#get that authentic bf experience

[emry-stars-art]

Follow up to this post, since I COULD NOT know peace until I got the “shy angry cat finally trusts you enough to come sleep on you” energy of this concept out of my system. Thanks @jtl-fics (😘)

And DOUBLE THANKS Ash for putting it in word form 🥹 you can read this sweet little exchange here! 💕

[saturninemartial]

Hi friends, it's me yet again. I've decided to focus on writing the modern AU where Sanji is a drag queen; the name of the AU is now bloom!

I'm going to write a multi-chapter longfic for lawlu meeting and getting together; the name of this fic will be daffodils. The last chapter, I think, will be about zsn's wedding, where loof is zoro's best man, and he's invited his now-bf law. The fic will have a lot of found family stuff, friend shenanigans, loof meeting cora, SEX, and romance and fluff (and humor). Chapters will alternate POV, starting with Law!

I've already written the openings to the first and second chapters!:

(Featuring Mexican Luffy and Spanish Sanji, because I can. ✨️)

I'm also going to write a oneshot more focused on zosan. After they're married, some of the friends go to a queer prom (event for adults who get to live the prom experience as their authentic selves), where Sanji (as Chouquette) and the band will be performing. There are flashback segments to when the East Blue crew were in high school, Sanji was presumed to be cishet and going to prom with Pudding, and Zoro was pining painfully. Juxtaposed against them being 30 years old and married, and Sanji confidently dolled up in drag. And then they go home and have sex with feelings. :)

Follow me for more updates, and feel free to send in your questions, comments, and even ideas! <3

[outro-jo]

skz dating a non-binary person

pairing: skz members x nonbinary reader

type: scenarios

warnings: most of them are fluff but chan’s is kinda angsty and seungmin’s is lowkey crack, transphobia, queer joke in seungmin’s (don’t take it too seriously), mentions of being misgendered, gender affirming surgery and hrt are mentioned, reader in felix’s is excited about androgyny, closet joke

notes: it’s international non binary people’s day and i wanted to celebrate by posting something relating to it as i am nonbinary myself and don’t see a lot of fanfiction written about us. i want to be extremely clear: i talk about coming out, receiving medical care, and being excited about androgyny. i fully understand that not all of these apply to everyone’s experience as a nonbinary person, and some of them do not even apply to my own personal experience. these are works of fiction and i hope they are comforting to other nonbinary/gender queer individuals. i would also like to note that i kept this as neutral as possible so that no matter your assigned sex/gender at birth you can read this. if there’s anything i missed, please reach out to me! i want to remind you all that you are valid and loved no matter what. i hope that you enjoy even if you aren’t nonbinary or gender queer and just celebrate (what’s left of) this day with us! happy reading!

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seungmin- coming out

the elevator to the dorms was moving slow and while normally it would have annoyed you, you were kind of thankful for it today. you let out a deep sigh, rubbing your palms on your jeans. today was the day you were finally coming out to seungmin and your nerves were alight. the elevator finally dinged, signaling you were on the right floor and you soon stood at seungmin’s door, awaiting an answer. “oh! hey! c’mon in!” jeongin greeted you. “seungmin! your gf/bf is here!!!” he yelled out, making you cringe before running back to his own room. seungmin poked his head out of his bedroom, “hey! in here. felix is getting on my nerves today.” felix overheard and bickering ensued which under normal circumstances would at least get a chuckle out of you, but right now all you could do was sit on seungmin’s bed and stare at the floor. seungmin noticed and stopped mid sentence, “hey, you ok?” he asked as he shut the door behind him. it wasn’t until he sat next to you that you finally heard him. “what? sorry, i was zoning out.” you have him a weak smile. “are you ok? what’s on your mind?” his eyebrows furrowed in concern. panic filled your chest and before you could even think about anything you blurted out, “i’m non binary!” those furrowed brows quickly raised in surprise as seungmin stared back at you with wide eyes. “umm does this make me gay?” was all he asked. now it was your turn to be confused. “dude, i can’t answer that. that’s all you.” you threw your hands up in surrender. seungmin sat for a minute, face scrunched up in what looked to be deep thought. finally he said. “i don’t care. i just wanna date you.” relief washed over you and your shoulders visibly slumped as a wide smile spread across your face. “really? you’re ok?” “why wouldn’t i be? i can’t tell you who you are. i just get to love whoever that is.” he said with a shrug to his shoulders. you could cry. you never expected a reaction like this from him and you knew in that moment he was the one for you.

lee know- coming out to parents

minho knew from the beginning of the relationship. it’s something you’re up front with when it comes to new people in your life but never something you could tell your family. the thought alone terrified you. however, your therapist had been encouraging you to be authentically yourself and that meant coming out to your parents. minho was supportive but hesitant. he was extremely protective over you and the kind of mistreatment you could receive because of your gender identity but he was always for you being yourself completely. so when the two of you went to your parents house for dinner, minho had your hand in his the whole night. he had encouraged you on the front steps that you moved at your own pace and should tell them whenever you felt comfortable, even if that meant not coming out at all. your mother had actually been talking about a friend of hers who had a non binary child. she spoke relatively positively and it gave you a small sense of optimism. your father was his usual self, not making too many comments on the subject. the night progressed and you felt it was time. you gave minho’s hand a squeeze and in response he sat up straighter, preparing for anything. “mom… dad… there’s something i’d like to tell you.” you started. “uh-oh! we’re not hearing wedding bells yet, are we?” your mom teased. you laughed and shook your head as minho protested alongside you. “not yet.” you said, smiling at him. “it’s actually um…” both of your parents leaned forward in anticipation, their face starting to read worried. “i’m… i’m nonbinary.” your chest tightened and you started to fidget but minho tightened his grip on your hand to settle you. your parents sighed and looked at each other. “well, what are your pronouns, dear?” in that moment, your heart could have burst. the rest of the evening was spent with your parents actually listening to you and asking how they can better support you. you left that night with tears in your eyes. minho led you to the car and opened the door but stopped you. he wrapped his arms around you tightly and you melted into him. “i’m so proud of you.”

