#fighting me would literally just be beating on a disabled person

[kingkrillin]

intersectionality going out the window when someone decides they want to threaten trans men for not being the right type of men lol

[writers-potion]

when writing enemies to lovers, how to I avoid the trope of “hes mean to me but it’s okay because he likes me” and make the mmc redeemable after being mean, because so far all I have is have her be just as bad 😭 (I don’t know if I worded that right)

Redeeming The Bad Boy Character

Drop Subtle Hints of Redeemability

Okay. Rule Number 1 for romance heroes: They need to be LOVABLE. Full stop. 

Before you start coming up with possible justifications, place the actions of your bad boy on the emotional balancing scale of your girl. Do his real feelings shine through the meanness on the surface?

What readers usually DON’T want to see redeemed is:

Outright lying/manipulating the girl 

Being obsessive and controlling 

Physical/emotional bullying (i.e. stuff that real bullies would do)

“Crossing the line”: This will depend on character - like insulting a disabled sister the girl character feels super protective towards (like NO PLEASE NO)

Even if the “enemy” phase of your romance is meant to be intense, your bad boy needs to display “goodness of heart”. This is easy if you’re switching POVs or 3rd person omniscient where you can show him secretly beating himself in regret, trying to make up with her behind her back although she doesn’t know, etc. 

Even if you’re doing the girl’s 1st person POV, drop subtle hints that the guy character isn’t as mean as the girl is made to believe:

Him having the reputation with friends/teachers/neighbors for being kind 

Him being awarded in school for good deeds

The girl’s friend telling her stories about how the guy actually seems nice. If this is a YA setting, you can even get away with explicit comments like, “maybe you’re judging him too hard”, etc. 

A good example is Bryce  in <Flipped>:

Bryce is an innately shy middle schooler who finds himself inadvertently influenced by his toxic dad, who looks down on the girl (Juli) and her family. 

By flipping over to Bryce’s POV, his reluctance for the “mean” things he’s done is revealed (he’s kinda scared of his dad + he’s never been taught better)

Eventually, Bryce grows up and learns to treat Juli better. 

If you’re going to use family history/backstory as justification, remember:

The backstory doesn’t justify anything by just existing. That’s called an excuse. 

The bad boy needs to have a point of realization and grow up, moving away from his dark past into the light, towards the love interest. 

Misunderstanding

Another way to redeem a bad boy character is to shift some blame on the female character too. In fact, every story has two sides - the girl has her own goals and biases. 

For example:

Academic or workplace rivals: since the girl has to compete with him, she will tend to take offhand comments offensively, etc. 

A third person badmouthing the buy deliberately to the girl

The girl overhearing the guy saying something bad about her (which wasn’t in fact the case) and being determined to not like anything he does after

Make Him Suffer 

If you want to give your girl some backbone, just make her fight back! “Fighting back” can be in different forms:

Ignoring the guy outright

Just giving her another potential love interest who treats her better 

She literally correcting him with awesome logic and maturity that make him shut up

She crying (either out of madness or sadness), then proceeding to avoid him actively

Write about how your bad boy will eventually realize his mistakes and come around after he takes a real blow. Think about why your bad boy is being mean in the first place: it’s to get her attention. Tit-for-tat can work for female characters who have some teeth, but doing the same things he does would mean that she IS giving him attention, which ironically fulfills his initial motives. 

Personally, I think the best way to “fight back” is to no longer give him the attention, hinting that the girl wishes to move on from this unhelpful relationship status. This will set off warning signs in the MMC’s head that if he doesn’t change his ways, she would be gone for good. 

The point is, if your girl cannot tolerate something, you can’t make her sit around. If your boy is mean and immature, she needs to be the one to take the mature step - and walk away.

Apologizing in the Other Character’s Style

What the MMC will need to do to gain the girl’s attention back will depend on what she thinks, but this will often involve:

Explaining his true motivations/resolving the misunderstanding

A genuine apology 

Spending some time apart during which he can reflect and make up to her 

Undoing the damage, if this is possible

If she’s been just as bad as him on occasions, make her reciprocate the apology! Re-establish healthy boundaries that didn’t exist before, and show how they stick to it. 

[artist-issues]

Your words and your posts have been incredibly disheartening for me to see. My mother left the church. She is not an apostate, but she did question the church’s teachings in secret. She completely left faith when I was born. I have congenital heart defects, which I was born with. I nearly died on the operating table. For this reason, my mother and I do not believe in God, who is said to be all-powerful and all-benevolent. My mother is a wonderful person. She risked her life in the Covid-19 pandemic as she works at a hospital. If anyone deserved to live in an eternal paradise, it would be her. Your LGBTQ+ views have also upset me. My oldest friend, who I have known since before I could even remember, is transgender and gay, and have been more supportive to me as a disabled person than any Christian has been. I’m only 18 years old, yet I know that you chose faith over experiences with the wonderful parts of humanity. Respectfully, please reconsider your views on gay and trans people.

I truly appreciate how thoughtfully and respectfully you typed out this message. It is clear that these matters mean a lot to you and I'm going to go ahead and assume that you aren't speaking out of any kind of hate.

I would just offer you a counter-perspective, and maybe by understanding where I'm coming from, you can see that I'm not speaking out of any kind of hate for people, either. I'm half blind. I was born that way. My twin sister and I were taken by emergency cesareans-section when we were incredibly, dangerously premature. My twin was given no chance of survival; the cesarean was just meant to give me a 50% chance of survival. At the time, my mother was recently married to a 19 year-old drug dealer after her own father abused and abandoned her and her mother. She'd been living apart from the faith for years, rejecting God to follow the occult or whatever political party had hear heart at the time. My father hated God.

But when my sister and I were fighting for life for weeks on end, and nobody was sure if we would live or die, and they had to bring us home with heart monitors because our hearts would literally stop beating several times a night, my mom realized how helpless she was to do anything to save us. And she prayed. And we lived. Both of us. Not only that, but my father, at 19 years old, addicted to drugs since the age of 13, narrowly escaped death and gave his life to Christ. After a whole life of having no social skills unless he was high, doing whatever he wanted to whoever he wanted, and caring about nothing but himself, now he is a Pastor (bi-vocationally; he is also a tradesman working with his hands) and has given me and all my family, and many other families, everything we have in our lives through his dedicated and faithful life. He and my mother have been happily married and serving God with their whole lives for almost thirty years now.

And not only them, but me, my twin sister, my younger sister, my little brother, my grandfather (who was an actual killer and drug addict as well) we all know God. We all have a relationship with Him. And that's the biggest most wonderful gift He gave us, out of all those wonderful things He did for us. Saving my life, my dad's life, my twin's life, changing who they were and making them new people.

I'm not telling you all that to like, compare disabilities or traumas or whatever. That would be ridiculous for lots of reasons. But I'm just trying to be honest.

