#coming out of my lesbianism for this dude

[mirensiart]

Sees post coming out as lesbian. Sees blog full of dudes. Why do lesbians do this, I ask respectfully?

uh

I'm not coming out as a lesbian though? I've been out as one since like 2019? i have it on my pinned post? on my bio??? where did you get the idea i was just coming out

also, just because i don't like men in real life doesn't mean i don't like fictional men as well????? like am i not allowed to like fictional men because I'm a lesbian??? 😭

i personally like the dynamics and found family in some male centered media, hence why i draw that

also, as a side note, i draw yuri A LOT! it's prettt easy to find in my blog as well

anyway, you don't go around asking gay men why they mostly stan female singers or actresses, though, so i don't know why us lesbians get asked why we like fictional men so much 😭😭

sometimes u like a fucked up guy that happens to be a dude, it's not that deep!

[wannabanauthor]

I feel like I got a good chunk of my anger out about the BuckTommy situation.

Because now I’m back to rewatching and rethinking about their good/happy scenes.

Their first kiss is still the cutest thing ever.

The way Buck kept moving closer and closer to Tommy.

Tommy briefly getting distracted by Buck’s lips while also listening and responding to him.

The sheepish cute way Buck talked about Muay Thai lessons after flying lessons, with a twinkle in his eye.

The way Buck’s voice got super serious when he said “Good, because trying to get your attention has been kinda exhausting.”

The little smile Tommy has when he realizes Buck has a crush on him.

The way Buck kissed him back.

Tommy trying to play it cool after the kiss and making sure it was okay for him to do that.

Buck’s stunned gaze.

Tommy’s smile when he asks “so that was okay?”

Buck’s subconscious answering for him.

The way Buck stares at Tommy’s lips after the kiss and how he slightly leaned in like he was going to kiss him.

Buck snapping back to attention when Tommy says he has a shift. (Great future callback in 8x11).

Buck just repeating everything that Tommy says because there’s so many things running through his mind.

Buck’s happiness/giddiness when Tommy asks him out.

Tommy trying to really come across as this super confident dude (had Buck believing it too), but you know he’s a big softie that had been hiding his humongous crush on Buck for weeks.

I need more posts about Tommy’s POV in 7x04. His flirting was a little subtle. I had to rewatch all their scenes last year many times to pick up on it. The only thing that stood out to me was the shoulder touch in 7x03 and Tommy checking out Buck’s ass in the harbor tour in 7x04.

Tommy is very subtle, which I get because homophobia exists, but it was a little subtle for me. (Listen, it’s taken me years to realize some of my coworkers had crushes on me. One was a woman who had been friends with my mom for awhile, and she and I worked in the same division, and she blatantly checked me out multiple times. Funny thing is when I started working there and saw her in passing I said to myself “oh, cool, there’s a lesbian who works here.” She was married to a man and had two kids by him. They separated, and what do you know, she became super friendly and very obvious about her attraction to me. My coworkers picked up on it too. Me, I was torn between “is she actually interested in me” or is she just being super friendly. Brought my butch friend to our softball game, and my friend confirmed that the coworker was into me. I was still in denial for years. But enough about me.)

Yeah, so I’m good and also not good at noticing when people are flirting with me. I’ll clock it at the very beginning, but then convince myself otherwise, and years later I finally accepted the truth.

All that to say, my detective skills are wonky when it comes to flirting.

So it was hard for me to pick up on Tommy flirting while watching 7x04.

[bigmilk-13]

when you came into the year thinking "Oh i won't have any new celebrity crushes!"

*watches the devil wears prada and oceans 8*

Anne Hathaway: exists

me: aw dang it

Meryl Streep: exists

me: aw dang it

Sandra Bullock: exists

me: aw dang it

Cate Blanchett: exists

me: aw dang it

Sarah Paulson: exists

me: aw dang it

*descendants: ror comes out*

Kylie Cantrall: exists

me: aw dang it

Malia Baker: exists

me: aw dang it

Ruby Rose Turner: exists

me: aw dang it

Joshua Colley: exists

me: wait i'm bisexual??

[verdantvain]

If I had a Penny for each time Mariah Rose Faith Casillas played a lesbian with a gun in hatchetfield I'd have two pennies, which isn't a lot, but I'm really fucking happy it happened twice.

[aeolianblues]

was kinda thinking about this when I saw Renee Rapp live recently-- I didn't know her visual vibe, I'd heard a few songs here and there but I hadn't really *seen* her, and her attire at Osheaga was really casual, a jersey (baseball/basketball?) and slacks. And that was so amazing! I couldn't help thinking, the work Billie Eilish has done for how women in pop music are allowed to dress is incredible. Seeing her up there all comfortable you just know that Billie walked in her oversized tops so that Renee in her slacks could run; Billie walked through all the critcisms about how she dressed slobbily and having to assert that she didn't owe anyone a display of skin, so that Renee could be comfortable and unquestioned running up and down the catwalk in front of 10,000 people. How iconic.

