#did I make up us being mutuals or did they accidentally unfollow me or did the unfollow me on purpose and now they’re back

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Nothing like getting a new follower notif from some who you thought you were already mutuals with skfhdjdhdjd

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accidentally unfollowed while sending this ask lol anyways

https://www.autostraddle.com/75-ken-dolls-ranked-by-lesbianism-383518/

that's the one i posted (not a huge fan of the mermaid ken text idk what they wanted to say) but :)

weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

thanks for sharing!!! i decided to react to every single one as well! and had so much fun doing it— did some extra research ;3cc 🔬 ;3c too ;3

i actually read an article like this before, it was only regarding the reboot kens and they referred to them as male exes or men you see on dating apps i think? anyways this article is better imo

so all of them could be my ex gf because i’m horrible and greedy and think everyone in the whole wide world is gorgeous no take backs

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ = the ones i could hypothetically crush, date, etc rn

long post as there are 75 kendalls :3

75. i love her!!!! i’d love to see a same sex pair skating competition!! yuri on ice ;3 *bad joke booing*

74. my funky 90s gyal pal. there is an actual lesbian out there who wore this in the 90s. she is now someone’s cool lesbian aunt.

73. depop legend who could collab with the sims 4 type of girl. i can see us being friends :3

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 72. oh no, i can see now.. probably would have a meet cute moment in the library 💔 i would have such a bad crush on this kendall. i feel like there could be shared attraction but she’d end up not liking my personality :(

71. erm rude! i’d give her a chance, fusion music can be cool. hope she’s into sharing sweaters with friends and lovers because that looks comfy. and her band / group looks so fun!! loving the hair on the dolls of colour!!!

70. i know her and her wife! they have that really cool couple swag! anyways i babysit their kids

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 69. 2000s tomboy…💍…

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 68. we met a free optional donation ticket community centre event for showcasing people who customize their clothing or make their own stuff from scratch. she’s going to a, in her words “crappy art school” but at least she has access to a studio. that’s where she made her sweater ? bomber jacket ? they sell pretty well on instagram

67. “Cameron: She’d def welcome you to the neighborhood with a jell-o creation. maybe a casserole”. literally

66. 2000s lesbian celebrity’s gf ?

65. weird femme icon. my girlie pop. if lesbians had fag hags i’d be one for her.

64. we have beef though even though we’ve never had an one on one conversation ໒꒰ྀི｡-︵-꒱ྀིა she just doesn’t like my vibes i guess. i probably think her brother is ‘kinda hot’... maybe that’s why. “Says she got her outfit at Goodwill, actually got it at Urban Outfitters” <- fact

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 63. i would do anything for her, i would be so down bad… if she started info dumping about marine ecosystems i would have to propose. she’d invite me (with a group, not one on one) to every beach clean up event and i’d try very hard not to be weird. in the picture used on the organizers’ instagram i’d be standing beside her and blushing really hard and i’d look back on that picture and laugh at myself :’3…. not sure if she could love me though.. i don’t think my feelings would be reciprocated at all. i am imagining her in her early to mid 30s for some reason? anyways she doesn’t date too far outside of her age range to begin with so my chance were not to nothing anyways. when i’m finally over her and tell that i had a crush on her she’s surprised because she had no idea but literally everyone else and their mom knew. wow really got into this one! um…. i really like bodies of water so

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 62. if i ever date— she’s either going to be the ex that ruined my life or my life partner. all i know is the good times would be really good. i feel like she’d respect me in a way others do not for some reason.

61. omg is that kurt kunkle in his hype beast fit?

60. i love her books / favourite author

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 59. im not worthy /lh

58. our circles wouldn’t cross

57. she looks fun and like she has the sweetest heart ever. she gives me city only girl vibes so we’d just be mutuals that compliment each other very enthusiastically

56. lesbians… should try that fit.. everyone should try that fit….

55. i don’t know. i need to know more about her. i feel she’d wanna go to edm music festivals and that isn’t really my scene. probably has a popular ig or tumblr for being hot and getting more masc people to wear crop tops again

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 54. “Even your grandmother who was only so-so about you dating women loves Dr. Ken. Like your whole family is so obsessed with Dr. Ken that they don’t even care that she’s not Jewish and they’re like, hang on to this one, don’t fuck it up! And you’re like YEAH I KNOW as if having a perfect girlfriend isn’t stressful enough already” LITERALLY. plus she has a kid ? or we have a kid???? hi tommy you angel! 🤍🤍🤍 id be the luckiest little thing under the sun. like she’s the best. ms. treat you right. i cannot stress this is the best lover you’ll ever have. also i get the vibe that i’d be her princess :3

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 53. NEED HER. two vibes that’s just her or that’s her drag king persona either is good.

52. i feel like she’d decide she wouldn’t be into me at first glance and or find me annoying

51. “Ken has a house in Saratoga mostly decorated with stuff she picked up in New Mexico when she lived there for a minute back in the ’80s. She’s very sweet and inquisitive and she has two large dogs she loves to pieces but you know what now that you mention it, she never really liked camping as much as the other girls did. Another love would be women’s music, of course”. agree 🤍

50. that’s her service animal actually. i feel like we’d be really good friends or at least enjoy working on our photography together.

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 49. “Art Director Ken is an asshole to everybody except you and her entire apartment is white and spotless even though she has a dog. She takes you to cool events—”. and no, i don’t have a crush on the dog walker— i am the dog walker in this scenario. we had a good time together but it couldn’t last because of the whole rude to people thing. i can imagine her being bitchy to someone in food service and then i’d just loose it and it would be over.

48. “Valerie: She started an all-female Warblers in protest of the original and they only sing songs made famous by men but they don’t change the pronouns”. never met her but i watch her group on youtube <333

47. old butch and that is a picture of when she was my age that she showed me on her really comfy couch

46. need more information, for some reason i’m getting nothing but the one earring is working on me

45. weren’t we all Cool Lookin’ Ken at one point in our lives

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 44. i’m in love with her. whether the pants are “zip off at the knee” or not is very important. we want want answers mattel !

43. of course Jasika Nicole has a wife. how did i not know that

42. i want to watch whatever film she’s in. give me a lesbian western pls

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 41. ok i lied the first time. actually i need her. need to be in the same room as her. i’d actually want my feelings to be reciprocated by her. i want to hold her hand at backyard experimental art showings. we met at a showing of a film by some gay boy in film school who i thought was hot. the film was good. i think he could be a household name some day but he’s like anti-industry and wants to stay underground so i’m like why spend money film school then? later Adventure Ken tells me his parents are loaded so that explains that. anyways we road trip a lot together i hope we’re in love.

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 40. “She goes by her Roller Derby name on Facebook because she doesn’t want her toxic stepfather to find her. She’s a really loyal friend and a downright incredible girlfriend and always puts safety first”. agreed. roller derby girl ! you are my world !

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 39. …you know what i’m going say… not be fooled i don’t have ‘types’ (grew out of that quickly, thank you horrible situations) but yeah just look like some older girlbrother in a 2000s or 2010s show and at the very least i’d want to cuddle with you :/ anyways i hope we’re seeing a horror movie on our date and i hope she’s real

38. “Jenna: yeah she’s always the sensitive one when she and her friends pretend to be a boy band” we couldn’t have that fun we’re friends but with undertone of romance vibe i like to have with my friends because she’d catch feelings feelings and i wouldn’t reciprocate because i have crush one of the other girls in the boy band. “boi band” sounds so 2013 to me maybe 2011? 2012?

37. one of the new ones! “Cameron: you think she’s gonna tell you about how we live in a post-gender, post-racial society but she surprises you by being super woke & you’re totally disarmed & you kind of hate yourself for it” <- this description is too good and too real. i’d see her at a gsa and go oh god she’s probably calls herself an activist online but she’s going to make weird comments about my heritage— but she’s actually on the ground and literally making changes in the community. also she has two dads that have been on the ground since they knew they could and instilled so much love and wisdom into their daughter. and i smack myself all the time about it because i thought i stopped judging people. anyways she has a fiancé who is pregnant, they very happy. i am invited to the baby shower but not the wedding. anyways i baked them stuff and got good at fibre art just make sure my handmade shower gifts were good enough. might be an uncle or godmother after all this.

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 36. “Dufrau: She seems very attentive
Stef: Bringing you sodas
putting on some mood music
even answering your phone
Molly: ‘hey babe i saw your twitter rants today and picked up some calming lavender bath bombs’” ✅✅

35. we all know her. either your friend’s ex or cousin. after she grows out of her fuckboy phase she really cool and neat

34. she’s on the food network and when you saw her at 9 years old you were like whoa. her instagram is so golden because she has really nice pictures of food, her wife and family— pets included!

33. “Ken just got to Los Angeles from Missouri and before moving had really only ever hooked up with straight girls (there was like this whole THING in high school). She isn’t looking for a relationship, but she keeps falling in love with incredible women / making out with strangers at The Abbey / not knowing what to do with all these new feelings” yes she also thirst traps a lot

32. “Dufrau: She dated two of my best friends sophomore year of college and ive never forgiven her for her behavior
Sarah: Cutie Fashionista Ken is the first time you get a dyke spike after listening to Viz by Le Tigre
Cameron: Cutie Fashionista Ken kept trying to be the Shane of the friend group” literally, enough said

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 31. i made her that shirt don’t laugh. she approached me, idk why but i was really surprised she liked me. anyways we’re really happy. i’m SO thankful she has an apartment. we have picturesque mornings.

30. “This is a lesbian who usually dresses on the masc side but always femmes it up for a thematic dance”. literally so much fun. friend met her and now we’re all buds. her parents are literally saints and her grandmother is always feeding me.

29. she’s obviously taken. anyways they’re the rich lesbian couple at the tennis club.

28. ??? i am missing a reference here?

27. another cool celebrity lesbian’s wife

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 26. “Jenna: she likes to cuddle
Dufrau: she has a great haircut” hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii home dates with her are bliss. her mom thinks i’m really pretty and our relationship helps her unlearn homophobic and transphobic opinions. me and her dad have something in common, like a silly quirk or hobby, favourite thing etc. he’s also a closet bisexual. when Hip Hoodie Ken and i move into together her dad comes out. by then her mom is chill and is the first check the homophobic aunties when try and say something about her daughter or husband.

25. had a crush on her when i was 11. thought she was so cool ! my favourite camp counsellor ever !! can play the guitar and does silly songs at the campfire and has that “let’s give all to god tonight” christian lesbian swag during chapel. charismatic angel. met her girlfriend at church.

