stigma. I wasn’t alone. But then came the social stuff.  Initially I was upset at said boy. Did he lie to me? I should have waited to text him but in a rage, I told him he lied to me and that he gave me herpes. He was immediately horrified. He swore up and down he was clean. He had never, ever had anything of the sort happen to him.. not even a cold sore.. except all of his siblings. He was super supportive and very apologetic. It dawned on us that even though he himself had never had symptoms of anything, that it was very possible he could be exposed to it, and he could be a carrier, but had never had an outbreak. I told him I wasn’t upset with him. How could I be pissed at someone who doesn’t even know themselves that they have it? He was just as scared as I was when I found out.

I found out the strain a few days later. HSV1 - which means it was very likely transmitted to me through oral sex. Prior to him, I had one other partner that it could have been transmitted through. I texted him - and again was met with someone completely unbiased, understanding, and supportive. He thanked me for telling him - even though we both agreed he most likely wasn’t at risk of contracting it from me, there could have been a chance I contracted it from him but he had also never had outbreaks of any sort. We had a long talk about it where he asked me if there was anything he could do for me as he showed empathy toward what I was going through. I appreciated that.  It took just a few days for my outbreak to go away once I got on a dose of Acyclovir. As it began clearing up, I told my friends I would never take “wiping normal” for granted again, and they told me we should celebrate the survival of my first outbreak. My mom texted me every day for status updates. When I told her it was gone, she sent a confetti text with “Congratulations! I have a gift coming for you in the mail because I love you!” Leave it to my weird people to make this something to celebrate, and to make it feel so normal.  I feel like I was lucky in my experience. I didn’t have to go through my first outbreak scared and alone. Instead, they held my hand, offered encouraging words, and helped me find out everything we could about the virus and the treatments out there. A few days later, one of the best friends from back home texted telling me everything she educated herself on regarding the virus and how she thought it was so unreal how stigmatized it was. I sent a shrug emoji and said, “If anything, it’s more incentive to work out, eat better, and manage my stress levels healthier to prevent more outbreaks.” Our other friend chimed in with, “And it’ll be a great filter to find out what dudes are douches immediately,” which I hadn’t even originally thought of but DAMN, she’s right. 

For You

For anyone reading this, I want you to know it’s not the end of the world that you have gHSV of either type, or even oHSV. You were simply exposed to a virus. Sometimes it gets uncomfortable. But it doesn’t make you dirty or immoral. It makes you a human being. Human beings get sick. Kids run around with their crusty selves sporting cold sores all the time and no one bats an eye. The major right of passage in high school was Mono which is caused by Epstein-Barr. Once you’re exposed to that virus, it lays dormant in you forever - but very rarely it can re-awaken and you can shed that virus. HSV is the same, it’s just been used in fear mongering abstinence based sexual education teachings in the American school system for years. If anything, having HSV in any form makes you MORE normal than those who don’t have it at this point.There are treatments available to suppress the virus and make it harder to transmit. That can keep you from ever having an outbreak. You can have a normal sex life, and dating life. Carrying a virus doesn’t make you unworthy of love, and diminish your worth at all. Period.I really just want to leave you with this - if someone is willing to eat your ass but unwilling to be with you after you disclose your status and educate them on your treatment, and how you can protect them, fuck ‘em (not literally). They’re not worth your time.. and they’re going to end up getting it from the next person anyway.

[tarothermit1]

On top of everything , I have an outbreak basically near my ass and it hurts to sit so lmfao fuck everything!

[glittercatmomma]

First Herpaversery

Tomorrow I will have been officially diagnosed with herpes for an entire year. Don’t really know how to feel. Kinda depressed. Kinda don’t give a shit.

[thefallfromgrace]

I haven't been on here in a while. But I'm alive! Herpes and I are best friends again 🤞

[glitterhippo4lyfe]

Waiting....

You know what’s stressing me out. Waiting for my next outbreak. The next time that I have to say no. The next time that I have to go through this roller coaster of emotions. Every tickle, itch, burn etc. sends me down a path of some really weird emotions.

I actually have plans for V-Day this year....which have never happened before, and I’m constantly checking to see if I have bumps....and I hate it.

I hate not knowing the signs yet -_-

It’s stressing me out and I’m so worried about hurting someone I care about.

[flor-dela-meseta]

Your annual herpiversary post. Today marks two years of living with HSV, so here’s a comparison pic: first is me as a freshman in college, first being diagnosed. Second is me now as a junior. I’ve honestly been doing so much better in the time between the first photo and the next. I’ve been taking good care of myself, and most of all, realizing that my worth is not defined by my condition, and I never have to settle for someone who will not accept me for it.

