#cycles of violence

[runawaymarbles]

Buck "i've been Ana" because he was Ana to Abby who was Ana to Tommy who is now Ana to Buck I'm

[knightsgaydiant]

As a Moash fan, I can’t wait to become obsessed with Gavinor in later books. Hit me with the cyclical nature of vengeance baby!!!! I am so ready!!!!! I fucking love a revenge tragedy!!!!!!!!!!!

[intravi]

Remembered I have this creature

[vergencescatter]

Convergence

I can see why one might be inclined to view Convergence as a love story. It certainly has elements of a classical love story; I mean, there is something obviously Shakespearean about how in a world of violence and generational conflict two young people from opposing sides come together in union. The story of Phan-tu and Xiri (two people very much invested in the outcome of the war) is beautiful in many ways, and its undoubtedly an important part of the plot; but I personally think Convergence is much too pragmatic to be considered a love story. Its moral is, at least for me, to expose and study generational cycles of violence and hatred. It is then through Phan-tu and Xiri that we learn how such cycles manifest and become embedded in social and cultural identity. (The title is possibly a hint at this, as it could be viewed as a reference to convergence theory, which is one mainstream explanation for ideological manifestations of violence).

It is this story, in which we observe how the hearts of those on E'ronoh and Eiram grew with deep resentment and rage, that is the central premise to Convergence.

When seen in this way, I think the proceeding Battle of Jedha makes so much more sense and seems so much more congruent in the terms of the metastory. Convergence gives the lesson about how hatred can easily become an inheritance, and that outside forces are often eager to exploit such generational conflict - to uphold the violence and perhaps even stimulate it - for their own gain. We even gain crucial insights into how both E'ronoh and Eiram economies are respectively geared toward war. Many citizens are faced with food-shortages, a lack of medicine, and inadequate investment in essential infrastructure. All of this seems to manufacture desperation that further fuels the cycle.

To ask why violence and war repeatedly occur, and to enquire into the complicated path toward breaking such cycles, serves also to show the nature of the Jedi in their time as peacekeepers in the High Republic. (I'm thinking also of the mediations by Engle and Barash on the Planet of Knives [The Blade, 1-4]). Their task is nigh impossible; but no less important, honourable, and necessary.

[formerleopard]

Cycles of Violence, from the book An Introduction to Psychology, by Dennis Coon

Child Abuse

Cycles of Violence

Sadly, no account of problems in early development would be complete without a brief discussion of child abuse. Much as we might like to believe otherwise, child abuse is widespread. Estimates on the number of children who are physically abused by parents range from 3.5 percent to 14 percent. Even if the lower figure is right, that would mean that 1.7 million children are physically battered each year in the United States (Browne, 1986). In about one-third of all cases of physical abuse, the child is seriously injured. Every year hundreds of children are killed by their own parents.

Question: What are abusive parents like?

CHARACTERISTICS OF ABUSIVE PARENTS Abusive parents are usually young (under 30) and from lower-income levels. Typical problems include loneliness, marital discord, unemployment, drug abuse, divorce, family violence, heavy drinking, and work anxieties (Giovannoni & Becerra, 1979). Some parents are aware that they are mistreating a child but are unable to stop. Other abusive parents literally hate their children or are disgusted by them. The child’s sloppiness, diapers, crying, or needs are unbearable to the parent. Often these parents expect the child to love them and make them happy. When the child (who is usually under 3 years old) cannot meet these unrealistic demands, the parent reacts with lethal anger. In addition to being highly reactive to stress, abusive mothers are more likely to believe that their children are acting intentionally to annoy them (Bauer & Twentyman, 1985).

The core of much child abuse is a cycle of violence that flows from one generation to the next. The best estimate is that roughly 30 percent of all parents who were abused as children will mistreat their own children (Kaufman & Zigler, 1987). Such parents simply never learned to love, communicate with, or discipline a child. When does the cycle of violence begin? Sad to say, shows up almost immediately:

Abusive Toddlers

In a study, abused 1- to 3-years old observed as they interacted with playmates. The question of interest was, how do abused children react when another child is crying or distressed? In almost every instance, abused children responded to distress with fear, threats, or physical assault. (Main & George, 1983).

