#explain but not excuse
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So I do think the lady who wrote this stupid book has a point about modern media excusing terrible behaviour with tragic backstories, because I read a lot of justifications of Darcy that are centred in Darcy having TRAUMA. Poor boy didn't mean to be rude at the Meryton assembly, he's a poor little orphan who just had sister troubles.
Except that blaming this trend/trope on Austen is insane, because Darcy does not excuse his behaviour in this way AT ALL. He does blame his education somewhat, but if anything his excuse is that his parents loved him so darn much that he became a brat. That's not trauma, that's Trust Fund Baby Syndrome.
In fact, the one person who attempts a trauma explanation of Darcy is... Wickham! He claims that Darcy Sr. loved him more than Darcy Jr., causing Fitzwilliam to be jealous of Wickham. Which would be kind of understandable, if it were true, but Darcy doesn't really seem to care about this and clearly loved his father, so if anything Wickham was a minor annoyance in his life pre-Ramsgate.
The narrator says clearly that Darcy has always been like this, it isn't a trauma reaction, "He was at the same time haughty, reserved, and fastidious; and his manners, though well bred, were not inviting... Bingley was sure of being liked wherever he appeared; Darcy was continually giving offence." And Darcy confirms this, he's been rude "from eight to eight-and-twenty" The only time he brings up the whole Georgiana thing is to tell Elizabeth about it, he never blames that event for his behaviour.
If anything, Jane Austen was a proponent of "explain but not excuse". Lucy Steele is mercenary because she is barely clinging to her status in the gentry, but she's still portrayed as a villain because the way she goes about trying to secure Edward (and later Robert) is fundamentally wrong. Mary Crawford has a back story full of trauma, she's an orphan twice over, her uncle sounds like a misogynist creep, and yet Austen doesn't accept it as an excuse, Mary must become better to be worthy of Edmund. Willoughby is an orphan, he's in debt, he's made bad choices, but he needs to do better and because he doesn't, he's not worthy of Marianne.
My Point: Don't blame Austen for the trauma excuses all bad behaviour trope, because she didn't start it and she frequently subverted it!
#jane austen#pride and prejudice#mr. darcy#TRAUMA covers all sins#Except no#explain but not excuse#don't blame this trend on my girl Austen#anti Darcy shyboi campaign
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they are in love your honor
#tf2#tf2 fanart#team fortress 2#tf2 medic#tf2 heavy#heavymedic#red oktoberfest#i love them so much#anatomy is eh but i’ll make the i’m sick right now excuse#words cannot explain my happiness finding out that comic7 was released
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The funniest thing in the world to me is when people write mermaids that are bothered by humans eating fish. Like do you think fish don’t eat each other? The ocean is full of little freaks that will eat whatever or whoever the fuck will fit in their mouths. If the mermaids haven’t been eating fish this whole time what do you think they’ve been eating? If the answer is humans, that doesn’t make it any less funny. They’ll eat the species that looks like the top half of them but won’t eat a species that looks like the bottom half? Peak comedy.
#mermaids#mythical creatures#edit:#okay a lot of you have had good ideas about why mermaids possibly would be bothered by humans eating fish#so i will amend my original statement to say it’s funny and it doesn’t make any sense#unless you outright in-universe explain it#like don’t just fall back on the excuse of bUT tHeIR OUr unDERsEa BrOTherS#make it a part of their culture or physiology#if they haven’t been eating fish explain what they HAVE been eating and why#make it interesting
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Say what you will about committing to the bit, but no one does it better than Burton Guster. Shawn does it because he has to and it comes naturally to him. But Gus? Gus does it because he gets to. And he can always perfectly follow Shawn’s hints. He doesn’t have to but he does. Every time. For years.
#watching bots and pieces of Psych again#my brother’s going through it so excuse me for the person I’m about to become#psych#shawngus#shawn spencer#burton guster#they can read each other’s minds so well Shawn doesn’t even have to explain himself
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Do they dance together during the dance break?
(your art is amazing and it makes me Happy 🩷 thanks for Sharing)
NO! but actually yes.
