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The most heartbreaking and loneliest part of being on the aromantic/asexual spectrum is that, even if you try and explain to people how you feel about all that shit, they still don't understand what you're saying.
I am happy with myself, and I am not less happy just because it's enough for me to experience love in a different way than most people. Especially since I identify as aego-aroace.
Yes, I do not feel sexual or romantic attraction. However, that does not mean I can't enjoy thoughts about either, especially if it doesn't involve me. I prefer reading about different pairings or creating characters myself who may or may not get to live happy ever after with their loved one. I like the idea of having a relationship, but I do not need one to feel the same amount of comfort and happiness as allosexual/alloromantic people do.
I am valid. My experiences are valid. Telling me or people like me that I "haven't met the right person" or "am too young to know yet" is painful. I am not broken!
The amount of days I cried myself to sleep because I've got told things that made me feel like my very existence is not enough, even though I should know it's not true. Sometimes it feels like everyone else is awake while I'm in a coma, destined to never wake up, I'm on pause while the world is spinning around me.
I am a 24 years old adult human being and I've come to terms with my identity like 13 years ago when I was still a child - the only difference is back then I didn't knew there was a term for how I felt.
Just because the dress is blue/black for me while someone else sees it white/gold doesn't change the fact that it is still a dress - iykwim.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
#international asexuality day#asexual#asexual spectrum#aromantic#aromantic spectrum#aroace#aegosexual#aegoromantic#aegoaroace#lgbtqiaplus#queer#ted talks#genderqueer#don't get me started about gender#our experiences are valid#let people enjoy stuff#i am not broken
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YES the last part too! Emotional and mental health are just as important as physical health! That includes making time for yourself and allowing yourself to do things that you actually enjoy.
My mom gets mad at me that I sleep at 3am and wake up for uni at 6:30 on my own personal choice but like bro I study the entire day (until like 1am)--because that's how demanding my program is-- after I wake up, and that's how I cope with how stressful uni is.
I can somehow relate to previous reblog but in a different perspective/situation. I was diagnosed late with ADHD and it's believed to have aided me to develop some kind of perfectionism related to how I was raised (yes, lots of asian countries live up to the perfectionist stereotypes). At 6 to 14 I would stay up to 12am to study, do art, study music, maintain my membership in scholarship groups in school, join the choir and bands, etc. I got so tired of the routine and began to do the "normal" person routines like social media, etc. and I was always punished for it. If my dad saw me using my phone for a minute instead of studying, I literally got ass whooping. The attitude remains in me, obv. The way you grow up leaves a mark. I get mad at myself for very tiny flaws and feeling stagnant in life. But I guess my college program is somehow helping me to understand myself more and lessen these tendencies.
It's sad. During our childhood and adolescent years, we're still learning so much about ourselves and I think it's incredibly mean and aggressive to force children (I think ppl forget teens are children too!) to be busy with their lives this way 24/7 and make them feel guilty for the rest they have the RIGHT to. At this point society makes you feel that rest is a fucking privilege it's insane.
I hope we all learn to be kind to ourselves with the manner that we know, be it laying in bed all day, spending money, eating, etc. all with moderation. Also hope we could break the toxic cycle.
So yes. When you ask me if I'm busy, I am. I am busy cuddling w my dog. Yes I'm busy eating. I'm fucking busy reading smut fics. I'm extremely busy watching tiktoks. Don't bother me again.
āIf you have time to watch Netflix you have time for a side hustleā my side hustle is relaxing so that my body and brain can heal from by this nose-to-the-grindstone bullshit. I refuse to feel guilty for being a human with the need to relax sometimes. my side hustle is no.
#again dont punish yourself for being human#we all need some rest#our experiences are valid#i kinda dont wanna study anymore bro
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can I also just - so everytime I've come across a piece of Ed art where his skin is too light, I've sent an anon ask or DM to the artist - explaining very politely why they should redo the piece and the history of racism in this fandom. And every single time (except one asshole), artists have reacted well to this and understood my point, and some have even reposted the piece after correcting their mistake.
Idk that makes me happy, to have the freedom to say that and not have to deal with butthurt artists. Most people are kind, but you have to start from a place of trying to educate and idk not start a witchhunt, if you truly genuinely want them to do better.
