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liana-kerzner-is-a-narcissist · 2 years ago

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Liana Kerzner aka redlianak aka It’s Not Therapy tried to provoke this trans woman to suicide.

I am a trans woman living in Ontario, and while I am deeply tired of literally everyone wanting my existence to end… there is one person in particular who actively tried to drive me to suicide. That person is Liana Kerzner. What Liana put me through… no person should ever have to go through.

Writing this post is the opposite of easy. But I am tired of keeping all of this inside and I am tired of seeing awful people scam others out of thousands of dollars when the rest of us have to struggle just to survive and make ends meet.

My trans siblings — Liana Kerzner is NOT our ally. She may be the enemy of our enemy, but she is not our friend, no matter how she seems to be acting on our behalf or how much she seems to care about us. (Seems is the key word there, by the way.)

Liana Kerzner is a masterful narcissistic liar and manipulator who is very good at pretending to care about others, because she likes to use other people. By suddenly being “all in�� for trans rights, she is performatively jumping on being vocal about supporting trans folks at best. At worst, she is actively looking for more vulnerable people to exploit through her massive Twitter reach. I know her tricks well, because I was once one of those vulnerable people that Liana Kerzner knowingly took advantage of and caused harm to.

And with Liana Kerzner now masquerading as someone who “cares” about trans folk, and who uses her large Twitter platform to collect followers (ie funders for her next vanity project), I knew I had to say something before she exploits or harms anyone else like she did to myself and many others*.

See, I knew Liana and her husband Steven personally. I knew them before I found myself and claimed the woman I always knew I was, and at one point I was naive enough to think that we were actually friends, that they cared about me as a person. But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

In fact, when we were “friends” Liana exploited me for free labor for a number of months for one of her vanity projects. But at the time, I was happy to help out a person who I thought was a friend and I didn’t think to question what she asked of me to do (or to ask to be paid for my work) especially because it started out with her asking for very small things. Liana made it seem like she really needed my help and that she thought I was brilliant; she did all of the tricks that narcissists do when they groom you.

This was also around the time that I was starting to grapple with who I really was, and I wasn’t in the best headspace overall. Liana was someone I confided in about what I was thinking and going through, and she convinced me that I “was confused” and should go on anti-depressants instead of looking more into transitioning. Any time I was having a rough day and needed to talk, we would talk about me and where I was at for maybe 5–10 minutes… but then Liana would complain to me for hours about various people who had apparently wronged her, were out to get her, all of it. People who “did her wrong”. Even knowing what I was going through, she kept saying things like “Oh you’re a man, you don’t know what it’s like for women like me.” We would be chatting on Skype and I know she could see my face fall, and yet she kept saying stuff like this to me about how “manly” I was, all of it. Liana refused to recognize that I was a scared little girl inside a body I hated and felt trapped in, or perhaps she was actively taking joy in knowing how upset her comments made me. I honestly don’t know.

I was naive enough to believe that Liana Kerzner was a good person who was being hurt, instead of recognizing that Liana was in fact the predator who was knowingly causing harm to these other people.

While we were “friends”, and while she never came out and told me to do this for her, there are a handful of people who Liana manipulated me into harassing on her behalf. More than once, Liana had me write and send some nasty emails — ones she demanded to proofread before I sent — to people who she was having disagreements with. Or, in her words, people who were “out to ruin her reputation”. I was also once asked to speak to police on Liana’s behalf and corroborate that Liana was ‘being stalked and harassed’ by a certain person, when I had never actually witnessed any of this behavior from the person she claimed was stalking her. (Police scare me, so I declined. Liana was not happy about this.) Liana also wanted me to back her up when she “had to” make a complaint about supposed sexual harassment by a male friend of hers, claiming that she suddenly feared for her safety with this man — again, meanwhile, I had never seen any of this kind of behavior from him. Not with her, not with any woman. This is what narcissists do, they get others to act on their behalf so they don’t have to get her own hands dirty.

Every month or so, it seemed like Liana had a falling out with someone new; at one point this included her own young nephew and his parents. (These are the same people she started her failed NYE Event Futurecon for, btw.) In hindsight, I’m certain that these people who “had it out for her” were simply, rightfully standing up to Liana’s bullshit and manipulations.

Over time, the unpaid labor or “favors” that Liana asked for got bigger, including some things she wanted me to “borrow” from my day job for her benefit. (Unpaid, of course.) This was also around the time that I decided to come off the anti-depressants and begin transitioning for real. I was scared of so much back then — scared nobody would love me, scared of how my friends and family would take the news, scared of how my workplace would treat me, all of it. Liana knew about my fears and insecurities, because I told her.

