#esp seeing family outside of my parents/brother

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Hi, hope it's ok to ask some stuff about your thoughts on mithrun (not sure if it got asked before). But do you think mithrun and his brother might've had a good relationship the beginning? Like when they were really young, maybe even before mithrun noticed the different treatment his parents did to him and his brother. Also do you think that the former mithrun was really in love with that elf? Cause after reading mithrun's part in the adventure bible I'm starting to have a few doubts, esp since that chibi look a like of the elf in question is being described as untrustworthy. Like maybe former mithrun was only into them cause his older brother also seemed to fancy them?

It's always fine to ask me stuff! Though I might not always have time to answer, I love seeing people's questions!!!

I don't know if you've read any of my fics, but I do go into what I think Mithrun and his brother's relationship was like as children in both "Show Me How to Get Off the Ground" (College AU) in chapter 2, and the short fic "A (Fairy) Phone Call Between Brothers."

In summary: I think when they were very young, Mithrun didn't realize that there was something "wrong" with his brother. He was just his best friend, his playmate, they spent all their time together and so of course they were very close. Just the two of them living on a big country estate, while a plague raged through the population - not a lot of chances for play-dates with children outside of their family.

Once Mithrun was old enough to get sent away to boarding school (so around 50 years old - 10 in human terms) he quickly realized that being like his brother (disabled) meant being cast aside and discarded... So he started to put distance between them, and the older they got the colder Mithrun was towards his brother.

I think that Mithrun felt guilty and ashamed for abandoning his brother (similar to how Laios felt guilty for abandoning Falin)... and the fact that his brother kept acting like they were loving siblings made the guilt even worse, and turned it into anger and resentment.

As for the mysterious elf (gender unknown) that Mithrun and his brother were both interested in... No, I don't think Mithrun ever truly loved them. Like you said, Mithrun thought that the snake spouse elf wasn't trustworthy, so I assume that means he thought they were a gold digger. Somebody that was only interested in Mithrun and his brother because their family is very wealthy.

I think Mithrun ignored his own desires (wanting to date, or have sex with the snake spouse) because he thought they were a bad match, that his parents wouldn't approve, or that they were dangerous to his social status...

So when the magic mirror showed him his brother happy with the snake spouse, Mithrun was overwhelmed with jealousy and regret. He worries about if he misjudged the snake spouse. What if they were actually wonderful, and now Mithrun has missed out on the love of his life because he thought he was too good for them? And now his brother has them instead?

I think Mithrun's story is complicated, and Kui tends to suggest things rather than explicitly tell us what happened, so there's a lot of things to speculate about, and different ways you could read it all.

Thanks for writing to me and asking! It was fun to answer <3

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something i havent seen (im sure it's out there i just havent seen it) is that while a part of louis and claudia's relationship is of course very much framed by how claudia is constantly made to be in second place to louis' romantic partners (who are also not good to her or to louis) is the way that they're family, and it's complicated, but ultimately - i think - a positive family for one another, rather than the kind of family you leave and never speak to again if you can help it (that would be lestat...)

whether louis is father/mother/uncle/brother, he's not really "friend," (and vice versa, claudia as child/niece/sister) and so there's always going to be a specific dynamic that is complicated in the way the family you grow up with is complicated, and is even more complicated because using any of those words is technically incorrect and they fully had lives before they met, but for the sake of this particular read i think this fits closest. caretaker, perhaps

the point is - and it's not something i can make particularly coherently at the moment - related to how i feel about my siblings (esp my younger siblings) vs how i feel about other people in my life. my siblings simply are, whether or not we get on all the time, whether i feel sad or not that our lives have grown apart since adulthood, whether or not other people in their and my life take precedence during particular times (which can take many different forms -- for them more romantic, for me more community related, the language for where we're going in life just looks different than it did when we were kids)

when louis lets claudia down, but at the same time promises "you and me/me and you" those two things aren't paradoxical to one another, because there is a certain "taking for granted" that can happen -- claudia is always going to be there, just like louis assumes he will also simply be there, while at the same time having that jealousy and expectation that comes with his being older than her that she'll always depend on him to an extent (and she does, but he maybe doesn't take into account how much he depends on her, because being older/feeling like he has "the responsibility" while also suffering serious mental health issues... lotta mess he puts on her shoulders, as we can see)

when claudia joins the coven that takes away louis' feeling of being of use anymore, he doesn't define himself outside of claudia ("if there was no me...") -- and also outside of lestat/his romantic relationships but that's a different post -- and claudia is moving on, but look, armand is there, claudia's got what she wants, louis got something, and they're both still there (am also reminded of how when claudia comes back in s1, it's explicitly once she sees louis sobbing over his grave when his sister declares him dead)

the idea of claudia not being there terrifies louis, he experienced that loss twice in new orleans, once when she left and didn't come back for years, and once when lestat forced her back immediately, and then again the idea of it when she joins the coven (but then he pulls himself back from the edge of letting armand kill him when he fears for her life) and then in a big way when she goes with madeleine, and he knows they're better together than he could ever be for her, but she's still his in that sibling/parent/caretaker feeling kind of way, and this is a loss even though it's important, and also, with being a vampire, she possibly could have still eventually circled back every 100 years or so -- such is the nature of family. they're still there, even if you don't see them for a very long time

and now, finally, forever. claudia is no longer there

im just. yes, louis let her down. but he let her down like you let your family down, by assuming that no matter what, they were a given. claudia can't simply... not be there anymore... she's his family. you argue and you make up and you fuck up and you forgive and you're still there, no matter how messed up you feel or how much you grow apart

she's so right in asking that question: who is louis outside of her? but not just because louis has had the worst luck in life (human and vampire) and been unable to form himself specifically because of *waves hands at everything,* but also because when you see yourself as a caretaker (whether or not you're doing a good job of it), who are you when that person wants to move on from you, doesn't need you in the way you want to be needed, when that person perhaps leaves your life for good?

