#female dating strategy

[oasisr]

yes i am a prude, and hypersexuality is ruining friendships, relationships and society as a whole.

[diaryofanenchantedprincess]

List of things to remember when u have a crush

1. Some girl has dumped him and never wants ANYTHING to do with him ever again

2. He’s probably talking to at least 2 other girls at the same time as you

3. His body count is probably uncomfortably high

4. There are other girls probably throwing themselves at him and he probably cannot resist temptation

5. He watches p*rn and is probably addicted

6. He’s most likely capable of looking you dead in the eye and lying for months on end. He will swear up and down on his mom, his dead grandma etc to get away with one pathetic lie

7. Lying about his height unnecessarily

8. Check his following on Instagram or TikTok. That is all

9. Probably has an ex that he fumbled and isn’t over her

10. He’s probably only talking to you because he wants to smash

11. Probably on a plethora of dating apps and is constantly searching for the next best thing

12. Probably listens to ‘alpha male’ podcasts and believes he’s the prize

[gynoids-over-androids]

For me my first and biggest consciousness raising happened at the FDS subreddit. At first when I browsed it I was uncomfortable because I thought it was too misandrist (I was very much a libfem before). But I remember one day I was reading this long thread where women from so many different countries were talking about their experiences of male violence and it struck me how similar all the experiences were even if we had absolutely nothing in common:languages, continents, economic class, religion, age, etc. Except for the fact we were all female.

And the perpetrators all acted the same and used the same tactics and language. These violent people didn't have anything in common either; except a dick and two balls.

[papirouge]

[is-this-really--life]

I'm engaging more with FDS ideas and some points are so true and important but some things have me kinda confused and concerned. Like the idea that he shouldn't have female friends?

Like actually no! You shouldn't trust any men that can't form genuine nonsexual connections with women. Because then you know there is a likelihood he doesn't see women as whole entire people he can respect outside of a sexual context. A man without genuine female friendships is more likely to see women as sex objects. I know you're afraid he'll end up cheating, but a man who doesn't see women as complex human beings will probably cheat anyway. There is a difference between men that only play nice with women in hopes of getting in their pants, and men that fully respect the female friends they have. You want the latter.

[frigid666]

i hate this trend of (mostly normie) women responding to a man's misogyny by implying he must be secretly gay/bisexual. it's such a cope. women must face the fact that that the men whom they share mutual physical attraction with despise their very existence but still want to fuck them. there's no secret category of men who really do love women unlike the strawman sexist closeted andrew tate fans who litter social media + the streets w vile sexist attitudes. heterosexual men being misogynistic and hating women is highly normal. being into dick doesn't translate into hatred of women the way they seem to think it does. they need to quit being homophobic/biphobic. it won't help them find a boyfriend. passing the blame of misogyny in relationships and dating off to gay/bisexual men is not solving the issue. it is just allowing these women to live in delusion and copium.

[elfyprincess]

Marriage is such a cute concept like tee hee we love each other and we sleep in the same bed but then men turn around and ruin it by abusing their wives and being awful in literally every single way

[bl33dm0r3]

PLZ SOMEONE HELP ME IM GOING CRAZY LMAOO

[medusa-is-a-terf]

Finally someone said it.

Also:

What do you think will happen, if women actually separate from men? Do you really think they will accept it that way and move on?

There is a reason why men invented the war. Its primary motivation was rape. Woman was the first private property.

The myth of the amazones went from the wars between patriarchal tribes in ancient greece and tribes who lived still matrilinear and valued women. Women in these societies fought for their freedom along with men who were raised by matriarchal values and opposed patriarchy.

„But they didn’t won these wars so why should we try it now“

Because patriarchy didn’t won by war, it won because the first patriarchs were cattle breeders and increased faster by breeding prosterity than matriliniar tribes, who only mated out of attraction towards each other and who preferred to raise one child with love over ten children from five different mothers just to gain power.

War only was a tool to enforce what we today call rape culture. But the reason why matrilinear societies disappeared was the growing population by patriarchal tribes who evolved into cities and later states to organize themselves and then profited from the benefits of civilization.

The matrilinear tribes who later got remembered as „amazones“ remained barbarian, which makes it quite ironic to mention brutal patriarchal practices as barbaric, when they are in fact the forces of civilization. The reason why „amazones“ still get remembered is not because they hid from men and gave up but because they resisted so long and made the patriarchs fear them. That’s why mythological figures like the furies who are defenders of maternity law, Medusa who turned every man into stone or fictional queens of the amazones (Hippolyte, Otrere, Penthesilea, Myrina and Thalestris) are known to this day.

So if we really wanna make separatism a meaningful movement, we need to stop hiding from men just because they are violent. We have bigger economical power while we also benefit from civilization now. If we as women wanted, we could organize against men in a meaningful way, but this would include more than just being seperatist or not interacting with men.