24. haven’t seen this barbie movie and don’t plan to. i agree with mey— “Mey: No that’s rainbow dash the lesbian pony from my little pony”

23. i know who gigi but idk who nats is. anyways these barbies are giving lesbian influencer couple. searched them up— so they were a lesbian influencer couple at the time of this article. omg gigi is married slay! t4t love wins

22. curious about her, need more info

21. “Dufrau: She hosts a children’s show but adults watch because she is so soothing” yes and she is her city’s children’s pride marshal. mother of 3. her wife is like a cook? food ? influencer. like she cooks really yummy looking stuff and is huge on social media and is sometimes a guest judge on cooking shows. maybe she’ll get a netflix cooking show deal soon

20. i need that belt more than her

19. “Cameron: this is the outfit my friend wore to her bachelorette party. i’m not joking” so true. again we know or have seen this lesbian.

18. her family is crazy but they have money. she’s lowkey classist and ableist :///

17. good for them i guess

16. i saw this one in walmart “Cameron: this is just every summer gay.”

15. “Cameron: also every summer gay
Jenna: I feel like cali-cool said she would call you back, but she definitely didn’t call you back. And even though you didn’t really WANT her to call you back, it’s the principle of the thing”. yuh

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 14. i know her! she makes her own cider it’s so good. she’s really good at gifting people. she likes soup. i like wrapping her in blankets and giving her hot chocolate. we could 100% kiss and fall in love.

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 13. “Cameron: she helped me find a book i was looking for a gender studies research paper & suggested something better”. looking! for! her!

12. “Art Director Ken #2 is also an asshole but you deal with it ’cause she always gets bottle service for the table and has lots of stories about Closeted Power Lesbian parties in Palm Springs that happened in the late ’80s / early ’90s and she’s your only source regarding the possibility of Jada Pinkett-Smith being bisexual” only that one of my friends is dating her and that’s how i get the tea

11. “Cameron: She lost her snapback on a rollercoaster at Universal Studios. Will not let you forget it” <-

10. “Mey: Big brother ken is def a hot lesbian mom
Jenna: yeah, and she also owns a subaru
Mey: She ignores Sarah Pfefferman at PTA meetings” yuh!💞💞💞

9. 2010s lesbian character on abc(?)

8. “This outfit cost $400” true and i could literally get for $35 with the most expensive part being the shoes that i got a charity shop. the rest i got from walmart. anyways i’m making her autistic for some reason but we can’t be friends because she spent $400 dollars on that outfit.

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 7. :::/ *ignores that* ANYWAYS like i’ve let it slip i’m a fresh water mermaid but she looks more salt water </3 star crossed lovers

6. THIS IS LITERALLY SOMEONE’S EX THAT I KNOW OH MY GOD ITS LITERALLY [REDACTED] LOLLLLLLLLL. it was the lesbian divorce of the century [break up they weren’t actually married]

꒰აꨄ︎໒꒱ 5. also know her. we are mutuals on this very tumblr. and btw she’s SO tired of the villainization of southern [us]americans

4. wow nothing else needs to be said. molly is repping that Barbie Dreamhouse Ken swag

3. i remember this one very clearly for some reason. congratulations jenna for being Distressed Denim Ken (2017). maybe the kens were the lesbians we met along the way.

2. LOL i’m obsessed with the side by side lesbian matching. Hi Riese’s gf!

1. i loved reading about the design and creation process of this ken in particular! even looked for it online. idk if i’d actually buy the doll but yeah. “Alaina: “Did they consult Brittani Nichols for this doll? Because this doll is Brittani Nichols.” factual

and this was so fun thank you em <3

i looked at the related articles and found this gem ! real gaydies showing how we are all just lesbian ken

i’m not going go through each because those are real people and i feel like that would be kinda creepy BUT hello to “Lisa / 54 / Professor / Pittsburgh, PA” and Hillary “Scald Eagle” is such a cool name! everyone SERVED ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 i am still recovering. the comment section has really good stuff too :’3

as an aside i’ve now learned that there are a lot of lesbian teachers in the world. maybe education will be saved…

anyways thanks again for this i had so much fun !

[teacupsandcyanide]

no spoilers below for Glass Onion I am just making a group suggestion for fun times

I think it’s genuinely atrocious that there has been only a one-week cinema release in relatively limited theatres for Glass Onion, and after that it won’t become available online for another month, and even then ONLY on Netflix. To my understanding there's not going to be a later, longer conventional cinematic release. I ... do not like the sound of that trying to become a thing, buying up streaming rights to the point of drastically limiting the cinema run, and then slapping "Netflix Original" on it to make it sound like they have the creative or intellectual rights/involvement for that to all be reasonable.

And yeah, once it’s online people will start streaming it, but in the intervening weeks the film is going to be picked apart and digested online. That in itself isn’t inherently bad it just means that so many people are going to be spoiled for it and it’s a murder mystery. If you're the kind of person who doesn't mind spoilers that's all good, and if you're a sicko like @goldenaltar who likes getting little appetiser spoilers then that's great, but there are many people who hate spoilers and who find that their experience of a piece of media really gets affected by them.

Usually online etiquette is to be open from the get-go about what you're going to tag and not going to tag. But also sometimes the way you find out that That Thing you were interested in has come out and you need to block tags for it is someone on your dash casually dropping a huge spoiler about it. Sometimes your friend or a tumblr you like just doesn't have the capacity to tag for spoilers, and that's not their fault at all, but also it means you have to either unfollow them for a bit or stay offline entirely.

For me, with ADHD I can't rely on my brain to remember to refollow mutuals and blogs I like after I've seen The Thing, and spoilers really ruin my motivation to watch/read The Thing, so the option I take is often to stay offline entirely because it's the easiest and most secure option. And during that time I feel really pressured to watch or read The Thing so that I can go back online, and that makes me dread watching/reading The Thing, and I feel forced to get into The Thing when everyone else is rather than when I feel ready to. This may be another ADHD thing, but I get stressed to fuck when I'm forced to watch/read The Thing when The Stars Aren't In Position because I feel like I can't process it and aren't getting what I could get out of it. (This phenomenon accidentally ruined ofmd for me, and it's no one's fault it's just what happened, but it's probably going to be a long time before I can rewatch the show and actually enjoy it this time rather than view it as Task Item 47.)

And I feel like I'm not the only person who feels that way. I've seen so many friends/mutuals and other people on tumblr saying things like "I am so fucking tired of watching The Thing as fast as I can as soon as it comes out. It exhausts me and sometimes negatively impacts how much I end up enjoying it. But I feel like, for many many reasons, I have no other option."

When the play The Mousetrap written by big name murder mystery girlie Aggie "Baby Girl" Christie came out (stay with me I promise this is relevant) in London's West End in 1952, Baby Girl (this is a semi-derogatory (for the bad stuff) and semi-affectionate (for the good stuff) thing I call her, it's like our thing don't worry) was very concerned about the plot twist being revealed in reviews. She was already very used to her murder mystery plots getting spoiled by reviewers and Baby Girl did not like it. So on opening night and onwards elsewhere traditionally, performances of The Mousetrap end with the audience being asked not to spoil the plot twist for others so that other people can enjoy the play too. It's kind of cool because no one has to and many people don't, but bringing people into a secret makes something that is ultimately just a nice and kind thing to do also sexy and fun.

And I think. It would really sexy. And really fun. If we kept spoilers on tumblr under readmores. No one has to and many people won't. That's all good. But I really hate Netflix right now and the entire system they're trying to set up, of giving people one week to catch a limited release film and then stranding them in a wasteland of spoilers until December, at which point the only place to watch it (haha. theoretically) will be on Netflix. I would very much like to not be part of that system as best I can while still supporting an amazing film which I loved and a series I would like more of.

So absolutely, if you're thinking about catching a cinema screening today (or tomorrow if you're further away from Thursday than I am), I say it's well worth it, it's fantastic film. My partner and I drove an hour and a bit on a weeknight to see it and it was 100% worth it imo. But we were lucky to be able to do that, and I would like to ensure that other people get to experience the film the way we did – on our own terms, at a time when we were pumped to see it, and without any spoilers we didn't want. So my thing from here on until early Jan is going to be keeping anything spoilery under readmores. No one else has to do it and I think most people wouldn't. But it's nice, and it's kind. And it's sexy and fun.

Also I'm not gonna make any comments on whether you should stream directly from Netflix's tit but I do think they should go fuck themselves for this one. yeah it's just a movie but I will hiss at people who try to pry my small tender joys from my anxious depressed little hands

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Since this post still exists on fluxphage’s blog, I’m just gonna reply to the out and out lies here: 

“Vaspider simp” -- I like Spider, and we’re mutuals. I’ve looked up to his attitude re: he handles shitty takes and behavior online. I don’t think we always agree or see eye to eye, but overall, I’d say it’s a decent online relationship.

“I can fix HP person” -- this is in regards to me writing/talking about Candlwitches. I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a “fix it fic” anymore. But yeah, it started out as “okay but what if HP was actually good,” which is why it’s still under a “hp knock off” tag 

“Misgendered Morg” -- accidentally. I was called out on it, went back, and corrected the two instances I found. 

“Argued in dms with me about antisemitism” --  I’ve unblocked kirin now so that I could access our DMs, which I’ve transcribed here (willing to provide screenshots if requested). The argument* in question was about whether or not the pink triangle can be reclaimed by gentiles or not. The discussion ended with me admitting I felt like I’d entered a bizarro world. I then later reached out asking if it’d be okay to mention this in a potential video because it ties back into losing queer history. 

As an aside, if I did not ultimately agree with their explanation on the pink triangle, why would I want to include their viewpoint in a video about how queer history is being lost? I still want to make this video because I feel like it’s important. 

“Called me white multiple times and lied about it” -- I did not ever call kirin white. And again, you can check our DMs linked here because when kirin first claimed this, they were called out on the matter. You can see we had a short conversation with them apologizing and reblocking me for their own well-being.

Here are relevant links that I’ve found discussing it, but if you want to poke around yourself, look around March 17th. Luckily, I was in the middle of a 15 hour car ride from Orlando to Philadelphia so there aren’t many posts from that day.

The relevant part where people thought I was calling kirin white is copy/pasted here: The person who I unfollowed and led me to thinking about this and to the conversation with a former mutual blocking me is white.

To make it very clear “the person who I unfollowed and led me to...” is the white person (morg) and “to the conversation with a former mutual” is kirin. And that’s it. That’s the only time where I came close to implying kirin is white and it’s entirely through someone reading my reply too quickly

That’s it. I’ve been thinking about this since I saw this post from kirin and it was seriously eating me this entire time. In the DMs kirin admits to having trouble remembering things, so I’m making this public and accessible with a one time tag of kirin so that it can easily be accessed again.

*I am using the word argument here because kirin characterizes it as such. I honestly felt it was more a discussion at the time we were talking but I’m not discounting their recollection or feelings.

