#even if they claim to be experienced.

[libidinous-weeb]

…you view choking/breath play as entry level? ya’ll gonna die. seriously.

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[beaft]

anyway i'm always fascinated by the people who think that trans men transition purely to escape misogyny and gain social capital. idk how it is for other people, but since i transitioned i have not only experienced more misogyny than i ever did before but also lost access to the public spaces and support systems that might have helped me deal with it

[radsplain]

“trans women do not get periods. they may experience some period-like symptoms from the estrogen they’re taking but-”

nope, not even that!!! men cannot and will never experience even “some period-like symptoms” because they don’t have a fucking uterus. none of the side effects that come along with males taking exogenous hormones have anything to do with a female human-specific biological process. the male body, inundated with estrogen, does not suddenly get confused and then try to mimic female biological processes. that’s not how any of this works. whatever side effects they’re experiencing is male-specific, because they’re male. males cannot and will never have “period-like symptoms” ever, i don’t care, fuck OFF

[huldrabitch]

I know a lot of people don't want Cullen brought back for various reasons, BUT it would be really satisfying to have just a minor voice acted appearance of Cullen done by anyone else than Gregg Ellis to distance the character from him.

[hangryyeena]

SquidgeWorld refusing to even talk about Palestine and other genocides happening because "this a fandom space" is wild and severely disappointing

[seaweedstarshine]

Sometimes I think of Amy Pond, who grew up being called mad by those who wielded the word as a tool of exclusion and shame —

Amy Pond, who though forced into the hands of four psychiatrists, still clung to that which they called madness until those systems which elevate psychosocial conformity above humanity stripped it from her —

Amy Pond, whose imaginary friend reappeared for a single hour after twelve years and reignited that faith before disappearing for two more years —

Amy Pond, who spent those those two years under the same implicit threat ingrained in her through psychiatric violence, and thus began to believe the man who stopped the invasion was “just a madman with a box,” only for him to agree, and to also call her “mad, impossible Amy Pond,” reframing madness as non-negative for the first time in her life —

Amy Pond, who ignored the disembodied voice of her imaginary friend even as she ran away with him for real, who still lived each day with the traumatic internalization of deviancy dictated upon her by the psychiatric-industrial complex that shaped her from childhood —

Amy Pond, who wouldn't acknowledge the Doctor's voice, such that it took an Angel in her eye that was literally killing her to ensure she couldn't reality check herself —

Amy Pond, who stood before a room which muttered about “the psychiatrists we brought her to,” and though afraid, escaped their rigid parameters of acceptable existence.

[thehealingsystem]

being biracial between white and poc will always be so alienating for me I don't relate to anyone. I don't quite fit in with whites but I don't quite fit in with people of color. been more white passing than the rest of my family doesn't help

[brittlebutch]

actually first ep of Voyager where Janeway talks to Tuvok about how his family misses him is that when she says they Worry about him Tuvok contradicts her and claims that Vulcans don't do that but when she corrects and says they Miss him he accepts this and admits he misses them too; implying perhaps a pedantic difference between 'Vulcans do not Feel Emotions' (false) and 'Vulcans do not Act Out of Emotion' (accurate) -> 'Miss/Longing' is an emotion, but 'Worry' is an action one does out of emotion -> one Vulcans do; one Vulcans do not.

[perfectlyvalid49]

Appreciate the input, patience, and visual

Not gonna mince words on the sourcing issue since it’s a moot point although your dismissal of tl something’s validity because it’s associated with AI is… concerning.

I find your pivot to the myth about pedophelia within Jewish spaces curious given how I’m acutely aware of that accusation as a queer AMAB and find that piece of intersectionality crucial in identifying where “hey, my in group might actually need a reality check because we are so divorced from reality it’s AFFECTING people”

Here’s more of what I mean:

The OG convo stemmed from circumcision and has now largely evolved (call it goal post shifting or whatever but the crux is still there, I promise) to whether or not the IDF/Israel was the main driver of antisemitism because of how they treat Hasidic Jews.

I ALSO have qualms with that community because they didn’t get vaccinated and still largely congregated during COVID which is just… unethical? So I think about that, or what they do to oppress women, or queer people, or their own xenophobia or whatever and then I STILL look at them being anti Israel and have to think “huh, the enemy of my enemy really CAN be my friend” and that’s the point I think most people miss.