It's not a religion or a system of beliefs that I've subscribed to. It's not a social flag I live under. It's not something I do just because my parents or the people in my immediate community have shown me. It's because He's real, and He showed Himself to me—when it's just me and Him, and nobody else's opinion or say-so matters— and it's all really true—everything the Bible says. And He's so much better, and so much more benevolent, than anyone on earth can describe to you.

And, at the same time, when you understand who He is, and who we are...the question isn't "how could a good God let anyone go to Hell instead of paradise?" The question is, "how could He let any of us live after what we did?" It's hard. But seriously, just play pretend with me for a bit, if only to "understand my perspective." Pretend there was a God, all-powerful, endlessly loving, in fact, Love Itself. The love that was His very nature spilled out so much that He created—created beautiful, amazing, complex creatures who were intrinsically full of worth and light, and made to reflect Him, that Love, back to Him, and share in it. A big happy family.

And then those creatures from the dirt committed cosmic treason and said "screw You, I don't care if You created me and I don't care if You love me or want to be in relationship with me: I want to be You. I want to call the shots." And those creatures from the dirt basically did the cosmic version of climbing in their father's lap to spit in His face, and go stab each other over fleeting pleasures in the gutter because the mansions He was offering them wasn't as good as pretending they could be gods of their own lives.

That's the story. Thats what happened. Read Genesis, if you have the time and if you're of the heart to. And because of what we chose, we got twisted up. I'm sure you read that, in my posts. So even the thing we were made for—love—got mangled up inside us and we can't express it the right way anymore.

He would've been justified in wiping us out. Starting over with new creatures. We were His creation. He gets to decide what we are and what to do with us: we betrayed and insulted and defied our rightful King. But He's not like that. He had no reason to--no obligation to--but He chose to do the work and make a way for us to be back in relationship with Him. And He chose to do it by subjecting Himself to unimaginable torture and darkness, which would have been ours by right if He hadn't taken it for us.

I know that you love your mom. It is plain to see. And I understand the feeling. But if you really get to know the God of the actual Bible, instead of just the memes and the flawed people who try to explain Him—if you really get to know Him, between you and Him, you'll see that He actually loves your mom more than you do. And He loves you more than you, or anyone, does. Because He knows you both better and more intimately than you even know Yourselves. He made you. It'd be like an author getting to dive down into the story and tell their characters everything about themselves.

That's the kind of love we were made for. The kind of love that is there even though you don't deserve it, even though you're not entitled to it—the kind of love that would die for you while you're still hating Him.

I mean just stop and think about it, clear your brain of everything everyone has ever told you about LGBTQ+ and all that. And just think: can you love someone wholeheartedly and still know they're in the wrong? Even when they wholeheartedly believe they're right? Even when they're hurt by you believing they're in the wrong? Of course you can. Anyone who's had a loved one with a self-destructive habit, like alcohol addiction or an abusive lover or just a toxic personality trait or two, can relate to that common sense. They can say, "of course I love you. That's why I'm telling you to stop doing this, it's hurting you, it's not good for you, I know it doesn't feel that way, but it's the truth."

So if you believe that there are some circumstances where that applies, what makes it so unloving for this hypothetical God, who knows the best thing for your friend and knows your friend better than you do, to say so about being LGBTQ+? Why should LGBTQ+ be any different?

Well, the answer, of course, is that you don't believe it is true that it's wrong. Because, if we rewind, you don't believe in God. But you just told me that you came to that conclusion kind of...after feeling hurt by Him. You almost died, first , then your mom chose to leave Him behind and go ahead and live as if He doesn't exist. And you did, too.

But let's go back to playing pretend. If God exists, then He didn't act how you think He should've, as an "benevolent" God: He didn't do YOUR version of "good." So you abandoned Him. (We're pretending like He exists, from your perspective.) He didn't do your version of good, you feel mistreated, so you walked away from Him.

But He would never do that to you. If He's the kind of person the Bible says He is, He doesn't treat you that way. When you (humanity) didn't do His version (which is the only real version, since He invented it) of good, He didn't abandon you. He totally could have. But instead He made a way for your relationship to get fixed. But you have free will. So He's not going to force you to love Him and accept the gift. If you want to continue for all eternity without being with Him, you can. He gives you that option.

But then don't wonder why people who choose that option don't get "eternal paradise." Because according to the Bible, that's all heaven is: getting to be in relationship with God forever. Fully who He made you to be. If you don't want that, He won't force it: in fact, He couldn't. It wouldn't be just, and He is always just.

The truth is, after what we did to Him, none of us deserve anything from Him. I didn't deserve to survive in that ICU. Neither did my sister. Neither did my father or mother or grandfather. None of us should be allowed to inhale another breath; we're the King's people who betrayed Him and tried to steal His throne. But He is so good that instead He turns around and adopts us.

I know this is rambly. But you messaged me so genuinely, I just sort of wrote this as if I were sitting down and talking it all out, one word in front of the other, with you. I don't know you. I know these are very hot button topics, and very personal issues; but like you, I think they're of the utmost importance.

So I will keep considering the LGBTQ+ and transgender issues—but you have to understand that I'm in service to the King, so to speak. I love Him, He loves me, and He's my God. When I consider any part of reality, it's impossible to do so without Him as the center and standard of truth. Without Him, who gets to decide what's right or wrong? Just me. And on my own, I am inconsistent, selfish, ruinous. But I'm not on my own. And in the meantime, I'll ask you to consider God, the real God, of the Bible. Not what a church of whatever denomination tells you—not to start with. Not what I tell you, or anyone tells you. Just what He said about Himself, straight from the Bible. Let Him speak for Himself. Thanks for reaching out.

[kranagok0]

The perfect team.... Maybe

Molly and Hilda are practically strong. I mean, Molly can literally stun her opponents. Hilda, for her part, has a sword. Seriously, he still has that sword from the 'Witches' episode in his room.

You have to see the skills and techniques that this strange duo have.

Let's start with the oldest; Hilda

Our blue-haired girl is, as I have calculated thinking about the extensive possibilities there are, about 13 years old. And in just those 13 years of existing in this life and we have seen the things she can do. His vast experience consists of;

+ Swordsmanship (enough to beat another boy his age with weapons experience)

+ Hand-to-hand combat.... I think so. Hilda's fight with that ghost is still something up for discussion for me.

Now your possible abilities. From what I believe, and also what I have seen that the Fandom has created in some fanfics, Hilda may have some abilities that have not been shown to us or that she could have in the future. Such as;

+ Creation of protective amulets. and possibly, from what we saw in Johana's flashbacks as a child [in the part where Astrid faces the spider-toad], creation of attack amulets.

+ The ability to fly. We cannot deny that it could ultimately grow wings at any moment.

