#but like . there r men who r attracted to masc women and women who r attracted to fem men

[matoitech]

i know its easy for me to get bad faith'd bcuz my stake in it is as an i guess 'cishet passing' masc bi man who can b attracted to masc women but once ppl realize bisexual butches exist and identify as butch i think youll be a lot happier and also a lot less weird. ppl do this same thing w feminine men where ppl act like fem bi men dont exist bcuz if ur a feminine man who fucks men you cant be attracted to women youre just faking or closeted or something. very silly. just in general recognizing gnc people can be bisexual (or straight, and not in a metrosexual way or something, they just Exist, also gnc trans people exist) is probably gonna be good for you. treating gender nonconformity like its inherently fetishistic if attractive to the 'wrong' people is not the win u think it is but get well soon guys

[cruelsister-moved2]

no but thinking about it gay girl game and straight girl game are COMPLETELY different so I wonder how many of them their problem is just that theyre trying to do the same thing with both. especially if you're used to men being obsessed w you and suddenly you basically have to learn a whole new skill it's easy to get discouraged and just go back to what you know.

i see these girls saying like ohhh but girls dont text first and it's like well? you text her then! its not hard to talk to another woman, you do it every day. the type of girls that expect mascs to hit on them but don't realise if someone's visibly gay and you're not, you need to be the one to approach them and make your intentions clear. if you're used to just waiting around and falling into a relationship I get why gay dating would seem hard to you. but it isn't hard. you're just really bad at it. sorry. there's still time to learn <3

[a-libra-writes]

I absolutely love all of your Mordecai stories! Could you write one where reader is specifically male and how that would affect the relationship? Or a more general scenario where Mordecai makes a habit of fixing reader’s appearance for symmetry, definitely not because he wants an excuse to stand so close to them.

hhhhhh okay i had to prioritize this because i just. i have so much brainrot about this stupid hitman esp with a male partner in particular !!! This will be adjacent to the part 3 of Romantic HC's with him (and I included ur cute symmetry idea in that one instead!) I have a lot of thoughts..

First off, I HC him as gay ace, and that is what I tend to go off whenever I write him. These are my own thoughts and obvs yall can have something totally different! With that said...

He would be slightly more open and have an easier time getting to know a man, simply because of the socialization and gender expectations in the 20's. With women he's always been uneasy because of the unspoken, unknown "expectation" of interacting with them. (though if she wasn't ladylike at all and toted around a gun or dressed masc he'd probs feel otherwise, see him interacting fine with Serafine). Again, 1920's socializing acting as if women are an entirely different creature from men and should be treated as such. So, he'd be a little more accepting of touches and attention from a man because that's more familiar, but we're talking 10% more. Not a huge jump.

As stated in the previous HC's, this is still years of building trust between the two of you before he's willing to acknowledge any feelings. If you're openly gay or bi during this time, he's never been judgmental about it like some might be. Actually, Mordecai doesn't think about your potential love life in the slightest, at least until you two begin to get closer. Then suddenly he's thinking about it.

Attraction has never been something he's experienced, at least not in the way he's heard men talk about women (which, ew, that kind of talk is disgusting). But as you two become closer, he develops emotional and physical attraction toward you; both are confounding and frustrating. It's less sexual attraction and more a very intense physical admiration, even if that person doesn't have conventionally attractive features.

(Personally I think he'd be very attracted to either a very tall and muscular type - similar to Viktor - or a smaller, slender more "pretty" kind of guy. Two opposites on a spectrum, which he admires for different reasons.)

Regardless, it's awful, Mordecai has no idea why this is hitting him just now in his mid-fucking-20s after a whole adolescence of not seeing people that way. The physical admiration comes and goes, but the emotional attraction always hits him like a train when you're both together.

This is probably Totally Normal for close friends who are also comrades that murder people together. This is fine.

Note it's possible you have plenty of other admirers, which gives him even more agitated and conflicting feelings. If it's women fawning over you - even if you aren't interested - that's easy for Mordecai to deal with. Women have bothered him plenty of times, at least until they realize how cold and awkward he is and give up. He doesn't understand why you have to smile and flirt back, but, well, at least that doesn't upset them ....

Men flirting with you is a bit of a different story, especially if you've always been open and comfortable with your own sexuality. The women seem harmless, the men do not. You have this ease and freedom with them that Mordecai doesn't understand and somewhat envies. He can't brush off their attention as being "silly" like the women are; they don't just want to dance with you. It agitates him so much and he struggles to fully articulate why. Maybe a small voice in his head tells him that if he were more normal, maybe you might be just as attentive to him. That you have expressed your trust and affection to him, but he struggles in returning it, so it's no wonder you might seek it elsewhere.

In this time period, there's incredibly little understanding around the concept of asexuality (and even then, it's written as though it's a disease or mental failure). Mordecai has certainly never heard of such things, and he's never struggled with his lack of sexual attraction until his feelings began developing for you. This is why he becomes so jealous if you're free with your love and attention to others. Before you both were ever a real "thing" (but the feelings were very much there, hanging unspoken between you), Mordecai would start huge arguments about whoever you'd be sleeping around with. He hadn't cared for years, and now he does? Seriously, if you smell like another man Mordecai goes from 0 to 100 and barks at you to wash up. You point out that Viktor always smells like sawdust and oil but Mordecai doesn't shove him into the bathroom.