jeongin- being misgendered

from the moment you came out to jeongin, he was nothing but sweet and supportive. though you told him you were open to questions, he wanted to take it upon himself to learn all he could to be the best partner for you. everyday it seemed like jeongin was surprising you with new knowledge he’d learned. it came as no surprise to you that when the two of you were out with some friends and one of them misgendered you, jeongin was the first to speak up. your mouth had barely opened when jeongin started kindly correcting them and reminding them of your pronouns. your cheeks felt flushed and you were trying your best to conceal the smile on your face. no one had ever protected you like this before. when the two of you were heading home, in the back of the cab you took his hand. “thank you for earlier.” you gave him a sheepish look. jeongin smiled at you warmly before leaning in to kiss your lips softly. “you never have to thank me for that.”

hyunjin- celebrating non-binary day

the day was normal. you woke up and did everything like you usually did; getting ready, work, coming home. nothing overly special or ordinary about the day that was until your boyfriend came home. “baby!” hyunjin burst through the door as you were standing at the stove making dinner. “hi, love” you greeted him without turning to look at him but he rushed over to you, taking your shoulders in his hands. “why didn’t you tell me?!?” his eyes were wide, his hair all messy and windblown. “tell you what, baby?” you raised a confused eyebrow. “what do you mean ‘what’? it’s literally your day!” he turned off the stove and pulled you by your hand back to your bedroom. “get dressed i’m taking you out.” “hyune, why? what are we celebrating?” you finally stopped and stood in front of him with your hands on your hips. “it’s international non-binary people's day and i know that we have trans day of visibility and pride month, this is also a special day where i can celebrate you.” he smiled at you, his eyes turning into cute crescent moons. “awe hyune…” you tucked into his chest for a hug. “i love you.” “i love you, too, baby. now hurry up! the day’s almost over!” he rushed you into the closet (not again 😮‍💨) with a pat to your bum.

chan- receiving hate

chris was supportive of you as soon as he met you. he often told you how proud he was of you and how brave you were for just being yourself. it meant the world to have that kind of support from your partner which held you up during hard times when the rest of the world wasn’t so supportive. most of the time any sort of mistreatment or misgendering rolled right off your back. you know who you are and no bigot could ever get to you, but ever since people found out you and chris were dating… it’s been a lot. you have seen a lot of supportive comments and other trans/nonbinary people happy celebrating your relationship which was amazing to see but the negative comments were just getting to you. it was nearly 3am and you were just doom scrolling, crying over all the hate. you knew you needed to stop, especially with chris coming home soon, but you just couldn’t. as expected, the front door opened and shut but you still couldn’t look away. “hey, baby, i’m— no, hey! what’s wrong?” he rushed right over to you, pulling you into his arms. he looked down at your phone and knew. “you’ve gotta quit reading that shit.” chris said through gritted teeth, pressing a kiss to your temple. it’s easier said than done and he knew that all too well. he can think back to times when he was feeling his lowest, reading all the awful things people had to say about him. the fact that it was happening to you just simply because you were being your authentic self made his blood boil. all he wanted to do was tell those transphobes off or beat the shit out of them, anything to protect your light but he knew he couldn’t. the only thing he will ever be able to do is hold you, kiss you, and remind you of just how amazing you are. that’s what he’ll always do.

changbin- buying you something pride related

changbin is not the type of guy to do something half way. he’s loud and proud and when you came out to him as non binary, he wants to do everything he could to show you he was supportive. you were both home one day, cuddling on the couch and catching up on new episodes of a show when you were alerted that a package was at your door. “binnie, did you order anything?” you asked as you shuffled to the door and scooped the package from the steps. “shit, bin! it’s heavy!” he rushed over from the couch to grab it from you, “ooh it’s here!” he was all giddy for some reason. “baby, what is it?” you asked again as he sliced it open. the entire box was full of yellow, purple, white and black. you recognized the colors immediately and your heart melted. he giggled as he pulled out flags, blankets, cards, buttons, plushies, literally anything he could get his hands on that had the non-binary pride flag colors on it. “look! it’s a little bee!!” he showed you, bouncing excitedly. “binnie, this is so cute, but why did you get all this stuff.” you instantly regretted asking that question when the grin on his face turned into an adorably painful pout. “because i’m really proud of you and i love you. i’m really glad you came out to me.” he said in pout. a smile grew on your face. “i’m glad i came out to you too, binnie.” changbin returned to his excitement, grinning from ear to ear and bouncing again before leaning in to kiss you quickly.

jisung- gender affirming care

today was a very special day. you finally get to see your new body, the way you’d always wanted it to be. all those nagging voices in the back of your head could finally stop and you would start to feel like the person you were always meant to be. you were giddy when you woke up and your boyfriend was too. jisung was one of the most supportive people you’d ever met. when you came out to him, he had felix bake you a cake and then cried when he “outed” you to felix (who you had already told). and when you started hrt, he got excited at every milestone and change. even when you told him about the surgery you wanted, he was doing research and going to every appointment, asking questions about your safety and care. he helped you every step of the way and now he was holding your hand in the office over his bouncing knee, probably more anxious than you were. the doctor came in and greeted you before carefully removing the bandages and assessing the healing process. “the stitches look good? i’ve been keeping them clean!” jisung chimed in. “they look amazing! you did a great job!” the doctor confirmed and you sent jisung a wink. “ok, now let’s have you take a look.” the doctor rolled his chair back so you could stand and look in the floor length mirror. you took slow, small steps to the mirror, your heart beating out of your chest. as you came into view, tears began to form in your eyes. yes, there were red scars and yes it wasn’t perfect, but that was you. jisung came up behind you, carefully reaching out to hold your sides and tuck his chin into your shoulder. “are you happy, baby?” he asked softly. you nod, turning to look at him with the tears now falling down your cheeks and a wide smile on your face. “that’s me, jisungie.” you let out a light laugh. jisung kissed your cheek. “you’re beautiful, my love. i’m so proud of you.”

felix- gender euphoria

you were in line at the coffee shop waiting for your drinks. felix had grabbed a seat over by the windows and was already people watching as he waited. suddenly your name was called and you walked up to the counter. “here you are, sir—uh, ma’am…sir?” the poor teenage worker couldn’t decide on what to call you. you laughed, “thank you.” electricity coursed through your veins as you rushed over to the table with your drinks. “LIX!” you squealed in a hushed tone. his face immediately lit up upon seeing yours. “someone’s happy! did they actually get your order right this time?” he asked taking a sip of his drink before making a face. “ugh, it’s right. this is yours.” “no, ok, listen!” he leaned in eagerly, finally grabbing the right drink and taking a sip. “the barista couldn’t tell what gender i was! the poor kid kept just going back and forth trying to figure out if i was a ‘sir’ or ‘ma’am’!” your feet kicked under the table. “SLAY!” felix cheered. you cringed. “i think i regret teaching you that.” “excuse me, i learned it on tiktok before i even met you!” he feigned offense. “i think that’s somehow worse.” you laughed. “yeah, well, either way i’m happy for you, love. the gender euphoria must feel so good right about now.” “incredible!”

