#even if a partner isnt obviously abusive

[jellyfemmedyke]

sorry to ramble in your inbox but its kinda fucking me up how "trans man with a cishet boyfriend who misgenders him behind his back" is like seen to be a person to make fun of in the general queer tumblr space instead of a person who is in a vulnerable situation. i know that there is trans men who are also women and there are trans men who are genuinely okay with dating a cis man who considers himself straight but people talking about these hypothetical couples arent talking about these situations but rather about "haha stupid trans man doesnt realize hes dating a bigot"

theres this attitude that the hypothetical cishet boyfriend is actually a conservative so it should be obvious to trans man that he doesnt respect his identity but i feel like its less "oh its obvious that this specific man is a bigot" and more "obviously cishet white men are bigots" and its weird how people laugh at this person instead of acknowledging that even if you are dating a bigot its usually not a big win for you personally. like the bigot cishet boyfriend isnt going to be okay with his trans man boyfriend starting testosterone. like we can sympathize with emotional abuse happening towards other groups but when its gay and mspec trans men its like "oh he should have known that would happen" or "its his fault for dating a bigot"?

of course people have the same making fun of the victim narrative with afab nonbinary people who date cishet men who misgender them [and im sure this bleeds over to affecting all nonbinary people if people arbitrarily decide theyre afab if the nonbinary person refuses to tell them personal information about themselves but the larger narrative always specifies that this is an afab person] and its almost like a "this is what you get for being attracted to men" sort of thing.

and also i theres something to be said about warning people for signs their partner or potential partner doesnt respect their identity but considering i imagine its a common anxiety among trans and nonbinary people who are into that sorta thing to wonder "am i ever going to find someone who loves me and is also accepting of me for being [insert gender here]?" its sort of fucked up for it to be common to basically claim "yea if youre dating a cis man who said he was straight before he started dating you but says he respects your identity hes probably just straight up lying to your face" and then laugh at the person getting misgendered for not knowing they were being misgendered.

anyway sorry for this big ramble i cant even remember specific instances of this to reference so i might seem like im making up a guy to be mad at but i swear this is like a general attitude and almost running joke i see around. anyway. have a good day.

I absolutely see that too, and I think it's a mixture of straight up victim blaming, because oh noo how dare you WANT to date *gasp* cis men

but it come with an intense transandrophobia and exorsexism because there's a lot more sympathy when it comes to cis women dating cishet men "poor things uwu" but when it's trans men or in this case non binary people assumed to be women, it's always "see I told you so" smug superiority. (cis women get this too, because of misogyny obviously, but it's different and worse for trans men) People are just waiting for a chance to be misogynistic and trans men are an acceptable target. This is honestly extra fucked up when we remember that trans men experience some of the highest rates of domestic violence and rape in the community though.

being trans is such a vulnerable place to be in, and a lot of people, trans or not are insecure or just want to be loved, that's normal. A lot of people are willing to accept certain behaviors from their partners that are bad, because of those reasons as well, victim blaming, and ESPECIALLy telling trans men to toughen up or "what did you expect" is apart of the toxic expectations that get placed of trans men as well. I could honestly go on for hours about this. good ask,anon

[amalthea-13]

i understand that stolas was in an awful situation but when people criticise the cheating aspect in helluvaboss its not because they want men to stay with their abusers its because they think stolas should have left. stolas sleeps with blitz in his anniversary dinner and when blitz jumps out a window and his cheating is discovered he immediately asks for a divorce. the issue isnt "men need to be loyal regardless of how awful their partner is" the issue is the original situation in s1 was complex but it seems to get brushed under the rug because stella sucks.

stolas was in an awful situation. he truly felt trapped with no where to go and it didn't even seem like he even had anyone to confide in but the way the reveal happens makes it seem like "cheating is wrong but stella is a bitch so its ok" bc stella sucks but she doesnt put out a hit on stolas until after he very publicly humiliates her.

Reading shit like this makes me physically ill. My stomach literally churned at this shit.

The cheating doesn't FUCKING matter when you're being BEAT BY YOUR FUCKING WIFE.

THE MORAL PURITY RHETORIC YOU ARE SPOUTING WILL GET A VICTIM OF ABUSE KILLED, IF NOT WORSE.

Cheating is OBVIOUSLY fucking wrong. Do you REALLY need an adult show to fucking tell you to not cheat on your spouse? Do you really need your fucking hand held that bad? Are you all, as a fucking audience, that fucking dense?! Are you genuinely UNABLE to engage with a piece of media beyond the surface level and have complex moral conversations!?

The thing you all seem to miss is Stolas did not love himself enough to leave. That's the problem.

That man did not love himself enough to leave, but he loved Octavia enough to stay.

Stolas is willing to be made a fucking laughing stock, to be publicly humiliated to keep Stella's wrath at bay and ya'll are more concerned with the fact Blitz fell out a FUCKING WINDOW!?

I- This cannot be the hill you are willing to die on. This cannot be the bullshit ya'll spout.

Stolas was in an impossible situation. He has no friends. He has no family. HE HAS NO ONE. Stella SOCIALLY OSTRACIZED THE MAN and you're saying he shoulda just left?

Blitz gave him the PUSH to leave. Stolas would have killed himself before he left what are ya'll talking about!?

Sure, Stella may not fucking call a hit on Stolas till AFTER the cheating, but she still PUBLICLY makes fun of how he is in BED while the man IS A FEW FEET AWAY. Again DO YA'LL WATCH THE DAMN SHOW!? Do ya'll engage CRITICALLY or STUPIDLY!?

I usually don't have to fucking insult peoples intelligence to prove a fucking point, but you gotta be as sharp as a fuckin marble to boil the entire situation down to "cheating is wrong but stella is a bitch so its ok".

Stolas didn't fucking cheat. Sure, by legal and vow standards he did, but cheating implies a BETRAYAL. Stella never loved that man. She actively makes fun of him, it is implied she hits him, and on top of that she calls him a "twig" and a "fucking embarrassment" and yet ya'll're stuck on the fucking cheating still?

As a kid who watched ACTUAL fucking cheating happen in my own FUCKING home, what Stolas did was not fucking cheating. That woman never loved him. She treated him like SHIT and ya'll are so hell bent on the fucking cheating because what? Stolas chose himself?

"oh but poor Via" As a former fucking Via, the girl will FUCKING live. Stolas had to get the FUCK away from that bitch.

Because yknow what, Stella isn't just a "bitch" she's an ABUSER. A FUCKING ABUSER.

WHAT PART OF ABUSE DO YOU PEOPLE NOT GET!?

IN THIS FUCKING SCENE, STOLAS IS SO FUCKING USED TO BEING BACK HANDED BY THE BITCH, HE CAUGHT HER HAND WHEN SHE WENT TO FUCKING HIT HIM, FUCKING REWATCH THE CIRCUS.

DOES A VICTIM NEED TO DIE BEFORE THEIR DESPERATE SITUATION IS RECOGNIZED AS A DANGEROUS SITUATION!?

...

But that's what you all want. You want him to be your tragic lil victim. You want him to be some tragic, sad tale... and because he isn't... he is not a "victim".

He is anything but a person to you all...

Any victim of abuse like Stolas is apparently not sympathetic enough for you all to actually care about victims.

Gods I'm gonna be sick.

[whokilledsamara]

well, since i asked for a dogday nsfw alphabet might as well ask for catnap as well lol

if that’s okay, ofc. i don’t want to be a bother 🥹

(love reading your writings btw !!)

