#despite being a transwoman myself

[pirateprincessjess]

Before yall start celebrating Rooster Teeth’s return, just remember that they abused and underpaid their employees.

They had multiple employees quit due to racism at the company.

They got thousands of fans to call a transwomen a slur.

They were mired in scandals.

They queer baited their fans and buried their gays.

They had horrible animation crunch and committed tons of wage theft.

Their promo video highlights the return of their founder, who drove around in a custom cell shaded Tesla while his employees couldn’t afford to eat.

I know there were a lot of queer RT and RWBY fans out there, but we need to do better, and we deserve better. When we ignore this behavior from companies then we are enabling them to get away with it. Hold them fucking accountable for once.

[ofdarklands]

i've spent like 10 minutes trying to remember if i've ever considered a character transgender as op meant it in that post and i don't think so

you can tell me dean winchester herself is clearly a transwoman and i'll shrug and be like "yes boss i'll add that to my beliefs" but i won't come up with it myself because thinking about gender is incredibly low in my priority list. like i just chuckled at the twins being twins despite the different genders and didn't do the evident next step connection myself because i didn't give a shit. i don't think i would have ever done it if i wasn't in fandom

i might be applying agenderism to everyone equally by default actually. come to my brain to get your gender nuked by my nefarious agender ray, child

[crow-girl-cock]

Hai :7

I love you!

yes you!

click this.

now for introduction.

my name is Renée Corbeau

but you can call me ren or crow

I love crows! they feel like family to me and I hope next cycle I get to experience the life of a crow.

I have gone through alot in life and fancy myself some sort of activist by proxy of that pain, am I perfect? fuck no! I am still learning and probably operate under toxic bias still despite all the effort I have put into growth.

I'm adhd, autistic, anxious, depressive, dissociative, probably some degree of plurality.

I'm a gender non-conforming transwoman, definitely puppy coded, and severely down bad for women, especially butch women!

that being said the human body is beautiful. especially fat bodies, I'm a sucker for meat :3

all my guys, gals, and non binary pals deserve kisses (assuming that they want them)

I love gender fuckery, people who actively blur those lines are doing the lords work.

despite being very friendly and appearing slightly outgoing sometimes, I am very shy and dont have a very large social battery.

if I ever dont respond dont take it personally there are loads of reasons why this could be.

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I am kind of a red mage when it comes to special interests, I know a little bit about alot.

(all lists are not ordered and not exhaustive)

some examples include;

from gaming~ pokemon, zelda, elderscrolls, darksouls, minecraft, osu!, space sims (elite dangerous, astroneer, dyson sphere project, hardspaceshipbreaker), roguelikes (noita, deadcells, gungeon, vagante, slaythespire)

from other media~ pokemon again, bluey, adventure time, atla, bee and puppycat, studio ghibli (nausicaa is goat), csm, bleach, dragonball, naruto, she-ra, dungeon meshi

from *gasps* real life~

space (and metaphysics), nature (it's peculiarities and the many funky adorable little guys born in it) I'm definitely a poser but skateboarding and rollerskating (I really want to get into rollerderby) philosophy (to the extent that any skid is);

History!

(not as well read as I would like because there is so much of it, and so much of the truth is buried under misinformation, but I have deconstructed the whole western myth of how things went and painted myself a much clearer picture as to how things got so bad and am learning new things about the world all the time, please feel free to info dump about anything history related I'd love to hear it. anthropology and archaeology too obvs)

Art!

(this is my chosen field for better or worse >⁠.⁠< I am going to college for web and graphic design (2024-2026) I might extend that an extra 2 years to make it a bachelor of design and hope to one day make graphic novels, beautifully illustrated with deep thought provoking stories)

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Kink! (definitely subject to change)

petplay, musk, intox, bondage, impact, cnc, degradation, somno, hypno, blood, knives, size difference probably more I haven't thought of

I'm poly and very t4t

I'm a switch but this hellsite has been steadily turning me into a bottom day by day heheh

but no actually

I used to be a hypersexual dom pre-transition

but E has made me alot less uncontrollably horny and far more sensitive and inclined to seek vulnerability, all my drive to dom has dissolved

also I suck at tagging and will sometimes will reblog art/random things from tags without checking bios

if that upsets you or makes you uncomfortable please see the block button for more info ;3c

.♡. .♡. .♡.

anyways since you made it this far

here have some headpats

spread kindness please and thank you ^v^

As above, So below.

Hai :7

I love you!

yes you!

[sophieinwonderland]

Revisiting Slur Discourse and Systems

There was an incident where I mentioned the T-slur in a conversation a few months back.

As I've said before, I don't feel comfortable reclaiming that slur based on my personal experiences despite being a female headmate in an AMAB body. At the same time, I don't like the policing of which systems are genderqueer enough to use it. And I feel a lot of the backlash violates traditional conventions on slur reclaiming that needs to be addressed.

The Rule of Bodily Experience

In a lot of discourse, it seems the standard is that you can reclaim any slur the body could reclaim.

For example, in the case of a racial slurs, it would be problematic for a black-identifying headmate in a white body to try to reclaim the N-word. But it would be ridiculous to claim a white-identifying headmate in a black body couldn't reclaim words used against their system and their families.

So as a rule, priority in slur discourse is always given to the body's experience.

Applying this to Gender

With this in mind, I want to establish two facts.

#1. A Body That Switches Between Headmates of Different Genders is Technically Genderfluid.

#2. Genderfluidity is on the Transgender Spectrum.

These should be self-evident. But they apparently need to be reiterated here.

Following the logic of the Rule of Bodily Experience, headmates of different gender should be able to reclaim the T-slur because they inhabit a body that would make them subject to transphobia.