Viktor thinks whatever you two have going on with these spats is just weird. More than once he's yanked you both by the neck and tossed you out of the garage for being so noisy.

(Note if you're someone whose on a similar wavelength as Mordecai, or you simply don't enjoy sleeping around with strangers and prefer close connections, that jealousy simmers down considerably. No, these are not healthy reactions or feelings he has. He has never been a well-adjusted individual. )

Once you both are more of an established ""couple"" (if thats what this strange long-term pining and angsting and yearning that's finally become something of a real Thing can be called), Mordecai still wouldn't consider himself "like that". Not because of shame of being gay, but because he genuinely hasn't felt this way toward anyone, man or woman. You're his exception. He likes you.

All the drama aside... Because of the odd nature of you and Mordecai's relationship, plus his closed-off personality and the odd hours you two keep, no one actually suspects the relationship is romantic for a very long time. Mitzi and maybe Atlas have caught onto something, especially if you're open about your attraction to men, but they assume it's a one-sided crush on your part. Viktor is the only one who picks up that Mordecai might feel the same, and only because he's around you both so often and he sees the odd looks and lingering touches - and notably, how you two interact with him is very different with how you interact with each other. Not his business, but he'd protect you both in a heartbeat. Viktor never says it out loud, but he's aware of other associates or employees who may not be accepting of you two and could be a potential threat. He watches them very carefully.

(And related to that - Atlas doesn't think twice about taking you in and treats you with just as much respect as his other employees, which would be remarkable for a known gay man in the 20's. That's probably how he got you signed onto being a triggerman...)

And related to any threats, Mordecai will go fucking feral on anyone who tries to threaten or hurt you for your sexuality. It doesn't matter if you're playing it cool or ignoring them, he's already got his gun out. Viktor will join in too, but he at least asks if you want to kill them or "just" scare them shitless.

So, in closing ... Yes, the relationship would be a little more complicated with a masc person vs a femme because of the time period and the lack of vocabulary+understanding of Mordecai's own identity. A person whose experienced and very comfortable in their own skin would help him out a lot, whether they're asexual or allosexual, someone whose willing to just sit and talk these things out (even if sometimes he's mortified to even bring it up). If the person is just as questioning and confused, well, it might end up more chaotic, hah.

[charlieradiohead]

what’s the flag in ur icon?

minsexualll :33 it basically means im attracted to ppl who r masculine in nature, like either in gender or presentation. so men, masc aligned or presenting nonbinary people, and masc women

i just woke up thats why i look like that btw

[ikishima]

Mina | sa☼ aq☽ + chao evil + melancholic

lesbian + 20s + fssw + ecological anarcho-socialist + tme + white

dni + more info under the cut

my main special interests are music and death note

tell me if i reblog from someone on my DNI (below)

hardblock if you don’t want me to interact

no new followers under 18 unless you are entering/involved in the sex industry & looking for resources/community/etc.

general abusers/enablers/centrists/liberals: incest & pedophilia apologists & enthusiasts (no/maps, proshippers/anti-antis), if you insist on “separating art from artist” in all cases, if you glorify true crime/consume it uncritically, if you are racist, zionist, anti-semitic, believe in reverse oppression, are pro-cop/military, pro-incarceration, pro-borders, if you insist boycotting/demonstrating don’t work to excuse yourself from participating, if you do not believe in harm reduction & restorative justice & landback & anticapitalism & indigenous sovereignty.

mental/physical ableists: anti-maskers, if you blame/excuse abuse based on the real or supposed presence of a personality disorder/other mental illness, use terms like narcissistic, psychotic, delusional, schizo, sp*z, cr*pple, etc. in a derogatory way or without being affected by those labels, if you believe addiction is a conscious choice or shame people for using drugs, are against safe supply or supervised injection, if you use the term “sysmeds” or do not centre traumagenic systems, if you use the term “Asperg*r’s”/functioning labels, if you do not centre high support needs autistics, or if you are anti-self diagnosis & support the psychiatric system.

wh*rephobes: swerfs & radfems, if you are vocally “sex work critical” without having been a contact sex worker, if you uphold the wh*rearchy/apply morals to sw based on their type or method of work, if you don’t support the decriminalization of sex work (including those who favor legalization), or if you are “anti sex work” because of anything other than repeated traumatizing personal experiences as a contact sw, etc.

lesphobes & biphobes: if you believe masc-presenting sapphics hold male privilege or can be enforcers of toxic masculinity, if you think masc/femme couples reinforce heteronormativity, if you treat butch, femme, etc. as fashion labels divorced of their history (including by omitting ballroom culture), if you engage in sexually predatory behaviour towards those with stone identities (refer to high femmes/touch-nots as selfish lovers, use pillow princess as an insult, believe in “melting the stone” or fetishize touch-me-nots), or if you identify as “gold star”/believe that sapphics who have slept with men are somehow lessor. putting this here temporarily but if you have ever said a word against chappell roan unrelated to her whiteness or abledness/other privileges just go away you’re annoying

lgbt-phobes: transmeds, truscum, terfs, if you use the term “transandrophobia” (despite it both being transmisogynistic and lesphobic), pronoun police/if you harass people who use neopronouns, if you are against nonbinary inclusion in all sexualities or against he/they lesbians, if you use the label “bi-lesbian” to denote that you include trans women in your attraction, etc.

if you’re on here but can acknowledge that nuance exists & that in order to learn & grow as people we need to consider the viewpoints of others & adapt our understanding of the world AND are also not going to jump down my throat with bad-faith interpretations of my words, then you can follow!

this should hopefully give people a good idea of where i stand on things but feel free to send an ask if something i wrote is unclear. if you are going to approach me to discuss something please do so with at least the bare minimum of respect that you owe to others if you are genuinely trying to engage because i block liberally and you will not get the chance otherwise.