Stone is in charge of creating the playlists. Robotnik is busy, he can't be expected to waste time listening to NEW music and hoping to find something he doesn't hate. That's ridiculous! So it's Stone's job.
However, sometimes Robotnik is not entirely convinced of the new songs, and in those cases, he orders Stone to demonstrate just how is he supposed to dance to this.
Stone does, but he's not as good of a dancer as the Doctor is. So then, Robotnik is the one who has to show him how to properly do it. And they'll keep dancing to the same song until Stone gets it right.

(Stone was actually a terrible dancer when he started working for the Doctor. These days, he just does it wrong so Robotnik has something to complain about)
#ask ask ask#stobotnik#agent stone#doctor ivo robotnik#i love that you guys ask these things because where else am i gonna find an excuse to explain such a silly headcanon#also thank u <3
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call me crazy but there is a difference between treating your adult players like they are new to the world and treating your adult players like they have the memory of a goldfish and the vocabulary of a 9 year old
#the new players excuse is always going to be a cop out to me#new players can use the codex#or the fucking wiki#inquisition had tons of new players too#it wasnt written like that#its a deflection#also i had to change the age i put from 11 to 9 because i remembered#that i taught 6th grade language arts#and we did vocabulary#and 11 year olds have a bigger vocabulary than what veilguard uses in 99% of its writing#veilguard critical#they act like dragon age is special in its lore depth and complexity and plot#and that they had no choice but to over-explain because the plot is just SOOOOOO complex#when its not unique#every fantasy video game is like this#people enjoy exploring new worlds#meanwhile bg3 throws you into the forgotten realms lore and says learn to swim or die bitch!
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I have this hc that when error gets emotional and glitches, sometimes it stretches like those stretch glitches you see in video games.
#cw body horror#error sans#error!sans#toffeesdoodles#i was going to do just a text post#but I thought it may be hard to explain without a visual#errortale#i just wanted an excuse to draw error more horrific than usual#toffeesbrews#utmv headcanons
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If I was DC screenwriter I think people would hate me
Cus I’m pulling out all the stops
Dick Grayson with anger issues who absolutely is not a golden retriever (that man will purposely target your occipital bone with his escrima) but does value his family over anything and loves them fiercely (even when they give him a heart attack)
Jason Todd the sunshine robin who’s really passionate which leads to his “extreme anger” Yes he’s a theatre nerd and he does listen to Jane Austen but that’s not his entire personality.
Cassandra Cain can speak.
*ducks away from window* Tim Drake is not a short king who is extremely sleep deprived and needs coffee to function. His smarts rival Bruce’s and he hates coffee, likes Mountain Dew a normal amount, and is sleep deprived but he takes power naps cus he plays into the corporate king role. He’s taller than Dick (cus that’s funny) and he’s missing a spleen but he blew up all the Lazarus pits so he does not care. Also he has commitment issues (mans cannot keep a girl or boy)
Duke Thomas is not the “normal one” he’s just as crazy as the rest of em and if you think he’s not it’s because you’ve fallen into his trap. The boy started a revolution and is the only meta Batman has pardoned (😝 Clark)
Damian is a precocious, traumatized, kinda mean, child. But he’s still a child, he can’t see over the counter at the doctor’s office, he wants his mom and dad together, and he loves being loved. Yeah he’s a bit of a brat but his grandfather is royalty and his father is Gotham’s dark prince; he’s allowed to be a bit pretentious. He’s a good kid and he had some bad influences but He is good.
Bruce Wayne doesn’t collect child soldiers, he is not physically abusive (physically, cus he’s had some moments) He won’t kill joker because the thin line that keeps that little boy in the alley sane is his fragile moral code. His kids were his kids first (with the exception of Tim😭) he would stop if he could, but because he can’t; he trains them.
Talia Al Ghul is not a rapist and she does love her son (the way she knows how).
