#cw: codependency

[anewkindofme]

Hi!! I was wondering how you think Sam would deal with Dean’s oveprotectiveness. Would it be amplified now due to Sam being a little and in what ways?

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Dean is already at an 100 when it comes to his protectiveness over Sam. He already treats him like a little kid 99% of the time. And I think Sam has accepted it for the most part…but it definitely amplifies when he starts regressing.

I cannot find it, but please insert image of the exchange “And by the way, I'm a big boy now, I can take care of myself.” “Oh, well, excuse me.” Because they have a similar conversation probably once every few months.

Dean struggles to separate Sam’s younger space from his older. It’s easy for him to just fall into “Sam can’t do this for himself, so I will”. Sometimes it’s nice for Sam because he doesn’t have a ton of responsibilities, but others it’s annoying. Like when Dean insists on tying his shoes or brushing his teeth.

It’s definitely used as an excuse on hunts as to why Sam has to stay behind and do research, while Dean does the dirty work. Dean insists he’s too young and besides, what if he dropped while out in the field? What if someone took advantage of how vulnerable he is?

Not to mention, this job comes with enemies. People know Dean’s weakness is Sam. Dean does everything he can to make sure that Sam doesn’t become a target.

It’s definitely trial and error and multiple talks on the subject. Dean is right in a lot of areas and what he’s doing is for Sam’s protection. The truth is, Sam can’t do all the same things as before and he has to adjust to it. That being said, some of Dean’s rules are 100% for his anxiety and aren’t totally fair. The brothers spend a lot of time communicating and compromising.

The most important part is that they’re honest with each other. For Sam, that means not trying to hide it when he drops and allowing Dean to take care of him in the ways he needs. For Dean, it’s not trying to force Sam to drop if he doesn’t need to and giving him some space to breathe.

That being said, some things will never change. Dean is overprotective and will forever view Sam as a baby. Sam really blames John more than anything as he put this on his shoulders from the start. And he also comes to realize that he also doesn’t know how to be, if not Dean’s little baby.

Codependency at its finest, no different than Damon and Stefan.

[jesuistrestriste]

codependent!art donaldson who’s scared to make you mad.

he’s actually afraid of making you feel any sort of negative emotion at all, actually. and it’s not the kind of ‘afraid’ that he can laugh off.

no, no, no; it’s the kind that motivates him to shrink himself down into something more digestible for you. something that you can chew up and spit out and discard repeatedly, over and over again—like gum. it’s a sickening cycle that he enables, even if he won’t admit it.

he lets you suck the flavor and enjoyment out of his life in favor of making you happy. he’ll always make himself smaller for you if it makes you feel powerful and in-control.

so when you yell at him after he’s done nothing but try to make you feel worshipped all night in front of your friends, he can’t help the tears that well in his eyes. his entire expression crumples.

he whimpers and paws at your hips, big drops of sadness rolling down his flushed cheeks as he sniffles, and then pushes his hips into yours.

“i’m sorry,” he breathes out, his voice breaking, “i’m sorry, baby, i’m so sorry… please…”

when you don’t budge, he steps back with a sense of frantic urgency and begins stripping off his clothes. his shirt falls down to the bedroom floor, then his sneakers are kicked off, and then his pants. he’s tenting achingly in his boxers with the need to make everything better.

art reaches out again, but for your wrist this time. his thumb brushes your soft skin. he hiccups wetly. he slides his touch to rest over the back of your hand, and then directs it down to press against his pelvis. his fingers curl over the backs of yours, silently encouraging you to grope at him.

he’s taller than you, but you can feel the way he’s mentally curling into himself. it’s pathetic and it’s sad and it’s doing nothing but making you feel guilty. you don’t want to have sex with him, you want to shut him out.

“touch me,” he gasps, his clothed boner pressing into your palm desperately as he steps closer, “please, touch me… use me.. you can fuck me however you want.. i need—i love you..”

he buries his face into your neck, his arms both moving to wrap around the back of you, before his strong legs go shaky and he’s slowly sliding down onto one knee. and then the other goes. he cries into your frame, his cock bobbing and leaking in his briefs.

it takes another minute or two of your continued silent treatment for him to look up from his seat on the floor, fingertips digging into the meat of your thighs. his eyes meet your own; all wet lashes and puffiness over his lids.