+Become a troll. This is something I've noticed that almost everyone gives to Hilda in fanfics, so it stays. Possibly it's some kind of shapeshifter magic or something, I don't know.

+Altered perception of reality. In other words, she tried to fight against many beings that, to be honest, in one move sent her to the other world. Even so, the girl did not cower when there were punches.

Alteration of the mind. We literally saw Astrid seal Johana's memories from her entire childhood. Don't you think that's some kind of fairy magic? This is the possibility With this we have a great variety of techniques, now imagine the possibilities if you combine them to make a combo or a new technique.

Now it's time for the other girl in the group;

Molly Blyndeff. This girl is not far behind, no sir.

+ Dumb. This word is literally Molly's ability summed up, because that word is her ability. This ability allows him to have at his disposal a wide variety of techniques with which he can influence his opponent, from reducing the amount of damage received to disabling the abilities of others. An example of this is when Molly makes a soup ball that Giovanni made disappear, thus demonstrating that her ability can influence that of others.

+Mind control. Or something like that. Molly can stun someone so much that she can make them follow her orders, more or less. With Car Crash it was because he touched it and told him it was a car he wanted to crash, says his team friend. And boy did it work.

+Silence. She can cancel the sound just like Corazon, a One Piece character, did. Not whether in this case you must maintain physical contact with another person if you want that ability to remain with the enemy.

Possible skills;

From what I have seen in Epithet Erased, the concept of the word is the ability that your power will have from said word. We've seen Giovanni make ranged attacks and create cursive potions.

To Randal Murdock the power to imbibe his ability (turn into gold) and continue moving. It was literally a power up that I didn't expect.

Zora Salazar can imbue her power into her bullets and other weapons to have a lethal effect.

Who says Molly couldn't do any of those things? I mean, Molly hasn't tried any of that so she could manage to imbue some gloves or some armor with her power to stun any attack against her physical integrity. Imagine that she could stun the organism of the human body.....

Oh my mother, now that I start to think better about her ability, I'm starting to notice that this girl could dominate an entire district if she wanted to.

It would practically dumb down your entire biological system and could practically give you a critical failure in your organs. THAT GIRL DRESS UP AS A BEAR BECAUSE SHE'S LIKE ONE! They look cute but in reality they are cold and uninspiring creatures.look at those eyes

He is the embodiment of evil.

Okay, I think I got a little off topic, but I got my point across about what these girls can do and their possible powers.

With that I leave this question for you;

Who else do we add? I have someone else in mind, I'm already going crazy with this and I won't stop for a moment. I would like to see your opinions and other relevant comments, so comment. Without fear. That's all for now, see you later.

bye

[bowl-of-shortness]

For the young leaders AU 👀

"What did you just say to me?"

Sure! :)

This is a small one so bear with me here, anyways Eira go offfffffffff

An Ember

After a while of putting up with Ozymandias’s constant ridicule, Eira finally works up the nerve to say something after the king let’s a particular comment slip.

They were walking back from another training session in Mr. Rose’s class. Or, well, he was walking, Ozymandias was floating alongside him.

He was scowling, Eira was looking away from him.

Once they reached the quieter side of the school is when Ozymandias started in on his usual tangent.

“It was one singular punch! And you managed to screw it up somehow. You can’t even throw a damn punch right, what makes you think you can fight without me?”

“Leave me alone…”

“Yes, because that’s worked with me and with the countless others you let walk all over you.”

“I’m not in the mood. I already know what you’re going to say. I’m too weak, I’m too fragile, I’m too much of a doormat, too much this not enough that. Just save it, I’m already tired from class…”

He feels his wrist be yanked, and he’s spun around to face the man, whose now enraged.

“You have the audacity to speak to me that way you fool?! You will follow my guidance or you will get yourself murdered. And I wouldn’t so much have an issue with that if it wasn’t for the fact that you would merge with me!”

Eira yanks his wrist out of Ozymandias’s hand. He then turns around, and continues walking.

Ozymandias scoffs, “It’s no wonder you ran. You run from everything, just like this time. You probably even ran from your parents just because they said something you didn’t like. I hope they find you eventually.”

An image of a beaten and battered Eira, curled up in the corner of his room, shoots through his mind before disappearing as quickly as it came. Ozymandias is stunned into silence, not knowing where it came from.

“What did you just say to me?” He’s stopped walking.

Ozymandias stays silent as Eira turns around, a rage filled look on his face. He’d seen many negative emotions from the boy, embarrassment, fear, sadness, but never anger.

“You know nothing about how my parents treated me. You know nothing about how my life was before I ran.”

“. . .”

“But because I’m an actually decent person, unlike someone else I know, I’ll tell you, seeing as you apparently have the respect to not go digging through my memories. My parents only had me because they needed an heir to their stupid weapons company. Yes, I heard them say that, to my face. They permanently disabled me by fucking up my right leg, they beat me within an inch of my life any chance they could, and forced me into studying so debilitating and hard to do that I would pass out from exhaustion because they wouldn’t let me rest.”

“…I-“

“I don’t need your input. As you said, in your own damn words, I am in the same position that you and the others were in when they found out they were another incarnation. You’d think you’d have a little compassion to that. But no, you just are a sad pathetic excuse for a king who gets off on harassing a kid when you know nobody would believe him if he told anyone of the literal abuse you put him through.”

Ozymandias looks away.

“Leave. Me. Alone.”

Eira promptly begins blocking Ozymandias out of his mind after that. No emotional empathy between them, no memory sharing, nothing. He watches as Eira leaves, unable to discern where he plans to go.

It would be better if he didn’t follow him, that’s what he thought.

It would seem both of them have some thinking to do.

[blueiight]

now as for why his other crimes against claudia and black and disabled women go unnoticed, i'm going to hazard a guess that you stepped into the ◻️ side of the fandom and especially the side where louis is purely an object for lestat's gratification and not a whole person. where any analysis of louis is only in relation to loustat (which is common for lewis because that's what anne wrote him as).

it's an interesting manifestation of white supremacy where black characters are only seen in relation to white characters.