#you might have had very different experiences and they're absolutely valid#this is just my 2 cents#ofmd#our flag means death#meow speaks#again because this is a website of toddlers: it's not your responsibility to educate people#but if you do want to you'd go much farther if you put the pitchfork down#is all I'm saying
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Jesus is my older brother, not my dad.
other christians don't seem to feel the same?
am i missing something where he insists on such a thing except perhaps with actual little children?
#christianity#tumblrstake#Quakers#i just want to know what y'all think#progressive christianity#some christians see themselves as his children#but again most chrsitians are sippin trinity juice so the Father is the Son? egro Jesus can be Dad#i guess i'm not a true monotheist bc if Jesus is a child of God and told his disciples to call him friend. he is my peer#Jesus is my peer - big brother - mentor - friend#God the creator is my Mother/Father/Parent(s) as well as Jesus'#Jesus and I are both children of God and Jesus is my teacher/my respected older brother/ my friend#i think the Holy Spirit is what generally moves around among humans and through humans. experiencing God through others.#also an internal prompting on what direction to take (which typically needs to undergo through discernment) but is sometimes an act rn thing#hence the gift of the Holy Spirit being gifted to us#but now i'm getting theological in the tags#did i mention that all of this is through my christian lense and a muslim could have a different perception and be just as valid#and thats on different ways people see the Divine and how the Divine presents Godself/selves to different people#i know this because Heavenly Mother was at my conversion experience. she offered an invitation - an embrace#and i took it immediately a wept#and i think that presentation was intentional bc i may not have/wouldn't have reacted the same way to Heavenly Father#our relationship is good now - Heavenly Father and I -currently on the rocks in my ā God#in my āGod - why?ā era. shit has been dark. and people are commiting atrocites in your name#i do pray for their smitting. but only in a way God with Hir cosmic justice sees fit#and for softened hearts more often but on one occassion it was āplz get these sinners in lineā and pulling out psalm 94#Godposting#religion
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I love that I can recognize when I'm physically/aesthetically attracted to people while maintaining full confidence that I'm AroAce :] People are CUTE People are PRETTY People are BEAUTIFUL godammit!!
-š anon
Yes! It's so beautiful when that happens!
#I love being able to think that people are hot without freaking out now :D#one of the most validating things I swear#mod ozzie#tw aesthetic attraction#our arospec experience#arospec#aromantic#lgbtqia+#aro#aro pride#queer#š
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'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasnāt actually trans.
I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.
About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: āWell, of course I feel sexy putting on womenās clothing and having a womanās body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, wonāt that probably mean itāll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?ā'
-Casey Plett, Consciousness
#this quote always moves me almost to tears when i remember it#i'm not a trans woman and i don't share the author's specific experiences with transition#but it really moves me that she frame transition as joyfully giving yourself permission to approach your body#not as something that has to be disciplined and deprived and made small in all these various ways#but as a means for experiencing pleasure and joy and delight and for insisting that our feelings and desires are worth#valuing and exploring and treasuring#i always used to think of prioritizing those things for myself as selfish and irresponsible#but who does it harm to want to experience pleasure in your own body?#it's such a beautifully simple and powerful switch to have flip in your head#and equally why are we forced to deny our own pleasure in transition and anything else related to our bodies in the name of moral rectitude#this is why i get so confused and pissed off when other trans people are fatphobic for example#like why are you so invested in politics of shame and disgust that never had any purpose other than#violently disciplining people as if they've violated moral codes by existing in a body#to say nothing of white people being racist in gay and trans communities#like again this system of violence is foundational to homophobia and transphobia#so why are you acting like it has nothing to do with you#even if you are unmoved by the urgency of other people's suffering which btw you should be moved by#what do you hope to gain by acting a collaborator and handmaiden to those systems#Casey Plett#she really is one of my favorite authors i wish more non-canadians read her#this quote is from a series of columns she did ont transition and every single one is a banger#i love when she talks about the people-pleasing elements of dysphoria and transition denial#she's so sharp about noting how many of us deny our own dysphoria on the grounds that others like and validate our bodies#that's how i always felt during my cis conventionally feminine era#it pleased other people so much and also that reception felt so hollow and joyless to me because i hated it#i get less of that positive feedback but that feels so unimportant next to the joy and pleasure i get to experience#said with the understanding that i'm very privileged in being able to prioritize those things without fear. but it was a switch flip#personal nonsense
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yeah u can put "i hate jkr" and "fuck terfs" in ur tumblr bio but. can u listen + reflect when a trans woman criticizes hp fandom without immediately getting defensive.....