I get if the tradition needs to be changed internally because at the end of the day, duh, but also, maybe consider external realities and how that might be a wise consideration. God works in mysterious ways or sumthin’

I did not dismiss its validity because it’s associated with AI, I dismissed its validity because it was associated with AI (which is known to give false information) with no corroborating evidence. If you had been able to link to a non-AI source also saying that you can use quotes when paraphrasing, I would not have dismissed it because the AI said it as well, I only dismissed it because the AI disagreed with multiple other sources. Can you elaborate on why you find that concerning? And I will point out that I also dismissed its validity because the link that you provided did not even say what you were trying to prove.

If you are acutely aware of how accusations of pedophilia can be harmful to the queer AMAB community that you understand how they can be harmful to the Jewish community as well. And if you are capable of understanding that, then you are capable of understanding that those accusations come largely from goyim who are obsessed with circumcision, as you are. That means that you’re either not as understanding as you claim to be, or you don’t care that your words can and will be used to hurt us. I’m inclined to believe both.

You make it hard for anyone who isn’t us to track this conversation by responding with new asks instead of reblogging with a reply. This is a shitty tactic to allow you to make false claims about what was discussed previously, and I’m not having it. So to be clear, our conversation started with you asking about my definition of Zionism, followed by you asking for clarification on self determination. You then moved on to asking about giving Gaza back, and solidarity between Jews and other ethnic minorities (which to be fair, I misinterpreted as being about ethnic minorities within Judaism).

But then things started getting weird. Your next ask was primarily a push back on my saying that some of the countries surrounding Israel have 0 Jews in their population by citing completely unrelated things, and a claim on Kabbalah, which your white ass has no right to. Your follow up to that included telling me that quotes can be used for paraphrasing, incorrect information on Kabbalah (still claiming you can play with something from a closed religion), assigning me a race, accusations of Jews being anti-feminist and anti-gay, and accusations that I’m “yucking your yum” when I tell you that Judaism is a semi-closed religion and you can’t just take stuff from it.

You continued on in your next ask by saying that you had a “complex claim to a lot of religions”, accused Israel of being a settler colonial state, accused Jews of trolling and homophobia because you can’t find a rabbi who is willing to convert you, wrote the tetragrammaton (a big no when interacting with Jews) and only here do you bring circumcision into the conversation.

So, no, that’s not by any means the “OG convo.” Also, that was yesterday, the conversation has not “evolved” since then. You did make one more ask between that one and this one and you do mention the IDF, but the IDF/Israel as the main driver of antisemitism is literally a concept you’re introducing here for the first time in this conversation.

So at this point, you’re just using these asks to put antisemitic talking points in my inbox, and I’m tired of it. I’m tired of you trying to manipulate my words into something they’re not. I’m tired of you outright lying about the course of the conversation so far. I’m tired of your entitlement toward my culture. And I’m tired of trying to have a conversation with an antisemite.

Enjoy reading this as an email because I’m about to disappear from your tumblr.

[healingheartdogs]

Saw a post earlier of someone being like "see how my puppy isn't bothering me while I eat and is minding his own business playing in the other room? That's because in this house animals aren't ever allowed to have people food from the moment they come home with me so they never even learn to want it." The post and most of the comments on it were very high and mighty "I'm a better owner than other people, I'm the boss of my dog, I don't allow my dog to offend me by showing desire for highly desirable resources" attitude and were very much judging other people for not having the same boundaries and annoyances about dog behaviors around food with their own dogs in their own homes and I just like... absolutely can not relate at all, tbh. There is a type of person who uses phrases like "people food" unironically, thinks that dogs being allowed to have good things that are usually intended for humans is somehow offensive and wrong, gets annoyed by a dog even being allowed to exist in the same room when people are eating, and thinks a dog just looking at them for more than 30 seconds while they have food or hanging out watching them doing stuff is the dog bothering them and being rude, and every time I encounter this type of person it makes me wonder why they even own a dog when they clearly hate natural dog behaviors and are bothered by dogs just wanting to be around people, do things with them, and receive human attention more than once in a blue moon.