Where is the Line Drawn? Hypotheticals:

Let's ignore the rule of bodily experience though. My critics claim that a cis-identifying female headmate in an AMAB body can't reclaim the slur. So where is the line drawn?

What if my host was a transwoman but I still identified as a cis woman?

Would this run into the same problem? After all, I'm not identifying as trans myself. And while the body would be subject to transphobia, you could argue that I'd avoid most of that by not fronting much.

What if my host was a transwoman and the body had medically transitioned, but I still identified as cis?

This would reinforce the body's experience as "being trans," and would expose to more transphobia in our daily life, but I still wouldn't use the label for myself.

What if I took over as the host and was out about my identity?

At this point, I would personally be subject to all the discrimination of any out trans person. But I still wouldn't use the label for myself.

When is a headmate trans enough to use slurs that could be used against them?

This is what this all comes down to.

An idea that GNC systems need to meet some arbitrary standard to be trans enough, even if that standard is just "using the prescribed label to fit into our club."

Trying to enforce such a standard hurts all systems.

Systems are Victims of Transphobia, Even When We Don't Identify as Transgender

Transphobia doesn't care what you label yourself as. Transphobes don't ask what causes your gender and don't care if you internally identify as cis because you're a headmate who was created with a different gender from the body.

Laws that impact transgender people will affect systems with headmates of multiple genders, as will societal attitudes towards them.

And cis-identifying headmates will still be subject to the same slurs because bigots don't recognize a difference.

All of this is to make it clear that while I may not feel comfortable using a slur myself, I do completely support the right of other systems to do so based on their bodily experience.

[anarchristie]

A little essay about Christie and the Vi of it All. ( Or how I lost myself in a Vi Chemical Romance.)

This really isn't for anyone but myself, but I needed a place I could write it all down and not lose it to a million distractions beforehand. Apologies if this is less coherent essay, and more a various stream of consciousness rants loosely connected by the Pink haired lesbian show. Plus there's a number of baby queers on this platform, maybe this will resonate with someone. Expect it to be updated as needed, it's very much of work in progress.

Last night (12/21/2024) I was on a Twitch stream that I co-founded for an annual list of things that sparked joy in 2024. I'll save my expanded reasons for Travel and Twitch for bsky, but my overall pick was Arcane Season 2. We were pressed for time, so I gave a fairly short version of what I wanted to say (That it's very good and super queer, both of which is very true!), but that's only like 2/3rds of the reason why it topped my list. The other third would be the aforementioned Vi of it all.

That's her. That's Violet. I think she's neat.

If you've watched Arcane (Netflix/Blueray/UHD) it's not particularly hard to root for Vi. She's arguably the show's main character, and someone who goes through *A LOT* throughout the show's run, to a nearly comedic degree. Which I think that's what ultimately made the difference of being fan of the character to making her my whole ass gender. (She is Visexual!)

2024 was a rough year for me, despite experiencing some incredible highs. I had to be a *LOT* of peoples emotional support transwoman, which while ultimately not an issue because I love the homies, it adds up after awhile. Money could have been better, and was often a source of concern for me. I got fucking Lyme disease, had to bury a friend, and a parent. I watched as the rise of global fascism continued as this country flat up said "fuck Queer people" either via action or inaction. 60% of my sector got laid off and while I'm happy I still have a job, there's now a new level of uncertainly regarding that. Several friends pulled some bullshit to a degree I still do not get, but that's ultimately their problem in the end not mine, the aftermath of those decisions aside. It's a lot, even if I left some stuff out because I'm doing my best not to trauma dump, and I'm grateful for therapy, a strong support network, and a amazing partner that gets me in a way very few people did.

Major Spoilers for Arcane begin here:

Arcane starts with Vi losing her mother at an extremely young age due to police violence. THAT IS HOW THIS SHOW STARTS CHAT. During the course of 18 episodes (19? Fuck math.) She would go on to lose her found family, spend several years in prison, find out her sister has gone from tortured genius to....well okay I really like Jinx, and think her whole arc is great, but Jinx goes through her stuff and kills some people, which is problematic. Vi's stabbed, shot at, beaten and this is all JUST in the 1st season! Season 2 isn't any easier on my girl, but I would feel bad listing all of that in the event someone missed the spoiler warning above. It's a lot, even for a fictional character from a video game known for an extremely toxic playbase.

But that's thing; that's the appeal. Vi is a queer woman who takes a lot of punches and gets knocked down. Anyone would. She's hurt by a lot of people, some of them people who undoubtedly love her but are also going through some shit. But she gets back up every time. She fights through an insane amount of tragedy because it's the right thing to do, morally and for herself, and because she want her happy ending. One that I would argue she earns, despite some terrible losses by the time the credits rolled, and one that will stick with me for a long time. She's also allowed to be messy queer, and have an extremely messy relationship with her girlfriend in a day and age where queer romance is actively being removed from media, or water down to the point it might as well be implied.

Arcane season 1 was barely on my radar when it premiered in November 2021. I had played a little LoL prior to that, and even then I was a Jinx/Ms Fortune/ADC one trick. Hearing Jinx had a sizeable role in Arcane was the reason I tuned in, but it was Vi's story that kept me invested. Invested to the point that a month later at PAX Unplugged, a Vi cosplayer casually wandering by finally made me realize how uncomfortable I was in my own skin, and that the only solution to that was to transitioning. Fast forward to Fall 2024, I'm years deep in the estrogen, have pink hair, preferred pronouns and an iconic eyebrow notch.

