#fi grip

[rainytypology]

MBTI Grip: Fi

An explaination on Fi grip in MBTI. Not an expert. May change later.

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Grips occur when a type is under an immense amount of stress. Their other functions give up mentally and "shut down", which allows their inferior function to take over. A type in the grip begins to act like the unhealthy version of their inferior function, very unlike and opposite of themselves. Grips can last for a short while or longer, depending on how long the stress persists.

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Fi inferior (ExTJ)

Fi inferior types do not allow their personal values and morals to get in the way of decision making. This may make them appear cold and heartless. In reality, they are not (at least well developed ExTJs); they just want to make the best decision that works for themselves and everyone else.

When in an Fi grip, they can become overly sensitive and pitiful. Often driven and confident individuals, their motivation begins to stagger and drop. They start to believe they are not good enough and do not want to try to do anything anymore because they don't see the point. They feel aimless and pessimistic about everything. They may try to cover their sadness with anger as an attempt to appear strong, but it rarely works well.

Te doms in a grip should try to use their aux perceiving function (Ni for ENTJ, Si for ESTJ) to help get out of it. For Ni, strategize new plans and goals to get themselves motivated to reach goals. For Si, ESTJs should tend to their inner needs, learn to balance their personal health and external demands. They've likely fallen into the grip in the first place by failing to achieve most of their goals. They can write down their feelings just to get it out of them and if they can, analyze and figure out a solution that can help them get better. It helps to gain insight and advice from others as well.

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MBTI Notes

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

love how Solar Opposites started out as a sitcom about two aliens who can't stand each other, stuck with their teenage clones (whom they also can't stand) & a toddler antichrist (whom they view as a sort of self-sufficient free-roaming hamster?) on a stupid planet they can't stand

and 4 seasons later it's a sitcom about a family of genderqueer aliens, headed by a gay couple in a happy & horny open marriage (with a graphic off-screen sex life, despite their canonical lack of genitalia?) teaching themselves to be okay parents to their 3 kids (whose Sci-Fi Antics now slightly-less-frequently revolve around wreaking havoc on human bystanders, and slightly-more-frequently revolve around alien-clone-sibling-bonding*), to the point that the central plot point becomes "We need to provide our toddler antichrist with a stable home environment."

(also the grumpy alien husband is too busy ingratiating his family with their suburban neighbors to even remember whom or what he dislikes. what is this show)

[glassgob]

ive still been listening to f@tt while drawing my star wars guys and im coming back swinging-- i mean work keeps me frustratingly busy but i finished listening to partizan in a little over a month and the wheel? she's turning. anyway heres a wip to commemorate ✌️

[Image ID: Digital full-body illustrations of Thisbe, Kal'mera Broun, and Valence from Friends at the Table: Partizan. They are lined up next to each other in a reference sheet style. End ID.]

[mothtaire]

guys I was reading out some valvert scenes from my book to my classmate who didn’t believe that it was that homoerotic how I brought it up, and after that she was flabbergasted how right i was and told me how this book has a ‘’yaoi that is socially approved’’ since its a classic

[personostient]

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[allgremlinart]

almost started writing out a bunch of worldbuilding theories before I remembered that Gene Roddenberry is laughing at me from hell watching me do this and I got so mad I deleted it all

[gxrtyz]

Mouthwashing is a fcking sick game. I will proceed to be abnormal about this for the next few days.

[thereluctantfollower]

Has anyone done starwars crossover with the daycare attendant?

Moondrop as General Grievous. Even the fandom's Eclipse with four arms, will work. And it's not that far fetched either. Scott does Starfox parody several times, and other sci-fi fantasy. Starwars theme will be quite fitting 💜

[neeko-system]

SIGNALIS SPOILERS AND WHATNOT~~

finished my second playthrough of signalis, was going for the artifact ending. then loaded my save and got the memory ending. such a good game aaaa

the memory ending made me cry, it was really heartwrenching when ariane said sorry i dont remember, i just crumpled. watching elster be so exhausted was a lot.

not really sure if i understand the artifact ending. i feel like either its really vague (on top of all the other vagueness) or if im missing something. it kind of feels like a burial of arianes memory? like elster dies and we see ariane thikning about her and elster dancing in the wrecked ship? i’m not sure. maybe someone could give me their interpretation of it?