#if a trans woman says 'my firsthand experience with hp fandom is that it's transmisogynistic'#in what world is the correct response to get angry at her and demand that she reassure u that not EVERYONE is transmisogynistic in fandom..#like either a) u have not been transmisogynistic in which case...just keep scrolling#or b) u have been transmisogynistic in which case. u should take such posts as an opportunity 2 reflect on ur own behavior#and whether or not a or b applies to u is a personal evaluation for u 2 make privately#but EVEN if u feel the post does not in any way apply 2 u. it's still good 2 reflect!!! we are all participating in a fandom#that is tied inherently 2 a virulent transmisogynist#the least we can do is be vigilant in our personal circles + spaces abt transmisogyny.....#also personally. i think trans women can say whatever they want about hp lmao#especially on their own personal tumblr blogs that u can very easily just block if it's so upsetting 2 u....#anyway. valid critiques and criticisms of hp fandom exist + part of being in this fandom in 2023 is accepting that imho#txt
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u can literally talk abt ur own experiences with transphobia and people being violent or bigoted or cruel towards you because you're a trans man and people will compare you to deranged conspiracy theorists for daring to say you might experience discrimination. it's fucking crazy like what level of internet brainrot do you have to have to think it's helpful on any level to deny someone's experiences and call them conspiracy theorists because they're a trans man and "men aren't oppressed" or whatever
#text#and also telling transmascs to shut up abt our experiences w transphobia In Conversations Abt Transphobia is crazyyyy#we are trans too.#i see a lot of trans men/transmascs echoing this out of i guess like ???#idk i think it comes from combination of self doubt + being Online + wanting to not be transmisogynistic but like..#its not transmisogynistic to talk abt ur experiences with transmasc oppression#& like ur experiences are 'valid' i know thats a stupid word but yknow what i mean#inb4 'wow tmes only problems are people being mean online shut up cuntboy' -__- This post is about a specifically online problem#people generally do not act like this in real life bc theres some level of needing to be decent to other people face to face š#there are also other offline problems. lots of them. & im not saying this doesnt happen offline either but . YOU KNOW WHAT IM SAYING#WHY AM I ENTERTAINING IMAGINARY BAD FAITH INTERPRETATIONS OF THIS POST#anyway this is about the term 'transandrophobia truther' do not derail ā¤ļø#transandrophobia#transphobia#discourse
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Mind: I suppose you think thatās cute. What it makes you is a fraud.
Heart: yeah but iām a cute fraud though right?
#submission#directly taken fromā¦ how do i explain#an infamous argument on the jan Misali youtube channel#which jan Misali proceeded to make songs using the lyrics with it#for example dreams of our āconglangā community#itās a trip like. max replies so they had to make more comments trip. like thereās a google doc with it transcribed so you can get the expe#experience trip#the argument was about whether toki pona - a simple constructed language or conlang#is a valid language since#itās very simplistic and has few words. you have to desc new concepts with their traits#prob shouldnāt explain jt all. that was prob already too much#but The Lore you gotta consider The Lore. ā¦ Anyway#< submitter tags#i understand none of this but i got u#i am indeed considering this lore
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it's upsetting to see people online against your identity who are queer, themselves. I'm mostly desensitized to it because I'm trans lol, but I do still experience frustration towards the people so hellbent on ripping apart the queer community with their intolerance. Just pick up a book, listen to other people about their experiences for ONCE in your life, people. 'Oh it's just fetishistic cis men' when a huge chunk of us are multigender, or nonbinary, or anything but cis and/or binary men. And yes, there are binary men who are lesboys who deserve just as much respect and I'm tired of accepting this idea that if you're a binary man you cannot be a lesbian, cis or otherwise. It's absurd to pretend that sexuality is a box with correct and incorrect ways of being, because that's what cishet homophobes believe too. It's no better to be anti lesboy than homophobic.
