#genderqueer people are valid

[champignonoftheforest]

This is just your daily reminder that your lived experience is valid. No one else gets to speak on if you’ve had it rough or not. No one else gets to tell you that everything you’ve suffered through was for attention. No one gets to tell you that you should’ve just tried harder or been better. No one gets to tell you that someone else having it harder invalidates your own struggle. Your pain is valid. Your struggle is valid. You are valid.

[porygonzz]

Happy pride from Neeko!!! They support and love you no matter how you identify ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤍🖤

Art by /sinnerakuma on Kofi

[tabooi]

Sorta drives me crazy when people say that Electra is "canonically genderfluid" because like. Genuinely where are you people getting that from???

[posting-for-the-void]

I’m afab, and I present really feminine, so I think it really confuses people when I say I don’t entirely identify as a girl

and, bear with me, because I’m really word-vomiting here, but I think I kind of get it.

My relationship with gender is obscenely complicated. Ridiculously confusing, even. Like, it’s confusing and unknowable to me, and it’s my gender, so I can’t imagine how much more confusing it would be from the outside looking in.

Normally when people ask I just kind of say that I “don’t really do gender” because that’s about as close as I can get in a short amount of time, but it’s not really entirely accurate.

Okay, here’s the nerdy part:

I’m an English major. The more you learn about this language, the less words actually mean. It’s a bullshit language cobbled together and then destroyed and cobbled back together with some of the original bits and some bits from other languages time and time again over centuries. Words mean nothing and, by extension, pronouns mean nothing.

I also am studying Spanish, and in Spanish, everything is gendered. An orange is a girl the same way I am a girl, which is to say that neither of us are really a girl, because that’s ridiculous. It’s just how other people describe us. Once again, words mean nothing so pronouns mean nothing.

Yes, I was raised with she/her pronouns and as such I, to some extent, identify myself with them, but I also would feel the same if I was raised with he/him pronouns, so I feel like that doesn’t really mean anything.

I like they/them pronouns because I relate to the idea of not really being feminine or masculine, and also because I’m a nerd and it’s new English functions that are cool as fuck.

But sometimes I like being girly and calling myself a girl, and sometimes I like being masculine and get something akin to an adrenaline rush when my friends call me “King” instead of “Queen.”

So, about as close as I can get to explaining my gender with a label would probably be “genderfluid,” and I’m okay with that, but it still doesn’t feel quite right because gender doesn’t really mean anything to me, and no matter how I’m gendered, it won’t really bother me.

I dunno. It’s complicated and confusing and I just kind of exist as me, and not really as a gender that I can explain with words in a way that will resonate with most people.

I’m just me. And I think that confuses a lot of people, because most people would never leave out gender in their description of themselves, and, to be fair, I wouldn’t either if it didn’t take me this long to try to explain it, so, you know, it’s kind of valid?

Anyways, my name is Sid and my gender is IDK™️, and that confuses a lot of people, which, like, fair enough, lol.

[acecubus]

The most heartbreaking and loneliest part of being on the aromantic/asexual spectrum is that, even if you try and explain to people how you feel about all that shit, they still don't understand what you're saying.

I am happy with myself, and I am not less happy just because it's enough for me to experience love in a different way than most people. Especially since I identify as aego-aroace.

Yes, I do not feel sexual or romantic attraction. However, that does not mean I can't enjoy thoughts about either, especially if it doesn't involve me. I prefer reading about different pairings or creating characters myself who may or may not get to live happy ever after with their loved one. I like the idea of having a relationship, but I do not need one to feel the same amount of comfort and happiness as allosexual/alloromantic people do.

I am valid. My experiences are valid. Telling me or people like me that I "haven't met the right person" or "am too young to know yet" is painful. I am not broken!

The amount of days I cried myself to sleep because I've got told things that made me feel like my very existence is not enough, even though I should know it's not true. Sometimes it feels like everyone else is awake while I'm in a coma, destined to never wake up, I'm on pause while the world is spinning around me.

I am a 24 years old adult human being and I've come to terms with my identity like 13 years ago when I was still a child - the only difference is back then I didn't knew there was a term for how I felt.

Just because the dress is blue/black for me while someone else sees it white/gold doesn't change the fact that it is still a dress - iykwim.

Thanks for coming to my ted talk.

[sirenium]

Me: *looks up stuff relating to radical inclusion*

Google: hey pal you want multiple links to the truscum subreddit???

[allthegaynamesaretaken]

Are there labels for sexualities that define the trend in attraction you feel without being in reference to what gender you identify as? For example, heterosexuality is an attraction to the "opposite" gender. However, my gender is very fluid and hard to describe, so I'm having trouble finding the words I want to use to describe my sexuality.

[thevamplelio]

Seeing a frankly disturbing influx of T.ERFS on this site, so here’s a reminder that TERF and alt right fascists are one and the same, it’s always ethical to punch both. I am a they/them, genderqueer, bisexual (on the spectrum of ace, varying from day to day), I am brown, androgynous and the foppish, well read, bi Quaintrelle your parents warned you about. I’m not male or female, I am a threat, and the moral panic is about me. Lastly, to all T.ERFS, it’s on site if you come near me, have fun getting ideologically torn to shreds and blocked. Respect trans people or gtfo.