Alfred Pennyworth is immortal🥰
(I’m aware I left some members off but these are just my main takes)
#the girls get one line and the boys get paragraphs😭😭😭#I’m sorry I just gotta get the big things for them cus I could on and on about how this fandom treats them#Talia was abused and while it doesn’t excuse what she put her baby through sometimes it explains why her worldview is skewed#dc fandom#dc fanon#batfamily#batfam#bruce wayne#dick grayson#jason todd#damian wayne#tim drake#talia al ghul#cassandra cain#alfred pennyworth
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IM SORRY WHAT
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i was asked to give connor this and here we are
#dbh connor#dbh#detroit become human#hank anderson#i'm sorry i can't draw hot men but i'm trying rly rly#thanks for the idea more excuses to draw connor#i freaking love bryan's face he's so pretty and yet so like regular looking idk how to explain but he's so pretty#but also looking like a regular guy you could meet everyday#i have no idea how to draw him i tried many times and he's impossible#idk i hate pretty men they make me feel things bc what are you pretty for#lol
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Derek Hale has PTSD. I think people tend to forget that he wasn't an ass for the hell of it. He put up a rough asshole front to protect himself. He has the ugly symptoms of PTSD. Does it excuse some of his actions? No. But he does deserve some understanding and empathy.
No matter what age you see him as, he just isn't a 'grown ass man'. He had no idea how to take care of himself. He was still mentally that 15 year old who lost everything and was traumatized beyond reason.
Derek continuously kept being kicked while he was down. The poor guy couldn't catch a break. Like have a heart y'all. He was never a villain. An antagonist at one point, yes. Villain, no.
Trauma literally rewires your brain, and that poor kid got enough trauma before the first episode. Derek needed lots of therapy, he needed friends, and he needed a pack.
Derek could literally trust no one. Not because he didn't want to, but because he couldn't. He tried his best with what he had, which wasn't much, and he fucked up at times. But he kept trying to do and be better.
#fuji rants#teen wolf#derek hale#derek hale deserved better#derek hale deserves nice things#stiles stilinski is nice things#derek hale has ptsd#not making excuses for him#just explaining him
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Please put the knife away sir
+ sketches i wont be finishing
#explaining myself would be futile#yall i dont have an excuse for this#i just wanted to draw him in a maid dress#blaming this on gooseworx#dont be fooled tho he still has weapons. cuz why wouldnt he#my art#jax#jax tadc#tadc jax#jax fanart#the amazing digital circus jax#jax the amazing digital circus#the amazing digital circus#jax in a maid dress#tadc#tw knife#tw blade
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Friendly reminder that if you used to go to Church or a Christian school as a kid, but did not continue to study or grow your faith as you got older, than - no, you actually don't understand Christianity on the same level as a practicing adult believer.
I'm tired of hearing people dismiss the Christian faith and say 'well, I went to church as a kid, so I know what you believe'. That's the same as saying, 'my parents took my to the aquarium every week as a kid, so I know as much as your average marine biologist'.
If you're going to brag about how much knowledge you have about Christianity anyway, you should at least try not to say it on posts where you get things blatantly wrong about the Bible, the Church or- idk- the core message of the Gospel.
#I don't know how to explain to people that there is a difference between studying the bible and praying and discussing history and faith#and just showing up to church because your mom made you and drawing on the offering envelopes instead of paying attention#if you studied Christianity for real and spoke with members of the church and were an earnest member of the congregation#and still came away not believing#that's a different thing#but you have to admit the earlier excuse is insulting
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Ok so I don’t know how to explain an AU in any way that is coherent but I will try my best
This was sort of inspired by another person’s au on here that was like a sort of role swap, but basically mine is just what if Heng decided to go to New Kunlun to make up with Yi before the launch, only to get there in time to watch him die to Eigong, and then promptly get forcibly escorted to the civilian housing area and stuck into a dreamscape, even though she’s not technically a citizen on New Kunlun. And the plot continues as normal for awhile till she wakes up again hundreds of light years away from her home and a little shell shocked from watching her brother die in front of her for a second time
Soo basically the screw Heng over AU because I miss her and want her to be around more, or as I have lovingly dubbed it, the stowaway AU :)
Yeah it’s very half baked.. don’t think about it too much
Oh yeah, did I forget to mention that Yi still gets revived by Fusang in this au?