And I don't think we even realised at the time how much something as simple as letting Billie dress the way she as a (then-) 17-year-old teenager dressed, could end up meaning for a future generation of women in music.

Obviously there is still way to go, there were weirdos complaining about how 'plain' Dua Lipa's Glastonbury outfit was this year (in 2024!!), l have to ask, are you at Paris Fashion Week?? She is the musical HEADLINER of an entire day of music at one of the biggest music festivals in the world, and you can't grant her the space to exist as an artist, you have to moan about her dress not being excitingly revealing enough. There's work to do, it's still dismal out there. But the space Billie Eilish has created for a most ordinarily-dressed woman popstar is still heartening.

[little-doggy-boy-kisserstraight]

I hate how my drawing obsessions do not keep up with my media obsessions.

I'm still stuck on fantasy high when I've gone through my locked tomb phase and tma phase since

[matoitech]

i know its easy for me to get bad faith'd bcuz my stake in it is as an i guess 'cishet passing' masc bi man who can b attracted to masc women but once ppl realize bisexual butches exist and identify as butch i think youll be a lot happier and also a lot less weird. ppl do this same thing w feminine men where ppl act like fem bi men dont exist bcuz if ur a feminine man who fucks men you cant be attracted to women youre just faking or closeted or something. very silly. just in general recognizing gnc people can be bisexual (or straight, and not in a metrosexual way or something, they just Exist, also gnc trans people exist) is probably gonna be good for you. treating gender nonconformity like its inherently fetishistic if attractive to the 'wrong' people is not the win u think it is but get well soon guys

[iamtheaudacity]

fun fact about me, I’m horrible at coming out

Not that it ever goes badly (I’m lucky on that part) but like I just do it in the worst ways possible

My bad @one-more-guy at least I didn’t make you guess

[genderdryad]

Scorchic (left): A gender relating to, or is, the Scorched from Fallout 76!

Lostic (right): A gender relating to, or is, the Lost from Fallout 76!

requested by @artimera-the-skeleton! pls credit me if you use the flags- thnx!

[horrorwebs]

why are men literally the fucking worst

[plumbogs]

I gave Bianca Monty a fresh makeover since she's a bit over halfway into adulthood :) graying hair cc save me

It's Oleander's first day of school and he already kinda hates it.

Back at home, Jenna's finally making friends with her in-laws in between fixing the car. She's a sort of woman that takes forever to get along with, which is unlike the Montys who walk by almost every single day. Romeo became friends with her.

AWWW Willow wanted to become best friends with Harmony Tinker so she invited her over and she brought Rosalind :) she's really trying her best to help her friends all get along... she's so nice

The television broke AGAIN. The school unlocked a few business perks that all went into the financial reward but I'm going to have to remodel the school soon if we're getting all these new students, otherwise I'd just buy a new better television right away.

yay soup for everyone :) except jenna since she went to sleep early

[elytrafemme]

i need this guy who is viewed by literally everyone who has ever met him including myself as one of the kindest most genuine people ever to stop being fucking scared of me and ANSWER MY TEXTS!!!

[potya-the-cat]

well hello void - i’m here with the update nobody has been waiting for - shockingly fucker did remember my birthday - 1 day early.

[babybluebanshee]

So I finally got my water heater replaced after more than half a year of it leaking and nearly destroying my floor, but that's not the story. The story is of the handyman that installed it.

Dude's name is Chris, and he's your typically midwestern schlub - friendly, apologizes too much, really likes the Cardinals, maybe a little younger than my parents. Hella nice tho, gets the heater installed quickly, and even offers to fix the floorboards it warped (after nearly tripping over the hump it made in the floor twice). Overall, a stress-free experience.

Then, as he's gathering up his tools - "So, I noticed your, uh, banner. Over your bed."*

*(The closet where my water heater is is located in my bedroom because I live in a mobile home, dude wasn't just wandering creepily into my bedroom)

He's referring to a giant pride flag that's hanging over my bed, with the words "Sounds gay, I'm in"

My anxiety spikes instantaneously, thinking oh christ I'm about to get hatecrimed or at least microaggressioned.

But then he says "Yeah, my daughter is gay, and I was wondering, like...where do you guys, ya know, meet up?"

What.

"Because she met her most recent girlfriend when she was in jail, and I keep asking why she doesn't just find a nice lesbian librarian or something and she said 'dad I know they're out there, I just don't know where'. So...like...where do you?"