[frogmansfrog2]

Out of kink post. This is something that I posted on the subreddit r/ftmmisgendering and would like other people's views on as well.

This is coming from the perspective of a gay trans man and will only be regarding the issue I find with straight men in the community. I also am using the terms trans men in this post however this also applies to trans masc people and enby folk but as I am a trans man and am talking about my experiences mostly, I am using trans man.

I understand that many trans people here like to engage in this kink with straight men and this is no judgment at all towards them, this is purely my own experiences and opinions. Just be safe and make sure this kink is for fun and not a way of self harm.

The first thing I want to bring up is that this kink is fantasy. Trans men are just as much men as cis men are. A penis does not make a man. A vagina does not make a woman. It’s all fantasy. And for many trans people who engage in this kink, it’s a way of getting away from real transphobia and abuse they have endured and turning it into something fun and sexy as a way of coping.

However when straight men come into the kink, it takes away from that fantasy aspect. Because then you are genuinely invalidating someone’s identity. If you are a man attracted to a trans man, you aren’t straight OR If you are straight, you’re fetishizing a trans man’s body and seeing him as a woman. Which is actual transphobia.

Now it becomes difficult because there are trans people who welcome this and find it hot and that is absolutely fine because they are the trans people in the situation. But when it comes to straight men who get off on trans people but only when it comes to fetishizing/misgendering them, that’s where I get that wrong vibe.

And if cis people find (equally consensually) misgendering kink stuff hot, that is okay! But if you’re a cis man and you say you’re straight but into misgendering, it just feels weird. Cause then you’re not seeing the people you are misgendering as their actual identity. You’re not seeing these men as men that just have a kink, you’re seeing them as women which is invalidating their transness in not a fun kinky way. Or you’re just not straight.

That leads into a long conversation about chasers too and only being into afab people which is basically just reducing someone down to their genitals but that’s an entirely other subject that I don’t really feel like writing about.

Again, this is just my opinion and I welcome conversation in the comments. And if you are a trans person I’d love to hear about how you feel about the subject? I know for other people in the kink they don’t care about how people see their gender but for me personally that’s where the kink starts to get more self destructive than fun.

[probably-enjolras]

Hi! I'm writing a genderbent(?) Les Mis retelling and would like some advice from queer les mis fans who might see this post. My enjolras-adjacent character is a demiromantic ace cis woman whose LI is a pan cis man (composite of mostly éponine and R). I've seen the takes on tumblr about enjonine and I'm wondering if this is queer erasure. For context, I myself am a queer woman, and the marisette pairing in my WIP is a lesbian couple. please help, i don't want to cause any harm to queer readers!

first, you can write whatever you want and i won’t stop you, this is all my opinion. if you decide to go down this route you will have people who will want to read it and that could be a great story for them. but here’s my personal take:

enjolras is INCREDIBLY queer coded. throughout the book he is repeatedly described as having no attraction to women, and even his attraction to men is debatable, which is why aroace headcanons are so common. i like that you’re keeping the demiromantic ace headcanon in your character, as someone who is aromantic and has a lot emotions about enjolras.

however, i just cannot see him(her) falling for a woman(man). there are too many lines about his lack of attraction to women and comparisons to historical gay male figures for me to think he would be attracted to a woman. so, in my opinion, having her being attracted to a cis male just doesn’t fit his character. I’m not even going to get into how i think enjolras is trans-coded but we won’t go into that, though if you wanted to make her a trans woman i would literally buy your book right away… just saying ;)

I do think the inclusion of so many sexualities is very important and i really like that, so take my potential situations with a grain of salt because if you want to keep what you have, it’s still a very queer story and has important representation that needs to be seen more.

HOWEVER! you said you’re combining R and Eponine! i think you can still do that, but just keep eponine’s gender and characteristics and mix that with grantaire’s characterics. or, to make it even more queer, maybe make eponine nonbinary/trans, either trans masc or neutral or trans fem, and explore that dynamic instead of the original queer dynamic in the book! or hell, keep them both cis but maybe make it a queerplatonic relationship thats not romantic at all because we’re severely lacking that in books and especially a QPR between a man and a woman because people seem to think men and women can’t be platonic to begin with, let alone have a QPR. there’s worlds of queer relationships out there and i think they would be fun to explore.

(also lesbian marisette sounds AMAZING absolutely no notes 10/10!)

so yeah, while i don’t like enjonine personally (i literally have it blocked in my filtered tags just because of the discourse lol) i can 100% see ways you can keep enjolras’ queer identity and still have it be enjonine. to use an old fandom term, ship and let ship. im glad you’re reaching out to queer fans, and if you wanna keep me posted on your story, i would love to hear how you’re developing it! i hope this makes sense and doesn’t box you into trying to please people, its YOUR retelling, at the end of the day its what makes YOU happy and how YOU want to tell your story. if you feel like this is trapping you in a box, just disregard everything i’m saying and do what you want and i wouldn’t judge you at all.

also, if any of my followers wants to jump in on this in the replies, go ahead!

best of luck!