We would need weapons, we would need land and we would need women who are willing to question feminist dogma from the 60s in order to form a better solution. This includes to accept that not every woman will stop mating with men, even the women of ancient lesbos didn’t mating if they didn’t wanted. Antinatalism also doesn’t work out on this, it only works in a patriarchal society but if we would have our seperatist society, we need children in order to maintain matriarchy.

It’s necessary to reproduce and we see what happens if you refuse to do it in the vanishing of feminist values in the 80s and 90s and the rise of liberal feminism. It’s one reason why the connection between generations teared apart, because elder feminists died and younger feminists never heard from them.

The key is not to never have sex with men, no matter what, the key is not to center our whole lives around them. We need to form connections between women instead, to take the pressure to mate with men away. This means centering love and sex between women in a valuing way, not in a glorified way. Lesbians only can have a place in this if we accept that their sexuality is not a political choice and don’t put them onto an pedestal they can fall from easily.

That means that we stop categorizing women in pure and impure by the sexual encounterships they had. No matter from what perspective, judging women by the number of male encounterships they had will always be a mechanism of rape culture and the ones who suffer the most from it are women, especially lesbian women, who got raped and sexually abused by men. You can’t fight patriarchy with it‘s own logic. You can’t oppose patriarchy by conforming into the Madonna/whore dichotomy just like Lilith FDS already said.

You can only create an outside cathegory that both groups of women can join:

The Amazon.

The Amazon sometimes mates with men but only if she wants it and if she is not sexually attracted to men, she will never have sexual intercourse with them. If a man tries to pressure or force an amazon into sex she will destroy him without mercy because he threatens her bodily autonomy. The amazon centers women in her life and advocates for abused women, she sees herself as a subject and recognizes sexual abuse as the weapon against women it is. She is able to differentiate between her natural sexuality and repressed, pornified sexuality and she refuses to repress her sexuality for the greater good because she knows what it womanhood took.

Let’s embrace the third cathegory as amazones and focus on other women, learn what differs matriarchy from patriarchy and plot how to organize in the 21th century to throw the patriarchy over, instead of just hiding from it.

[petitabricot]

phil dunphy and "innocent" incompetence

Rewatching modern family and it's shocking to me how Phil Dunphy for a very long time was pushed by MF fans as the ideal husband. At first glance, he is a goofball, kind husband with childlike wonder who helps counterbalance Claire's uptightness and seriousness.

But in reality, Phil is like what many men are expected to be in their married relationships : useless. He is completely useless to Claire, which she brings up all the time : lets her do all the chores, all of the home rearing tasks even though he works so little he might as well be a stay at home husband. Him being so childish and refusing to enforce boundaries with his own children by acting like an adult is a very funny joke for a sitcom, but if it were real life it would make Phil a terrible husband, father and a complete burden on Claire who now has to take care of her husband's incompetence on top of raising her 3 children. If you've ever been in a situation where you had to work with someone else, but the other person doesn't know how to make themselves useful, so you have no choice but to micromanage them, then you KNOW how exhausting that is, even more so than doing it alone.

And before people "it's just a sitcom, it's not real" I KNOW. But there are so many people who watch this show and genuinely believe that Phil is great. I read a post raising the same concerns as me, and people were like "Phil is clueless, so he's harmless" and honestly something sparked in my brain. Women are always expected to forgive men's complete incompetence because they are "clueless". Running a household is after all a woman's task, and men can't be expected to ever learn how to do it, even if they're married with 3 kids. So women need to just happily accept the heavy burden, and accept to deal with a manchild as a husband. Not only do they have to accept this burden, but they should be grateful.

As if that alone wasn't enough, Phil constantly disrespects Claire. The fact that people (and that includes me on first watch), think his behaviour towards his own wife is funny is telling. He is constantly disrespectful of her, openly flirting with other women and openly crossing the line, such as staring at other women when his own wife is talking to him or hesitating when others flirt with him. And people say "oh but it's normal to still be attracted to others when you're married!" but there's a complete difference between attraction and his sleazy behaviour. That's what annoys me so much, not Phil Dunphy who is a gimmick character, but people who are insisting his behaviour is totally acceptable and that's just what a normal, healthy marriage looks like. The whole show, Phil belittles Claire, jokes about her uptightness even though she has to be strict because she literally gets no help, even makes a "marriage is prison" joke (which Claire does call him out on it), he has the most divorced dad energy I've ever seen. And yet people expect women to see him as a perfect cute baby husband who is harmless, and not what he actually is, a grown fucking man.

I keep thinking about how many of my girlfriends dated incompetent, lazy, dependent and pathetic men and excused their behaviour saying "oh no he just doesn't understand thesse things!" "yeah he forgot my birthday for the 3rd time in a row but you know how he is!" "oh yeah i hate it when he does that but you know how guys are!" Women constantly give men the benefit of the doubt (while never offering women the same benefit) and they use it to get away with being more useless.

