#cj hauser

[asoftepiloguemylove]

Could I please request a webweave about complex feelings on being an only child?

unfortunately i couldn't find anything specifically related to being an only child but i am also an only child and i interpreted this as being really lonely so a lot of these are related to that. i hope this is what you were looking for <33

Amy Dunne / CJ Hauser The Crane Wife / Dante Émile After Cameron Awkward-Rich / Richard Siken Litany in Which Certain Things Are Crossed Out / pinterest / Sally Rooney Conversations With Friends

[yidiyada]

TikTok just introduced me to this article from a few years ago that I’ve somehow never come across before and I’m gonna share some of my favorite parts from it

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[dk-thrive]

The shame of having been wrong about him, doubled down on being wrong, on and off, for six years, was almost worse than the heartbreak. Almost.

CJ Hauser, The Crane Wife: A Memoir in Essays (Doubleday, July 12, 2022) 

[letsswaytogether]

-C.J. Hauser, The Crane Wife : A Memoir in Essays

[charlotterenaissance]

[indizombie]

I had arrived in my thirties believing that to need things from others made you weak. I think this is true for lots of people but I think it is especially true for women. When men desire things they are “passionate.” When they feel they have not received something they need they are “deprived,” or even “emasculated,” and given permission for all sorts of behavior. But when a woman needs she is needy. She is meant to contain within her own self everything necessary to be happy. That I wanted someone to articulate that they loved me, that they saw me, was a personal failing and I tried to overcome it.

CJ Hauser, ‘The Crane Wife’, Paris Review

[st4rgirl404]

personal annotations of the crane wife: a memoir in essays - cj hauser

inspired by @lucidloving :)

[maumul]

Everyone gets their trust broken but most people find ways to do it again. This is an everyday sort of miracle. I’m just so bad at it. I am afraid. I am afraid by nature and I am afraid for reasons. I have trusted badly before. I have been held hostage by other people’s fantasies. I am constantly held hostage to my own. No matter how reassuring a new relationship is, I find myself panicking, going full-on Season One Scully. “Is this real?” I say. “Are you sure it wasn’t swamp gas?”

CJ Hauser, The Crane Wife: A Memoir in Essays

[faerie-aurora]

"I need you to know: I hated that I needed more than this from him. There is nothing more humiliating to me than my own desires. Nothing that makes me hate myself more than being burdensome and less than self-sufficient. I did not want to feel like the kind of nagging woman who might exist in a sit-com."

-C.J. Hauser, from The Crane Wife

[wellconstructedsentences]

The point was that we both understood how easy it is to let your life pass along, totally in book, unless you take a risk, disrupt the expected patterns, and try to make something human happen.

The Crane Wife by CJ Hauser

[eugenerastignac]

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The Crane Wife by CJ Hauser

[dk-thrive]

Because love is believing in your person’s reality. It’s their invisible world becoming real to you.

CJ Hauser, The Crane Wife: A Memoir in Essays (Doubleday, July 12, 2022) 

[floating-in-sunbeams]

There is nothing more humiliating to me than my own desires. Nothing that makes me hate myself more than being burdensome and less than self-sufficient.

CJ Hauser, The Crane Wife

[athenaschild5]

when C.J Hauser said “There is nothing more humiliating to me than my own desires. Nothing that makes me hate myself more than being burdensome and less than self-sufficient.” yep she was onto something yk

[wizardglam]

Wow . This hit too hard.

1. A Primer for the Small Weird Loves - Richard Siken / 2. The Crane Wife - CJ Hauser / 3. Automat - Edward Hopper / 4. Red Doc> - Anne Carson / 5. Melancholy - Edvard Munch / 6. The Village (2004) / 7. So We Must Meet Apart - Gabrielle Bates and Jennifer S. Cheng

[indizombie]

Here is what I learned once I began studying whooping cranes: only a small part of studying them has anything to do with the birds. Instead we counted berries. Counted crabs. Measured water salinity. Stood in the mud. Measured the speed of the wind. It turns out, if you want to save a species, you don’t spend your time staring at the bird you want to save. You look at the things it relies on to live instead. You ask if there is enough to eat and drink. You ask if there is a safe place to sleep. Is there enough here to survive?

CJ Hauser, ‘The Crane Wife’, Paris Review