CATNAP NSFW ALPHABET

a catnap x reader list. {an: heheh... why ofc.. hes got to be the sexiest one of all in my opinion ;3 also thank you for enjoying my fics, i try my best <3}

warnings! : oh boy.... hes quite the aggressive type. nsfw, obviously, HARDCORE sex. unlike dogday, catnap doesnt hold back. blood play, abuse kink, dubcon if you squint/somno, aggressive sex, MASSIVE dick. yes, you are still in the factory. this is pre-escaping. {for this one, catnap is bbi but built like dogday. not his "monster" form like in the game.} afab and amab. period sex mentioned. asphyxiation... augh.. hes sadistic..

A = Aftercare (what they’re like after sex)

unfortunately, little to no aftercare. catnap isnt one to care much. yes he loves you, but he doesnt find aftercare appealing. probably most he will do is clean you up and let you sleep on him.

B = Body part (their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

he likes your ass. and thighs. likes sleeping on them. also if you're afab hes a big fan of your tits. likes kneeding them {hehehe cat biscuits}

C = Cum (anything to do with cum, basically)

much like dogday, he cums a lot. also due to his sheer size. not like he can get you pregnant anyways so almost always its a creampie. or your face if hes facefucking you.

D = Dirty secret (pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

he wants to fuck you on your period

E = Experience (how experienced are they? do they know what they’re doing?)

hasnt done it too much, but hes a quick learner. good at noticing body language so he knows what you like.

F = Favorite position (this goes without saying)

any position where he can choke you. he likes to brink you on the edge of passing out but not quite enough to actually do it.

G = Goofy (are they more serious in the moment? are they humorous? etc.)

very serious. not awkward at all. wants to hurt you and finds nothing funny in that {maybe a little bit due to his sadism}

H = Hair (how well groomed are they? does the carpet match the drapes? etc.)

he doesnt care enough to keep up. obviously hes covered in fur, but theres a decent amount of fluff down there.

I = Intimacy (how are they during the moment? the romantic aspect)

he doesnt give a single fuck about romance. {VERY rarely and i mean that heavily, will he ever show even a hint of softness, but its there.}

J = Jack off (masturbation headcanon)

when you arent there he does. hes a horny guy.

K = Kink (one or more of their kinks)

blood play, knife play {claws}, abuse kink, impact play, petplay, etc

L = Location (favorite places to do the do)

his "room" as he calls it. but he also doesnt care where he does it. he will do it in the middle of the playcare if he wants to.

M = Motivation (what turns them on, gets them going)

hes a pervert, so basically anything that looks even slightly suggestive even if it isnt. or seeing you hurt yourself. {not sh, but like in general}

N = No (something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

scat/vomit play. ew.. not much else he wont do.

O = Oral (preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc.)

hes kinda selfish. he prefers receiving. nothing gets him off more than seeing you in pain trying to take him all in your mouth. he doesnt mind giving though, he has a rough, cat-like tongue, so its heavenly whether afab or amab.

P = Pace (are they fast and rough? slow and sensual? etc.)

fast and rough. as expected.

Q = Quickie (their opinions on quickies, how often, etc.)

hell yea. he will do anything as long as he gets to nut.

R = Risk (are they game to experiment? do they take risks? etc.)

any risk, hes willing to take. doesnt care if it hurts you {okay maybe ha cares a little bit}. sadism....

S = Stamina (how many rounds can they go for? how long do they last?)

stamina? never wears down. even though hes a generally sleepy guy, that doesnt mean he doesnt have a lot of stamina.

T = Toys (do they own toys? do they use them? on a partner or themselves?)

nah, he IS the toy. doesnt need anything else. hes easily able to get you off.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

constantly teasing and edging you. if you try to tease him it will just piss him off. goodluck walking.

V = Volume (how loud they are, what sounds they make, etc.)

not loud, does grunt and growl a lot. he wants you to be loud tho..

W = Wild card (a random headcanon for the character)

loves digging his claws in you, finds it so hot to mark you. also heavily into somno. i mean.. his whole motto is sleeping. {hes such an asshole i love him sm}

X = X-ray (let’s see what’s going on under those clothes)

biiiggg boy.. kinda a given though. bigger than dogday, at 16 inches.. ouchie.. >.< {luckily hes nice enough not to force all of it in!!}

Y = Yearning (how high is their sex drive?)

high, very high. tries to fuck you as often as he can, even when you are asleep, he doesnt care.

Z = Zzz (how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

if hes able to he does. but he doesnt necessarily NEED to, he just likes sleeping.

{sorry if this was too much or too graphic, just my personal headcannons. if you arent a fan of this lmk!!! i can easily make another one more mundane.}

{ made by @whokilledsamara }

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Aita because I asked my friend to not name his kid the same name as my abusive dad because it triggers me?

✨👶🏼 so I notice myself, sorry but I have a mental disability so my grammar isn't great. Sorry if I sound weird.

So let's just call my friend Fred (23,he/him, trans man)and I'll call my dad's name Sven. Fred has one other child(1,m) who I'll call Winston and Fred's newest child (Unborn lol, we know its another boy) is with one of his partners Brooke(22, They/She, transfem nb girl). I also offhandedly mention my partner Rosey(25, Any pronouns, Genderfluid) a few times, Fred's other partner Alan (20s?, He/him, Trans man), and lastly Me (24, He/she, Genderfluid).

Me and Fred have been bffs for like 7 or 8 years and I and Rosey are godparents to Winston and Fred got pregnant again. This time from one of his partners Brooke , Winston's other dad isnt in the picture. Me and Fred are super close (nearly dated at one point but it was before Fred and Brooke got together the first time and we are no longer interested in each other like that.) and I've been following both of Fred's pregnancies just to make sure everything is ok (I'm not encroaching, I just get text updates on appointments and stuff. Fred's first pregnancy was rough.).

Without going into a whole timeline, Fred and Brooke dated a couple years ago for about a year but Brooke raised a hand to hit Fred (never made contact nor any other physical abuse however they used it as a threat) and was controlling over him, they broke up and lost contact and over the last year/year and a half, rekindled and Brooke says they've changed and Fred trusts them again. I still don't like Brooke for obvious reasons but I'm being civil and trying to let them earn my trust again. So far their relationship is fine and it's not my place to muddle so until Fred sets off alarms that Brooke has gone back to their old ways, I'm trusting my friend's judgement. Brooke has been doing great through this pregnancy.

Fred knows the gest about what my dad put me through and how abusive he was to me. He knows I can't even be near cigarette smoke because it reminds me of him. However, Fred doesn't know his name. It's not because Fred doesn't want to, my dad's name just never came up and i didnt realize he didnt know his name till a few hours ago.

Me and Rosey sat in a call with Fred, Brooke and Alan while Fred and Brooke were brainstorming name ideas (They wanted our input). Brooke suggested the name Sven. I wanna be clear, Brooke doesn't know my dad's name either so I don't think this was a way of attacking me or something sinister. The name Sven is standing in for is a very common name in my country, though it's not popular for us gen Zers, it is common for my dad's generation.

I obviously froze up a bit due to the mention of his name and although Rosey tried to bring it up, Fred and his partners are kinda known for interrupting (Usually not viciously) and they didn't hear her. Fred and Brooke chatted happily about what a handsome name Sven was and how they might just decide to stick with it here and now but they wanted to hear other options. I waited out till the end of the call when Alan left (I don't know them so I didn't want to accidentally tell them personal things about my history of abuse) and told Fred that Sven was my dad's name.

Fred gasped and quickly said he wouldn't choose Sven and that he was sorry he forgot his name. Brooke however said that that was not a good enough reason to not consider a name they both dearly loved not 10 seconds ago. I tried to tell Brooke about why my dad was a bad person and some of the lighter things he'd done (not in a trauma dump explicit way, just in a he did *insert form of abuse* way) but they shut me down and said it was their kid to decide the name of. Fred told him he was also a vote in the name and he didn't want to upset me unnecessarily. Brooke said they were done with the conversation and Fred said they'd talk about it later. Fred then said to me and Rosey that he'd handle it and ended the call.

