#gay polyam POC

[rolaplayor101]

This Valentines/Aro Day

I'm sharing my Arospec/Black/& Polyam book haul!! ft. Romance or Queer Platonic Relationships!

Legendborn(almost finished): black girl main character, interracial mf relationship, multiple queer supporting characters! YA fantasy with themes of racism and trauma

A Queen Of Gilded Horns(I've only read River of Royal Blood): Black main characters, black mf relationship, romance isn't the main plot which makes it very engaging for a romance tired black person like me! Focus is on racism in the fantasy world, multiple queer supporting characters!

Symbiosis (I haven't read Escaping Exodus yet): Black girl Mc, Sapphic relationship I heard! Mostly sci-fi plot I think! I'll recc it anyway cause I am gonna read it during this Black history month!

Ruin of Stars (only read Mask of Shadows): poc gender fluid main character in relationship with a woman, aromantic and black supporting character!! Fantasy with assassins and political commentary and trauma

Moonlight Love Witchcraft(havent started): Multiple Poc Mcs, polyam relationship, nonbinary main character, asexual werewolf mc!! Indigenous mc!! Comfy fantasy!

Silver Under Nightfall(haven't finished): Black Mc alongside Asian Mc and genderfluid southeast asian??? mc!! Polyamorous relationship! Paranormal vampire fantasy with great plot!! So far!! Tw for SA and trauma

Blasted Research(haven't finished): ace and nonbinary mc!! Polyam m/nby/nby relationship! Dystopia sci-fi and only on ebook!

Role Playing(almost finished): Asian American mc and bi demirose mc! Mf relationship but queer!! Video game romcom with themes about the harms of amatonormativity featuring 50 year olds!

The Bone Season(haven't really started): Multiple poc supporting characters, main character is demirose! Multiple queer characters! Fantasy dystopian setting! Love interest is nonbinary??? In second book.

Genesis of Misery(haven't finished): nonbinary southeast asian mc! Sapphic relationship! Religious political sci-fi plot with multiple queer and poc characters!

Most Ardently(haven't finished): trans and queer retelling of Pride and Prejudice! Gay relationship! Plain historical romance! Multiple queer supporting characters!

By Your Side(finished): a short queerplatonic story! Bi mc with aro mc! Polyam queerplatonic relationship!! Realistic college fiction that's like 38 pages!

Is Love the Answer (finished): aroace nonbinary mc and multiple aspec mcs! All poc cause they're Japanese. Possible queerplatonic relationships discussed! Realistic college fiction!

I Want To Be A Wall(finished): Japanese Aroace mc and gay mc married in a qpr!! Realistic comedic fiction! Full review here

If the authors have anything to add, I'll @ them here! @linseymiller @sshannonauthor @whatnowrin @coffeequills @thegabecole @themargherita-s @queerio-cheerios @itsneonyang

I also do art commissions if anyone would like to help me buy more queer and poc books 😢 😭

[xavzii]

intro post — ☆

my name is xavier, i’m 16yo, i’m black, and i use he/him prns along w neos. im trans, gay, aroacespec, and polyam. my blog is mostly just a personal journal where i say anything + fandom reposts and rants. my vent sideblog is @gazniet (just make sure to read the pinned)

i suspect i will be posting a lot of miscellaneous thoughts, and that includes suggestive thoughts/reblogs. if that bothers u, do yourself a favor and look away LOL.

do not interact: homophobes/transphobes, nsfw blogs (if you post pics), zoos, pedos, proshippers, racists, albeists, and others

do interact: mlm/nblm, trans people (especially men <3), bnha enjoyers (especially izuku, katsuki, shinsou, shoto, aizawa, hawks stans), artists, writers/poets, poc, batman lovers,

fair warning, the block button and i are best friends. i’ll avoid accs as much as possible but if i feel inclined to do so i will block

[mogai-headcanons]

inbox check; current request count is 40

i may deny your request if i don’t have the spoons to make transparents, sorry!