I know, when we're placed in a world that seems so man centered, and you're pressured to be into men as a woman when you're not, you can feel insulted by lesbian men and stuff like that. But once you learn that queer people being queer differently than you aren't trying to hurt you, you'll thank yourself for it. Once I stopped believing in some made up rules, my rollercoaster of an identity isn't so confusing or stressful anymore. We can view gender AND sexuality like this, and that's where a good chunk of progressives fall flat. Because when the average person thinks of 'lesbian' they think of women attracted to women exclusively, with hardly any room for gender fuckery or malleable attraction... and the 'nonman x nonman' definition isn't much better. It's still rigid with its allowances.
It's time to leave boxes behind as a community. That's why when I'm elected as president-
sirenium is going to be participating in the election this november. make sure to vote lesboy no matter who
#thank you for sharing your thoughts :]#a lot of us feel the same way#lesboys are mostly just trans people and saying we're some sort of invaders#just seems like transphobia#if you really don't think we're āvalidā you can at least be sympathetic towards us and why we would call ourselves lesbian#instead they act like we're predatory straight men?#there's a post I had in mind to make on main in relation to this topic#lesboy#our lesboy experience#lesbian#asks#tw queerphobia#tw exclusionism
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Idk I think sometimes when a trans guy is talking people listen to respond. And what theyāre listening for is any indication that weāre faking it, arguing we have it worse, or crying to be let into the Club for Big People Problems. Thereās enough weird fucked up abuses going on for all trans folks to get a turn talking about ours, and Iām not going to preface every sentence with that or disclaim the ways other individuals are going through worse. Iām not the Longsufferingest Man Ever but Iām not going to pretend Iām Mr Leastsufferingest.
#lmao at the person on my dash tonight#TGuys are predisposed to whining about validity ā¦ bc experiencing misogyny makes TGuys guarded and reactive#lmao how did you manage to plagiarize basic misogyny to complain about TGuys talking about ā¦ misogyny and transphobia#but I forget myself ā¦. my experiences with transphobia are incidental and I experience no misogyny after coming out (sarcasm)#*fundamentally immature* my ass. yes when you tell people their experiences are trivial they will try to prove to you that theyāre not.#but sure Iām hallucinating the way you treat us like weāre unreliable witnesses to our lives
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saw something in the fictive tag here that bugs me.
if you have exomemories thats fine. you arent "wrong" or "faking" if you remember things from your source.
also, you arent "wrong" or "faking" if you Dont remember things from your source.
can we all just live and get along please. you dont have to go at someone else's throat just because you experience plurality differently.
#also calling someone psychotic because they expeirence exomemories isnt a good look š«”#etho posts#i dont talk on here often but this rubbed me the wrong way.#maybe im just biased as a fictive with exomemories lol /silly#this is why - despite being more than likely traumagenic in origin - we vibe best in endo or endo friendly spaces. since theres a lot less -#finger pointing and fakeclaiming because you experience plurality in a way that isnt the *exact* way one doctor said once#like. we have too many fictives to fit into their Box. we have too many exomemories. our fictives get tugged towards front cause of their -#sources. apparently All Of That means we arent actually a system and the doctor who diagnosed us is wrong?????#idk lol. youre valid as you are. we love you other systems. keep being you and keep living your life. were proud of you
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Parents bringing their kiddos to see the latest Pixar movie and getting their shit absolutely ROCKED and the kids who arenāt quite at that mental stage of development gonna be sitting there wondering why tf their adults are sobbing their eyes out.
#inside out 2#the way I saw a TON of young adults mixed in with kiddos#we all knew what we were heading into#I mean we knew that it would induce tears#however we did not anticipate all the struggles and trauma of adolescence and puberty smacking us in the face but also achieving#the catharsis of those feelings and experiences being totally validated and welcomed and understood#even as they carry on into our adulthood#all Iām saying is Iām emotional and sequel be damned it was good ass movie#spoilers#pixar
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Uh-oh! You are like, SOOO awkward!!
You're so awkward that it is occasionally mildly uncomfortable for people!
You're so awkward that sometimes people are confused by you and then there are awkward silences!
You're so awkward ...... that ultimately no one is harmed!!
Oh damn!!! What a vile crime you have committed! What an unforgivable thing it is to make a fellow human briefly confused!
Why, if *I* were ever briefly confused and kind of uncomfortable as a result, I'd be devastated.... by the absolute net zero change in my happiness and health! - From which I might never recover!! Yes indeed! No punishment can ever be enough for you!!