After about 30 mins, I got a couple of texts from Brooke and Alan that I was a jerk for trying to push my triggers onto other people and causing a fight between them and Fred and it wasn't my baby to name. (Alan doesn't live with Brooke and Fred so Brooke told Alan first what happened.) I decided not to answer for an hour or so because I was already worked up and they both essentially called me an asshole for overstepping. Fred just says hes gonna handle them but now I'm just confused.

I can see where I might of overstepped but I wasn't trying to be controlling and even if they would of picked Sven, i would of still respected it and tried my best to get over it as best i can. Was I pushing my problems on others or was I just letting a friend know what that name might be a bit painful for me when the name was just a suggestion? I don't think I'm TA but I wanna see if I'm missing something?

(I just realized rereading this that there is some important context to be added; Sven is not a sentimental name to Fred, Brooke or Alan. It's not a parents or grandparents name that might need carried on, it was just a name they liked. I checked with Fred to see if that explained Brooke's anger or something and Fred said no, they just liked Sven. There also hasn't been any hostility before this with Brooke or Alan so I'm not sure where all this anger came from.)

What are these acronyms?

[system-venting]

i don't know if you guys are still active or not, but if you are, i'm going insane right now and have nowhere else to go, so hi.

im losing my fucking mind. i'm splitting very badly and am in the middle of a BPD episode, so take everything I say with a grain of salt, but FUCK man.

our partner system got mad at us for making a friend. not even somebody we talk to necessarily, just a mutual. they *flipped* out on us and lost their minds, and are currently still flipping out on us as we speak, despite it having been over a day now.

i don't fucking get it. they have friends. why cant we have friends?? our relationship is already weird because we're minors with a three year age gap (us on the lower end of it, being 14). it's easy to make us uncomfortable because we have trauma and are paranoid we're being groomed and controlled, and they *know* of this paranoia and still do this kind of shit where they very blatantly try to control us.

ive brought this up with them, I told them it made us uncomfortable as soon as it happened and tried to communicate it, but they immediately shut us down and explained how we were somehow in the wrong for "waking them up to that." waking you up to WHAT?? I didn't give you any devastating news, I told you we MADE A FRIEND. CRAZY FUCKING CONCEPT, I KNOW.

i don't even know what to do with them at this point. I'm stuck comforting them after they threw us into an episode and trauma response. I honestly am just appalled that they're acting this way. this is something we've talked to them about a number of times and they continue to do it. gross.

We are still active- well one mod is, the other mod's system is going through smth so they can't handle the vent page. Anyhow-

We.. honestly understand that situation, and it is really difficult. We were lucky enough to get them to mostly listen, and when they started up again our protector was plain out like "nope. Bye. Goodbye. No more of this.". It's.. difficult to get out of, but I wish you the best, if anything you could try to break up but obviously I know its hard and isnt always on the table for most.

Also, Not to make it worse, but it might be grooming. Our system was groomed by someone three years older than us and they mainly would manipulate and gaslight or guilt trip, and honestly your situation reminds us of our own

Grooming by definition is:

"Grooming is when someone builds a relationship, trust and emotional connection with a person [typically young but can be any age] so they can manipulate, exploit and abuse them. Children and young people who are groomed can be sexually abused, exploited or trafficked. Anybody can be a groomer, no matter their age, gender or race."

[chaifootsteps]

starting to wonder if the mods are asleep or something, unless it's SC's video that made the difference - https://www.reddit.com/r/HelluvaBoss/comments/1dfzhts/stolas_being_a_shit_dad/

Plus his relationship with blitz is what started to cause the drama. Imagine you dad cheated on your mom and you didn’t understand the full situation and when your dad offers to take your mind off of drama, he brings the person he hooked up with that started all this drama in the first place (not putting the blame on blitz).

Yeah it's such a shitshow. Plus Blitz was actually taking his job seriously and wasn't flirting back, quite the opposite actually. So yeah. Pretty fucked

Though blitz during season one rarely flirted back and seemed to just tolerate Stolas more than anything.

Like, this is why Blitz is so messed up over it Stolas got feelings but it doesn’t erase all the shit he pulled and Blitz didn’t even get time to consider the situation, was just dismissed :(

My only hope is that stolas’s actions have consequences. Cause in season two his actions are softened more and some people would go Greta lengths to defend him- I get having like a favorite characters and seeing things from their point of view. But I feel like at times stolas’s actions are forgotten or expected to be forgiven because he was always “a victim”. While I won’t downplay the abuse and how bad his upbrings, it doesn’t excuse the actions we’ve seen him do in the show. Whether he’s aware of it or not. And I really hope apology tour is not just the “blitz hate train”. Though curious how Stolas thought singing at a concert with a banner that says “blitz sucks” was ever a good idea- but whatever it’s just me.

I also think he needs to realize he’s not just a victim if he REALLY wants to be an equal partner to Blitz Yes sometimes it’s one person’s fault, but it’s very obviously not this one

I for one cannot wait until Stolas has his awakening - so the fans with Stolas blinders glued to their heads have to eat crow. If it really is a "Blitz hate" train (although I think it's a broken hearts show), I'm not sure how I can watch that.

Also remember that their whole deal thing started when Blitz was in a life threatening situation. He was in no condition or position to consent properly. Even in the very beginning, he had no time to process...

Thank you thank you thank you. Blitzø didn’t bring up sex. That was Stolas. And yeah, I do think Stolas genuinely thought Blitzø was sneaking in for him and he almost certainly would be pretty horrified to know that Blitzø wasn’t fully on board with it, but Blitzø is a victim. I don’t think the relationship isnt salvageable, but it needs a looooot of work.

Everyone goes on and on about how bad blitzø is. Meanwhile, Stolas is just as shitty but more subtle about it. Regardless if he's aware of it or not.

Stolas' biggest flaw is self-centeredness. Not out of malice or selfishness, but out of pure sheltered obliviousness. Stolas never seems to notice (or care) how someone feels until some extreme emotion is shown. One can hope Stolas will learn to put the pause button on his own thoughts and learn to listen and read the room

Whatever it is, I hope it keeps coming, because it's healing to the soul.

[irldiancie]

All Kagehina “proof” I know of

Ok i wasnt gonna post this but ive been told by a friend to explain why some might ship Kagehina so... try me. i dont exactly ship this myself but lets just say im a pro when it comes to this topic also it's not as bad as i thought it was there are worse ships idk why i was a hater also i lowkey got some of this from shipping wiki but most of it i knew already, plus NOT ALL OF THIS IS NECESSARILY REFERENCES TO THE SHIP it kinda just adds on to it anyways lets just get into it

ok so starting with common knowledge i think everyone knows that Hinata is the protagonist followed with Kageyama being the deuteragonist, they get the most screen time together and are pretty much paired MOST of the series, we get a lot of content with them together while also getting content of them on their own, they're known as the "freak duo," the "greatest teammates" and like 100 other names they've been called I've seen a lot of people intemperate their relationship wrong, I've seen a few say Kageyama was downright "abusive" to Hinata which I think is a little farfetched, but to each their own! They genuinely do care for each other and it shows, even at the end of the manga you can tell how far their relationship has come, even if they consider themselves rivals, they are without a doubt still friends Now a lot of people have said "well they're not gay they're just friends", while this is true, it has been referenced/implied officially in many places, including manga panels and english dubs, so while it isn't canon there is a few cute things about it which we know are official which is why I'm sharing this, I myself know it isn't canon, plus I didn't really make this to prove anything it was kinda for fun sorry if that made little to no sense but I'll start getting into more interesting stuff 1. at the tip of the iceberg we have the fact they're in so much official art together

theres like a 1000 more of these btw theyre often put near eachother even in official arts not based off them

I have like 1k more of these but i have more proof than this but i think you get my point some of this is probably promo art but that's also considered official art so 2. moving on i think another known one is that Ukai calls them lovebirds ONE TIME in English dub and I have no idea who approved that but I think it's funny and obviously this probably meant nothing but take it as you want video of it here 3. this is kinda randomly thrown in but the fact that they also trust eachother, they've mentioned it a couple times but I think it's nice to know 4. i dont remember when this was or what chapter or something but kageyamas grandfather said "somebody even better will come for you", which just happened to be Hinata of course 5. ALSO after that whole fight scene back in season two, Hinata says this

he didnt really consider kageyama as a friend, but he considered him a partner which i believe is more important to hinata. teammates/partners were always something Hinata wanted, as before he went to Karasuno, he didn't feel like his friends in Junior high were necessarily teammates. Meaning he valued Kageyama more because he was his partner.