Thanks to all of you on here for making me realize I’m not alone. I hope to continue to do the same for others

[tarothermit1]

Hey it's been 2 years since I got herpes and I'm still thriving.

Shout out to herpblr, bf at the time, and momma for helping me when I had my first outbreak and my pussy was on fire 😂.

I've probably had a total of 5 outbreaks since then. I PROMISE glitter havers it gets better 💖

[glittercatmomma]

Hardest Part About Herpes

I AM HORNY CONSTANTLY. And yeah, I could tell someone that’d probably be okay with my status that’d slap on a condem and have sex with me, but I don’t want to have that talk just in case. Getting laid was so much easier when I thought I was negative. There needs to be a tinder just for herpes positives for sex only.

Thanks for listening to a very horny person complain about not getting laid at this moment.

[thefallfromgrace]

STD Testing is not for EVERYTHING

People always say get tested for STDs, but they don't know that Herpes is not including in any STD testing. If you walk into a clinic right now and say I want to get tested for STDs, you'll get tested for the main ones like gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, and HIV. But Herpes is not including in any standard STD testing because it's so common and it would be hard to pin point where it would be if you never had an outbreak. If you actually wanted to get tested for Herpes, you would have to request it.

Safe sex is great sex, but condoms can't stop everything. Everyone thinks that oral sex is the loop hole for sex, but you can still get STDs. Trust me... I'm just another girl living with Herpes that I contracted through oral sex. I wasn't aware that the other person had it, there were no visible signs. Hell, afterwards they denied ever having any type of Herpes or STDs (and quote "on my momma"). Before having it, I didn't even know it could be transferred like that. I used to be ignorant as many still are, but all I can do is share my knowledge with others in hopes that they'll learn acceptance, tolerance, and awareness.

Peace, love, and hair grease. ✌️💞☮️

[respectedbandit]

I'm scared I'm mega committed to just my first love What if I'm so blinded by the fact that he's my first love I'm just playing myself and got glitter out of stupidity knowing the risk. I care for him I really do but my hesitation to commitment makes me question the entirety even though he hasn't done anything to make me question him in general it's literally just me being skeptical of finding someone who's actually good for means In the back of my mind I believe that everyone experiences heartbreaks and I'm just waiting for mine

[tarothermit1]

Soo it's been a whole year since I caught the glitter (hsv/herpes) or whatever

Still alive, still thriving and sex life is still bomb.

Being herpes girl aint so bad!

[glittercatmomma]

Jokes about the Glitter

I constantly see people on social media joking about herpes not even realizing that people are going through life with herpes. They are even ignorant to the fact that they might have it!!

I admit, I used to make herpes jokes myself, but once I was diagnosed with herpes, my ENTIRE outlook changed. I stopped making fun of SO many topics that were entirely out of people’s control (and so did my friends). My horizons opened and the way I thought about things have been very different. I have learned to be way more open minded and understanding than I have been before I was diagnosed.

I just wish people on twitter and Facebook could understand what we’re going through and learn that what we’re going through is not a joke. We’re not dirty, gross, sluts, or a disease. We’re human beings with feelings that are going through something that destroys our psychological health more than it destroys our physical health and seeing it constantly being laughed at doesn’t help us cope. Herpes, and any other STD/STIs for that matter, should not be made the butt of every punch line. I just wish some people realized that every comment that they make can hurt someone.

People with herpes don’t wear an H on their foreheads to let everyone know that they have it. DAMN NEAR EVERYONE HAS HERPES. So the next time you want to be funny, don’t use our lives as the joke.

[thefallfromgrace]

Note to self

A note I wrote to myself over a year ago. Maybe someone else could use it.

Always remember...

You have come so far all these years.

You got it under control.

You've grown so much. You are so open about it.

Yes, it will pop up from time to time,

But you know it will come.

Remain calm.

Remember, it will pass.

The first time was the worse time.

Take your medicine and keep going on with your day.

Spread love and hope,

Show progress and become the woman you want to be.

Don't get down, sunshine.

You have come soooo far and made it through so many tough times.

You got it, you been had it.

Now prove to yourself and the world that you are in control.

This doesn't make you, you make it.

Now carry on 💁

[justglitter]

Second outbreak in over a year ugh

Spoke too soon :/ dealing with my second outbreak at the moment. I’m kinda surprised and a little disappointed since my first was last may (16 months ago) and I thought that would be my first and last outbreak (I’ve read that people with ghsv1 usually have one OB and that’s it). I didn’t experience any prodromes and it doesn’t hurt, it’s just a bit itchy so that isn’t too bad I guess.

Anyway, I’ve put some aloe vera gel and tea tree oil gel on the stupid sores so hopefully that will help. I hope they go away in a couple of days and that outbreaks don’t become a regular thing for me