[anexlarrieblog]

I'll share how I unlarried! I became a fan of 1D through solo Harry in summer 2017. I fell down a Larry rabbit hole on Youtube. I hopped over to tumbler and followed Larries and read a bunch of great fan fic. I was enamored with how sweet Larry was and at first it brought me a lot of joy. I guess my theory on Larry was that H and L probably had a thing in ID and maybe still to that current day. But they kept it really private. It was mostly wishful thinking. And on tumblr I listened to Larries because I assumed they knew more than I did. Potential sighting of H and L together got my Larry brain excited. According to Larries there were matching flight schedules (there weren't) and a pattern to pap shots (there weren't). But at first I didn't know this and it seemed like harmless fun to speculate and hope. But I started to see it wasn't so harmless. Babygate disturbed me. I unfollowed anyone who talked about it. As well as hatred toward Brianna. I didn't understand why an oopsie baby was such an impossibility to them. The infighting and the hate toward women made me uncomfy and I did my best to curate my dash and regardless I kept Larrying.

The big cracks started to show for me when the Dan Wooten podcast interview hit. My dash irrupted in vitriol toward Louis! To them he was a gaslighter. He was abusing them. I realized I'd accidentally joined some kind of religious cult. And in that moment Louis himself was the heretic. I realized they actually hated him. Only loved him if he was romantically involved with Harry. I had my theories and my opinions but they weren't set in stone....these people were true believers. They even mocked him and his use of the phrase “mutual respect”. Joking and twisting it to mean sex. I thought I had been following nice Larries.

I unfollowed all Larries. But kept following Louies and Harries.

Hate to admit but it took a long time to rewire my Larry brain. What finally made me realize it really wasn't REAL was months later when Fizzy died. And in the hours and days immediately following her death Harry was photographed continuing his life in London as normal. The gym, getting his nails done, at the store, at dinner with friends, a business lunch with Rob Stringer. He was not by Louis' side. Larry was clearly NOT REAL. It took a horrible family tragedy for it to really sink in for me.

Months later in May 2019. Harry showed up at a Milan fashion show. When I heard Louis was also in Italy, what remained of my Larry brain perked up! Were they in the same place at the SAME TIME?? A quick google search told me Louis was actually more then 5 hours away from Milan that day. He and Eleanor then went to Spain. No Harry in sight. I had to snap out of it and let this go! Why was I still hoping? To help me let go I actually looked up a Lou and Eleanor timeline. Seeing their genuine relationship helped. Also I looked up “Zarry” and other friendships Harry had with men. It helped me realize that 1D were ALL touchy feely with each other, and that Harry especially is an affectionate person who is comfortable being physically affectionate with men. Larry wasn't as special as I'd thought. I also looked up Larry debunks which were eye opening. Blogs like ShitLarriesSay helped me understand how much harassment had come from Larries and just how much Louis and his family was annoyed by them. I understood that “Antis” weren't homophobic bullies as I'd been told, but were the ones standing up for Louis by listening to his own words.

Wow, thanks anon for sharing your honest and detailed account of un-larrying, that sounds like a lot! When I was in the process of un-larrying I also looked up debunks and real timelines and it helped me see reality a lot. Also yep horrible events in Louis life when Harry wasn’t there - just made no sense. It makes no sense in general when Larries pretend Harry and Louis can’t be on the same continent or can’t even be friends?? But makes sense when your out of it and realise it’s all part of the manipulative narrative by Larries. I agree it really is like a cult following, still amazes me how many people became and still are Larries. It’s kinda insane. Anyway, hope you are happier now and as with all ex-Larries come chat to me off anon anytime ❤️

[frestoniia]

What kind of advice would you give to first-time rp'ers on tumblr?

▹ Okay so full disclosure, there are probably people way more qualified to give this sort of advice than I am. I'm really kinda just makin this shit up as I go tbh. For general RP etiquette, I'd recommend reading this post here, since it explains the most important things a lot better than I could.

That being said, a lot of these are gonna boil down to mostly a personal preference, but I still think they're a good rule of thumb for most people to keep in mind, especially newbies.

Accessibility over Aesthetics. Now, 'accessibility' means different things to different people, so I'm not gonna pretend that there's a one-size-fits-all solution to this conundrum. However, when setting up your blog, it's important that everything is easy to find and easy to read. I'm not saying you shouldn't use fancy graphics or small fonts-- trust me, I totally get wanting everything to look aesthetically pleasing. But it's an rp blog, not a scavenger hunt. I find that having a mobile-friendly alternative to your important pages is a good compromise in this regard.

Try to make your rules clear and concise. By all means, elaborate on your rules as much as you need to. However, in my experience, people rarely read through the entirety of someone's rules page the first time, especially if it's super lengthy. I'm not saying long rules pages are bad, but I do think that being brief, yet comprehensive is a good way to ensure no important points are glossed over.

Try to have your pages set up before you start following people. This is really more of a personal preference, I think. Before I decide to follow a blog, I always make sure to read their pages (whether they're an oc or a canon character). But if there are no pages for me to read, not only will I not follow, but I'm definitely not gonna remember to go back and check again later. I'm not saying everything has to be 100% finished, but having the general information available from the get-go would be ideal.

Don't be pushy. I understand it can be disheartening when people won't follow you back, or don't show as much enthusiasm as you do. Trust me, I get it. And I know it's a lot easier to say 'just don't take it personally' than it is to actually not take it personally. But you won't be doing yourself any favors by pestering people or getting on their case about it. Don't unfollow and then re-follow to try and get their attention (admittedly I've done this in the past, but those were all accidents. My memory is just Bad and I sometimes forget whether or not I've already followed someone whoops), and accept that not everyone is going to want to write with you. Nor are you obligated to write with anyone you don't want to.

Don't be afraid to unfollow/block people. For any reason. Personally, I soft-block whenever I want to actually unfollow a mutual (blocking and then quickly un-blocking them so they're no longer following my blog), that way they know it was intentional. Goodness knows I've accidentally unfollowed people when I didn't mean to, thanks to tumblr's shitty layout. But yeah, you're allowed to block and/or unfollow people, and you don't owe anyone an explanation. Yes, it sucks when it happens to you, and it can leave you wondering what you did wrong. But the sooner you remember that we're all losers writing on the internet for fun and none of this shit actually matters, the happier you will be.

[azulapropaganda]

Hello everyone. Today (August 2nd 2020) I noticed a blog who earlier tried to accuse me of being a terf has once again made another post about this. This time she accused me of some other things and since her post suddenly started gaining attention, I decided to clear some things up and reply to every single claim she makes in her post.

I’m genuinely tired of all of this.... So, there’s a insanely popular atla TERF (@what-would-azula-do) blogger that’s been attacking me and my friends, and she worked with a group of TERFs to ban my og spop blog. I literally just made this blog but I’m tired of getting attacked by TERFs, so I’m making a call out post (ew ikr) to end this.

I am not a terf. I did not work with a group of terfs to ban your blog, you did this to yourself by tagging your post with “terfs please interact”, “terfs do touch” and other tags. You’re attacking a minor with false claims that are easily debunked. I have not been attacking you or your friends, I don’t even know who your friends are. I specifically added the “please do not send op any hate” tag when I called you out so my followers wouldn’t harass you.

First off, what-would-azula-do is a pretty obvious crypto TERF. She reblogs and creates a ton of TERFy posts that might flow off the radar of cis people, but directly harms trans people. She constantly reblogs and makes exclusionary feminist posts that exclude trans women, and use TERF rhetoric, and she doesn’t have any trans or non-binary mutuals. She also just posts full on TERF shit a lot, and whenever she gets called out she gets defensive and deletes the evidence. I got this info from an anonymous trans woman that pmed me, but she also used to just be a full on out TERF in 2016, and posted transphobic slurs and memes regularly, and also was a SWERF. Allegedly she deleted the blog and remade with her new main and the what-would-azula-do sideblog. Again this is just an alleged anon tip but I believe it. She also ships a pretty TERFy atla ship (tyzula) that à ton of TERFs on tumblr ship. Now I’m going to go to a huge pile of shit already, ONE OF HER MUTUALS IS LITERALLY AN OPEN TERF.

You say I reblog and create a ton of terfy posts. Which ones? I only talk about atla on this blog and actually make an effort to tag anything else as “off topic”. I don’t think I even made a post about feminism on my blog. You also say I don’t have any trans or nonbinary mutuals, do you have any proof of that? You contradict this claim further in your post (“Has trans mutuals even though she’s a TERF”). You say I post “terf shit” a lot, could you provide screenshots of that please? And according to you, “whenever” I get called out I delete the evidence. I got one anon once when I accidentally reblogged something from a terf I wasn’t aware I was following. I personally wouldn’t call my reply to this anon “defensive”. You say you got info from an anonymous trans woman that I used to be a full on terf in 2016 and that I posted transphobic slurs and memes regularly. In 2016 I was 13-14 years old and I didn’t even have a tumblr blog. I don’t even know how to address the tyzula thing. How is a ship “terfy”? And just because I reblog art, doesn’t mean I actually ship it? I reblog art of several ships just because I like the art.

Unholy-lesbian is one of what-would-azula-do’s TERF mutuals (she has about three crypto TERF mutuals too) that’s just a full on TERF. She was really into the TERF sphere a month ago but went crypto when she became mutuals with what-would-azula-do (probs to protect her crypto TERF identity) she said she’s not a TERF anymore, but she still reblogs TERF rhetoric and all her mutuals are TERFs. She also put TERF in quotation marks which means she probs thinks it’s a slur, which is TERF rhetoric. She’s also a gold star lesbian which means she excludes trans women from her dating pool. I’d go into this bitch more, but this callout ain’t for her.

Could you please give me the usernames of my three cryptoterf mutuals? Look I’m not going to deny that unholy-lesbian was a terf a while ago. She told me this yesterday or two days ago when I talked to her about your post. She also told me she was done being a terf because the community was so hateful all the time. She’s 15 years old, don’t pull her into this.

I’m friends with her so she can find a welcoming and nice community in the atla fandom. She’s on the right path now, do you seriously want to go hate on her for this?

This is a lighting round of all the shit she did, and also her track of aphobia and ableism, so here we go:

I literally have autism and adhd myself.

Used the t slur on her old blog (alleged)

No I haven’t? Could you provide proof of this please?

Has trans mutuals even though she’s a TERF

You contradict this earlier in this post, once again without any evidence.

Misgendered an artist on what-would-azula-do and didn’t apologize

Who? I use “they” whenever I don’t know the gender of an artist. I wasn’t aware this ever happened and I’d like to apologize to said artist of this claim is true

Liked an aphobic meme

Which meme? Also my likes aren’t even visible.

Mutuals with an aphobe that bullied an ace kid off tumblr

Who?

Uses her queer followers as props to denounce her being a TERF

This is ridiculous. My followers know I’m not a terf so of course some of them are going to defend me and support me.

Gaslight her former nb mutual

Who?

Reblogged from a TERF with TERF in her username

Yes and I addressed this already. Someone sent an anon about this, I deleted the post, unfollowed the user I wasn’t even aware of following in the first place, and thanked the anon for telling me about this.

Said the r slur on her main

No I didn’t? Do you have a screenshot of or a link to this post? Also I literally have autism, as I have mentioned earlier on this blog.

