#evolution of marriage

[fly-chicken]

A Pragmatic and surprisingly comforting perspective about the Trump 2nd Presidency from the ACLU

***Apologies if this is how you found out the 2024 election results***

Blacked out part is my name.

I’m not going to let this make me give up. It’s disheartening, and today I will wallow, probably tomorrow too

AND

I will continue to do my part in my community to spread the activism and promote change for the world I want to live in. I want to change the world AND help with the dishes.

And I won’t let an orange pit stain be what stops me from trying to be better.

A link to donate to the ACLU if able and inclined. I know I am

[burning-beneath]

Love, Law, and Legacy: The Journey of Marriage Through Time

Lately, I’ve found myself reflecting on the concept of marriage. Not on the endless debates about who should marry whom, but on the more fundamental questions: What is marriage? Where did it come from? And, perhaps most importantly, does it still hold meaning in our modern world? As I sifted through history, religion, and modern legalities, I discovered that the idea of marriage is anything but…

[charmac]

Season 4 | Season 6

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

Ugh now I’m thinking about the evolution of the topic of marriage/commitment over the years

I take this magnetic force of a man to be my lover -> I’d marry you with paper rings -> one single thread of gold tied me to you -> give you my wild, give you a child -> are you really going to talk about timing in times like these? -> all they keep asking me is if I’m going to be your bride -> I wouldn’t marry me either -> do something babe, say something -> you’re losing me

[realjaysumlin]

I want to thank all of you who have taken the time out of your life to interact with my blogs and a special thanks for those who are brave enough to follow me. I'm not here to gain followers because this isn't my reason for being here and I don't have an ego or insecurities.

I'm here for the sole purpose of Black Indigenous Solidarity and to attack and demean whiteness. I follow everyone who follows me regardless of how different we are because lifestyles and opinions means absolutely nothing to me.

I'm faithfully married to a Black Ghanian lady who I absolutely love and adore. I joke a lot about being with other Black Indigenous Women globally because I truly love them and I have nothing but absolute respect for them too.

Here's a picture of my wife and our eldest daughter and they are the only ones that matters most in my life and I don't put anyone before my Black Indigenous Family, not even myself.

[remembertheplunge]

Only 5 days left in the 1980s

December 26, 1989. Tuesday. Espresso Cafe, Modesto, California

So, only five days left to “feel” the 80’s.  Who om I now? For once out on the great “see” of the 90’s, which will rush more and more quickly toward the raging head waters of the next century, our little peace pool of time here will be long gone. It’s chance for seeing through compulsion is lost. So, as in place, sometimes in time we find ourselves at the crossroads .  So, what do ya do with it? You back off from the bigger, major world to allow that calling to come through. Which is what I’m doing today. So, what am I after these crazy 80’s? Well, really and truly, what I am is simply truer, deeper version of what I was.

I held many mirrors up to my face  in the 80’s in dark rooms so I could see—

The mirror of marriage, of private law practice, of 3rd year law student, of the bar exam, of new attorney, , of law firm attorney, of public defender

In a mirror, one sees what one is and what one is not.

 The image of the money seeker did not appear, nor did that of the loving partner and father, nor did that of the well dressed beauty or of the world traveler. All of these came up, filtered in and melted away in the heat of their own reflection. In times like today, I hold the mirror up to see these images gone or greatly reduced.

And, who looks back?

Me.

Who was looking out on 12/31/1979? And who, after all these years, is still looking out?

A lover of life. A lover of active tear paper art. A lover of deep fault line need to be, to know,. A lover of great pain juxtaposed to great beauty. A lover of fight for truth in his own way. Through the courts in word, deed, action. Through holding melting hands and whispy hearts that form solid images, more solid than any flesh and blood.

I see a sweet repository of the now brittle yet fragrant petals of flowers once full, now withered.

I apply my fire time and time again and am rewarded with a fragrance bittersweet that won’t die but enhances all life it touches.

I see a clearer image of the healing power of the word

”no”. 

I see guts, and bravado and gaudy humor and touch of Devine scarlet self pity.

I see an expanding of the love of the pause—of the listen. 

I see others, too, in the mirror.

 Not so much in a line, like in ’79 or invisible,but, more in a circle all with darks and lights that interlock or don’t here and there but form a union and unity just the same..

And, ya know, I truly believe that there ain’t much I gotta do. I t just lives itself through me. Guess I just got to ease up  and let it live, laugh, dance, cry, scream, be , create, waltz through me!

End of entry

Notes: 6/3/2024

In the 1980’s I married a woman, woke up to the fact I was gay, left the marriage before we had children. I worked with people with Aids and helped them through their illness and death through an organization called Han to Hand and another called the Stanislaus County Aids Project. I wrote in coffee house like Espresso Cafe and I journaled through the entire decade. 

[thewritingpossum]

Also reading her household book does confirm that Isabella of France directly corresponded with Hugh le Despenser the elder during the 1310's...Much to think about...