In short, abused children rapidly become abusive children. Later, many become abusive adults.

Question: How do caring parents who were abused as children differ from abusive parents who continue the cycle of violence?

Adults who are able to break the abusive cycle are more likely to have received emotional support from a non-abusive adult during childhood, to have had an emotionally supportive relationship with a mate (Egeland, Jacobvitz, & Sroufe, 1998).

[the-crooked-library]

one thing that i really enjoy about milchick is the consistency of his characterization. like, yeah, the "you must eradicate from yourself childish folly, you must abandon childish things" scene was stunning - but its impact would never have amounted to the same level if the show hadn't demonstrated already that he is a playful, fun-loving person.

yeah yeah evil middle management whatever milchick is constantly trying to insert Fun into the process, and while it's mostly corporate manipulation, corporate crucially does not approve of it. he is really putting too much effort into things. he dances during the Music/Dance Experience. sets up a scavenger hunt during the ORTBO when it could've been a powerpoint. the entire concept of an ORTBO actually. the bonfire. he reads out loud and does the voices. none of it ever goes well (what with the biting and the carrot penis etc) but he doesn't stop, even despite the negative feedback from the Board. he wants to be playful and childish so bad but he can't, and he keeps trying to provide that to the innies because he clearly wishes someone would do that for him, but they hate it, they don't appreciate it, and he takes it sooooo personally it's stupid

i want to set him loose in an arcade or something. with an escape room and a jungle gym. he would be in there for hours frolicking like a baby goat but nooo he has to go be evil. it's a 9 to 5. well, a 9 to 5:45 (they stagger the exits). and sometimes 9 to 2am. and then again to 9, because that's how it is, isn't it?.. nobody ever leaves.

[rona-eser]

"Father, why eternal torment? Is it not cruel?

Is torture unending truly a fate fit for a fool?"

[backhurtyy]

the thing that really broke me was the way ellie said ‘no’. like up until this moment she’s been so angry, so tough, so full of rage and bravado, that it’s easy to forget she’s still a child. but with that one word, that one single word when ellie’s voice broke, it all came rushing back. because it’s so quiet, so broken, so small, so childlike. and she’s been so mad at joel, but he’s him, and she’s her, and nothing is going to change that, and she just watched her dad die. and she’s just a fucking kid.

give bella their emmy now.

[bluegoblinfox]

"They fuck you up, your mum and dad.

They may not mean to, but they do.

They fill you with the faults they had

And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fucked up in their turn

By fools in old-style hats and coats,

Who half the time were soppy-stern

And half at one another’s throats.

Man hands on misery to man.

It deepens like a coastal shelf.

Get out as early as you can,

And don’t have any kids yourself"

This Be The Verse by Philip Larkin 1971

I am gen x, raised by boomer parents who hit their thirties in the 1980s. In Thatcher's Britain, when women were told they could have it all and the social mobility of the yuppies and suburban snobs were considered the ideal. It was about wanting more than your parents had, giving your kids better than you had and glass ceilings be damned.

The capitalist dream was being wanked over by people up and down the country. Apart from the miners, steel workers and little kids missing their school milk. They were not so pleased about Thatcher's conservative ideals.

I however was far away from steel mills and coal mines. I was in a London overspill town. Where my parents who came from poverty and working class roots were now living in a detached three, soon to be four bed house in a middle class area, taking holidays abroad and making fists full of money with every house move they made.

Around the dining table homophobic, misogynistic, racist talk was casually bounded about when talking about family, politics, sex and religion. My Dad's views were that Thatcher was right to break the backs of unions and to close the mines. A view I'm definitely opposed to now that I live in what was once a pit village.

Back then though I soaked up the "wisdom" that my parents dispensed like a sponge. I internalised the bigotry well and truly.