Also, Anne Rice championed bisexuality and transgender rights until she died. You do her a disservice coming near me.

[isawthismeme]

[not-gray-politics]

Hey btw I see a lot of well-meaning people use "you can't change your gender" interchangeably with "you can't control your gender" and I wanna say that while you may not mean to, by saying that you are in fact erasing the existence of genderfluid people and it kinda sucks

[moodlesmain]

Saotome Ranma and Fujioka Haruhi should be friends

[undergoing-mitosis]

trans rights were human rights yesterday. trans rights are human rights today. and trans rights will be human rights tomorrow.

trans women are women. trans men are men. non binary people are non binary and valid in their gender identities.

intersex people exist, and are so incredibly valid in however they wish to talk about their biological sex and present their gender identities.

pronouns deserve to be respected. (of course this doesn't give you the right to attack people for accidentally slipping up, but as long as they take your correction and retry we move on. we are all human and make mistakes. the good is in the intention, if someone's intention is to harm or erase then THAT'S transphobic.)

trans women are not predators. some trans women may be not nice people or use that to their advantage, but there are shitty people in every group of people. the nasty people are always the minority. 99.9% of trans women are just trying to survive in the world and literally just want to pee. one bad person does not make an entire group bad. so, i repeat, trans women are not predators.

the existence of trans women is not erasing the female experience. if anything, it should be enriching the female experience! women's rights are women's rights, and that includes trans women. cause trans women are women.

the lives and existence of trans people should never be placed below the mere comfort of cis people.

trans joy is real and so fucking beautiful.

cis is not a slur. just like straight is not a slur. just like white is not a slur. just like able bodied is not a slur. just like neurotypical is not a slur. it is simply a term to refer to a group of people.

black trans people, i love you

disabled trans people, i love you

non-queer trans people, i love you

queer trans people, i love you

closeted trans people, i love you

trans men, i love you

trans women, i love you

non binary people, i love you

gender queer people, i love you

unlabeled and/or confused people, i love you

anyone who falls under the non-cis umbrella, i love you

thank you for being here. you are so loved and appreciated, and im sorry that the world doesn't see that. we will always be fighting by your sides.

trans rights are human rights.

[newvegascowboy]

last time i watched good omens i had not yet realized i was nonbinary, so people using they/them for Pollution kind of flew under my radar. HOWEVER having watched s2 and since realizing my gender identity, it was very very special to hear they/them getting used for Belezebub. I Get It Now

[sunnydotjpeg]

as someone who uses any pronouns and presents relatively androgynous, it's funny to see who uses what pronouns as a default when talking to/about me. as far as i can tell here's the distribution:

she/her - my extended family (not out to them), most people irl

they/them - friends, people online, my mom (working on my dad)

he/him - an employee at a Van's store, every TSA agent since i got a haircut two years ago, that one guy in greece who called me my parent's son to their face

[spookysalem13]

It's officially PRIDE MONTH! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

Happy Pride to all of the LGBTQIA+ and Ally 🥰💜💕

Remember to be safe this year, but don't forget to love who you are 💗

Here's a silly song I found this morning in celebration of the first day of Pride 😍

[uber-gender]

why is "chronosion" or whatever on thin ice? i view it as similar to how system members can have different ages from the body + singlets who are permanently age reg/progressed (or ageless or whatever else). is it the association/branching off of "transage" (and the association of "transage" with pedo/4chan crap or the community it harvested and being buddy-buddy with pedos and all that crap) that makes it uncomfortable? or something else im missing? (i assume its not the experience itself because you guys are 8-10 and 16-ageless but i might be wrong because i have bad theory of mind)

yeah, it's the connection between chronosian and "transage" and how people often use them interchangeably. the creator of chronosian is opposed to "transage" and other "transx/transid" identities, but we still suggest checking the op tags and blog when reblogging chronosian identities because mogai tumblr is infamously bad at research and respect.

additionally, at least to me (rev), the concept of "identifying as a different age than the body" in general is very unsettling when used outside of specific plural settings. the creator of chronosian explains in this post that neurodivergent people may identify as chronosian because of how we mature differently, and while they do provide disclaimers in an attempt to fend off ableists, I believe that the association is still potentially dangerous. the creation of microlabels for different expressions of chronosian identity also seems to me like a trivialization of the material reality of age. as a Claudia, I find it helpful to sometimes identify as an 8-10 year old, since my emotions and personality will never fully mature. however, I also identify as a 26 year old who is fully capable of harming others as an adult and is able to consent to sex with other adults. I think it is important even as a syskid or a regressor to keep a solid grasp on your real physical age, both for the safety and comfort of others and for your own self-concept.

HOWEVER, I do think that the basic terminology of "chronosian" is helpful, and would identify as it. also, ETMK is not as serious as I am about this and does not have any criticism of chronosian other than finding the word itself "sort of dorky". so that's what we mean by "on thin ice".

tl;dr, we are overall ok with chronosian as long as it is divorced from "transage", but one of us has some friendly criticism about it.