[somnolent-pup]

i n t r o d u c t o r y - p o s t

‘‘ STANDIN IN THE EYE OF THE STORM ; MY EYES START TO

ROLL TO THE CURL OF YOUR LIPS ,,

haii ^_0 !!! you can call me dusk (or just pup :3c) since i dont really want to attach my real name to this blog || im a 20 year old artist and trans man (really transmasc nonbinary + like a bajillion xenos im hoarding but :P) who uses he/it as well as pup/puppy and hy/hymn pronouns || i call myself a gay man primarily due to feeling like homosexuality is intrinsic to my identity as a man, in general my attraction orientation will always be queer because i grew up queer, i can and do experience attraction towards women and my preferences lean toward masculinity however that presents itself || im a good couple years post op for top surgery and ive been off and on t for a little over a year || im incredibly new to having an nsft account so im definitely gonna be a little shy, getting over the mortifying ordeal of being known or whatever; the autism really is not helping w that but we ball

before you go any further !!! this is an 18+ ONLY blog, and i will block anyone who disregards this

DO NOT INTERACT with this blog if you (are) ;

bigoted in any capacity, reblog or engage with pedophilic or zoophilic content, exclusionary, ableist, reblog scat/vomit/gas posts, dont have your age listed anywhere on your account

other than that, feel free to interact however ^_^ i am perfectly fine with wlw blogs interacting with the nonsexual posts or art on my blog but understand that i am !! a man !! and my posts are probably gonna be about other men for the majority >_<

(๑˃ᴗ˂)ﻭ more under the cut

<33 !! ; petplay (specifically puppyplay ^_^), primal play, pup4pup, t4t, ‘deflowering’ (this is a slight one im just a pathetic virgin /pos), a/b/o dynamics, omorashi/watersports, praise, breeding, intox (weed), overstimulation, edging, size diff, somno, hypnotism, cnc, leather and bondage, cockwarming, marking, exhibitionism, free use, monsters >////<, older men and women hehehe, bears 💗✨💞🙏 wolves and foxes 💝🔥💘🫶 big hairy men ‼️💖🙏✨💟, probably more but i cant think of it rn 

🚫 !! ; scat/unhygienic play (including oral p1ssplay specifically when im on the receiving end), anything involving birth, feederism, diapers, detrans, raceplay

i use the terms ‘cock’, ‘cunt’, ‘clit’, and ‘puppy parts’ for my genitalia, ‘tits’ or ‘chest’ for my chest, and i looove almost all terms of endearment but ‘puppy’, ‘baby’, ‘good boy’, ‘dog’, ‘mutt’, ‘boy’, and ‘sweet boy/pup’ make my heart flutter <333 im also chubby and refer to my stomach as my tummy or just my stomach most of the time heheh || i love both masc and neutral compliments but fem compliments are okay as well ^_^

#sleepy puppy ramblings - my general babbling

   #whining - exactly what it says on the tin (general debauchery and horniness)

#speak - answering asks if i ever do

  #🍃 - stoner talk

#scribbles - art

if i ever get around to writing out my own scenarios ill add those tags here as well !! i think thats about it, im probably forgetting some stuff, ill probably update this occassionally

‘’ IN THE CENTER OF ECLIPSE ; IN TOTAL DARKNESS I

REACH OUT AND TOUCH ,,

[disappointmentthemusical]

i keep seeing ppl beefing w @decolonize-the-left over the idea of trans man lesbians, and it's making me think of this.

trans men can be lesbians (or they cannot be, if they so choose, idgaf), but the idea of excluding them completely from lesbianism altogether or prohibiting them from the identity makes zero sense to me. like, bro, being a lesbian is about being a lesbian; it's both a sexuality and a gender experience, and if you're not hip to that, then you have things you need to re-examine.

like it's for this exact reason i hate it when people conflate lesbianism with wlw cuz personally im not attracted to women, im attracted to lesbians, and that means something different.

also, like, priorities? like DTL (srry don't know ur name lol) has said it in several replies, but there are so many other – better – things to occupy our time.

like for one we can talk about the fact that so many femmes/feminines feel entitled to discredit and bully butch/masc/stud lesbians. like, hello?? (if im being mean [and honest], i'd say yall r sick with fomo cuz nobody's got in ur face to call you a bulldyke, which is a skill issue on ur part. i'm a feminine presenting lezzy and im pretty sure there are kids i went to school with who think my name is dyke)

or we can talk about how gays&trans r still dying in this country and what have yall done to help them? oh, nothing? ok then.

so to the lesbians who froth at the mouth with glee at the idea of restricting lesbianism into a binary, why don't you grow up and go outside.

"Mainstream gender" as a system of oppression.

Imagine mainstream gender as a line. On one end of the line is "man," and on the other end is "woman" – this is the gender binary. The connecting line itself is representative, loosely, of "non-binary" gender. (I think this image is suitable, and if others disagree, I think that's more representative of how arbitrarily the binary is defined, rather than this image of it.)

