#fandom aro culture

[aro-culture-is]

aromantic culture is "oh, i love this show and its lack of unnecessary romance! let's check out the fandom- oops, it's just all shipping actually. never mind."

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[unrestrainedbalderdash]

Sex-repulsed asexuals and romance-repulsed aromantics deserve £100000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 for everything

[redysetdare]

"This fandom is so queer friendly!" This fandom literally hates, bisexual, trans, nonbinary, and aspec people but ok.

[slothyykittee]

I hate when this happens I hate when this happens

Also posted on twitter!

[feelingthedisaster]

something that annoys me a lot in fanfiction as an aromantic is when people dont tag important platonic/familial relationships but tag random romantic stuff

i remember this fic in which there were platonic relationships that were almost as important as the main romantic ship, yet they werent tagged. but a romantic relationship that didnt even had a full scene was tagged.

there are millions of fics that do this. why only tagging romantic stuff? you have non romantic relationships in your fic that are just as important. tagging them would actually help the fic to get more readers (the ones looking for fics with gen relationships) but no, the romantic couple that had ¼ of chapter (of a multichapter fic) was a more relevant tag. wonder why

[empyrangel]

People are always talking about how characters can’t just be friends anymore. That every pair of characters that act amicable towards each other gets labeled as lovers by the fandom and has their friendship completely disregarded. And all of that’s true. But I just want to say that it also applies to enemies to lovers.

Nobody can just be enemies either it seems. Every dynamic involving characters fighting or having a rivalry or otherwise unfriendly relationship gets reduced to “spicy sexual tension” and “hiding their true feelings behind a different kind of passion.” Hate, anger, fear, disgust, distrust, etc. are such interesting human emotions on their own. They don’t need romance to make them interesting. People can just hate each other sometimes.

I’m so sick of romance culture and it’s need to insert itself into everything to make things better, more interesting, or more complex. Maybe if you just stop and shut up for a second, you’d see that it’s already all that and more. People need to learn to appreciate emotions that aren’t love and lust, and types of passion that aren’t motivated by love or lust, and character dynamics that don’t revolve and love and lust.

And people actually think that enemies to lovers is rare and underrated? “I’m so quirky and edgy! I like enemies to lovers and real relationships that aren’t all unicorns and rainbows!” Yeah and so do the rest of the 8 billion people on this planet, you’re not special. Like yeah, ship what you want or whatever, but I’m just sick of this shit.

[our-arospec-experience]

Uhhh when ur aro and in the Fandom and you love the ships and all (romance-ambivalent) but then sometimes its like. Bro. Can we talk about this other thing too.

absolutely

[aroallo-culture-is]

Alloaro culture is having to explain what aromanticism is over and over again... and still being misunderstood (i'm so tired)

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[gobstoppr]

hey guys am i allowed to say on main that i dont like metadad . am i gonna get beaten up for saying this.

guys i think we all took the term found family too literally and now everythings flattened into a boring nuclear family. guys can we stop. hello . is anybody there

[thereallyreallylatebird]

No hate to this person specifically (I cropped out their username on purpose), but this is the exact thing that aromantic people are talking about when we say we don't feel welcome in a lot of fandom spaces.

Romantic shipping is VERY MUCH the norm, to the point where when a non-romantic dynamic gets popular, posts like this pop up, calling people "cowards" or--if the shipped couple is queer--homophobic.

Not to mention the sheer amatonormativity shown here--outright saying that romantic relationships are worth "more" than non-romantic ones. It's not welcoming or inclusive of aromantic people at all. Or of anyone who enjoys non-romantic dynamics, honestly.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is "yes i ship these characters too but i do it in a far more interesting and cooler way than alloros"

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[strawberrus0da]

I like my ships in a perpetual state of pre-relationship and nebulous pining ok

[haveyoureadthisfanfic]

Tbh one of my gripes with the AFTG fandom is that at the end of the book everyone is paired up except these two girls, so the fandom tends to hook them up. Which is fine, that’s their prerogative, but I just don’t vibe with it or feel it. It’s a pair the spares ship at its core

Ah yes. Pair the spares. My favorite trope 🙃

[redysetdare]

People who say "shipping isn't automaticall romantic" are willfully ignoring the context that surrounds the concept of shipping.

"ship is short for relationship! That means any relationship!!" and most people assume and mean romantic relationship. You cannot be this dense so I can only assume u are willfully ignoring this fact as a way to shut down conversation about aspec erasure and amatonormativity within shipping culture.

I can only assume you are not being genuine because anyone would tell you that if they say "I ship it" it means romantically. And no just becuz aspects use it differently won't mean everyone suddenly decides it doesn't automatically mean romance. Aspec ppl using it won't change the meaning because we haven't gotten to deconstruct the amatonormativity with the term and culture because people like YOU keep making poor faith arguments to shut us up.

[feelingthedisaster]

you know the ship is good when the aromantic that doesnt usually engages with shipping activebly ships it

[canonically47]

too many of you are like “hear me out on this ship” and then you just say “they judge people together” “they listen to the same music” “they breathe air” just let them be friends