#disbaility

[dyslexic-dyspraxic]

I think one of the things people overlook is not meeting expectations as someone with dyslexia and dyscalculia, because I have seen posts on ADHD but none on Dyslexia or Dyscalculia

More than anything, I was made to feel like a failure because of my dyslexia and dyscalculia

I was constantly told I was smart and evaluated as if I was neurotypical intelligent

But I would always struggle, I would always fail to live up to expectations because the thing about neurotypical intelligence is you are expected to be good at everything academic, maybe you excel at one thing, but you aren't really bad at anything, struggling with language or maths is never even considered for neurotypical intelligence

And there I was struggling to read, coming out as dyslexic and being hit with "but you're so smart" with varying levels of derision and confusion

Struggling with basic maths as people praised my intelligence and dismissed my grade as nothing impressive because it was what they expected of me, because they didn't see the anxiety I had over adding numbers together, they didn't see how my difficulty with numbers was covered up by my intelligence, I could do logic, I could do complicated problem solving, I couldn't tell you what 13% of 500 was without feeling anxious and freezing

People looked at my grades and they only saw someone smart, they didn't see how I struggled, they didn't see how I tried to meet expectations and fell short, because reading is exhausting and numbers make me anxious, they would dismiss my struggle because "you still did well, it's still a good grade" and it was, but it wasn't good enough

I was being compared to the neurotypical with the same predicted grades as me, the neurotypical who did better in all their exams than me, and I never met that expectation

They judged me as neurotypical and found me lacking as neurodivergent

[necrotic-nephilim]

for the choose violence ask game: 3, 8, 16 :D

for the choose violence ask game!

3. screenshot or description of the worst take you've seen on tumblr

i was going to be kind enough to not screenshot but i lied i'm choosing violence. this is less of a take and more of an incorrect quote i suppose but. every time i remember it exists i stare at a wall for like 20 minutes.

most posts under the "chaotic tim drake"/"unhinged tim drake" tags do. get to me. they are all liable to make me spontaneously combust but something about this one. the way Tim's fanon kill count magically gets higher every time it's brought up. the way it directly contradicts Tim's internal deep-seated fears about turning into Bruce and that's why he has always planned to retire after being Robin the *entire point* of Tim Drake of Tomorrow is to show how horrified Tim is and how future!evil!Tim will always go too far. like i genuinely do not know what character ppl are talking about with the "Tim is most likely to become a supervillain and somehow this a cutesy headcanon" sort of thing. it plagues me. consider me plagued. i could go on and on about it for hours and how deeply it contradicts Tim's character to his core. also just why does the fandom want to make him a villain so bad? i don't understand.

8. common fandom opinion that everyone is wrong about

i already gave one answer to this question here, but worry not i have endless answers to this one. a bit one for me is: the idea Cass should use ASL. it icks me out. i will close a fic if Cass is using ASL i will not lie. firstly, she does not canonically know ASL. secondly, it doesn't make *sense* for her to use it bc her disability has nothing to do with the ability to speak, it has to do with her language learning skills. and ASL is, *still a language*. and would be just as difficult to learn, if not more-so bc it could set back her learning of English and would not be as easily applicable as English to her daily life. it's a headcanon that ranges from well-meaning misunderstandings to just downright ableism that infantilizes Cass and infantilizes ASL. honestly i get touchy in general about fandom using ASL when not written by a Deaf writer/someone who knows ASL bc... you can tell. you can always tell. (hearing fans stop trying to come up with sign names for the Batfam i'm gently begging you.) there are many good posts breaking down why this headcanon doesn't really work but i'm just salty and feral about it.

16. you can't understand why so many people like this thing (characterization, trope, headcanon, etc)

the headcanon/fanon concept that Tim has lasting psychological trauma due to the Titans Tower incident, or that it has caused him to be afraid of Jason. (the same can be applied to Damian cutting Tim's line being something that Matters to Tim longterm or causes fear of Damian) like? beyond the "that is not canon, that event really didn't bother Tim and Tim was a cocky little shit the whole time", i'm unsure how this... fits into the fanon version of Tim? like i don't *understand* it. how it is that fandom likes "Tim has a super high kill count and is going to be a supervillain" but also... thinks one bad fight that roughed Tim up a bit has made him terrified of one person specifically? these feel contradictory. either he can Take The Heat or He Can't. this weird waffling where he's both the biggest badass around but also somehow a wilting traumatized kid confuses me. i don't necessarily mind the exploration of Tim being angry or pissed off about these events, or even him being more injured than he was in canon and dealing with that, but him being like. so afraid of Jason it influences their relationship has always eluded me. it contradicts everything else about fanon!Tim and makes him seem... sort of cowardly? like not that events like these can't be traumatizing but in his field of work they're not unique events. these are normal Tuesdays for him. why is it affecting him so much in fanon.

