#gender detachment
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i feel so seen!!
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From the substack post above, which contains the link to a preprint of the academic article:
When I began my research, I planned to compare the experiences of asexual men, asexual women, and “beyond the binary” asexuals. I ended up interviewing 77 people under the asexuality umbrella. But there was a major problem. About a third of the people I interviewed didn’t really fit into any gender category. These individuals felt that gender presentation and/or identity was unimportant, pointless, and/or oppressive. They didn’t want to be understood through the lens of gender. I ended up coining the term “gender detachment” to describe these feelings (though, as some you helpfully pointed out, there are other terms, like autigender, neutrois, etc. that get at similar ideas).
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My egg cracks and inside it is just a slightly smaller and slightly different color plastic egg
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so here's a thing about gender, there's a hierarchy of acceptable approaches to it:
ideally, you strongly align with the gender you were assigned at birth
failing that, you should strongly align with the socially-dominant gender that you weren't assigned at birth
if you can't manage that, you should at least have strong feelings about pronouns
which means that if you don't have a particular internal gender alignment and don't care about pronouns, you're left feeling like you've failed at being cis and also failed at being trans
#gender#queer#there's a similar thing with sexuality#although it's messier and more complex#for gender the only acknowledgement i've seen of it is in that recent paper about gender amongst asexuals#which coined the term#gender detachment
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"So what IS the point of gender?" I scream out into the void. "Are there any positives or is it just kinda there?? Not a fan!"
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Idk what to say other than it seems super common. But I wanted to see.
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Gender Detachment flag
Made a flag for gender detachment 😄
You are free to use it and modify it.
The circle represents the gender and the “holes” represent the detachment. The colors don’t have a specific meaning, but you can give them one if you want. Got inspired by the asexual flag.
And made one without the dotted circle. You’re also free to use it and modify it.
For more info on copyright stuff, click on “keep reading”.
“You” don’t have to give credit on social media and other platforms for using it or modifying it, just give credit if it’s for a historical or archives blog/post.
If “you’re gonna modify it and make it into a flag for something else, just mention that it comes from a gender detachment flag! ☺️
#prideflag#pride flag#gender detachment#gender#gender flag#genderflag#genderdetachment#genderdetachmentflag#gender detachment flag
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I genuinely want a Kilt.
I couldn't think of another way to bring up "what's the difference between a Kilt and a Skirt?" Cause, like... the only difference I see is the gender that is "supposed" to wear or.
I think it's important to let guys be gender non conforming without telling them they're a girl, cause actually misgendering people is still shit even when you are pro trans. "You're a girl, an egg waiting to crack, and that's ok" how about you are a boy and a man and it's still ok if you want to do something that doesn't align with traditional ideals of your gender. You can still be he/him in a skirt and makeup.
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Wore my new binder for the first time today and it’s been awesome honestly would recommend!!
#hnnnngggh flat chest#agender#agender?#genderqueer#gender fuckery#afab#binder#chest binding#chest binder#gender apathetic#gender detachment#gender#gender euphoria
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It feels so liberating that Aziraphale and Crowley are allowed to not identify as male while still (usually) presenting as male and using male pronouns. I think it woke up something in me
#like I'm so detached from the concept of my own gender#but I also don't feel the need to use neutral pronouns or put specific labels on myself#I can just be me#and that's enough#huh#good omens
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Literally one of the only reasons I bother identifying as agender.
Uh, of course I have straight As!
-Agender
-Aromantic
-Asexual
-Autistic
-Anxious
-Asthmatic
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I learned a new term today: gender detachment, coined by Canton Winer.
I don’t like when people ask what my gender is because it implies that I HAVE a gender and that I NEED one when it’s just not true. It also forces me to out myself, have to over-explain and put myself at risk or misgender myself. I identify as trans and I feel gender detached, that’s it. I don’t want to know more about it. I am content with what I understand of myself.
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parenting books did not prepare them for this:
"The Smee twins don't want to be boys anymore."
Mal blinks. The parenting books didn't prepare her for this one. "Uh. Sure. Do they want to be girls?"
Carlos shrugs. For some unfathomable reason, the Smee twins have decided that Carlos is the most trustworthy adult in the house, and have consequently decided that they're only going to talk to him when they need something. It keeps things nice and quiet, but it's also weird that they picked the guy who spends most of his free time researching better ways to make explosions as their singular safe adult. "Dunno. They didn't exactly say, so I figure probably not. Do we have books on this shit?"