[wayti-blog]

falling in love is meant to be rising in love

[starcrossedrose]

@firstdove15

@solembum22

[howifeltabouthim]

He loved me more at the end . . . More than he did in the beginning.

Siri Hustvedt, from The Blazing World

[bellabaxter2023]

i wish you would JUMP OFF of that ledge my ENEMY

[lovepeaceandtarot]

Daily Message

(Mensagem Diaria)

If you want a reading in your energy, just schedule a paid reading with me in the DM!

(Se quiser uma leitura na sua energia, basta agendar uma leitura paga comigo na DM!)

If that found you, it was for a reason. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t resonate.

(Se isso encontrou você, é por uma razão. Pegue o que ressoar e deixe o que não ressoa.)

Time to make an internal change inside you. All the answers are inside you to deal with this new beginning that you are about to start and of course, a new change of life. For some, I see a career change. For others, I see a change of position. For others, I see the start of my own business. For others, I see a dating request. For others, I see a marriage proposal. For those who are married, I see a pregnancy. For the rest, I see a proposal coming or it may also be that you have achieved a goal. Anyway, you are about to undergo a life transformation and this will bring a lot of celebration and that you can already celebrate this new beginning. I can also see that this will open up many opportunities, as long as you are open to the possibilities that will bring a lot of abundance. Enjoy this happy day and totally in your favor.

(Hora de fazer uma mudança interna dentro de você. Todas as respostas estão dentro de você para lidar com este novo começo que você está prestes a começar e claro, uma nova mudança de vida. Para alguns, eu vejo mudança de carreira. Para outros, eu vejo mudança de cargo. Para outros, eu vejo inicio de um negócio próprio. Para outros, vejo um pedido de namoro. Para outros, vejo um pedido de casamento. Para quem está casado, eu vejo uma gravidez. Para o resto, eu vejo uma proposta chegando ou também pode ser que você tenha atingido um objetivo. De toda maneira, você está prestes a passar por uma transformação de vida e isso vai trazer muita comemoração e que já pode celebrar esse novo começo. Também posso ver que isso vai abrir muitas oportunidades, contanto, que você esteja aberto as possibilidades que irão de trazer muita abundância. Aproveite este dia feliz e totalmente ao seu favor.)

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[amiharana]

How do you think a modern revalink dynamic would change (if at all) from like dating for a year or two vs. being married for several years? Your most recent post gave me brainworms, and I'm curious if your thoughts line up with mine!

HI IRI i hope you're enjoying the brainworms <3 i had to think about your actual question for a little bit because i got too excited at the idea of married revalink LMAO

tbh revalink being married kind of reminds me of my own parents, who have been married 20+ years, who bicker with each other all the time, but still act like every dinner is their first date because my dad is a sap. so in that sense, i feel like revali and link would still be utterly infatuated with one another, not in the puppy love way, but rather in a more evolved, mature way i guess? like revali will still be extremely fond of link and just how he is as a person, but after being married for 20+ years, he'll look up from his bowl of oatmeal at the breakfast nook to watch link wash the dishes in a tank top and boxers, and feel the urge to get up to hug link from behind. so he does and link will melt into him, continuing to wash the dishes and revali will kiss the back of link's neck, and it's like. this is the most content that revali has ever been in his entire life... until their seven year old comes running into the kitchen screaming being chased by their older sibling and the dog, but you get the point.

the way i'm perceiving it right now, it's like. when they first started dating, you could tell that revalink's dynamic was gonna be "two stubborn shitheads who are so obsessed with each other and fight as flirting", but thirty years later, their dynamic is like "two stubborn shitheads who are still obsessed with each other, but it's like their souls are always falling in step with one another." revali and link know each other like the back of each other's hands, they can predict each other's every movement and thought, and they don't have to say a word to know what the other needs or wants. they both grow really soft and sentimental over each other, and no one expects that from revali particularly. he can still bite tho (especially if you insinuate anything negative about him, link, or their marriage/family) so y'all be on your guard!

i do want to emphasize though, revali doesn't lose his tsundere-ness lol. like i said, he can still bite! he'll always have that streak of pride and arrogance but it's been significantly tempered by link's presence which is why i want to note that he's softer, not soft. but if you can catch the way he looks at link, any doubt you could have held that he loves link will disappear in seconds.

as for link, he's probably a little less feral than he was when they first started dating, but he's still jumping revali's bones at any given opportunity. definitely the type to let everyone know he has a husband and he loves his husband very much. revali's presence in his life has made link significantly brighter and sweeter to everyone around him because revali is his rock and link knows he always has someone to support him up through everything, so he doesn't need to worry.

so to completely answer your question: it's not that their dynamic changes by a lot, it just evolved and got stronger and more powerful. like pokemon. 😃👍

[jessicausa]

The Complexities and Dynamics of Arranged Marriage: A Modern Perspective

Arranged marriage, a tradition deeply rooted in various cultures around the world, has long been a subject of fascination, curiosity, and sometimes even controversy. While the concept might seem archaic to some, arranged marriages continue to thrive in many societies, albeit often evolving to accommodate modern sensibilities. In this essay, we delve into the complexities and dynamics of arranged marriage, exploring its historical significance, cultural variations, societal impacts, and the evolving attitudes towards this age-old institution.