So I ended up confessing to this nice man who installed my water heater that I don't know of any real gay culture in our mostly Baptist Missouri town of about 18,000 that routinely freaks out over pride displays in the library (I'm sure it exists but I'm lazy and haven't gone looking for it). My girlfriend lives in an area with a rather bustling gay community (we just did a face painting booth for their pride festival a few weeks ago), so maybe have her go out there with some friends, and also a lot of queers I know play dnd so maybe find a nice group of them and network. I then apologized that I wasn't more helpful in getting his daughter settled with a nice, wholesome dyke.

On the plus side, he was not deterred at all, and seemed to be very interested in the fact dnd was so popular amongst the el gee bee tees. I told him the names of some dms I know and told him to go to town. I do not know if the names will be given to his daughter or hoarded for himself so he can join a group and play like he did when he was a teenager and not be called satanic for it.

He's coming to fix my floor next week.

[libraford]

It is possible to interact with people whom share opposing views and no this is not about pineapple on pizza. In fact, it is imperative that you learn how to be civil with some people who you may find difficult to agree with.

At work, Youngin would often tell me that the guy that trained him (Ginger) was a misogynist. I had never met Ginger, and I had very little to say on this matter. But I would ask Youngin some questions about him because I like to know the other seasonal workers a little. I ask about Ginger- first words from Youngin's mouth 'he's a misogynist.'

I asked him why he thought that. (There are many misogynists at this location, as someone that is woman-shaped I see it often, I am comparing notes.)

"We were on our way to a location and a driver was going really slowly. When he got around her he said 'fucking women drivers.' Like he was going out of his way to prove that the driver was a woman."

The last month or so, Youngin worked exclusively with me because I knew that it was a matter of time before he said something that pissed off one of the guys. He was not going to get along with people here, it just wasn't happening.

When he left, everyone wanted to know what he was like to work with. And I finally got to have a conversation with Ginger.

"I'd like to ask you something a little strange- he said that on his first day there was an issue with a driver going slowly. Can you tell me about that?"

"Oh yeah! She was going super slow and when I got around her I said 'yup- little old lady driving.' And he was like 'what's that supposed to mean?' And I just kind of dropped it, but I hear he was saying I was a misogynist over it?"

So I give Youngin some grace because he's young, he's got a social bubble that's very liberal, he has not met very many people that weren't part of that kind of scene. But he often talked about how every person here has said something that pissed him off and he seemed really surprised that I (woman-shaped queer liberal) would be okay working with all these sexist homophobes.

And I give grace to Ginger because he had no reason to think that his words would be interpreted like that. What he was saying was normal to him. This is... somewhat the culture of landscaping jobs. And its not even close to the worst thing I've heard out of these dudes mouths. (Literally had one of the dudes comment that he would like to 'motorboat' one of the pedestrians.)

It was weird for Youngin to carry that with him for the whole two months that he worked here, over a very... small comment.

Every single person I've worked with here has said something that has given me pause and I tuck it away to rant about later and then I let it go. If it gets out of hand, I talk to one of the bosses about it. I know how to contact HR. I came into this place knowing that I was going to disagree politically with most of the people that I work with because I'm coming in to a culture that is fundamentally different from my own.

If I am being frank, I find the overt bigotry somewhat better than the corporate bullshit of 'we value your contributions, but won't be granting your accommodations request out of fairness to other workers' or the glass cliff or literally being fired for my sexual orientation but phrased with 'oh you just weren't a good fit for the culture here.' I at least know what I'm getting into when I come to work. I know what not to talk about. Last time I thought I was safe to talk about something queer with my boss she blindsided me with some transphobic garbage.

Its admirable to stick up for the marginalized people in your life, but part of changing minds is knowing the time and the place to comment. I think I've changed more minds at this warehouse by being a visibly out lesbian at work than I have by making carefully crafted speeches.

That is fine. It is fine to disagree. Sometimes you have to work with racists, homophobes, and assholes. That is part of being an adult. You talk about things like... sports or TV or weather or some cool bug you saw. Finding common ground with people who are different from you in many ways is an important part of socialization and it sucks to think you have anything in common with a jackass but look- you're spending 7-ish hours with these people and at some point some of them are going to say stupid shit. You are going to say stupid shit also. I have said my fair share of stupid shit. Deal with the fact that you're all stupid shits.

And for fuck's sake, wear your hardhat.

[niuxita21]

Started Las Pelotaris and omg, Itzi and her husband are THE most delightful depiction of gay/lesbian solidarity. All "lesbian married to a man storylines" should be like this, it would do wonders for my blood pressure lmao