This gender spectrum, dubbed "mainstream gender" because it's what the institutions of society use, only applies to certain groups – the group that controls it, really. White people.

Black people cannot access mainstream gender because they are barred from it via hyper-masculinization that borders on animalization. Black men are viewed as hyper-aggressive and predatory. To the white masses, the concept of "soft" Black masculinity is as real as the transatlantic slave trade (i.e., vague notions of it existing, but no personal experience with the implications, so it floats in the periphery until it's brought up again by a Black person). Black women, regardless of how much they lean into "traditional" femininity, will never be viewed as feminine. Black women will always be viewed as loud, aggressive and "man-ish," the latter contributing to transphobia that impacts both black trans women and black cis women.

By contrast, East Asians are hyper-feminized. East Asian men are stereotyped as soft and small and are portrayed as having little sexual appeal (and those who are viewed as sexually desirable are seen as exceptions to the mainstream; sexy despite their femininity). East Asian women are equally unable to escape femininity and are hyper-feminized to the point of infantilisation, both of which contribute to hyper-sexualization and fetishization. The hyper-femininization of East Asian people also lends itself to transphobia targeted at East Asian trans men (recall: the 2016/17 obsession with smol bois).

But not only is mainstream gender a tool of white supremacy, it also (obviously) is inherent to patriarchy (or, patriarchy is inherent to mainstream gender).

The binary is defined and propagated by men. So while all gender rules are arbitrary and constantly changing, "man" is always strictly defined, and the relief of "man" becomes "woman." This is evident both in masculinity being viewed as "gender neutral," as well as the sense of authority men feel over women's gender, commenting on makeup, how women dress, etc. As a result, the gender "woman" is inherently centered around "man."

In de-centering men, lesbians lack the rules to adhere to mainstream gender. That is why lesbianism is often described as a gender experience because lesbians operate on a new gender spectrum, specific to lesbians.

However, different from race, sexuality is not a visible barrier, and it can take work to exit from mainstream gender. Terf "lesbians" are not lesbians because they cling to the relief of "man" to define their gender; they're gay women. Similarly, white lesbians who prioritize their whiteness will continue to exist within mainstream gender. This also explains why white non-binary people are "like that." While they do not adhere to the binary of "man" and "woman," in participating in the system of whiteness, they remain within the confines of mainstream gender.

[giritina]

Just thinking about this and how much it would have helped me to see it years ago so: here's signs that I was a gay trans boy despite identifying as a NB lesbian and you might be too

- fixating only on male characters and male relationships, even if they are only fictional. (I convinced myself this was fetishization and I needed to simply force myself to focus on women instead)

- avoiding interacting with male queer culture out of a sense that it would be "appropriative" or "fetishistic" to do so

- choosing to avoid masculinity and maleness only because you believe your behaviors would be considered more gross and unacceptable if you weren't a woman (like being hairy, being fat, being sexual, etc.)

- convincing yourself you're attracted to women despite all your fantasies and fixations focusing on men (maybe because you understand you are undeniably queer and that is the only way you can justify that feeling) which leads into:

- clinging really hard to a cis queer identity because of the history and community more than because it describes your lived experience (I identified as a lesbian because it gave me a sense of security in my place in the queer community and because r-dfem ideology had poisoned my queer spaces)

- justifying all desire for masculinity in any form as comphet or internalized misogyny despite not gaining joy from sapphic queerness. When lesbians talk about these feelings they aren't talking about shifting from one shame to another more Queer shame, they genuinely feel more happy and free being attracted to women even with societal pressure.

- Shallow fixations on butchness because it feels like an "acceptable" way to be masculine in your queer spaces, butchness as a framing device for fantasies of boyhood and masculinity. (Like what t-rfs try to pitch to trans masc people rather than the rich identity butchness is)

- attraction to breasts, vaginas, curves, etc etc but not to the concept of a Woman. If you can view your own body as male it only makes sense you're capable of being attracted to other men with these features but not to women with or without them. T4T babes!!!!

There's probably a lot more but I think there are a lot of people who have fallen for r-dfem talking points and believed, despite supporting or being trans, that trans masculinity was toxic and traitorous. Being pushed into a shitty false version of lesbianism or cis queerness in general (which should be joyous identities) just to avoid gender traitorism or whatever is not the way. There's nothing shameful about being a queer man, and those of us who grew up on the worst corners of tumblr ended up being convinced there was. Knowing you're queer but being scared to be trans can lead to funneling your emotions in the complete opposite direction despite all logic. Don't be scared to be a happy gay boy 🏳️‍⚧️💖

[fugos-lil-fork]

AIGHT SO- These r my Headcanons for the Buccigang and their gender identities/sexualities. In no way do I believe everyone should agree with these or anything. These r just my opinions and everyone has their own Headcanons!