danganronpa (he)artless deceit: loveless kou, feminine-masculine akira, feminine chiemi, feminine chou, masculine hideyoshi, feminine itsumi, feminine izanami, masculine katsuhiko, feminine kiyoshi, feminine molly, masculine jack, androgynous kat, masculine kyouran, gnc otome, feminine rei, masculine satoru, feminine shion, hyper-masculine takeshi, masculine tomoya, masculine yumeo, masculine denshi, feminine kaoru, masculine ryuusei, feminine yukie, masculine hirotaka, hyper-feminine momoka, masculine ryuuji, hyper-androgynous keisuke, masculine isao - k4ijynxx

fnaf: hyper-feminine toy chica, hyper-feminine mangle, gender neutral puppet, feminine phantom chica, gender neutral phantom mangle, gender neutral spring bonnie, neutral nightmare chica, hyperfeminine nightmare mangle, gender neutral nightmarionne, hyperfemininemasculine funtime foxy, gender neutral lolbit, hyperfeminine funtime chica, gender neutral lefty, feminine roxanne wolf, feminine glamrock chica - k4ijynxx

mlp: out-of-the-closet twilight sparkle, intersex applejack, femme fluttershy, queer rarity, poc pinkie pie, queer rainbow dash, transfem celestia, t4t luna, greyro big mac, acespec maud pie, butch gilda, trans trixie, trans discord, queer starlight glimmer, poc tempest shadow - 🌈🦴⛓️ anon

fnaf: polyam freddy, polyam bonnie, bi chica, polyam toy freddy, idolgender toy bonnie, polyam toy chica, polyam toy foxy

ducktales 2017: autistic donald, autistic daisy

the pirate fairy: cupioro zarina

cookie run: transfem licorice cookie

mlp: aroace ditzy doo, ace cheerilee

cookie run: ethegender black sugar swan cookie, autistic whipped cream cookie

cookie run: gateaugender strawberry shortcake cookie

pokemon adventures: bi gay red, gay green - 2 asks

gravity falls: butch ford, nonbinary bill, bi stan, nonbinary susan

doctor who: transmasc nine, panfluid ten, vincian eleven, aroace twelve, bigender thirteen, pan fifteen

cookie run: ambiamorous pure vanilla cookie

soreike! anpanman: enbian baikinman, enbian dokeen, enbian horror - epiceneandroid

goodbye volcano high: nonbinary fang, closeted transmasc naomi - 2 asks

mlp: transmasc tempest shadow, polyam twilight

that's not my neighbor: nonbinary francis, genderfaun isaack

monster high: arospec river styxx

cookie run: autistic agent jjajang cookie

sprunki: gay tunner, greyro jevin, autistic oren, autistic pinki, yellowgender simon, purplegender durple, redgender raddy, autistic brud, limegender owakcx, greengender vineria, graygender clukr, goldgender garnold, ptsdfun bot, kidcoric mr fun computer, graygender gray, whitegender wenda

mlp: girlflux starlight glimmer, transfem trixie lulamoon

fnaf: aegoro lefty - pukacup

total drama: nd noah, nd cody, gender apathetic izzy, nd heather, bi duncan, nd alejandro, autistic owen, nt geoff, autistic gwen

toh: bi luz, lesbian amity, pan willow, aroace gus, bi hunter, bi eda, apothirose lilith - 2 asks

inazuma eleven: sun lesbian amemiya

pokemon: anattractional hau, aroace lillie, aroaceapl gladion

gravity falls: bi dipper, panro mabel, bi stanley, gay stanford, libramasc bill

pokemon: autistic cyrus

pokemon: spacekin dawn wings necrozma, greyplatonic dusk mane necrozma

mlp: two spirit mudbriar, transfem maud pie - sn0zzzz

regretevator: boygirl prototype - protofected

fnaf: envitronic william afton

fnaf: she/her gay man funtime freddy, genderfluid funtime foxy

angel hare: trans woman gabby, axab zag, gay francis — uniquartz

inazuma eleven: aroace kira, bi lesbian urabe, lesboy zaizen, excemasle morimura, excemelle kusaka, bi megane - pukacup