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what do u think darrys actual headspace was when all the socs went to college and he had to dropout or couldnt really afford what they had anyways? im always thinking about how he had to straddle both worlds and how much that affected him.

hi you have officially opened the can of actually insane darry brainworms i have so. prepare for an actual essay.

WELL. if we have seen my account ever i am very much of the opinion that him going off to college, against all odds and disadvantages that greasers have to go through, and then having to drop out midway through, is imo a ton more devastating for him as a character than not getting to go at all — i guess in that case it’d probably be a ton easier for him to let go of the “soc life” he lived (or pretended to live) bc he’d probably just start working immediately out of graduation and that’d kinda be that. he never got a taste of the college life anyway, he worked hard but never got the chance to get out, a greaser is all he’ll ever be no matter how much he deluded himself in high school. bc most greasers don’t get out, the cycle of poverty and abuse (for most greasers, not necessarily darry) continues generation after generation

BUT. the idea of him working part time throughout high school, making connections w the socs to move on up and faking his way through both worlds, working his ass of at getting good grades and being the best on the football team to get scholarships, and his parents having their own careers & slowly saving up what they can to send him to a community college or in the city/city adjacent and not Terribly expensive like socs get to go to is SO intriguing to me. bc. he GOT OUT. he got out of the cycle that greasers simply don’t ever ever break, and he got out. like he was finally actually OUT. he finally got a taste of what it feels like to work and work and work and for it to FINALLY pay off.. just for his life to be completely flipped upside down & for it to be taken away all over again, out of circumstances he couldn’t even control. he can’t just work harder and work himself out of his parents dying. he wanted out and he GOT out, but tbh at the end of the day no matter how much he wanted out of greaser hood, his brothers come first & he’d never have lived with himself if he didn’t do all he could to keep his family together, even if it meant giving up what he’s worked for for his entire life (in terms of headspace though, during the dropout itself idk if he’d be so concerned with the soc/greaser issue as he would be that. yk his literal parents just died lol.)

& in terms of straddling both lives, you are so right, esp in high school!! particularly bc i kinda see darry as a conformist?? like he doesn’t really wanna Stand Out, he just wants to get by, he wants to work hard and take pride in what he does yk. i think as much as he was football captain and boy of the year and was super popular and “ran the school” so to speak though, he’d sort of always deep down feel like he’s on the outside looking in bc. he IS. he isn’t like the socs and he never will be. i think post-book, him coming to terms with & being okay with that (“i was born a greaser, so grease is all that ill get” “take pride in the greaser name” etc) would be major in terms of self compassion & forgiveness lol

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ACOTAR headcanons // (au) cassian

I feel like I need to put a disclaimer before my favs on here block me for being a cassian!girlie, BUT I'M NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS I SWEAR 😂😂😂 PLS LOVE ME ANYWAY I HAVE THE BRAINWORMS RN BEAR WITH ME

That said, I don't think I have much Cassian content to post aside from this (until Cassian week).

Anyway, this is in regards to my au!cassian, also known as Wildflowers!Cassian (my canon-divergent prequel fic), also ALSO known as Mathian (mathi!cassian -- shout out to @wingsdippedingold for the name I love it, I'm adopting it his full name is Cassian Mathian the first of his name, general of the night court, etc etc.).

The Tamlin x Cassian besties brainworms have taken a hold of me so, I've stopped fighting it.

ABOUT MATHI'S CASSIAN

uses 'bro' way too much.

imagines the mating bond to be something akin (but not as good) as having the perfect gym bro who spots you and supports you when you're trying to hit a PR

mental health adage: pain without gains is a no-no. it means that you should not be suffering pointlessly, and will encourage you to address ur problems so you can have MENTAL GAINS too.

values truth and justice, would fight his own people for doing the wrong thing; case in point, he was horrified at Rhys' misuse of his daemati abilities.

would never sleep with Mor because he knew Azriel liked her -- that's wrong bro. he would try to find a different way out, maybe 1v1 eris in a fallmart parking lot if it came down to it. i also feel like he's the type of character to make sure that someone's first time is really, really special. he would pull out all the stops to make his partner feel comfortable.

his favourite greeting @ tamlin is a headbutt or tackle. there is no reality where they don't end up wrestling, it's very embarassing to rhys and lucien as the local 'himbo' handlers.

i believe the proper characterization for cassian to be the himbo trifecta: kind, handsome and a lil bit dumb.

10/10 would save kittens from trees, also 10/10 would mistake a tasmanian devil for a cat that needs to be saved and gets scratched the hell out of him

vegetarian ally, he actually tried to start going vegan to support tamlin -- at least, when they're together -- but the unanimous consensus was that for the sake of prythian and its inhabitants, no one should suffer those bean/tofu farts (you might think this is a joke, but i will NOT expand on my tofu experience thanks) and he also thinks being vegetarian is beans only so like guys he's TRYING

it's very important to me that cassian is gray romantic or demi-romantic; i like to imagine that he feels very deeply, which is why he hides it with is silliness, and with his upbringing, it's not very easy to open up his world to anyone. idk, cassian sleeping around doesn't particularly speak to me. take this with a grain of salt, i haven't explored this side of him enough to be definitive.

rhys and azriel are his brothers, tamlin is his best friend in the whole world. rhys and tamlin killing each other's parents and the subsequent rift would have broken his heart, he would have sad puppied the rest of the series if I had any say in it.

i think if not for his bargain w/ rhys, he would have absolutely reached out for tamlin for help when Rhys disappeared (spoilers for my sequel mb???)

he is a super senshi at heart -- sailor mars, specifically, is his fav. he sees himself in her OK.

cassian is short, esp for a fae he's like 5'7"-5'10" at best and its great bc we love a short king

plays pranks on Tamlin the most bc Rhys is a smartass, Azriel is a knowitall, Mor and Lucien just don't believe him, he's scared of Amren and Tamlin always listens

i'm anti-bond in general, so i wouldn't mate him with anyone, but if the vibes are there, the vibes are there.