Slandered a queer artist on what-would-azula-do

Who?

WORKED WITH TERFS TO DEPLATFORM ME (A NB LESBIAN OF COLOR)

I reported your post once because you were accusing me of untrue things and harassing me, a minor, and you were threatening to murder my followers. I didn’t work with terfs at all, they came to your post after you tagged it with “terfs please interact”

And what does your sexuality and gender even have to do with this?

Even if she wasn’t a TERF (which she is lol) she worked with TERFs to ban my blog that exposed her, which is violently lesbophpbic and nbphobic.

Your blog was banned because you were harassing a minor and throwing around false accusations, not because you are a lesbian or nonbinary. I did not work with terfs to ban your blog, as I have mentioned twice earlier.

So y’all really shouldn’t follow or support her anymore, unless you’re a TERF just like her. (Dm me for screenshots, I didn’t want to post them here since she’d just gaslight me)

Please post all of the screenshots you have in a reply to this post.

Also, could you stop harassing my followers. This is just incredibly gross behavior.

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[corxunum]

☠ What does someone have to do for an instant unfollow from you? ☣ Have you ever rp'd with someone you knew for a fact was abusive but tried to give them a chance/to make up your own opinion on the roleplayer? Did they change or did you understand what people were talking about? ✿ What do you think about public call out posts? ❥Has someone ever ruined an FC or character for you? ❧ Have you ever been jealous of anyone?

@wexarethewalkingxdead || Salty AF Munday Meme [ always accepting ]

☠ What does someone have to do for an instant unfollow from you? People are free to do on their blogs as they wish, but if someone spams the dash with guilt trips, whining, constant ooc or political posts without a tendency to stop anytime soon, I´m gone. Same with people who constantly reply to hate they get. That´s always fishy. Just… block the IP address and move on? Anyone who partakes in drama or callouts. I think those are the main reasons. I´m highly selective about who I am following in the first place though, so it rarely happens anyways.    ☣ Have you ever rp'd with someone you knew for a fact was abusive but tried to give them a chance/to make up your own opinion on the roleplayer? Did they change or did you understand what people were talking about? No, I think I dodged those kinds of bullets. I never was overly popular or engaged with people who could claim that, so the big drama always happened far far away from me. Of course, I have been involved in fights and have witnessed bashing of others, but always away from the public. That´s not exactly better, but at least it happened in private, without the mob mentality I despise so much on Tumblr. I have given people chances who I knew were a little flaky or known to just stick with their faves while promoting being open to anyone and learned my lesson, but that´s as far as it goes. These days I stay in my little corner, keep my mutual circle small and like it best that way.   ✿ What do you think about public call out posts? Look, bad people exist. That´s a fact for Tumblr as it is for the real world. But are we really here to police what others do? No. Most of us just want to escape our lives a bit and write with others. The few callouts I´ve come across I´ve always viewed very skeptically. To me they seem to have been blown total out of proportion. You got beef with anyone? Settle that shit in private, ffs. I don´t care to see it. Unless there is something severe ans criminal going on, steer clear my friend. And if you can´t help yourselves anymore, just report the person. End of.   ❥ Has someone ever ruined an FC or character for you? Oh yes. I used to have a partner I adored many years ago, and we wrote epic stories together, but then they suddenly got obsessed with a certain faceclaim and only cared for partners who used that FC anymore, while neglecting all their other ships and threads. That can ruin stuff for you. I also accidentally shipped a muse with two muses with the same FC once (not at the same time though) and had a falling out with both partners, so seeing that FC isn´t fun. The last one might be super petty (Hey, at least I own it) but that´s another FC of a person who used me to get to my (hot male) shipping partners while always ignoring our threads. But it all happened a long time ago and I´m mostly over it. 

❧ Have you ever been jealous of anyone? I´m human and get jealous. More than I like, because I can get attached. But I´m working on it and got a lot better.

[astarlightmonbebe]

~DMing the Wrong Person; Stray Kids Hyung Line~

Bang Chan

So, Chan is a music producer and he has around 300k followers on Instagram

You honestly only followed him because he was good looking (yeah that’s a bit shallow but you actually bothered to listen to some of his beats and now you stan his music, too)

You’re just a chill fan of his, only have his post and story notifs on because you like to keep up but you’re not obsessive

Anyways so you found this really funny post with some screenshots of his recent live (which was at like midnight...and Chan was pretty tired...you love memes, you had to take advantage of him)

Chan’s insta is @prod_cb97 and you’re just scrolling through your contacts to ‘p’ to send to your friend, but it’s late and you accidentally click Chan’s name and send it before realizing your mistake

Of course you’re like ‘omg, I have to unsend that now’, but by the time you’ve exited over to it, it already says ‘seen’???

Cue: major freakout because what the heck is happening, why is he looking at your messages

AND THEN IT SHOWS HE’S TYPING?

911 is this a drill it’s 2 a.m. in the morning

He finally sends a message, ‘ik i’m a meme why do you guys bully me like this’

And you’re like; ‘jkdahfds I’M SO SORRY I’LL ESCORT MYSELF OUT’

But he’s all ‘noo, I was kidding’

Then he also adds; ‘those are high quality memes, I saved them’

Like, please, Chan, those memes were so ugly and you both knew it

You don’t know what else to say so you end up being all; ‘it’s two a.m., you should be sleeping !!  us fans want you to be well rested :)’ and it sounds so weird???  

You’re not that big of the fan...

It takes him a couple minutes, but he responds; ‘music doesn’t sleep :), but thank you for the concern!’

How is he so cute and cool at the same time...you’re a little bit starstruck because you’re follower account waves at 502 and his has a big ‘k’ on the end

You decide it’s time to get sleep, but then he sends you !! another !! message !!

‘Well...you know all about me, can I know a little bit about you?  Anyone who creates such wholesome memes is worth getting to know’

Hmm, it almost sounds like a pickup line, but you’re not crazy

(okay, maybe a little, because you respond back with probably a little too much information than he had wanted and/or expected)

‘hi, I’m y/n and I’m just a uni student who likes way too many groups and people, I’m an art major at my college...’

He probably didn’t need to know that, you should stop, definitely

He replies back with three laughing emojis

Laughing emojis????  WHAT DOES THAT MEAN??

You panic and say; ‘why are you laughing at me???!!!!’

‘oh...I’m sorry if that offended you, I just wasn’t expecting your present life story’.

Oh.  You feel bad now.  He was just being a nice person :(((.

‘No...I’m the one who is sorry.’

There is silence

It says ‘seen’ but he’s not typing?

Oh gosh you messed up for real this time

Ahhhhhh who let you be on Instagram at two a.m. again?????

Then, out of the darkness of that ‘seen’, there comes the sweetest words you’ve ever seen.

‘Tbh I actually was really touched at those memes because I sometimes really feel like I’m only appreciated for being handsome and not for my music...but you really made me feel like a real music person who even has memes made for them, and it made me happy  💗’

You’re over here in a puddle of tears because literally you feel like a fake fan since you don’t really keep up with him and you were so shallow in the beginning.

What comes out of your fingers is; ‘haha wow.  that’s so sad because honestly you’re amazing and I have mega respect for you for being so young and doing all this stuff, also living off two hours of sleep (don’t do that).  So my tbh is that you’re awesome and I’m not and like...2 a.m. feels???’

Someone stop you before you fully word vomit all over this conversation

Yet, he replies with a ‘:)’

After five minutes, the ‘typing’ icon pops up again, and he sends; ‘i hope we can talk more, y/n’

Uhhhh heck yeah you would love that, Chan would probably regret it when he learns you’re a mess all the time, but anyways!!!

‘me too’ you opt to say, and then; ‘but first, we should both sleep’

Chan likes your message; ‘we have an agreement’ he says, and then his online flag disappears, leaving you smiling at your phone.

Kim Woojin

Woojin actually goes to the same college as you

You have a few mutual friends and at a meet up one day you all exchanged numbers and instagram handles

Though you unfollowed a lot of those people, you personally found Woojin very cute and he posted song covers with his guitar too! and as you know, you’re a big music fan :) so you kept on following him

And he kept following you! You guys even comment on each other’s posts sometimes and join lives, as well as say hello to each other on campus

So maybe you started having an interest in him...but who’s to say?

Anyways one day you’re just bored and looking through insta stories instead of working on that big assignment that requires way to much work

Woojin’s posted a clip of a coming up cover on his story and you’re all like ‘oh that’s super cool’

Yet you have no courage to tell him that, so you’re just swiping past again when you’re sweaty fingers are all like ‘oh we would rather slide up instead of go right’ and suddenly you’ve sent a 100 sticker to him?

You’ve done what now?

You’re blessing instagram for being able to unsend things, but he has, once again, already seen it

It’s just your luck, really

‘thx so much’ he replies after liking your story response

‘ahaha...np’ you say, then add tentatively, ‘you’re so good at music, like you’re voice is so beautiful??’

‘aww, thank you~’ he says, and you let out a breath because you think the crisis has been averted, but suddenly...

‘you’re actually so good yourself! I really love your art, you’re super talented!’

(you personally think you SUCK at art but like,,,if Woojin thinks you’re good you must be a little, right?)

‘thanks but I’m not that good’ you reply with a laughing emoji

He sends you angry emojis next! and you’re like ??? what did I do wrong??

You wait anxiously as he’s typing

‘y/n, believe me when I say you and you’re art is so breathtaking’

It’s so short but...so good...you’re heart...is fluttering

Unsure of what to say, you like his message and send some soft heart emojis, unable to convey the emotion you feel right now

He sends a heart emoji right back, along with a blushy face

(what does that mean???)

You send one more heart and then the conversation is over, but you have a feeling that maybe something new has started as well

Maybe

Lee Minho

Minho is a famous model under JYP entertainment, and his handle is @youknow_itsminho 

Firstly, you’re in love with his aesthetic, because every model picture he posts is like looking at an angel without wings.

Secondly, he always goes live all the time and it’s with his cats

People who respect and love their pets??? Yes.

Lives is how it happens, actually

You’re clicking around on Instagram, watching his live, and a notification from your friend comes in.  You click on it, but your phone shorts out suddenly.

When it turns back on, it opens back up to your messages, so you quickly type out a response ‘lol’ and hit send.

It sends...but, ummm...that was not the convo you were having with your friend.

In fact, it’s to someone you’ve never even had a convo with

You quickly check the handle and, omg, it’s Minho’s account djshjkad!

When you clicked on the notification, you’re finger must have accidentally hit his account name instead.

‘At least he’s live still, so he probably won’t notice and doesn’t bother to check...’ you thought to yourself, because you were sure many people tried to talk to him since he had almost one million followers.

Haha...right?

So you go to sleep, turn off your phone and put it face down

But you forgot to turn off your ringer

At three in the morning it goes off right in your ear, really loudly

You’re already pissed at being awake and still half asleep, so when you see it’s an Instagram notification, you automatically assume it’s your friends and reply as you would to them without bothering to read the message.