berserk: mlm guts, transfem griffith, transmasc casca, closeted judeau, closeted charlotte

shipwrecked 64: bi bucky beaver

post-traumatic manifesto: pupgender disposable girl, demisexual irreverent girl, polyam splitter girl, multiply disabled faineant girl, autistic caliber girl, autistic chocolate-box girl, intersex taxidermy girl, autistic chemical girl

infinity train: bigender lake

[dead-dog-dont-eat]

hi hi hi! :) srry 2 be a bother but I am a HUGE ben 10 fan as well & couldn't help but notice that you had a whole theme going on rn (lol)

anyway, for starters, but do you have hcs on any of the aliens from the show (specifically POC and/or LGBTQ+)? Don't wanna pressure u obviously - but I think that ur cool (in an autism way) and I just wanna hear your hcs.

OMG, anon, this is so sweet of you to say 😭😭😭????? Also, ty for acknowledging my account theme of my wife (lol) tbh, I have been bored lately and I WAS about to post some text wanting to talk to someone about some random-ass questions or headcanons about ben 10, and you've beaten me to it :D

Also, to answer your question...yes, I have headcanons to both POC (and non-POC) and queer headcanons!!

(Also, funny enough, but I have seen @/redisloser show THEIR version of hcs for the aliens--so I might as well show mine)

-XLR8 is of Asian descendant (specifically Korean, Thai, and Vietnamese), and he is gay, non-monogamous, and reciprosexual.

-Bullfrag is of Italian-American heritage (so white) and is from Boston and Philadelphia, and is bisexual; Attea is also from Italian heritage and is from Boston but is mostly New Jerseyian, she is a nonbinary lesbian.

-NRG and Diamondhead are also white, both of them are Russian (NRG canonically is, lol), but Diamondhead is also a mix of Czech, German, and has Alaskan blood in him and is from Arkansas--while NRG is a second-generation Russian immigrant; Diamondhead is gay, demiace, and demiboy while for NRG....eh, I'm still questioning, but is definitely queer in some way.

-All of Ben's Anur Transyl aliens canonically have European heritage in them--as it was proven in OV on Anur Transyl how the theme of the planet is mostly based on Europe. Not to mention Snare-Oh + any other Thep Khufans are also Egyptian. Though, I headcanon that Anur Transyl continents are different based on the European country they were inspired from. Plus I love how diverse and multicultural the planet is. Whampire--from his accent--is (canonically from the wiki) Romanian and gay/queer; Snare-Oh and Frankenstrike are both gay/queer with Snare-Oh being acespec and cupiosexual. Ghostfreak and Blitzwolfer are both queer-coded as well but just not decided on gender/sexuality (yet).

-Four Arms is of Spanish heritage (mostly from Mexico, Venezuela, and Argentina) and is a bisexual demiboy; Looma Red Wind is the same but is more indigenous-mexico + has Mayan background in her blood, she is a pre-op top surgery transmasc lesbian.

-Ripjaws is Afro-Polynesian, part Hawaiian and Filipino, and is mostly Samoan; he is polyam, greyromantic/alloaro, a trans-enby (ftm), and gay.

-Swampfire is mixed POC--he is Melanesian, Indian, Afro-Hawaiian + Afro-Japanese, and is also part white (Irish + Dutch and Baltic); he is gay and demisexual.

-Heatblast, Grey Matter, and Cannonbolt are white: Heatblast is Coloradorian + Northeastern white, Grey Matter is from Baltimore + Northern states and is also a bit British, and Cannonbolt is mostly from the Western side of America; Heatblast is achillean/MLM and queer, both Cannonbolt and Grey Matter are aroace and Bolt is also pan.

-Stinkfly is agender and aroace as well; he is Northeastern white like Heatblast.

-Wildmutt is just, well, an alien dog so he doesn't have any concept of gender/sexuality--BUT, if he were an ACTUAL dog, then he would be a mixed breed of a Sheepdog (mostly), along with a bit of Airdale/Whippet Bull Terrier mix, Great Dane and some Cane Corso too (<- inspired off of my partner's HUGE ass black-colored dog, Buddha, who is also a Cane Corso lmao).