cassian is the first person outside Tamlin's family to help him do his hair

i think people underestimate the comedic value of cassian toting people around under his arms as a legit travel method. oh, someone isn't showing up? send cassian, he will fetch them for u

cassian did impersonate tamlin for a day in his court bc tamlin/cassian had a bet with everyone else that they AREN'T the same person and they are very, very, very different -- nobody noticed the switch, they just thought tamlin was having a very silly day. cassian even chatted up the local wildlife which... is very tamlin. the only things that did notice were the Green (flora magic) that were very 🙄🙄🙄 at cassian

is anti-tithe bc he doesn't know what it means; he suggested everyone donate a part of their earnings so that they can have a very big savings account to pay for things that affect the collectivity of the court, he is also taking NO NOTES on his brilliant idea nONE

tamlin will never say it, but cassian's birthday gifts are his fav (they r usually really ugly matching shirts with something really dumb on them)

I'll probably expand on this list if I have ideas, but I feel like this gives a decent framework to the type of character when ✨I✨ am referring to him. As a person, I do not live in the canon universe, and I have decided to make a personalized blorbo out of Cassian.

This is also the energy I bring my twitter memes 😂

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the other thing i really wanted to mention about CotC in more detail, esp after watching new episodes, was the times the series tackles abusive family in a way thats heavily implied or straight up shown.

most obvious example of this was the episode "Scoutguest", where Craig allows Jason to come home after he says he lost his keys. What is actually most interesting about this episode is it focuses on how Craig is completely oblivious, and how Jason's home life shows his submissiveness in home environments. The first example was Craig and Bernard fighting about chores, and Jason just goes and does the chores for him, stating he wanted to save them the argument. I'm sure many who can immediately find this familiar- the act of doing something good in order to stop your parents from yelling at you or others in the house. You just want it to stop. But Craig not knowing any better, uses this behavior to his benefit. going through the episode, Craig's mom eventually calls the number shes given (which, we dont actually know was Jason's mom, and i think it probably wasnt- probably another source that knows jason's situation) and learns/understands whats up, and is kind to him as a guest. She doesnt tell Craig anything- he's a child, itd be hard to explain, and it may be invasive to Jason to explain it to Craig. regardless, she encourages Craig to be kind and when Craig hears Jason say somethings on his own he comes to realizing how different things are- and pieces together things. There is a lesson in realizing you should watch how you treat others, not presume about other's lives, and that some times someone seeking help may be doing so in a very discreet/not obvious way.

but (spoilers for newest episodes) i actually found this topic interesting to look at with Xavier. Xavier is a bully, hes mean. We learned that Xavier never had friends because he realized they just liked how he has cool stuff, and because of that, he just bullied people back, and felt that being King got him attention enough to feel good. hes a child, and Craig intervening right now is what he needs- Xavier can change. So onto my thought- The episode where Xavier explaining his story made me uncomfortable. We havent seen much of his family life. Things we do know: his oldest brother Kennith is at college, his oldest sister Cheyenne is in highschool, an unnamed/presumed mother. Unclear about another parent.

I shouldn't assume what i don't know about Xavier (his parent situation, mainly) but its interesting that we see so little of his family outside of his siblings, because the show has been very good at showing us entire family dynamics (we saw parents for characters that hardly show up!). His family is rich, his brother is distant as he is in college, and so Xavier is basically around his sister all the time. Previously I think I just took as her as the moody highschooler who thinks her little bro is annoying. But, in episode 2 of season 5, we get his story (which again, notably, does not show anything of his parents) where he eventually shows how he wanted to get stronger to i guess, beat up Craig. This is where i got uncomfy with the implications- his sister. Cheyenne works out, and the little we saw of her as the former queen did show she was also likely a bully, and i think it may be safe to say she is toxic and abusive towards Xavier as well tbh. Like, the way she start getting physical with him in that episode... getting angry, belittling him, hitting him. It made me anxious to see, feeling what is implied about her character. she does seem 'proud' of him improving but, i think its a situation of control (as she encourages in him too) and passed off like "tough love" when its actually really bad.

Xavier is 12 years old, we cannot and should not hate him like he is unredeemable. He turned into what he is for reasons a child likely would- be it the lack of people wanting to be his friend, or the implication that his older sibling pushed him around and bullied him herself. i did not really expect to see that in these new episodes honestly- it would have been easy to just say its how Xavier didnt make friends, but i think looking harder, you can again see how abuse affects kids, in ways that are very different but both bad.

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Belos: I’m going to raise Luz as my daughter and ensure that she remains pure and loyal to me.

Also Belos: I’m going to let the 7-years-old clone of my brother take care of her I’m sure he’ll be able to do that.

you joke but thats LITERALLY his entire thought process at first. he's so isolated and arrogant that he couldnt possibly comprehend the idea that luz wouldnt see him as her father despite the fact he literally told hunter he was going to be her older brother and never once encouraged hunter to see him as anything but an uncle.

i attribute this to the fact that philip is an orphan who only ever knew his blood brother as his only caretaker, so he sorta took having a brother for granted and didn't realize that was something you could want rather than something that just Is.

(also caleb was the only person philip ever truly knew + loved and even well into his 300s he never once picked up a child psychology book and realized that Perhaps His Worldview Was Skewed Because Of That.)

he literally like. could not comprehend the idea that you could even choose your own family outside of like. being adopted by someone. thats the other thing with him being so annoyingly christian in this AU, he was taught that your blood family (esp yr parents) is always the most important thing in your life & you should always be grateful to them no matter what.