It's amazing what a piece of media could do for someone. During my marriage falling apart in 2016, I found comfort in My Chemical Romance's "Famous Last Words" and David Lynch/Mark Frost's "Twin Peaks", to the point where I could say both of those saved my life. I got a tattoo of lyrics for the later, because it felt right as a first tattoo. Arcane didn't save my life, but god damn, did it ever make me strive for a better one (see the dysphoria). Vi is the inspiration: she's the reason why I try to build community, why I fight for trans rights, why I work out, why in a room full of content creators with more impressive resumes, I went out of my way to establish myself as the baddest bitch in the room and aggressively transfemme. It's more than just a comfort show, it's a roadmap to make me the best version of myself that I can be, that's why it's something that's made me the happiest in this absolute clusterfuck of a year.

[myjourneytotrans]

I have been dating another transgirl for almost four months. I am deeply in love every second of the day. She is my absolute everything. And she has taught me something I just didn't know was possible: I thought I'd spend my life explaining myself to my partner, saying "this is what my experience as a transwoman is" and "please understand where I'm coming from" and "I know this may not make sense, but . . ."

But I don't have to. I'm further along in transition than her, and rather than that being a point of division, it just makes it so I can help and guide when she wants it. And everything else, she just understands. I don't have to explain gender dysphoria or transphobia or why I react to things the way I do. She gets it. There's no need to explain.

I had thought at the beginning of my transition that I would spend my life trying to hide who I am, that being trans would be a secret I'd try to keep. But that has changed. I'm openly out at work despite being a teacher in a pretty conservative state. I have gone through the steps of losing people who are transphobic. I have committed as completely as I am able. And this relationship makes me more able every day. I am a transwoman who is in love with a transwoman, who is friends with many lovely transwomen, who is only going to get more involved in the community. I love this life, I love transpeople, and I love myself.

I didn't think this was possible, and I don't take it for granted. I didn't think this was possible, and I feel wildly blessed. I didn't think this was possible, and I see now how wrong I was.

I have never been happier to be me, and the fact that I'm me with my favorite person makes it all the sweeter. I am so happy to be sharing my life with her. And I couldn't be happier to be on this journey with love and support and kindness and patience and beauty.

I don't know how to end this; I'm too happy to be articulate. So I'll just say, thank you to my partner, thank you to transpeople, and thank you to the Universe. And I guess also thank you to me for inviting this into my life.

We have each other, trans folks, and that's how we keep going. I'm here for you if you need it. I love you.

[monorayjak]

I... it's getting hard to live like this. Hiding who I am to so many people. It hurts. I wrote a thing earlier today and I felt I summed up the feeling pretty well I think, reworded a bit to sound better:

"It feels like torturous self harm to be fully aware of who I am and yet imprison myself in a fortress of a false identity that's slowly caving in around me."

What I'm getting at here... I think... I think it might be time for me to come out to some people...and I really need some advice.

As of now, only four people IRL know about me, that's my therapist, my cousin (who was genuinely more like a sister to me), a friend at college (I knew they were extremely supportive and they had no connection to other people I know, so it seemed like a safe bet to tell her (I was right)), a friend I interacted with occasionally in high school who has since come out as trans herself (actually what got me to message her, saw her online and wanted to ask so I didn't misgender her or anything, and we got talking and I quickly realized she'd understand.)

At the moment, I'm still living with my mom, which is fine, I know she'll support me in her own way (she's queer herself, she has internalized issues, but she tries). I know my university I go to, despite having once been a "christian college," have opened up and been supportive of most of the students who do come out in one way or another. I know at least a few of the professors there who are absolutely trying to be supportive to everyone to the best of their abilities. My therapist knows, as mentioned before, but he is also... well, he ain't exactly a pro with gender and sexuality stuff (still a good guy, he just messes up what he's talking about here and there, like using masculine pronouns when he talks about a transwoman (largely I think its because he usually talks about them when they first started transitioning, and I don't think he thinks about gendering them correctly in reference to them coming out... if that makes any sense).

The issues... well, for one, I live in the bible belt. My extended family (who we are finally trying to cut ourselves off from now that the only think holding us together (my grandmother) is gone) lives all around me and the majority of them are.........well lets just say they really don't like my mom being gay, and one of them bullied a kid he was fostering because, in his words, "the kid's a fucking sissy!" Yeah... not a fan of that uncle. (In related news I am genuinely afraid of that man because he is very fucking clearly not mentally stable and has talked about killing himself and others before (while preaching at church!) and he is... really aggressive and has access to guns) I'm too poor to even consider leaving the state, and with... well frankly I'm a bit of a fuckup who really can't live on their own... yeah... fun times. Insurance may cover parts of things, but... honestly I don't even fucking know. Like I said, I know my mom will try to support me, but she is also... well, how do I say this? She tends to not know how to react to stuff. A large reason I don't talk about stuff with her is that she has a habit of turning it around into something about herself (not in a manipulative way, mind you. I just think she doesn't realize why it feels bad to tell her something like this and then have her break down a bit because I didn't tell her sooner or because she didn't work it out herself or anything like that). Basically, if I tell her, its either going to go one of two ways.

She reacts negatively and turns it around about herself and takes the moment to be hurt she didn't work things out or that I didn't tell her. (Literally once opened up to her when I was little (like 11?) about how much I hated myself... she said the next day she spent the entire night crying because she thought she failed... I understand what she was going for, but, honestly not something you should tell your kid who just opened up. Practically had it ingrained internally "If I feel bad, hide it. Because my mom will be devastated by it.")

She goes too supportive and expects me to be willing to open up immediately. Basically just forgetting she can't push me into being out and honest because it takes time to work up the courage.

Both of these options are... iffy. To say the least.

[pawblez-drawz]

I panic deleted my last art blog once I heard about the AI stuff they added to Tumblr, but I've finally gotten the confidence to make a new one, despite not being 100% sure how to make sure to mark it to where it AI can't use my images to "train" itself

ANYWAY, I'm Pawblez or KitNoodle, I'm a small self-taught freelance artist who wants to make a name for myself on the internet! I pride myself on the quality of my work and being a vocal part of a kind community!