-Feedback is mostly African-American with bits of Japanese and Filipino (Blasian); and he is gay.

-Big Chill is Afro-Jewish, Afro-Asian, and Afro-Hawaiian, Icelandic, and Norse; they are canonically nonbinary, trans/ftm, on the aroace spectrum, and gay.

-Both Rath and Humungousaur are mostly white but with some POC--Rath is of Ukrainian, Irish, and Polish background with some Indian and Brazilian heritage and is from New Jersey + Philadelphia, and Humungousaur is from the Caribbean Islands with some Bulgaria, Slovakia, and Canada and is from Texas + Florida; both are gay.

-Wildvine is also African-American like Feedback, but he is also Afro-Latine, some Nigerian and a bit of Creole--he has a half older brother (my OC, Wallfire) who is Blasian because his late Pyronite mother is Asian (they both have the same dad); Wildvine is a transmasc ftm enby who is also gay--his brother is also gay but cis.

-Viktor is canonically German, and his human appearance in the Original Series is white, plus of his accent. Crüjo is Black like his voice actor in Omniverse--Bumper Robinson--and he is from Boston like Bullfrag. Kuphulu would be Black-adjacent, Egyptian, Afro-Asian, and also Jewish in heritage/background; all three of them are in a polycule with each other: Viktor is cis and gay, Crüjo is a libramasculine and gay, and Kuphulu is polyam, a trans-enby, gay and also on the aroace spectrum.

-Pax is multiracial: he is Black + European from his father and Spanish + Native-American from his mother; he is aroace, cupiosexual, and gay.

-And lastly, from my favorite out of the bunch: Psyphon. He is both French and Swedish (so mainly white as well) and he is multilingual in both languages; he is nonbinary, gay and also on the aroace spectrum.

Ty so much for asking me this! I had a lot of fun typing; please forgive me if I skipped/missed most of the aliens from other shows as well but these are ones that I mostly focus on (lol).

[nabrielise]

Help Save our Bisexual Baby Witch, his Destructo-Bomb GF & his Punk Croissant BF

the cast of Half Bad: The Bastard Son & The Devil Himself have tweeted that this is a CRUCIAL week for getting views for the show. if you haven't heard of it this is an incredible netflix show with AMAZING representation (poc, bisexual, queer & poly characters).

"Magical and brutal, this Netflix adaptation explores prejudice and family lineage, while presenting a nuanced portrait of teenage sexuality at the same time. [It is about] how the systems of power affect children and provides a nuanced look at identity and determinism" - via Linda Codega, just one of many positive reviews for the show including a 92% score on rotten tomatoes

help us get a second season by streaming the show ASAP! even if you don't watch it, just have it playing in the background (as long as it isn't muted.) rewatches also help! we are so grateful for any views and help to signal boost <3 this show means a lot to us both bc of the rep and how badly we want to see more of these chars

if you need more of a reason, just look at how cute the main poly relationship is

please help us get a second season for more of this incredible representation and story! check out Half Bad: The Bastard Son & The Devil Himself and tell your friends!

[moshpitsandstargazing]

big love to all the other nonbinary people out there✨

[breenherebefore]

apparently my iced latte orders have advanced to enough added espresso that the barista has to double check that its right.

[cryptid-paradoxa]

💛 🏳️‍🌈 

(He/they)

[march-does-mogai]

I love aros I love loveless aros I love aros that want a relationship I love aros that use the SAM I love aros that don't I love lesbian aros gay aros pan aros bi aros omni aros polysexual aros polyam aros ace aros I love aros that appear to have conflicting identities I love aros that have trauma I love aros with mental illnesses I love cis aros I love trans aros I love nonbinary aros I love aros who are none I love aros who are gender unlabeled I love adult aros I love aros with microlabels to fully explain their aromanticism I love aros in qpps I love aros who don't want a qpp I love aros who are amatopunk I love closeted aros I love poc aros I love disabled aros I love neurodivergent aros I love aros that use mogai labels I love aros

[pickle-the-lad]

Hell yeah!

