#distrust of women

[falseandrealultravival]

"Mustafa 60" (verse)

悲しき６０歳（sad 60 year old）

In Kyu Sakamoto's song

There is a song by Mustafa, a Turkish youth.

He first saw a beautiful woman

Without his property, to receive her girlfriend.

He became a goldmine. He worked hard.

He became very rich and went to visit her.

She has been already 60 years old...

I can't laugh at Mustafa.

Many stories came to mind when I was young,

I broke up because of ``my lack of emotional preparation.''

In my case, my family environment was abnormal.

My mother, who became manic-depressive, had mental abuse against me.

My father, who was the cause of this, was unable to deal with it properly.

The psychiatric hospital where she was admitted also made a mistake.

Even if I find a woman I love,

My distrust of women had developed through my mother,

I just couldn't be honest with them.

Well, I'll be 60 next year too. I got to know better about women.

But I no longer have the wealth or energy to start a new family.

According to fortune-telling (kanji stroke count fortune-telling),

I am not blessed with a family.

「ムスタファ６０」（韻文）

坂本九の曲に

トルコの若者：ムスタファの歌がある。

彼は美女を見初めたが

財産のない彼、彼女を迎えるために

金の亡者になった。しゃかりきに働いた。

大金持ちになり、その娘を訪ねたところ、

彼女は６０歳になっていた・・・

私はムスタファを笑えない。

若い頃は浮いた話は幾つもあったが、

全て「私の“心の”準備不足」で別れた。

私の場合、若い頃の家庭環境が異常で

躁鬱病になった母は、私に精神的打撃を見舞った。

その原因だった父は、的確な対処が出来なかった。

母を入院させた精神病院も誤った処置をしたのだ。

私は好きな女性が出来ても、

母を介し女性不信の念が芽ばえていたので

どうしても彼女らに素直になれなかった。

さて、私も来年６０歳だ。対女性的に丸くなった。

でももはや家庭を新たに作る財産も気力もないのだ。

占いによれば（漢字の画数占い）、

私は「家庭に恵まれない」とあるらしい。

(2019.08.23)

[curseofdelos]

Thinking about the parallels and differences between Marie Levesque's relationship with Pluto and Maria di Angelo's relationship with Hades

In both flashbacks, we see Hades/Pluto trying to convince them to stay/go somewhere for their and their children's protection and both women refuse his request, but where those scenes differ is in how they respond to him

Maria is so patient and loving towards Hades. She never raises her voice, she repeatedly calls him my love, and yet is firm about not raising their children in the underworld. She only sees the good in Hades - calls him kind, generous, insists the other gods wouldn't be afraid of him if they saw him the way she does. She has unwavering faith that he will protect her, and won't allow any harm to come to Nico and Bianca. There is actual love there, and we get the sense that they did have a good relationship despite him being a god

Queen Marie, on the other hand, deeply resents Pluto. She's angry to the point of throwing and breaking things around her home, and blames him for all of their misfortune. It's Pluto's fault that Hazel is cursed, it's Pluto's fault that people around them are dying, it's Pluto's fault that the police thinks she's a murderer and her clients think she's a witch. Unlike Maria, Queen Marie doesn't believe that Pluto has ever protected them, nor does she want him to, not after how much he has ruined her and Hazel's life. There's little love there like with Maria and Hades, little trust - just bitter angry resentment.

And it makes sense that they would react so differently! We don't get the sense that Hades's godhood has affected Nico or Bianca in any tangible way (at this point, anyway). They're playing together when Hades visits Maria and seem happy. They're not cursed the way Hazel is. They don't have dangerous and harmful powers that they can't control (that we know of). Of course Queen Marie would resent Pluto in ways that Maria doesn't; the wish Pluto granted Queen Marie has actively made their life worse. The di Angelos were fine. The di Angelos were thriving. They had nothing to worry about until the Great Prophecy was issued, and Maria had no reason to believe that Hades couldn't protect them from Zeus when he had protected them thus far. He hadn't done anything to hurt her the way that Queen Marie believed Pluto hurt them.

But here's the thing though: Queen Marie was being manipulated by Gaia. Both she and Pluto tell Hazel that The Voice turned her against him. Just before Queen Marie and Pluto speak to each other in the first flashback, we see her push back against Gaia's request to go to Alaska precisely because Pluto told her it wasn't safe and that he wouldn't be able to protect her and Hazel there. Gaia was the one who convinced her that it was Pluto's fault that Hazel was cursed; after all, it's much easier to blame him than to admit to herself that it was her wish and her greed for "all the riches in the world" that lead to Hazel's predicament.

Gaia preyed on Queen Marie's frustration with herself and with Pluto to manipulate her into bringing Hazel to Alaska to raise her son from the earth. It was this manipulation that lead her to blowing up at Pluto when he tries to convince her to stay in New Orleans. Maria didn't hate Hades because the gods didn't torment her the way Gaia tormented Queen Marie.