Since this is an introductory post, i want to add a small DNI here until I can make a proper one on a personal carrd, but there are also some basics in my TOS that you can find on my business carrd :3

DNI IF YOU ARE/SUPPORT:

-Proship

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-TERF's or any other form of trans/homophibic people

-r/fakedisordercringe users

-Junebuggers [specifically June Egbert fans who are rude and toxic to those who headcanon/depict Egbert as anything other than a transwoman, it's just a headcanon guys people can have different opinions, it would be different if the character was canonically transfem and clearly stated as such from the beginning but it's not actually written into the original storyline]

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Thank you for reading, I'll end this off by linking my carrd and showing off some art!

[system-society]

Hi! I’m sorry if this is the wrong place to ask something like this, but do you have any advice for transfem alters in afab bodies or transmasc alters in amab bodies?

I’m one of the only fem-aligned alters in an overwhelmingly transgender afab system. Our lives and existence is framed by our trans experience - it’s something that significantly affects everyone in the system. All of us are either transmasc, nonbinary, or xenogender, and then there’s me. Despite being in a body assigned female at birth, I do not identify or relate to the experiences of cis women. I feel like a trans woman entirely. In the headspace I have male parts and get phantom dysphoria over it sometimes. I don’t feel cis, not even a little bit, nor do I feel nonbinary or like a demigirl or something else. I fully feel like a woman of trans experience.

This has been causing me so much grief and shame. I know our body is afab, I know we are not affected by transmisogyny. I hate myself because I feel like I’m being transphobic just by existing, but this is truly something about myself I cannot change. I have felt this way ever since we formed as a system over 20 years ago, and the shame has only gotten worse with time.

Do you have any advice for me on how I can change this aspect of myself? Is it wrong to be a transfem alter in an afab system? Is my existence harming trans women? I really don’t want to harm others by merely existing, and I am so ashamed of the way I exist, present, and understand myself. Truly I don’t know what to do.

Thank you so much for reading this. I’m so sorry if this sort of ask isn’t welcome here. I hope you’re doing well and have a wonderful day!

Hey there anon. I want to reassure you that you are NOT harming trans women by existing. You do not need to feel ashamed. You’re a trans woman in a afab sys, end of discussion. Your dysphoria is just as real as inhuman alters and trans alters.

We are an afab sys with too much testosterone and have been harassed and presumed a transwoman so many times, our experience does not dismiss amab people. Your experience is unique and as long as you do not speak over amab transwoman, you cannot harm them. You have your own struggles and issues unique to being a system member. But above all you are you, no matter what gender you identify. You are not transphobic by existing and never will be—you couldn’t control it!

I hope you find security and love anon, you deserve it.

[bisolationist]

Asking you because you always seem very empathetic and at the moment it feels like there’s no one I can talk too about it because radblr can be really judgy. Do you ever think a relationship with a trans person as someone who’s gender critical can work? I have been with my partner who is a transwoman for three years now and about a year ago I kind of peaked and I’ve felt awful ever since. She still refers to our relationship as gay and she has no idea this is how I feel. It’s all felt really difficult because up until then I’d considered myself a lesbian and she thinks I still do and I feel like genuinely the worst person in the world but I can’t just break up with her because I love her

Well, "gender critical" doesn't mean "anti trans". I think you can be GC and date someone who is trans; I think you can even be GC and *be* trans. But then that depends a lot on how they see being transgender because despite how radblr/gc spaces treat things online, I don't think trans people are a monolith. However, if they truly believe sex doesn't matter, then... yeah that's difficult to reconcile with acknowledging sex-based oppression and sex-based rights.

I guess ultimately I would personally would have the same caveats I would have when dating a non-trans person. If I was with any female, it would *really* bother me if they insisted on calling our relationship "gay". If they're trans and can acknowledge we're not a same-sex relationship then sure that's one thing, but if they can't... I understand being in love and how things changed since then, and I definitely understand only figuring you're bi now and that suddenly being awkward for multiple reasons. I don't think you're the worst person in the world but you need to have a conversation where you can state your beliefs honestly... Because put this way: in a healthy, loving, and respectful relationship, you need to be able to express your values and growth. Even if it was only that you've discovered you're actually bisexual, that's absolutely a conversation you should be able to have in any good relationship. And... values should be one of the things a couple agree on the most, imo, so I think that it's always a conversation that needs to be open. So... have that conversation. You might discover your partner can acknowledge certain things. Or... they might not, it... might go poorly. But either way, if you don't have it, you're only delaying something that needs to happen eventually. Because if you can't have it, then it's not a good relationship regardless of what the issue is.

[doublegoblin]

Feeling like I'm back in 2012 (derogatory)

So I ran into somebody with some brainworms and like, I'm still trying to wrap my head around their thought process. I'll be putting this stuff under a cut so for those wanting just a basic overviews that has (to the best of my ability) been sanitized (maybe not the best word but it's what i got) for a general viewing: Youtube commenter makes me scratch my head by digging their heels in about want to still use a slur(they want not I). I soon realize this is not a discussion but an argument that they want to "win" at which point I disengage and have not replied since.

More detailed stuff bellow here, I'll do my best to tag what I can. Also this is still going to be a highly condensed retelling but I will try and maintain the important stuff.

So long story not as long: I watch this channel whose runners do tend to be a little more right leaning than me (which I think it's important to healthily engage with those who have a different outlook than you but that is neither here nor there) and this particular episode was their weekly podcast. Despite the best advice I do still browse youtube comments because sometimes there are funny interactions or insightful points that are made.