A little reminder:

Gay polyamorous men are valid.

Lesbian polyamorous women are valid

Bisexual polyamorous people are valid.

Pansexual polyamorous people are valid.

Polysexual polyamorous people are valid.

Omnisexual polyamorous people are valid.

Abrosexual polyamorous people are valid.

M-spec polyamorous people are valid.

Arospec polyamorous people are valid.

Acespec polyamorous people are valid.

Transgender polyamorous people are valid.

Non-Binary polyamorous people are valid.

Genderfluid polyamorous people are valid.

Multi-gender polyamorous people are valid.

Agender polyamorous people are valid.

Intersex polyamorous people are valid.

T4T polyamorous people are valid.

NBLNB polyamorous people are valid.

Neo + Xeno pronoun polyamorous people are valid.

Disabled polyamorous people are valid.

Neurodivergent polyamorous people are valid.

Mentally-ill polyamorous people are valid.

BIPOC polyamorous people are valid.

Asian polyamorous people are valid.

Jewish polyamorous people are valid.

Closeted polyamorous people are valid.

Polyamorous sex workers are also valid.

[gray-ace-space]

tag system

for some reason tumblr won't let me add new links to this, so the tags added recently are not clickable, sorry.

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nonbinary day (july 14)

bi month (september)

international lesbian day (oct 8)

interesex awareness day (oct 26)

trans awareness week (week before nov 20)

trans day of remembrance / tdor (nov 20)

pan week (december 6-12)

(no separate tags for acespec events bc it is ace day every day here)

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alastor (from hazbin hotel)

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[transmasc-wizard]

Okay. So. How do you write bisexual characters?

(For the record, I, as a bisexual myself, already know how to do this. I just want to see how other people do so to see, like, their take on it, if that makes any sense at all.)

hi! so, this is once again very broad. "how do you write bisexual characters" is a big thing, but i think i know what you're trying to ask.

first of all, since you're bi too, you can take a lot of liberties that non-bi people can't. you can go closer to stereotypes and dissect them from the inside, because you are on the inside. We as bi people can talk about the experiences of being bi, how we confront stereotypes, internalized biphobia, etc. basically, you have license to play around with bi characters however you want, as a bi person.

but for the rest of this, i'll direct it more generally, advice that could be given to bi people and non-bi people alike.

first thing to note: i am one bi person. i do not speak for all bi people. if non-bi people read this and expect to immediately understand everything ever about bi rep... no. stop. bad. i'm spraying you with a spray bottle right now as if you're a misbehaving cat.

i'm one dude on the internet. in fact, i'm gonna mention @yourbookcouldbegayer, here; it's a good idea to also ask them shit. ask more than one person! (again, not you specifically. you're bi. do whatever the hell you want.)

anyway, onward.

the main thing:

bi people are people, first. while you should make sure your bi character isn't, like, some terrible stereotype of bisexuals, when it comes down to it, if you make a fully-fleshed out 3 dimensional character who also happens to be bi, i think most bi people will be happy with that.

some things to avoid (for non-bis):

please do not make your bi characters promiscuous, cheaters, overly flirty/sexual, or known for never staying in relationships long. it's really tiring to see bi people categorized like this. If you do have bi characters like this, for the love of god, have more than one bi character, and make sure your other bi character isn't like that. there's nothing wrong with being the above things! (except a cheater. cheaters are terrible.) and you can have bi characters who are. but a lot of people, especially non-queer folk, see all bi people as being like that, and that's bad.

additionally, tread carefully with polyamorous bi characters. i am saying this as a polyam. that doesn't mean don't have polyam bi people! it means that a lot of people see every bi ever as polyam.

and if you make your bi character "a lesbian when she's dating girls and straight when she's dating boys" or "gay when he's dating boys and straight when he's dating girls" i will eat your shoes. that is a threat. Orientation doesn't work that way!! bi people aren't just constantly flipping between gay and straight!!

don't do the "they're just calling themselves bi for attention and are actually gay/straight" thing, either. that is also bad. Bi people are bi.