“please don’t leave me.”

[bunclebee]

This is ur only warning that there is more CheeBee art up and coming LOL… I will tag it all CheeBee if you want to mute it!

[idk-bruh-20]

Irondad fic ideas #154

CW: this one's pretty gruesome. read at your own risk 

Peter is a young child who's been kidnapped. His parents and/or his aunt and uncle were killed and he was taken. Along with a bunch of other little kids, he's been held captive and experimented on.

When the Avengers suddenly bust the kidnapping operation, the kidnappers try at the last second to destroy their research. They gas the small room where the kids are being held.

It's Iron Man who ends up blasting through. What he finds is horrifying. All but one of the children are dead.

The one who's left is just sitting among the bodies, crying, shocked, terrified. Iron Man carries him out of there, then once they're safe from the gas Tony steps out of the suit to comfort the kid while he's given oxygen.

Little 5-year-old Peter Parker imprints on his savior hard.

He just went through an unimaginable amount of trauma, then Iron Man burst through like an avenging angel. This is the first time he's ever felt protected in his memory. Tony holds the crying kid, and the kid can tolerate no one else near him.

This becomes a slight problem when they get back to base. But Tony can't find it in him to let SHIELD take the kid away, let them strip him of this one tiny bit of comfort. He keeps seeing all those other kids when he closes his eyes.

This one needs him right now. And if "right now" eventually becomes "this is my son," well. Who could've predicted that.

[seth-whumps]

talk codependency to me. caretaker overcome with adrenaline and panic and fear when whumpee is out of their sight, grabbing their face and frantically looking them over to ensure they're alive, even if they've been gone for two minutes. a whumpee who could handle the worst of torture and only breaks when they threaten caretaker, spilling everything, begging, pleading, for whumper to leave them be. caretaker who goes feral when whumpee is in danger. whumpee who can't even blink without caretaker in the room. they sleep back to back, breathing matched, one eye locked on the door and ready to obliterate anything that dares threaten the other.

[howlsofbloodhounds]

You know, I think the biggest issue that Color could potentially bring to his and Killer's friendship is if he becomes a bit overprotective of Killer.

I mean, it would make sense if he did with everything he knows that Killer's been through and especially with how much Killer just doesn't take care of himself in most Stages. Color has had to take on the role of the caretaker and protector for his friend because it was a necessity to allow him to heal. From there, these respective roles becoming a bit more extreme wouldn't be too much of a stretch.

And, of course, that paired with Killer's mentality of needing to be in control, useful, and not weak at all times becomes kind of a recipe for disaster. Because Killer will just become more self-destructive if he thinks he's gotten to a point where he's just not of any use to Color anymore, or he will become more aggressive toward Color himself if instead he perceives the overprotectiveness as Color's attempt at sneakily taking over completely.

If they get to a point like that, I definitely think they'd benefit from having other friends around that are able to point them to where the tension originates from, because I don't know if either of them would be able to spot it when it was a gradual progression

They’d definitely benefit from having other friends and people around eventually.

Their dynamic, this sense of needing to be useful and being protective and only feeling accepted and understood and safe with eachother completely, can very easily lead to toxic codependency.

Someone has to be there to remind them that other people and the outside world exist outside of eachother—I wouldn’t be suprised if they have a tendency to slip into their own world together. But it wouldn’t do any of them any good, killer wouldn’t heal or improve, Color would regress and be unhappy without his other friends and loved ones—even if he does love Killer and enjoy being with them.

At the worst, his overprotectiveness could lean into paranoia if he thinks others are trying to hurt killer like so many have before—and if his desire to take care of killer and protect his friend becomes less more of what he genuinely wants and makes him happy to do and more like a ‘if I don’t do this, someone else will, and they’ll hurt him more.’

I wouldn’t be surprised if color thought there were others out there who’d be happy to take care of killer, he was just the lucky one killer allowed to. In this type scenario that could become more along the lines that color begins to not trust people or the world with killer—similar to the way killer may think about color, and the idea that people take advantage of color’s kindness and patience and desire to help.