I start to see a common thread popping up this time however. It was then the host of the show says "Oh something I didn't know was that trap was a slur." and my heart kinda drops because the comments are making a lot more sense. Thankfully a good portion of said comments were in favor of "uh yeah it is" and the hosts accepted it was and moved on.

I found a couple comments (taking a stance you can imagine) and thought to myself, okay maybe I can have a discussion with this person, this could be a normie having normie takes.

The first comment I wanted to respond to had this big long paragraph about how it comes from anime culture and their "reasoning" on why it wasn't a slur was because of some subreddit drama. So in good faith I say my own piece about how words can start off benign(this is not one of those words I know) and a group can speak up and say that in fact there is hurt behind those words and so on. I knew I was in for a rough time when they respond with, to paraphrase "Alright well how many otherkin will it take before doggo is seen as a slur" and they keep going on and on about how this is just a case of western people pushing their ideas onto Japanese and Anime culture (yes they capitalized both) and some other brainworm arguments.

So once again I respond to each of their points (mind you they hadn't addressed mine unless they could put an "objective" lense to it) and I do make a point of, to paraphrase, "Also being trans isn't a western thing?? You know there are and always have been trans people in Japan right?" They had also been bringing up how it was first used as a term of affection by anime culture and yadda yadda, so I shot back with how it originated on 4chan and it was always a derogatory term. To support my claim I brought up Bridget (who my brain always wants to just call Brisket so thanks y'all lol) and how by the creators very admission she is a transwoman. Closing it all with "Also is it really that big of a deal to just not use 1 word?"

I knew I was no longer in a discussion but an argument that they wanted to "win" when I saw the first line of their rebuttal was "No dude, I'm asking how many people it takes before we consider something a slur" (paraphrased). They then clapped back with "Also that is a bad example because Bridget is (some words I can remember and won't be looking back) and the creator was most likely misinterpreted. I wasn't going to waste my energy fighting a brick wall so that's where this was left.

Then there is this other comment who hits a lot of the same notes but then closes his statement with "Also by all this logic should we be "policing" the use of a certain n-word by African Americans?" Like my dude that is a false equivalency. I responded to them of course in a good faith attempt and haven't heard back so maybe I got something through to them?

What made me want to make this post was about two days after all of this I get a notification that someone had commented on my comments (same user both times). Who said these gems, and I will be quoting in full:

"And words are only offensive if people consciously or subconsciously let the words offend them."

and

"Taking offense is a choice, even if not a conscious one."

Like what the fuck does this even mean!? This is nothing! A nothing burger! Like I think I get what he's saying (as in understanding the intent not agreeing) but he's being a chicken shit about it.

I don't know how to end this long post. I guess just it was wild to run into the brainworms in my real life and not just through videos of people talking about them.

[missparasitepossessor]

a rant: i'm scared of getting on hormones

one of the most frustrating things about being trans is just like, the fear of it all. it's like i think back to when i was 17 and it was just like, so fucking obvious? but nooo i was too shy and bashful. i ignored how good i felt when i was able to present more femininely. i chalked it up to "aha im just nonbinary dont worry hehe :3" and it just feels like if i would have started sooner i could have avoided so much unhappiness.

my friend recently described their experiences of masc-presenting as feeling like an alien compared to how it felt when they present more feminine. and it's like oh my god!! that's exactly how it is. i can GET BY okay enough when i'm in "boymode" or whatever, but i'm never truly comfortable. i hate being considered one of the bros or lumped in with dudes who take one look at me and think i'm gonna go along with their bullshit.

but goddd when i'm able to wear my cute outfits and throw on some shitty makeup and just like, express myself. stomping around in my big floral boots and just really let my guard down. i feel so amazing. i was at a concert last week to see another transwoman perform and i got so many compliments and even made new friends. my confidence was through the roof and i felt sooo so good.

and despite all of this, despite the recent time and the maaaany times over the last decade it's like... i'm still scared? i've been staring at this HRT recommendation form for DAYS. there's rarely a minute that goes by that i haven't been thinking about how horrible i feel in my body. how i'm so scared of getting older and my masculine features defining even more. i'm petrified when i think about it. it hurts me to the point of feeling nauseous.

i look at other transfemmes and i get so jealous, i wish i could say i was happy for them and in a way like, of course i am! but i'm admittedly so fucking selfish. i'm mad at how far they've come and how i feel like i'm still at square one. i had to physically move myself away from another transgirl in public recently because she looked so much like how i wanted to that i was so distracted and could feel myself getting upset.

but i don't understand? why is this so scary? i feel like i understand estrogen and what it can do for me. and again, i think about it day in and day out. and i know that i would be so much happier, and i feel like i'm running out of time. so why am i continuing to waste time just being scared?

i've never been medicated for any of my mental health issues, i've always been relatively good at keeping myself grounded. but lately i feel like i'm so deep in the water that i'm starting to drown. and it's like, HRT is the lifeboat i need but i'm like "i dunnooooo maybe i just need to get over drowning" like! what is going on in my head LOL

[glux2]

To put into perspective why i said this, since apparently there are people who lack the emotional maturity to distinguish reality from fiction and the impact their words can have, let me tell you about myself a little bit more.

I am a pansexual transwoman, IRL im closeted as trans, but came out as pansexual to my family in a fit of anger during a heated discussion.

I was raised catholic, but im not saying this in a traumatic way, actually my catholic upbringing helped me be open to queer people and was instrumental in my acceptance of my own identity, and this was because i grew up in a culture of "God is a god of love, acceptance and forgiveness, and god will accept and forgive you if you are good despite your flaws".

Later in life my father remarried a protestant woman, who is staunchly, lets say "old fashioned", so of course my sexuality is a sore point for her.

In a discussion i expressed how the god i was taught about as a kid in catholic church was one of love and forgiveness, one that would love me the way i am.