finally, if you're not bi or some other mspec identity, don't write a story about what it's like to be bi or biphobia. you can have bi characters and bi protagonists, but you don't know what it's like to be bi or to navigate biphobia.

some things i, as a bi person, want to see more of (other bis feel free to add!!):

aspec bi people! trans bi people! bi people in loving, committed relationships! bi people who are single and totally cool with it! disabled, mentally ill and neurodivergent bi people! bi poc! bi4bi relationships! bi people with bi friends (and queer friends in general)! bi-oriented aroaces! bi people who love being bi! bi parents! BI PROTAGONISTS!

i am extra-serious on the last one. While i don't want non-bi people to write about *being* bi (like i said), i am DESPERATE to see bi protagonists/POVs. write about bi space captains, bi dragon-riders, bi superheroes, bi chosen ones, bi people navigating the apocalypse, bi people in cute fluffy romances. it's nice being in stories at all, but sometimes you wanna be more than a side character, yknow?

bi people feel free to add on! and if you disagreed with something, please do tell--as i said, we're not a hivemind, and every bi person is different.

[im-the-punk-who]

I know many, many people have said this before but I was talking with a friend last night and she brought up how different cultures have different standards for what ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ sexuality and gender look like.

It’s something I’ve been trying to articulate for a while now about why exclusionary practices are based in eurocentrism and racism and xenophobia, and i’m not sure i have it totally thought out but I’m gonna give it a go.

She(a black woman) brought up how ingrained into the Black experience white heteronormativity is, and how if the Black idea of what ‘queerness’ is was expanded, a lot more Black people would likely be comfortable identifying as some sort of queer. Because queer only really means, ‘differing in some way from what is usual or normal : odd, strange, weird.‘

She brought up how a lot of the expectations of both Black men and women are based either in conforming to whiteness or conforming to the Black community’s rejection of it, and how these are seen as ‘straight’ identities even though they are completely separate and often restrictive in their actualization. That so many of the body-image issues POC have are due to eurocentric beauty standards.

If you take a ‘cis man’ and a ‘cis woman’ who identify completely within their cultural genders (say, a Sikh man or an Indigenous woman or a Black American woman or a Mexican man or a Hassidic Jewish man or a Korean woman etc etc etc) all of those presentations of what ‘gender’ means to that culture are completely different. (Not to mention the .... incalculable different phenotypical  presentations of ‘cis’ gender that exist.)

And then of course add in that many cultures already *have* identities that under a colonialist lens are viewed as ‘queer’. The entire umbrella of Indigenous two-spirit identities is in and of itself a colonial conglomeration of hundreds of distinct cultural identities, all of which are ‘queer’ only in the sense that they are not definable by western gender norms. But within their own cultures these people are not viewed as ‘different’ or ‘queer’ but just another way to present an identity.

So, basically, the point that I’m trying to make is that there is no real way to define ‘queer’ - or even being Gay or Lesbian to be completely exclusinist - that does not racialize gender, because gender as white people understand it is already racialized and based on a perception of gender that conforms only to white standards of physical presentation. And so in truth I think the pushback against queer inclusivity cannot be separated from the pushback against normalizing non-white perceptions of gender, and from the expected assimilation by people of color.

Because once you recognize that there are literally millions of different ways to present even a cis-heterosexual gender, culturally(and this isn’t even getting into mixed race people or people who grew up in culturally diverse areas!), it becomes clear that there cannot be a single way to define what someone is, or what someone can identify as or present as, and therefore what people can be ‘attracted’ to in order to identify as a thing.

Saying that there is one ‘true’ experience of womanhood, or maleness, or gayness, or lesbianism, based on who or what people are attracted to is invalidating the millions of different ways sex, gender, and selfhood can be expressed.

To say that someone ‘cannot’ identify as part of the LGBT+ community because they are gender or socially nonconforming but don’t necessarily experience same-sex attraction (and yes I specifically left room for this to include trans, intersex, and polyam/leather/BDSM heterosexuals) is to invalidate the experiences of gender and society that fall outside the white perception.