So you better absolutely hate yourself for it.
Better be SO MEAN to yourself about every single missed social cue so you don't forget your horrible crime! Meaner than you'd ever dream of being to someone else for the same thing! This is YOUR responsibility!
You need to show the world that you KNOW you are bad by punishing yourself constantly! After all, think of all the people who BENEFIT from you punishing yourself! - No, really! Think about it! Think about who benefits from your pain.
Think of alllllll the definitely-good people that your definitely-necessary self-torment definitely helps! I mean, you can't just cut off their definitely-life-sustaining supply of your suffering, right?? Sure, everyone else has a breaking point, but you're probably the only person in human history who doesn't, right? Best not to question it probably. Sure, it's a symptom that billions of people with trauma have had, but who knows? You could be a one-in-seven-billion exception. Anything's possible!
Instead, better just accept that idea that bullies carry like guns in holsters - the idea that people who have trouble with social cues deserve to suffer. Better carry on the burden they placed on you until you drop. Aid the cause of the callous by enforcing shame and suffering upon yourself extra hard; try your best to do their work for them. They're very busy.
Better not recognize that you need patience and kindness to heal from your trauma. Better not find out that it was trauma rather than personal weakness filling your head with self-hating thoughts. Better not find out it wasn't your fault.
Better not find out that awkwardness is not inherently harmful or unkind, and, in fact, the people who act like it is *are the ones enacting harm and being cruel.*
Better not get righteously angry when you realize just how much unnecessary damage this has done to you. After all, if you get mad, you might realize you deserve better. You might even feel brave enough to DEMAND better! You might build boundaries that keep you safe! You might make other people think they deserve to feel safe too! And we obviously can't be having that, so...
Better not show yourself even a little kindness a little bit at a time.
Better not make a habit out of it after all that practice.
Better not get confident.
Especially if you can't first wipe out every trace of awkward. (And you probably never will. Because people who experience absolute social certainty at all times tend to be insufferable assholes that enforce the status quo. And you just don't have the stock portfolio for that.)
Better not be confident and awkward because then you might confuse and delight people
- you might accidentally end up making other people feel less shame for their social difficulties
- you might make isolated, traumatized, and shy people feel like they deserve to be included in social situations
- you might even make them feel they can be themselves around you
- you might start loving the effect you have on a room
- you might enjoy conversations more
- you might forgive yourself and bounce back from shame more easily and frequently
- you might come to enjoy some of those moments of harmless confusion you cause because NOBODY expects the Confident Awkward, and that can genuinely be an advantage in social situations
- you might stop apologizing so much.
- you might find that socializing is like a video game: it requires practice but also a safe space for it to be fun and positive.
Or if you can't become assertive and confident, better not remain awkward and shy and quiet, and then love and forgive yourself anyway!
Why, it would be carnage!!
In either scenario, you run the risk of finding out that it's not your fault that safe spaces full of kind people can be really hard to find, create, and nurture. You could end up building a skillset that helps you do those things if you're not careful!
If you start giving yourself even the tiniest amount of grace at a time, you will find that you've accessed a gateway drug with extreme long-term side effects:
- You might realize that it was never your fault that it took so long to like yourself.
- You might realize that you were always worth talking to, even when you didn't like yourself and communication felt impossibly difficult.
- You might realize that you'll still be worth talking to even if communication becomes harder as you age and/or experience disability.
- You might come to know that you deserve to be heard even on bad days when words come slow and blurry.
You might discover that you were always deserving of kindness, first and foremost from yourself.
So. As you can see, it's FAR too much of a risk to start granting your awkward self free pardons for your many heinous and harmless crimes. Better to just leave it there.