i also found out that theres a difficulty setting and really wished i had set it to survival before my second playthrough. woulda been nice!!! I do have one more ending so i might play the game again but might also just watch it on youtube and play the game again some other time(gotta let it ruminate so i can go back in with different eyes), I wanna get all the achievements anyways.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

all in all i fucking love this game a lot. very rarely do i replay a game so soon after playing it for the first time. its really tragic i’ll never get to experience this game for the first time again, but, so it goes. its such a beautiful game i will be thinking about it for a longgggggggggggg time. ive been wanting to talk about it so badly for so long but none of my friends have played it yet kyaaa!!! >_<

its crazy to me that the game exists the way it does. the style, the mechanics, the story, the music, everything about it oozes so much passion and care and thought. very few games have made me want to stare at every part of it to figure out how they made it look the way it did (THE GAME IS SO STYLISTICALLY RICH LIKE HOIW DID THEY DO ALL THAT) and the game mechanics are so nice to my brain, everything is so tactile and clicky and inventory management and ammo management and horror stratgey and the flesh and rust and death and love and lesbians and robots and anime!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

amazing game thank you rose engine, i hope they make more stuff because i really want to see it

edit:(thinking about the first time i played compared to the second. i was considerably less scared since i had a clue of waht was going on but the fear that i felt playing the first time was special to me. i really like games with stories about ‘time loops’ because the replay-ability is baked in in a cool way. especially with how the game throws information at you, viewing things again having experienced perspective shifts from information is really cool. seeing scenes again re-contextualized makes my brain go ^-^(hots quest ding sound) but going in completely blind and being afraid of everything (i especially remember being scared of the dream beach, i had literally no clue what to expect and it was nice) it all had a different flavor than the second time which is cool because i feel like i experience that kind of emotion change *with* elster. (girlie needs a FUCKING cuddle nap)

the way the game balances reality and the surreal i think is super neat. i love surrealist dream stuff a lot and i think that a video game is a super good medium for that kind of experiential stuff that really inspires me to wanna make video games. especially because then theres also this super nerdy sci fi stuff going on about robots and space regimes and magical tech(my favorite) and planetary systems and military systems and all that good shit. i similarly wanna get nerdy about stuff like military logistics while also telling a story about gay robots and girls that keep missing each other just barely in the space time continuum. i love that the game tells you a lot but also is vague and also says fuck you (affectionate) stop looking for answers and just feel it. it explains just the right amount to not feel esoteric while keeping enough vague to leave a lot up to interpretation/figure it out by playing it again/thinking about it. it plays with themes and reality and reoccuring symbolism and all that good shit that makes stories addicting to think about.) ((also one of the endings requiring beating the game once among other things that keep between playthroughs, yummyyy. games that know they are games/stories/worlds that are aware of themselves., thats good shit right there))

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: Hi, ENTJ, I wanted to ask about 1)what is the value of culture from 2)why is culture so important to people? I ask because I've noticed that people have very high regard for the fact someone knows a lot movies/art/literature. For some huge asset to a potential friendship/relationship is the fact someone is culturally knowledgeable. I often dont understand what this culture gives them that is so valuable, I dont see that either they have a more developed perspective about the world/themselves.

I feel a sad sense of alienation here. That I may be inferior to some. I enjoy watching movies, but for example philosophy, psychology, sauna, sports, social gatherings give me more joy and I feel they develop me more. I would like to better understand why some people look at me worse (at least I have this impression) because I am not a man of culture It makes me wonder if the lack of understanding of this topic is more due to my blindspots or someone else's blindspots, or maybe it's both.

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Your question is far too general and beyond the scope of this blog. If you want to learn more about culture, google can help you and many books have been written on the topic. It can't be easily summarized into a few bullet points. Culture is an exceptionally broad subject and exceptionally complex because it encompasses so much more than music, art, and literature. The things you are interested in are also included under the banner of "culture". Thus, the problem of you feeling separate isn't just a matter of culture.

Allow me to zoom in on a few lines that stood out as significant:

"I dont see that either they have a more developed perspective about the world/themselves."

"I feel a sad sense of alienation here. That I may be inferior to some."

"[My interests] give me more joy and I feel they develop me more."

It sounds like you've got some underlying self-esteem issues to work through. Alienation is a painful emotion, but if that's the only reason you're asking the question, it would constitute a negative motivation for self-improvement.

As a general note, self-improvement can't just be about eliminating uncomfortable feelings and emotions, though they might serve as the initial catalyst. Self-improvement has to be motivated by a strong positive desire to learn more, to be wiser, and to grow into a fuller version of yourself. If you're being completely honest: Are you genuinely interested in the topic of "culture" for its own sake, or are you just wanting to use the information to manipulate situations for egotistical gain? Beware that approaching self-improvement with a (unconsciously) negative motivation makes it more likely that you incur negative results.