(this is another factor into why he keeps making grimwalkers. in his own twisted viewpoint, it's him giving caleb another chance. and another. and another-- at least in this specific characterization of him.)

philip thought that him adopting luz would mean she would immediately be eternally grateful to him and call him father and the whole nine yards. but he forget to actually express that expectation until it was too late (aka until he heard her call him uncle for the first time)

honestly, hes not MAD about it. he's just sorta :( about it bcus hes not actually insane and can still logically think like "she did say she had just lost her real father to an illness its perfectly reasonable for her to not want to replace him" (he doesnt think it outloud but he also enjoys living thru her vicariously

but also later on as she gets older it gets to a point where he's like "ok its been years now why isnt she trying to replace him yet" bcus he thinks its a normal + healthy part of the grieving process to replace the person you lost (figuratively or, in his case, Literally)

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when i do my silly little rewrite of the entire series and go for noncanon ships over the canon ones, i still want to keep the essence and significance of the canon ships albeit in a platonic/non-romance version this time

as in, when it comes to the canon partners of the characters im writing (ginny, astoria etc.), i still want them to have a significant role in the characters' lives while also developing them outside of that so they wont fall into the trope of existing only for x and y . i want them to feel as human and as nuanced as i make the main characters

like for example

ginny and harry have a special bond as the unconventional slytherins (yes ginny is sorted into slytherin in nandhini's legacy AU) of their generation which is further developed by their shared trauma of facing tom riddle (bc it'll still happen in second year fr), and i also think theyre an impeccable chaser-seeker duo on the field . they have each others' backs and could pursue something romantic if they choose to put in the work but in this world, ginny isnt influenced by hero worship and sees harry in a different angle from the beginning aka an older brother figure that she can go to to complain abt her own family without feeling guilty . but beyond harry, ginny is trying to navigate and cultivate an identity outside of being her mother's coveted daughter and being in the shadow of phenomenal older brothers . the sorting hat threw her a curveball when it placed her in slytherin and she has to adjust all her notions of the future from that point forward .

meanwhile for draco and astoria :

i can see astoria as someone who is wise beyond her years but also physically fragile . the people around her cant decide if she shld be treated as a helpless baby or as a girl who is mature enough to deal with her own shit . her chronic illness turned daphne into a glass child and astoria, while close with daphne, feels very guilty abt it . as for draco and astoria's relationship, in this AU i still believe astoria will be the one to contribute the most to draco's unlearning of his blood purity prejudices and astoria's also one of the only ones who has enough balls to call draco out when no one else wants or is able to . draco is also able to help astoria be heard by her parents esp when they're in their extra overbearing eras and he has played mediator between her and her family when they fight . in the end i think astoria is still going to ⚰️ young but not before she is able to do things she actually enjoys, even tho she doesnt know what they are yet . she, draco, and daphne are helping her make a bucket list . there's so much she could do but she only has so little time .

i could go on and on about the choices i make for everyone's relationships and characterisations but like i think ive yapped on enough for today LMAOOOOO

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Flamebird Kon Guy again (I should start leaving some kinda signature), and Yes!! There’s so much about Krypton and it’s culture that cna be played with, and just barely gets touched on in regards to Kon and the other Kents and then being immigrants!! Like, on Krypton, clones literally had a civil war, and then centuries later, all of the children were born artificially anyways. Literally, Kon would be considered Clark’s kid by their standards, and that’s just never brought up or talked about!!

I’m a bit denier of the Bad Dad Clark fanon shit, but I do want to say, it would be so so INTERESTING to see this type of scenario played with. Kon who compares himself to Clark constantly, and has expressed insecurity over Clark keeping secrets from him and what he (Kon) means to him. And like, Clark has always rushed to assure Kon whenever these insecurities are made known, so something like this would have so much potential!!

But DC is too busy being Mfing haters 😒😒

Anywhores, sorry for the tangent. But this also plays into why I love Flamebird!Kon so much! Because there’s so much that can be explored with Kon taking that name. Imagine Clark telling him about Flamebird, a creature of passion who destroys not because she takes pleasure in it, but because it’s her duty to keep the spark from going out. Kon proudly wearing a name that Clark said he would be a good fit for, and every time they’re together or every time he’s alone, he can’t help but preen because it’s another name that Clark bestowed upon him, and that means something!!

okay first off "anywhores" cracked me up so shoutout to that <3. i just didnt see that coming at ALL hdfjkshdkjHd

anyway. yeah "bad dad clark" is my enemy and i'm setting this particular bit of fanon on fire and throwing it off a cliff. like... here's the nicest guy in the world! also he just hates this teenager for no reason. GET REAL. it's SOOOO much more interesting to give them a nuanced relationship (i also don't subscribe to them having a 100% nuclear family label in any way; i think it's somewhere between "brothers" and "father/son" and also both of them at the same time and also neither. no label fits them too well outside of simply "family"). but them having the struggle of "kon, esp younger early-in-his-narrative kon, craving parental affection from clark, who isn't quite able to give that to him the way he wants" is ABSOLUTELY my cup of tea and im so here for adding the extra layer of old kryptonian vs newer kryptonian culture as a further confounding variable. let them be complex and multifaceted!! the love is there but so are the issues, etc.

re: that last paragraph i can't also help but think of The Agonies... kon defining himself so much by clark's pride in him as a concept makes me wail into my hands. it's in-character Esp again when he's younger but also babygirl you are also your own person!!!! id love a narrative w flamebird kon where he first is so proud of it bc of clark but then grows to forge his own connection to flamebird's mythos and the deity herself too, in addition to the connection to his heritage through clark. kon's narrative re: individuality is just so gripping to me (even if we kinda have to imagine a lot of it bc dc does not want to deliver lmao) and that could be such a fun additional angle on it.

also this whole thing in general made me remember again how mad i am that rebirth just completely nuked the entire kon & clark relationship. clark just doesnt fucking remember him and by the looks of it/the way they wrapped it up so neatly re: house of kent arc, he never will. what the fuck!!!!! rebirth get out of my house bendis do NOT interact!!!!!!