Bruno: MLM/Gay, He/Him

Abbacchio: Gay, Demiandrogyne, He/Him

Mista: Bisexual, He/Him

Narancia: Pansexual, Nonbinary, Demiboy, He/They

Fugo: MLM/Polyromantic (Males & Masc Nonbinary), Demisexual, He/Him

Giorno: MLM/Gay, Transgender (ftm), Androgyny, Neopronouns, He/Him/Luck/Lucky's

Trish: Lesbian/Sapphic, She/Her

REASONING;

Bruno: I mean, I dunno, man just gives me gay man vibes. But gay as in he's attracted to any male identifying individuals or male-aligned individuals (so y'know like a non-binary person that partially identifies as a male) I just don't see him having a relationship with a woman unless it's platonic/a friendship. He's definitely the type of gay to make women fall head over heels for him (obviously not on purpose) then the women become severely disappointed when they find out he's gay- He's the gay that has to deal with those awkward interactions-

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Abba: Kinda the same for Abba. He just doesn't rub me as the type to like women or other genders- He's a simple man. A simple man that loves men- But he's also demi-androgynous. Since I feel like you could confuse him for a woman for obvious reasons- And in general I feel like he could partially relate/feel connected to women, however, he doesn't actually identity as a woman.

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Mista: I mean- I don't think I gotta explain this one. This vibes r all there- Despite his croptop he thinks they make him look hot not feminine so he doesn't relate or feel connected to identifying as any other gender-

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Nara: IT'S THE VIBES BRO- First off, man's color pallet is literally the non-binary flag- Second- Bc of the fact his gender is a bit all over the place he definitely feels attracted to ppl regardless of their gender, therefore, man's Pan. I'd also say he's a Demiboy, he doesn't always feel fully connected to being a guy nor does he always relate to it. Hence why he might appear feminine at times. But I don't think he'd identify as a female. Tbh idk why he gives me the vibes that he'd get mad if ppl assume he's a girl. He doesn't mind wearing feminine clothes but just like Abba, I feel he wouldn't like identifying as one. He'd rather identify without a gender or his assigned gender.

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Fugo: MLM so y'know like Bruno a male that is attracted to other males or male-aligned individuals. For that same reason I think he'd also identify as Polyromantic meaning he's specifically romantically attracted to males or non-binary (specifically masc non-binary) ppl but not women or ppl who even partially identify as women. I also believe he'd be demisexual in terms and will only have a sexual relationship with his partner if he's been in a deep and serious relationship with them for years otherwise don't expect any sort of sexual relation from this dude-

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Gio: Again, same as Fugo and Bruno mmmm m e n/m a l e a l i g n e d p p l. At this point I'm completely on board with the trans (FTM) hc of his- I mean- Araki practically wrote it himself- BUT he also identifies as Androgynous given the way he dresses and I'd say even acts at times- However, I don't think he'd identify as a female bc of that. He just like... Understands and relates to women for obvious reasons- and the Neopronouns r kinda funny haha thing for me- Tbh idk to take them serious myself or not 💀 But I liked the idea anyways bc of how Mista called him his "Lucky Boy" and I just liked the idea of at that moment Giorno thinking 'That's... A... Nice word to use a pronoun-' (IN NO WAY DO I MEAN THIS IS A GIOMIS WAY- He just genuinely liked the word as a pronoun 💀 (that's my HC anyways-))

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Trish: MmmMM w o m e n- She's definitely and completely into girls/female-alinged individuals. After the shit she went through? Constantly being surrounded by men both protecting her but also severely endangering her? Yeah, she's had enough of dudes- /hj. Trish is definitely like... A girly girl when it comes to everything outside of fighting- I just feel like she'd definitely see/describe all males as "too rough and boyish" idk what that'd even mean but essentially she just would always find some sort of discomfort in guys so- A lesbian she is- And I'd definitely say she's someone that's happy and confident with her gender. She loves her body and her gender and wouldn't want to change it for any reason or identify as anything other than herself, which is a AFAB :)

[joculatrixster]

same anon. my guess is that it has something to do with ships and the treatment of male/masc-presenting cookies and female/fem-presenting cookies. i have more but i couldn't think of anything else atm lol

DING DING DING we have a winner :D

ppl in this fandom hate lesbains so much its not even funny! why is espressoline obvs canon to everyone but seamoon(which is so heavy-handed that at this point if devs made a seamoon sex tape I doubt ppl would admit after watching they r lesbians) has such a vocal antifanbase?? the idea that u cant ship that ONE fem w/ men is apparently against their constitutional rights or something idek yall just need all women to love a man and hate wlw lesbian representation ig. ofc ships like espressolien have anti-fans but its not as near controversial and its the most POPULAR CR SHIP???

actually, name a fandom that ain't mostly fem characters that the most popular ship is wlw or nblw cause that's fucking rare everyone loves their gay men but hate the gay women. god forbid a woman is bi/pan because ppl will either declare shes a lesbian(ignoring her attraction to men which is fucked) or hate her to high heavens and cr is NOT exempt from this but I'm glad its not as common to just straight hate women openly here so good job fandom u did SOMETHING right