‘WHY ARE YOU GUYS UP AT THREE A.M., LET ME SLEEP FOR GOODNESS SAKE I’M GOING TO BEAT YOU UP TOMORROW’

Not your finest moment,...but please, you need your beauty sleep

With that, you roll over and go back to sleep

In the morning, you wake up and go check Instagram, like you do every morning

You check your pms, but the top one shocks you so much you have to blink several times to make sure you’re not dreaming.

Minho???  He saw your ‘lol’?

Ahh...as it turns out he saw much more than just ‘lol’.

Remind you to never respond to notifications at three a.m. x.x

Then-this dude- sends you a selfie he took from snapchat or whatever with the caption ‘woken up at three a.m. from my fans’

Yes???  That’s you???  You’re sorry???

‘I’m sorry about that but dang man, no need to be so salty...’; you send

Also, you realize as you’re looking through instagram, he posted the snapshots of your message to him on his story with all these laughing emojis...THIS BOY NOW YOU’RE MAD

I mean he crossed out the handle and profile picture but you know that’s you and, really, that’s what matters right now

So you dm him again; ‘hey did you really need to post that I DIDN’T THINK I WAS THAT FUNNY’

More laughing emojis

You’re about ready to snap, but he sends you another picture with ‘i’m sorry’ scrawled over his beautiful face

You can’t help but smile at that, especially when he adds ‘i’ll talk to you tomorrow?’

‘to clear up this misunderstanding of course :)’ he is quick to add

‘of course’; you say, smiling as you log off

Seo Changbin

Changbin is your best friend’s scary older brother

He followed you first so you followed him back for courtesy’s sake

Plus you like to laugh at his bucket hat posts...

The bucket hat posts is how it all starts

He posts another one and you’re sending it to your friend to laugh about how he looks so soulless, but...ahah...their contacts are right next to each other and maybe you accidentally clicked his?

You’re really not sure how it happened, except the message is sent to Changbin and definitely not your friend

And wow, reading it back, that sounds so mean, especially considering you sent it to the person the message was about

He’s seen it

Oh...wow...you’re really screwed

You immediately try and send an apology that goes something along the lines of ‘I AM SO SO SORRY I SWEAR I DIDN’T MEAN FOR THAT TO COME OFF SO MEAN OR ANYTHING REALLY’

He sees it again

And leaves you like that for a whole hour

Where you just kind of turn your phone off and try and do something else but the anxiety keeps you checking your phone constantly

Finally he says ‘I’m used to people making fun of me and my hat, no big deal’

But that’s actually kind of sad, so you’re all like ‘:(((’

And he’s all ‘is this conversation done’

Which kind of slaps but like it’s all your fault anyways so whatever

You find some hug gif and send it to him, and then you get radio silence before he actually sends a ‘thanks’

Hmm...you can’t read sarcasm online...

‘are you being sarcastic?’ you ask

‘no, that made me smile’ he tells you and wow, you weren’t expecting him to be quite so touched by a random gif you found 

‘i’m glad!’ you send him, and he actually sends a smiley face?

(he uses emojis? in all your years you had never pegged Seo Changbin as the emoji sending type of person. surprises happen, you guess)

‘I really am very sorry though :(’ you send again because you’re REALLY sorry

‘you’re forgiven, so don’t sweat over it haha’ he tells you

You guess that’s that but you still feel really bad about the whole situation, like you never thought you were a mean person, but that was pretty mean of you

You don’t want to bother him by apologizing again

So you just say ‘ah okay, I won’t~I hope you have a good day’

And he’s like ‘you too’

You can’t tell if he’s just using etiquette or if he really means it, but you’ll take what you can get

(you also never make fun of him or anyone ever again, having learned your lesson)

(your friend also finds out about this exchange and mercilessly teases both of you)

[liketbhtho]

shout out to the real mvps who've been mutuals since the dark ages and still hang around despite us having barely anything in common

@kittyginger (fun fact, whenever your url comes up in my notifs I've always read it as "kittygringer" and idk why but it's so deeply ingrained in my mind I literally can't stop)

@anime-yaoilover (I literally have no memories w you but ily man)

@creepypasta-reader (your icon is so iconic if you ever changed it I'd be so confused)

@fumifusa (it's been years my dude, your icon is also fckn iconic pls never change)

@weirdotakuunite (shout out to that one conversation about fckn idk, fairytale I think, we had like YEARS ago)

@butwesaidnohomo (your url mixed w your icon has always, and will always be my favourite, I know it changed from Mr. Troy Bolton but in my heart it's stayed the same)

@built-4-sin (!!!!!!! Idk if we're even still mutuals or if you're even active but I just remember you as being one of the best ciel cosplayers, and hanging out w you during that one con (a taste was it ?? Back in like, 2015/2016 ???) been a while my dude I hope you're having a good time)

@bunkwan (literally haven't talked in years but I miss you man, I hope life is treating you gently 💜💜)

@aackxrman (shout out to when we first met, I literally can't remember if you were alois or nagisa but you were wearing a "free hugs" sign and I remember I was rei and my friend was nagisa and you like came up to us, and I'm glad you did cause you were a super fckn cool person and it's been ages since we've talked, I also hope life has been treating you well)

@brookasaurus (I also miss talking to you !!!! You're make up looks are fckn Iconic™️ and you were literally the sweetest, I hope you're having a good day !!!!!)

@protag-kun (shout out to that fCKN haikyuu panel we were in together, also for fckn introducing me to fire emblem, you are a blessing sir. You were honestly the sweetest and I miss talking to you, I hope everything is working out for you)

@gracetheacefromouterspace (I honestly don't know you that well but your url is one of my faves™️ I love seeing it) (also sidenote somehow I accidentally unfollowed you, and I only realized a few days ago lol sorry m'dude, went and fckn smashes that follow button)

@praythegayway (I think,,,, we had a conversation like once ??? Abt something ????? I literally don't remember lol but I know I've always thought you were p chill, keep living life m'dude)

@iamli-ving (I honestly don't know if we're mutuals or if you're still active but I was going through my followers and your url and blog title are both different puns on your name and honestly #legend)

No one asked for this but I just wanted to let y'all know that I appreciate you and love seeing you on my dash and in my notifs, y'all are the mvps (I was literally about to type "y'all are the reason I'm still on this site but we all know that's not true, there's no way to leave this hellhole willingly, but y'all make it better so thank you)

[biteitwhenitssoft]

i was gonna put this under a read more but im fired up and apparently ready for the discourse even though im not going to be the second i actually post it lmao. and as a disclaimer cuz of my last opinionated post: i know this probably sounds angry. thats cuz im kinda angry. people get like that sometimes and make posts that sound angry to vent. and then people hop onto the post saying i shouldnt be angry. im not trying to insult any one person, im not trying to hurt anyone, its only anger for the situation slipping through. try to read and not think im angry at you, i just want you to be angry with me.

anyway lets go.

i have unfollowed a lot of aphobes. ive broken 3+ year long mutuals cuz they posted like, 2 aphobic things. im clearly not here to see aphobes on my dash and im not very tolerant of aphobic posts lmao. but ive also unfollowed a lot of people- aces included- who arent aphobes and could never be, because of aphobic things theyve posted.

by that i mean they reblogged and laughed at posts about ace people going too far in things (like including themselves on a gay or trans post when it probably wasnt appropriate and getting roasted by other commenters, things like that.) posts where they point out and bring all attention to an ace person who messed up, who took something too far, said something a little inappropriate to the situation, maybe something a little insensitive to other sexualities struggles, things that certainly arent great but are easily fixed through gentle guidance. posts that laugh at and mock these people. that belittle them and frame them in an ever growing picture of a “”“classic ‘wanna be oppressed’ ace kid.””” ive unfollowed people who arent and could never be aphobic because while they didnt post that they hate ace people or think they arent lgbt, they really like perpetuating the ideas of the people who do?

when you reblog, laugh at, and mock an ace person who has made a mistake, and the joke is funny because they are ace, you are purposefully adding negativity onto the ace label. the more these posts go around, reblogged by people who think “well its not aphobic! its just this one person who happened to be ace!!!” the more you shit on other peoples views of asexuality, and the easier it becomes for them to justify being aphobic. do you understand? you love ace people, love to support the idea that theyre lgbt sure, but then you turn around and help the people who hate them, exclude them, threaten them, want them gone, by laughing with them, by sharing in their mirth at the expense of what you assume to be just one ace person, but what actually becomes the entire community. and thats not even touching on the fact that with your excuses of not intending to affect the whole community you still think its ok to make fun of someone who made an honest mistake like that instead of educating them on what they did and why they shouldnt have. anyway.

this kind of shit ruins our fight. stomps on everything the ace community is striving for, works for. and it also ruins innocence of ignorance. something that to someone who hasnt experienced a bunch of aphobia would see as just a little mistake, an accidental overview, easily fixed, is actually purposefully aphboic. was made by someone actively trying to exclude ace people but effectively hid it under most peoples ignorance of the problem.

an example is this post:

honestly? this could be excused as just ignorance. someone wanted to make a cute little chart cuz it honestly looks like it effectively simplifies things and includes everyone cuz it doesnt use actual labels! only when you think harder do you realize it excludes ace people (and intersex people?) a quick woops from op and a little bubble added to the side, easy fix! honest mistake right? no harm intended?

but when youre constantly seeing exclustions posts, constantly experiencing this shitty fight for recognition, constantly exposed to the underhanded tactics people will use to hate without getting in trouble, you see it and recognize immediately that it was intended to exclude ace people. it was literally made only to say that ace people arent lgbt. made only to be a “fuck you.”

this happens with anything and everything. suddenly benefit of the doubt doesnt exist anymore, mistakes cant be made anymore, and people who reblog “innocent” posts that mock ace people cant be trusted anymore. because innocent posts mocking ace people dont exist. they are created and enforced and supported by aphobes and exclusionists. ace people and allies who reblog those kinds of posts under the guise of being able to admit their flaws, or because “the people in those posts deserve to be mocked, theyre not part of the ace community I’M in, i’m one of the sane ones, this person is just crazy/stupid” is kinda of laughably the same as girls who only hang with guys cuz theyre “not like other girls, im a cool sane girl, unlike those bitches.” they only serve to further segregate women and pit them against each other which is exactly what sexists want. what keeps them in power. literally the same thing applies to the ace situation. you are not different from the ace on that post, that is your ally, your cousin, your sibling in this community. if you think they messed up and youre better than them somehow then your role should be to show that you know better, that youre a role model they should emulate and copy, that what you do is right. you should NOT cross over to where aphobes and exclusionists stand and laugh with them.

lastly, this isn’t meant to be like, a callout to the specific people ive unfollowed for these reasons, more like a wake up call to the people who honestly, innocently, didnt know. please understand what im trying to say here and stop putting that garbage on my dash. its not “””woke,””” its not keeping it real, its not admitting your faults, it is and has only ever been helping aphobes separate the community. it only ever helps to hurt people. please see and understand that youre hurting people.