#social skills#i have a few posts now in my ' social skills' tag#original#maybe eventually I will compile them and polish them in some meaningful way. I know what I want to call the book title#in big text it'll say 'I'M AUTISTIC' and then beneath that in smaller text 'And I Have Better Social Skills Than You'#or something to that effect. and the cover of the book will be me making an exaggerated smug face like the little rascal I am#challenging the viewer to pick up the book and see if they can prove me wrong.#and then the entire first section of the book is about how actually the issue with our society's social skills is the harsh judgment#for people who have trouble communicating and not the other way around. I don't actually think I'm the#most charismatic person in the world by a very long shot. but i do know that I have put more thought into my social skills than#most allistic people and frankly i have surpassed most of them. not because i am more persuasive or smooth or funny#(tho i am persuasive and funny lol) but bc i have questioned which social functions are more restriction than utility.#and instead i have focused my energy on actively learning how to make people feel safe. i feel social rules would benefit all people by#being a little more autistic tyvm. i don't think every person should dedicate themselves to being better at communicating#i think people should dedicate themselves to being kind and patient to everyone regardless of their ability to communicate#I think our society wrongly links communication ability to intelligence and intelligence to level of humanity.#when in fact all three of those things are fucking unrelated and connecting them inevitably leads to#really fucked up views on disabled people that hurt us. and then with that aspect of the book firmly understood and established I would#go on to recommend some ways to make socializing easier and more fulfilling (and less shameful and terrifying) for all kinds of people#it wouldn't be a book about Leaning In To Succeed in Business or 'here's how to avoid being the awkward loner at a party'#it'd be a book about how if you see someone alone at a party here's how to invite them to join your group without pressuring them#stuff like 'hot tip! if someone takes a while to type or speak a full sentence - talking over them b4 they can finish makes u an asshole!'#I know that a lot of people cannot or don't want to dump a lot of skill points into socializing like i did and they shouldn't have to in#order to experience basic dignity and respect. if we treat people like that then we just validate that people - especially#autistic children and elders and disabled people of manu varieties - have to suffer unless they learn all these arbitrary bullshit rules#and a lot of them are arbitrary bullshit! one of the reasons I throw people off so much is because I harmlessly break a lot of social rules#but I know I'm doing it and I'm not ashamed and people just don't know what to do with that! but a lot of them like it actually!!#i think it's a relief to be around someone so openly and unrelentingly weird bc what am I gonna do? judge you for being weird??#I only care if you're kind. not necessarily 'nice' or passive. Kind. Brave enough to care about people being treated well. Kind.#also I recognize that at least some of my ability to be openly weird is white privilege so that's important to acknowledge too
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On Elliott's ten heart event, because I have feelings about it that I haven't seen anyone else share yet:
Personally I was definitely thrown off for a second by the trembling thing, but I thought his ten heart event was really sweet. With the context of my farmer being a character who would be a little too nervous to initiate the first kiss between them, but absolutely would want to kiss him, I really liked it. I can see how people saw it differently though, especially if they are playing as themselves and not a separate character they've created, but it didn't strike me as creepy? I think if he got more upset following your rejection I could better understand where people were coming from, but even though you lose friendship points with him, he doesn't throw a tantrum or make you feel bad.
I think he just doesn't realize at that moment that he should ask for consent to kiss you. You're already in a relationship, and he's spent so much time reading and writing fiction that he probably just didn't consider discomfort being a possible response. Kissing someone you're in love with when you're at a loss for words is a common literary trope he's probably read dozens of times. He was going for āromantic boat ride following the successful publishing of the book you, his current partner, helped inspire him to write,ā not ārow you out to sea to isolate you so you can't escape if you don't want to be kissedā. I just don't believe it's in Elliott's character to force himself on anyone intentionally, and I can't imagine how anyone else can think he had malicious intentions with all of the context we have of who he is, what he does in his life, what he feels, etc.Ā
Should Elliott have asked for consent to kiss you? Yes, absolutely. Did he mean to take you somewhere you'd be completely alone and unable to escape so he could force himself on you? Absolutely not.
#this isnt to say its not valid to dislike this heart event though#i get it#there are some heart events i didnt like very much for other characters#we are all individuals with our own feelings and experiences#and we all interpret things in our own unique ways#my post#stardew valley#sdv#elliott sdv#stardew elliott
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NO idea if this counts as an aro experience, but mine is knowing solidly that im aroace, but also having a very strong connection to the lesbian label????
i think that in terms of aesthetic attraction (which is already intense for me), im more drawn to non-men so maybe its that? but im not sure n i keep getting worried im going to barge into a community and misuse their label skadfjsgdf
Use any labels that feel right to you!
#seriously#if it feels right#use it#and if someone says that's not valid#screw them#mod ozzie#our arospec experience#arospec#aromantic#aro#queer#lgbtqia+#aro pride#aroace#lesbian
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