*claudia's relationship with louis doesn't matter but you'll see endless conversations about whether lestat loved claudia

*all the black women prostitutes and louis as their pimp never get airtime (which btw might give insight as to how louis sees women generally and later on himself) but antoinette the most transparent character gets days of analysis

*louis' relationship with his family isn't discussed (and yet who he is and how he behaves in his own family is informed by this) but when it's time to put up lestat defence you will hear everything about his father, mother, brood of siblings and his cousins if they can be unearthed

u make a rly interesting point on how louis viewed women being part of why his days as hbic of storyville flow in the beats that they do… we’re introduced to the aftermath of bricktop fighting off the alderman who tried to rape her but the framing is more like ah just another busy day for mr du lac cleaning up after some bs again just before the vampire shit. drunk rapist racist man calls louis a racial slur? ahh hes not just that slur u see, ur speaking to louis de pointe du lac& he owns 8 of these 14 properties or however many r down the block. we literally only see the musicmen in the azalea, we no longer need to see him ‘cleaning up’ after nobody. aww aint that nice lou [LOL]. playing stan wars over evil vampire yaoi is stupid but ig its cuz i dont subscribe to the church of white supremacy ppl seem to think im an ‘apologist’ for certain fictional characters or try to group me into certain fan camps. #jobless . theres certainly merit in analyzing lestat x louis relationship n how louis fits into that + how lestat’s own past informs his present [u need ingredients to bake a cake, even if the cake is 150 years old] but u make points in how ppl can be a bit more lenient to lestat bc hes white, even moreso if theyre coming from vc fanon bc post interview lestat is the/a central character n vc fans love framing les as the hero lolz. but i do wonder if louis was kept white would fans still stretch and hyperanalyze cuz they cant see a bm exploiting bw or having a readily available farm of humans in dubai as ‘evil enough’ n would be more readily able to recognize where louis’s moral complexities n capacity for evil in canon lie as is? w/o tryna badger down black fans or fans who dont wanna play into harebrained theories when louis’s actual crimes r right there as ~~ dumb louis fans tryna cry apologetics ~~~ or w/e idk. i think show wise claudia and louis’s relationship is fascinating bc theyre both creole [i have a post n sandwiched in a bs response to an ask i mention how i think the mind link they had/have serves a metaphor to this as well] and vampire siblings/parent and child/etc etc.. emotional codependence predicated on the denial of claudia ever being allowed to be woman, bc louis wanted a child, wanted something to fill the emptiness of losing his family/wealth all in one, but she is selectively mature when it serves louis for her to be. shes coming up on 33, can the children kill the father, can claudia take this out my hands

[spectroscopes]

I need to just sit down and write my big thesis about these Avatar movies but the thing I keep thinking about is the fact that Jake and his positioning in the narrative is not quite a straight deployment of a “white saviour” trope in the way you would encounter it in another movie. It’s not that the first movie doesn’t follow the beats of that trope and I understand why people find it really annoying but it’s like, Jake is not special. It’s not even that his specialness has nothing to do with his whiteness, it’s that he’s just not special at all. He’s barely even a saviour. The only reason the Na’vi win the climactic battle of that movie after everything he does leading up to it, almost none of which ultimately matters (except that it’s partly his fault it’s even happening), is that Eywa directly intervenes. The only thing he does of any real value is provide information to her about what will happen if she doesn’t. The thing which makes him ‘special’ in contrast to the other humans on Pandora is that he is the only human in the movie with no ideological or material attachment to the imperial project because he is also marginalised by it and the reality is that there are a lot of people in the world who fall into that category and it could have been any one of them it’s just that he’s the one that just so happened to end up on Pandora basically by accident.

I think people can have nuanced discussions about the casting choices in these movies and the decision to centre a character played by a white man in the narrative; I wonder if it would have been more palatable to people if he were played by someone else but the essential story beats were the same. It’s a complicated question because it gets into the ethics of casting real-world racialised people as colonisers (and whether this is intentional or not it is noteworthy that every human character bar one in the first movie who switches sides and fights with the Na’vi is marginalised in some way: disabled, female, not white, or a combination) and also — maybe I’m stupid — but it feels like it would not fundamentally change the story messaging given that the in-universe racial politics don’t directly deal with white supremacy but this notion of human supremacy because it’s an allegory, especially considering the typical problematic optics of this type of story are absent by the time Jake does anything actually heroic since he looks like (and, like, is) a Na’vi the entire time. 

The thing which makes it interesting to me is that the saviour arc isn’t about Jake being innately good or special by dint of his identity either as human or as white. He doesn’t start the movie as a great war hero like the guy in Dances With Wolves or any kind of aspirational ideal: he starts the movie as someone who wanted to be that guy, bought into imperialist propaganda, and got chewed up and spit out by the machine because it was a lie. He doesn’t even see himself as a saviour or a leader by the end of the movie because he correctly assesses that none of this was really thanks to him, in fact he literally says “I’m not officer material”, which points to kind of a traditional mythic idea about the most appropriate leader being someone who doesn’t want the job and is also thematically consistent with the way he is contrasted with Norm who feels that he should have been the one to embed with the Na’vi and resents Jake for being chosen over him. That’s what makes the fact that he so completely fails at his leadership role when tested in the second movie so interesting because it illustrates his discomfort with the idea of being special but it also directly challenges the idea that he even is special. Ronal openly scoffs at this idea when Neytiri suggests it.

Anyway, like, I’m not saying my assessment of these movies is correct or the only valid interpretation because the first one certainly does have its moments in this regard where any reasonable person could go “ugh”. But when I contextualise the reaction to them versus other franchises that are just as guilty of the things people criticise about Avatar (specifically regarding the casting, optics, and centring of white characters) but are not considered irredeemable and dismissed in the same way it makes me wonder if the real issue here is that Avatar is at least trying to tell a genuinely anticolonialist story in a populist medium with direct application to contemporary geopolitics and perceived to be falling short or imperfect and therefore totally lacking in value and meaning in a way that stories that don’t even try or are pushing the reverse are not.

In some ways it feels like maybe it’s a little more comfortable to engage with media which deliberately pulls its punches or garbles its semiotics (or cynically utilises representation politics to repackage overt imperialist messaging as in some way progressive, naming no names) than something which is flawed in well-documented ways but very open about exactly who the villains are, who they represent in the real world, and the idea that indigenous people have an unassailable right to their own land and self-determination which they’re entitled to defend by any means necessary and they’re not just “villains making points but taking it too far” they’re the heroes of the narrative and allowed to engage in truly brutal violence without the movies ever positioning them as in the wrong. Because that is an actually challenging idea to a lot of people who do not want to acknowledge that they themselves are on the extractive side of imperialism just like Jake and maybe the only possibility for self-redemption and the only way to transgress that category is to be willing to die for it, just like Jake. Because, optics aside, tropes aside, casting ethics aside, James Cameron aside, the central message ultimately boils down to, like, “you personally are not that special, you are on the surplus side of imperial relations to the environment, you’re kind of complicit in the atrocities that are being committed to support your lifestyle, which you don’t even enjoy, and you can only redeem yourself by setting aside your own selfishness and entitlement in order to turn against this system of global destruction that you have been a cog in the machine for all your life”. And if Lockheed Martin and even fucking Shein discourse has taught me anything it’s that a lot of people don’t like to hear that.

[aspd-culture]

I really don't want to being this up with my therapist so I kinda wanted to vent here and ask you if this sounds like aspd.