I was a latch key kid from year 5 occasionally and everyday from year 7. I spent hours alone daily and as the youngest by 7 years much of my weekends were spent either in the company of my parents at their caravan, visiting friends or on my own. This progressed to me being home alone every other weekend, for four or five days at a time by year 10 and then two weeks in the summer also by year 11 and post 16.

I lived a middle classed life of privilege and had everything I physically needed and many luxuries provided. However I was alone often.

My parents were loving but not validating. I was bullied and when I talked to my parents they pointed out I dressed weird and if I dressed like that people were bound to take the piss.

Compared to many others of my generation I had it easy. I was not hit often and was beaten once. The lack of parental interest in my emotional well-being and not being present took its toll on me. This isn't a woe is me. Its just facts. That's how it was.

My parents were not evil, bad or horrible people. They were raised by people who were raised think children were to be seen and not heard, spare the rod and spoil the child etc. My grandparents were taught to put baby outside and too many cuddles would spoil the child and make a rod for your back.

My parents had and have their own trauma to deal with and boomers as a generation are not good at dealing with feelings. Their own especially.

I don't need to vilify my parents to acknowledge that my needs not being acknowledged or met had and continues to have an impact on me. Acknowledging the impact my parents childhood trauma had and has on them doesn't diminish my own suffering.

I forgive my parents because it helps me and benefits me to do so. I can enjoy my relationship with my parents now better that way.

My parents are flawed. As am I. I'm not a perfect parent either. Larkin's poem is fatalistic but it's not a given that man hands all of his misery to man.

Each generation should break some of the cycles of trauma of the past and not add more cycles of violence into the mix.

My parents broke many of the cycles of generational trauma and violence that exist in my family. They enabled me to continue that trend. My children, if they have kids, will do the same.

We can pass on generational hope by talking to the next generation and owning up to our flaws. Encouraging the next generations to do better. Give them the power to pass on hope not just trauma.

Ling and River Ty

[gudamor]

It means "enters the battlefield" which will be outdated text in a couple months, when it will be replaced with "enters."

So saying that a card 'has an ETB' will itself become obscure, confusing old phrasing that OP knows but a new player won't!

playing MTG with people who have been in the game for like 20 years is so insufferable sometimes

every turn they're like "I play Cock Goblin of Guzzleberg" and everyone else at the table nods and goes "ah yes of course, the Cock Goblin, classic" and doesn't explain.

so I'm like okay. what does that do. and they go "well it has a Guzzler effect" and I'm like okay great what the FUCK is a Guzzler Effect™

and then after like 10 minutes of trying to get them to explain, eventually I figure out that there was a card called Guzzler Greebling that was only printed ONCE in 1998, and its text was "when this creature ETBs, everyone at the table has to suck your dick" and this card got so popular in Standard at the time that now all effects that involve dick-sucking are called "Guzzlers" by the players

[yourstrullyme]

okay but on top of all the bad things about hp i hate hate hate that both lupin and tonks die on the battle like. i know its supposed to mirror harry's own parents and how war is bad because it makes orphans and the cycle of violence doesnt end violence but like

they dont break the cycle

and as a writer imagine the power of breaking that particular cycle. harry getting to see his godson grow up the way he couldnt in spite of the war. harry not feeling as guilty about the war bc it was necessary and it wasnt his fault even if he will always believe it was, deep down

bc at least teddy didnt grow up like he did. at least teddy had parents/one parent to hold him and love him and a big family to surround him

but no, both lupin and tonks die and teddy grows up with his grandparents i think? and harry will always feel guilty about him being an orphan and ofc harry joins the magic cops and is a bad dad to albus and basically nothing structural changes so its only a matter of time before another voldemort rises :)

[that1overthere]

BACK AT IT AGAIN O7 KEEP DRAWING STARSCREAM PRIVATE MARTIAN!!!!!!

And my lovely fanart of him

[retquits]

me when i GET YOU

[sarcastic-clapping]

LET YOUR DAD DIE: IT'S FINE IT'S FINE IT'S WHAT HE DID TO HIS DAD.