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hi!! 💗 i really love your aus 💘 and i was wondering if you have any text au recs?

uwu hi??? thank you i’m glad you like them!! and yes i DO have recs, i have so many omg i just want to spread the love!! underneath the cut are some (a lot) of my favorites thank you so much for asking this 💖💞💝💘💕✨

complicated by @daisyong

19/19 (completed) / jaemin x reader - where both jaemin and y/n are idols and everything is more complicated.

↳ LISTEN. this is so cute i tear up thinking about it. it’s so FLUFFY idk it’s just really good if you wanna feel soft about jaemin

chlorine dreams by @dahyunmingyu

15/15 (completed) / jaehyun x reader - there’s been a long standing rivalry at your school between the basketball team and the swim team. the swim team has been undefeated for 4 years, whereas the basketball team hasn’t won a game in 3. every year the basketball team ends up with all of the funding for the athletics department whereas half of the school doesn’t even know the swim team exists. with a bet that jaehyun wouldn’t even be able to finish a swim practice, y/n threatens the existence of both of their teams

↳ this is such an original idea and um i’m weak for swimmer!nct and it’s just really good pls read it

three’s a crowd by @qiankulture

14/14 (completed) / yuta x reader, ten x reader - y/n and yuta are a dance duo who are often assumed to be dating by fans because of their intimate pieces and how they act around each other. everything is all fine and dandy until a certain model comes into the picture.

↳ i read this before i started this account i think? and just it’s really good words can’t describe how much i like it :(

what is love? by @qiankulture

13/13 (completed) / donghyuck x reader - when haechan pulls a prank on unsuspecting y/n, she isn’t too happy. she does her best to avoid him at all costs. but it seems the universe has other plans because everywhere she looks, haechan is there.

↳ hnnng this was so cute that i hate it? the way that donghyuck tries to tell her that he’s his soulmate? my heart. anyways it’s so good! pls my heart can’t handle it

love bot by @dreamloveclub

7/7 (completed) / mark x reader - mark lee was never good with words — except when it came to talking about you. hidden behind the sanctuary of anonymity, he uses the Love Bot to express his feelings about you.

↳ if you read only one thing on this list PLEASE read this omg!! ellie is a genius and this is quite possibly the cutest thing i’ve ever read in my life? it’s such a good idea and she didn’t get enough love for it :(

love bug by @dreamloveclub

4/? (discontinued) / jeno x reader - two computer science majors and self-proclaimed amateur hackers unknowingly race against each other to find out who their secret admirers are. true love is but a click away.

↳ i didn’t think anything after love bot could be so good but this? it proved me wrong djdjdhdh it’s just as good and as always they are both dumb pls read it

puppy love by @dreammutual

13/13 (completed) / renjun x reader - renjun accidentally likes a picture on y/n’s instagram from almost 2 years ago and, foolery ensues when their mutual friends try to get them together.

↳ this made me spill all my uwus its so cute and funny omg please! i’ve said this already but i really love this (i really love everything on this list djdjdj)

not me, not you by @dyngdo

22/22 (completed) / doyoung x reader - in which a rivalry since grade school never died. y/n has always hated doyoung, and he’s always hated her, or at least that’s what they claim. but when y/n and doyoung have been framed for a crime they didn’t commit, the two have to work together to find out the truth. but amidst all the chaos, they can’t figure out what that bubbling feeling inside their chest is.

↳ as i said before, i am weak for doyoung so uh! surprise another doyoung au djdjdj but whenever this gets updated my heart? i have so much love for this fic

destined by @godrics

22/22 (completed) / donghyuck x reader - the red string of fate exists, and only few families are able to see the string, and these few families can actually cut strings and knot other people’s strings in to alter the soulmate laws. your family have been able to see the red string of fate since the beginning of time, and you are no exception. when you come back to korea after spending your summer in america, you had not expected your best friend to have a boyfriend that wasn’t their soulmate. and you did not expect their boyfriend to be your soulmate. despite this, you want your best friend to be happy, and if that means not spending the rest of your life with your soulmate and being happy yourself, then so be it.

↳ i also believe i read this before making this account? but anyways i love soulmate aus and i have a thing for the red string of fate it’s my favorite!! but this was so realistic (as realistic as a soulmate au can be LMAO) and it was really good!!!

my first and last by @godrics

20/20 (completed) / jaemin x reader - in which na jaemin finally gets the chance he’s been waiting for.

↳ again jaemin fluff? here please just read it. words can’t describe how cute this was!!

fan by @markleeh

25/25 (completed) / jaemin x reader - in which idol!jaemin finds a cellphone number of a nctzen.

↳ hhhhh this was so funny? renjun is such a savage djdjdj i’m always crying when i read this i wish my friends were this funny

how can i love you? by @markleeh

18/18 (completed) / jeno x reader - in which y/n just wants to know how youtuber!jeno looks so fine and how he likes his eggs in the morning.

↳ this was so cute too uwu everything on this list was cute tbh but this was the cutest (i want to know how jeno likes his eggs in the morning too)

not my type by @nakajeno

25/25 (completed) / yuta x reader - y/n doesn’t fall in love, neither does yuta – instead, they make others fall in love with them.

↳ yeah anyways yuta needs more appreciation and love and this fic really. hit me in the feels anyways read this or :/ it was so good jdjdjdjd i’m saying that about everything but? it’s true!

home sweet home by @dreamboynana

22/22 (completed) / renjun x reader - maybe falling in love with teen model huang renjun was a bad idea….but then again when did you ever think things through?

↳ rei is such a good writer omg!! renjun as a model hell yes!! anyways this has the perfect amount of fluff and angst and if you don’t read it you’re a coward it deserves all the love in the world

need to know by @solecitojun

20/? (in progress) / yukhei x reader, taeyong x reader - friendships are all meant to be based on honesty, yet there are many things being hidden in yours. in which your bestfriend has to figure out his feelings, and college is sending everyone on a spiral.

↳ ok listen. so i read a few aus before i started this account but um. this was the very first au and i’m telling you. i hate it so much but i love it more ughghgh i hate angst but um this really is trying to get me to love it!! yukhei deserves more but i mean don’t we all?

too late by @solecitojun

3/? (in progress) / doyoung x reader - same upbringing, same neighborhood, same lifestyle ; but what he thinks is two different worlds. they’re both from the underground scence, one fighter and another a musician. years are left uncovered. could it be too late for him, or for you?

↳ doyoung. that’s all i have to say djdjdj. no but seriously your au ideas are so good and this one is no exception i love it :(

sunrise by @wereseoyoung

15/15 (completed) / johnny x reader - no. moon y/n is not in love with one of the university night time radio hosts. it’s just a crush! … kinda… but he’s not interested! … probably.

↳ if you hear me screaming about something? it’s this fic? listen there aren’t like. any johnny aus out there but this one makes up for it because its SO GOOD?? this is literally all i’m ever going to talk about for the rest of my life unfollow me if you haven’t read this djdjdjd i love it so much :(((

starstruck by @wereseoyoung

1/? (in progress) / yuta x reader - can you believe that every tuesday practice the yuta nakamoto — smu alumni and now striker of one of korea’s biggest soccer clubs — will come down to help assist with practices? y/n doesn’t really care though. her job is to be the manager. not be impressed by some soccer star. but maybe sometimes he’s kinda cool.

↳ anyways can’t believe you are a genius and really have an au planned out for every member? i wish i was as organized and talented as you!!! this hasn’t even really started and i’m already in love save me :(

black and blue by @1nomins

10/10 (completed) / jaemin x reader, jeno x reader - everywhere a soulmate touches leaves flowers, and everywhere someone else you’ve fallen in love with touches leaves bruises. you’re happy to suffer.

↳ spence did you know i hate you because of this. not really but i love everything you write and it’s always angsty and i always end up hurting afterwards but its worth it :(

10 step love by @1nomins

12/12 (completed) / jeno x reader - or, alternatively, lee jeno’s (and huang renjun’s) 10 step foolproof program to getting the girl.

↳ can’t believe you wrote something so fluffy? anyways this is like my guilty pleasure and i love the playlist for it!! with the frank sinatra songs sjdjdjdj

1-800-loveline by @1nomins

15/15 (completed) / jeno x reader - you never imagined that finding a phone number in a school library book could lead to anything. you were oh-so-wrong.

↳ loveline? yeah i hate it. only read this if you feel like hurting yourself! i’m kidding, it’s so good but so sad but worth it in the end, as it is with anything spence writes

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Blog #1: Things escalated quickly.

My name is Allison and I have a short high school story that I need to share to get off my chest. This involved three people, Jeremy, Cassidy and my self. I would consider my life a dramatic, teenage mess so their is always something going on. I know for a fact, I’ll always have something to share from the past or from the upcoming days.

I don’t know if this would even be considered a comedy, but definitely entertainment.

So where do I start? Right from the beginning. -

Jeremy and I first became friends in science, during tenth grade. And just friends. He was dating a girl named Riley that time. My class was pretty laid back and we all got a long. His assigned seat was always in front of me.

I’ll admit, he got girls. Even my friends thought he was cute. After tenth grade ended, we just became mutual friends and eleventh grade started.

That’s where I met Cassidy. In one of my classes. We became friends and she told me her little crush on Jeremy, thinking I wouldn’t be friends with him whatsoever. During the senior year, Jeremy and Riley broke up. So it was all good.

I told Cassidy, Jeremy and I were actually friends and that left her in shock. The second later she begged me to hook the two up. Awkward. Now I was getting in the middle of this. But I agreed, being a good friend.

Her crush on him started in biology class. Apparently he kind of knew she liked him because her friends in class would always tease the two.

All Jeremy ever did was smile it off. He’s really kind. But she’s a inch or two taller than him and I find that so unattractive.

This whole teasing thing gave me an idea, how how to hook them up. Cassidy and I became so close that we even planned a high school party together but this party has nothing to do with my story. Since the trust was their, I told Cassidy to give me her Instagram and Snapchat passwords. She did.

My plan was to DM Jeremy through her account and ask about some stupid biology homework questions and get his Snapchat, making it seem like it was no big deal and it’s just a regular girl adding a boy from school.

So I did. Big mistake.

I logged into her Snapchat and helped her out, she knew everything that was going on. After they added each other, I messaged him on her account. He obviously replied and I quickly got into flirting with him. Through the whole time, it was actually me flirting with him through her account but clearly he had no idea and thought it was Cassidy. But that was the plan.

This went on for a week where they started to trade ‘pictures’. But I saw all of his.

Cassidy didn’t talk to him once unless I told her he wanted a picture. She was so down to trade, that’s how much she liked him. I found it weird, being in the middle of this then but again, I was just helping.