(credits to triananero for these images) and when him and Kageyama started working together, they most definitely were perfect together, as they balanced each-other out, which made them become an unstoppable duo or whatever they called them 6. the fact that they have matching jersey numbers 9 and 10 moving on to less canon stuff, there is a light novel of Haikyuu called Haikyū!! Shōsetsuban!! which probably isnt close to canon but Furudate was a part of it even though it wasn't written by him, so it's at least somewhat official 7. anyway according to shipping wiki there is a chapter where Kageyama feels "fluttery feelings at the bottom of his stomach" when Hinata texts him, it's on volume 8 chapter 1, I REALLY WANTED TO SHOW YOU GUYS BUT I COULDNT FIND IT ANYWHERE ONLINE. i searched countless tumblr posts and websites but i could only find chapter five and chapter three so im fully convinced this is lost media LMAOOOO 8. also in Haikyū!! Shōsetsuban!! apparently there's a part where Hinata daydreams about him and Kageyama eating under cherry blossom trees i just found that cute AS MUCH AS I WANNA SHOW YOU GUYS I LITERALLY CANNOT FIND ANYTHING OF THIS LIGHT NOVEL ANYWHERE i just know it's real, if I ever get my hands on it which I doubt, I'll share proof it exists btw AND THIS IS REALLY RANDOM AND SOMEONE WANTED ME TO INCLUDE THIS BUT 9. Basically there was a ad for deodorant a couple years back, collabing with Haikyuu, where you could buy deodorants to “smell like them” or whatever, some shippers believe it’s a Kagehina reference as they also advertised Kageyama and Hinatas scents together as some like matching couple thing

and then there's this

And I think I've said enough, there's way more you can find out about this ship, but I hope with this post you've learned something new or whatever... I MIGHT MAKE THIS A SERIES should i do kenhina next or kuroken ANYWAYS DISCLAIMER I didnt look too much into most of these things but I can gaurentee this stuff is true also this was just for fun and not serious but i hope you liked my little post!

[roughentumble]

so like, i would be interested to read a fic where movieverse!veddie meet up with comics!spidey, specifically a plot where venom and eddie are separated and venom bonds with peter in the meantime to get back to eddie.

theres a LOT to explore there, venom's perfect symbiosis with peter, the freedom he feels moving around using webslinging, the feeling that he's finally a true hero, maybe even being led astray from his original goal of reuniting with eddie. plus peter trying to work out how he feels about, you know, a giant head eating space monster(sorry V) hitching a ride. he's teaching venom all sorts of moral rules about what constitutes evil and villainy and rehabilitative justice and why you cant just eat petty criminals, things eddie had tried to explain but wasnt able to get through to V.

"WHAT ABOUT PEOPLE WHO HIT THEIR PARTNERS?" venom asks, always asking, always testing out peter's morals and trying to find where the line is.

"no. obviously nothing excuses something that terrible, but what if they had a bad childhood and that's what was modeld for them? what if they never got the therapy they needed to control their anger? what if they would change, given proper help? you have to give people chances to change."

venom thinks on this. "WHAT IF THEY GO TO THERAPY AND STILL HIT THEIR SPOUSE?"

"again, there's no excuse for abuse. but people backslide, people dont change all at once. and they have to want to change."

"IS EATING HEADS," venom asks, "NOT A TASTY MOTIVATION FOR CHANGE?"

peter groans and shakes his head. "no. no it isnt. and anyway, studies show that upping the punishment for crimes doesnt effect the crime rate whatsoever, because most crimes are spur-of-the-moment, or crimes of passion, where people aren't considering consequences. and if they are considering consequences, either any consequence is enough to dissuade them, or they find their situation untenable enough that they're willing to risk it. higher risk doesnt factor into the decision-making process, it just means people end up worse off."

venom thinks about this, too. really chews on it for a moment. "HUMANS," venom concludes, "DO NOT MAKE SENSE."

[a-court-of-moonlight-and-ire]

A while ago I had a very lovely conversation with @feyres-divorce-lawyer about Tamlin and the way his stans treat him and Feylin and Ive been having a lot of thoughts about that. Essentially, we talked about how Tamlin stans will often claim to be 'better' in some way than Rhysand stans because they dont excuse all of their faves actions but I mean, do they? like actually? I dont mean to generalize because I have seen people who actually dont excuse his actions, but theres an awful lot of people who have posted some variantion of "well, atleast i dont excuse tamlins actions 😊" when they have either previously posted or will go on to post some variantion of "ugh I cant believe feyre would break up with a man who did nothing but upset her, when he was trying so hard and struggling and his actions werent even that bad" or worse, some variation of "feyre's sooooo stupid, if some handsome fae lord wanted me to just wear beautiful dresses and be his pretty little wifeling I would do as he says 😍😍" like hey dawg, I hate to tell you this but thats just straightup misogyny. You can indulge in your fantasies of being a rich magical victorian guy's tradfwife without implying that other women are stupid for not wanting that. Also if you think that and also complain about acomaf and feysand being bad because its just a self-indulgent billionaire's wife fantasy, please consider that you basically want the same thing but with a different aesthetic. Which isnt bad in it of itself obviously, I just find this kind of hypocrisy very annoying

The way I see it, theres a couple reasons why the (positive) discourse around Tamlin is like this:

Tamlin stans get harassed for liking him or even just debunking blatantly false claims from Rhysand stans (such as the claim that Tamlin said Feyre looked better when she lost weight while Rhysand said she looked better when she gained weight which seems oddly persistant, even though I dont think Tamlin ever commented on her weight in acotar, and Im pretty sure that he only commented on how thin she was in acomaf in the context of how bad she looked), so they get very defensive about him, which is understandable

Tamlin is out of character in acomaf which leads a lot of people to dismiss his actions that upset Feyre because "acotar!Tamlin wouldnt do that though!" and like, thats true and I get it but it doesnt really matter when we're talking about their relationship and Feyre's decision to leave him from an in-universe perspective. Like, imagine if someone in your life opened up about how their previously wonderful partner started to exhibit some abusive behaviours and you were like "nooooo theyre just being out of character right now, its fine, you should stay with him". And obviously its different when its real people vs fictional characters, but my point here is that its nonsensical to earnestly engage with this relationship from and in-universe standpoint only to then use an out-of-universe thing that doesnt actually factor into their relationship to explain why it fell apart