Her reply? Her fervent belief that HER god is not a god of forgiveness, that there is no redemption for people like me, that as long as i am who i am i cannot be redeemed to the eyes of HER god.

I am a grown ass adult, and i could shrug her dumbass religious belief, but the fact that my father married a person that believed there is no redemption for me did hurt me a bit.

When you speak about redemption being impossible to people just because you are mad about some make believe fictional character being bad, this is the kind of effect you can be sending to people in positions similar to me.

"redemption arcs are toxic, you shouldn't try to fix someone!"

actually it is so important to me that being in community and experiencing human connection can save people. thanks

[bullshit-tqia]

"I was generally pro trans before this interaction and before finding this board, because I felt the societal pressure to be, but my view has been changing lately, and maybe JK Rowling is right."

"I'd like to share my experience with a transwoman at my gym if that is okay. I went to the gym in my street clothes, and there is a transwoman who works the front desk. When I walk in, she says hello to me, then I go into the ladies room to change. This is the first time I am changing at the gym with her there. As I am changing by the lockers, the transwoman walks in and grabs a broom from the utility closet and proceeds to sweep around the lockers right by where I am in my underwear. It made me feel uncomfortable because in my opinion, a biological woman would not have started doing cleaning tasks in the same area as me immediately like that. The task of sweeping the ladies locker room can't be that urgent, and most people would fuck around on their phone for awhile before getting to it. Or at the very least, a biological woman would likely see someone is changing and feel too awkward to sweep right next to her. In general, biological women are more shy about shit like this. Also the gym was dead as fuck at that time. I was likely the only person who scanned in that entire hour, which only emphasizes the weirdness of her doing this non-urgent cleaning task at that exact moment I walked in there to change. The pro-trans narrative has gaslit me into thinking I should accept this situation as normal, just two women in a changing room, despite there being potentially different undertones to this person and their motivations. I feel like voicing my suspicions makes me the bigot and bad guy. It pisses me off that I can't share this interaction with my friends to check if my safety and privacy was violated because they would potentially peg me as transphobic instantly, despite my gut telling me it was intentional. I was generally pro trans before this interaction and before finding this board, because I felt the societal pressure to be, but my view has been changing lately, and maybe JK Rowling is right."

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"Thank you everyone for validating my experience. I am gonna cancel my membership and join another gym. Gonna sperge out a bit more, because I've never had a place to voice these thoughts before.

When a man is doing something creepy, we are taught to recognize it immediately. When a trans woman is doing something creepy, we have to analyze if it is actually creepy, because she is a "woman" like us, right? Why would she do that? If a man decides to go clean a the ladies locker room when a woman is changing, alarm bells would go off instantly. Because it is a trans woman, I had to mentally work through it and still doubt myself in the end, despite my gut reaction of feeling violated. On top of that, I've had to be completely silent about this interaction, without being able to confide in my family and friends.

With this, we are taught to ignore our instinctive danger signals. The pro trans narrative really risks putting women in danger by being too trusting around trans women. The reality is, they are biologically bigger and stronger than most of us by default due to being born male. We are supposed to ignore these facts of reality, even when it puts us in uncomfortable or risky situations. On top of that, we can't tell anyone about these minor things that happen, unless we are actually assaulted, because we will be considered a transphobe who is being discriminatory."

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"It is sad to me because I truly wanted to believe that trans women are fine and just want to exist and nothing more, and that there is no danger of them living alongside us as "women". I really was in that camp until this happened to me. But this situation has opened my eyes to the fact that trans women can still be predatory. Even when they appear to be friendly and nice to you they can have hidden perverted motives that are protected by the current narrative. I am a part of several lgbt communities and friend groups. My saying this would get me publicly ostracized by people I know. But common sense has been thrown out the window at this point. Women, even in progressive spaces, should be teaching other women to be wary of transwomen and not blindly trusting of them. They are still capable of assaulting and raping us, and probably more likely to if we let them in our spaces, because rape usually happens by people you know over strangers. Also, if I misgender someone in these communities, I am performing the social faux pas. Even when its a man in his 30s with a voice deeper than 90% of the men I know, who uses she/her pronouns. It's all madness. In general, I still don't give a shit what people do to their bodies. I just know to protect myself first and foremost now."

...

"Also wanted to add that, it will likely take other women having experiences where they are violated or assaulted by transwomen to actually have them start realizing this is insane that we are blindly accepting this narrative. I still wanted to believe it is a few perverts ruining it for everyone, and that most trans women wouldn't be like this. I'm just sad women aren't encouraging more self-preservation around trans women, as we do around men we don't know, because the narrative has us convinced this is transphobic."

[icarlycarl]

Is "Bakla" Still a Derogatory Term?

Disclaimer: This is just my two cents. I'm trying to share my thoughts and how I've changed my perspective over time. It's important to remember that words can mean different things to different people, especially across cultures. I’ve tried my best to be respectful and understanding, but I know everyone’s different. If anything I’ve said has rubbed someone the wrong way, please know it wasn’t my intention.

I remember a time when calling someone "bakla" was a way to tease, insult and degrade. I was guilty of doing this when I was a kid and getting called that in return during playground fights. While it used to be a common, casual term, people now use it carefully.

The term "bakla" has a complex history in the Philippines. its usage can still be sensitive, depending on the context and the relationship between the speaker and the listener. While it's often used casually among friends, using "bakla" in a hostile way can be hurtful. When used by a stranger or in a hostile environment, it can be deeply insulting and disrespectful. Similar to racial slurs, if used by a non-LGBTQ+ person, this can be seen as derogatory, especially if it's used to mock or belittle. We should be careful about how we use the word and who we say it to. It's important to be respectful always.