Lestat + Claudia: Patricide & The Cycles of Violence - INTERVIEW WITH THE VAMPIRE (2022) - Catherine Lacy, "Cut" (2019) / Anne Rice, "The Vampire Lestat" (1985) / Anne Rice, "Interview with the Vampire" (1976)

[riverscuomoforcefem]

Hey, guys I think I just figured out how we break free from the cycle of violence!

Violence oughta do it!

[1lovepeace]

I also wanna add that this would even be just as hard for Rayla as it is for Callum. Considering that Runaan has had nothing but his thoughts being the only things that have kept him company and heavily occupied, while also suffocating from all the unspeakable trauma, unbearable guilt, regret, despair, and remorse for his own failures, wrongdoings, and negligence not only as a leader, but more importantly, as both a father and a husband. Him being released will ultimately be very hard and extremely complicated for Callum, Ezran, and especially Rayla.

Not only does Runaan have a lot of heavy burdens to deal with, but he also has a lot to answer for in regards to killing Callum and Ezran's father, King Harrow, and his devastating and disastrous fallout between him and Rayla on the mission. He's especially bound to feel heart-wrenching guilt, uncontrollable regret, and indescribable remorse upon seeing Rayla again and finding out about what his actions and choices put her through.

How he unintentionally caused her such grief, hurt, pain, and loss. I also believe that Callum will not hesitate to unleash his blood boiling anger, resentment, and disdain on Runaan for not just what happened to Harrow but hurting him with the damaging truth about how Rayla lost what she had left because of him and Ethari. I can also see Runaan witnessing Callum's growth and worth, seeing his love and devotion to Rayla. This will definitely push him to not only accept him, but it'll also allow Runaan to face the hurtful and devastating reality of how Rayla lost what she had left because of his choices and failures, and how it'll push him to reconcile and repair his bond with Rayla, showing her how truly important she is to him and Ethari, how much they deeply love and care about her, and just how proud their are of her.

This will be the hardest cycle for all of them to break. It'll be overwhelming, intense, and heartbreaking. Forgiveness will not come easy for Runaan. Callum and Rayla will have their own anger, resentment, and disdain and will struggle to forgive Runaan. Especially Rayla because once she realizes how Runaan was the one who horribly and miserably failed, wronged, disappointed her, that he caused her such hurt, pain, loss, and grief (which is going to be vital and crucial part of her emotional development as a character/ individual) she's could say some very brutal, strong, harsh, hurtful yet truthful words to say to Runaan. Which would no doubt leave him heartbroken, distraught, incredibly hurt, and devastated once he realizes that she'd been banished from her home and had not seen Ethari in two years because of it.

So yeah, this is exactly the entire point. But this show has demonstrated time and time again that many of the parents have done terrible things, and their children were left to suffer because of it. Harrow was killed, but he saw his horrible wrongdoings and passed down his wisdom to his sons. Viren is seemingly gonna be going through massive dark magic dreams and all his decisions that led him to where he is now. Last but not least, Runaan will have his own atonement/redemption arc with not only Callum and Ezran but, more importantly, with his family: Rayla, Ethari, Lain, and Tiadrin. Massively apologizing to his daughter, clarifying his behaviors, explaining his actions, getting Rayla, Lain, and Tiadrin unghosted, effortlessly repairing his relationships with them, among others. Doing everything in his power and will to showing Rayla how deeply he loves and cares about her, how important she is to him and Ethari, and how proud she is of her.

But this is what makes it all the more exciting. S5 is about to unleash the raging tides of the oceans, and I'm so here for it. 🌊🌊🥺😢😭🙌👀👀

Just read a Reddit post that said they loved the "break the cycle" and "forgiveness" theme in tdp but couldn't see how the peaceful World Callum and Ezran envisioned and a World where Runaan exists could possibly co-exist and that brining Runaan back would be, and I quote, "one of the worst choices the show could make" followed by the reasoning "it would be uncomfortable" 🤦

Buddy, I hate to tell you this, but that's kinda the point... that's the tea.