And of course this all gets worse if Killer manipulates Color’s protective instincts via putting himself in danger or provoking people such as Delta to attack him simply because he wants validation, and proof of Color’s strength and willingness to protect him and look after him.

Wants tangible proof of Color’s care. That could have a bad effect on Color, too. It elevates the sense that Killer is somehow constantly in danger and he needs to protect him. And then that can backfire on Killer if the protection starts feeling suffocating and controlling rather than comforting and reassuring.

Which is honestly why i think they’d need the rest of the Epic Sanses/Chromatic Crew’s support and help 🙏. Cross, and Horror and Dust if they’re here too, know Killer enough to handle him in a way Color may not be comfortable doing, and Delta and Epic can help support and look after Color so he doesn’t get burnt out. And of course Cross can function as a bridge between both the MTT/Killer and the Epic Sanses.

{ @stellocchia }

[majorstumbles]

WHO TF DOES IT LIKE MISHA COLLINS

LOOK AT HIM

LOOK AT HIS FACE, THE EYES, THE E X P R E S S I O N

Man, just

The way he still manages to maintain an expression of religious devotion to a flawed and broken ’deity’ while suffering for and at the hand of that ‘deity’ will forever amaze me. Obsessive Devotion Castiel, save me. The way he still believes in this new god he’s found even after he’s been pushed away time and time again because he believes Dean Winchester is good and will do what he thinks is best after God his Father abandoned him.

And the way Dean needs him back.

[bharv]

Me before the companion trailer: oh Taash is really young compared to my planned Rook Tammy, who is probably going to be a more motherly figure I guess

Me after seeing Taash’s arms in the new trailer: I’m gonna make Tammy her MOMMY.

[winepresswrath]

Armand's simpering little "and I never have" has taken on new dimensions for me. Technicality king and also I think very in keeping with his whole malign fairy creature deal. You can tell him not to hurt the bae, but you should really specify what "hurt" entails. Is chopping someone's hands off really hurting them? If they have annoyed you very much I mean.

-questions Armand might pose to Lestat that inspire him to leave the country

[cutely-inserts-my-opinion]

im back again to drop more ship thoughts

ik a lot of ppl like to make sunvant/lord eclipse sweet and fluffy but they have SUCH toxic potential

like eclipse literally killed and revived sun repeatedly. he couldve revived any other person and killed them (specifically moon bc we know how much he hates moon) but he chose sun

like. they would have such an unhealthy attachment to each other. its physically and emotionally abusive with a power imbalance. but i also feel like they need each other. its like a parasitic relationship. if eclipse dies then sun dies. if sun dies (permanently) then eclipse dies. theyre like stars circling around each other until they eventually collide and explode.

eclipse may have the star but he lost everything after the witherstorm and exhausted himself. all he had was sun. sun was his entertainment, his only source of attention and worship, a loyal toy he could play with freely. what would he do without sun? what would he have left? a dead world? a star thats slowly eating him alive?

sun is only alive bc of eclipse. he only exists bc of eclipse. his purpose is eclipse. he is nothing if not a servant. hes nothing without his god. he is a mere speck compared to him. he cant live without eclipse. if eclipse isnt there then neither is sun. without the star sun would die. sun wouldve died a long time ago. and he should appreciate his lord for letting him be in his holy presence. to keep him alive when the others were long gone

something something they cant live without each other despite how they tear each other apart something something

anyway im done being insane... for now :)

:o

Holy shit-

You're so right for that. Toxic codependent yaoi <3

[capricorndevil15]

👑🥩 Call 1-800-R4TT41L for a bad good time 🥩👑

I've been playing Our Wonderland + the sidegames and idk if you can tell but Orlam is my favorite. This game is bananas. You should play it if you like having your friends for dinner! (Cannibalism. There's cannibalism in the game.)

Also have a lil extra sketch of Orlam, Gidget, and Cecil under the cut cuz this post is already very long lolz

I imagine this is like Cecil's preferred place 2 be-- sandwiched between these two weirdos while they assure him they're definitely not drunk-- while he feigns annoyance. Cecil needs someone to be pretend-annoyed at, otherwise he might just die.