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BUT ANYWAYDHDJDJ

yessss! esp. with everyone's obvious or not-so-obvious-but-implied less than ideal background (home life, family life, or lack thereofdhsjdjs). or even if they have a kinda?? happy home life? circumstances always happen. like. the sanos? or the kurokawas before izana goes to an institution. like. shinichiro literally became a leader of gang and introduced mikey to that life eventually leading to kisaki meet mikey and turn toman rotten in all the timelines. and izana fjsjdjd and emma's mom turning to gambling and (implied?? look at her makeup and the way shes dressed mmm queen! she can step on me) prostitution. heck! izana's father's affair???

and yesss! do not get me started on takeomi. omgg i say senju's only family member in her life was her brother, omi, but. hmm. def. not the best role model! like. wtf???? it was him who was pushing senju to make that prostitution deal with those guys fjsjdjd all for his own twisted ambitions. vomits.

YESSSS!!!! QUEENS FR! I LOVE ALL MY GIRLS. akane too! i see such hate on akane esp. with the release of the third season djsjdjd like. ??? SHES A TEENAGE GIRL? WHOSE LITTLE BROTHER'S BEST FRIEJD HAS A CRUSH ON? a little gross. but akane is such a sweetheart! a smart kid with a dreamy, light, "appreciate the small things," mature aura. maybe??? she just said that to koko so as not to break his heart later? (there was no later but shh) she still thought of and cared about koko to thebpoint of not wanting to hurt him and shatter his little world. fjsjdj yeah, she perhaps (and again,,,, choices and final decisions here!!!!) went about it the wrong way; didnt put a stop to koko's crush sooner; didnt make her platonic feelings for him known. perhaps she saw him as her other little brother alongside seishu. maybe ahe saw some of herself in him? saw how smart he was like her? saw the little romantic in him? like. theres no way she isnt that maturedjdje like a female, "from a happier home than ran" haitani ran. (idkdjsjs) caring for seishu by herself while her parents go to work and then along comes koko who is always hanging around seishu rather than at home. yeah we dont know the kokonui home/family life outside of akane. but i refuse to believe it wasnt the best. maybe not toxic or abusive like tora's. but maybe a bit neglectful? busy, working parents? no way koko's that mature at such a young age djdjdj

but yeah yeahhhhh!!!!! OMG YUZUHA SPIN-OFF! FR?! add that to the list of potential spin-offs alongside a bonten spin-off fr. aaaaa i wanna know about this fanclub yuzuha has at school. those girls are so real for making one for miss queen! let me join!!!! i want in! actually,, i want more hina-yuzu interactionsdjdjd HINA INTRODUCING HER TO EMMA ??? and them arranging girls nights and sleepovers?? djdjdj YESS!! YUZU'S FIGHTING STYLE TOO?! THAT KICK?! SO BOSS OF HERRRR!!!! WHAT WAS TUAT?! AND THE WAY SHE TOLD BD TO LAY OFF HAKKAI AND HER DJSJD PLS AAA WHAT WHAT WHAT?! SO HOT! AAAA WOAH WOAU WOAH! i also want a final timeline spin-off with emma and hina and yuzu and akane ?? maybe? and senju forming a sukēban (or jp girl gang)!! like. 1) mikey letting in senju as a girl?? like? as cool as the idea is fjsjdjd male gangs never let girls into their gangs and 2) EMMA ALSO TOOK MARTIAL ARTS FROM GRANDPA SANO! DONT FORGET THAY, YOKYOREV FANDOM! i am sure she knows a few moves herself. hm maybe the spin-off could be about the girls helping out their brothers and bf and making some kind of alliance with toman? gathering info? bc who the hell looks at a girl and thinks twice about her being a snitch for another gang. AND AGAIN!! AKANE IS SMART AF! and hina fr her sukēban's heart and soul and charisma like takemichi, akane is her sukēban's brain the way kisaki was toman's brain, while the rest of the queens are the muscle! aaaa

. i . i thought about all this way too muchdjsjsj i sent so much in this one. oh god help me!

UR SO RIGHT W TAKEOMI !! like honestly i just feel that the whole akashi family could have had a lot better circumstances and lives if he had actually stepped up more and good decisions for both his younger siblings (esppp haruchiyo like i felt so bad for him !!) + he was encouraging some not so good stuff w/ brahman when he knew that senju didn't want that kind of image for the gang !! like ugh i just ... dont like him ....

WITH THE WHOLE AKANE THING i think a lot of people r quick to hate bc of what she said to koko abt "oh ill wait for you " or smth which i can kind of understand because there honestly wasnt a whole lot of detail/scenes w her to rlly know their dynamic, yk? i mean on a surface level it definitely comes off as creepy, but honestly like you said, what was she supposed to do in that situation ? sure, she didnt rlly handle it correctly, but shes kind of sweet girl that would feel terrible about breaking kokos heart !! i feel like to truly get a good sense of what happened and to really 'pass judgement' (that sounds so cringe ) on her, we would rlly need to see more of their interactions !! but i really don't think that she was exactly encouraging kokos feelings and was actually serious about 'waiting for him', she probably just said that to not hurt his feelings !! wish we saw more of the seishu/koko/akane backstory tbh <//3

tokyo revengers girls sukeban WOULD LITERALLY END EVERYTHING BC OF HOW GOOD IT WOULD BE !!!! honestly though theres sooo many spin offs we need, like the current one w baji and chifuyu is so amazing and i want all of these little prequel moments and stories bc i want to see more of everyone !! & wakui pls give all the girls interactions tgt bc i know they would be bsfs !! AHHHH we just need more of the tok rev girls in general, but I WOULD KILL FOR THEM TO BE IN A GANG TGT OR SMTH !! yuzuha and emma would fs be the main fighting force, emma literally did training w mikey & baji who r both super strong ??? like ???? i refuse to believe that shes not strong af !! AHHHH !! & if in the final timeline what if taiju teaches yuzuha how to fight that would literally be so badass ??? like THERES SO MANY POSSIBILITIES !!!