Kinda a disclaimer I have Aspergers, ADHD and depression diagnosed as well as trauma from being hospitalised (psych ward) quite young also big ass trigger warning

The thing is I relate heavily to all if the symptoms like I can place them personally onto myself and things I do.

I've been a serial liar since I was child, ppl irl even now don't ken the the real me I've spun a web of lies ab myself, nothing of great grandeur, just to cover up the tracks of things I don't want ppl to know as well as I enjoy lying frankly

I have low empathy, i always kinda have done. I've never really felt that pain I just can't muster the energy to give a fuck, I really don't fucking care, like that's a you problem it doesn't concern me nor does it threaten me so I don't care.

I've never felt remorse for my actions I feel like if I harm someone, lie, or manipulate them they kinda deserve it and ik that they probably didn't but they hurt me or they hurt my image or my reputation so they have to pay, they have to know that I have that power over them.

I often get violent urges and thoughts, most of the time in the form of a day dream if sorts. TW but I really wanna beat someone into a pulp esp if they thought I was weak or they doubted me/angered me. I often ponder the question to myself that if I did kill or harm someone like that would I feel something or would I get a similar feeling to when I fantasize ab it, would it scar me for life? Would I realise I was wrong? I mostly do this to try ground myself as I've gotten in some rlly nasty fights before because it ended up being all I could think about.

I've broken the law many times either through selling, buying or doing drugs. Shoplifting and pickpocketing (haven't been caught yet ab any of these ones) as well as multiple charges of assault.

I lie to people I consider my friends about caring ab their problems or opinions and I can't keep friends for particularly long unless their drug buddies

However I think I can feel love in a romantic/sexual sense but I think most of my past relationships have been nothing but obsession mixed with the fact I like having someone who cares that much ab me and I like having a lot of sex. Like I need you to be mines, if they even mention they find another person attractive then i just want to fucking maim someone. You can only be mines until I get bored of you. Then as soon as I get bored all feelings towards them cease and I gotta fake that I'm upset.

I do a lot of things that are considered "morally bankrupt" according to my therapist but I always feel like I'm not a bad person, I just can't let people know I do bad person things.

Sorry for the vent

Alrighty gotta start this off with a real quick boundary about a term you used. Please do not use the term Asperger's when talking to me (ideally, not at all). It is a literal N*zi's name. I also hate the aspie supremacy aspect of it, but honestly that's not my main issue with it, my main issue is that term literally means "not disabled enough by their autism to be gassed so let's give them to our freakshow n*zi doctor so he can experiment on them until they die that way". Thanks. /nmay just frustrated by the use of the term. I know not everyone knows.

That said, I am still ok with answering the rest of the ask for you. I cannot diagnose you, and anything I say here is really just info I'd advise you to take to your therapist, not a way of avoiding talking to them about it.

One major part of ASPD that you didn't mention at all in your ask is disregard for safety/wellbeing of yourself; you just mentioned others. PwASPD not only have trouble avoiding putting others in danger, but themselves too. We tend to get ourselves into situations we can't easily get out of, start fights we know we can't win or haven't considered if we could win, etc.

Another big thing that I noticed in your ask is an egocentric way of thinking and speaking that is not super common in ASPD. Arrogance is an associated trait, but usually people I've talked to with ASPD have a more complicated relationship with the justification for the things they do (justifying to yourself to avoid responsibility is actually a symptom of ASPD) as well as with their self-esteem. That said, many of the symptoms you're talked about here definitely do seem to match up with some of the criteria...

I wonder if it's possible you relate to the symptoms of either just NPD or both ASPD and NPD? I am by no means an expert in NPD and I don't know you particularly well but just answering basing off of the wording of your ask and such I would advise you do research into that as well as ASPD. They can be comorbid. In fact, because the way that cluster b disorders develop are all relatively similar (trauma and failure to develop a secure attachment style), it's somewhat common to have more than one of them.

I hope this helps.

[mindsendelf]

Yeah its always amazing how a lot of things one thinks is a personal failing turns out to be a physical condition. For instance, I always had a hard time getting to sleep, and when left to my own devices would always end up awake until 3am and sleeping a full 9 hours. We thought I had insomnia until we did a DNA test, and it turned out I'm just genetically predisposed to being a night owl.

And later one we discovered part of why I struggled so much in the morning when I actively fought my 'delayed sleep phase disorder' and slept the time I'm 'Supposed' to be sleeping was not just cause I didn't rest as well... But also because I have narrow brain arteries from some sort of birth defect and not sleeping my natural cycle put literal additional stress on my brain SIMPLY by not sleeping when my body is built to sleep and forcing an earlier sleep/wake cycle due to school/work/whatever and is partially why I, an otherwise healthy person with good cholesterol, suffered Six strokes (TIA's in particular) in my early thirties (and likely a few more in my Teens-twenties that got mistaken for a headache or something)- decades of being forced to be out of the schedule one is built for basically beat me up and wore me down. We were both struggling, and seeing ourselves as lazy or worthless for our 'failings', when in reality our bodies were fighting for their lives behind the scenes due to undiagnosed illnesses, and society put a moral marker on that invisible disability and deemed us failures, and we agreed cause we knew no better.

it is frustrating how many things I thought were personal failings / weakness of will, when they were physical problems!

for years, I’ve struggled to wake up in the mornings. waking up at 9:30am was a GOOD MORNING where I SUCCEEDED! and I thought I was such a lazy asshole for not being able to do better.

anyway: this year I find out about my gluten intolerance, cut the thing out of my diet that’s been causing full body inflammation, finally become able to absorb iron and make blood from it, and WOULDNT YOU KNOW, I’m now naturally waking up at 6:30am! no alarm needed, my body is just saying “well, that’s enough sleep for us” and booting me into the waking world.

I spent all this time thinking that I had unusually poor self-discipline, but I was just sick!

[the-mocking-robin]

"#i wanted a himbo as a husband as a kid #i decided he'd be my house husband #and I'd be rich and care for his needs #I've grown since then #but I'd settle for a himbo #i have a different ideal now"

Oh? And what is that ideal, may we ask??

Yoooou. It's you, again. I don't know who you are but I know you keep doing this!

But... Fine.

He has to be mentally mailable, emotionally communicative, can defend himself and is good with kids and animals.

Working backwards.

I want kids. I want a family. I don't care how. This person needs to be open to having kids. More importantly, they need to actually be a safe adult for kids and animals to be around. Not someone who thinks kids need to be hit, isolated or forced to work when a child misbehaves or is... A kid. This is a pretty solidly more a requirement than anything: if this person thinks to harm kids and animals before anything else, they're getting an ass beating so fast they'll start seeing their prehistoric ancestors.