In recent years, there's been a growing movement to challenge outdated and harmful stereotypes. You may have heard the term "woke" from some GenZs. Many people, particularly those who support LGBTQ+ rights, consider the term "bakla" to be outdated and offensive. They argue that it reinforces harmful stereotypes and promotes discrimination against gay men.

Although "bakla", has been used in the Philippines for decades to describe gay men or even now women, it has now transformed into a term of self-empowerment for many. It's no longer a source of shame, but rather a badge of pride.

While the LGBTQIA+ community continues to make strides, there are still instances of discrimination and prejudice. That incident with the transwoman personality, for example, highlights the need for empathy and understanding. While addressing workplace misconduct is important, it should be done with respect and dignity. Not how this person did it. Unfortunately, there are still people closed-minded and not accepting, bringing in religion as a reason. We should not force them to change their beliefs and force people to theirs, but don't condemn or shun the community because of that.

The Philippine Government's stance on LGBTQIA+ is complex and ever changing. The country is still working towards greater LGBTQIA+ rights. While there's growing acceptance, laws are still needed to protect the community (Yaas, SOGIE Equality Bill!). Same-sex marriage remains illegal. But, despite roadblocks, they continue to fight for equality and inclusion.

As I see it, people of the LGBTQIA+ simply wants equality, acceptance, and freedom of expression. They just want legal and social recognition, supportive communities, and policies that protect their rights. They also want to emphasize the importance of embracing individuality and celebrating the diversity.

I'm fortunate to have many wonderful gay friends, and I'm proud to call them my own. They are individuals, human beings deserving of respect and dignity. In today's world, we must embrace equality and respect everyone's right to love and be loved.

And let's not forget the fabulous world of drag! I'm a huge fan of RuPaul's Drag Race and am always amazed by the creativity, talent, and humor of the queens. They fearlessly express themselves, challenging norms and inspiring others. Werk! Sadly, some people view them as strange or abnormal, even going so far as to accuse them of being sexual predators who prey on children. Like, seriously?!

As a straight ally, I stand in solidarity with the LGBTQIA+. Just because I support them, hang out with them and enjoy watching drag queens, doesn't mean I'm gay myself. But, I believe that everyone should be free to be themselves, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. So what if you're bakla, bading, beki, beks? Embrace it! Be proud of who you are. Yaas, Kween!

[hewholivesinhisname]

Poor = Bad

I just saw this post by this feminist who is getting upset at leftists for saying that women should take unhoused people into their houses and she makes it out like unhoused men are potential predators. The reality of course is that mo. I mean, those guys at yale were chanting "no means yes, yes means anal" - This is YALE, it's obvious that these rich guys feel entitled to female bodies. However, no matter how badly the rich actually act. starting wars, raping women, destroying the environment or whatever, the female fantasy is that they are going to find some rich powerful dude who will take care of them and really, I wish I could be rich and powerful to protect a woman, but it's pretty hard to rise in this world at the current point without being a total dirtbag.

Some of these rich guys of course know they are in the public eye, wanting to be famous like warren Buffett so they don't do anything overtly antisocial like rape. But Buffett is in secret societies, Omaha is right next to stratcom and he's politically connected being a senator's son. Like most rich men, his wealth is built partly upon his intelligence, partly based on his greed, partly based on his knowledge of how politics impacts business and partly upon his poltiical contacts, but it's also based on his willingness to participate enthusiastically in a vast system of lies and violence in order to become one of the few that "make it."

And people literally worship these guys. They don't care that they are getting rich off of the backs of countless suffering. Normal people, you know, they look down on the poor. Even more so. Ugh.

At least most of the feminists are not evil. I think they are really, really misguided, but at least they center morality upon a specific group of people "women" and maybe you can even join this group by becoming a transwoman.

I think that's going to have to be the long term game plan despite the fact that I basically disagree with the morality of feminists as well simply because, well, at least women aren't bad. You have to make compromises with the world and honestly it's not like you really have much privilege being a man anyway.

I often think that someone like ShoeOnHead is like the ultimate feminist because unlike a lot of the other feminists, she appeals primarily to men, while being politically motivated. She's funny, smart, ambitious- you can really see her taking over.

And the socialists, the socialists are all about Palestine. I guess they think that Israel shouldn't exist and everyone else should have a country except the Jews- great.

This is basically a world where no one reflects your values. People obey evil, think women are the moral center of the universe and where what people want is to get rich and famous- not build a good society. the churches claim to be about god, but churches have recently been targeted for sheltering the homeless. The poor are criminalized and

The Jews and my family don't really care about a poor man either.

Talking facts, well, as Trump puts it facts don't matter. If you point out that most rape is acquaintenances to feminists for instance, not rando poor dudes or incels who are in the position of just not having sex- they flip the fuck out. I saw this when I was younger on facebook where I tried to point shit out to people and people just didn't fucking care.

Poor old, white, Jewish men like myself then exist as a "bogeyman", while everyone else steals from me, tries to throw me in jail for nothing, kill each other, talk trash, deal drugs, participate in the devil's kingdom. Do all sorts of violence big and small. They get jobs in this big system of violence and just always make the excuse "just doing my job" but frequently people

There's this one train conductor for instance who takes extra time out of his day just to harass homeless people who sleep on the bus. O, and they will hire security guards for literally empty hallways and harass you for loitering. They will pay hundreds of millions of dollars to build prisons. One girl I met on facebook, she talked about how killing the poor was the only solution.

And the social character of everything is based upon a lot of groupthink too.

Some feminists, but not most, have the dignity to talk about the way that rape is used as a weapon of war against the poor. About how rape is encouraged in prisons.