[theeditingdarling]

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[elvenmoans]

I love making older characters complain about their knees and back aching during smut. Yes I am projecting yes I am 26 yes my knees and back fkn hurt

[trans-axolotl]

started rereading brilliant imperfection for like the 12th time. this book means SO much to me and i honestly feel like it saved my life. i knew about disability justice before but that was the book that like. was foundational to developing so many of my values. i've taken it with me to every hospitalization since. i tear up at so many parts to it and like i don't know why this book makes me so so emotional but it does and i love it!

[kangals]

idk if it's just me being old and grumpy or whatever but sometimes i see visual ID descriptions attached to images that are just very obviously someone trying to cram in as many jokes as they can fit into one paragraph under the guise of being descriptive and that seems like it's in poor taste.

[lamngen]

Help me with moving out

Making a new post again. Im unemployed & unable to work due to disbaility + college busyness. Looking to move out soon and preferably help my boyfriend out with moving a long too. My current goal for moving out is 500 USD approximately. Goal towards funding my boyfriend's flight to here, would be 960 USD approximately.

my paypal (preferred). my ko-fi. commissions info. my boyfriends venmo.

I'd prefer if donations towards the flight went to my boyfriend, and one towards affording the apartment's rent went to me. Please share & help if you can, please dont tag as anything, Thank you

50/500$

[disabledstraydogs]

your icon is so incredibly cute. Is there a reason you chose fyodor for it? Or any reasons you like having fyodor on it?/things you like about having fyodor on it? (it is so real btw. I dont know if I'd call him canon disabled for...reasons, but fyodor is one one if the most disabled coded characters in bsd ever. He's disabled in my heart. To me. The vibes are all there..)

Haiiii anon, we saw this last night while sawifying BSD and it made us so so happy I'm sorry we didn't answer it then but it wouldn't have been coherent.

The story of this icon is that we were thinking of 'canonically' disabled characters and Fyodor came to mind (although if he is disabled in canon is up for debate to me just because anemia isn't technically a disbaility and we will touch on the mental health stuff later) although we were going to use Chuuya we saw the art on a charm and knew we had to use it.

Fyodor is one or our favourite BSD characters (tied with Chuuya) although that's because of the system Fyodor headcanon, specifically the scene in dead apple with Crime and Punishment makes me insane. However I understand that this can be seen as a problematic thing due to Fyodor's actions in source but honestly, we feel more seen by systems who have done/do awful things.

I won't talk about our trauma but we were very much brought up in a 'dog eat dog' environment surrounded by Catholicism and hypocrisy but that does mean that even as a child we never got the chance to be a good person and because of that have always related to 'shitty rep' more than different system with different trauma would.

Back to Fyodor in my mind he displays behaviors of someone raised in a similar situation to us (although I do think that- given that we don't know what era he was even born in and the history Catholicism in Europe is insane- I don't think he knows that by modern day standards he was raised in a cult or cult like situation) and because of this he developed low empathy and ASPD/NPD through years of abuse (which also possibly shaped his world views- although I don't think Asagiri will agree with me).

Again, I know that this is another issue entirely (people with cluster b disorders deserve more rep than just having criminals) but again it means different things to us than others in our situation.

Sorry for the rambles I get ill about this man.

[gorepill]

I'm just saying if you're going to have a shit opinion about Curly, whether it's "ERMMM he didn't KNOW what happened to Anya" or "HE'S JSUT AS BAD AS JIMMY CLEARLY" or "HIM GETTING DISABLED IS PUNISHMENT!!!" (FUCK YOURSELF) OR "HIS DISBAILITY IS SYMBOLISM FOR BABY AND-" (FUCK YOU x2) i'm being so serious rn. give me money. https://ko-fi.com/gorepill Im dead ass. if you're gonna put your stupid fucking bad takes on the internet for me to see about my malewife princess. PAY ME.

[yournewfriendshouse]

wah i just wrote a whole thing and then accidentally deleted it and I no longer have spoons to remember what I wanted to say, except that Cymbalta/duloxetine is time specific in that you need to take it at the same time every day or you get withdrawal symptoms which are very unfun

but from a patient pov defs ask your pharmasuist questions. also i will legit put all of my meds and vitamins in a basket and take it to my doc or pharmasist and ask when I should take all of it for the optimum result because some vitamins (zinc and magnesium for instance) are better taken at opposite times of day too

eta: I remembered that part of the thing I wrote was to say that if you have a chronic condition/s and have the opportunity to see a medication specialist I highly recommend you do so. they can explain this stuff really well. I’m so grateful to the guy I was able to see through the pain clinic, he was patient as fuck with my brain foggy self and so so valuable in being able to see I was not going well at all on the meds I was on and finding something that would work while giving me far less side effects

but yeah in the absence of that, defs speak to your pharmacist, I’ve come across so many genuinely kind and patient pharmacists who have also helped me so much. they can be so invaluable (if they’re a good one).