Can they fight? Do they know martial arts? Are they a responsible weapons owner? Or is it all trying to shake their dick around? I live a dangerous life and have a bad reputation. They need to be able to reasonably protect themselves. It'd make things easier for me to trust them when I'm gone.

They need to be able to talk to me. I don't want to guess what's wrong. I don't want to guess why you're mad. I don't want to piece together why you're drinking six beers and smoking weed after work. I don't want you to pretend nothing is wrong when it's clearly something. If I have to guess how you feel, then I have to assume you can't be honest with me about much of anything, regardless of if I am or not. I don't want that.

They need to be... Mentally mailable. Open to new ideas, open to learning, open to being wrong, not understanding, not knowing. I don't care how intellectual they seem. I've seen intellectually disabled men and women who are sweet and caring and full of love. I've seen the world's geniuses band together to commit acts against humanity because they literally can't comprehend how what they do would hurt and hinder the people around them. I've seen these two people in the opposite positions, too. In the end, if you can't accept new ideas and that you might be wrong, we won't get along.

In addition to this, if they can't accept two opposing things can exist in the same space or the same mind, they just won't like me.

...

Even the man I've had a crush on for forever doesn't check off all these things. Close but...

[xxlelaxx]

Situations have situationed cause God forbid my family be normal about stuff...

But I've had some interesting conversations yesterday and am now considering how to proceed in handling one Person.

The issue is that they are mentally ill and mentally ill people do stuff they regret.. but at the same time I've had it. And they've had it rough. I know you do stupid shit when caught up in stuff..

but at the same time... I think I spent a big chunk of my life getting manipulated by that person and I'm not sure that they even care... Like they suffered and were hurt, yes, but they keep blaming everyone and ignoring the things around us. Hell, my sister and I got told that we are the reason for them developing an eating disorder cause they would horde all the "special snacks" (we didn't have a lot of money) and refuse to share while we always did. All we wanted was them to share and stop being a selfish ass (an issue this person still has). My sister has long lasting issues with this cause they kept stealing her food??? And they complained about being locked up as a kid (definitely wrong) and being made to feel like an animal (also very wrong) but they would attack us in a very scary and feral way. Like we had no choice except them hurting us a lot unless we locked them up. It was wrong but nobody was helping and at some point you're over being hurt. They refuse to acknowledge that they used to hurt us... like they would kick us (mainly my sister I kicked back) and threaten us with physical violence to the point. At some point I started fighting them for fun so they would get it out of their system. Like consensual beating between siblings (also wrong, but nobody knew and it helped). They even sought me out to have those fights cause they helped them calm down and we had signals for when things got too heated or personal. That doesn't make the things that happened okay, but it's not like everyone was evil and just hurt the little baby. And now they keep having angry breakdowns and destroying stuff and making us feel bad about it even though they got themselves into that situation and they refuse to take responsibility for anything they do. How is it our fault that they have anger issues??? I've told them before that I get anger being too much but this could be seen as something being manipulative (which I had forgotten about but this also isn't the first time). It is starting to feel like they do it on purpose cause this just happens when they don't wanna do stuff. (Same as with using self harm as a way to pressure us to act like they want). And now supposedly it's our fault for triggering them??? But they ignore the well established and known triggers of others? Like there have been situations where they purposely triggered my sister and they never really apologized??? And we haven't even been rude. We've been very nice about this situation which many people would not have been in an attempt to save their relationship with some friends they met in the last year. They keep backstabbing us for other people but going off about loyalty as if they even know what that word means. And they also talk down about us sometimes cause a therapist made the mistake to tell them they had a high IQ. Now they believe they are so much smarter than everyone else but are not able to do their own resume for a job they needed half a month ago because they struggle so much with their ADHD... Which at this point I also can't hear anymore. Like it's disabling but can you please stop pretending that everyone else is beneath you when you literally cannot do anything on your own and rely on those people you shit talk to do things for you??? You're not better just like they aren't better for being able to do things you can't do. This is just rude. Also everyone around you not behaving like you want to is not because they are stupid but because humans are different???

Like we've apologized for what we did in the past several times but I'm over being blamed for everything cause someone can't make real tangible progress in 5 years of therapy... And especially for things that just aren't my fault or they refuse to communicate. We're not here to be punching bags and fixing their mistakes and never really getting anything back. That's not how life or relationships work.

Another thing is that I know this therapist was someone elses therapist and they did the exact same thing. They were told multiple times their behavior was manipulative and they were aware of it and kept doing it. Also because they were "so smart". So I think the therapist might be enabling this behavior.

I really wanna be supportive and understanding for their sake but I don't know for how long I can listen to being blamed for everything while everyone pretends they do no wrong... Cause honestly they broke a fucking chair into six pieces and blamed us for self harming while this situation is fully their own responsibility.. like they are a grown up. Not a kid anymore. This was preventable if they had acted according to the role they assumed in this whole situation. This is the second time we are going through this and the first time they agreed to taking up that role. A role that was obvious they would have to assume to get what they wanted out of this. If you can't handle the responsibility you don't get to reap the benefits. That's just how it is. And if you know you are not capable of those things, don't get into those situations.

Like for once in your life take accountability instead of pretending everyone else is to blame and out to get you while life has been giving you chances for free just cause you are male presenting and have a very supportive family.

[thewitchoftheweed]

Honestly? When it comes to Ukrainian citizens, I actually don’t blame them for having that sort of anger toward Russians.

I don’t know what or who they’ve lost as a result of Russia’s invasion. Telling those Ukrainians about the dangers of dehumanization is a moot point— they’re already living it. They’re actively hurting and yes, that means they’re going to lash out. I have no right to judge that reaction.

I’m blocking them because a prolonged argument would not be helpful or beneficial to them or me. All they is see someone empathizing with the people who are terrorizing their home. They, rightly, don’t super care about the Russians who are also being terrorized by an authoritarian fascist regime. They have bigger, more pressing concerns that foreigners like me cannot fully understand.

Nothing I can say to them, in this moment, will do angry Ukrainians any good. As you and others have said, there’s also quite literally nothing I can do to support Ukraine that would be considered truly helpful. Reblogs and vocal support are virtue signaling, donations to charities on the ground are useless. Short of picking up a gun and running into battle myself, there’s not much someone can do from a world away that will be of any comfort to those impacted.

And while I can try to understand their anger, I am also not obligated to engage with anyone. Regardless of their situation or how much they’re hurting, I’m not going to deal with harassment in my notes/askbox. I’m just going to block them and move on for both of our santiy’s sake.

I relate to non-fascist Russians because I’ve seen what happens when you go up against an authoritarian police state. In 2020, American citizens stood up and made one simple demand: stop letting our police kill Black citizens with total impunity. Millions of people protested, campaigned for legislative change, and established local organizations to make material change in their communities. It was one of the biggest collective movements in America since the 1960s.

