#confused non binary

[observer-of-the-world]

Being nonbinary is a mindfuck sometimes

Sometimes i will gauge your eyes out if you call me a girl

Sometimes i will gauge your eyes out if you call me a man

Sometimes i identify as neither a man nor a woman

Sometimes i identify as both a man and a woman

Sometimes i will identify as an entity trapped in a flesh cage experiencing the horrors

[queer-is-future]

so when straight people ask me why I say I’m “queer” or “gay” instead of sharing my actual identity as a panromantic demisexual non-binary sapphic queer I just tell them “ok look, when you’re talking to someone who isn’t local and they ask you where you’re from and you either say the name of the largest city nearby or ‘town name, suburb of large nearby city’ so they can get some geographical context of where you’re located right, bc they’re probably not going to know the name of the little town you actually live in.”

but if you’re talking to a local you can say the name of your actual town bc they have a greater chance of knowing where/what that is.

ok well when I’m talking to a straight person I start with queer bc chances are they aren’t as familiar with the context of all the little towns in that big queer city and need gps (gay positioning system) to find me.

if I’m talking to another queer person and I say I live in a suburb of gay city in a town called panromantic on the demisexual side of the tracks which is in the county of queer and I live off the intersection of non-binary and sapphic, they’d probably be able to find me with little to no problems, make sense?

[sixty-silver-wishes]

my dad, trying to understand the concept of being non-binary today:

- “so there’s chocolate and vanilla ice cream, but there’s also butterscotch… wow”

- “but if you’re non-binary, does that make you straight or gay? … wait, they can be ANYTHING?”

- “but there are some straight guys who occasionally do homosexual acts. are there gay guys who do the same thing but with women?

…no way”

- “people have all these labels these days and I feel like a ball of dough. can I identify as a ball of dough”

- “gay guys are usually feminine… but wait, what about the BEARS”

- “so if they’re not a man and they’re not a woman…they’re… bisexual?”

[pawsthatcausechaos]

"are you a boy or a girl?"

I'm a cat and I'll bite you if you touch me, that's all you need to know

[fixing-bad-posts]

This should go without saying but this blog is welcoming towards trans/non-binary mspec lesbians. It is fucking Simple as that.

[teplejtrouba]

a detective who has a partner🔍 and a partner💕 who are friends so the three of them end up doing a lof things together and the detective refers to them as "my partners" and doesn't realise this makes everyone think they're polyamorous (they do end up polyamorous by the end of the story)

[itsonlycomic]

BRAT

[thefemaleterrorist]

Men took over a women in tech career conference by identifying as non binary.

If you can’t even define what a woman is i assume it would be hard to host a only woman conference

[accio-sriracha]

Okay so personal post but my mama and I hang out sometimes and whenever we go out people don't automatically assume she's my mother.

Like, we probably look about the same age now (she had me at sixteen and honestly looks young for her age) and we talk like we're best friends.

I'm an adult for those who dont know so most of the time we're talking about work and other things (very not mother-spawn like) So our conversations only add to that assumption.

So for context I'm actually decently androgynous, and it's a running joke between her and I that she'll sometimes call me daughter, sometimes son, and sometimes "my spawn", literally just whatever comes out first.

So the other day I was dressed uber masc and we were standing in a store and she calls me daughter when she says it's my turn to pay.

And the cashier just stares blankly at us for a solid twenty seconds before going,

"Would you like your receipt... ma'am?"

And honestly like 10/10 to her for trying to respect what she believes were my pronouns.

It wasn't necessarily euphoric, but totally validating as a gender-fluid person that no matter what I look like people would still be open to try.

[saint-vagrant]

once again for anyone knew or unaware: i only accept HIM & HIS and words "traditionally associated with men" or whatever the hell. i try to put my or my characters' names, pronouns and/or relevant terms in either the alt text, caption, tags, or all of the above— although there's not been too much deviation, if them or myself ever end up using something different for ourselves i'll be sure to let you know. and if you don't know, i'd prefer you simply ask.

thanks a million!

[noagskryf]

Im gay as in my attraction to women isn't heteronormative because of my gender but i'm straight as in i'm only attracted to women and straight is the label i prefer because of my gender

Also im ace and arospec because im really cool

[galacticscrotum]

Why can’t I just be like Mr. Potato Head and interchange whatever body parts I want for the day? I can’t use a binder or trans tape or bras because it’s too shitty sensory-wise. But I don’t want too surgery because my boobs are nice sometimes

[vo1d3dst4r]

the idea of gender is so uncomfortable to me. I don’t align with any gender, I hate gendered pronouns, it all just feels weird and uncomfortable. Like I’m definitely not a girl, but PLEASE DO NOT call me “he”. It’s so tiring being in a constant state of confusion and discomfort because everything feels wrong to me.

[jell-o-mel]

Transphobes are constantly telling me “I’m just confused” but let’s be honest, you’d be confused too if your gender was constantly changing.

[just-a-little-unionoid]

Husk isn't paid nearly enough for that bullshit

(he isn't getting paid at all)

may try to redraw it a little more properly later? errrr probably not

[lunian]

still so strange discovering my gender, so many times I think "that's what any women can like/do/prefer/feel too, you are not something different actually" but then getting back to "yes but no, I like it bc I feel like something different.. more than woman, more than man... it's neither, it's both, it's something third, its something i want to be but who i still havent found yet, but its there and its waiting to be born" and I still don't know what I mean by that

but its coming up to be someone cool, I hope