In terms of psychological development, the divide you feel from people is largely attributable to two factors:

Factor #1 is Ni+Fi Development Issues: When ENTJs haven't developed enough awareness of Ni+Fi, they tend to experience problems with misinterpreting(Ni)+misjudging(Fi) people and social situations. As an adult, you have a significant degree of control over how your functions develop, so these problems can be remedied. Some issues that might need addressing:

It's possible that making the concept of "culture" into the culprit is an unconscious attempt to keep the problem abstract and distract from the deeper issue of why you suffer from alienation so easily. In essence, frequent experiences of alienation might be a symptom of Fi grip and you are trying to rationalize it away rather than confront your feelings and emotions directly.

Your understanding of "development" is flawed because you can only understand it through an oversimplified and problematic framework of superiority/inferiority, when healthy Fi should teach you that everyone is unconditionally entitled to their private preferences and personal interests. As a result, in defense of a wounded ego, you can't help but try to re-exert your sense of superiority whenever you feel judged. Knee-jerk defensiveness is an obstacle to personal growth.

This brings me to an important question that requires clarification: What is your ultimate goal here? Do you want to fit in socially or don't you? Your thinking/behavior is contradictory on this point, which is usually indicative of a developmental struggle.

On one hand, you insist on reducing everything into the superiority/inferiority dichotomy, which is a form of self-inflicted separation from others.

On the other hand, you then lament the fact that you don't feel accepted by others.

Well, which is more important to you, feeling superior or feeling accepted? You can't have it both ways. There's not much more for me to say if you are unable to make a decision and stand by it.

Factor #2 is Absence of Fe: Fe is the function best suited to understanding the concept of culture. Every functional stack has its most glaring blind spot. For Te doms, it is Fe, so you're not wrong to suspect the possibility. Obviously, absence of Fe in your stack is not your fault.

What does Fe teach all of us? One reason culture is important is because it is the backbone of your identity, both on a personal and social level:

When you are unaware of how culture has played a major role in making you the person you are today, you are likely to suffer from a weak sense of self and feel as though you don't have any rootedness or grounding in the social world.

When you are unaware of how culture influences your relationship dynamics and shapes the interactions you have with people, you are likely to run into recurring socializing problems, such as not being able to find common ground on which to build a strong foundation for meaningful connection.

Within any larger culture, there are numerous subcultures, which means there is space for everyone to find the cultural interests that most appeal to them and allow them to express who they really are out into the world. If you truly want to fit in better, it would be a good idea to nurture open-mindedness to all the different aspects of culture that move and touch people. Only then would you be able to relate to a greater variety of people and not just those who most resemble you. If you hope for people to understand you and connect with you better through your interests, be the first to do it for them. Reciprocity is a necessary ingredient for healthy relationships.

The main point is that culture should not be about feeling superior or inferior. "Gatekeeping" culture in this way divides people and increases feelings of alienation on a larger scale. While you can learn to stop gatekeeping, you can't stop others from gatekeeping. But you always have the choice to rise above and remember the lessons of Fi to live and let live and the lessons of Fe to approach people with a greater sense of equality and inclusivity, rather than always allow a fragile ego to get baited into the gatekeeping game.

Culture includes all the ways in which human beings express themselves, including physically, artistically, intellectually, and spiritually. Culture includes all the ways in which people preserve the best aspects of human experience. Culture is about what makes you who you are, what connects you to the people around you, what roles you take on in society, what bonds and unites people socially, and what affirms the humanity in all of us.

Learning about the Fe approach to culture, does the blind spot become more clear to you?

[actualbird]

what kind of card story or au would you like to see in the future? for me personally i would love a space au (and all the npcs could be robots or aliens and stuff), but im not sure if they would ever do it? they’ve given us plenty of events in the past so it would be neat to see one in the far future

also on the topic of aus i do enjoy the idea of every au date being their ancestors… the sort of red string of fate tying mc and the LIs together across time and space. i feel like it’s super romantic and I wish we would get even more references to these au dates in their stories

hope you’re having a great 2024!!!