It failed. Protesters in homemade riot gear were up against cops equipped with tanks, tear gas, and free reign to brutalize them. Hundreds of protesters are permanently disabled as a result of police beatings and tear gas canisters embedding in their skulls. Thousands were thrown in jail for nonviolent protest. Police went to peoples homes to threaten them and their families. Federal agencies used millions of dollars of resources and surveillance tech to track and find protesters— a Tshirt or a visible tattoo landed people in jail. Protest leaders died mysteriously. Police budgets increased afterward, and 3 years later, effectively nothing has changed. Individual actors have received consequences, but the system that enabled them is firmly in tact.

Does that mean we’ve stopped fighting? No. But it’s not easy to change a system that has been rigged against you. Inciting change is a constant battle that requires immense community effort. But we’re lucky, America is still a democratic republic. One held together by duct tape and hope, but it’s technically still standing.

Russians don’t have that, and never have. Genuine question: what would you do if you were a Russian citizen?

Would you try to organize community action— after seeing what happened to the last group of people who did so? Would you go out in the streets and protest every day, until you were dragged away to be raped, tortured, and killed? Would you risk your loved ones suffering the same fate because of your actions? Or would you do what the “nonexistent” Russians do: keep your head down, keep quiet, try to survive, and do what very little is in your control? Personally, I don’t know if I would have that kind of courage. They’re not ‘allowing’ atrocities— they’re struggling to survive them.

Russian fatalism has done them no favors. A lot of Russians have given up on trying to change things. But, again, I can understand it. The point of this post originally was that since Ivan the Terrible, control of Russia has passed from one authoritarian to another. Serfdom didn’t end in Russia til 1861. And when people got together, stood up, and finally amassed together for change— they got Stalin. Someone just as bad, if not objectively worse, than a monarch. After the fall of the USSR, the Russian mob took over, and then Putin and his ilk rolled onto the scene. They have never experienced a democracy or genuine freedom. Historically, every time Russians try to change things up, it gets worse.

When I made this post, the only news we had was that the Neo Nazi mercenary group made up of violent criminals was marching to Moscow. We didn’t know Russians weren’t in danger of Wagner, because no one knew what Prigozhin was going to do. Fascism is a self-destroying ideology; I don’t doubt for a second that Nazis wouldn’t jump at the chance to recreate their war crimes at home. Because when you cut off your empathy and feel justified, you’re capable of doing anything to literally anyone.

And that’s what my point is.

Dehumanization is the first and most important tool in a fascist’s toolbox. Those who study them and the Holocaust warn people away from thinking of Nazis as monsters. Not because we should feel bad for them. Not because they shouldn’t be held accountable for ‘just following orders.’ Those who oppress, torture, rape, and murder innocents must pay for that with their life.

But we cannot make the mistake of thinking they’re just Born Bad. That people from this country, this culture, this race, or this religion are all terrible people who deserve what they get. Because it teaches you to think like them. It cuts off your empathy, and that’s what all atrocities are born from: a refusal to acknowledge the inherent humanity of others.

“But I’m a good person, I would never-“ No one is immune to propaganda. Not you, not me. And the second you dehumanize someone, the easier it is for someone to manipulate you into hurting them. None of the fascist supporters of Putin and Prigozhin think they’re bad people. They’ve cut off their empathy and identified the ‘actual bad’ people— and bad people ‘get a taste of what they deserve.’

Every Wagner mercenary and Russian soldier who participated in this should get the Nuremberg treatment. The Russian state needs to be dismantled.

But I will not dehumanize an entire nation because of their crimes. I will not cheer for or hope that people whose crime was doing nothing be tortured, raped, and murdered.

If that’s moral grandstanding and dickriding, then sure. But that’s where I stand on it. You’re free to disagree.

i feel so bad for average russian citizens. since like 1533 it’s been constant ‘this might as well fucking happen’

[fluffyeddybear]

Ok I've been waiting and hoping that they localize the Blue Reflection mobile game so in the meantime I wanna go ahead make the post I mentioned, talking about the new reflectors and their transformation designs. I'm gonna go left to right and have their uniforms and reflector forms side by side.

Shiho Kasuga. She uses a katana. She's not really new, she's in the sequel which I have yet to play and I've mentioned her reflector form before, but I wanna go in depth a bit. The belts are very Square Enix and that's not an insult. The chains are cool, the skirt and the white part of her shirt are nice, and the ribbons in her hair are very pretty. The biggest issue is the way her shirt slides off her shoulder, most of her titty is out and you can see another belt covering part of it. Why? Like you could have just had her shoulder out if you wanted to give a bit of flare to her design. And if that wasn't bad enough, I was playing the demo for the sequel and she jumps to attack and you can see all up in your face, she's wearing nothing but belts under the skirt. Like...she's a teenager.

Yukiko Takaoka. She uses magical orb drones and it fits the mythical fae look. But again the chest is a major issue. If they pulled up the top, this would have been my favorite new design. The top itself is so cute (I love baggy sleeves) and the blue of it all is so nice, I love the accessories, the antlers look so good with her hair and eyes, and the bunny companion is adorable. Literally just pull the shirt up. Also personally I don't like the idea that transforming means you don't have any disabilities like why isn't she wearing her glasses? I had that with Hinako in the first game, but after replaying I noticed Hina said she feels light as air so I assumed that meant she didn't need to worry about pressure being put on her injured leg. I hope it's that and I hope Yukiko just takes her glasses off so she won't break them.

Nanaka Azumi. Love this outfit. The shoulders and the sleeves! Love fluttery clothes! The purple is cool and looks great with the pink in her hair. This is like a pretty villain lol. Her wolf companions and the wolf ear hair accessories really bring the look together. She uses brass knuckles which is odd with her design, but hey she beats ass lol.

Meiqi Xiao. The protagonist. This dress is gorgeous, but again these are teenagers. If this was on a grown woman, she would be so cunty. Her hair and the flower in it looks very pretty. She's giving me another villain look especially with the horned demon skeleton companion. She uses a sword which is pretty standard for protagonists of this series.

Yu Alesia Morisaki. Her design is very angelic but still fits the post apocalyptic setting. I don't have a lot to say about her. It's nice and the wings they gave her are cool and unique, they didn't just slap feathered wings on her. She uses a spear and that gives her a valkerie feel and I like that as well.

Kanna Hoshiya. CAT GIRL CAT GIRL LMAO. But for real, only minor issue is the titty window. Other than that, LOVE this design! I didn't mention how their school uniforms are incorporated into their transformations because right here is where it really shines! The red plaid looks SO cool against the black armor parts. The cat ears and the tail look sharp and badass. She also uses her fists to fight and that works incredibly well with the claws on her gauntlets. She also does a windmill punch and she's incredibly energetic which fits her cat design, it's great. She might be my second fave.