[samus-arans-sweaty-pits-n-balls]

an american's rant on america tw: everything to do with american history

dni if: you think the usa is on any level acceptable.

we are a country founded on the corpses of indigenous people and the backs of black slaves.

we have roads sponsored by the kkk

our political structure kills nuance and allows biden to beat out bearnie and republicans to gloat about jerrymandering without any repercussions.

we literally let a d-list celebrity become our leader, and after numerous attempts to blatantly disrupt the "integrity" of our system, was allowed to leave without being in jail

our prison system is basically American slavery and I can't imagine we'll see it end in my lifetime

we outlaw drugs, but politicians with ties to Epstein are still allowed to hold power

we treat POC's and mentally ill people worse than bigots and predators with privilege

as long as they have a police badge, serial killers are compensated for their killing spree

homeless people are considered parasitic while the rich are not.

your personal connection to cops clouds your judgment

a wage gap exists

food is thrown away, rather than feeding the hungry.

the exclusion of queer and non-christian rights creates 2nd class citizens

the entire history of how white people gained "ownership" of the country.

i have had endure a flat-earther calling me confused for being nonbinary, to keep myself physically safe.

people can spread antisemitic/antiqueer/antipoc/ablest hate speech without fear of repercussion, whilst any perceived threat to the status quo is treated with the utmost seriousness.

nazis can be proud and open and be recommended to people while queer content creators are demonetized

the constant attack on trans and gay rights/the outright erasure of bi, pan, ace, aro, polyam folk

the documented proof that shows get canceled because girls/women like them

women are treated like a separate species eg: representation is a black man, a gay white man, a Vietnamese man, and a white woman

homeless is allowed to exist while operations get tax write-offs

politicians are allowed to invest in stock

politicians are not forced to live at the lowest quality of life they allow. eg: politicians with homeless constituents are not forced to live on $0 income and live in skid row. [this is a personal thing, but I do believe it should be instated univerally]

the zodiac killer is still a politician

we do not give presidents 12 life sentences w/o parole for all the war crimes and crimes against their country.

Disney has more rights than black Americans

every single living person is not given a home, clothes, food, water, power, internet, and a phone by the virtue those are all required to live in modern society (you can't pay bills, apply for a job, or get most services you need w/o internet anymore)

we have an immigration policy that isn't open borders. like. white people. denying immigrants. in the USA. is completely disgusting.

corperations have more rights than actual people

capitalism

the list goes on for years

[breenherebefore]

urban sprawl.

[dont-be-an-idiot-merlin]

I was in the shower when I got an amazing idea. So just- hear me out

Merlin, but with an all female cast

Why? You may ask... uhhh lesbians with swords in armor??? Yea ngl that was my only thought at first.

Maybe even a more diverse cast, with more poc🤔 But wait! There’s more!

So all female cast...well there’s obviously going to be some gucci gay shit now! (cue Gwen marrying Arthur, and no I’m not changing Arthur to a more ‘girly’ name bc tbh who said names had to be for one gender) not only that though!

In BBC Merlin there always seemed to be some gay stuff happening (eye-sex, gwaine doing anything for Merlin, etc) sooo if there’s all this chemistry between so many characters...why not polyam? Now, this may just be my multi-shipper heart speaking but, can you imagine😍

Lancelot and Gwen would get there rightly deserved romance.

Lancelot and Merlin, Gwaine and Merlin, Arthur and Merlin, Gwen and Merlin...guys so many people are in love with Merlin...

May i add... Morgana and Gwen... Morgana and Merlin... JUST ALL OF CAMELOT DATING EACH OTHER

oh how could I forget Gwaine, Percy, and Elyan getting together!

Maybe give or take a few of those idk🤷🏽

ALSO GIVING THE KNIGHTS MORE LINE AND SCREEN TIME AND THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH EACHOTHER AND MERLIN BECAYSE IM UPSET WE DIDNT SEE MUCH OF THEIR FRIENDSHIP IN THE ACTUAL SHOW

So polyam lesbians with swords and magic everybody! I’ll write more about the plot later,,,but for now I have ramen I need to eat