#dealing with pain

[thewriterofdesperation]

"He buried his feelings in the same garden he buried his demons, for both clawed at his feet if given the room to reach But how pretty the roses that grew, stained red with glistening thorns"

K.J Tierney

[justsaying-jesus-bless]

Broken Vessel

Psalms 51 Have mercy on me, O God, according to your steadfast love; according to your abundant mercy blot out my transgressions. 2 Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin! 3 For I know my transgressions and my sin is ever before me. 4 Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight, so that you may be justified in your words and blameless in your…

[bluespring864]

Make the post you want to make, I’m curious now 👀

Okay, here we go. This is not my usual kind of post.

A little tip on how to deal with pain/chronic pain (not a cure in any way)

(not a rant against painkillers either, please take your medication when needed everyone)

So, for various reasons it might sometimes be unadvisable to take (more) pain medication, i.e. because of reactions to the pills, bad side effects, waiting times before taking the next one etc.

What helps me sometimes in these moments is to use something i read about in an article (can't find it right now, in the Guardian maybe?) a while back, which is to try to reframe the pain a bit. That is, to imagine it as a long, slow, flowing river that goes through my body. Especially if the pain is quite sharp in one spot, try not to shy away from it too much but to locate it and imagine it dissipating slowly through your body. You're not trying to get rid of it, you're just trying to redistribute it. Conscious breathing while doing it can be helpful. I find that this sometimes dulls the pain, and sometimes even makes it go away for a while, especially if I don't move too much.

Then, there's a second thing I try to consciously think about (for the more rational side of the brain) which is to remember that pain is a warning signal. My body is trying to warn me about something - maybe about not taxing myself too much because I'm getting my period, maybe about having eaten something that was bad for me, maybe about having gone past my physical limit, maybe about something as of yet undiagnosed. So, I try to tell myself "This is a warning signal, and i have received the warning signal. I will act accordingly (i.e. take a break, not do anything strenuous, do some light exercise to alleviate muscle pain, go to sleep, go to the doctor etc.). Dear body, please let me take a break/go to sleep etc., we will feel better afterwards.

Both of these exercises might sound ridiculous to you. In that case, this post is not for you, or at least not right now.

But as someone who has gone through periods of chronic pain, I wanted to share this, because god knows, the relief of even getting your pain from a 7 to a 5 can be staggering sometimes.

[in-flvx]

Hc that remus is very sensible about getting sick. Drinks the teas and potions, goes to the hospital wing if needed etc - partly bc his body can't take any more untreated pain, partly bc it helps covering his monthly visits to the hospital wing. Sometimes he even just goes there to do his homework, to not make it so obvious he only goes there on the full moon. Bc in a school where everyone learns about the night sky, and eats in a hall where the ceiling reflects the sky, everyone would notice in about 2 months time imo

Meanwhile Sirius flat out refuses to ever go even near the hospital wing and denies any pain ever. Partly bc he doesn't want to look vulnerable, partly bc he wants to keep blemishes for longer - a physical evidence of pain he isn't allowed at home. This also plays into his deep wish for piercings and tattoos

[ashes-and-ruins]

this morning it was raining when i woke up. i took a hot shower. i let the water wash away the tear stains on my cheeks, the grease in my hair, and the ache in my bones.

then i made a cup of tea. i used my favorite mug and added just the right amount of milk. i put on my favorite sweatshirt and sat in my most comfortable chair.

i invited my pain in, offered it a cup as well. we sat together in silence, until i told it, “i know you are a part of me. you always have been. and i know you always will be. but there will come a day where your part dwindles, where joy starts to take over again. right now, you are the leading factor; i respect you and i understand why, but i also need you to know that i am not fighting you. i will let you stay as long as you need to. but when it is your time to go, i will gladly walk you to the door.”

when we were done, i didn’t feel better… but there was something else blooming inside of me. something that had withered out long ago.

hope.

[happytakes]

2023.04.22 | If you're struggling right now; hang in there. If you're helping someone through their struggles; stay strong for each other. Remember, this too shall pass.

[iwannabeahotwheelscarwhenigrowup]

24JUNE2023

video diary 004 - my heart is heavy and full of big emotions

this cannot be a sad girl summer in the making, but I am really struggling to find relief or hope to keep me positive through this struggle with my health and well-being....I know I'll get there at some point, I'm just tired of the fight

[silverscribe87]

If you see someone in public that has a limp or maybe is leaning heavily on a shopping cart or showing some other sign of pain or discomfort...

Unless they look like they're in immediate and active distress and need help then please.... just go about your business.

Do not stare at them.

Do not ask store employees to check on them.

Do not walk up to them and ask if they are in pain and make them explain that they have a bad knee or chronic condition or whatever it may be when they're just trying to get through their day.

Do not ask them if you can pray for them and then seem offended when your embarrassing public display fails to produce a miracle.

Do not make them a scene.

Because even if you genuinely mean well, all you've done is put a downer on their day at best. Because they were probably masking as best they could and you saw through it so easily and pointed it out.

When they just wanted the normal and mundane experience of grocery shopping.

[samtheviking]

Hot tip:

If you can identify the negative emotion you're feeling (anger, sadness, hurt, betrayal...), mentally step back from the emotion, like you're looking at it. Talk to it. Tell it you understand it. Understand where it's coming from - the root cause. Is it really coming from someone else? Or, more likely, some inner/past hurt that's making you react to the external stimulus in a negative way. Either way, this dissociation from the feeling itself can very often dissolve the bad feeling, or at least help you understand and process it more effectively.

Pay attention to what makes you feel on edge. If you’re feeling angry try to stop and assess what is triggering that anger. It doesn’t have to make sense. Is the sound of shoes squeaking on the floor grating? Is the way someone is asking you for something upsetting even if the ask isn’t? Understanding what is bothering us is the first step to diffusing our anger.

[the-re-farmer]

Who dat chonky boi?

This afternoon, I glanced out my window and saw a stranger. I think. View this post on Instagram A post shared by The Re-Farmer (@the.refarmer) This Big Boi was loafed in a sun spot against the old garden shed. To get the photo, I had to zoom in through three layers of glass and Lexan in my window. I’m actually surprised I got as good a photo as I did! 😄😄 I don’t know that I recognize this…

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