Ayami Ikoma. She's my absolute fave! She looks like she could be in TWICE. First off, hate the chest. I get it's supposed to be cut to resemble butterfly wings but you can do that in any other way, also stop showing teenage girls' chests. But anyway the butterfly theme is beautiful! I love the sleeves on her top, the skirt is so so pretty, the butterfly accessories are cute, the way her hair looks and the multicolored eyes are so ethereal, and THE WINGS.....GIRL! I even like her school uniform. The blazer is nice. She uses a spear as well and I think it fits the fairy look overall.

Kirara Kuno. Honestly this is the worst design. She's in the sequel but as far as I know she doesn't transform at all in it. I thought she was gonna be the Chibi Moon of the group with how she looks younger than everyone else. Her design is the creepiest because of how much younger she looks. Truthfully if they button her shirt up, it'd look perfectly fine....but they didn't so... but since I gave positives to everyone else, I'll give a few here. I love the dragon theme and the various shades of green. The dragons with her look really cool and I like that they coil into looking like wings. The dragon scale armor on her arms and legs are nice. I like the shade of green in her hair, her pink eyes, and the pink ribbon accessory is cute. And again if it wasn't for her exposed chest, the overall outfit would be very cool, but it sadly ruins it entirely. It's weird. Her weapons are the orb drones and I think she should switch with Nanaka. Fists would fit better.

[dovedrangeas]

someone: jkr is horrible-

me: yeah, i completely agree with you there

someone: -which is why you should stan uncle rick rick riordan instead :)

me:

[beaftly]

I have thought about what would happen if I was to be in a building fire, several stories up. I can't take the stairs. Access to life is an afterthought by the public.

I think all the time about whether this shop or that shop has wide enough aisles for me and my mobility aid, whether today it's my cane or my wheelchair. Access to the business of my choosing is an afterthought by the public.

I wonder if there is enough accessible parking at my destination - if there's any at all. My ability to get safely and easily out of the car is an afterthought by the public.

My dad wants to go out for coffee. "Let's go to that little coffee shop downtown, you know the one." But there are stairs up to the entrance. I can't take the stairs, and there's no back door. My patronage of businesses like this is not only an afterthought by the public, but also now an afterthought by my own father.

I contemplate the risks of flying across the world. Approximately twenty-eight wheelchairs are lost or irreparably damaged by airlines every day. My wheelchair cost twelve thousand US dollars, and insurance won't cover a new one for four more years. I can't risk my freedom just to fly. My right to pursue happiness is an afterthought by the public, and by the governments of the world that have their fingers in commercial aviation.

Mask mandates are lifting, and the people who don't want to think too hard about the vulnerable are no longer wearing them. I'm vulnerable. I see you. COVID-19 increases the risk of cardiac issues, which I recall as my heart beats irregular in my chest, one of my many comorbidities. I will not be another casualty if I can help it. Yet I am an afterthought of the public, so I'm not sure how feasible this is.

The closest movie theater to me has stairs up to the front doors, and its ramp is too steep, breaking the law. Inside the theater, the wheelchair-accessible seating is at the bottom front of the room, forcing attendees to crane their necks up to the screen. My comfort and enjoyment at the movie theater is an afterthought by the public.

I see access issues everywhere I go. I see things that are a mere nuisance, and things that are life-threatening. I will probably never legally fight an entity on accessibility, aside from informing them that their business is exclusive. The Americans with Disabilities Act is not enforced by any particular means; it relies on the disabled individual to sue the business owner in order to enact change. When my disability payments amount to less than seven thousand dollars per year, the thought of suing anyone is absurd.

I am not legally allowed to work without losing my SSI. I am not allowed to have more than two thousand dollars in assets, or my SSI is taken from me. I am not allowed to leave the country for more than thirty days, or no more SSI. I am not allowed to be hospitalized for more than thirty days - or no more SSI.

So tell me, how am I supposed to fight public access issues? I am only one person. I'm sure there's a pro-bono lawyer out there who could help me, but it is not my job to make the world accessible, and I'm tired. But the thing is, nobody else is doing this for me.

And this is only in the United States. Canada, for example, has no equivalent of the Americans with Disabilities Act. How, then, are disabled Canadians supposed to have access to anything at all?

I don't have a pretty conclusion here other than the fact that this all constitutes ableism. And I'm tired of it. I'm tired of strangers' disregard for my most basic safety. I'm tired of businesses cutting corners because "people like you don't go out anyway." I'm sick of my own family treating my disability as a nuisance or an afterthought to them. I'm tired of literally being physically shunned from public spaces, over and over again.

Just remember: disability is coming for you, the able-bodied and young. One day these issues will all be yours to inherit. So start planning now. Start sticking up for disabled people now. Start making changes now. Or you'll regret it when you're old and frail, struggling to open a door that isn't up to code.

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Able-bodied people are welcomed to reblog, but don't clown.

[cptspiegel]

Do u do kenpachi headcanons maybe u could one of kenpachi x female disabled/terminally ill/chronically ill SO?

This is the best Kenpachi request I've gotten, gonna be so self indulgent lmfao

Warnings: reader is fem, reader has a disability/chronically ill, mobility aids mentioned (wheelchair & cane), medicine/doctors mentioned

First & most importantly, Kenpachi is the most understanding man in this entire universe. His hard exterior means absolutely nothing, because he knows how it feels to feel alienated/misunderstood and he'll never ever make you feel that way. All the time he says, "Those fools can walk in and out of your life and miss out on you. But I'll always be your person."

He's for real a ride AND die type of man.

All of those lovely things said Kenpachi has to learn boundaries.

His big heart makes him want to cater to literally every need you have.

Ken will memorize your schedule to the very second. He'll go get medication before you can even think about it.

Kenpachi has to learn not every person is okay with being carried. You've gotta make it clear if you want that because......he will lift you and take off in a blink.

You've got to tell him, "Kenny, I adore you, but please let me do some things. I'm not helpless!"

He knows that & kinda beats himself for getting too protective. Then you reassure him that he's normal, you just want space to do things.

The key is that you'll ask for help if you need it.

Oh! Yachiru has the time of her life with your wheelchair/cane if you use one.

She enjoys when you both go to the meetings all the ladies have once a week. Throwing her arms up and singing while you push the both of you to the luncheon!

The cane? Oh boy she pretends to be a wealthy business man with a cane to tap around on the floor with.

It makes you laugh so hard because she's just being innocent & not mocking you.

Kenpachi scolded her one time and then you scolded him for scolding Yachiru.

Your disability doesn't change Kenpachi's attraction to you either.

He's 100% into you the same way he would literally any other person.

Yes that means he asks you to fight him.

You come up with creative ways to do that.

Stuff like board games

Tossing darts

Cornhole!

Competitive, but not throwing fist at each other