This just sums up a big problem I have with dating. Women from birth to adulthood are raised into being the perfect wives and eventually the perfect mothers. I mean just look at the women in MF, Claire, a perfect household leader who takes care of everything that needs to be done for her family while her husband gets away with being a disney dad, and Gloria, the hot trophy woman who giggles and makes snarky replies when her husband throws racist or objectifying comments at her. They have created fantasy stereotypes of what a woman should be like that caters to men (all while denegrating said fantasies), but have never done so for men. Men are not, and have never been taught to be good husbands and fathers. The few advice they get on this does not come from women, or with women's needs in mind, but from other men, with the idea of impressing other men down the line.

[oasisr]

no such thing as ethical non-monogamy

[sarahoctavie]

"Pursuit of Okayness" is a webcomic that covers topics such as :

Abusive relationships, trauma, PTSD,...

as well as themes related to adult relationship.

Viewer discretion is advised

"Pursuit of Okayness" est un webcomic abordant des sujets tels que :

Les relations abusives, les traumatismes,

et contient également des thèmes relatifs aux relations entre adultes.

Ce contenu s'adresse à un public averti.

[taylor14firefly]

#YES.#I think this is EXACTLY why she’s uniquely disparaged as a female artist#because she’s not willing to pretend that being used and dehumanized is fun and sexy (via francesderwent)

Taylor Swift really wrote an album with the thesis “a man who tells you he loves you and lives together with you in a committed relationship for six years but never ever proposes is essentially the same as a man who tells you he loves you to get you into bed and then ghosts you a couple weeks later”

[papirouge]

[is-this-really--life]

"I think a form of gaslighting that tends to come up a lot, especially when it comes to men and women, is gaslighting women into believing male depravity in relationships is not only normal, but women should be okay with it and actively encourage it. So we see things like with BDSM, or you know, allowing porn in relationships, where women who speak against porn in relationships are deemed to be crazy. Even though the porn in society is objectively having a negative effect on the male and female dynamic."

-The Female Dating Strategy, "The 25 Tactics of Male Power, Part 2"

[frigid666]

haven't posted a tiktok in a while bc i deleted the app from my phone, but i saw this brilliant commentary reposted to youtube and had to share it.

men who tell women to lower their standards and settle for/tolerate a kingbaby or else they will die alone are BLUFFING! whether they know it or not. some of them are more conscious of the fact they will one day be old and need someone to take care of them. they are actively trying to rope in a woman for themselves to assume this role and holding the line for other men so that they can secure a caretaker too. others have really overdosed on redpill content that they are actually disconnected from reality and don't see how many of them are dying alone, unloved, and forgotten. and that no, men actually don't age like fine wine and can attract a big-titty 10/10 submissive 25 year old to be their caretaker like fresh and fit said; or that they can emotionally neglect their children and still reasonably expect those children to care for them on principle of being "the protector and provider father." men are the ones dying alone, and they would do well to humble themselves and built a community (which includes his family/partner) that actually cares for him bc he built a good relationship with them, nurtured them and enriched their lives.

sometimes these men can condition their sons to be their loyal narcissistic clones (see: andrew tate and his abuser father), but a lot of the times even the sons are not having it and go no contact or resist the father's abuse of the family. i see this a lot in the mexican immigrant/mexican-american community from the sons. i remember a tiktok that went semi-viral of a mexican-american guy in his early-mid 20s who said he wanted to work and be successful so he could buy his mom a house and provide for her. and there were a lot of people (mostly men, but women too) giving him a hard time in the comments for just saying this was for his mom, and not mentioning the dad. they were mad bc he broke rank and said the quiet part aloud: that his dad wasn't shit and didn't deserve anything, so he was not going to receive anything from him. not because they couldn't relate.

in my own city coroner's office, there are 13 unclaimed female bodies. 3 of which are homicide victims, and 2 of the 3 were burned/otherwise damaged specifically to make confirming their identity difficult for police and the public. there 36 unclaimed male bodies; all in relatively good condition upon discovery. all different races of men are going unclaimed at my local morgue, at nearly 3x the rate of women. i saw some women out of curiosity checking their local coroner's office to see if this trend of unclaimed male bodies superceded the amount of unclaimed female bodies after 1 woman posted her results (which is why i checked mine), and nearly all did. this is the (literal and metaphorical) nail in men's coffins. they MUST learn to socialize as a community members and as good fathers, because women and children of today are not playing. they WILL leave their shitty husbands and fathers in the dust. from dust they were formed and to dust they shall return, like isn't that a saying?

never get in the way of a mans karma. let the people decide. are most men worthy of having people by their side of their death bed? of being claimed by others for burial? don't fall for their mind games. they think we as women will not call their bluff, that we will eventually relent on staying single and childless in order to not have to settle. let's make sure they are WRONG!