About two weeks now, he invited her to his house. But no idea knew /they/ were talking because Jeremy liked to keep things low key.

She reached her house but apparently she didn’t reach his standards.

She stopped him from going all the way with him because she got nervous and lied she was on her period. He even told her this, “You’re nothing like you were over Snapchat.” Well duh, because that was me making me all hyped and horny over Snapchat. Her and I are two different people but he’ll never know.

He even rated her a 2 out of 10 when I asked him. He knew I knew about all this cause he realized how close Cassidy and I were.

He told her to leave and he went outside to play basketball when his friends reached his house. She was in his room so his friends would have no idea.

Ever since, he had no interest in her at all. They both had black jansport bags, meaning they both accidentally switched bags. And it was a Friday, the weekend was next.

He texted me and begged me to get his bag from her and give it to him over the weekend. As much as I wanted to help, I couldn’t because I was spending the weekend with my cousins.

He didn’t want to text her and ask or have any contact with her. Jeremy unfollowed Cassidy on social medias and blocked her on Snapchat.

Cassidy called me and told me not to message her anything because her phone was also in her bag and Jeremy could find out our little plan. Thank God she let me know.

Plus somehow she ended up in the hospital and I don’t remember why. That’s where she called me from, but it wasn’t a big injury.

On a Sunday night, Jeremy messaged me and told me to get his bag from her and not let her give it to him the following morning. That’s how much he wanted to stay away from her even though they would reunite in biology class.

I told him I would. I told Cassidy this and she freaked out, arguing with me on how she wants to give him his bag. Awkward.

I was like whatever, because I was not going to fight over a stupid bag. On Monday morning, she arrived early to school and dragged me with her to his locker, where he was with his friends. They switched bags and I felt the two second awkward tension there.

After school, Cassidy would text me and force me to 'work my magic’ so he would continue to talk to her. But what she didn’t see was, he used her and threw her away. And she knew he rated her a 2 out of 10!

If I was her, I would be embarrassed. But I did it for her anyway. (Over her new Snapchat.) Since he blocked her, she made a new snapchat and added him.

She tried to get him to meet with her but he would never agree and tried to be nice about it. Even when she messaged him herself, she would embarrass her self so much. She had no idea how to talk to boys.

It came to a point where him and his friends would laugh or say something when she walked past them. That made Cassidy angry and she finally realized how he felt against her.

But that’s not where it ends. Just because Cassidy and Jeremy stopped talking and ended their non existing relationship, more came along.

Cassidy wasn’t my 'best friend’ but we were close. Her best friend, Ciara hated me. I never met this girl or even talked to her. Maybe she was jealous that I did just a huge favour for Cassidy and that we were pretty close. But whatever.

Ciara and I never got along and hated each other, she was like my enemy.

Apparently, Ciara and Jeremy worked at the same fast food restaurant. She found out it was the same Jeremy that played her best friend.

Ciara hated taking the bus home so she started to flirt with Jeremy and finessed him. She used him for rides, coming back from work. And Cassidy trusted me so much, she told me.

Now if Ciara wasn’t my enemy, I would’ve kept my mouth shut. But boo hoo for her, she was my enemy. I told Jeremy all of this over Snapchat so the messages would go away and I would never get caught.

He promised not to tell anyone, anyway. And he kept that promise.

After he found out, he was mad, more than mad, words could not describe. Jeremy said everything no girl would ever want a boy to say it to them. I was glad he let out his anger in front of me.

A week later, I was thinking of all that happened in the past and I realized I wanted something like that with him. Now I knew he was a good flirt. I also knew he had a big-

I also knew what he wanted and did not want because I learned it through Cassidy’s account. I went behind her back, thinking it was 'okay’ because she was over him. I told him to steal my v card and he agreed.

When he tried to flirt, I didn’t do it back because I did not want him to remember the messages between Cassidy and him. The flirting would sound the same. I told him we would do a one night thing, no relationships whatsoever.

Because I knew that’s what he wanted. Either way, that’s what I wanted too.

He was glad I understood. But if your wondering if we did anything, no we didn’t. After I got off my period, he still didn’t buy any condoms and told me to buy them after another week because I 'loved’ to shop.

Now that was an excuse he used. Ugh boys.

Eventually, he also got a girlfriend and I was glad for him. And today I’m glad me and him didn’t do anything but trade pictures. I see him in the halls and would never consider it awkward, we’re still friends.

After Cassidy found out, she was shocked and not so happy. Because I got further more than her crazy ass ever did. And she never found out about the Ciara thing I did.

Cassidy also got jealous that Jeremy and I remain friends but it really isn’t my fault that I know how to keep it in control with boys.

Today, Cassidy and I are mutual friends, barley. All we say is 'hi’ and 'bye’, sometimes and that’s it. Her and Jeremy never talk, and they never did in person. I heard they have the same semester, meaning all four classes together, which

S U C K S.

SUCKS.

At a point this boy named Alex always bothered me to come over and do sexual things with him that I never wanted to do. He was a friend of Cassidy’s and she told him how I was annoyed and be only messaged me when he was horny. I rejected him every time.

He messaged me out of anger telling me never to talk to him ever again but I never did. He always messaged me first. I asked Cassidy why she did that and she said it was because she 'needed a laugh.’ Now I’m the last person you want to mess with and she knew that.

I messaged Alex telling him before him and I stopped talking, Cassidy liked him.

Which she did. He screenshotted it and send it to her, making her go nuts and asking me why I did that. And I replied with, 'because I needed a laugh.’

She thought I ruined their friendship and made it awkward. But that wasn’t my fault that she tested me. She was clearly jealous that every guy she liked, it always worked out with me and that boy better.

I played her at her own game and won. She never admitted to him she liked him and tried to deny it to me. But a day before she told me she liked him so I was not going to believe her. Alex knew and what was done was done.

Blog #1

I hope you understand what I meant by a dramatic, teenage mess of a life I have.

- Allison.

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Ayo, it’s ya girl Stella and this is NOT a brand spanking new Lupin role play blog. This blog was established on 9/2019 well at least around that time.. All I remember is making this blog last year! lol So I will keep it that date until I am made aware of the exact date! In this tab you will find a set of Rules and Guidelines! I would really appreciate that you abide by them. If you have any questions or concerns please feel free to message me. I am a very friendly person and I assure you I don’t bite.  

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The actions of Lupin made on this blog are made by me and have no associations with the original creators. Also, please do not compare me to other Lupin’s out there. I am already insecure about my writing, and if someone were to compare me to another, it would only cause my insecurities to grow.

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Threads

I can write one sentence up to a novel, it really depends on how things are going between our two characters. But I tend to write a lot more if both I and the mun established a plot amongst each other.

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO MATCH MY LENGTH! Some times I get inspiration and allow my muse to take me away. So please do NOT feel like you have to match mine. As long as you give me something to work with and progress the thread it’s fine! I swear! So please do not stress yourself out.

I have the right to drop threads and starters / unwritten starters if I am struggling to find inspiration. Please do not take it personally, if I am unable to draw out a muse I don’t want to force it out causing me to stress. If that were to happen I would just feel obligated to RP instead of doing this for fun… Same goes for you as well! If you are having trouble writing with Lupin don’t be shy to tell me! I won’t take it personally. If anything we can try to figure something out! I just want both of us to be comfortable with one another.

 Drama & Callouts

 I will Not participate in any form of drama Point. Period. Blank. I will allow people to come and vent to me, but don’t expect me to talk shit back. What I can offer is a friend who is willing to listen and give you advice and the tools to move on from the situation.

If you try to involve me in any type of drama, I will unfollow and block you. I am on here for fun.

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Steal

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The anonymous feature is a privilege, so do not abuse it and ruin it for others. I know sometimes people can be shy sending asks so they use anon. But if I noticed someone is trying to harass me or send me hate I will disable it. So do not ruin it for others.

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Please take note that due to the contents of Code;Realize there will be mention of blood, gore, mutilation, and death. They will be tagged properly in this format TW | Blood, TW | Gore, TW | Mutilation, TW | Death.

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As for my triggers please tag any mentions of infant deaths, dead babies, and miscarriages. 

ALSO, I WILL UNFOLLOW AND HARD BLOCK YOU IF I SEE YOU MAKING INSITIVE JOKES ABOUT THOSE SUBJECTS! EITHER IT BEING IN CHARACTER OR OCC. I DO NOT TAKE IT VERY LIGHTLY. I have many close people in my life who have gone through the heartache of losing their children, and pregnancies and it angers me to my core when I see people making light of the subject. I stood by their sides as they cried and cursed at the world, and I even held those precious angels in my hands. So call me sensitive or whatever the fuck you want. But I will not stand to see that shit on my dashboard.

Issues

If I have done something to rub you the wrong way, or have done something to make you uncomfortable, I can not stress this enough but PLEASE tell me. I want you to be comfortable with seeing me on your dashboard. I also most likely will NOT know what I did wrong and I would love to talk about it with you. Also that way it won’t happen again. Like I said this is supposed to be fun, and I want to make sure YOU’RE comfortable.

Shipping

This is a multiship blog, every thread is it’s own verse so if Lupin is in a relationship with someone it stays in that thread’s world and it will not leak on to other threads with different people.

He will not be shipped with underage people. If they are younger he will take on the role of a brotherly figure. 

I also will NOT ship him when I am rp'ing him in his young verse. Example his Three houses verse where I rp him as 17 years old. Even if I am portraying him as a 17 year old I will NOT ship him with any of the students. 

More to be added 

Last updated 12/04/2020

[cookinguptales]

So this came up on Twitter yesterday and I thought I’d post about it on Tumblr today. Frankly speaking, I’ve got a lot of young followers and this is some truth I wish someone had taught me when I was a lot younger because I would’ve gone through a lot less stress.

I know we’re all starved for outside validation on this site, but I wanna talk to you about when compliments are used by creeps. Now, you probably know about negging (when someone uses a backhanded compliment on you to make you feel bad about yourself, often in order to pick you up more easily — i.e. “you’re really pretty for a fat girl”), creepy sexualized comments on the street, etc. But I’m talking about really nice compliments about your work or your personality or your drive. Even the sweetest compliment can be used as a weapon.

(All this is going to be a pretty gendered discussion; I in no way want to say that only guys can be creeps and only women have been socialized in the ways I’m about to discuss, but, well. Let’s all be real here, there are definite patterns.)

Discussion under a cut for length and possible triggers

I don’t want to get into a lot of my own painful personal experiences with creepy guys, but I do have to bring up some examples from my own life, so I’ll use one particular guy as a case study. Let’s call him Dick. (Look, I never claimed to be mature.) I’ve had these experiences with guys IRL, but Dick was a guy I met online. At first, Dick was my friend. He clearly had a bit of a crush, but seemed to accept it when I said I wasn’t interested. It was nice having a bud who shared my interests and I knew he had some issues with socializing, so at first I was pretty patient with his problems with boundaries. But by the time my longstanding friendship with Dick ended, he had become a full-blown stalker — and my friends were on his side.