[lifeofpriya]

I love your Jack writing!! Could you do a headcanon of how dating Jack would be like? <3

oooh, a headcanon! okay, so this is my first time writing one, so please forgive me if it's absolute crap 😔

Jack as a bf would be very reliable and dependable. he'd be the kind of boyfriend who is always there for his partner, he always keeps his promises to the best of his ability--barring his jet-setting career--and overall, i feel like he'd place high importance on providing you a sense of security

Jack as a bf would be very adventurous and energetic. he likes to keep the relationship exciting and dynamic by bringing you along with him to several of his tournaments. he would CHERISH making new memories together and exploring new experiences together

Jack as a bf would be very down-to-earth and honest. he is very open and transparent when it comes to communication. he really values honesty and authenticity in his relationships, so he won't be afraid to speak his mind and be straightforward with anything that might be bothering him

Jack as a bf would be very playful and fun-loving. it's a rare treat we see from Jack off the court, but when his playful and lighthearted side shines through, you simply cannot get enough of it. British humor quite often has a bit of understatement and irony to it, and I think he would love to make you laugh with his dry wit

Jack as a bf would be very athletic and driven. with his career as a tennis player, he's very disciplined and goal-oriented. i think he'd enjoy active dates whether it be hiking, cycling, or even playing a few friendly sets together

Jack as a bf would be very supportive and competitive. he loves being your cheerleader for your pursuits, whether it be related to your career or it's a hobby you're passionate about. i feel like he'd also not be afraid to have a healthy competitive streak with you--he always pushes you to be your best

Jack as a bf would be very charismatic and charming. with his public persona, Jack would be great at charming people; he's the life of the party, but he also knows when to dial it down for a quiet evening in

Jack as a bf would be very stylish and well-groomed. the burberry fashion show and the vogue uk photoshoot. enough said

Jack as a bf would be very patient and understanding. being an athlete requires discipline and patience, and i feel like these qualities would translate well into his relationship and make him a pretty supportive and understanding boyfriend

Jack as a bf would be very family oriented. while his career demands a lot of his time, Jack really values and cherishes any quality time he can spend with his family an friends

[absolutebl]

This Week In BL - GMMTV Holds the Line

Feb 2023 Wk 1

Being a highly subjective assessment of one tiny corner of the interwebs. Organized by which ones (in each category) I’m enjoying most.

When they say “famous last words” this is what they mean. 

Ongoing Series - Thai

My School President (Fri YT) ep 10 of 12 - They are so stinkn’ CUTE as bfs. Possibly the cutest. I chuckle a lot with this show. And that’s great, very serotonin inducing. Also 2nd half had good soapy drama tension with the music competition + the mom’s surgery at the SAME TIME (gasp). Can’t wait for next week.

Moonlight Chicken (Weds YT) 1-2 of 8 - Oh it’s great. Messy gays struggling with both internal and external conflict. It has a Taiwanese gritty queer authenticity to it. EarthMix are perfect for these roles. Khaotung is the most adorable thing ever. And GeminiFourth are fun to see as new characters. Fourth is showing off his acting chops, the way he holds his jaw and mouth for this more sullen complicated part - it’s completely different from Gun. His acting style reminds me of Nanon a bit, he’s very nuanced in his facial expressions.   

Never Let Me Go (Tues YT) ep 9 of 12 - 15 minutes of cute bf and dumb tattoos and then SUFFER! I love how quickly Palm put to rest your bog standard gay boy fantasies about a bisexual’s options. Palm was basically: “All the things that you dream for me with a woman, I can do that with you.” Honestly? I wasn’t that moved by the noble sacrifice of this episode. It was fine. More peril please. Looking forward to things going very very badly for the next couple of episodes. Bring on the pain GMMTV. 

Hit Bite Love (Sat YouTube) ep 3 of 6 - Baby Dom is quite the kink dilettante, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a kinkster with more varied tastes. Maybe baby just hasn’t found his true fetish yet? I feel for poor Shogun who just wants a boyfriend who treats him decently and ends up with Mr. Experimental. The humorous outcome is, of course, predictable. Not wild about the stepbrothers storyline (despite my taboo preferences). Really? I just want more King and Burger.

609 Bedtime Story (Fri WeTV) ep 11fin - With the exception of Mum, every character suddenly started acting totally OUT of character. Anygay, Mum comes back to find Dew single and all obstacles to their romance magically cleared. The pub staff setting them up was cute. But all in all it felt like we were suddenly in a completely different show. Series review below. 

I cannot believe we have 3 BL’s airing AT THE SAME TIME from GMMTV. It’s insane. I remember when it was exciting because we had 3 BLs airing at the same time at all.

Ongoing Series - Not Thai

HIStory 5: Love in the Future (Taiwan Weds Viki) ep 7 of 10 (or 13&14 of 20) - It’s an office romance BL, so I like that office politics is complicating matters for both of our couples. I personally don’t believe in scions (with very few exceptions, we know it tends to be bad for a corporation, and that has certainly been my experience). Still, it’s suitably traumatic to see our couples in angst over the power transition. The confession scene for the leads was very sweet. And a nice kiss. And cute bf. Taiwan always just does these beats better than anyone else. 

Candy Color Paradox AKA Ameiro Paradox (Japan Fri Gaga) ep 8 fin - K needed to realize O is a big boy. Yes we get it. Bummer he couldn’t figure out that for himself and had to be told by somebody else. I do feel sorry for the bartender character who keeps having to deal with all of these gay boys and their inability to communicate and resulting overdramatic depression. Meanwhile O needed to realize K needs him. And they both needed to learn to communicate, these… journalists. Good kiss and decent sex scenes for a JBL, with an HEA. Careful Japan we may start to develop expectations. I bumped up my rating on the strength of this finale. It was good! Series review below.  