ALSO barely anyone talks about characters like rye/rose/skating queen outside of shipping. the most popular characters and the ones devsisters seem to like the best r masc! thousands of espresso, almond, rougefort(ik they r nonbinary but they r MASC nb most ppl in this fandom treat them like a gay man dont @ me) fan pages yet the fems r left dry. Actually, the most popular fems r cutesy children or characters like Latte who ppl only treat as A SEX OBJECT and barely explore her past shipping or uwu creampuff mommy or espressos sister!!!! if the character is fem and popular u best believe ppl find their schtick hot or they just got an update like cocoa dw cocoa once ur 10 minutes of fam is up ppl will forget about u like they did before this. it happened w/ moon rabbit it'll happen with her too actually I kinda hope it does cause yall only like cocoa when shes mint's little wifey otherwise she has nothing in yalls eyes. ofc that's a sweeping statement but the wider fandom treats her like this because DEVS treat her like this. shes nothing w/out mint and THAT'S FUCKED UP. why is this woman defined by her heavily implied partner. why cant she have a story outside of mint loves her. good for her now give me something more than that, give her friends and adventures that has nothing to do w/ him. he has it why not her?? tbh I haven't watched the update vids so hey maybe I'm wrong and he's barely in this story but I have no hope in devsisters

don't get me started on the butch/stud to nb, trans women or trans MAN(wtf?!?!!?!?) pipeline this fandom has!!! god forbid a she/her wear a suit must not be a cis woman cause why would a cis woman ever want to explore their gender. yall rlly showing how u think trans men r just women in suits with that one. the trans women one is actually better but not all trans women will be masculine and if u only hc the masculine/gnc cookies like aloe or sour belt r trans women ur fucked up. trans women can be feminine cookies like cheesecake or rose too but why r those hcs never as popular??? rhetorical question its because the wider fandom has got issues seeing trans women as regular women well sucks to suck because trans woemn r just women they come in all shapes and sizes like all women do and they r not all just masculine gnc ppl like yall seem to want them to be

[will1]

MY FRIEND ASKED ME 4 MY LGBT TF2 HCS!!! i wrote a bunch of paragraphs 4 the guy and thought i might as well post em here 2 lol. never done a hc post but why not. ALSO i am sorry if these r bad takes plz have mercy on me scout- unfortunately has alot of internelized homophobia so he acts like,,, super duper straight and masc 2 appear as hetero to both his brothers and the other mercs. chases women and LOVES WOMEN BOOB WOMEN to keep this up, but after seeing how litereally everyone else is gay and realizing that it is NOT BAD!!! he chooses LOVE WINS, so in short bi becuz he is BI HIMSELF ((also ive heard alot of trans hcs and i like that idea, either for him being ftm or mtf later down the line   pyro- genderfluid?? more like,,, genger GASOLINE, fire burn fire. probably has like a gay autistic who loves fire flag saved on their phone. uses all pronouns and has multiple neo pronouns but in the same way they r nonbinary in general?? i thinks, id ont know if hes r ace or if they have jst not found someone they have a crush on, in the same way i think shed get really silly crushes on people like shawn mendes or something. also pan and does not care about gender at all  engineer!!!- ppl think that he is straight, these people are WRONG!!!  i think he'd b bi without the urself way!! maybe influenced by pyro and has tried he/them pronousn b4, hot single dad looking for other dads  demoman- OUUUGH he is  silly 2 me, absoloutely wild with gender presentation and i would htink he absoloutely would show up to bars wearing makeup and painting his nails or wearing skirts ((hehahe scottish) and ROCKING IT. uses any pronouns even tho he still prefers he/him. pan sexual and when drunk or sober flirts with any attractive person in the vicinity. does not depend on who it is  soldier- LOVES MEN((and also zhanna)), GOD BLESS AMERICA AND GOD BLESS LESBIANS (saw something about people asking him(usa) for his(usas) pronouns and he just screams america at them, usa/usas LOL)  sphee- like demoman in the way i think he gets manicures and wears really lavish dresses. definetely wiill sleep witj anyone no matter gender, win 4 all sluts ever /j spy would wear those damn expensive I just killed my husband robez….  snipaoer-  DEFINETELY demisexual, scared of litreally any relationship ever and if u touch him he will explode and migt start crying LOL,  has never really thought about his sexuality cause that means actually acknowledging the idea that anyone besides his poor parents will ever love him and THAT IS NOT A THING??? duh :/, simply exists in a state of completely unlabeled and 2 scared to thing any harder about it lol, meeting spy is the most emotional damge that life has implanted onto him the last 2 accidently just became backstory headcanons instead of lgbt ones, oops  heavy!!!- like sniper never really thought about it,, all hes ever seen has been straight people so he never evn rlly thought that being gay was like... a option. also never really had many real life crushes on people as a kid and thought the guy celebs were a bit prettier then the womenz, did not think about this either. meeting medic was like a whole new thing 4 him cause 1, first person hes ever been emotionally attached 2 very much besides his family. and 2, its a guy. was  confusing 4 him to figure out at such a late age but didnt scare him 2 much, and also his whole family was like YIPPEE!!!!! our lovely misha finally has a date thank god. they r all so supportive and love hearing about medic whenever heavy sends letters. heavy writes about him alot, his mom alwas asks when they r gonna have a grandson and heavy is like,, ma??? were gay, and his families all like, ADOPT A KID ,, heavy is not sure about medic being a dad LOL ((sorruy this became a heavymedic hcs instead of just heavy hcs, but i feel like medic is important to his lbgt-ness)) MEDIC.0- saving the one im least sure about 4 last- apparently he had a wife in the past but i think this was just to please his parents and 2 appear straight cuz this weirdo is a RAGING homosexual. poor wife had it rough and thought he was cheating the whole time, sad loveless marriage for both of em. in his teen years he was a part of alot of lgbt and punk groups in germany bcuz it is funny 2 imagine him with his hair all spiked or somethign eagain medic prob did not protest as a 20-something cuz he didnt wanna lose his medical liscense, doesnt matter cuz he did anyways LOL. but now that he is old he absoloutely loves it and litearlly does wahtever he wants, i think he likes to look nice, as in wear sweaters and button ups and nice shoes and slacks when he is not working. he is like a gay mr rogers