Tamlin is less bad than Rhysand, even in acomaf, and excuses for his behaviour sound less ridiculous to people who think more critically about these books, which most Tamlin stans do; "he locked her up in his manor, but only because she was going to get herself in real danger" sounds a lot less ridiculous than "he sexually assaulted her for months on end, but only in order to protect her from drawing Amarantha's attention (when she wasnt even paying attention to her in the first place)", but again, Feyre is still allowed to be upset by that. I feel like theres this line of thinking among certain Tamlin stans where theyre like "yeah, tamlin locked feyre up in the manor and it rightfully upset her, but later on in the series rhysand locked her in a magical shield that prevented her from having any physical interacting with the outside world and she was fine with it, so she shouldve been fine with whattamlin did" and its like no!! If we're using real-world standards, which I understand we are from acomaf onward, then Feyre does not need any kind of justification for breaking up with someone. Tamlin couldve been the most wonderful and perfect and non-traumatized boyfriend ever and it wouldve been perfectly fine for her to be like "hey man, im not really vibing with this" and leave

And this I think is the most important thing because its what the two previous points ultimately stem from; they buy into the foundation of the narrative that these books present, which is that Feyre needs a man in her life, she needs to pick one of these two toxic guys or else her life isnt complete and she wont ever recover from her trauma, she needs good sex and romantic love in order to stop being broken. And I get it, you do need to buy into the narrative in order to properly engage with it, but whats the point of being critical of the misogyny in these books if youre not going to take a step back and realize when youre just accepting it?

And this is where I would have to start getting into the misogynistic baggage thats attached to mainstream romance as a genre and how trying to do all those typical steamy m/f romance tropes (the MOST dominant man, sexually inexperienced fmc, dubcon/noncon, rough sex, etc etc) while also trying to be feminist is setting yourself up for failure as an author, and setting your audience up for failure when they discuss your work, but Im getting tired and this is a pretty long post so Im gonna stop here. If you are interested in my further thoughts on this, idk maybe send me an ask and I'll get back to it. For now, I'll say that I dont think its impossible to write an m/f romance thats feminist, but know for a fact that its impossible for SJM

[porkcutletbowl44]

Brain surgery time.

this will contain spoilers for Far From Perfect if you are not caught up to the latest chapter, proceed with caution

This is a very indepth explanation of Simon's character in the fic and his entire influence and role.

This is a whole lot of yapping. I mean that, there's yapping about everything that revolves around Simon and a very deep dive about his character. So, if you don't wanna get into Simon's brain, just don't read. If you wanna yap about other characters and their flaws? Pop in my ask box. (Warning, dark topics are mentioned.)

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I have never tried to write stuff like this before, and the mixed feedback has my brain hurting so much to try and fully capture and describe the train wreck going on in Simon's head.

I wanted to portray things that are never acknowledged, and how this literally does affect relationships. And what's a better way to do that than have Simon being the perfect candidate?

Simon's character is much more complex than his normally written personality, which is still somewhat kept in the fic. I struggle sometimes, because I have to stop and think what would Simon do, rather than a person with a healthy mindset about relationships think.

It was easier to write the pulling away part, commitment issues can exist while staying faithful, and that is very often self destructive behavior with a unfair reason "Oh, they would of left me anyways. This way, I won't get hurt." Or, "They won't get hurt because of me and my flaws."

Because yeah, Simon would distance himself for the safety of people he cares about.

But falling in love? That's tricky. I have lots of Simon memories back when everything was fine while in the present, he was very cold and and closed off, trying his hardest to get mama to hate him and not want to speak to him.

Why? Because (some, i.e. me) with abandonment issues push people away before either party get too close, get too personal (yes, this also brings in trust issues but i wouldn't go as far as SEVERE trust issues, more like having difficulty explaining these issues and/or emotions.) And yes, Simon thrives on a heavy mutual trust foundation.

Simon is a character that leans more towards practical, simple straight to the point actions. What would he know about relationships past the basic respect and care stuff? Respecting wishes and being a decent partner? Little to nothing after that.

He obviously told mama about his past, hense on their honeymoon she was very careful (and a side note I will say she was very careful and patient with him after learning everything) and he was generally honest about everything.

Why the change?

Simple, because how many people feel what Simon feels? Who ever talks about the part after being with someone for so long? Who talks about anything that's never mentioned?

I've been present for a lot of messy relationships, I've seen some crazy shit, I've helped some crazy shit, I've had to be in the middle of two people getting a divorce and let me tell you Simon and Mama's relationship isnt even the tip of the iceberg. The relationship they have as of now is a walk in the park, but that doesn't mean it's okay and healthy.

Simon is a literal nightmare, the worst ex you could ask for because of how terrible he is with everything.

Simon has his original lore; buried alive, torture, hook to the ribs, all his friends are dead, yada yada he's got it all.

Child abuse can cause a lot of different psychological damage: stutter problems, speech impediments in general, dissociative amnesia, anger issues, self harm, trust issues, and a whole list that stretches out twice around my house and shit and he OBVIOUSLY doesn't have these problems.

And obviously, nobody is walking away from that fine and dandy. And even more obviously, Simon had a fuck ton of therapy in order to keep working in the military. A stable mindset is a very high must in his line of work, so he's not suffering from crippling PTSD he just raw dogs it and doesn't let get to him and is generally just pissed about the nightmares coming every once in awhile.

Simon isn't some anxious riddled soldier, he's a professional on the battlefield and a complete new born to the relationship field. LOOK AT HIM, does he really look like he's had a long term stable relationship given everything he's been through? Constantly deployed on dangerous shit, deployed for long times, damn good at what he does, etc. How can someone like him have a long term relationship when all a partner would do is worry and wait around? So 100% his first time of a lot of things with mama in the marriage aspect.

So naturally, I spent hours thinking 'What trauma and emotional flaws could I give him that would stick around no matter what?'

There's some bits of his personality and influences in the games and comics that kinda remind me of teeny tiny bits of BPD at its smallest. So, I figured BPD would be perfect for him in the fic, the mood swings for the jealousy, the guilt, resentment, heart break, and then picking petty fights. Very obviously, Simon is BPD coded for the simple fact of all these changes in his life, and because I believe he would have a form of this disorder since it can be developed and inherited from genetics (his father, the asshole has some screws loose in his head and likely could have gotten it from him.)

But let's dig a little deeper into his head.

Abandonment. He hasn't had many to stay with him, they all die, either because of him or just in the battlefield. His father was abusive, his mom didn't appear to do much about it, then his brothers family was murdered. So yes, Simon is terrified of the thought of losing his love and family.

And feeling the things he felt one day? Yeah, that'd scare the fuck out of anyone feeling that shit for the first time. Imagine thinking that you don't love someone anymore, or vise versa, a normal person would talk about it with their partner, right? Yeah well not Simon.

Simon pushes Mama away, in fear of him getting hurt, or him hurting her.

The first chapter has been deleted and rewritten. So. Many. Times. I couldn't quite figure out how I wanted to play it. I'm a sucker for things that don't make sense. I like to come up with theories, to watch everything play out, to wait and see.

So, that's what I did. The other drafts I had was too straight forward and I felt like wasn't going to capture anyone's attention because I wanted people to think 'Why the fuck is Simon doing this?'

I wanted him complicated. So complicated that it would make so many people mad, why you may ask? Because I wanted people to try and understand what this feels like. Confused, angry that you don't understand. I wanted people to relate to Simon without them knowing. And for a few, I saw that I did. I wanted him extra flawed, make lots of mistakes and act on impulse that result in bad outcomes and then have him figure out how to fix it and come to terms with himself.

I often stress myself in deep thought that maybe I have over complicated this fic. I've over complicated it so much that people who did give it a chance have just kinda dipped because it's too much, there's little information (or a fuck ton) in massive chapters and they only stayed for the romance for Keegan (which I completely understand, I love to write Keegan but I also have ground to cover for Simon too.)