How did this happen? Well, my friends, it’s the art of the public compliment. Dick was All About Me. He loved me. He treated me right. He praised me for my mind and my heart, and he didn’t care who heard him do it. Or so I thought. It took a long time for me to realize it, but he cared very much who heard it. That was exactly why he said it. To be heard.

Over time, I started to become more and more uncomfortable with Dick’s attentions. He wanted to talk about me more than he did the media we’d bonded over. He kept talking about how our (respective) children would grow up together, and would maybe fall in love. (???) He told me that he’d gone to a place I often vacation at — and he’d looked around for tangible traces of me. Long story short, Dick had become pretty creepy.

But, like many women, my first instinct in this situation was to be nice. I wanted to go to him privately and have a polite conversation about all this. And, to his credit, he seemed truly and honestly repentant. Until he did it again. It became a pattern of me trying to establish boundaries and Dick stomping all over them. Finally, despite feeling guilty, I told him he was really upsetting me and I wanted him to leave me alone for a while.

This is when the second creepy pattern emerged. The compliment trap. When I told him to stop contacting me, he didn’t…technically. He didn’t talk to me. He talked about me. He publicly talked about what a great person I was. How smart. How kind. How forgiving. He said it to my friends. He said it to people I respected. And he tagged me.

Now, this looked nice on the outside. He was just complimenting a woman he respects! How nice! But on my side of things, it felt like a trap. All of my friends were waiting for me to acknowledge these compliments. The situation left me with three choices: thank him (in a demure, polite way befitting a modest woman, ofc) and be forced to interact with a man I’d told to leave me alone,  ignore him and look like a stuck up bitch, or say publicly that he’s a creep — which would make me look like I was “hysterical”. (See: rape culture, women “overreacting”, punishing men who “just want to be nice”, etc.)

Left with this choice, I chose option #1. I chose option #1 a bunch of times. Because this would become a pattern. I’d tell him to stop contacting me, he’d do this public complimenting game, I’d feel like I had to interact with him — and worse, I’d question my own feelings of fear. I’d say “Well, look how nice he’s being. Maybe he’s just awkward. He clearly likes me. He doesn’t want to hurt me. Maybe I really was overreacting.” And I’d talk to him again. Until he’d ask me for my address for a Christmas card or something.

And I didn’t realize for a really long time that he wasn’t being nice! This behavior! It was not nice! It was deeply emotionally manipulative! He’d put this horrible emotional onus on me to forgive and forgive and forgive, steadily gaslighting me into forgetting how scared I’d been until I blamed myself for being so quick to react… and let him back into my life. Because this was all public. All our “fighting” happened in private. All those times I begged him to just ease up a little were privy to only the two of us. All our friends, all my support system, only saw a nice boy with a crush praising a girl he liked and her refusing to give him the time of day.

Guess what happened when I finally put my foot down and stopped engaging when he did this? Oh boy. Oh boy. He started sending me literally dozens of messages a day, sometimes over a hundred. Have you ever had a person sending you @s on tumblr and twitter, private messages on tumblr and twitter, public and private messages on Facebook, emails, LJ messages, IMs on two different clients, and forum messages? Every single goddamn day? Dozens of times? Have you ever had a guy start showing interest in something you know he never liked before — just so he can “coincidentally” run into you on every community you’ve ever joined?

Honestly, I was so stressed. In tears all the time. My school work was suffering. No matter how many times I tried to tell him to stop, to avoid him, etc., he just kept going. I told him that we were done. No more forgiveness. I wanted absolutely zero contact — and I wanted him to never mention me on social media again. I didn’t want him to @ me. I didn’t want him to say my name. I didn’t want him to make thinly veiled sad posts about me. Zero contact. If he did that, I wouldn’t block him on every single platform and tell everyone we knew.

Yeah, I was dumb. I still wanted to be nice and polite. He’d been my friend, y’know? I didn’t want to ruin his life. I just wanted him to stop ruining mine. Even then, I didn’t understand how manipulative he’d been. I still believed he was just kind of awkward, and that I was probably the dick for being unable to deal with it. After all, I’d been friends with him, right? I’d encouraged him, right? It’d felt good to have someone like me so much, right?

(Yeah, until it didn’t.)

I almost got out this time, though. He almost made it. Sure, he “accidentally” replied to my posts every few weeks. (Somehow I didn’t put together that even though I’d unfollowed him, he clearly hadn’t unfollowed me. I guess I just thought that he’d kept seeing my posts when our mutual friends replied to them.) I felt pretty good. In fact, I was at a point where I felt almost silly for being upset in the first place. And then our mutual friends started asking me why we weren’t talking as much. He’d liked me so much. We’d had such good conversations. They talked about maybe reconnecting with him. After all, they’d only ever seen him being nice.

And god help me, I said okay. I figured he must have grown! Learned his lesson! Nah, that fucker was back to sending me tons of messages, talking to my friends (who did not know him), inserting himself in conversations I was having with others, making plans for the children I never wanted to have, etc.

I finally blocked him. E v e r y w h e r e. And I felt so fucking relieved that I was actually angry with myself for not doing it earlier. This man had harassed me for years, and I’d been the one to feel guilty over it.

Still private, I contacted our mutual friends and told them very briefly that he’d been harassing me and I was cutting off contact. I asked them to support me. Some people did.

A lot of people didn’t.

They’d only seen his public face. They’d only seen the avalanche of love and compliments. He hadn’t known better!! He just didn’t know how to express his feelings!! Next thing I knew, they were forwarding messages from him to me. Even after I’d blocked the fucker, he was still using compliments and romantic gestures to get to me! Through the people I’d trusted!

I’d finally had enough and was very public about this man who’d harassed me. I told people everything I’d been putting up with. I aired all our dirty laundry that I’d tried so hard to keep politely private. And some people believed me.

But a lot of people didn’t.

(This, coincidentally, is why I don’t answer tumblr asks privately anymore, not unless the person specifically asks me to and they haven’t been creepy at all. I had another guy pull this on me and I found myself in this same position again and all I had was private harassment. So no more of that! Public contact all the way.)

But Sarah, you say, isn’t this an isolated incident? Why are you making this huge tumblr post about one guy? Well, number one, it wasn’t one guy. This happened to me several times before I recognized that this wasn’t one man — this was a pattern of behavior that many men share. Number two, it speaks to wider issues that I’d like to address.

Media pushes this idea that if a girl is mad at you, you just have to work hard to be romantic and win her back. Piss her off? Hold up a boom box outside her window! Romantic, right? No, bruh, you’re lurking outside a girl’s bedroom window when she said she doesn’t be around you. She’s terrified and you’re being a creep. This isn’t gonna win her back. It’s just going to tell her you don’t know how to respect her boundaries.

Women are socialized to be nice even when they’re scared. We’re supposed to ignore the alarm bells in our head because it’s not socially acceptable to pull away. When we are complimented, we are supposed to acknowledge it graciously. When someone likes us, we are supposed to like them back. If we draw strong boundaries and enforce them, we often face strong social consequences. I’m here to tell you that every one of those consequences is worth it to help you feel safe.

Hell, I’ll reiterate it. It’s okay to be a bitch. Don’t sacrifice your mental and emotional well being for someone else’s. Women are supposed to be self-sacrificial, too… but you don’t have to be. A truly good person wouldn’t want you to be.

A PERSON WHO REALLY LIKES AND RESPECTS YOU WILL NOT WANT YOU TO FEEL UNSAFE AROUND THEM. IF THEY’RE OKAY WITH YOU BEING SCARED OF THEM, THIS IS A DEEPLY UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.

Compliments are not always kind!! You do not always need to be grateful for them! Even nice compliments, ones that are more “you have beautiful writing” vs “nice tits”, can be utilized to emotionally manipulate you and those around you. If a compliment is making you uncomfortable because of the context in which it’s given, you do not need to even acknowledge it. It doesn’t make you stuck up or a bitch. Compliments are supposed to build you up and make you feel good, y’know? If it’s hurting you, it’s still a shitty compliment and that’s on them.

We’re taught that it’s best to be discreet. Naw, man. Be as public as possible, especially if someone’s giving you weird vibes. Keep things on the public record. Like, don’t be an asshole or anything, don’t publicize private information, but you don’t have to keep your conflict in the dark away from prying eyes. That’s only going to benefit the person hurting you… because there will be no established pattern of behavior. Establish establish establish.

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, no one is owed your attentions. It doesn’t matter if they like you. It doesn’t matter if they do nice things for you. It doesn’t matter if there’s social pressure to acknowledge them and/or their efforts. It doesn’t matter if they do every single thing right. If you don’t want to interact with someone, you don’t have to. It doesn’t matter if they just give you vague creep vibes — or if you just plain don’t like them! No one is owed your attentions! Never feel trapped into interacting with people because they make you feel guilty!

(And for that matter, never let someone make you uncomfortable because “they’re just socially awkward”. You can be sympathetic towards someone’s social issues without letting them make you feel unsafe. Believe me, I’ve fallen into this one so many times.)

Anyway, tl;dr? Live bitch is better than dead sweetheart. Don’t fall for the compliment trap. Tell him to fuck off. If friends try to act as intermediary between you and someone you cut out of your life, they’re trash. Tell them to fuck off, too. You have my blessing.

[nicollekidman]

hey sry 2 bother u and i saw ur response but idk sbdjbdjd i look up 2 ppl too much probs but i rly look up to u! ans u seem to be in quite a healthy place/working on it and i rly admire u! i wonder if u have any advice for like?? how u interact w tumblr? im super isolated atm so im on tumblr a lor but im never sure who to follow/unfollow ans when im overreacting or whats normal or ugh idk?? do u have any tips??? regardless ily!!!

awww ily too! coming from someone who used to put way too much stock into who to follow/what drama to pay attention to/if you’re doing something Wrong or Bad by not knowing everything..... take a deep breath and take a step back. use this website for fun and friendship, but if you find yourself spending real life time being anxious or afraid bc of not wanting to make a misstep, or discourse, or anything like that, you have to take a break. 

follow people who have good energy and make you happy (at this point, i basically either follow mutuals or aesth blogs, altho i really should branch out), and that more than anything has shifted the way i use this site. i don’t spend time feeling guilty for everything anymore, and don’t worry about accidentally following someone who’s secretly A Bad Person bc the internet is full of liars who know how to put up a good front. 

If you find out someone is actively hurting others or is otherwise harmful, block them and move on. Basically, use tumblr for friendly support, shitposting, and mild enjoyment, but if it’s causing you stress it’s okay to step back. this website has a way of sucking you in and actually becoming more of a harmful thing than a helpful one. the best thing i did for myself was to disconnect and bit and not rely on people i thought were my friends but really didn’t care about me at all, or ghosted me, or started too many things that were too emotionally consuming. you’ll be okay.