And, I can only imagine that maybe some guys come through prison, 25% of the population now has a prison record. That combined with all the free porn (someone is funding it!), - this isn't good grammar, but many guys must go through prison and come out rapists. So, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy, but not because being poor = rape, but because people intentionally force poor men into situations where they must commit crimes, then traumatize them with rape in prisons and then presto- they come out rapists the other side of that horrible experience. Rather than stop crime, the prisons are designed to create criminals in order to justify the punishment - a sort of pre-destination I guess.

If you are a rich man, you can go to yale or harvard or wherever, yell and scream about rape with your friends, probably actually rape girls for fun. Go on to become a rich man with a nice front life, look respectable all day. It's a big part of white culture really, looking respectable. For at least some of the Jews it's part of that culture too: looking holy while they go on to rape children.

The feminists are right about one thing which is that these "top" men like Andrew tate or Elon musk really are scumbags. Elon Musk wouldn't rape anyone, but he is designing brainchips to help enslave future generations of humanity and is on the robot bandwagon too. Gates helped with the vaccine genocide.

I also just learned something from RAINN today too which is that 60% of the rapes in prison are not committed by the prisoners themselves, but by the prison staff. How nice of them to commit crimes against criminals. So it's even a myth that the criminals themselves are the rapists. It's the prison guards who are the actual rapists, but since they are working for the system they never get charged. The prisoners are probably only raping each other BECAUSE the guards are raping the prisoners and some of them are hoping to not become raped themselves by becoming perpetrators.

And this is the type of world you get too when there is constant war because the most violent lying people rise to the top very quickly. They could go on a quest for god. Do as proverbs 8:9 says and just obey the rightful king of the universe, but instead they want to fight about who should be in charge with everyone having their own opinion.

In such a situation where everyone wants to be in charge and will use whatever tactic to get to it.

It's important to call it evil too. not just violence, because sometimes people are violent not with the intention of causing excess harm but to stop it. Whereas all these prison guards, security guys who steal poor people's stuff and harass the homeless, NSA, CIA freemasons whatever who do "secret operations" to screw over the public, do organ harvesting or whatever. It's all very coordinated. There are world planners and the like who plan on having so many factory farms, so many

The scriptures of course say that only god is good and it may be true honestly. I don't even think I can totally articulate all the ways that people just do stuff and it seems so fucking wrong. People don't even obey sane and objective measures of law such as the human rights documents. If they did, they would have to shut down the entire US prison system. I don't see too many people acting "in brotherly love" or whatever.

And of course, no one needs to open their house to homeless either. You just need to let people build houses or open all the empty spaces that are all over the country to the homeless. There was endless spaces in Greenfield, in . there are even ruins and such. There are lots of empty houses in Boston. They are just owned by these big property developers and no one wants to interfere with the rich making money.

The less houses, homes and space available, then the higher the rents. That's the reality. The windsors and a few other families own most of the property. If we were to fix homelessness by confiscating a few of their properties or something, it would drive rents down. If we adopted sane polices, we would be sure to make sure the vast majority owned their own homes. However, policies are designed from the top down to restrict as much housing as possible.

Restricting land access is a long battle. I think owning land is ridiculous in and of itself honestly. Who can really say they "own" the land? Did anyone create it? O yeah, I guess god did so god should own all the land. However, instead, people choose to endorse these big killing states which slaughter people and take the land.

I was watching Dhar mann studios and these are like these moral tales and such. a lot of horror movies are moral tales and I noticed that they don't include the police most of the time. I think this is the reason that god is always so vengeful. The police supposedly exist as a sort of moral force which stops people from doing immoral things. However, what happens if no one will protect you? What happens when the police are corrupt? I guess if there is anyone who is going to punish people who hurt you, it's going to have to be you. Then of course, if you do so you're going to have to be clever or something though, because if you DO retaliate, they might call the police on you and the police like to throw the poor in jail. How nice huh?

Listening to darkmatter2525 brag about how fewer atheists are in prison. I am not impressed. he fails to mention how evil the world is even while using the bible verse which talks about how evil the world is according to god. I guess he just doesn't get it. He thinks that only god does evil and the bible, and not man is the source of any evil. his assumption, that the authorities who throw the people in prison are good people, well that's not true. These politicians are professional liars who cover for the professional killers and torturers.

American is Rome 2.0. Same "obey or be tortured" attitude. Same goal of putting all the power and money into a small fascist class with the promise that you too can join this fascist class someday if you work hard enough at the pyramid scheme. However, in the world system today, capital is moving all over world destroying everything- the end times.

Darkmatter does bring up some good points though which is that it seems impossible to know whether you are actually not some patsy or other and honestly, as god, it seems I am constantly put through as the patsy in others' games. religions and others do things in my name. they have the holy books and such. But did I really write them? I don't remember writing them.

By the time I got here, there was already a concerted attempt by the roman types to control everything in the realm of matter and even in the spiritual realm. But I'm not in control of it. Instead we have a series of people saying they are god.

Now, I think I created reality. I do, but how can I know I'm just not mentally ill. I don't and there's an awful lot of people who seem to be targetting me. I'm just a poor person.

What if it's the opposite? What If I'm the LAST thing that was created, during the endtimes and the reason is that people need someone to blame for everything. sometimes I wander whether you can actually even know this.

Mal 8999

Pal 9000

The real nature of this reality seems to be revealing itself to me which is that no one wants to take responsibility for anything and wants someone to blame. I'm not controlling anyone, yet everyone is talking about god being all powerful. if that is true, then no one needs to take responsibility for anything now do they? What's the solution?

Honestly, the holy books don't seem all that moral either.

Blame God.

It would take someone really, really stupid to claim to be god considering how fucked up the world is and I guess I'm the patsy

It's all other people though working in the system. countless people doing their jobs, doing what they want to do. They all need someone to blame.

little poor old homeless me.

Me