I think maybe some have forgotten this fic is about Simon and Keegan. It's about both of them trying to figure out what's going on. Yes, the fic is kinda about Simon and his feelings, but Keegan also has his own set of struggles, just like mama; fuck it, EVERYONE has struggles at this point.

Simon is a first time father and husband, he makes mistakes, mama makes mistakes, everyone does in the fic. Simon just has a very poor fashion of expressing himself and owning up to it (hence why he's so slow and hesitant to do anything)

Simon is in a way, a villain. He's not a justified one completely, and he's also not a psychopath given he's feeling a lot of guilt and sadness and overall feeling very shitty. Everyone has very different opinions, and I almost think that they are going to change the farther along we go.

I'm sorry if Simon's reasoning is boring. I'm sorry you were hoping for something grand and super seriously shocking and cliche that others would write but I wanted to strive for extremely different. I wanted to do things that people wouldn't even think about.

If I have forgotten anything, let's yap about it. Or, if you wanna yap about other characters, LETS DO IT.

[starryroe]

Hey im an aspec follower of urs and im really grateful for your aro post mourning aro people. This is gonna be a long vent post, so… im sorry for dumping this on you 😔

All the world views us as disposable and tragic fables and constantly gaslights us about our own lived truths. The goalpost for acceptance in the queer community doesnt even exist because so much of it is just built on a reappropriation of amatanormative standards and it really feels like there’s simply nowhere to go and nobody to turn to because no one thinks of us. Anyone who cant understand the language of desire is exiled from its community of speakers, and to me each day feels like ive been doomed to drift through some kind of purgatorial void for my entire life. We cant have our own language, culture, or history. People say oppression of aro and ace people isnt “as bad”, but that’s the thing, we’re not even allowed to describe our exclusion and silencing and erasure and abuse and tokenizing as “violence” at all. Perhaps due to a certain assumption of inevitability, or some belief that amatormativity is natural to an extent. And im really tired of being ridiculed and dismissed and of being pressured into relationships that would make me miserable. Im really tired of no one thinking it is worth their time or energy to understand my perspective on relationships and desire. Im really tired of being the butt of jokes about being single. Im really tired of being my friends’ second or third priority. Im really tired of feeling worthless and stupid. And mostly im just Tired. And i wish when people saw me they saw my pain and hurt for what they are instead of painting their own colors over it to fix me.

🫶

I hope you could find some solace in venting out your feelings to me. I understand a lot of this. I have had multiple wonderful relationships almost if not fully fall apart because I would not give someone the security of having a partner, and I have in the past gotten myself in relationships with the sole scope of not losing someone like that. Don't even have to say it but it didn't end well for anyone.

Our struggles are silent to the rest of the world. Most people don't know we exist and so could not even begin to think about how we're feeling. To the people to whom we exist we still can't be doing that bad because obviously the whole world doesn't know us. It is a struggle every identity who faces in invisibility knows.

But I don't think it's hopeless. Asexual activism has done great steps in the last few years and I am extremely hopeful that we aromantic can take the same. And together we can show ourselves to the whole world and be free.

[thenewgeneration]

18+ BLOG

Ran by and follows back as @asktheevilgeniusesson

Hello and welcome to my Sonic FANKID OC blog! Lets go over what this all is and the rules, yeah?

First, basically what this blog is, is a roleplay blog of primarily STH fankids from various ships and pairings! A fun way for me to be self indulgent and others with sonic muses to explore their muse being a parent essentially! (Those who are comfortable with fankids that is.)

There will be MULTIPLE ships shown here. None of which will ever be pedophilic or incest. All shipchildren are from pairings that are two consenting adults that arent related to eachother. And i understand not everyone is multiship or LIKES certain pairings, which is fine! You are allowed to cherrypick which fankids you interact with, i wont be upset at all! This is all for fun afterall.

Now the RULES.

1. Shipping with the fankids will not be allowed with any muse that is UNDER 18. Which will probably be most of the muses hereif not all! Which means the only shipping that’ll be seen is the parents of the children and that is up to the other roleplayers who the parents are.

2. NSFT asks are NOT ALLOWED here. If anyone is acting weird twords the muses here (ex: pedophilic behavior, wether it be ‘joking’ or not, will be DELETED.) i will not tolerate creeps. Get the fuck off my blogs if you’re a Pedo. Ew.

3. This blog will contain dark themes no doubt. Mentions of murder and etc, you get the gist. I doubt thar any of the fankids here will have abusive trauma, i’d talk to my rp partners about that before going through with a thread even mentioning a child being abused, but other dark topics are likely to arise. I am a person who enjoys giving trauma and lore to my muses, so while abuse is the least likely to showup, other dark themes will. Please be advised. I will tag as necessary.

4. No Godmodding. Obviously. Do not harass me or my roleplay partners because of specific ships or fanchildren, your comment or ask will be deleted. Behave yourselves, this is all for fun.

Below the cut i will be listing the OCS, who their parents are(the ship they are from), and their little stories. Aswell as other blogs ran by the mod.

Muses:

Kesshō T. Jackhog. (Mephinite pairing)

“Kesshō is a hybrid between a ‘hedgehog’ (a diety) and a Jackal (infinite), She was born missing an arm due to some things that went wrong with a mortal mingling with a deity, but otherwise is healthy. She has long dreadlike hair like her ‘mother’ (infinite) but keeps it all in a large ponytail that hangs under her quills. Shes nearly the spitting image of her father, with some jackal traits like massive long ears, long snoot, but has no mouth like her father. The third eye was a mutation that doesnt affect her heavily. She has rollerskates that are meant to ‘mimic shadows jetshoes but better’. Shes a generally softspoken and quiet type, only talkative around her parents or those she trusts.”

Age: 5Yrs old.

Gender: Female.

Appearance:

Taiyō T. Hedgehog. (Mephadow pairing)

“Taiyō isnt a hybrid, due to Mephiles mostly assuming a hedgehog form, but the deity being his father causes him to look abit abnormal. His sclera color is inherited from meph and due to the pairing being two powerful hedgehogs, the little ones chaos energy was incredibly unstable, causing him to require his own inhibitor rings so their child didnt just fucking kill himself trying to get ahold of the fact hes alive and flowing with chaos energy and alien blood. The chaos flow+black arms DNA causes him to have a second eye. Hes incredibly fluffy due to shadows intense fluff. He is a very innocent and confused being, hardly being alive for too long, hes very sweet, talkative, and excited to meet new people, wether they be friend or foe.”

Age: 4

Gender: Male

Appearance:

Spark T. Hedgehog (Sonilver)

“Born from two well known and praised hedgehogs, Spark is abit of a wildcard. Due to sonic being the ‘mother’ of the pair, his unknowingness of sparks existence caused him to emerge without a leg. But thankfully as spark got older he was given a Running Blade leg prosthetic to be able to move normally. Luckily, spark inherits more psychokinesis than super speed, so the fake leg hasnt squandered his powers. Hes still learning how to use his powers as of right now and is slowly getting the hang of it, ut phantom pains from his missing leg have caused his learning to be a struggle. Like his blue father, Spark has a small attentionspan and cant sit still very long. But has picked up his sassy, rude attitude from silver. He is not afraid to backtalk anyone. That includes his parents.”

Age: 7

Gender: Male

Nova T. Hedgehog (metilver)

“Nova is an interestingly-patterned hedgehog, picking up Neo/Metals massive and long spiked quills, makes quill care a struggle for both parents. She has inherited a weaker psychokinesis and struggles to lift anything larger than a Table currently, but shes trying to get better at her powers. Born with a Resting Botch Face, she always looks grouchy and grumpy, but shes.. the opposite. Picking up more of the kinder personality of silver, she loves to be helpful and useful around the house, and around other people. Probably becoming a people pleaser.”