Which raises the question: if Gaia hadn't messed with her head, would Queen Marie have loved and trusted Pluto the way Maria loved and trusted Hades? Could Pluto and the Levesques have played happy families the way the di Angelos did with Hades? It's more complicated because Gaia's absence would not have fixed Hazel's curse so it's entirely possible she still would have resented him, but I have to wonder:

Was there ever a world where the Levesques could have been happy?

[waspgrave]

it's the dragon age autism at work but i'm disliking playing the crows literally just because I think they should be shitty bc when you think about it, they are still kind of shitty. When i saw they were going to be a faction in this game i thought 'ohhh hell yeah that's the Stinker Faction' but they're like, good guys....i wanted them to suck :(

I can at least kind of understand why the Lords of Fortune are good guy pirates thanks to Isabela's antics in kirkwall but even then just knowing there was potential for morally gray factions is chipping away 1hp from my healthbar every time i think about it

[shsl-heck]

Thinking about the Chevalier interlude, specifically the inaugural team of Wards. Like in universe, they sell it to this first group of kids (and presumably the rest of the world) as a place for second chances, to find friends and mentors who understand what youre going through, where you can learn to use your powers safely while making good memories. The kids broadly seem to believe in these noble intentions of course, but what really gets me is that I've seen readers buy into it!

"Oh, it's such a tragedy that the Wards program became this awful thing that traumatizes kids even more, and expects them to die for the sake of civilians! It's fallen so short of what it was originally supposed to be!"

No it has not??? The fact that the triumvirate and Hero are saying it has this noble goal doesn't make it true. The Wards was pretty clearly always a way to increase the amount of bodies the prt could throw at threats, and we know this because it was started by the fucking Triumvirate as a part of the Protectorate! Alexandria literally came up with the idea of the Protectorate to legitimize the power of capes, and have a consistent source of heroes Cauldron could throw at problems. That is the whole reason for the PRT/Protectorate existing. So when we have this group of children brought in a subsidiary, there are 2 real options.

1). Cauldron and Alexandria decided they would be really niceys and created this program with no intentions other than helping these kids out.

Or 2). As things got worse, they realized the Protectorate didn't have enough manpower to do what they needed, and so they expanded it to include children (the demographic most prone to triggering). That way, they greatly increase the number of capes who they can send to fight and die as needed, and the ones who do survive their tenure in the Wards will be better trained when it comes time to join the actual Protectorate.

At the risk of sounding conceited, I think the second one is far more likely based on everything we know about Cauldron. Maybe it was originally a little nobler, and the goal was just to create more well trained heroes and cut back on young villains, but there's no way Alexandria, Doc Mom, and Contessa didn't factor in the ability to sacrifice the kid heroes if it improved their chances of success. That was absolutely a perk at minimum.

That's the real tragedy of the inaugural Wards. The kids were lured in with promises of safety, comraderie, and second chances like lambs to the slaughter. All the while, Alexandria and Cauldron knew that many (if not most) of these children would suffer abuse by the prt (like in the case of Reed), die, or face a fate worse than death like poor Mouse Protector. It's horrifying! The idea that they didn't know the danger these kids would be in is literally inconceivable. Especially when one of you is also the head of the prt! They knew, and they didn't care. It improved their chances at the end of the world, and so they did it no matter the cost.

[edwardseymour]

"Given the marathon that Jane’s uterus had just been through, it’s likely that her uterus would have a reduced capacity to contract and effectively expel the after-birth contents of her uterus; lengthy labours tend to shred the membranes, especially if, like Jane, her membranes had ruptured early in her labour. I believe that here is where the best intentions again contributed to disastrous consequences. Wanting to ensure the best possible outcome, Henry bucked confinement tradition by inviting male physicians into Jane’s lying-in chamber. While we might see a physician’s help as a good thing, please keep in mind that Tudor era physicians weren’t trained in obstetrics. Had Jane’s immediate postpartum been similar to the above description, a physician would likely not have been well-versed in how to manage it. Had the midwives noticed retained tissue, they probably would have known to remove the offending product, manually if necessary, causing Jane further discomfort. To a Tudor physician, this would have been appalling, and protocol dictated that the physicians had seniority. Had they forbade an intervention, it would not have occurred."

— Dayna Goodchild, Jane Seymour and the Birth of Edward VI: A Midwife's Opinion

[bonefall]

I can't see how the writers still think Skystar's a good person. Like, twelve year old me liked him and thought he was interesting, but I was like twelve. And even I knew he was an irredeemable asshole after Moth Flight's Vision. If a twelve year old can figure this stuff out I have no idea what these grown ass writers were doing.

DOTC has a thesis, stated in The First Battle, that really explains everything.

"Fear and Greed" is just a fake-deep way to reinvent a Good and Evil dichotomy. Because Clear Sky's abuse comes from a place of fear, it means it's not malicious, unlike a "greedy" cat.

He can be "soothed," ergo, he's a fundamentally good person.

Post-First Battle, the books are focusing constantly on his feelings, how sad it makes him to not be trusted, how happy he is when people are on his side. All while he continues to screech at people who tell him what to do, manipulate and mistreat his son, and even still beats and mauls those who offend him.