[froggytimemachineinternet]

some pretty asks :]

@boygenuiss, this is your ask list, im just doing it weird because i had half the questions answered when i realised i hadn't rebloged :[

Is there anyone youd do anthing for? my brother mal. for the sake of being cringe i will not be tagging them. \

what facinates you? astrophysics and the persuit of knowledge, and the application of knowledge

favorite artists? Hozier, and Barbara Levalle (a painter)

what outfit makes you feel most confidant? clothes were i feel as though i am fully covered. (leather/denim) it makes me feel safe

favorite flower? Alaskan SalmonBerry. its the flower im named after

favorite season? Fall. before i moved down to the lower 48, i had never seen fall. it lasted about 2 weeks, if you were lucky, where i grew up.

favorite movie/tv show? i really enjoyed Fairy tail, however i am a hardcore mlp show. i watched the shit outta that as a kid

favorite color? dark raspberry, but the kind you see in a ruby.

infatuation/first crush? a boy in my kindergarten class named Darius, he ended up bullying me later on though. RIP

How long do you sleep on average? As a person with clinical insomnia, not much and the stuff i get isnt very good

what celebrity do i look like? i have never had somone tell me i look like someone

whats your favorite scent? settling cheesecake, i make it homeade and nothing smells better than a cheesecake while its still batter

Pets? i have had 3 in my life. 1 passed away when i was a child, the other 2 are seniors and living their best life.

what color is your hair natually? what color would you die it? I have dark brown hair, that kinda shines yellow. i would die the ends of my hair forest green

do you have a good relationship with your parents? no. neither of them, or my siblings.

do you take a yearly vacation? i do not have that kinda money

biggest fear? not being strong enough to keep myself safe/not being able to outlast my disablity.

are you taken? no. i have chronically low rizz

what do you wear to bed? lounge wear, the comphy clothes i wear around the house.

best feeling youve ever exsperienced? i dont really have any? i lost a shit ton of my memories due to ptsd. so, im sure im gonna make some good memories, later on in life

whats your skincare routine? i wash my face with bar soap and water, whenever i wear makeup. otherwise i just kinda leave my face alone.

best gift youve ever recieved? as a child i got a lightsaber for christmas, after thinking i wouldnt get it because i was a girl. (i really should have noticed i was trans a while before i did)

favorite book? its a toss up between Skullduggery Pleasent and Septimus Heap. and an honorable mention to Pride and Prejudice.

do you have a garden? plants? nope, i live in an apartment and the plants draw in bugs, no sir.

dream destination? ive always wanted to live in Iceland! far, far away free to be someone outside of the shit ive dealt with

best subject? math. for sure math. once i understand the material i fly through it. i would say that science is my favoite subject, considering im planning on becoming an Astrophysist.

do you want kids? no, never, i woudnt be a good parent and i dont wanna bring kids into this world anyway, this place sucks. esp wher i live lol

whats your sexuality? im bi-romantic, and asexual.

do you prefer loose or baggy clothes? i prefer to wear soft heavy clothes. unfortuanly i live in the south. so no warmth for me. well. to much warmth rather

nail polish? i am currently wearing cobalt blue! i like wearing bold colors when i actually do wear it.

if you could travel to any time period, when would it be and why? i would travel far back to when my native tribe hadnt been decimated. so i could see what my ancestors, my family, actually did. the truth is hard to find after they (genocide perpatrators) tried to bury it all.

do you want/have tattoos and peircings? i want another 2 lobe peircings, and i might get some other ear ones! i am a coward however. i am planning on getting a Tlingit (my tribe) story tatooed on my back, and im also going to get some salmonberry flowers on my neck, surrounding my head/neck like a necklace!

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[no-hugs-peach]

Mulling around a thought in my head about Fruits Basket and how Tohru made Shigure's house a home and how that domino effect of 'caring about space to care about the people' really showed with Yuki later when he helped Machi tidy up her space...and how Ayame (now that he's an adult and has a life separate from the Sohmas) is trying to step in and be there for Yuki, but he couldn't before because he didn't have the skills...and how part of him developing his skills involved creating his own space to be himself without judgement from his family.

Like Ayame couldn't step in when Yuki was most isolated because he was a child himself and the Sohma family normalized the behavior. He had no true outside frame of reference. Sure he had Shigure and Hatori, but they were peers. And even they were very...entrenched in the Sohma life. But then when Ayame has time away, is able to distance himself from the Sohmas, and works on developing the skills he tries to step in and help Yuki. Their parents being shitty about the meeting about Yuki's future? Ayame will step in and emphasize that it's Yuki's life to live.

I have a lot more in my head, but it's not very cohesive yet, and part of it is because the situation with my Hubs's family was kinda the springboard. Like nothing new-new, but confirmation of a situation where there's nothing we can do. And Hubs is seeing how distance helped him (esp with the parents), but even though he thinks his brother would benefit from that he can't force his brother to step back and put himself first. Like there is a lot of background context that I'm not going to go into - but the summary of it all is that Hubs is going to leave the door open, but also acknowledging that to improve the communication at this point would best be moderated by a family therapist and that requires everyone to engage with the process and want to change.

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

Hello and a bit belated l'shana tovah & meaningful holy days, no need to answer this ask if you aren't feeling it (hope your little ones are well :))): You had mentioned arguing with your dad about your respective Judaism; I've been putting off talking to my parents (esp my mum) about how I'm thinking of reconnecting with Judaism myself. I don't know how to broach the topic when my mother was raised more conservative/frummy (and felt very hurt and alienated from it, she is now Quaker as a result and I was mostly raised that way with nods to Jewish faith) without us not seeing eye to eye. I've always felt like I should consider 'returning' as it were, but I mostly know American reform Jews who I'm not sure understand my mother's issues growing up in post-war europe. I just wondered if maybe you had any advice/thoughts on how to approach a parent with religious differences? Thanks so much for your time & i love following your blog. I don't know too much yiddish and hebrew terms but I am trying to learn so seeing them in context is wonderful.