Individual Circumstances (Thurs Viki) 7-8fin - I like the resolution and explanation for the conflict, a lot more than I liked the conflict itself. The kiss wasn’t awesome, but it wasn’t entirely dead fish either. However, Korea has proved that it can do better, so I was annoyed by it. Also, no shirtless scene this time around, we were robbed. Series review below.

The End Of The World, With You AKA Bokura no Micro na Shuumatsu (Japan Sun Gaga ep 2 of 8 - This is way too high heat for them to end it happily. It’s all v weird. I guess I’ll keep watching? Even if everyone dies, this one is not gonna ruin me the way Eternal Yesterday almost did.

It’s Airing But I’m Not Watching it 

My Beautiful Man S2 (Viki & Gaga) - Because there are only 4 episodes, I decided to wait and binge this one. What can I say? I just do not trust Japan. Sorry I’m too scared, those of you braver than I must watch first - I salute you and look forward to the gifs.

Egoist (Japan) cinema - Japanese movies are notoriously difficult to get ahold of.

Marry My Dead Body AKA Ghost and I Becoming Family (Taiwan) - movie about a police officer forced to marry a ghost.

Cafe in Love - Can’t find it 

Finished this week

609 Bedtime Story 

An interesting time slip concept and a great set up ultimately disappointed. It opened strong, on one of my favorite under appreciated Thai actors: Plustor (as Vee) in a side bartender romance with younger bisexual king, Games. Unfortunately, it went downhill from there. OhmFluke’s solid chemistry and romantically soft kisses were ill served by a reformed rake meets rich-kid cheater pairing. While it was nice to see Ohm play a part with more animated facial expressions, his was the only character that remained consistent. All in all, this was a confusing show about disloyalty and parallel worlds that never made sense or stayed true to its characters. A promising start, confusing middle, and disappointing end. I don’t say this lightly, but Oh My Sunshine Night is better, and OhmFuke deserve better than either. 6/10

Individual Circumstances 

A second chance romance between a movie director who was once promising and a writer who disappeared due to past hurt. Stars JunQ (main rapper of MYNAME) and Han Jung Wan (Mr International Korea winner). Reunion romances are not my thing but I liked the bratty director despite his stalking (and prob because of his naked chest). Using a guitar to torture someone is entirely appropriate, in my book/BL world it happens all too often. I did want to know what happened in the past but the mystery got drawn out too much and the tsundere character became frustratingly mean spirited as a result. I like the resolution and explanation for the conflict a lot more than I liked the conflict itself. I could tell what this show wanted to be, and what it could’ve been, but it simply never got there. In the end, like a host of other KBLs over the last couple of years, it is serviceable but eminently forgettable. 7/10

Candy Color Paradox AKA Ameiro Paradox 

Innocent but talented gay tabloid journalist partners (and falls in love with) a jaded player bisexual cameraman. This is a solid JBL of the more emo, cringe, and navel gazing variety that never really resonates with me. The main pairs’ chemistry felt weak and their characters were pat (for live action yaoi, I’ve seen or read this couple a million times). Bringing Izuka Kenta in to guest star was a stroke of genius and also challenging, because he has a complex history with JBL which I could not forget as I watched him EAT up the screen so hard he made the leads feel insipid. There were a lot of aspects of this show that felt more KBL than JBL. I missed the kinky edgy pushing boundaries we usually get from Japanese office romances. It did have a stellar ending (featuring a decent kiss and 2 nice sex scenes, you go Japan) but for me CCP was fine, just no more than fine. 8/10

Look you know how I feel about JBL, when it’s good it’s some of my absolute favorite (Seven Days, Old Fashion Cupcake, Minato’s Laundromat, Takara & Amagi), nothing else whips me into wit and eloquence and film crit like it, but when it’s off, for me, it’s really off. And Ameiro never gelled with me. It was too much work to watch. I don’t like chewy BL - nourishing and necessary though it may be for others. 

Gossip

Issues and Controversies of Thai BL Actors - I get asked about these a lot, so I’m just gonna point you all at this YT henceforth.

Viki picked up Boys Planet so I’m watching it. I have FEELS but I’m not going to ruin a perfectly decent BL blog with Kpop reality TV, no matter how pretty. Just know I’m over here suffering for 4 hours every week. SUFFERING. Some of the singing during the first ep alone was SO BAD it put Thai BL boyfriends to shame. I am so glad they got 3 vocal coaches in this show. People better vote with their goddamn ears and not just (as they did with iLand) much lower down. (Oo, I’m salty already.) 

In Case You Missed It

Feb releases list is here.

2023 forthcoming BL master post. (see comments some are inaccurate, NOT UPDATED)

Next Week Looks Like This:

I am so spoiled these days, now I’m upset there isn’t a good KBL airing right now. Do you remember when we barely got one or two a year? What a demanding monster 2022 turned me into. Anygay, 4 more Thai BL starting this week... 

Destiny Seeker (Tues WeTV ) 1 of ? - Feb 14 we think, MDL is janky on this one. Engineering student Songkram is head of dorm 3, for "strong & athletic" students. Aye is head of dorm 2, for the "good looking" students. Aye used to be Songkram's tutor and friend, but they fell apart after becoming dorm heads. Aye is actually in love with Songkram but thinks Sonkram likes someone else. Songkram actually likes Aye. So, Bad Buddy the pulp rebirth meets that weird Japanese “girls-crossdressing-as-boys for love and infiltrating secret society of hotness” tradition. 

Boyband (Thurs YT) 1 of 10 - Feb 16, it’s on the tin, BL drama about putting an idol boyband together. AKA how to make ABL suffer by combing favorite (celebrity romances, Kpop) and least favorite (bad singing) tropes.

Bed Friend (Sat YT & iQIYI uncut) 1 of 8 - Feb 18, but we’re looking for the rerun/uncut, so not sure on drop date for those. Fuck buddies get messy, AKA Between Us the second cuming, this time in an office (and on a desk). I have been waiting for James to hold down (or be held down in) a BL for years! Watch out, new kings of high heat are heading our way. 

Chains of Heart (Sat Gaga) 1 of 10 - Feb 18 Suspense thriller about a forest ranger, smugglers, memory loss, and lost love. Stars Haii (Cirrus in TT2) and Poppy (Porpla in YYY). Adapted from a Y-novel of the same name by TJ Tommy. 