[yashashveeroy]

Hi❤ since u r obviously a dom, how do u often recognize when a guy is sub? Like wht r the signs tht shows tht a guy is a sub? Well u mentioned non related astrology stuff so I guess I can ask u this LMAO and don't worry I am a dom too. It's jux..it's hard to spot sub guys sometimes🥲 and I still haven't found my sub too sed life🙃 -A💀

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✨Well I’ve only ever interacted with four. submissive men and I must say, it was interesting. ✨✨

A few of my observations regarding Submissive Men:

Submissive Men won’t ever interrupt you while you’re speaking. Most of the men in my life have often made their way into my turn to speak and it’s honestly very normal for them to do this. Guys really don’t know how to control their mouth lol.

They’re usually very old fashioned and gentlemanly. It’ll always be the chivalry and the “ladies first” type of thing with them but very intense. They take this aspect very seriously.

Some of these men are usually known as “Husband Material” and ladies swoon on these guys. But these men don’t really care about that, they are always looking for the dominant, unbothered, masc (when it comes to certain behaviour) women who can really take on responsibility and speak up when needed.

Surprisingly, these men get weak in the knees when we’re rude to them. They might feel bad for a moment but they’ll come back with puppy eyes and compliment you with a “goodness, you can be rude😮‍💨”. It’s hilarious and it’s a turn on to them.

They use emojis very well. Especially these: 😳,😍,😘,😝,😂&😅. They’re very expressive on text.

They’re very careful with their words when they’re talking to a dominant woman. They know very well if a domme is easily angered or not and how angry they can get too. So they’ll always ask questions or even sound hesitant on text or when they talk to you physically.

Initiation is not their thing. They shy away from it simply because of the fear of coming off too boring or even too forward. They will wait for the domme to initiate plans, conversations or literally anything.

You’ll instantly know if a man is solely submissive to you if he is really dominant in a public setting but then when it comes to you, he forgets about it all. He just wants to be in his sub space when he’s with you.

They usually don’t judge your physical appearance too much or they just don’t prefer the beauty standards set today. They are enticed by your personality, authority and aggression. Not saying that they aren’t attracted to a woman’s body, but they really treat it right.

They put your needs before theirs every time. Not only in the bed but the normal life too.

I have a lot more I could add to this list but I hope this helps for now!!🥺👉👈💖💦💦

[aropride]

What are mspec lesbians? I’m pretty sure someone I followed in myct/dsmp fandom just said masculine lesbians/lesbians that use he/him pronouns aren’t valid and I can’t find the post anymore. Are these the same things? And is the second part actually harmful representation?

ok so! im not an mspec lesbian or gay person but. basically w mspec the m stands for multiple, it includes bisexual pansexual omnisexual etc etc. anyone who likes more than one gender. from what i know it generally means either someone who is homoromantic and bisexual / biromantic & homosexual, or someone who, for instance, is a lesbian attracted to a nb person who is both a man and a woman. the discourse surrounding it is generally along the lines of “Well if u like men at all ever ur not a lesbian,” which. erases the part of their identity that is a lesbian

often ppl confuse mspec lesbians and masc lesbians (likely bcuz mspec isnt a super common term outside of this discussion) - i made a post this morning abt nb ppl whose identities contradict nd when i made it i was thinking of nb lesbians and nb gay ppl who identify as men/women respectively while also identifying as a lesbian or gay. (for instance for a while i identified as a straight nb person, which sounds like a contradiction but its bc even tho im nb, im also a man, so my attraction to women is/was straight). so, a gay man who is dating a bigender person who identifies as a woman could id as an mspec gay if thats the label that fit them best!

basically its all complex nd related to how gender and sexuality vary from person to person and for the most part its entirely unharmful - the most harmful part is all the discourse surrounding it imo

this is the first and last ask im answering abt the topic tho considering there r ppl who know a lot more abt it than me nd if i get into inclus/exclus discourse in 2022 i WILL scream (/nm at u anon ur asking in good faith and i appreciate that! <3)

[smolbean-alex]

HAPPY PRIDE!

For this post, I want to give a few shoutouts to...

...Trans/non-binary people who are unable or do not want to medically transition!!

Lgbtq+ kids in an unaccepting or/and unsafe household/environment!

People of color(black, brown, indigenous, etc) lgbtq+ members!

Trans men/masc who cannot bind or pack (or maybe just don’t WANT to bind or pack.)

Trans women/femme who cannot tuck (or maybe just don’t WANT to tuck)

Neo+nounpronoun users!

People who are Bi, pan, omni, or any sexual or romantic orientation where you are able to like more then one gender.

LGBTQ+ kids who are apart of the asexual or aromantic spectrum! You are not to young to know!

Asexuals who still can be romantically attracted to someone.

Aromantics who can still be sexually attracted to someone.

Aroace people!

Non-binary people who use “binary” pronouns or neopronouns!

Trans+non-binary lesbians.

And last, shoutout to every lgbtq+ person (wether you were on the list or not)!