#especially in ads

[jeanjauthor]

...I just saw an ad for Depends for Men, and I just wanted to share how proud I am that we can finally talk about men having incontinence issues without shaming men.

Women...the pelvic muscles do get weakened over time. They get weakened from childbirth, and also from lack of orgasms (no, seriously, that is an issue; those suckers are kegel exercises when "done right"), and also just from age in general. We expect to hear about women needing Depends...and we hear about women needing them because "women are weak!"

So the lack of hearing about men needing them has long been a deliberate enforcement of the toxic masculinity idea that they don't need genuine help...and if they do, well, then "that man is too weak to be a man!" *eyeroll, heavysigh*

...Perhaps you can see why I'm excited to see an advertisement about a man being confident in an important moment (walking his daughter up the aisle on her wedding day), not having to worry about a little uncontrollable moment of bladder leakage staining his fancy wedding suit trousers.

This is an older man having the best day of his life, helping see his child get married and hopefully have her Happily Ever After, as he himself hopefully got to have one, too, presumably in marrying her mother. And he is seen as strong enough to use the protection needed to make sure the day isn't spoiled by embarrassment at...well..something that just happens as you get older.

Because those pelvic floor muscles are there in all humans, regardless of gender, and they do get weakened over time. Age does that to a person. And not only needing help, but using something to help? That is a source of strength in this moment, in this ad. It's not a source of shame, but a source of relief.

The ad especially didn't talk about how embarrassing things would be if he didn't use their product. it just talked about him having peace of mind on his daughter's big day.

It was an ad supportive of a genuine health issue that many men can and will face over the course of their lifetime, and I loved seeing it.

[egophiliac]

looking at next month's schedule and between the end of 7-12 and the wishing lantern event it's like

February is officially RIDDLE MONTH, brace yourselves to be absolutely blasted into ashes everybody

[ruushes]

mom said it's my turn on the silly batstarion drawings

[somewhereincairparavel]

“jason is so cold and inconsiderate” his natural instinct when he found out nico was staying at camp was to hug him tightly but he restrained himself because nico mentioned to jason ONCE that he doesn't like being touched. consent KING

[iliothermia]

Drawing my insecurities on beautiful men I want to be more like / representation I needed as a feminine but not twinkish man over the years has helped me feel much happier and more secure with myself, wanted to share. Highly recommend that process of self love, or at least self-appreciation ?

[sketchytea]

some of my favourite bgs that i painted for episode three of scavengers reign

layout designs by: pauline mauvière, anastassia drobyazko, kirk shinmoto, and alfie marley

[chloesimaginationthings]

Why is he kinda...

These two asks were right next to each other, and I think that’s beautiful

[uncanny-tranny]

This might seem like an "old man yells at cloud" situation, but it's just wild growing up and being told how dangerous distracted driving is - how, at highway speeds, you can traverse the length of a football field (100 yards, 91 meters) in a matter of seconds - how one split second sending a text while driving could result in a potential fatal crash, and then getting on the road as a driver and being surrounded by billboards. Their entire purpose is to catch one's attention, so they're lining major roads, which tend to be highways. How is it that you're told how important it is to never be distracted while driving, but still being advertised to?

At best, this type of advertising is an eyesore to pedestrians and motorists and a general waste of electricity to light it, and at worst, it is an active danger considering they are there to advertise and therefore, must catch people's attention.

I'm not even against advertising in theory, but this particular mode bothers me so much and I hate how pervasive it is - especially in large cities or highways.

[dungeonrabbits]

"chilchucks a real hater"-wrong! chilchucks a lover!!

[tringstarruuu]

Matcha Spring 🍀🍃🍵 .

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wanted to go back in my og loose paint style so I did an experimental style studies (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧

[mwagneto]

how i sleep using cracked spotify premium apk instead of paying and using newpipe apk instead of youtube and using firefox instead of chrome or opera and not paying for any streaming services and downloading movies and shows straight onto usb drives and not connecting any of my accounts and never giving my full name anywhere and not logging into google anywhere and never seeing a single fucking ad no matter where i go

[nenestansunsthings]

FINALLY FINISHED THEM!!!!

after like 34 hours of drawing my illustration of pearl n etho fighting in the ballroom arena is done!!! hope u guys like it!!

[hypokeimena]

In recent years, there has been a rush on the internet to supply image descriptions and to call out those who don’t. This may be an example of community accountability at work, but it’s striking to observe that those doing the most fierce calling out or correcting are sighted people. Such efforts are largely self-defeating. I cannot count the times I’ve stopped reading a video transcript because it started with a dense word picture. Even if a description is short and well done, I often wish there were no description at all. Get to the point, already! How ironic that striving after access can actually create a barrier. When I pointed this out during one of my seminars, a participant made us all laugh by doing a parody: “Mary is wearing a green, blue, and red striped shirt; every fourth stripe also has a purple dot the size of a pea in it, and there are forty-seven stripes—”

“You’re killing me,” I said. “I can’t take any more of that!”

Now serious, she said it was clear to her that none of that stuff about Mary’s clothes mattered, at least if her clothes weren’t the point. What mattered most about the image was that Mary was holding her diploma and smiling. “But,” she wondered, “do I say, Mary has a huge smile on her face as she shows her diploma or Mary has an exuberant smile or showing her teeth in a smile and her eyes are crinkled at the edges?”

It’s simple. Mary has a huge smile on her face is the best one. It’s the don’t-second-guess-yourself option. My thinking around this issue is enriched by the philosopher Brian Massumi’s concept of “esqueness.” He exemplifies it by discussing a kid who plays a tiger:

One look at a tiger, however fleeting and incomplete, whether it be in the zoo or in a book or in a film or video, and presto! the child is tigerized… The perception itself is a vital gesture. The child immediately sets about, not imitating the tiger’s substantial form as he saw it, but rather giving it life—giving it more life. The child plays the tiger in situations in which the child has never seen a tiger. More than that, it plays the tiger in situations no tiger has ever seen, in which no earthly tiger has ever set paw.

Just as the child and an actual tiger are not one bit alike, the words Mary has a huge smile on her face have nothing in common with the picture of Mary holding her diploma. Yet the tiger announces something to the world, its essence, and a kid can become tiger-ized and be tiger-esque, their every act shouting, I am a tiger. The picture of Mary at her graduation is shouting something, and the words Mary has a huge smile on her face are also shouting something. It is at the level beyond each actuality, in the swirl that each stirs up, that the two meet.

(from Against Access, by John Lee Clark - link in notes)

[cosmicredcadet]

I don't think a lot of people realize that lot of their advice to disabled people often boils down to "Get over it." they are trying to be helpful but their idea of helpful is "Just do the thing" because that's what they do. for them they just do things. It comes naturally to just do it.

They don't know how to bridge the gap between you and the task. For them the bridge is already pre-built and stable. For disabled people the bridge is run down, not well kept, it feels unsteady and is hard to get across without being slow and cautious - hell for some people there is no bridge and we need to build it ourselves but we don't have the bridge building tools and no one gives them to us.

"Just cross the bridge." They say before walking over their pre-built bridge. They never gave you the tools to build a bridge to cross.

[etchif]

Vintage Esso-Extra commercial featuring the company's anthropomorphic Tiger mascot

[gummi-ships]

Kingdom Hearts 3 - Scala ad Caelum