While it might seem a bit similar on the surface, I actually think your situation with your mother is significantly different than mine with my father, and would need to be approached differently.

Let me explain with an example. When I was in college and fairly newly frum, my non-Jewish maternal grandmother passed away. The memorial service was held in the chapel of my grandparents' Presbyterian-affiliated nursing home. I was able to enter the building (which was not a church building as a whole), but not the chapel itself, and I remained outside of it during the service. My dad was furious. He felt like I wasn't supporting my mom, and moreover, he didn't understand why I wouldn't go in. He viewed himself as a very religious person, and he had no issue going in. He didn't say it and may not have consciously thought it, but I do believe that he also felt his identity threatened by our conflicting views - by saying I wasn't able to go inside for religious reasons, I was stating that I believed a religious Jew could not go inside, which meant I was saying he was doing something wrong/was not that religious/what have you. (I was not, in fact, making any comment on his actions from my perspective; it wasn't about him). (For the record my mom wasn't offended at all that I didn't go in, even if she didn't totally get it, because it wasn't a threat to her identity.)

Let's say that you found yourself in a similar situation with your mom - you wouldn't go into a church due to religious conviction as a Jew. Well, that's not a threat to her identity. She doesn't (at least not religiously, it seems like maybe she still feels a slight cultural connection) view herself as Jewish at this point, she's a Quaker. So her reaction isn't going to be, "How dare you suggest that I'm not a religious Jew if I'm willing to go into that church?!" Rather, it's probably going to be something more along the lines of, "Oh no, I don't want my child getting into that stuff that I found so hurtful and alienating, they're going to end up getting hurt or committing harm or both!" Whereas my mission with my dad was to help him see that nothing I was doing was a commentary on him or his religious practice - it was all about me and mine - your mission with your mom would be to demonstrate that you're still you no matter what religious practices you pick up, you're going into reconnecting with Judaism with a level head, and you're not going to get lost in it all.

Ironically, this is actually a bit more similar to issues I had to address with my mom in the beginning, because she has a sister and brother-in-law who were in a cult in I believe the 1980s, pretty much completely cut off contact with their families as a result (they didn't even notify them when their kids were born), and only snapped out of it and came back to themselves when someone they knew died due to untreated diabetes that was supposedly going to be prayed away. For her, my becoming a chasidic Jew was an immediate flashback to that time. I had to be very deliberate in making sure I showed her that I wasn't going anywhere - that becoming frum didn't mean abandoning my family, that I was still making sane and safe decisions (even if she didn't necessarily understand them), that I was still the same me. If your mother has trauma from her experiences with religious Judaism, she's going to worry about you getting into it. So you have to show her that you're going to be ok (and retain the presence of mind to take care of yourself should you in fact find yourself in an unhealthy situation like she fears).

[koifishanonymous]

i think i'm going insane

heavy wilbur soot defending, read at your own risk

so i recently found out what truthblr/ebblr/critblr is and ofc i had to go through the critblr tag to ruin my sanity and question the one of others

and i come across this post, this fuckin post that's wilbur soot neg

basically, it's an anon reply saying that wilbur ''pushing'' the sleeboisinc family dynamic is . . . weird. they claim that while sure they bonded, he it was highly strategised for his ''benefit''.

both the ask and the reply talk mainly about how crimeboys is weird bcs tommy should be ''hanging out with people'' and not a ''25/26'' year old man.

the reply says it's weird, and they don't claim it to be grooming, but since his parents are alive it's weird?? and i'm like why would you even bring up grooming are you literally using buzzwords for clout. being friends with a popular mcyter as a popular mcyter is called having friends, though i'm sure this person wouldn't know.

they go as far as to say it would be SELFISH for him to spend so much time with tommy as he should ''socialising with people his age''

first of all, what?? you can be friends with people older than you?? talking to a minor as an adult isn't weird?? like, i have friends, but not BEST friends, in fact i think that my mutuals here, mostly young adults, are quite good friends because i too, like tommy has stated about himself in highschool, am an outcast. i cannot for the life of me talk to/relate to people my age. idk why it's a thing that happens. friendships can have agegaps. then, tommy is the one who really pushed the crimeboys sibling dynamic at first?? like in 2020, tommy was the one who wanted to hang out with wil

then they (anon) go on to talk about how he ''sees'' techno as an older brother despite being older and how he comes to phil as a son and how he relies on these dynamics. now to my knowledge, he has never explicitly stated seeing techno as an older brother outside of /dsmp but hey you can look up to people younger than you?? it isn't unheard of

and for phil, we all see him as an e-dad (not me as much as the rest of sbiblr, matpat is my dad /j) it isn't weird??? to see an older person and go ''ah yes parental unit'', esp since wilbur's (i think i don't like to pry on peoples personal life stories so i never watched anything were he speaks about this) relationship with his dad isnt stellar

and the last fucking point that made me lose it, the stupidest thing

''[he] likes the song ''privately owned spiral galaxy'' a bit too much for me not to notice at this point''

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK DOES THIS MEAN

the blogs reply: ''also that song is peak male manipulator lol''

HOW DOES ONE LISTEN TO THAT AND GO: '' AH YES THIS IS ABOUT ✨MANIPULATION✨''

IT'S ABOUT LUCID DREAMING/DAYDREAMING TO ESCAPE FROM REALITY. WHAT THE HELL, ALSO IF YOURE SAYING IT LIKE ''oh he likes this song and since its about false realities then he must be creating one with his friends 🥰 and they're not really friends'' you must be fucking separated from reality.

i like songs that are about literal stalking as love, mutual hate/love and toxicly romanticised relationships. I DONT CONDONE ANY OF THIS THOUGH???? LIKE LIKING SOMETHING /=/ MORALITY??? YOU'RE NO BETTER THAN ANTIS???

anyway i'm a bit of wilbur/cwilbur kinnie so take than into account i guess??

also devasted because tumblr user lmanburg is a critblr blog and they don't deserve that user :(

please critblr/truthblr/ebblr (still not sure what this one is) please actually watch the people you claim so much to know about and stfu

smile :)

[rsmrymnt-tea]

So maybe it's just me but whenever I read fics about the brothers being in the human realm or coming to meet your family n such and they have them (usually Satan specifically) change their name I get kinda ??? about it.