Supposedly, but I’ve no idea where to watch it:

Jack Frost (Japan) - Feb 17 After saying goodbye to his friend, Ritsu had an accident and lost his memory. His roommate, Ikuya, struggles to rebuild their relationship and help him regain his memories. In the process, Ritsu falls in love with Ikuya, but he was unaware that they were already in a relationship.

Moments Of Love (Thai) Feb 14 Foremorfilm Production movie for cinema release. Was originally Golf (Director of 609 Bedtime Story & The Eclipse) to direct stars SmartJames (LeonPhob from Don't Say No) in a series. Is now something totally different and a movie. We are all confused.

THIS WEEK’S BEST MOMENTS

Open boys are the best boys. Never Let Me Go

Moonlight Chicken with ALL the zingers, plus verse characters. Thank you GMMTV! 

Why so cute indeed. My School President 

(last week)

Current Kpop earworm? Villain by Key (Shinee) just on hard rotation. It’s great. 

[nothingbutloveforyou]

My boyfriend made me believe in love! As a kid/teen I always dreamed of love and romance, but never had the luck of being in a relationship. I ended up in a toxic fwb situation with a person right at the end of highschool, not being able to get out of it for years, until I met my boyfriend and had my first real crush on someone since I was 16. I took the brave step of confessing my feelings, which were reciprocated. This allowed me to finally escape the bad situation and my bf and I started happily dating! We've been dating for almost three years now and I still have the most joyful crush on him and vice versa. We've learned so much together and as individuals, growing and healing together while still being the goofiest silliest duo. I'm learning what real and healthy love is, about emotions and feelings and how to coexist with another human; we've created ways to include silliness in conflict resolution, and a safe space to be as imperfectly human as needed. The freedom and joy and sunshine I feel these days is unmatched, I've never felt more authentic and alive. It's a dream come true and I'll be forever grateful for every moment shared with him. We're also finally closing the gap in less than a month after being long distance for more than 2.5 years, and we're both so excited and ecstatic for our new adventure living in the same city. This is the person I want to grow old and experience life with. <3

ahh that’s wonderful!! i wish you only the best for what’s to come! 🤍

[femmefatalevibe]

Hi lovely! I'm in a dilemma. I'm in a loving relationship with a man but I've recently been craving intimate relationships with women to the point that it keeps me up at night. Sometimes I feel like such a creep when I find women attractive even though I know that it's acceptable. My problem is that I want to be with a woman soooo badly but I can't with my current bf and I don't want to lose him. Idk what to do. Thank you!

Hi love! This sounds like an incredibly tough dilemma. My heart goes out to you with this one. While I know this must be a stressful situation, I hope you're proud of yourself for being honest about your desire and sexual identity. Coming to terms with our authentic selves can be difficult sometimes, so congrats on engaging in this deep inner work with yourself while also being sensitive to your partner's needs.

I totally get why desiring someone outside your relationship would make you uncomfortable if you're in a committed monogamous relationship, but I hope that you will get more comfortable with your sexual orientation/attraction over time. I think, ultimately if you feel like you're being restricted from your desires by not exploring an intimate relationship with a woman, it's time to have a serious, honest conversation with your partner. Is he open to any type of FFM threesome? If he's purely into monogamy (I assume from what you wrote an open relationship is off the table), I think it's essential you let him know that you need to have an experience with a woman for yourself. See if he is potentially comfortable with a break in the relationship if a definitive breakup seems too painful/premature to discuss at this point in time.

You need to sit down with yourself and be REALLY honest with yourself about which option would be a greater loss: Losing your boyfriend or the opportunity to pursue an intimate relationship with a woman? Whichever feels like greater loss should guide your decision. While losing others is painful, the greatest pain is allowing circumstances to let us lose ourselves. Ultimately, the only right answer will come from your intuitive knowledge of yourself.

Hope this helps! Best of luck – sending love xx

[talleslittlelion]

Today I was getting emotional again thinking about how important these two characters have become to me~

As long as I can remember, I've always had comfort stories and characters to help me deal with different situations. Some for a short period of time and others who "live in my heart forever" like Bilbo Baggins, who still lives on a hobbit hole there.

I watched and read Komi Can't Communicate at the beginning of the pandemic, in the difficult first years - the story was funny, light and yet touched on more serious issues-, it was what I needed at that time. Seeing Komi's difficulties with social interaction, and then her determination to reach out to others and make friends, made my heart instantly warm! It made me review many moments of my school life and analyze them - and come on! Komi is a neurodivergent girl for me. She even do stims! - love this girl, she helped me a lot to connect with myself again.

But then we go to the year of 2022. Just like most people I was suffering side effects from the long time of isolation... I wasn't well. I felt like I'd lost years of youth, lost my few social skills, lost and sad. I was in a pretty dark place... and Mob Psycho 100 pulled me out of it and restored my hope.

When I started watching it felt like I was seeing a mirrored version of myself in Mob, it was even embarrassing - One of the phrases I repeated the most to my bf while watching it was "HOW CAN THIS STORY GATHER ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING I LOVE IN ONE PLACE?!!" - And the experiences passed by him were so palpable for me, it was like seeing my past, phrases I heard, people I met (unfortunately without powers just the tism lol). And after all that, seeing him evolve and grow, learning to accept himself and be his authentic version... man, that saved me. In truth. The lessons of this story stuck in my mind and the characters in my heart.

I'm not very good at making big analytical texts, even if they are more personal. But I needed to share a little bit of the impact that these two shows had into my life.

So "Thank you so much Shoko and Shigeo, you may be fictional but you changed my life for the better, in real life!" 💛💛 Hahah

[the-duchess-of-domination]

Hey there, anon who tried to manifest a tummy ache for their bf on thanksgiving here, it did not work 😔 But! We talked about kinky stuff the other day and I told him I like taking care of sick people and he took it so well! He's coming to see me next year and he joked about eating shitty food to make himself sick when he drops by. Ugh, that got me so bad. But it also makes me so excited for the future hehe.

welcome back, anon!!!! 💕🦢

im sorry to hear about Thanksgiving, but glad to hear he took it well! what a success story! i hope you and him can do a little role play when you get to see him. i don’t know where you might stand on “playing pretend” because i know some people are really dedicated to the authentic tummy ache experience, but even just a guy pretending to be sick or telling me a story about a time he was sick will make me scratch the walls 😭 perhaps you could ask him to tell you some stories?