They have books on everything from feeding toddlers (thankfully not applicable - the Smee twins are old enough that they're willing to eat anything, and Celia and Dizzy haven't managed to procreate yet) to managing runaway teenagers, but they don't have any books on what to do when your sort-of-adoptive kids decide that they don't want to be boys anymore. "No."
"Figures. Can we get some?"
"If you can figure out what books cover it, I'll misappropriate treasury funds to buy 'em," Mal decides. It might not even count as misappropriation if she can get Evie to write up a little blurb justifying the expense as part of the isle kid program. They got Celia and Dizzy's cell phones with official treasury funds. The magic that Evie's email connections can work is basically infallible at this point. "Do they want to cut their hair or anything?"
"I didn't ask. There were a lot of tears."
Mal winces. "Did you try and comfort them, or something?"
Carlos's face is what she can only assume is a pained reflection of her own. "Yeah. But it didn't really work, so I just told them that they don't have to be boys anymore, and then I got them set up with chocolate milk."
Chocolate milk is the ultimate comfort food. It's also the only way that any of their newest VKs will drink milk, which is proving both expensive in the finances department (Evie) and adventurous in the cereal department (primarily Jay).
"Yeah, that's fine," Mal decides. If they're not actively wailing, everything is probably fine. "Do they want, like, to paint their room a different color?"
"Crying," Carlos reminds her, like it's a complete explanation. "Didn't ask."
"I can't ask them, they'll cry if I look at them wrong," Mal says, in a very measured and calm sort of tone. "Go back and ask if they want to paint the room, or cut their hair, or something."
Carlos casts his most baleful look up at her. He really has to work for it too, because the universe is deeply unfair, and he's taller than she is now. "Crying."
"Don't be a wimp."
He groans. "I'm too young to be a single parent. You're aging me prematurely. Every time I do things like this I can feel my brain cells maturing."
"Shut the fuck up and go talk to your kids."
#my fic#descendants#I just think the Smee kids are sort of detached from gender and they don’t like being asked to pick a side#Mal meanwhile is probably also nonbinary but she’s overwhelmed by the very state of existence so she doesn’t have time to think about that#this is not terribly serious but it was meant to lead into a more in-depth discussion of my overly thought out omegaverse gender system#but I’m just not leading it there yet
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I'm so used to seeing myself as genderless so whenever I'm gendered/misgendered through pronouns or gestures I'm always confused. Especially when it's gestures!
The other day a dude at work gestured to me that I could go before him like you'd gesture to a lady and I was genuinely thrown for a loop by it, so confused! XD
I just walked past and said ok, not thinking of thanking him cause my brain was occupied with processing what just happened pfhdkjdkf
#i don't understand how anyone can see gender attached to the creature I see in the mirror :p#I've detached myself and my body from gender. I just se me when I look at myself. a little gremlin~
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Does being transneutral and FtM make sense to y'all? Cuz that's how I'm feeling about my gender right now
#I don't really like transmasc to describe myself#and I REALLY don't like calling myself nonbinary#but also “trans man” doesn't really capture the full picture#okay so imagine you're at a fast food restaurant and you order the “trans man” meal#this meal consists of a burger fries chicken strips and a drink#the burger is the “Trans Man” burger#hence the name of the meal#but there's Also the side dishes#which in my case would be various genders of the “completely detached from the gender binary” variety#and the drink is of course gender fluidity#AND the burger has multiple elements to it#like genderqueerness and masculinity and femininity and other stuff that are different from eachother but nonetheless combine to form#the Trans Man Burger Meal#that's. that's what I've got goin on.#anyway#trans#transgender#genderqueer#trans man#butch#ftm#agender#transneutral
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Thanks @queenfishernb for this important addiction! I don't necessarily agree with everything that Dr. Winer states in this, but it's a very good start and I'm really glad to know that this is an actual thing and not just my mind going down the bullshit rails!
Is being gender repulsed a thing?
Like, everyone's gender is cool, super, wunderbar, fichissimo. You can have the gender you want, you can have both, you can have your agab, I'm super fine and I'll fight for your right to identify.
But I hate being perceived as a person with a gender, whether it's male or female, unless I specifically want to be identified as one or the other. I want to wear whatever I want, I want to wear makeup if I feel like it and drink beer and talk about sports or books or music.
I just want to exist, not to find a gender. I feel like I don't need one, and I don't want one. Don't don't don't want one.
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