Neither is aware that the other is still alive.. for a while anyway
But come on guys you KNOW I of all people have to have a sibling reunion in my AU.. I just can’t help myself
#Augh ok I hope that at least made a little sense#I’ve got a lot of ideas but I never know how to explain them in any kind of intelligent sounding way#whatever this is just an excuse for me to draw Heng more#and also have the siblings reunite because they make me sad..#also this is not a role swap au#as fun as those are Yi still fulfills his own role by hunting down the Sols#Heng is.. not much of a fighter#or a hacker..#yeah she has a hard time.#it’s more like a witness the horrors from her perspective AU I guess#nine Sols#art#my art#nine Sols AU#nine Sols stowaway au#stowaway au#nine Sols heng#nine Sols yi#yi#Heng
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I liked your art, you won🎉🎉🎉
WE WON NO REDEMPTION WAHOOOOO/silly


I'm still terrified of the redemption route for this clown though hdhghfg, I want his silly self to stay evil and wimsy and goofy and with redemption uhhh
We're like
I dunno I'm sooo scared devsis is gonna take away that aspect which is what makes him just so funnn. Please pretty please let him be god awful and rotten and rude and goofy if you take that route Devisis I want him to keep his funny wimsy qualities. Please please pleaseeee write him well y'all are doing sooo good with him don't fumble by taking the redemption route (And if they do it better be good and he better stay chaotic and goofy and sassy and condescending and all his "rotten rabid thing" qualities)
If they do him (And his fun aspects justice in this dreaded hypotetical) then I may be cool with it. Though the mean ass possum has grown on me so much I'd 100% miss that evil and unhinged part of him TONS, devsis have mercy pretty please/silly
[Longer more insane ramblings are in the tags hsfhfhhv]
#my view of these two is that these should still be some bitterness on both sides#Both on SM's rabid half and on PV's half#they should both hold some form of “fear” towards one another. just deep deep down considering everything#and SM being rotten AF shchshfn#just thoughts#speaking of...#I like to think of PV's “”friendship“” offer as leff of a “yeah let's be buddy buddies!!!” offer but more of a “I could show you a#better way. Fighting like this is pointless and things could be better if you let me show you the right path.“ kind of offer#I like the idea of PV not really being able to “forgive”/“forget” the horror of the spire of deceit. But compassion is his entire thing#(cough cough the guy's known for ending wars trough reconcilliation and civil conversation. With the occasional “we are cool now!!!” on bot#parties cough cough)#and so I believe he'd be the kind to understand what “explains the guy's sheer insanity” and all but withouth#seeing that as a justification.#TLDR the good old “I get where you're coming from but it isn't an excuse. I'm still condemning your actions.”#*LESS (i aint rewriting that y'all gotta stick with my embarassingly dumb grammatical oversights unfortunately)/silly#long story short I'm a fan of PV trying to do the whole civil convo approach but I want SM to be a stark contrast to that#he should be a HUUUGE challenge to get trough. And it'd be fun if he was simply too far gone#If he isn't though. I want them to have leftover tension#stuff's inevitable imo and it'd be fun to see some clashing#askbox stuff#beetle's ramblings#cookie run kingdom#pure vanilla cookie#shadow milk cookie#crk spoilers#beast yeast spoilers#awakened pure vanilla cookie
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Do people understand the reason Q cannot apologize about the situation right now? Or are people a bit confused?
It's basically something in the US court system, that when someone is involved in a case and apologizes for the issues and takes the blame (rightful or not) the others in the same case can use it to put all the blame on one person and the others would get off scott free.
That is something that does actually happen, and I have had experience with. I can explain a little if people want but the circumstances are different as mine is around family and inheritance mostly.
So, yes, while the admins, 100% deserve explanations and apologies, due to leaks of private messages (that they are in their own right to show) I personally do not think an apology will be given until any of the higher up issues have been resolved.
*Edit*
Thanks @qsmpbutwithsignlanguage :
"An apology is considered a complete admission of guilt in the court of law in the United States of America, for more specific terminology. "
I forgot the specifics when writing this
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