[alarrytale]

marte, about the zionist thing. I feel like Harry never speaks out about stuff like that because he’s afraid to show support because it might kill his career. I also feel like he is too obsessed with his career that he is willing to suck up to the worst people to get it. This fandom always gave me the impression that Harry is a push-over or can't think for himself or easily believes everything (tattoo artist Black Carrot also said how his former friends Lou Teasdale and her bf had a bad influence on Harry) I feel like this might be the case since harry keeps hanging out with these people....what do you think?

Also, marte, always when zayn calls out people in his songs like "fake friends" a lot of zquads think he is talking about harry. A lot of solo zayn fans really hate harry and talk about how harry (and the other 1d boys) never stood up for zayn when he was being discriminated because of his color. This feeling only became stronger when Harry won a Grammy and Zayn tweeted about how awful the Grammy's are....I feel like Z also doesn’t like harry bc he sees H is kind loosing himself in order to become a hollywood supernova. Solo zaynies also say h wanted the hiatus for himself and was mad when z left first.

Final question (sorry😅) do you enjoy harry and louis' music?.....because I like their taste less and less....

Absolutely final question (😂sorry), do you also feel like the GP is starting to dislike harry more and more...because the moment somebody makes a nasty comment about Harry it gets like tons of likes (20k). Only solo harries like him, but I feel like the GP don't really like Harry....if you agree, why do you think that is?

Hi, anon!

I agree that one of the reasons he might not speak up is because of his career. The issue is polarising. If he speaks up he'll lose fans and if he doesn’t speak up he'll lose fans. He's in a bind though, because while some of the people in power, his management, coworkers and friends are zion*ists or zioni*ts-sympathisers, the majority of his fans are not. The majority of his fans wants him to acknowledge the genocide and ask for a ceasefire. It might lose him brand deals and opportunities if he does speak up. But if he's not in a postition to take that risk and be that brave i order to do the right thing, who is?

I think it's a big difference between being a 16 year old wannabe celebrity moving alone to London from a small northern village and being a well established 30 year old successful man. He might have been easily influenced when he was younger and powerless, but he should have some world experience now and grown to have his own values and opinions, and not just adopting others.

About Zayn. I think there is some jealousy there stemming from H being shown preference during 1D and groomed to be a star. H was given privilege not afforded to Z. I think fake friends is a general critisism of not being able to trust people's intentions in wanting to befriend you when you are a celebrity. H does have a lot of fake friends. And the Grammy's are awful, Z is right. I think the Zaynies (Zquad?) are judging H for things out of his control. He's is losing himself in order to become a superstar, but it's not of his own choosing.

I enjoy Louis' music, i don't listen to Harry's (only heard about five songs ever). I'm pretty sure the more they both move away from the pop genre and the less mainstream the sound is, the less people are going to like it. I don't care what their own taste in music is as long as they stick to making pop. I'm concerned about where Louis is taking his sound and image for his next album. It might not be as bad as i fear. We'll have to see.

I do feel a negative shift in how people in general percieve Harry. He's getting more and more critisism on social media and a lot of the critisism is warranted. It's from both his own fandom, other fandoms and the gp. He's got image problems, relatability problems, overexposure problems, an authenticity problem and a hypocrisy problem. He's not addressing anything so the rumours, false image and false impressions people have of him just grows and grows. He's not doing anything to manage any of it. I don't know where this will lead. We'll have to wait and see.

[steelycunt]

ridi i'm LOVING all these unpopular opinions!! music haterism is always justified imo and soo entertaining also love that i agree with you 100% on basically everything 😌 some of these things just had to be said…

i thought i didn’t have anything to add because ts, hs etc have all been spoken about and i don’t listen to modern music enough to have strong opinions on any others but then i remembered my BIGGEST parasocial enemy (who i never talk about bc i don’t really have that good a reason to find her annoying i just do) is beabadoobea…

apologies in advance but she sort of represents everything wrong with the music industry rn to me so maybe a rant is justified here? anyway taking this opportunity to say i think she’s so overrated and not in a unique way, like it isn’t new for people to get careers from how they look but in her case specifically it annoys me sm because of what her fans are like and also it’s close to home…as in my cousin is one of her best friends from school so i knew of her when she started releasing music on band camp and had to watch her make a music career off being pretty on instagram with the four chords my cousin taught her on guitar and a voice that’s just…fine, and whatever everyone has to start somewhere except she got a record deal when her sound was completely underdeveloped before she’d had time to learn anything about music or her own artistry and like fuck around experimenting for a while.

which is so common these days i think w people blowing up on social media and getting handed careers i.e riding on the people who can actually play their instruments and getting loads of money thrown at them to make really bland four chord nothing songs... like in the first few years of her career she made so much music and it was all so boring and sounded exactly the same, even now it might be unfair but i do just assume any vaguely interesting part of her output is someone else’s work like sorry she’s never had to come up with her own fully fledged ideas or concepts and she’s been working with the pressure of commercial viability the whole time, any potential she might have had i just think was squandered by having everything come too fast and too easily or maybe i'm being generous and her authentic sound is just boring idk because it still doesn't seem like she has anything to say…all this wouldn’t be as bad if her fans weren’t sooo insanely annoying about her + as a person i have no real reason to but i just do not like her :| my cousin is still good friends with her as well so i have to pretend i know nothing but the picture of her i’ve built from things my cousin’s said…just aggravating, alsoo she’d played at my work once when my friend was on shift and her ex bf that looks a tiny bit like george harrison was sitting at the bar the whole time drinking water and not talking to anyone while she was doing coke in the bathroom and he looked so pathetic my friend started talking to him to cheer him up in between serving him his next cup of tap water…

HELLO MY DARLING!! oh my god i didnt realise she needed to come up until you said it...bebadoobedobee...beadbeadooebadoo..clapping n cheering for your rant because youre fucking RIGHT i have a few friends who like her and have tried to get me to listen to her and she was just. appalling truly and as you say not even just in a ah shes trying shes young she'll get better kind of way but in a this is genuinely unbelievably soulless and bland and boring and says so little that even she seems disinterested with it. the inside scoop on her from your cousin is delicious also gbfskjfskd her poor sad george harrison boyfriend..

