#damian desmond my boy

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TOMATO DESMOND RULED THE WHOLE LAST EPISODE

AAAAAAAND…

AAAAAHHHH!!! THIS CUTE BOY, WE MUST PROTECT HIM, WE HAVE TO, WE NEED TO.

[peanutseagle]

nvm REVERSED ROLES!!!

[karumizai]

More (+8 pages) under the cut :)

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Damian Desmond: An Attachment Perspective

**Spoilers for SxF Chapter 106 Below**

I loved this chapter for so many reasons, but the one I really want to highlight today is that Damian may be insecurely attached, but he still has hope. And that he is so brave, in his own way.

Exhibit A: When Damian knocks on Demetrius' door and asks for help, I am 100% positive that Damian wasn't truly expecting a response from Demetrius. He's used to being ignored, especially by his own family.

But he tried anyway.

This is important, because most children of Damian's age who fall under the category of avoidant attachment wouldn't approach a situation like this where there is a possibility that they would be rejected. It speaks volumes to me that Damian has a sense that he would be turned away, but still he tries.

"I was hoping..."

Exhibit B: There is also this moment where we see that Damian wanted to say something, and then he silences himself before he can say anything.

(Don't cry, Lass, omg dont cry 😭😭😭 )

Damian is initially afraid, so he silences himself, but then there is this moment, where he pulls himself together, and tries again.

Endo is so brilliant at drawing out moments of important decisions for characters. You can see Damian making the decision to say something, and gather his courage, but he only falls short once he actually succeeds at getting Donovan's attention.

Under the heavy gaze of the head of the Desmond dynasty, I'm not surprised that 6-year old Damian felt his resolve crumble.

But!

He reverts to another option: find support. Which leads me to...

Exhibit C: This one makes me sob, actually. In response to his wavering confidence, Damian looks to his mother for support. The woman who should be his primary caregiver, and therefore his primary attachment figure.

And she turns away.

(Tears, tears down my face, my boy doesn't deserve this 😭 )

This is the third moment in this chapter alone that Damian does something that no other Desmond would dare: he seeks connection.

Damian tried to connect with his brother, his father, and his mother, all in the same chapter. He is the sole character that links them all.

All through Chapter 106, these are the moments that stood out to me the most, because it truly shows to me that Damian still has hope. Demetrius and Melinda are very clearly ingrained in their roles, and their behaviour is crystallised into what we see as the reader. It's obvious that this isn't the first time that Demetrius has rebuffed Damian's requests; and this isn't the first time that Melinda has ignored Damian's emotional needs.

I hear you wondering: Does Damian still have hope because he's still just a child?

Maybe. It's certainly possible. But I also want to highlight that Damian is insecurely attached; specifically showing an insecure-avoidant attachment style.

Children with this style of attachment typically experience high levels of emotional neglect, where their primary caregiver consistently does not meet their emotional needs. This leads the child to value independence, autonomy, and self-reliance, and to generally see others as untrustworthy.

We see this in Damian. He believes he is better, usually weaponising the Desmond name to place himself above others, but there is also an element where he believes he is better, because he ranks highly in the social hierarchy, and he achieves brilliant grades on his own merit, demonstrating his own self-reliance.

(Side note: Issues stemming from an avoidant attachment style can still coexist with self-esteem issues, but I'm trying not to complicate this post lol).

My point: Damian has experienced enough rejection in his childhood that he shouldn't even be trying with his own family anymore. But he does. He keeps trying. Damian still hopes that he can connect with his family, and I think that this is because this is a part of his actual personality.

On the inside, Damian is complex; he struggles with the weight of his identity, he is trying to find his place in the world, he yearns for attention and validation (specifically from his father), he finds comfort in believing that he is better than other people (even his friends), he struggles to handle big emotions, he prefers to work things through independently, and struggles to be vulnerable and ask for help, and he lies to himself about his big feelings so that he can avoid feeling them.

And my favourite thing about him: he still keeps trying. He gathers his courage. He gets back up. Time and time again he feels afraid, and time and time again he feels the fear and he tries anyway.

Damian is so brave, in his own way.

[elipri]

cmon, sy-on boy! you promised!!

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[h0estar]

THIS WAS NOT IN MY SXF CHAPTER 96 BINGO CARD

[youuuimeanmee]

ooOOHHhh what's with the concern, Damian? 😏

Knowing Anya's grade, you shouldn't worry too much, right?

Could it be, deep in your heart, you actually believe Anya could beat you? 🤭

You actually ✨️believe in her?? 😏🤭

Is that why you're so threatened? By "mere" Anya Forger?? 🤭🥰

[cocktailjjrs]

I found something while scrolling insta:

You know who this screams of???

DEMETRIUS DESMOND!!!

[jamethinks]

Since Damian is actually still very childish I like to imagine him trying to talk to his brother and show him how cool and smart he is and Demetrius just absolutely wrecking me.

Like Damian tries to boast about knowing how to count to 1000 and Demetrius is like well I can count to 1 zillion and Damian is just flabbergasted because he didn't even know that was a number.

Another time Damian is Luke I got 100 on my spelling test and Demetrius telld him "I'm so good at spelling I already got certificate in it so I don't have to do it anymore." The next day Damian goes to Hederson to ask him how he can a certificate in spelling.

Da: "I can jump over 4 boxes and thats the second highest in the grade"

De: I can walk over that

Da: but you can't jump it

De: Because I don't need to

Da: what if there were like 5 boxes and you had to jump over them because you can't walk over them the area is blocked off so you have to jump and if you don't then you lose and you don't win

De: then I'll jump it. I can jump over 10 boxes.

Da: *breaks down in tears*

Idk I just think he'll fight with his brother over every little and lose because he's 6

[slytherin-syon]

i made the mistake of listening to the pjo musical while also being on a spy x family kick and came to the horrifying realization that Damian is so Annabeth-coded, particularly combining their ambitions with the trauma of being seen as invisible and their determination to prove themselves....

so, here is a damian-centric amv to the song "My Grand Plan"

[chaikajpeg]

anya will be taller than damian, end of discussion

reference photo: Whip It (2009)

(idk what the context is, hopefully nothing that can get me cancelled)

[peanutseagle]

Could u plz draw part 2 of Damian asking Anya 's hand from Loid ?

Your wish is my command, anon 🥖

(part one)

[akinchi]

SOMEONE made Anya cry again and Ken is comforting her... but SOMEONE is feeling a little jealoushh~~ ✨️✨️✨️

[clownowo]

imagine if it turns out the friendship scheme was all for nothing

[arataka-reigen]

You know it's a good chapter when we get to see tsundere Damian

[sister-cna-reader]

I just thought of a story idea, Loid spies in Anya to see how she is doing int her studies. And he see’s Bill putting flowers in her desk. And then Damian giving her peanuts in her bag, and loid goes undercover to hear Bill saying he likes Anya and Damian being confused around Anya. Loid is now in conflicted, he is happy that plan A is working but doesnt like the idea of two boys are after his daughter. And Anya can read his mind and is confused about everything.

Loid sits his 13-year-old daughter on the couch and does his best to make it not seem like an interrogation.

But his dutiful daughter can read minds and Anya really, really doesn't want the topic to go where she's sure it's gonna go.

"I know you are growing up and sometimes there are big feelings that are hard to understand," the psychiatrist starts.

Anya- who doesn't even know why the two boys are acting this way to her- cuts him off.