But because it's "fear," that doesn't matter. That's a justification, an excuse. The writers don't seem to believe in good and bad actions as much as they do good and bad people. True 'evil' comes from a person who hurts others for the wrong reasons, like 'revenge' or malice.

It's abuse apologia. Plain and simple.

The truth is that abusers don't think of themselves as evil people, and everyone, even you and me, is capable of being toxic or abusive. Talk to those who have been abused and we'll tell you; we often stayed because we "saw the good," or even felt responsible for them. Abuse can be passed down through generations because the kids come to believe the way they were treated was normal and okay.

If you go through life thinking that abuse only comes from evil/greedy people, you won't see it when it happens right in front of you. Fundamental good and evil is childish. Abuse comes from fear all the time.

Abuse is about power and control. Fear of rejection, of losing someone, of pain, those are all very common motivators as the abuser tries to stop them from happening before they even begin. It doesn't MATTER that your abuser is in pain too, you NEVER "deserved" what they did in an attempt to break your legs so you wouldn't run.

But... we can all change. Even the worst of us. It's never too late to stop hurting others, move on to a better life, but some people never will. Skystar loves his power, and he keeps that power no matter how many times he misuses it.

He has no reason to change as long as his cruelty rewards him with status and authority.

But the writers are incapable of recognizing that, because for this entire arc, they were stuck in an absurd view of the world in terms of Fear and Greed. Abuse can be excused if he did it for the "right reason," and that makes him "fundamentally different" from the truly evil villains, Slash and One Eye.

Hopefully, it now makes more sense to you.

[kingcunny]

interesting to me that you could maybe draw a line between jaehaerys misogyny back to being held visenyas hostage, into being on the run with his mother and alysanne. and yet he mimics visenyas iconic style with the long braid…

[tonycries]

Why cant men appreciate tall people like yall do 😭

[shoezuki]

natasha has been like. the first character other than sampo or gepard to ever be mentioned in this fic from the first ch and im happy shes finally here. cuz the relationship she n sampo got going on is So Interesting to me. i mean in game sampo is very intriguing to me like theres obviously some level of trust there and a mutual respect considering nat trusts sampo to do jobs for her and sampo goes to her when the trailblazers are in trouble. and him bringing natasha medicine is kinda huge considering his 'selfish' character. like. i dig them having a major mutual understanding and trust towards one another that goes into being protective of each other. i love their situationship

but also i just now realized that. all the other characters in this fic besides sampard will be women and every woman introduced so far has yelled at or at least argued w gepard at some point. lets go girls

[watermelinoe]

i had to disclose my medical information every semester to every instructor because i had instructors who wouldn't give me accommodations unless they judged for themselves whether i deserved them and student disability services would not advocate for me, so with that in mind i think it's a terrible shame when institutions can't be trusted to collect private medical information and make fair and responsible decisions, resulting in the public demanding that information for themselves

[coyotewhore]

I think everyone who thinks that trans women aren't allowed to distrust and loathe men as a class should be sat down and have explained to them in graphic detail by cis and trans women what causes this feeling.

[halewynslady]

Can you imagine Vrouwe Goeds forcing Hugo to celebrate Christmas? This Lady Justice force is just so christian. I love dear softsocks Hugo getting tormented. He is so past anything and yet he doesn’t truly repent either. While telling about his crimes his eyes still lit up with pure joy. Goat guy was so happy before my favo struck his outgoing ways with house arrest.

[trekkele]

Context about the vague?

Doing the old doom scroll on instagram (throw holy water, double tap wood or whatever) and got like three videos within ten minutes from the same dude that are all

1. Him making fun of/copying a specific style of booktok video (side note: if he was talking about what he dislikes about a popular book/popular attitudes on booktok, that would be fine. But you know The Voice people use when they need you to know that a. The person theyre imitating is a woman and b. They think this person is dumber then them? Yeah that Voice. I hate that Voice. Especially from men. Misogyny isnt cute babe.)

2. Captioned with the blurb for his, and i cannot stress this enough, incredibly generic dystopian ya book summary.

3. Annoying.

I understand making a platform is hard, and his comment section is full of people who agree with him, so he has an audience. But i already hated that style of video, so to have three of almost the exact same thing? Blocked.

[cringefaecompilation]

nobody's saying "ludinus is an innocent baby and we should ignore all of his white supremacist leanings and misogynistic abuse and innocent people he threw under the bus because he has a point and also you're not allowed to make fun of him cause he's traumatized" at least not on a massive scale. you are ALLOWED to hate ludinus. he's the bad guy.

people saying "maybe we can stand to examine his character and look into why he is like this and the system/hierarchy that could have radicalized him into having this mindset" is not woobification or forgiving/justifying his actions or saying he's off limits from criticism. i understand that a lot of you have bad memories of other fantasy and sci-fi villains getting babied by their fanbases, but this is not it.

[teenagefeeling]

if i see that post with a bunch of tags being like "these are the correct opinions on tumblr discourse" and the first one is "men aren't animals" ONE MORE FUCKING TIME im going to murder someone i swear to god

[sir-adamus]

the last scene with Ironwood in volume 2 really showcases how much of a prick he actually is