i think youre so right and i dont mean that new artists shouldnt be given a break or an opportunity or anything but like you say, when theyre being harvested on social media, where a lot of the time look is everything (as i believe it is for bebadoobebdoo, her look her 'aesthetic' pinterest-board fashion sense does play a part i really think it does because there is no way her music is strong enough on its own to be successful) and where they may not necessarily be super experienced or practiced yet (which again, i appreciate, theyre new), a lot of money goes into getting songs out of them which are inevitably boring unimaginative four-chord songs that do not have enough substance to make anyone feel anything. including the people singing them. i cant imagine that beabadoobee demonstrated enough genuine musical promise to be given a record deal so i have to believe its either her image or the idea that well if we give her tons of expensive resources maybe then she'll end up putting out something good.

there have to be new artists out there who are more talented and interesting and would do more with the sort of record deal thrown at beabadoobebee than beabadoobdbbee did...surely...i really did try to like her because my friends raved about her so much so i listened to a fair bit from her and her music was just so staggeringly nothing. i think you make a good point about how the fact that she got a record deal so early on probably has sort of stifled the music she makes/her ability to experiment with it but im not sure im as kind as you because i do fear she is just not very talented perhaps. sorry giggling at her sad george harrison tapwater drinking boyfriend again poor lad..

[theuniverseawakens347]

Okay but seriously .. understanding trainers

It’s going to take time before change in that world happens - magic.

But what to look for ..

How do you pick a bf or gf or spouse or what make you think one child is more trouble than the other inside and outside ya home n family pods

.. T.hooww ya want to show your body that’s what you call appreciation.. I get it

I was told loosely MY BUSINESS CARD IS MY BODY .. ( weird sexualization grooming ) …

But what’s THE MOTTO for my journey when I get ready for clients.

You seem to have stayed in high school 1/2 college sports thinking NO D1 training and even then ya got princess diva crying ass Landon James .. Michael Jackson by sight of “talent” but psychologically a fucking t.hooww .. Michael Jordan how many injuries ya got!?

But you train mental like Serena and Stephen .. who came before you Shaq!?

How’d you copy the great to become ur great ..

Who let the game fan base out rule the purpose of the journey .. wasn’t the money for everyone involved.

Who’s the STARt .. what was THEIR GOAL.. what did U SEE IN LIKENESS TO URS N THEIRS!??

- that’s weird another parenting playground. But more sheep. Bigger Hurd.

… T.hooww appreciates her gains but in competition w other small frame turned big = FUCK YES ATTENTION ..

Me was small gain = POWERFUL IN MY “DAMAGED BODY” I LOOK THE JOY IVE ALWAYS FELT .. COME GET IN KEN WERE GETTING BARBIES MENTAL MOTOR SKILLS BACK. .. I always had curved and butt n tits just not like the other girls ..

YOU WANT TO BE SEXUALIZED .. yes every has been misgroomed or purposely guided to that terrain but again .. ya over stay “welcome” or “picked up game” and continued..

How ya continue abuser or victim abuser or survivor.

T.ooww victim abuser continued like India .. ( someone bullied her first infantry — recording yrs yes but someone elder than her still responsible.. ancestors not mentally telling her do stupid shit it’s someone IN THE AREA PHYSICAL TOUCH REACH AROUND THE FAMILY N FRIENDS) …

T.hooww ya post clients !? Not really and if so video but how long they last .. but ya jump to big following quick - paid promotions and ya get clothing .. weird rush of excitement cows brain lost logic but also highlight .. where was it - BUSINESS PLAN WHO FAIL BY OVER Delivering .. but where’d it get you in the end .. again WHAT WAS UR MOTTO TO BEGIN.

I worked equinox I’m excited to be in a training prestigious environment after what I came from ( Barry’s it cute but stop orange theory - we wana get you muscle but it’s just endorphins really .. n dance fit thing on la tea Santa Monica ) ..

I brought my excitement w me Ben said “it’s just a revolving door for trainers “ that hurt but my thought

“Well maybe cause YOU don’t actually want to be here” .. anyways ya be around me YA INNER CHILD COME OUT ON MY END NOT KNOW UR EXPERIMENTING N TESTING ME .. ( wow we haven’t seen medical results like this since …🙂)

Anyways … MY BIGGEST FUTURE WANT AS A CHILD WAS TO BE AUTHENTICALLY HAPPY. HAY BITCH. - bhad bhabbie. ( snatched )

.. my clients I don’t post their results but I posted their words .. reviews … some aren’t comfortable having photo post and I’m pretty sure I asked that .. but I didn’t feel like posting them I rather train n a video than photo cause someone take that n photoshop n say their clients got results .. okay… - bought followers n ya snaked too or sexual 24/7 BUT MATING CALL STANCE OR “I’m PROVING A POINT IM REAL” - that’s thirsty weird of ya in a healing environment- must be abuser.

🙊

.. anyways I was building steps trying not to take on too much in MY BUSINESS.. but life threw me where it needed and I flowed.

Mind body n soul TRAINING = OTHER SIDE OF FEAR. UTOPIA OSOF. 🙂

K bye.

🐕

[immatalk]

HOW TO DIE ALONE (2024) on hulu

I was looking forward to this show but unfortunately, it’s an undercooked, baffling slog with little depth.

The aimless, 30 something premise isn’t new, but seeing the trope tackled by a black female character was exciting and I was hoping the show would if not say something new, at least be interesting. This wasn’t the case. In fact, the episodes that I did watch (1-5, scanned the rest but it was more of the same lifeless, shallow tripe and life’s too short to suffer) were so superficial, cliche, and bland that I felt like I was watching a parody. Just stock phrases and twitter takes and dated dialogue that bogged the show down beyond belief. I’d expected that the series would be sentimental and silly with a hint of corniness. A mix of heart and laughter. Instead it was callous, contrived and predictable. The material was so bad that it actually made the actors worse.

I appreciate that the creator is a black woman and writing about what I believe are her own experiences, but the show was stuffed with shallow writing and bleak stereotypes of characters stuck in lacklustre retellings of better stories gone by. To be fair, there’s a level of authenticity wrt to black culture and certain aspects of black womanhood. Specifically, the unique loneliness that black woken face that eluded others who share only race or gender and the insidious invisibility fat black women in particular, face in many areas of their lives. I applaud Rothwell for showcasing this part of the narrative as fat black women characters are rarely shown depth and care and even less get to tell their own stories. But that’s where the accolades end. Rothwell’s character was aimless and sad, trying to get a handle on her life after dying and being resuscitated but rather than meaningfully explore that, the show hollowly gestures at her sorrow whilst laughing at Melissa’s pain seriously. I’m aware that HTDA is also a comedy, but the audience should be laughing with and not at Melissa. Unfortunately, this season did not find an adequate balance in that arena.