Like none of the cast has an name that would be insane to encounter in real life!! Like maybe you'd been like well that's unusual but you're not immediately going to assume holy shitballs this person's a literal demon.

Like unless your family is religious and particular about this sort of thing Satan can just say his parents are super edgy. The other brothers can just claim their parents were into demonology yknow.

And actually!! If my sibling brought home a date and then it turned out they were lying about the name and the name was Satan I'd probably be more inclined to believe that that's the actual Satan than if they were just like That's His Name.

(skdjs I think for fun I would just not tell my family his name I'd be like this is My Boyfriend My Darling The Light Of My Life and if they asked Satan he'd be like I'm [Name]'s Boyfriend Their Darling The Light Of Their Life I think it'd be super fun)

Ahsjshaa such a little shit move but very fun!! And like not like your family can do anything about it esp if their opinion of your relationship doesn’t really have any real weight to you lmfao

Honestly I’m torn because I do like the fun of trying to match a human name with each brothers but at the same time yeah… They can just say their parents were all into demonology. Plus half their names pass pretty fine—Beel, Belphie, and Asmo all sound like odd but acceptable enough human names and Levi is a normal name. A common enough name that’s often in the tags of many jeans and jean jackets wahaha~~~

The others are a little out there but Lucifer is a cool sounding ‘yeah we’re into demons and wanna name our child something cool’ name. Mammon and Satan are uh, a little odder and less cool sounding but yeah can be explained away with the edgy parents thing.

And I’ve met irl people with just as questionable names and nicknames. Went to uni with a guy who named himself Alpha (among others who had surprising names that I just can’t remember…), met little kids with keysmashes for names, and once came across a banner hung outside a house that said, “welcome home baby Naruto” with a legitimate picture of a baby on there ahsjsha

Not to mention my own younger brother was almost named ‘Rurik Adelbern.’ Yes, after the Guild Wars characters specifically. My dad was just as bad as I am about our fixations >.>

(Also my own birth name is fucking ridiculous, I’d kill to just be named after a demon. Like I like the name I chose for myself but imagine growing up named Astaroth or something)

Though considering that the sorcerers at the Sorcerer’s Society knew who Beel and Lucifer were, I have a feeling that their faces are actually out there somewhere, and a band of 7 brothers all named after the seven avatars of sin and looking and behaving a lot like them would attract attention from the wrong crowd? Idk it really depends on where you imagine MC living I guess but I do kinda see why the brothers themselves are worried about having their real names out.

And I mean. The natural inclination when meeting the parents is to overthink so I can kinda buy the fake human names being a thing. I’m just irked when they’re all very… White American names? What’s stopping you from giving Mammon a Hispanic name? Or Lucifer with an Eastern European one?

Also don’t underestimate just how harshly people will judge someone by their name because it says a Lot about the kind of background they have >.> I also have a feeling that a lot of the people who play OM have religious families too so… Yeah.

Personally I’m 50/50 on it. I have my own ‘demon bros in the human world’ ideas I wanna explore and I’m torn between using a fake name and not. The brothers themselves seem to care and it adds a layer of fun imo haha But I can def see why it’s not one of your yums when it comes to tropes with the brothers.

[roobylavender]

Don’t know if you would know the answer to this question but do you know why Roger Gordon and Jim Gordon didn’t get along? I thought I read somewhere that Barbara Gordon possibly couldn’t have been his kid since Jim had an affair with his brother’s wife. I could be tripping but I thought I’ve seen that.

What do you make of the Robin parents? I find them worth exploring but hardly do I see DC ever do that. Why not give Dick’s parents a story of how they met. Or Jason’s parents and Catherine’s life. Shelia. We all know how it ends but the potential of seeing a glimpse of their life is appealing.

i missed this in my yesterday, sorry! i think the only time i have ever personally read about barbara's dad was in flawed gems.. i'd need to look up his other appearances to answer but it would be interesting to see why they might not have gotten along 👀

and i think about their parents a lot tbh! maybe dick's less so bc he was the youngest when he lost them and has built up the longest relationship with bruce out of any of the kids but i do hate that canon generally tries to do away with the robins' parents as quickly as possible so they're no longer a narrative obstacle or in some cases (tim's) an obstacle to bruce's adoption. like jason's parents should hold far more weight in his story as the red hood given their entire background and struggle, and it's bizarre that no writer bothers to bring up sheila despite her playing such an important role in.. everything. to the point that you could refute the whole reckless and mean robin thing if you at least cared to factor her or his parents in. and stephanie's parents used to be very important to her story whether it was pre or post-resurrection but now as far as i know they're completely irrelevant despite them being so formative in terms of how she shaped her identity or perceived her lot in life (and i think about this esp in vein of her being batgirl like i'm not one of those "cass is the superior batgirl and should never have been robbed of the mantle" people but i never really saw the point in stephanie becoming batgirl and would have loved for her to grow into spoiler had she not been assassinated, bc it meant something to her)

even with tim i honestly am not sure why dc chose to kill jack off like i know you get a lot of batsest derivatives from these kind of musings and i'm going to separate myself from that here explicitly but i don't think there was particularly a need for bruce to adopt tim and i liked that tim still had a life and a family of his own outside of the work. i know people are kinda fascinated by tim's deep descent into depression and hysteria due to all of the compounded grief and trauma but like idk it kinda goes back to my whole thing with the batman mythos where i just. don't think that level of misery was needed and that embedding the mythos in it entirely killed anything it used to stand for. the way the mythos has become utterly insulated to focus on the work and nothing else that exists outside of it is why it's hard to engage with anymore and the parents being slowly cut out of the narrative is definitely a part of that