ANON DO WE SHARE THE SAME BRAIN??? BECAUSE FOR THE LONGEST LONGEST TIME IVE BEEN BEMOANING TO MY TOT FRIENDS ABOUT HOW BADLY I WANT A TOT SCI FI AU!!!!!!!!!!!!

like as much as i like the historical AUs and the little hints they put here and there about them being past lives, all theyve done thus far is HISTORICAL AUs (including the dragonbreath one, fantasy historical but still PAST AESTHETIC) so it is time to stop looking into the past and look into the future. into the STARS. or into MECHAS. idc what it is, i just want SCI FI!!!

in a sci fi au i think luke would be so good as a human when cybernetic augmentations that he had to get due to a grizzly past working for the Space NSB. injuries compounded, and the need to get stronger and faster was heightened, so now hes half man half machine, and feels immense shame and self hatred for essentially being half man half living weapon. imagine mc re-meeting him after luke's disappearance and the childhood friend she grew up with on a small planet in the middle of nowhere, they reunite after years in a bustling space capital and suddenly that boy is spliced with cybernetics after seeing the horrors of space travel and war…….

imagine mc holding luke's cybernetic hand with the same kind of tenderness she'd hold his non-cybernetic one.........the same kind of warmth, as she doesnt think him any lesser, doesnt think him a monster for what hes done......AUGH

ive no idea what i'd assign the others in a sci fi au but itd be so cool. i want this so bad you have no idea

[andreai04]

Don't sons have responsibilities, too?

The answer is yes, they do.

To hold their fathers accountable.

[princesssarcastia]

got a flash of a crossover fic idea that's absolutely going to stick with me:

leia organa and aos!spock, in a room, having a conversation about being one of the last of an almost-destroyed people. about what it means to survive a genocide

[bloodshotgun]

speedran reading the martian in two days. friendship ended with mark hoffman now mark watney is my new best friend

[itissadbutitsmy-artblog]

gross little kids

blaine: spader! spader! spader: what

blaine: look! i found a full-on rat outside! spader: oh glob

blaine: aww, does it scare you?

spader: it’s gross. do i come to your house bearing gross gifts with no warning?

blaine: no but  if you did that would be cool :D spader: ok

spader, the next day or whatever: blaine! blaine! LOOK WHAT I FOUND!

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: hello, mbti-notes! i'm in an unusual predicament with an ESTJ (former?) best friend. they've been going through some very difficult life circumstances that i think may have finally triggered some kind of meltdown, and they've abruptly cut contact with myself as well as pretty much everyone in our immediate close friend group without explanation. they lashed out at some of us quite cruelly on the way out as well, which felt very unusual and out of character.

as far as we can tell, they aren't an immediate threat to themselves, but we are all at kind of a loss about what to do. we've all known them for about a decade and have never seen them behave this way. any advice would be appreciated. in the mean time, we are trying to just leave things be and let them come to us when they're ready.

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In my experience, there are almost always signs that a meltdown is possible, so I find it strange that everyone was so caught off guard. Did your friend make a concerted effort to live a secret double life so that nobody knew what they were going through? Is your friend the long-suffering type that swallows everything and doesn't complain until they explode? Are their problems something you or the others could potentially help out with? Are you or the others directly or indirectly contributing to their problems?

These details would make a huge difference in determining what the next steps should be. It is necessary to know exactly what precipitated the meltdown in order to have any chance of understanding and resolving the situation. Being vague doesn't help me help you.

One thing you can always do, no matter the situation, is try your best to be a good friend, with no expectations about how it should be received. To be clear, I don't mean that you should subject yourself to constant mistreatment or abuse. Rather, you should try to give people the benefit of the doubt whenever it is warranted.

When someone acts very out of character, as in the case of inferior grip, chances are, it's mostly the stress talking and they don't mean exactly what they say. We all have trouble coping with intense stress and we all have a breaking point. Therefore, one aspect of being a good friend is to take the high road, to be forgiving, if only because you would hope for people to be forgiving of you as well.

If stress is really the main culprit, a person's behavior should return to normal once the stress is removed, assuming that there is no irreparable trauma involved. You could choose to offer some support to help ease the stress. Or you could choose to wait until the stress subsides a bit before reaching out. However, beware of leaving things too long because it might get misinterpreted as indifference.

You could apologize if you had any hand in their stress. You could offer support by saying that you're sorry you didn't realize what a tough time they were going through and that you'd like to do more to help. You could send a probing message to see how they're feeling and whether they'd be open to discussing what happened (and why it was confusing). The best you can do is keep reaching out periodically to show you care and try to reopen the lines of communication.

However, if cruelty goes from being out of character into a regular occurrence, then you have to draw a line as to how much you're willing to take before enough is enough. You can't help people who don't want help, so at some point, you have to be willing to admit that you are not meant to be their helper.