And she used it all against me.

The first time I said no to doing an (unpaid) favor for her, she called up my workplace and outed me to my boss. This was long before I was ready to share the news publicly about the woman I was becoming. Not only did this lead to some very awkward workplace conversations about “employee appropriateness” (whatever that even means, ugh)… Liana began to call me at my workplace regularly to scream at me for “letting her down”. Eventually, her harassment of me led to me getting fired.

Then, as I was trying to distance myself from her, one day I got a harassing phone call about an item I had apparently “stolen” from Liana; it was demanded that I return it or pay the replacement item cost, which was quite expensive. Not only did I never steal anything from Liana, this incident happened at a time when I was jobless so I was barely covering my rent and bills. In this phone call, I was verbally threatened that I might face criminal charges, I might go to jail, or be sued… all for something I didn’t do. And the person that I spoke with made sure to tell me that I would be “put with other men where I belong”. Yeah.

I also got harassing emails on Liana’s behalf from her husband Steven Kerzner, who threatened me with lines like “as long as you don’t speak ill of my wife, we won’t have to tell the truth about who you are and what you’ve done.” Basically… trying to threaten me into never saying anything about the hell that Liana Kerzner put me through and the lies she was spreading about me.

A friend very kindly let me know that the Kerzners were also going behind my back, calling mutual acquaintances and telling them that I was mentally unstable, that I was becoming violent, that I should no longer be invited to certain events we were both planning on attending, etc. It was all lies, but this social exclusion and the rumor mill went on for months. I watched people who I thought were friends fall off one by one because of the Kerzners manipulation, threats, and lies.

Through this all, Liana Kerzner repeatedly and actively lied about me to many other people, claiming that I was a pedophile, that I was trying to groom young kids — the same anti-trans rhetoric you see other people using now.

Liana Kerzner also tried to get me committed to a psych ward, with other lies about my mental health and that she was worried I was “a danger to others and myself” and that I was having “delusions” of being a woman because I was “sexually attracted to her and acting out”. (She tried something here in Canada that is called a form one) She tried have me placed under psychiatric evaluation with her blatant lies… ultimately, all for being trans. And for daring to finally stand up to her narcissistic abuse when I couldn’t take any more.

I also got some threatening and harassing emails from other friends of Liana’s, a couple of which called me a “man in a dress” and explicitly told me to kill myself, that the world would be better without trash like me. I won’t repeat everything that was said, but it was a lot. Especially back then.

Liana Kerzner is a liar, a narcissist, a bully, and someone who knows how to quite skillfully manipulate those around her, including lying to the legal system and lying to doctors, to get them to harass and abuse others on her behalf.

There’s more I could tell you about too, but it all boils down to the same thing… Liana Kerzner is only pro-trans rights to suit her own agenda. At her core, she is still deeply transphobic , toxic, and abusive. She’s just good at hiding it.

Her usual MO is to either get people to give her money (ie Patreon, Ko-fi, Kickstarter, etc) and/or to get people to do favors for her for free… despite the Kerzners being rather well off, apparently.

What I will say in closing is this… Liana can keep up the charade of being your “friend” for years, but ultimately she is cruel and manipulative. Liana Kerzner will say and do anything she can to get what she wants out of people — including pretending to be a trans ally so that people like you and me will confide in her, and be willing to pay her money for her “not therapy” bullshit, aka Liana Kerzner’s newest grift.

If you value your own mental and physical health, don’t let Liana Kerzner manipulate you. Take it from someone who has been there, and who has been through that particular hell.

Get as far away from Liana Kerzner’s fake-nice narcissistic manipulation as fast as you can.

*Footnotes:

*Emily Schooley is a brave woman and survivor of domestic violence whom Liana Kerzner has been jealously and maliciously smearing for well over a decade now.

While there’s tens if not hundreds of us who have received the “Special K” treatment from Liana, Emily is the only person brave enough to speak the truth publicly about Liana with her own name, because Liana likes to: make false police reports about, send harassing emails to, get her minions to harass, or threaten legal action on anyone who speaks out about the abuses she perpetuates.

I’m probably going to get more harassment from Liana Kerzner just for posting this, even though my name is not attached to this post, but Emily Schooley’s bravery and vulnerability in sharing what Liana Kerzner put her through is part of what inspired me to stand up and speak my truth too.

https://www.tumblr.com/liana-k-truth — someone else put this list together of some of the many people Liana has knowingly harmed and some of the other problems Liana has caused over the years. It’s well worth the read.

https://futurec0n.wordpress.com/ — some other people Liana Kerzner has harassed and caused harm to

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