Age: 6

Gender: Fem

Dandruff T. Hedgehog (sonadow)

“Born with nearly pure albinism, Dandruff was definitely a surprise to the two hedgehogs when their first child came out nearly pure white with light red stripes and markings and a bright red moon mark on her forehead. Dandruff is a very odd child, both angry and grouchy like shadow but excited and hyperactive like sonic, its definitely an odd mix for the two to deal with, especially when she inherits more chaos energy then super speed. One sneeze sends her teleporting somewhere else.”

Age: 5

Gender: Female

Kokutan T. Jackhog (Mephinadow (inf,meph,shadow))

“To say Kokutan is an odd child is an.. understatement. With mostly jackal attributes, the attributes of his other fathers comes in an.. odd way. A mix of white&black, with the tealish green and bright red of the hedgehogs makes an odd looking child to be nice about it. Kokutan is flowing with chaos energy and some influence of the ruby. His scelara and three eyes can be seen as creepy but his fathers love him no matter it. Hes still learning how to do his abilities due to how chaotic his genetics are. Hes very kind and respectful, hard to piss off, and genuinely a good listener.”

Age: 7

Gender: Male

Dice T. Jackhog (shadfinite)

“Dice is probably the only one who isnt beaming with chaos energy, its a controlled amount with this little one who looks more hedgehog then jackal, with the main jackal characteristic being the large bushy tail. Dice hasnt a clue she even has any chaos energy inside her right now, shes yet to see it happen as with the controlled amount, she has to force it out instead of it happening on a whim. Dice was born blind, which is why her eyes look normal- but she cannot see. Despite this, she is hyperactive and excited by every little thing, which is dangerous for a child who cant see.”

Age: 5

Gender: Female

Chopper T. Fokal (inftails)

“Chopper is an interesting little fella. While he has some of his dads(tails) smarts and his moms (infs) bad temper, he seems to be something of a bipolar child. Switching from incredibly kind to a real jackass on the flip of a coin, but usually thats directed to strangers, but it doesnt protect his parents from getting the tail-end of his persona. He never means what he does or says when he gets mad but hes an explosive little hybrid. That wont stop him from wanting cuddles and attention though.”

Age: 5

Appearance:

Tank T. Hedgehog (metadow)

“Tank is a very, very grouchy little hedgehog, Picking up both his parents grouchy and moody personalities, he is very, very hard to get along with unless you’re his mom or dad. He will infact start clawing or scratching your legs or even daring to bite you if he feels like it, inheriting chaos energy from his father (shadow), he uses it to his advantage to scare the fuck out of his parents, or people who piss him off. Hes been taught to bite by metal. And keeps that lesson close to his heart.”

Age: 8

Apperance:

Jewel T. Echidbat (knuxouge)

“Jewel is, essentially, a little shit™️, despite appearing adorable, gently and sweet by appearance, he is anything BUT. he inherits knuckles anger issues and rouges sassyness, he is not afraid to backtalk anyone, even his parents. His wings are still yet to grow in, but he does have knuckles’ super strength. And rouges infactuation with shiny expensive things thanks to her exposing him to it at a young age. With being a little shit, comes a short attention span. Making it hard for knuckles to teach him the ways of the echidna and the guarding of the emerald when he refuses to listen to it.”

Age: 8

Appearance:

[lighttothecityofroses]

the consensus seems to be that gay sex would not fix either of them (hiram or archie). would anything?

look it depends on who they’re having gay sex with. i think if archie had gay sex (was gay en géneral) with jughead, i think that would’ve fixed him. archie is fundamentally a representation of ideal american masculinity (white, “straight”, strong+hot) with the added on characteristic of being a Good Guy. it tracks that archie’s prime directive is To Protect. protect who? his father, his mother, his girlfriend, his friends, gay kevin, etc. 90% of the story is moved by the fact that archie wants to protect people. hell, even the thing with grundy is in the ballpark of “protect/save/rescue” because she had an abusive husband (?) (i don’t remember). mostly, each season has archie’s rescue+protect instinct running through it all times. considering all of this, it makes sense that archie usually has a girl on his arm - someone that he can “protect” (not in the way that reddit incels fantasize about putting a woman in a saw trap so they can save her, but in a genuine, sort of expressing-his-affection kind of way.)

unfortunately betty and ronnie are both pretty independent women, as are josie, valerie, tabitha and most of the other women archie encounters. which means whenever archie is in a relationship with one of these women, he’s fundamentally standing on the side unable to really do anything. it’s why reggie+veronica don’t work out either in the end, in line with the idea that reggie is essentially a darker mirror of archie.

but you know who ISNT an independent girlboss? jughead! from day one jughead’s story has been attached to archie - from the moment archie didn’t show up for the trip, jughead started seething and frothing at the mouth thinking about archie and girls. even then, jughead does not go on the trip. jughead does not do anything, actually, unless he is partnered with one of the other riverteens. betty in season one, toni in season 2, archie in season 3, betty&archie in season 4, etc. jughead, left to his own devices, becomes the wettest most pathetic boywaif ever known to man. he camps out in a drive-in theater projection box. he lives in a cupboard under the school stairs. he gets beat to near-death. he gets beat to near-death again. he gets buried alive, conked on the head, fake-murdered, eaten by rats? made deaf? and whatever the hell else goes on with jughead. jughead exists in a perpetual state of distress, a Someone Who Needs Saving.

arguably, this is perfect for archie. archie needs someone to love him completely without him having to change anything about himself, and there is no one more devoted to the idea of archie than jughead. jughead, on thé other hand, needs someone to stick by him unconditionally, without abandoning him for “something better”. there is, quite literally, no one who embodies man’s best friend (see when i say man i mean it; the instances of him cheating on ronnie are. well) better in the entire town. archie would provide jughead with someone to protect+serve, and jughead would provide archie with someone who loves him no matter how “bad” he gets. unstoppable force x immovable object ygm

hiram, on the other hand. gay sex in the hirarchie dynamic would not fix anything for either party, i fear. i do think hiram is aggressively “male”, the same way that archie is, but in a bad light. there is obviously the racial angle there: mark consuelos is mexican, and hiram is implied (?) to be cuban (?). obviously he contrasts archie very significantly, who is the all-american teenage boy, to hiram’s latam-immigrant-drug-dealer-cartel-leader thing. inherently the story says that all of archie’s “acts of aggression” are either for good, pure reasons, or they’re “mistakes”. hiram’s aggression on the other hand is always villainous - it’s the rules of the context riverdale is set in. (this is obviously in line with their character histories, i’m just pointing out the obvious, because the racial context does indeed matter.) “corrupting outsider” being a brown man does in fact get turned on its head in the last season when the thesis of the show is stated outright “the threat is here, at home, in wholesome, suburban america”. but still. hiram existing to follow genre conventions contrasted against archie who is following his own genre conventions is just interesting to me. point being that i think gay sex to hiram would be like the homosexuality of greek military legend or homosociality taken to the next level (i.e. women are for having children.) i think fundamentally he wishes veronica had been a son; i think that hermione and veronica (and hermosa) having a majority role in his life makes him long for the male-only spaces of the mob - in the sauna, in the private meetings, in that one scene where he brings archie into his study and shuts the doors on veronica. i think perhaps fishing-trip-esque homosexual relations for hiram might fix him, in the way that beating up people in dark alleys “fixed” his “disease” in s4, but between hirarchie it would only further sexually traumatise poor archie and severely depress hiram.