When I make breakfast after I wake up and take it to my room to eat Hermes always eagerly follows right behind me because he expects he's going to get something from me. That expectation is almost always correct, and I feel absolutely zero shame about it. Him laying calmly at my feet or next to my chair quietly watching me eat is not "bothering me". He's quite literally not doing anything to be a bother, he's just patiently chilling. If a dog hanging out nearby and calmly watching while people eat bothers you enough to consider that bad nosey behavior that is deserving of you ridiculing other dog owners for allowing it that's uhhh... weird af? At least to me it's weird, sorry not sorry. Like maybe you actually just don't like having dogs around then if they can bother you without even really doing anything? Cuz IDK about y'all but I love my dogs hanging around me and wanting to be close to me and even seeking engagement from me. I love them being excited about being around me and following me around because they know I give them good things. I also like having their attention and eyes on me in general - especially Hermes, as a dog of a breed that is often more environmentally focused than handler focused and whose attention I've had to work for and earn. Looking at me is something that I specifically reward all my dogs for and immediately start to capture during their initial introductions to clicker training because I find it to be beneficial during training sessions (as well as a good way to charge the clicker), so it would be ridiculous and unfair for me to get annoyed by it and discourage it in other scenarios like when I'm eating. In fact, I see Hermes calmly laying down nearby and politely seeking eye contact with me whenever I look his way while I'm eating my breakfast as a sign that he knows how to act to get what he wants because he understands his training well, and that he is putting that training to work by being an attentive calm good boy and waiting patiently for me to respect my end of the deal that I have taught him and give him his reward for the behaviors he's offering that I have repeatedly asked him for in the past.

Also like... if he is in the way somehow while people are eating or if we're eating something he can't have and I don't want him near us just in case someone drops something (even though he has an extremely solid leave it, still better safe than sorry) then I just tell him to go to his bed??? and then share a little bite of my food with him to reward him for going to lay on his bed if it's safe or give him something else like a couple of small dog treats or a pork chew on his bed if my food isn't dog safe. After that he will stay on his bed and keep being a calm patient boy because he's learned that staying on his bed after being told to go to it means he will continue to occasionally get more treats or small pieces of my dog safe food tossed to him for the duration of his time there until he is released. Often times because he's working so hard to be calm and patient to earn a few bites of my food he just ends up falling asleep next to me or on his bed, which is definitely the opposite of being bothersome. I like to thank him for that patience and calmness by gently waking him up to share the last bite of my food or give him a little treat jackpot and some praise before releasing him.

Maybe I'm a "bad" trainer (lol) but I enjoy spoiling my dogs by sharing some of my dog safe "people food" with them in moderation, and you can definitely share "people food" with dogs without making them annoying or untrustworthy around food. Despite what the person who made that post seems to incorrectly think, simply letting a dog have a taste of "people food" sometimes does not create unwanted bothersome behaviors around food. Rewarding unwanted behaviors that bother you instead of wanted behaviors that don't bother you is what causes that. That's it, that's the sole cause. Like... you could just only share food with them if they're being calm or waiting patiently on their bed or whatever it is you want from them during meal times. Boom, the "bothering" problem is solved and your dog still gets to enjoy a special treat. In fact, my experience as a dog trainer is that the high value and novelty of that special "people food" treat often makes the rewarding of the not-bothering behavior you want from them while you eat much more motivating and effective than giving them one of their regular treats or chews as a reward or distraction, so the settling down not-bothering behavior you want is even more likely to be consistently freely offered up in the future since it is so highly rewarded.

When I've had clients in the past express concerns about causing begging by giving their dogs "people food" or tell me they feel guilty about it because they've been told by people like that poster I saw that it's a bad thing to do in general, this has been my advice to them - not to stop doing the whole sharing thing that makes them and their dog happy, but just to make it more productive for the kind of relationship they want to have with their dog and the behaviors they are wanting to see. It's a simple solution that can turn a meal into a nearly effortless high value training session for teaching settling during household activities and around food, which is something that is a common frustration to achieve for a lot of inexperienced dog owners. If you handle your dogs sometimes being given bits of food scraps as treats this way then everyone wins, especially the people who like to spoil their dogs and share food with them (which is VERY NORMAL TO WANT TO DO BECAUSE WE ARE A SOCIAL SPECIES THAT BONDS THROUGH RESOURCE SHARING) because now those people can turn that desire to spoil their beloved companions into some easy training. Just be sure to consider if ingredients are dog safe or not and be mindful of oversharing and sharing foods with high fat content because maintaining a balanced diet is important for health.