[glowingvoid]

Artisaint but Artificer is far gone

Artisaint but Artificer is no longer truly here

Artisaint but Saint keeps trying to reach out to a lost cause

Artisaint but it is codependent

Artisaint but Saint has to watch Arti's descent

Artisaint but Artificer's last fully "herself" thought is about hoping that Saint will save her

Artisaint but it ends with Saint being forced to ascend Arti

Artisaint but Saint is traumatized from having to execute the Artificer

Artisaint but no one gets helped

Artisaint but Saint has a lot of grief

Artisaint but Saint can't take it anymore

Artisaint but the relationship ruined them both

There's not even a positive memory to cling on to

[isatoru]

if oliver gets serious about you he does intentionally start to condition you to depend on him a bit too much… to the point he becomes the only one who can provide you your needs, sate your yearnings, etc. coaxes you into a codependent relationship without you even realizing

[melancholyclover]

innocence died screaming

-

It was like hitting a piano key and hearing nothing when he fired the gun.  The bullet must have hit her, but he doesn't even get to see it  - he lurches awake on a poker table, half-dead and alone, sick from what he had to do.  What was inevitable.

[venusandsaturnsrings]

Would inceltaru say "I love you" or is that too beta cuck for him lol

truthfully, it depends. if he’s heavily crossfaded it’ll slip. if he’s gotten to the point of being so down bad he’d put a bullet through his head for you he’ll say it. if you use some good ol manipulation he’ll say it. all depends on just how badly he’s deluded himself in his feelings for you!!

personally, i’d take the approach of giving him a taste of his own medicine. make him chase you, flirt with other men, give him half-assed attention, and so on and so forth. things like that really get under his skin especially if you’ve been so pliant and loving to him before; it’s almost like he’s experiencing withdrawals. make him a bit self conscious about his everything!! inceltaru craves your approval more than he’d like to admit so when he comes to you gritting his teeth and demanding answers, frown a bit and tell him you don’t believe that he likes you. you think he’s lying and you’ve lost interest. his heart will involuntarily tighten and he’ll be a bit pathetic asking how he can prove it. offering to hurt himself or others, spending as much money as you want, anything for you. smile pretty and ask him to say he loves you. he’ll choke up a bit in the process but it’ll escape his throat and he doesn’t think he’s ever felt more relieved and satiated than when he’s getting a soft kiss from you in return.

tldr; turn the incel dial slightly closer to simp.

[beanyboi173thegoober]

My latest post/reblog made me want to talk about something that Malevolent fans have probably all thought about, but I haven't seen it voiced yet.

While John and Arthur both have their individual character flaws, like John's insensitivity and Arthur's selfishness, they both, as a whole, are flawed in a way that makes me ache with a want to get them some goddamn therapy.

Arthur and John have a tendency to lash out on the other. Arthur himself has stated that he has said harmful things to John simply because he had no other outlet for his anger. John has abused Arthur's trust by weaponising Arthur's trauma against him. Both of these characters are toxic towards the other, switching from friendly to hostile with the flip of a switch.

Yet they cannot leave eachother. They can't have breaks to think and reflect on what they've said, they can't have privacy, they suffer through traumatic event after traumatic event, and neither can physically function without the other. They are forced to rely on eachother. They can't trust eachother, yet they have to. Any time they reveal something personal, it gets used against them. Any time they don't, the other gripes about it.

I have been a mediator for a very long time now, and I've actually began to study psychology. The research I've done, live study or written information, doesn't even compare to the dripping, deeply set knowledge of just how fucked up these two people are. They need eachother, and they hate eachother. They have a toxic codependency that disgusts me to think about.

Two people, forced together, forced to trust the other, no matter how much verbal abuse they may shoot back and forth, and forced to cooperate despite that abuse.

It's sickening, and yet the fictional narrative it's in is inciting, and so, we all must grin and bear it.

So yes, I will continue to call Arthur my baby girl, and John is my little silly, but deep down, I will know how fucked they act towards eachother, and I will despise it.