Neither did it find balance with the supporting cast. Every character was stereotypical and corny. I kept waiting for even a kick of nuance and it never came. The one character that had a little compassion was the brother, who not only didn’t deserve it, (both writing and acting were extremely lacking) but was so useless in the overall story that I fail to see his relevance even now. I also found the ex-bf angle stale, though I appreciated that the writing doesn’t go the lazy route of making the new fiancé cartoonishly evil. She was (in the episodes I saw which heavily featured her) kind, sweet, and gracious. As was the other black female minor player, Kaya. Unfortunately their appearances were short lived as Melissa’s close friends were non black women. This isn’t necessarily an issue but it did strike me as odd that Melissa was the only main black woman character. Odder still was the fact that the only others with extended screentime were her vicious, cruel and selfish mother and aunt. I could see that the show was going for the comedic relief with these two but none of it landed for me. . Their constant hating and snarking made for cheesy, caricature like performances and by the time the episode ended I was over everyone. I got about 10 minutes into the next episode before stopping and skimming through the rest because like I said before, I’m not here to suffer. And from what I caught, the show never rose above its meagre offerings. There were glimmers of something great but it never quite took off because the show kept undermining itself with silliness and superficiality.

Overall I think this was an underwhelming effort that felt strangely mean spirited and shallow. Seems like trying to enmesh condedy and drama is the main issue here and had it simply been one or the other perhaps it would’ve thrived. Or maybe not and Rothwell is simply better reciting others words rather than creating her own. Hate that for her. But I did see glimmers of potential even through all the muck, and I’m willing to give another show of hers a try, perhaps even a second season of this one. As it is I don’t see this show gaining a significant audience or making it past these 8 episodes. Because it squandered the execution is so something fierce.

But like many non black creators who get multiple chances, I think Rothwell should be given another as well. As should other black female writers. Afterall, the work of one should never solely reflect the experiences of many.

TL;DR: bleak, bland and shallow. fat black women deserve more.

[persorene]

hey so I think you said your partner fairly recently came out as enby right, so if you don't mind me asking how did they do it and how did you respond, I'm also in a long term relationship and questioning my gender identity but I'm not sure how to bring it up with my bf

This has probably been in my inbox forever so I'm so so sorry if I'm late to this!

Yes they did come out back in April, but it was a long time coming. My partner and I have been best friends since kindergarten, we started dating at 14, married at 19, we're 29 now. The entire time I've known them, they've been gender nonconforming but they were raised in a conservative Christian household in a rural area so that was never an option for them. They had to mask as hyper masculine to not be harassed by their family, thought they were anyway, I'm not joking, when we first told their family we were dating as teenagers they said, and I quote "oh thank God we all thought (partner's name) was a (f slur)" so you can imagine their home life as a closeted queer kid.

When we got married and moved away they started to be more themselves. Around 2020 during lockdown (cliche, I know) they started experimenting with dresses more femme, doing makeup, piercings, etc. Around 2022 they told me they didn't feel like a man but also not a woman and weren't sure what they were feeling or how to process it, and I was totally supportive of that and told them to take all the time they need... but literally the day after that conversation we found out I was pregnant so everything kind of went on the backburner because it was a medically complex pregnancy (preeclampsia iykyk) and then I got pregnant again 4 months after that baby was born so it was a very busy two years where we really didn't have time to reflect on anything outside of pregnancy and babies. Then our second baby was born in February and we had more downtime after that since we were done with babies and getting out of the survival state that puts you in. They again went back to presenting in a more gender nonconforming way and seemed more confident in that presentation.

The day they came out in April, we were in the kitchen, I was cooking, they were chopping the vegetables and just very casually said "I'm nonbinary" but I could tell simultaneously they were scared to say it out loud and also elated to finally be able to say it. I was just thrilled for them, like I said, this was a longtime coming and I had actually, back in 2022 when they first expressed some discomfort in their assigned gender, joined tons of support groups for trans folks and their partners so I could learn how to help them and navigate their feelings and how to be supportive when they came out. Plus, they'd been this way as long as I'd known them, it was a fundamental aspect of who they are.

So for me it wasn't something that shocked me or that I had to come to terms with, plus I'm bi, so no weird sexuality feelings to work through in that area for me. It was just. All I felt was joy for them, because you could literally feel their happiness radiating out of them when they finally came out. Our experience probably isn't universal, like I said we've been inseparable since we were 5, I've seen every version of them and loved them all, and I think that kind of longevity may change things but I also think your partner would probably be understanding and supportive! Someone who loves you would love the best, happiest, healthiest and most authentic version of you as well.

[myceliumsage]

in the last 12 months i have cut my "friend group" to less than half of what it was. which is w i l d.

i talk to 4 people regularly, and even then, i only talk to 2 people on a daily basis (my bf and then an online friend); the rest i talk to maybe once a week. i have other people i consider to be close friends with, maybe 5 others???

i've cut out probably over 30 people in my life; many of them i had to resort to blocking for various reasons. (usually due to blatant disrespect for me and boundaries.)

while yeah, i get lonely sometimes, but i realize; i'm getting more authentic connections with my life currently, then i was then. it isn't "loneliness" so much as being bored. and that sounds really harsh and gross, but it's the truth - and i think a lot more people experience that than they're willing to admit.

how many times do we attempt to forge connections with others just out of boredom? or out of obligation? i've stayed in so many relationships and friendships due to obligation. not knowing when i should cut my losses.

i may have less people in my life to share good or bad news with, or to get excited over things with, but i would rather have it be this way because i know that i have genuine connections with these people. and i know that they aren't using me, and that they are truly invested in me and in our friendship.

maybe i do only have less than 60 followers on instagram (i deleted everyone i didn't have any relationship with), maybe my DMs aren't always flooded every morning (except by raven ngl xD i love my gay werewolf bestie), but i know that when i do get a notification that it is from someone who i love and cherish, who loves and cherishes me back.

[maurypovichofficial2]

my bf broke up with me which means i get to have an authentic listening experience with the new taylor album small wins 😌

i love this for you bestie