#confused non binary

[observer-of-the-world]

Being nonbinary is a mindfuck sometimes

Sometimes i will gauge your eyes out if you call me a girl

Sometimes i will gauge your eyes out if you call me a man

Sometimes i identify as neither a man nor a woman

Sometimes i identify as both a man and a woman

Sometimes i will identify as an entity trapped in a flesh cage experiencing the horrors

[queer-is-future]

so when straight people ask me why I say I’m “queer” or “gay” instead of sharing my actual identity as a panromantic demisexual non-binary sapphic queer I just tell them “ok look, when you’re talking to someone who isn’t local and they ask you where you’re from and you either say the name of the largest city nearby or ‘town name, suburb of large nearby city’ so they can get some geographical context of where you’re located right, bc they’re probably not going to know the name of the little town you actually live in.”

but if you’re talking to a local you can say the name of your actual town bc they have a greater chance of knowing where/what that is.

ok well when I’m talking to a straight person I start with queer bc chances are they aren’t as familiar with the context of all the little towns in that big queer city and need gps (gay positioning system) to find me.

if I’m talking to another queer person and I say I live in a suburb of gay city in a town called panromantic on the demisexual side of the tracks which is in the county of queer and I live off the intersection of non-binary and sapphic, they’d probably be able to find me with little to no problems, make sense?

[fixing-bad-posts]

This should go without saying but this blog is welcoming towards trans/non-binary mspec lesbians. It is fucking Simple as that.

[cowboysandunicorns]

Fallen London was one of the first games I ever played that specifically offered a third gender / non-binary PC and I still think about it to this day

[sixty-silver-wishes]

my dad, trying to understand the concept of being non-binary today:

- “so there’s chocolate and vanilla ice cream, but there’s also butterscotch… wow”

- “but if you’re non-binary, does that make you straight or gay? … wait, they can be ANYTHING?”

- “but there are some straight guys who occasionally do homosexual acts. are there gay guys who do the same thing but with women?

…no way”

- “people have all these labels these days and I feel like a ball of dough. can I identify as a ball of dough”

- “gay guys are usually feminine… but wait, what about the BEARS”

- “so if they’re not a man and they’re not a woman…they’re… bisexual?”

[pawsthatcausechaos]

"are you a boy or a girl?"

I'm a cat and I'll bite you if you touch me, that's all you need to know

[teplejtrouba]

a detective who has a partner🔍 and a partner💕 who are friends so the three of them end up doing a lof things together and the detective refers to them as "my partners" and doesn't realise this makes everyone think they're polyamorous (they do end up polyamorous by the end of the story)

[lotus-pear]

picked up hnk for the first time in eight years and i'm experiencing a variety of flashbacks......also i'm like 99% sure i had a crush on dia looking back 💀

[pumpkinspicel0v3r]

every couple of months or so i get the desire to be a man.

it comes and goes, i identify as a cis woman and i dont think i'll change that. ive been in and out of the closet since 13 and now ive decided it's easiest to just present as a woman and accept it.

but occasionally i still grief the fact that i'll never be a man. transitioning isn't really on the table for me for a number of reasons but it does still cross my mind. i wonder if i will ever get over this or if it will sit in the back of my mind until i die

[itsonlycomic]

BRAT

[the-mountain-flower]

I just realized smn funny

You know those haters that go 'oh you'll never be a real man' or 'you'll always be a woman you can't change that' to trans women, or vice versa to trans men, or 'you'll never be a real man/woman' to enby ppl; basically they're trying to be mean but they're confused?

I just realized that if I were to get that kind of hate (which I thankfully haven't so far, but if I did), I have a very unique way to confuse them by being AFAB, sexually female, and trans femme 😆

Like 'you'll never be a real man/you'll always be a man you can't change that' haha nope that's not my sex or AGAB or gender you failed

Or 'you'll never be a real woman/you'll always be a woman I can tell' haha still failed bc guess what my AGAB and sex is, as for gender both are correct but not in the way you'd like 😝

It's a nice little tool in my hands in case I ever have to deal with that particular act of hate

[saint-vagrant]

once again for anyone knew or unaware: i only accept HIM & HIS and words "traditionally associated with men" or whatever the hell. i try to put my or my characters' names, pronouns and/or relevant terms in either the alt text, caption, tags, or all of the above— although there's not been too much deviation, if them or myself ever end up using something different for ourselves i'll be sure to let you know. and if you don't know, i'd prefer you simply ask.

thanks a million!

[galacticscrotum]

Why can’t I just be like Mr. Potato Head and interchange whatever body parts I want for the day? I can’t use a binder or trans tape or bras because it’s too shitty sensory-wise. But I don’t want too surgery because my boobs are nice sometimes

[sillycourtjester]

iidk i was once a little girl but only bc i was told to be that. i was a girl in the way a bird is a bird but doesnt know its a bird. it knows that it has to live, it has instincts to survive, it has wings. those factors apply to so many other things. does a house wren see an owl and know theyre both birds? does a house wren ever look at an owl and wonder if it will look like that in the future? or does it expect to stay a house wren? i did not look at a woman and think that was me in the future; i saw it as a goal to achieve because it was expected, not out of self determination. i was perpetually going to be a little girl in my mind because i could never see myself realistically as being a woman. i was once a little girl because i was told that was who i was. sometimes i wonder who i would've been as a child otherwise. was i robbed of my childhood because of the social expectations of my assumed gender

[vo1d3dst4r]

the idea of gender is so uncomfortable to me. I don’t align with any gender, I hate gendered pronouns, it all just feels weird and uncomfortable. Like I’m definitely not a girl, but PLEASE DO NOT call me “he”. It’s so tiring being in a constant state of confusion and discomfort because everything feels wrong to me.

[jell-o-mel]

Transphobes are constantly telling me “I’m just confused” but let’s be honest, you’d be confused too if your gender was constantly changing.