Also that OP apparently doesn't realize this yet based on the wording of their post, but if you have a dog that is at all decently food motivated then just ignoring them while you have food and never sharing is not going to teach them to leave people alone in the presence of food and never try to seek food from anyone. This is especially true if anyone ever accidentally drops something around your dog (it'll happen eventually) and they snag it and self reward because you never actually taught them not to do that, or if anyone else in your house isn't as firm with that boundary or is unable to enforce it consistently and ends up giving them food purposefully or accidentally (as can often happen in households with children or that sometimes invite guests over). "I don't ever share people food with animals in my house starting from day one and I ignore them when food is out so they never learn to even want it to begin with" is not training your dog to leave food or people who are eating food alone. That's doing nothing and hoping that your new puppy or dog doesn't care about the delicious smells of food or people gathering together in the house for food related activities multiple times a day enough that they will quickly get bored and give up on trying to investigate all "people food" related activities for the rest of their lives without you training them, which is an absolutely ridiculous expectation. Just not ever giving a dog any of your food doesn't make it stop smelling like food to them and won't magically make them never be curious about seeing what you have and if they can get some of it. They don't have to be given food by you off your plate to know that it smells interesting or to figure out that seeing you eating it means it might be something they can eat. Having a superiority complex about NOT actually training your new puppy how to act around food and ignoring them as "training" instead is certainly funny, in a "not funny haha, funny weird" kind of way. It's also pretty irresponsible since some foods that humans eat are dangerous to dogs. Instead of just ignoring them when food is around and hoping they'll learn to leave all food that isn't their dog food alone on their own, a responsible owner should actually be actively teaching their dogs to leave food in general alone unless it is offered to them, even when food is left where they can easily get to it.

Anyway, if people could just stop being weird about dogs doing normal dog things and existing in spaces around humans, do some basic research on dog behavior and how dogs learn before getting a dog, actually train their dogs to the minimum level required to make themselves not be regularly upset at their dogs for acting untrained and "bothering" them, and stop developing weird superiority complexes because they get lucky for a while right after bringing home a new dog or puppy and it manages to not cause them any problems or upset them yet... that would be cool.

[pepprs]

i fucking HATE social media that is not this website i want to explode my phone forever

[radinclus-not-radqueer]

The use of the word cult in reference to *checks notes* a bunch of people on Tumblr who also happen to be assholes is a blatant punch in the face to, ya know, real cult survivors.

I want you to look up real cult survivor stories. I want you to learn what being in a cult is actually like.

People lose family members to cults. People lose their lives to cults. People have lifelong trauma from cults. People have their lives controlled in cults. They are forced to do unimaginable things.

I know people impacted by real cults. It's not just your word to throw around and make "recovery" seem like hanging out on Tumblr. Recovery is therapy, medication, a support system.

I've never seen anyone on here explain in depth how radqueers are cult. All I see is "I think these people are jerks so let's call them a cult".

[- a survivor whose sick of this bullshit]

I explained how radqueers are a cult in a separate post. I hope I included enough detail and information!

Also, please keep in mind that the majority of people on Tumblr are not sharing every bit of their private lives on here, nor are you entitled to that information. Most of us are in therapy and receiving help, we just don't post about it much because it's personal.

I am a cult survivor, completely outside of any radqueer discourse. I was in a cult starting from when I was a toddler up until I was a teenager. I am permanently traumatized by everything I went through. Don't assume someone is a privileged little sunshine child just because you disagree with them.

[fortes-fortuna-iogurtum]

look I'm sorry, I really am. but if you watch The Husbands of River Song and interpret that as being a definitive picture of what River is like as a person... you're wrong. and you've missed the point.

[c0rpsedemon]

The Tiktokers Are Saying That Romeo And Cinderella Is About Grooming

[tiredtriedfailures]

i get trans men being filed in as Man (derogatory) by other queer people i do it to myself

[mosspapi]

"Yeah we're trying to get u into see ur doctor at her new office now, but her patients list is already 50% full and there's a huge wait to get in to see her still. I don't get why?"

->Well she's the only doctor who's ever treated me like a human, so I'm not surprised people are tripping over themselves to stay with her lmao. Hardly a surprise.

"What??? What do u mean? All doctors treat you like a human? You are a human?"

->No, they don't. I've never once had a doctor treat me normally or respect me as a human until I stared seeing her.

"I'm gonna need a list of all the things doctors have said to you that make you think that. It's not normal and doctors aren't like that to me, I've only had perfect experiences with them, so something is wrong."

.... ma'am how do I explain to you, a fully grown woman with multiple degrees in science/medicine, that of course you have normal experiences with doctors, you are a straight cis white ablebodied non-mentally-ill woman. Doctors are violently ableist and transphobic towards me. You would not experience that because you do not experience ableism or transphobia.