I hope you all find a good one

this is among one of the funniest ask i have ever seen someone get sorry

[halogalopaghost]

Was gonna amke a post about how my disbaility abboys me but typing huets and my fingers are not feeling vwry precise so fuck me i guess. Read mt insomnia and rage fueled typo posts, boy.

[barkboat]

Arakawa undoes a characters disbaility AND has a fantasy Nazi use the lives of the people he killed in a genocide for his own benefit all in one move. Gotta hand it to her, it's pretty impressive how awful that is

Arakawa unintionally creates a perfect allegory for Nazis with Mustang because he'll do any horrible thing if it means getting promoted which is genuinley how most actual real life Nazis were. They were antisemites sure, but most weren't cartoonishly evil; they were trying to get promotions and murdered and tortured people to do it. This is how Mengele was

[horizon-verizon]

Since we’re talking about Daemon Blackfyre, can we FINALLY accept that he’s the brother that Brynden loved ?

Brynden refers to “[a] brother that I loved, a brother that I hated, a woman I desired”; if the first is Daemon (and as the other two are clearly Aegor Rivers and Shiera Seastar), then the identities of these people are the four Great Bastards of Aegon IV, which provides some neat narrative cohesion to Brynden’s memories (and not to mention listing them in birth order, oldest of the three Daemon, then Aegor, then Shiera as the baby of the group).

I’m not sure that Brynden would have considered himself a “brother” to Daeron II, or at least not to the extent he could with Daemon. Not only was the age difference significant between Daeron and Brynden, 22 years, compared to the mere seven between Daemon and Brynden, but Daeron was unlike Brynden in socio-political standing too. Where Daeron was Prince of Dragonstone from the age of 19, a trueborn member of the royal family descended from the Targaryens on both sides, Brynden was a royal bastard; his mother might have been a particularly well-liked royal mistress, but he was still an extramarital child, whose existence could only be explained by Aegon IV’s pointed cruelty toward Naerys in flaunting his infidelities. Likewise, while Brynden could be accepted at court (thanks to that well-liked mother) and even serve as a commander in the king’s army by the time of the First Blackfyre Rebellion, he would always bear that surname of “Rivers”, denoting him as bastard-born (if subsequently legitimated). 

By contrast, Daemon was much closer to Brynden in terms of background and position. Daemon may have had double Targaryen parentage as Daeron did, but he was, like Brynden, unquestionably a bastard; indeed, unlike Brynden, Daemon had not even been officially recognized by their mutual father for the first 12 years of his life (even if his parentage might have seemed an open secret). If they had both been benefactors of the late king’s blanket legitimization, both were nevertheless surely aware that their livelihoods depended in no small part on the new king; again, Daemon knew this perhaps even more so than Brynden, given that it was Daeron II who made sure Daemon could wed Rohanne of Tyrosh and Daeron II who gifted Daemon a tract of land on which to raise a keep after his marriage. Daemon and Brynden were both, in other words, in the same, somewhat awkward liminal position: bastard sons of the late king, nominally of the same dynastic rank as the new king (thanks to that legitimization decree) but subject to the new king’s goodwill for their daily living, with nothing to call their own inheritance.

I really don't know, I haven't really thought much of Brynden's quote so much as what happens after the Blackfyres are ousted, Daenerys in Dorne, and Daeron II's probable disbaility.

[himbos-hotline]

i am going to sleep cuz sitting up will make me throw up [again] pls spam my askbox

Right, I have a headache, the emotional capacity of a wet sock and the inability to sleep, dya know what im gonna do? Work on a request

send me asks while I write to keep me motivated/ make me feel less alone

[wheelie-butch]

thought this article about disbaility in stories was pretty good

[lemonpixycat]

some one close to me said something really hurtful today. They wanted something from me, but weren’t terribly specific on what they wanted. I communicated to them that I need more specificity next time on what they wanted from me, and they said something along the lines of that they're frustrated that they have to be super specific with me, but in a way that made it clear they thought *I* was the one being unreasonable. Ya’ll, I’m autistic. I literally have “need super specificity to understand shit” disorder. I can’t change. I literally CAN”T just ‘infer’ from what they’re saying what  they actually want from me!! AND THEY KNOW I”M AUTISTIC TOO. THEY SAID THIS WITH FULL KNOWLEDGE THAT I HAVE A LITERAL DISBAILITY THAT MAKES SOCIAL UNDERSTANDING AND INFERENCE DIFFICULT FOR ME.  I know our family isn’t having a great time right now but I hate that they said that to me.