(i think also half the fun of archie, to hiram, is the fact that he cannot stop him, so he keeps having to take bigger swings at archie. if in-show he really did want to take advantage of archie for sex reasons alone, it wouldn’t have been hard considering archie was already very vulnerable. this is not to say that hiram did not use the same tactics as grundy - trust/secrecy/validation - but it was for a different outcome. hiram’s prime directive is competition - to have archie under his thumb so completely would have bored him.)

the inherent comedy of “mob boss in competition with his teenage daughter’s boyfriend” is really lost if it turns into something sexual; to me it just becomes tragic and has some really disturbing connotations vis a vis the racial context of the whole setup.

ANYWAY what i think would REALLY fix the both of them is daily affirmations and recreational wood-chopping. channel that “masculine rage” into something productive. go chop some firewood for the murder chalet in the woods!

[gregoftom]

First time watcher again and yeah, I am seeing a lot of comments on tomgreg as I mark an episode as watched on TV Time. A lot of people say that Tom doesnt actually love Greg, he just projects onto him the cycle of abuse he gets from Shiv. And honestly? It might be, but its even more tasteful if yeah its starts out like that, Tom nor Greg have romantic feelings for each other at first -- its that complexy of emotions and layers that is their relationship -- but over time it truly starts to shift between something romantic. And how ironic is it that in this scenario Tom fall first? Tom realizing that amidst the depth of layers of their relationship he didnt clock that he was unconciously falling in love, genuinely falling in love with the one person he could rely on in the middle of the chaos that being in the Roy family brings. And on Greg's end too, Greg who asked Tom so many times to save his ass and sees Tom as someone that would protect him from a lot of corporate crap slowly realizing that he also cares for Tom in a way he... didnt really notice before that he does.

I guess I am trying to say is that the interpretation that Tomgreg arent in love at all and their relationship is a mirror to the cycle of abuse on the show could still be valid, but isnt it beautiful and more spicy that it starts out this way only for Tom and Greg down the road realize they subconsiously love each other? I also think that with all the relationships in the show theirs is the more bonded and truthful, even if they are chaotic.

hiiii! first of all i’m very happy to hear you’re engaging with the show and tg so thoughtfully! that’s epic. second of all i do like your ideas and how you feel about it! but if you wanna hear my thoughts?

cupids arrow for tom. first sight. obsessed and crazy about greg as soon as he saw him. he couldn’t take his eyes off of him. greg i think at least liked tom in the beginning [possibly even was interested in him beyond that, point of interest, greg was originally intended to be written to be gay] and it evolved and grew as the show went on. as for realising how they felt i think that’s quite a complex thing and depends on how you view them, and we have to throw denial into the mix, and how we as individuals feel abt each character. some hc both of them to have one sexuality, the others another, first of all. some people might say greg is repressed, others might say not at all. it’s all a personal view! but it’s great no matter what as you say, it’s very interesting!

as for “tg only exist as a mirror to ts” or whatever, i find that so fucking boring. not only that, it is incorrect. first of all, the costume department purposefully dressed tom and greg to match for their outfits, whereas with tom and shiv, they made them mismatching, to show us tom’s true partner, i believe was the phrase used. if tom and greg exist only to exactly be a foil to tom and shiv, then why is that the case? that’s just one example. as for projecting onto greg like. i’m not gonna say that there is zero correlation between tom, shiv and greg because. obviously there is. but it is not 1:1. it is never 1:1 on succ. greg is tom’s “other woman”. he is the side piece. that is not even subtext in some cases, it is plain text. they at the very least, were having an emotional affair. people who say there is no real love between them at all… rewatch and pay attention this time. half of toms actions would not make sense if he didn’t truly care for greg. their relationship does not only exist to provide a foil for tom and shiv, if that was the case, why did they both win at the end? why were they the only ones who did? why is their relationship, as you say, one of a firmer bond than every other in the show? when you get to the end you’ll see they’re still standing which is more than can be said for literally any relationship in the show.

to say that there is nothing to it other than tom projecting is not only less interesting, it’s also untrue.

[atticmonsterstream]

TL:DR Life has always been kinda terrible and for the first time ever, it's not and I am happy.

[TW in post, Talk of Suicide/Self Harm]

I'm not really sure why I am sharing this now, or what has compelled me to share this story, but I feel like it might make somebody smile, and even if this post is a bit of a thread, I always see people share negative or sad posts (Especially on Twitter) and I kinda wanna change that a little.

I grew up as a really sad kid, like I was full on depressed most of my entire life, I'd spend nights just randomly crying or just being miserable, stuck in my own head and thoughts all of the time, all the way until I was a teeneger, where I hit the lowest point of my life. I hit that rock bottom where you start to have thoughts that nobody ever should, and even acted on them a few times, and luckily survived, but always felt worse for it, until I found an escape online, and because of escapism, started to be somebody (Or something) else online. That's how AtticMonster came to be. It started with Second Life, and eventually became my entire presence online, a dumb black and green lizard and a way to not be myself anymore, and in the time that I have been Attic, I have discovered so much about myself by finding out what 'Attic' liked.

I didn't like men, of course not, cause that would be gay right? But Attic? He was free to do what he wanted, who could judge somebody that didn't exist. Wearing women's clothes? What am I trans? Don't be stupid. But Attic? He isnt even real, so it didn't matter what he wore. I know now that those things don't matter, but young me thought I'd be crucified for it. For so long I closed off my life to everything I felt about myself and split myself in two because I have always feared not being accepted, and had always played it safe, I was a bit of a shitty person in real life because I was playing the character of me, or what I perceived as me, and online I was who I wanted to be but felt like I couldn't be. Because of this, I let real me kind of fall to the side. I got in debt, I got fat, I didn't look after myself and left a huge mess for me to fix later Because I didn't plan on there being a later, and maybe escaped online a little too hard, but in the last few years, I've finally realised that online me and real me are the same person, of course. Part of obviously always knew this, and realising that I could be who I was online, but in person, really changed my life for the better. I learned about being non-binary from an old friend and Steven Universe, and so I became they/them and am infinitely more comfortable with it. I learned how to talk to people, to make friends, to rely on people because of the furry community, and for the first time I felt like I wasn't alone. I learned how to take charge of my life seeing so many friends fight battles so much vaster than my own, friends going through trans journeys, friends with abusive partners, people losing partners, people losing everything, and what was my problem? I don't even know anymore, I was just sad.

Fast forwards a few years to now, and I finally think I've managed to work things out. I have a great job, and I've paid off over half of all the debt I got myself into (and trust me, the number was sickeningly high, you don't wanna know).

I am more myself than ever, I am non binary, I am fucking weird, and I'm proud of it. I absolutely LOVE streaming, and I work hard every day to make it better and better, because there's nothing I'd love to do more focus all my time and energy into it (Curse you Bezoz for not paying us more!) But I think the most important thing is, for the first time in a long time:

I am happy.

[domesticabuser]

This is a random question and I swear based off the time stamp I know you thought you were genuinely in love and abuse is complicated yadda yadda. This isn’t me going “oh you still dated him even tho he’s a pro shipper/mobrei fan” because obviously you were kinda groomed to still be into him or whatever you can call it. But like I seen you fight that gross art stuff on here for years. Why didn’t you tell people then (or at least earlier after breakup) THIS ISNT ME BEING MEAN I PROMISE. Im just a bit surprised bc you been against art like that since I been following you when you were 16? Also you should post more screenshots maybe his friends will FINALLY leave him

because he was my partner and since he was projecting all of that onto me / acting like i was his shota little brother i wanted him to keep liking me he was fully aware i was hypersexual i needed that validation though i was worried he wouldnt wanna be with me if i didnt like... please him sexually if you get what i mean. even tho i felt less like a human every time:3