Understanding Arranged Marriage

Arranged marriage, as the name suggests, is a union orchestrated by families or intermediaries, where the individuals involved often have little to no say in choosing their life partners. Unlike love marriages, where individuals typically meet, court, and decide to marry based on mutual affection, arranged marriages are founded on familial considerations, such as social status, financial stability, cultural compatibility, and familial alliances.

Historical Context

The practice of arranged marriage can be traced back thousands of years, with its origins deeply embedded in cultural, religious, and socioeconomic norms. In many ancient civilizations, marriages were strategic alliances between families, aimed at consolidating power, acquiring wealth, or preserving lineage. The concept endured through the centuries, adapting to changing social structures and norms.

Cultural Variations

Arranged marriage manifests in diverse forms across different cultures, each with its own rituals, traditions, and expectations. In some societies, such as India, Japan, and parts of the Middle East, arranged marriages are still prevalent, with families playing a central role in matchmaking. Conversely, in Western cultures, where individual autonomy is highly valued, arranged marriages are less common, though they do exist within certain immigrant communities.

The Role of Family and Community

Central to the institution of arranged marriage is the involvement of families and sometimes entire communities in the matchmaking process. Parents, relatives, and trusted intermediaries often take on the responsibility of finding suitable matches based on criteria deemed important for marital success. This involvement underscores the collective nature of marriage, where familial interests often supersede individual desires.

Navigating Tradition and Modernity

In recent decades, the dynamics of arranged marriage have undergone significant transformations, influenced by globalization, urbanization, and changing societal norms. While traditional arranged marriages were strictly arranged by parents without the consent of the individuals involved, contemporary arrangements often involve greater agency for the prospective partners. Many modern arranged marriages incorporate elements of compatibility testing, courtship, and mutual consent, blurring the lines between arranged and love marriages.

Challenges and Controversies

Despite its prevalence and adaptation to modernity, arranged marriage is not without its challenges and controversies. Critics argue that the practice can perpetuate gender inequality, restrict individual freedom, and lead to marital dissatisfaction and even abuse. Additionally, the pressure to conform to familial expectations and cultural norms can create immense stress for those involved, particularly for individuals who do not wish to participate in arranged marriages.

Gender Dynamics

Gender dynamics play a significant role in arranged marriages, with traditional notions of masculinity and femininity often shaping marital expectations and responsibilities. In many cultures, women are expected to prioritize familial harmony and obedience over personal autonomy, while men are tasked with providing for and protecting their families. These gendered expectations can influence the power dynamics within arranged marriages and contribute to inequalities.

Shifting Perspectives

Despite its challenges, arranged marriage continues to endure, albeit in evolving forms. In some cases, arranged marriages are celebrated for fostering stability, commitment, and familial bonds. Proponents argue that the involvement of families can provide valuable support and guidance, setting the foundation for successful partnerships. Moreover, arranged marriages are often viewed as a means of preserving cultural traditions and heritage in an increasingly globalized world.

Marriage Arrangement Aamboku

Conclusion

Arranged marriage, with its rich history and cultural significance, remains a complex and multifaceted institution. While traditional practices persist in many parts of the world, arranged marriages are also evolving to accommodate modern sensibilities and individual autonomy. As societies continue to grapple with questions of tradition, modernity, and individual rights, the institution of arranged marriage will likely remain a subject of fascination, debate, and adaptation. Ultimately, whether arranged marriage is perceived as a binding tradition or an outdated practice depends on one's cultural perspective and personal experiences.

[lightgaswaterelectricityrent]

I've been thinking about all the "Lily Gladstone will get her oscar someday!" posts and like obviously I can't begrudge anyone that mindset and I hope they're right but it just sucks so bad that she didn't get it for this role. It was about two things and thankfully she has her whole career ahead of her but this film and story don't...they completely fumbled the opportunity to recognize the story at all, it's just insane to me. I don't want to turn the entire narrative around into something positive bc it doesn't feel that positive to me but I do know Lily deserves to not have people dragging her back into feeling bad about one award. I mean as if she's reading my tumblr posts but you know what I mean

[beechersnope]

crazy how people are just purposely ignorant to the fact that queer/trans/bipoc/leftist/feminist/etc mormons exist & will completely dismiss their progressive work within the institution so they can make some generalization about how backwards & weird we all are for doing things that other religions also do (wear weird clothes, have dietary restrictions, so on so forth)